Just weeks after we hosted a joint birthday party together, we weren’t speaking. And I still don’t really know why.
Alice and I were inseparable for six years.
Our teenage friendship blossomed over a fit of giggles at a school assembly and we never looked back.
We hung out all day, spoke on the phone all night and spent the weekends at each other’s houses.
We were more than BFFs; we loved each other like sisters.
We pashed boys for the first time at the same party, ensuring no woman was left behind. We ventured into a foreign tattoo shop and got the piercings our parents had forbidden together, buoying one another’s bravery (and stupidity) with the comforting knowledge we were in it together. We smoked cigarettes in the out-of-bounds areas at school. She put me to bed and cleaned up my vomit when binge-drinking got the better of me. I covered her lies to her parents, earning a reputation as a fence-sitter by avoiding giving any proper answers to their questions lest I get her into trouble.
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I found I had to break bonds with my BFF of 10 years.. she sucked life and sanity out of me. Every time we talked there was no "so, how's things?" or "what have you been upto?" it was all her, all the time, every time. I could not handle it anymore. So, after 10 years, I said to her... I love you like a sister, but I simply cannot do it anymore. 10 years of standing by someone, who honestly couldn't care less about you? It's not worth it, and it shouldn't have got to that. There are days I miss her, I admit to occasionally stalking her on FB to see what she's doing... she's recently got married.. so I tend to miss that sort of thing. But, sanity deemed it necessary to move on.
We had a great adult friendship for 10 years with a couple, we have 2 children and they none, never able to. We holiday together, have dinners, Sunday arvo etcs. Our last holiday was to be the crunch, it was my husbands 50th birthday trip, I had planned it all, accommodation etc,to our budget and they wanted to tag along, we added a cruise around the Mediterranean, which was their style of a holiday, the rest was a failure. The coffee was bad, the pillows terrible blah blah, my husband lost it, nothing we did was good enough, we'd never seen or expected it! It totally ruined it and the memories not the greatest, it spoilt what was to be a fabulous holiday. We tried to patch it up, but it wouldn't go any further than a coffee, it's been 3years now and whilst I miss her/them sometimes, we are better without them. We've moved house, have 1 plus an almost here grandchildren and a wedding,
It's sad.....but sometimes this happens for a reason to allow us to move forward and grow a bit more, no matter how old we are.