This is going to make me pretty unpopular with some, but I’m going to say it…
Baby showers are a one time thing. ONE TIME! Anything more than that is just being greedy.
To me, baby showers are a celebration of a woman becoming a mother. All the ladies close to the preggy one get together and eat tiny little sandwiches and play games focused on nappies and bottles. It’s a fun way of welcoming the woman to her soon-to-be role as Mummy, a new chapter of her life, a new club of which she has never been a part of.
I guess that’s just the way I’ve always seen it.
Therefore, holding a baby shower for subsequent children is just not necessary and really, if the last couple I’ve been to are anything to go by, it’s just all a bit grubby.
When I was pregnant with my first child, my Aunt and cousins held the most amazing, beautiful baby shower for me. It’s a very special memory, because I didn’t think I would have a baby shower at all.
Thinking that a shower was generally thrown by the grandmother-to-be (or a close female relative), as a symbolic celebration of her daughter about to become a mother, I assumed that it just wasn’t on the cards for me. I had lost my mother when I was younger, so when my Aunt asked if she could throw ME (not the baby) a shower, I was thrilled.
I guess my feelings on the multiple baby shower situation stem from what I thought a baby shower was. If you look at it like I do, a celebration of the new role of motherhood, then yes, a baby shower is a one time event, held at the time you first become a mother.
However, I guess if you think of a baby shower as a celebration of the actual baby, then yeah, maybe a shower per child may be warranted. But wouldn't you celebrate the baby once it's here rather than nestled up in the baby oven not even knowing who or what we are celebrating? And why wouldn't the father and male friends/family be involved if it was about the baby and not the mother?
I've been invited to a few baby showers recently for women having second and third children, and frankly it just felt a bit awkward. There wasn't the same uncertainty, the same excitement as a shower for a first baby. The women had been there before. They had all the usual baby requirements and equipment that you would usually give a first time mother.