There's endless discussion about the guilt, exhaustion and criticism working mums face, so it's refreshing to have a working dad add his voice and experiences to the mix.
Facebook executive Tom Stocky has just spent four months at home on paternity leave with his baby daughter and has posted on his Facebook page what the experience taught him. His thoughts on the pleasure, pain and discrimination he experienced during his time at home have gone viral. To date, his post has been shared 3653 times and "liked" by 6079 people.
"Today's the last day of my paternity leave, so I wanted to reflect a bit on the experience," Tom wrote. "When I tell people I'm on a 4-month leave, the initial response is typically surprise that my company offers such a generous benefit. Facebook's paternity leave policy is unusual, but I hope it becomes less so. It's good for gender equality in the workplace and it's good for families with fathers.
"That's typically followed by surprise that I'm actually taking it — why would I want to subject myself to that torture (from parents), why would I want to sit around and do nothing for 4 months (from non-parents), or why would I want to do what is surely a career-limiting move.
"That last one was especially interesting to experience because in some ways people said to me what they didn't feel permitted to say to women. Would my project still be there when I got back? Wouldn't my ambitious coworkers use this as an opportunity (maliciously or not) to advance themselves at my expense? Wouldn't I be viewed as being less committed to my work, thus stunting my own advancement for the foreseeable future? I didn't know the answers to these questions, but I viewed this as an important enough experiment to find out."