25 ways to improve your relationship kmanenti April 20, 2011 What's the key to successful relationships? Susan Quilliam reveals the simple things you need to know to deepen your partnership and make your relationship work reltipsQuality timeWithout quality time, your relationship will not survive. reltips2 reltips3 From our partner reltips4Show interest when he's talkingEncourage him to listen to you, by showing appreciation when he does. By the same token, show interest when he talks to you. reltips5Get him to appreciate youMake him appreciate you. Don't wait for a spontaneous compliment, but say something good about yourself and ask for his agreement. reltips6Fail-safe orgasm reltips7 From our partner reltips8Love those habitsOften those subtle quirks that first attracted you to your partner can, with time, turn around and become toe-curlingly annoying habits. reltips9Ask him to help you find the answerHidden resentments poison a relationship; so if something bothers you, say it. reltips10Reward things you likeLearn that punishing your partner won't work. reltips11Work out a budgetMoney is the number one cause of couple conflict. For a relationship to work, you need to address your finances and work out a budget. From our partner reltips12Divide the cleaningIf the domestic work is not divided fairly between you, it will cause friction in your relationship. reltips13Present a united frontIf you have children, involve your partner as much as possible with the childcare - even if you feel he's not as good as it at you are. reltips14Sort out your sex life.The sex may ebb and flow over the years, but if sex starts going downhill, don't just accept it. reltips15Affairs don't have to mean the end...Don't assume you won't be tempted to have an affair as almost everyone is. From our partner Boredom. reltips17 reltips18Learn how to argue wellThe trick is to never say anything that you wouldn't want to hear said to you. reltips195 to 1Research suggests you need five positive experiences to erase the memory of one negative experience. So give five kind words for each bitchy comment. From our partner reltips20Learn how to negotiateEach of you states what you want, then both of you work together to find a way forward. reltips21Accept the things that won't changeSome characteristics about your partner are there for reltips22Learn to forgiveIf you know you will never forgive your partner over something important, then give him - and yourself - a break and start again, with someone else. reltips23Check that you haven't changed your mindsRealise that the two of you will shift and change over the years. From our partner reltips24Know when to leaveIf your life aims are incompatible, there are heavy drugs or violence around, or if there is consistently more pain than pleasure, then walk before the relationship reltips25Counselling is goodDon't think that going to counselling equals failure. It can turn a bad relationship around. It can turn an average relationship into a brilliant one. 1 / 25 Previous Next JOIN THE CONVERSATION FROM OUR NETWORK What's Popular 1The Twins recap The Bachelor: The awkward incident that has two women fuming. 2The birth announcement from a husband that was met with backlash from mums everywhere. 3Days after Mia's initial tummy ache, it grew clear: her hands and feet would be taken. 4Cassie realised she'd already dated The Bachelor in the limo. Then she got a lil'... shook. 5Cassandra Thorburn: 'I feel like we're dead to Karl's family and anyone from our old life.' FROM OUR NETWORK Want more from mamamia?