‘I’m really sorry, but can I just say, I think that maybe….’
How many times have you sent an email including any, or even all of those phrases?
For many people, it’s a habit and according to this new app, it’s one that should be broken. Pronto.
Innovator and product consultant Tami Reiss has developed an extension for Google Chrome that will call you out every time you use a word or phrase that undermines your voice, ideas or authority.
According to their website, “Just Not Sorry is a free app that underlines any words that undermine your message.”
Slate reports that when you hover your mouse over highlighted phrases such as, ‘just’, ‘I think’, or ‘sorry’, you’ll see notes from prominent women like writer and personal growth coach Tara Mohr, or author Sylvia Ann Hewlett, explaining why using the word in question may be detrimental to the effective communication of your message. Like this:
JUST- “‘Just’ demeans what you have to say. ‘Just’ shrinks your power.”
SORRY- “Using ‘sorry’ frequently undermines your gravitas and makes you appear unfit for leadership.”
Reiss admitted to Christina Cauterucci of Slate, “I am queen of the ‘does this makes sense?'” But she believes that by qualifying and over explaining ourselves, women are frequently undermining our positions in professional environments.