Have you seen the movie Bridesmaids?
There’s a fantastic scene where two of the bridesmaids get into in a verbal arm wrestle over who is the bride’s ‘best’ friend.
There’s Annie – the childhood pal, who knows all the secrets, who shared Lillian’s adolescent angst, danced with her to Wilson Phillips.
Then there’s the new friend, Helen. Polished and poised, she’s a well-oiled wheel in bride-to-be Lillian’s new corporate-wife world.
We love Annie and can’t stand Helen – she’s the Jenny-come-lately, the blow-in, the usurper. But is that fair?
Is the friend you made at work last month any less important than the one who napped next to you at preschool?
The Make The Time Report by Baileys is all about friendship – getting together with people who ‘get you.’ But when you’ve made time (or found it), how do you choose who to spend it with? It can be a minefield, with the result being that it’s all too hard so we don’t see anybody. But does it have to be a choice?
Last week I spoke to counselor and author Elly Taylor www.parentsupportonline.com about the concept of best friends and whether it’s possible to have more than one.
‘Sure,’ she said, ‘Friendships reflect different phases in our lives. The more time you’ve known someone means there’s more of a shared history, but as long as a friendship is comfortable and rewarding, how long you’ve known that person is largely irrelevant.’
Top Comments
Friends aren't for life. I don't believe they are anyway. You have to earn my friendship. No guarantees.
Great post.
My closest friend is the same one I've had since school finished *gulp* over fifteen years ago. She is one of four sisters and so am I. My closest friend through work is also one of four sisters. I'm sure there's a story in there somewhere.
I consider my sisters and mum my best friends. I count my blessings at least several times per week for having them. When one is irritating you there's always another!
I don't know why but since having children I have struggled immensely to find people I click with. I miss my work friend but she lives miles away, I miss my school friend but she's oceans away. Every time I vow to make more effort I end up meeting people who are toxic or have ulterior motives and straight away I feel like I'm asphyxiating and try to kill the relationship through neglect.