What were your Best and Worst bits of the week? Plus what else is on your mind….
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Is it almost August already? Wasn’t New Years Eve last week? Another week down and it’s always worth looking back and identifying your high and low points. This is also an open post where you can really discuss anything you like so knock yourself out.
WORST: My almost 2 year old decided to see what would happen if he put my iphone in a glass of water.
BEST: The wonderful words of wisdom I got from Twitter which included this. Sadly, even though the phone still worked, the screen was almost black. But Twitter also told me that Apple will replace a waterlogged iphone for $249. So that’s where I went yesterday and now I have a new phone.
ON MY MIND: I can’t stop thinking about the kids I met in PNG. You can see the photos from my trip here and you can immunise a child by clicking here to be a friend of the Vicks Road To Relief Campaign or buying any Vicks product.
Thoughts and support to everyone going through things far more crappy than a busted phone…..
So what were your best and worst moments this week? And what else is on your mind? You can also upload any pictures you’d like to share…
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Best: Spent a wonderful sunday afternoon in the sun with my Boyfriends Neice, who is as much mine as she is his… she just turned 4 and makes my world go round. gorgeous.
Worst: Arguments with the Boyfriend…… boys suck!!! We have been together for nearly 5 years but he has been very distant lately….
OMM: My Mum, she moved away last year to a small country town with my Dad and I’m missing her oh so much!!!!
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Best: watching my husband falling in love with my baby belly as it wiggled and squirmed last night.
Worst: finding out this week at our 20 week scan that our sweet sweet baby has a Cleft Palate and we have many challanges ahead of us all. Many more tests to come to find out the extend of it. Not being able to share this with our fmily as we dont want to worry them, so we havent had any support and only have each other.
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Best of luck Haylesjb. A friend of mine’s little boy was diagnoised with a cleft palate in utero and the treatment he had was amazing. I don’t know the full details but there was definitely early surgery and some speech therapy but now you would never know. A slight scar but that is the sum total
Stay positive
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LaLaLa thankyou so much, I really needed to hear this
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I’m so sorry about your bad day however everything will work itself out and it will all be okay in the end. Please feel free to check out Cleft Awareness (http://www.facebook.com/CleftAwareness)- a support network to help families like you share their stories, fears, tips, etc. Best of luck to you!
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ill start off with worst to end it on a super good note..
Worst: had phone and internet disconnected due to bill being 1 month late (is it me or is that craziness?) so feel very in the dark at the moment and stressed out trying to get it fixed. Would love to hear peoples experiences of Telstra and Optus for broadband and iphone mobile service as i think its time to switch.
Worst2: feeling a little blue, even with all my high dose anti-depressants – desperately want to be losing my final 8kgs which is tricky on thes ethings, and really want to have to decrease these meds – i want to be happy naturally so i dont need them! anyway its prob just a reaction to the family dramas of late.
Best: asked a guy out for first time in my life, he said yes (we have been flirting back and forth) and we had awesome drinks on Wednesday night! but as my dumb phone has been disconnected since Thursday, im in the cone of silence – grrrr! we discussed a second date too, at the movies…. sooooo lovely….
Best2: lost 2kgs recently, only 8kgs more to go!
big huge hugs to all
xoxoxxo
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Best: My new Blackberry! and I’ve had time to reconnect with old friends this week.
Worst: boy trouble. Oy vey
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Best: Bought beautiful bridesmaids dresses yesterday with a darling girlfriend who is getting married in 8 weeks. The dresses are so pretty and we had an absolute blast of a day shopping (which I normally don’t like that much) and catching up. Yay.
Worst: Bit of a grumpy bum due to not being able to exercise and cold weather.
On my mind: Lots of babies around at the moment. Having one is definitely NOT on the agenda right now, but I am often perplexed by if/how motherhood would change you.
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Concerted effort to have no worst!!
Best: Making concerted effort to have no worst, i am the master of my fate(well at least i can be be happy and try to get there!!)
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no worsts.
Bests – getting married in under 2 weeks. Gaaaaaaaaaaaaagh! And drinking red wine on a sunday night.
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worst: the worst hangover of my life…damn tab’s at 21st’s! recipe for disaster..
best: getting on top of everything at Uni, and everything about my boyfriend…even with this hangover he still makes me smile and take care of me
hopefully the next week is great for you all!
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Worst: Middle child being diagnosed with dyslexia. We have been searching for a reason as to why there are academic struggles… and now we have it. Feel like we have a mountain to climb over and feel sad that things will not come easy to her!
Best: We are all healthy and happy and thats the main thing!
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Now you know what the problem has been and can start to fix it and help her do better and feel better at school! That is great news, Mum of Three!
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Mum of three, my best friend has dyslexia, and she is the smartest woman I know, with a VERY successful career.
Take heart
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A close rellie has dyslexia, but wasn’t diagnosed properly until about age 22. Really put a kink in her learning all those years. What worked for her was to get blue-tinted specs, which seems such a simple thing – and still made a world of difference.
Really glad to hear that your child has a diagnosis now – that will make a whole heap of things easier to get done.
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A friend of mine from uni has dyslexia & now she’s a structural engineer. A damn good one, too!
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A good friend of ours has it too, is now mid 40′s. His main problem stemmed from the fact that it wasn’t picked up early enough or treated when he was young, leading to self-esteem issues/acting out. He is crazy smart and is now always adding extra letters after his name. No diagnosis news is fun but kids today are so much better off with parental awareness, information and early interventions. Go Mum and daughter! Long term, your girl will do great. My best
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PS Yesterday at school pick up, a little boy started talking to me. I looked down and saw he was wearing blue-tinted glasses. This was the first time I ever met him or saw blue glasses, and now I know what they’re for. Pretty interesting co-incidence, given our topic here.
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Worst: Didn’t sleep too well last night & tonight due to being in a strange bed.
Best: Just found out my Nana’s taking me to Japan in September!!!! *SQUEE*
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Wow Japan!!! That will be amazing!
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Yah I’m so excited!! I spent a month there on exchange in high school so I’m really thrilled to have the opportunity to do the tourist-y thing with my grandma!
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Hi all,
Best: Bella is currently at her grandparents house and I slept in till 8!This is only the second time but I’m loving the extra sleep and no fingers down my mouth at 2am!
Worst: So freaking clucky but my husband is wanting to wait a few more months. Is anyone else married to the money police? Yes daycare is expensive and yes it would be better if we waited till bella was 4 but you said July!!It’s August now!!!Now you’re saying December!Grrr! Make up your mind!!I’m abit cranky:)can you tell?
OMM: I have a major rescue complex! My new boss has inadvertantly rescued/saved me from some situations in the last few weeks and I’m getting those stars in my eyes. Add to that a husband who doesn’t communicate and I’m crushing on the poor man big time. It’s not like I’d do anything but I do love the fantasy;)
Also the working mother/SAHM debate resurfacing again this week on here. Guys, where’s the love? Why do we all have to carry around a great big bag of guilt?!
Have a great week.
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Hi Kimbo, yes I noticed that horrible divide emerge again too. Was very tempted to jump in with “STOP THIS RIGHT NOW” but didn’t really think it would help, so resisted. The thing is, I don’t really understand where it comes from. It seems to be very defensive – but since I’ve never actually heard/seen anyone attack someone for what they’re doing, I wonder what they need to defend against?
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About your rescue complex and crush – talk to your husband NOW! Tell him that you’re not feeling the love and that you’re cranky. Crushes have a way of at worst, getting out of hand, or making you feel awkward and self conscious around your crushee. I know what its like to be in your situation and the only solution I’ve found is to talk, talk talk!
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Hi Kimbo,
I have crushes all the time, too! Hilarious. When the weather is this cold, grey and windy, it is a wonderful thing to inspire you out of your snuggly bed and into your corporate finest to the workplace.
I’m lucky in that I always have crushes on nerds. They’re far more likely to get uncomfortable than I am. Don’t tell your husband- what’s the point? I never tell my husband when I’ve found a new nerd to crush on, but I do tell him when I’m wanting more attention!
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i have had major crushes too. nothing has EVER happened except the work day gets a bit more interesting. but worth talking to your husband about needing some love
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Best: first time back on MM since moving to NT last month. Feeling lonely & isolated; but the last 30 mins of seeing all these familiar ‘faces’ makes me feel Sokol much better. Best 2: my gorgeous kids keep making me smile with the funny/beautiful things they say.
Worst: the aforementioned lonliness. Being torn away family/friends/colleagues I’d so hard. I know it’ll get easier, but I just wish I could press the fast forward button to a time when I have managed to make some friends and feel ‘at home’.
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Welcome back, Gnats! I’m sorry you’re finding it tough at the moment. You will get through it, as you say…sending smiles and strength in the meantime.
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Best: My skin has cleared up after having the baby, those raging hormones made my skin terrible after having such glorious skin/hair/nails during pregnancy.. so having clear skin again is a nice thing.
Best: Started pilates this week, need to drop those baby kg’s and tone up. Felt great afterwards so hoping I can see some results soon.
Worst: A Friend of mine’s husband has up and left her with two gorgeous kids. He says they have nothing in common and he isn’t happy anymore. She is devastated, I really hope they sort things out.
Worst: My almost 8 month old has not been sleeping well since he had a chest infection about 6 weeks ago, has been waking every 2 hours at night and then my 3yo girl is up at 5am so Ive been a walking zombie.. After speaking to a sleep help clinic and implementing a few pieces of advice last night Im hoping I can get him back to one feed a night – then no night feeds oh that would be bliss!
Love and Hugs to all x
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I totally hear you re terrible skin after baby…mine has been the same. Did you take anything for it or has it just cleared on it’s own? It’s been 10 months and I’m still looking like a pubescent teenager. Urghh!
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Hi Me
After my first baby my skin did it also but it was after I stopped breastfeeding, and I ended up going to a natropath/iridologist taking herbal tincture and having lymph drainage massages – the works to try and clear it up.. This time round it got bad after I had the baby and just suddenly cleared up! All Im taking is iron tablets and the Blackmores Pregnancy and Breastfeeding tablets as Im still breastfeeding. Im just hoping when I stop breastfeeding it doesn’t flare up again?? x
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My skin cleared up amazingly after my third baby. i was so excited that at 33 I am finally going to have clear skin! Alas he is now 10 months old and I gave up breastfreedung a few months back and my skin is starting to flare up again. i spent years and lots of $$$ trying to clear my skin up previously. i’m really believing its all hormonal now and wondering if anyone has heard of treatments available and if its safe???
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I’m currently getting IPL treatments and using Duac cream at night and Doxycyclin once a day. I had to wait til I had stopped breastfeeding before I could commence so I’ve only just started in the last week. So far I’ve had 2 IPL treatments and I think the breakouts are slowing, although I’m still getting a couple of spots here and there. I have been on roaccutane TWICE, so I’m really keen to avoid it again if at all possible. I agree 100% with you about your skin being hormonal, mine is exactly the same. I spoke to my dermatologist about it and he said that unfortunately I fall into the category of 2% of people who suffer from skin that is very sensitive to hormonal changes. Lucky me!
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Best: Speaking to a professional about my stress levels…which I have been internalising and alternatively denying for the last few months. Truthfully, I have been finding the jump from 1 child to 2, a lot harder than I have wanted to admit. Anyway, after one session, I am feeling a lot better and able to cope with the many stressful situations which leads to my worst….
Worst: Feeling embarrassed by my almost 3 year old’s behaviour. He is a really gorgeous little boy, but a real thinker and hugely emotional. When I say no,he loses it, crying and screaming. He will then calm down after I talk to him, but that initial carry on is doing my head in. I know it takes time, but I am just a bit over it at the moment..
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Hey Mrs M,
well done you for seeing someone and gaining soem great tools to help you cope. That is such a smart thing to do.
Re your Mr 3 – no wordsof advice, just that I sympathise because i’m going through something similiar with my Miss 3. You’re not alone – hang in there
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Thanks Anonymous – it’s good to know there are others dealing with this stage… And thanks for your words of support..I found myself responding to my husband and son in ways I knew were not good…(ie I was getting really angry about v minor things!!). Hope Miss 3 is nice to you this week
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I’m going through that with my 6 year old!!!! She is sooooo over emotional! it is really driving me nuts!
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Hi over the rainbow, thanks for letting me know I’m not alone!! Hope you and Miss 6 have a good week. x
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Worst: Well there’s plenty that’s getting me down at the moment but, this week, it’s finding out I need glasses for the first time. I’ve had a headache for at least a week and I noticed that it came on maybe an hour after reading the paper online of a morning, so I got my eyes tested and I’m slightly long-sighted.
Best: I was so afraid of having to wear glasses but I found a gorgeous rimless pair that weighs practically nothing and I found the courage to order them in red!
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Worst: having to pack up and say goodbye to everyone after studying overseas in Germany. This week has been one goodbye after another to the erasmus students going back home and I swear as crazy as it sounds, it physically hurts. I so don’t want to leave, I think I am in a bit of denial about it actually.
Best: realising that I got to meet so many amazing people from all over the world who I can visit in the future and who have made my life here these past few months so incredibly full and fun and happy. But still I would like them all to stay in Passau with me a bit longer.
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Best-Job interview
Worst- Job Interview If I get the job it will be hard to decide to leave my current job, which i like BUT new job closer to home, no parking fees, no tolls. I like my job but not the bitcheness that goes with it. Money is the same
What happens if the new office is just as bad as the old one,yet I was warned that the office I now work in is notorious for gossip (even HR has stepped in)Hubby says go for it. Have only been in this current position for 7 months. What in the hell do i do
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Go for it!
When you get offered the job you can make your decision… although it sounds like you have already made that decision!
Good Luck
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I agree! Go for it. Sounds like the pros outweigh the cons.
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This is going to sound pathetic but…
Best: my new iphone!
worst: waiting online, on hold and in line for a total of 11hours and 25 minutes!
I did warn you about being pathetic.
OMM a friend who is going through severe finacial burdon after some really really bad decisions. Wish I could help but she’s in really deep. just keeping an eye on her and trying to make sure she does not get too “depressed” about it. She has wonderful family support and I hope that helps her get through this.
Ps thought I would change my name to something a bit more fun
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Best: Husband getting a great new job, meaning we can move home to our families with our shiney new bub..
Worst: Nobody wants to buy our current house. Such a shame, we love it and can’y see why others don’t
So that is mortgage stress!!!!
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Worst: having to make a big uni related decision very quickly and under a lot of pressure. Many sleepless nights involved and waaaay too much chocolate! Also, really need some new clothes and I can’t find anything anywhere!!
Best: decision made. Doesn’t matter if I made the wrong one – at least it’s done now. Wonderful boyfriend and friends and family. Sun shining in Sydney this morning!!
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No best or worst this week – just blahhhhhh
Tink (8 months) has chest infection and conjunctivitis so a week of sleepless nights and just making do but I look at her when she sleeps and its all ok
OMM: feeling inadequate and jealous of others and really started thinking about what Zoe said in the video post about things missing in your life
hmmmm…. what changes to make ???
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I am going to squeeze in another comment as my week changes in a few hours.
Very very wet where I am at the moment. Heard there is a flood warning on our River. Just praying that the chick peas don’t get washed away. I feel very isolated when our road is so shit to drive on when it is wet. It freaks me out about the fact that an Ambulance would not have a hope of getting here if something happened. I had to drive home last night in a bog and a 25 minute drive turned into a 1 hour epic scary journey trying not to be bogged with 3 small kids in the back.
The upside is – I bought a mountain of gorceries so we won’t starve or need food drops by the SES if it floods again.
He He He
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Don’t worry about the ambulance, happymum. There’s always a helicopter!
I hope you’re chick peas are OK, and that you don’t get stranded for too long. Good luck.
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If you are on the end of that helicopter winch, I know things’ll be ok!
Thanks dear, everything will be ok – just bracing for our 4th flood this year.
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Worst
Where do I begin. Had a terrible fight with my parents, and our relationship wasn’t good to begin with. The problem is my fiance, they hate him and for the worst possible reason. They hate poor people, they’re wealthy and hate the fact that I want to spend the rest of my life with a “poor” man, and in their world, poor = middle class. They refuse to even acknowledge the existence of anyone poorer than that.
Anyway, they can’t stand the idea their daughter wants to marry someone “below” her. The way they talk you’d think we were living in 19th century Britain, not 21st century Australia. They refuse to come to the wedding and are threatening to break off all contact with me if I marry him, even though I made it clear if they forced me to choose they wouldn’t like the choice I’d make.
So I’m 21 and there is a realistic possibility I’ll never speak to my parents ever again. (They’ve had 4 years to get used to the idea of me being with this man, so it’s unlikely they’ll ever come around).
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My perfect fiance, and soon to be husband. If I was able to create a man I wouldn’t be able to make a better one. He is such a great person. I moved out from home when I was 17 because my parents wouldn’t let me see him, and all through year 12 and all of Uni he has supported me, in the early days some days were so hard he skipped meals so I wouldn’t have to, and yet not even once did he ever complain.
And he refuses to say a bad thing about my parents, even though he is well aware of what they think of him (they were never shy of saying it to his face), he even doesn’t like it when I have something bad to say about them. That’s just how much of a good person he is.
He is so amazing, every day I’m reminded of why I made the right decision, and even if I never speak to them again, he is worth it. If I had the last few years over again, I wouldn’t do a single thing differently.
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Gosh Emma, that sucks the big one, doesn’t it? I don’t get that attitude at all. Your bloke sounds awesome though – glad you’ve got a good one there. What a silly thing to cut someone off about! Would they maybe do counselling or something? Or is there a family friend you could ask to talk to them about it? What a shitty situation. *hugs*
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We don’t have any common friends, their friends are just like them and my friends have never met my parents, for obvious reasons. And counseling isn’t their kind of thing, they are way too stubborn for that. The fact is the one area I won’t compromise on (my fiance) is the one thing they can’t forgive. Money and class is so important to them I think they’d rather I tell them I killed somebody than say “I’m marrying a Policeman”.
The saddest thing is both my mum and dad grew up very poor and became successful together as adults, you’d think if any rich people wouldn’t have that kind of attitude it would be the self made ones.
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Wow! They think a copper is low class?? Holy crap! Yeah, I didn’t think they’d be up for counselling. Hmm, that is really kind of odd that they are self made and so were the poor people themselves once, and now they can’t handle you being with someone who is probably better off than they were at your age! How sad for them to have such an attitude.
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Yeah they think copper is low class. And not just that, I’m doing a teaching degree, when they found out about that they reacted almost as badly as they did to my engagement news. In their eyes, anything that doesn’t make you incredibly rich is a failure and Cop/Teacher definitely falls into that category.
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Well aren’t you just Little Miss Disappoint your parents! I just feel sorry for them, really. My dad has been known to be a bit like this – he retired from management a couple of years ago, totally white collar, but won’t let him forget that he is actually a fitter and turner from Newcastle.
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Nothing wrong with tradies from Newcastle, Kris!!! My dad and 2 brothers are boilermakers from Newcastle!
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LOL I know that! Its Dad who thinks he’s better than his brothers for getting out of BHP! Its quite hilarious knowing what a picky bastard he is about his hair and nails and stuff thinking of him as an apprentice at the steel works! He looks down on his brothers and sister for staying there and marrying a tradie. Goose.
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Your parents sound like they are afraid of life, and think that $ will insure you against adverity- not true. If they want to throw a tantrum, then that’s their choice, and while that is upsetting for you, you can’t control them. I imagine they will be hard work for a while, so if there is not contact for some time, that might be ok. This is what happended to me at about your age, I took a stand from my mother, and whilst it was tough, it felt kind of freeing. It allowed me to detox from her, and the distance allowed her to grow up and stop taking me for granted. Through watching the ways I handle my life, she’s now learned to respect me as my own person (and less as her possession), and I have enough wisdom to see her good sides. Now I’ve had kids, she would be v sad if I were to cut off from her again. When she is painful, she now admits it, says she’s in a bad mood, and goes home. There are some things we don’t talk about, but overall, it works v well. Good luck. Your age is one of big transitions for all of you. Your partner sounds gorgeous, so trust that somehow this will work out.
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That is very sad Emma, and I feel for you being placed into the position of having to choose between those closest to you.
In reading your comment that your folks grew up poor and became wealthy as adults, I wonder if perhaps they feel like frauds in the wealthy circles they move in, and are scared that you marrying ‘down’ will expose them as not truly belonging in the upper class? Perhpas they fear ridicule and scorn from their ‘friends’. It’s just a theory; I could be totally wrong. I’m certainly not saying that it excuses their behaviour, however their behaviour is about them, not about you and the noble choices you have made.
Good luck; your fiancee sounds like the perfect man.
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Your fiance sounds like such a lovely man, I suppose the way to think about this sad situation is soon you’ll have a new family – you two.
And hopefully one day your parents will come around, and if not as simplistic as it is – it will be their loss, you can never feel guilt about any part of it as you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong.
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I agree – your fiance sounds like a gorgeous man. I come from a big Italian family where basically the expectation is that your partner doesn’t just marry you, but marries the entire family. Well, as amenable as my husband is, its I who have come to realise that when you get married, your family becomes you and your husband, and kids if and when you have them. So Emma, you and your gorgeous policeman are already a family and your parents are very much the poorer for their attitude. Good luck and best wishes!!!
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Emma, my jaw just kept dropping lower, and lower, and lower at each comment on your parents’ attitudes. That your values are so different from theirs makes me wonder how you survived in their home at all! I wish you and your amazing-sounding fiance only the best for your future together. Even if sadly, it means losing out on a relationship with your parents for the time being. Hugs x x
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I have no idea how it would have been if I knew what they were really like all along. I was able to survive because I truly had no idea they were like this until I was 17, which was when I met my fiance and moved out from home. After year 11 I met him through a mutual friend at a party, for me it was love at first sight. We spent the summer holidays spending as much time as possible together.
After we were together for about 6 months my parents basically said, “ok you’ve had your fling, time to forget about him and find someone better”, and that is a very mild version of what they actually said. I tried telling them it was the real deal, they wouldn’t listen and forbade me from seeing him.
I moved out, and 4 years and an engagement ring later and nothing changed. When they heard about the engagement this week they gave me a “last chance” ultimatum, when I chose him I believe my relationship with them was finished permanently. I told them they are welcome in my life if and when they accept him, but I’m not getting my hopes up about that ever happening.
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Oh Love, bless. Good luck with everything, including the teaching. My mum’s a teacher, and as Denyse has said, they are wonderful, giving people who make a difference to the community. And that’s exactly what you and your man are. Need I say, NOTHING to be ashamed of, we need more like you two.
My best x x
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So are cops! That is just horrible, reading more about what has gone down. Their loss, Emma!
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My congratulations to you, one of the most mature and assured young women around.
That you & wonderful fiancé have grown in the love & commitment required for marriage is testament to your incredible strengths and human nature which has ‘detoured’ from the nurture route!
You have not been nurtured by your parents, it would appear, nor cared for by siblings. YET you have grown up despite them!
Well done YOU – our world not only needs more teachers and police but if they are of the fine human characteristics of you both – Australia is a lucky country!! Xx
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Well now.
Best # 1 If you ever get the chance to catch up with people from the MM community, take the chance and do it. Met the beautiful, gorgeous, cuddly, kind, cupcake queen and totally delightful Denyse this week. Two hours flew.
Best #2 More of the roller-coaster ride that is my life. I had the most extraordinary day yesterday, one of those It-Started-As-One-Thing-And-Ended-As-Another days. It started as a radio interview and ended up as an offer from a literary agent. No pressure, just thinking about what he had to say.
Best #3 Genuine excitement, trepidation, fear, and anticipation about the TV appearance, now locked in for Monday night. Saw myself on TV for the first time last night. Was appalled, shocked, scared and relieved that it’s finally happening. Swallowed a huge glass of wine.
Worst #1 Family stuff. My mother turns 70 on Monday. The rest of the family are all gathering for a huge birthday bash tomorrow. I’m not invited, because, you know, my sisters are like that. Instead I will take Mum out on Monday to a quiet restaurant and hope that the day is sunny, in every aspect. Because, really, it’s been a rather shitty time.
OMM – I’m thinking about a beautiful MM Lovely who has had the most extraordinarily difficult week, one that has largely been kept private, one that is in many respects an inner journey. There have been copious tears this week, raging grief, anger, intense pain.
I sincerely hope that the sun comes out for you again soon my darling. You are a beautiful woman who deserves your time in the sun. Sending you love and light and cupcakes. x
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So excited for your bests, LPC
When you’re a huge celebrity, we can say “we knew her when…”!!!
Also, so sorry for your worst, but it sounds like you’re handling it with grace. Happy birthday to your Mum
xx
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Can’t wait to see you on TV! Let us know the details?
I hope you have a lovely time with your mum. xx
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It’s Today Tonight, Monday evening 2nd August. I’m the one talking about leftovers heehee.
The spin doctors are advertising it as ‘how you can feed your family for $8 a meal’
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Have you noticed at Coles they have had to put up info about how they work out the $10 meals for Curtis’ recipes? I think the $8 meal is funny!!!
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I am so excited about all the good stuff that is happening for you, LPC! I nearly fell over when I saw your facebook status about the literary agent! Super looking forward to seeing you on Monday night as well. Woohoo!!!
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Wow, things move fast in LPC world don’t they? good luck with the literary agent and good luck for the TT segment.
You go girl!
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#*^)$#*!! Apparently we don’t get TT. Which I didn’t know, of course, because I’ve never tried to watch it before.
Good luck with the agent, and I hope you have a lovely day on Monday with your Mum.
Your OMM – the “retreat” I have mentioned before is of course still open, transferable, extendable to two or more. Whatever. Just sayin’
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Really? I thought Prime showed it at a different time? It is the kind of story they’d have on the website, I’d reckon. Lets hope so!
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You will be able to watch it online from about 7pm. Go to the Today Tonight website and they will have the video uploaded following the end of the show.
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Congrats LPC aka “the lady on today tonight” you did a great job – well explained and so good the focus on what CAN be done! Wishing you all what you’d like from this now! D xxx
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Can’t wait to see you on the telly love!
You are ace xxx
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You really are such a kind lady LPC!!
It was great to meet – we ought to get an MM community get together going – what do you think MMers and Mia, Lana and Nicky??
Anyway by now you’ll be tv appearance panicking but rest assured you have quite a few 100s here & in blogland & f b & Twitter all tuning in for the debut!!
Can’t wait & can’t stop saying awesome sauce * which is a descriptor of you too!
and I wish you a very splendid view of your tv – *fingerscovereyesbutpeepthrough
*hey,Danya you really have added to our vocabulary!!
Love and a big cupcake hug xx
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Love, LOVE your bests! Sorry about the worst but glad you have your own solution. Wishing you a very lovely time with your mum.
Re: OMM, I send much love to that person, whoever they may be. I’ve had a difficult week too and am sure hers was far more difficult. Good vibes are coming their way! xx
P.S. I’m so glad you and Denyse met up — and so jealous! I’m going to have to plan a visit soon
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Saw you tonight LPC- you were great!
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Was a great story hey? LOVED it!
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I saw you on TT too and will definitely give your challenge a go. I fly through my grocery shopping like a headless chook and KNOW that I could be doing better. Well done, LPC – enjoy your success!
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BEST: Seeing our little 6 and a half week dumpling on an ultrasound yesterday… yay.. strong beating heart. Very happy!
WORST: nothing
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Love that heartbeat – one of the best sounds in the world! Hello dumpling! xoxo
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BEST – been really productive at home and getting ‘sorted’ so feeling more organised and able to enjoy my ‘job’ a bit more. Not feeling so much like a bored and frustrated housewife this week. Husband is having treatment for anxiety/OCD at the moment (a life long condition that he’s really been in denial of) and I can already see the difference in him. I know he will be happier, more successful at work (he already does very well in his job) and we will get on better… and he will be able to get rid of all the ‘stuff’ around this place that makes it hard for me to know where to start and to even think straight and frustrates me to the point of it affecting our marriage… so I can see progress already and can’t wait for the positive results that this therapy is undoubtedly going to bring.
WORST – my Nan-and-law (husbands grandmother who practically raised him) ended up in the ICU after being rushed to hospital to remove a blood clot from her leg. We nearly lost her – very scary and it’s hard to watch her in such an indignant position and in such discomfort when she is normally such a stoic and together woman. She is 88 so is doing really well but we’re all now on eggshells hoping she will recover. The prognosis is good so far…
ON MY MIND (WHAT AM I THANKFUL FOR…) – feeling so blessed that we have our ‘Nan’. My husband was raised by a single Mum and his Nan (for the early years anyway) and he lost his Mum suddenly when I was pregnant with our first daughter which as you can imagine was quite traumatic. She has filled that gap enormously and as I have no family here we have been blessed by lots of ‘Nan’ magic. She is quite elderly so we don’t rely on her for ‘back-up’ (eg. child minding etc) but she is such a sweet blessing in our lives. Even though we know she won’t live forever (although she’s pretty tough so 100 is not out the question!) our girls have a great-grandmother that they will always remember and learn from which is awesome.
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I loved reading all that you’ve put down here CA. Seeing your gratitude is so heartwarming. Glad you’ve made progress at home and with husband. Er, not joking here…any main pointers/refs?? (I’m certain I have a problem too!) Your Nan-in-law sounds AWESOME. My best x x
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Hey thanks Ms Twitchy… when you say problem do you mean yourself or your partner? I think there’s all sorts of strategies that can be applied to solving a ‘hoarding’ problem. First of all, if it is the kind of hoarding that has a negative impact on your life, then it does fall under the obsessive compulsive category which is an anxiety based disorder. My husband has had some kind of OCD since he was a child (hoarding is not his only symptom) and while on an every day/face to face basis you would never really know that he is OCD, it does affect his life and relationships. Obviously getting to the bottom of it all is a good place to start and I think seeing a psychologist is the best way to go. My husband had it diagnosed some years ago but never did the work on himself and that’s where it tended to affect our relationship as while I didn’t resent the fact that he had the disorder, I really did resent that he didn’t do anything about it and that it affects our day-to-day life and potentially influences our children in a negative way. Now that our daughter is showing signs of OCD this has given him the motivation to do something. We don’t want our daughter carrying it through to adulthood so we’re doing something about it now and she is getting treatment too – we think she will be fine as we’ve caught it early. A psychologist is likely to recommend and guide you through cognitive therapy which is essentially a technique where you establish better control over your feelings and thoughts and therefore your subsequent actions. The psych will give you advice on dealing with the symptoms of OCD, one of them being the hoarding. On a practical level it is a real battle for me having a hoarder husband as, although sentimental, I’m fairly minimal and non-materialistic and I just hate being surrounded by junk. Having less stuff come into the home to begin with helps so really focussing on the moment where the decision is made to keep something could be a good place to start. Taking photos of things helps. Whenever my husband has been brave enough to throw something out that is worth nothing, but he has an emotional attachment to, he has at times taken a photograph so he doesn’t feel it is gone forever. Keeping a reasonable amount is OK. Maybe get a few good solid storage bins which kind of symbolises the importance of keeping some special things safe and then chose something from each year of your/their life, from each job, each school. Just small things and take photo’s of the rest. Have a garage sale or sell things that actually are worth something. My reasoning with my husband is that he is hanging on to things in his past and this is holding us back, affecting our future. If we sold it we could use the money for our future to make it better. That kind of reasoning… I have to confess to playing the guilt card sometimes – ‘is keeping this stuff from your past more important than your children’s future?’. I really do find having all the stuff around us both physically and psychologically holds us back in life and it really does affect our relationship. I’m hopeful of change. My friends call me the most patient person they’ve ever met! I think if we didn’t have children that we wouldn’t still be together and this would be the reason. Now he is getting help this is the first time I’ve really thought that things actually will change, so that’s probably a good indication that therapy is the way to go. Your GP can refer you/your partner to a psychologist and you can get a mental health plan which gives you 12 sessions subsidised by Medicare. I really hope you can work it out – it’s nice to know that I’m not the only one living with this (well I don’t wish it on anyone but you know what I mean!).
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Thanks CA/Janey. I don’t think I have any OCD, just an over-attachment to collectable STUFF (esp vintage home items) that may just be worth trying to deconstruct with a professional, because it IS a problem and the clutter does slow me down. It’s a love/hate thing! I also recently met a fantastic lady who started her own vintage store for the exact same reason- her habit had outgrown her home. And I reckon I had half the same stuff.
Interestingly, I also had the great idea of taking photos of everything in order to (hopefully) then let much of it go. I recently started my blog partly because of this- haven’t covered this topic just yet. I think my love of a good hunt got a bit out of control from the deep need to have a ‘job’ that took me out of the house once I left the workforce and had a baby and other issues mentioned elsewhere on this post. (Oh why didn’t I choose the gym instead?!?!) There IS anxiety about getting rid of it all though. I’m stuck and out of room. (My secret dream is to have a very patient fairy godmother hold my hand and calmly tell me what to do with it all, and that I will be ok, even if it takes a week.) When I do blog it all with pics, I’ll let you know. It may just be the starting point I need. Thanks again!
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Hi again – I think it’s great that you are open to having someone come in and help you – there are lots of ‘clutter clearing’ services available out there that you could call on. I would LOVE to employ someone like this – I’ve gently suggested it a couple of times to my husband and he has flatly refused. There is no way he’d let anyone, professional or not, near his stuff. He won’t even let me help so there’s definitely a difference between the stage you’re at and the stage he’s at. I think it is useful though to get your head around the emotional reasons for why you’re doing it in the first place and what is causing the anxiety. Looking forward to hearing how you get on.
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Hi CA, gotta get used to that name still!
Such a huge deal that hubby’s getting some help – phew- because there’s nothing worse than you “trying” to will him to give therapy a try & him standing steadfast.
He sounds like a good dad because having recognized symptoms in a child of his own, he has realized that change in him has to occur.
Congrats to you for waiting, wondering & watching until he made the move towards help.
So sorry to hear of his Nans illness- wonder too, if there’s a connection between hubby’s need to “hold on” to things and the fact that he was raised in not so conventional circumstances.
Apparently lots of things which affect us emotionally as adults have their roots in childhood – Ooops got a bit carried away, don’t have Psych degree but read lots ..
Big hugs to you tonight, especially for hanging in three!! Xx
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Hi Denyse – yes the name… I saw another Janey on here and thought it may confuse people so decided to change it and to make it a little more anonymous anyway. Chocolate Aeroplane comes from when I was a kid and other kids used to say “Jane Jane went to Spain in a Chocolate Aeroplane…” etc. I used to hate it but now I think it’s kind of a cool sounding name so I use it in a positive way.
Yes, my husband is a great Dad and he dotes on our girls and they adore him. His OCD/anxiety does make it difficult sometimes as he finds being around all three of them quite stressful and he can get frustrated and angry quite easily. He didn’t actually choose to have the therapy himself (I wish!) but when it was discovered our eldest showed symptoms… our daughter’s therapist actually insisted and he agreed. I was really so relieved that she did this as I’ve been concerned about him influencing the children in this way for some time and finally someone else is telling him to fix it rather than me so it was a blessing. I think too that he has been in denial of it and while he recognises many of his symptoms, there’s lots of things he does that he doesn’t realise he’s doing that only I will notice so he was unaware of the real extent of his condition so less concerned about his affect on the children than I was. He is a loving, smart, funny and gorgeous person so has many good qualities too – don’t want to sound like I’m only talking about the challenging bits!
Funny you should say that about his childhood. After being with just his Nan and Mum for awhile he had a not-so-nice stepfather come on the scene and I know this affected him greatly. This is when the symptoms first started. I don’t have a psych degree either but I feel like I should some days – just from personal experience!! Reading lots is nearly as good – my husband is a complete bookworm (he hoards books! ha ha!!) and he is very knowledgeable – well he has one of those genius brains that just needs to absorb more and more.
Thanks as always Denyse for your kind thoughts… I hope you’re having a great weekend.
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Worst: Hearing about my friend’s holiday to England. Started out well but then she ended up with acute appendicitis and hearing about the horrendous pain she was in and the whole ordeal at the hospital (long story).
Worst 2: Then hearing her lovely old dog died, not long after she got home to Aus. She was holding the dog as it died. So sad, I was crying myself as she was telling me. The dog has been with her (and her family) for 14 yrs, through her separation and divorce, through times when her health was bad etc. Feeling sad now writing this.
Worst 3: (no where near as bad as the others) but am taking Elevit as we want to try for a baby soon, and (TMI ??) it is making me SO constipated. UGH! Anyone have any other ideas as to what I can take? Maybe just folate tablets? Suggestions appreciated
Best: Holding my (husband’s) 3 month old nephew for a few hours the other night. He fell asleep in my arms for nearly an hour, then woke up and happy and smiling. Gorgeous.
Best 2: Watching my silly (but wonderful) cat playing with water droplets on my car. Chasing them all over the bonnet when they moved and then licking them up. So funny, and made me appreciate what a great pet he is. Love him.
On my mind: Was thinking that my life is a bit boring at the moment, but after reading these posts and catching up with my friend (see worsts), life is pretty damn good! I’m healthy and happy, if a little clogged up
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I haven’t got any experience with that particular medicine, but I have such a great tummy after switching my breakfast to Bircher muesli on a nutritionist’s advice. I hope you feel better!
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Hey KP, the particular type of iron in Elevit isn’t as easily absorbed by the body as some other types hence the constipation. There are a load of pregnancy supplements that have ‘better’ forms of iron and a lot more vitamins than Elevit (which ends up being pretty much just iron and folate, not a complete multi). Blackmore’s do a good one or you could see a naturopath to get a practitioner-only variety which are usually a little more expensive but have less ‘fillers’ in them. Sorry for the ramble, hope that helps!
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try the blackmores. i used the pre-conception one & then the preg/bfeeding. My lovely pharmacist said blackmores preg was better than elevit, more folate and other goodies.
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A handful of frozen blueberries on the cereal helps a lot! Also full of Vitamin C. Good luck.
We have a lovely old devoted 14.5 y.o. doggy lady with very stiff hips, but going ok for now. I can’t even read stuff like that without getting teary. My best x x
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Vitamin c helps the body absorb iron better, so myabe take with a glass of OJ? There are other preggy vitamins on the market, ask your GP or chemist. But it will usually settle down after a few days/weeks as its just soemthing the body is adjusting too.
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Thanks everyone, will give Blackmores a go!
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Hi KP
I had Elevit for both my pregnancies and had the same trouble. (However I had perfect babies and I do believe it helped). I switched to just folate when the constipation got too bad and then went back to Elevit later in the pregnancy. I remember six years ago when I had my first someone told me that Elevit was really good early on for the building the neural tube and then mid pregnancy Blackmores had something else in it that was good but I had seen too many studies where Elevit outperformed to totally give it up. Can I suggest Allbran. It really helps with the contipation. Good Luck.
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Thanks for the advice Julie H, I see your point. Thought I might alternate between the 2 products and see how I go. I have only been taking Elevit for 1 week, but it’s been very uncomfortable and I don’t think I could keep going with it for the next however many months.
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Worst: Acually, not too shabby a week… Though my job is playing on my mind again, I need something new. But what? Therein lies the quandry.
Best: I’ve been out this week! Movies, the pub, and I’ve just come home from a Kasabian concert, which was fabulous.
I’m usually firmly gued to my couch.
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Kasabian are great live hey? Even from a distance at the BDO they were fantastic!
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I didn’t manage to post last week, so here’s 2 for 1.
Best #1: The ‘He said I don’t love you’ post. Thank you MM’ers. Brought up a geyser of history, pain, emotion and ultimately, gratitude. Much of Laura Munson’s story rang true for me, and took me back. Appreciating in hindsight the value of patience, faith and long term commitment. It’s all worked out for the better, with real changes and an intact, even added-to family unit. Thank goodness we are long past that hellish, uncertain time that had me thinking I was going to lose my sanity in the process.
Best #2: It’s taken MONTHS but we’ve got Twitchette pooing once every 2 days now (down from 4)! Halle-flippin-lujah. MUCH less screaming. She still freaks out, but at least it’s more frequent, quicker and so much less painful now. Sweet relief! (For US ALL.)
Worst: Speaking of little shits
…my 3.5 girl has been the quintessential Jekyll & Hyde child. Whiplash extremes (delicious, affectionate, insightful, hilarious) to absolutely, shockingly revolting. The things she can say and do to people are just hideous. No, she’s not hospitalising anyone, but only today she made her little friend cry with her sheer nastiness, and nearly the child’s mother too. And she won’t go near my brother’s girlfriend (due to her apparently being the wrong ‘palette’ I’m horrified to hear her verbalise). This couldn’t be further from our philosophy or example, and is utterly mortifying. Most kids are not pure angels, but my heart sinks with helpless disappointment and regret when she’s having this kind of turn. I *shudder* at the mere thought of puberty.
OMM #1: After all the upheaval and adjustment, my grandparents ‘escaped’ aged care and went back home because my antsy and early dementia grandmother was homesick. Stress once again sent my grandfather back to the doctor. 3 weeks later and this week they’ve gone back ‘for good’. I hope she gives him a break now. To cover costs we need to ASAP clear the full house and garage for potential renters. While my do-it-all father is still frustrated and in pain, stuck in a leg cast.
OMM #2: Where has Sugarkane gone? Where are you gorgeous??
My best to all x x
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Nice to hear from you Twitchy!
Yay for your bests.
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Ms Twitchy , your best #1 is inspiring. And I hear you on the worst (*closes eyes and repeats “this too will pass”*)
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Worst: attending a primary school committee meeting where parent’s personal agendas over-ride any concerns of respect for others, honesty, or kindness. Nice. I give up. Primary school, people. This is the democracy you wish for your children?
Best: A weekend of wearing PJs, eating chocolate and other goodies from the market, and sprawling in front of the telly.
Bestest: Finding out I got straight HDs for Uni and can get into Honours no matter (just about) how I go this semester. Yay – now I don’t have to be anxious about next year.
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Yay for your weekend and HDs! Boo to those no life parents at school. Mean Girls everywhere! I’ve considered getting into my local schools’ P&Cs but am quite terrified of the uberMums! I loved school, and I love what public schools do, but that shit really scares me! Especially as a non-parent.
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Sooo right Kris … I love your idea but lovely girl an even better way would be to approach your local primary school and ask if they’re in need of any assistance.
That way, it’s from the school itself not the bitchfest /carpark/playgroundmafia
BTW this is NOT a comment for those wonderful super helpful and non judging parents who work to make the school a better place for kids by their understanding and maturity!! Schools need you & thank you
Back to you Kris, if youve got an hour or so for a day or more you’ll find most schools would have reading and other programs of learning where a caring kindly adult listens to kids read.. You would need to complete (schools have them) a “working with children” form, and also may need to attend some session to help you learn about expectations of a volunteer within a classroom setting – ie issues of privacy, confidentiality re kids etc
Knowing of your enthusiasm, zest for life, enjoyment of meeting people, and liking to help I would encourage you to do this & ask me more if you need to!
“loving your idea” xxx
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I’ve got a couple of primary schools really close by, I will approach them about the reading buddy idea!
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Michelle, thats always been the way. I was warned by someone to keep away from primary school committee stuff…she said its a poisoned challice.
You find the loudest most vocal parents can manipualte their children out of all sorts of pickles if they carry on enough….and the quiet people who just get on with it suffer the consequences
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So true, and thankyou for all the lovely comments. I’ve been feeling horrible about that last meeting and thinking, god, what am I doing wrong. But these comments really made my night. Now I can go back to my daughter’s school and do all those things like reading, helping in the library, cooking with the kids, and just enjoy the parents I like and ignore the rest. It really is true that those that trumpet loudest often win the day.
I have my market goodies beside me, had fun buying little things for my daughter and friends, and drinking strong caps from my lovely smiling German stall-holder.
Thanks everyone – hope your Sundays are lovely
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Best: Same old (fantastic) best for me. My husband is a massive spunk and I am madly in love with him. I went out last night without him, and he beat me home for once. I could hear he was already in the house as I put my key in the door and I got butterflies! He was also very good in our birthing class this week, if a little too enthusiastic on the massage bits (he’s very muscly and doesn’t seem to know his own strength). It was a little more painful than relaxing, but we’ll work on it.
Worst: Ultimate lame worst. My cat is scratching everything. This week I bought her a really fancy scratching post, and a lovely bed. It is no exaggeration to say she scratches everything except the scratching post which she completely ignores. I went in to the bedroom to find her sleeping NEXT to the cat bed, with her head on the human pillows. NOTHING works, she is so destructive…
On my mind: I miss my Mum so much. I wish she got to meet her grandchild. It’s been six years, but it still knocks me sideways sometimes. She was such a beautiful Mum, I hope I do half as well.
Hugs to everyone with actual problems. Love, peace and hugs.
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I am totes hitting the bloke up for massages. He has offered, but I have always gone professional. I LIKE the painful ones, but in your present state, I can totally get the non-painful just nice touching one!
My old housemates had a lovely cat (I’m so not a cat person) and she scratched everything bar her post, until we started teaching her (and then her bastard children
) that when she scratched that was she did it. TOUGH LOVE, love!
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How did you do it? I’ve tried everything. I grab when she starts to scratch and take her over to it, but she just ignores it and walks away.
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It involved scratches and us throwing them (not abusively, just away from what they shouldn’t scratch towards what they should). It takes vigilance, but it worked. Even with little kittens!
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Catnip! You can get cardboard scratching boxes infused with it…
http://www.ozkitty.com.au/webapps/site/60740/50118/info/advertiser-page.html?info_id=76543
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I’ve rubbed fresh catnip all over it and all she does is cuddle it and rub her face on it. Not scratch it. Argh! Our new couch
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Bother!
We’re having trouble with our 8 month old kitten chewing through telephone chargers, hair elastics, computer cords, mini cleo’s art and craft projects… Pretty much anything you don’t want to be destroyed by a kitten. Has plenty of teething toys but doesn’t want a bar of them. Why would you when there is so many more interesting things around to chew?
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I heard somewhere (Dr Harry?) that you spray them with a fine water spray – they think it’s coming from the object and move away. Eventually she will go to the scratching post or stop the behaviour completely.
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Yeah we used to do that with the cat too. It got to the point where we just had to brandish it and she would scarper! LOL
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Hi Peanut – I hope you don’t mind but I wanted to comment on your OMM comment. My mum died 5 years ago and I had her grandchildren a couple of years later. A wonderful positive I found was that I felt like I got to know her all over again. I find myself saying things and doing things with my children that she’d said/done to/with me that I’d kinda forgotten about. Anyway just thought I’d give you something else to look forward to
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JC what a great thought. Next week it’s been 6 yrs for me too, i’ll have to look out for the (good) parenting things i do that came from her.
Peanut – love your bests
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Oh thank you, Ladies! These are great points. I have already found myself remembering stories she told me about being pregnant with me and relating to them so much more.Our Mums did a good job with us, it’s a lovely way to honour them by carrying it forward.
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Hey Peanut… so envy your ongoing best… I wish I got butterflies from my husband! How lovely… your baby will be raised in what is obviously a marriage full of undeniable love and respect.
So sorry about your Mum… my Mum-in-law passed away when I was pregnant with my first and I still long for her to meet her grand children… it just seems so wrong doesn’t it? I always think when they see a butterfly in the garden or a rainbow in the sky that it is their grandmother saying hello… you will find little things like that to make you smile… I feel your sadness though.
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With you on the rainbows already! I see one and say: Hi Mum!
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Hi Peanut (makes me smile just typing that)
If you clip your cat’s nails regularly (every fortnight) it will help alot. I have 3 cats and I find that they scratch their pole more just after I’ve clipped them and that if they do try it on the chairs etc they just slip off without damaging them. Also stops them getting their claws caught in jumpers and rugs etc and pulling threads by accident.
It works really well as long as you remember to keep it up (I have to put it on the calendar!!) and I haven’t noticed that they mind it at all – except for wanting to scratch the pole to sharpen them up again!
You can buy clippers at vets or supermarkets.
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Best: MMers – thank you for your honesty and willingness to share stories on the Laura Munson post – has made a huge difference to my outlook.
Best: finally started tap dancing – am completely uncoordinated and I love it!
Best: a slightly left of centre idea worked
Worst: Found out that someone I don’t know has posted old photos of friends and I on her facebook page – she’s not even in them. They are very innocent but I don’t get why they are on there? I find it very odd. I’m not a facebooker so maybe there’s some reason they have been posted. Start to wonder how many other photos are on there.
OMM: Marriage dramas, family dramas – why can’t we all just get on and get on with it?
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Aren’t MMers awesome? I’m so glad you have found support and solace with this nutty bunch! We ROCK.
I am uber unco when it comes to dancing. Me + step/anything that requires rhythm + movement = HILARIOUS. Weirdly if I don’t try and just go with the grooves, I’m allegedly impressive!
Left of centre ideas usually work better, it just takes them to prove themselves.
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Oh, TAP dancing….glad I re-read that! Picturing THAT unco-ordinated was great for a giggle.
I also just B&W’ed my gratitude for the Laura Munson post. Saw your reply to my comment on that one too, and immediately knew I’d done the right thing by sharing. My best to you Cleo x x
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Best: Close friend just told me that she is v. close to getting engaged!!! Knew her and her boy were serious, and was scared I would start to feel jealous upon hearing this news as I so badly want it to be my turn alreay, but am elated. So happy
Worst: Nothing right know.
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Best: Starting to feel more active again. It’s taken a while for me to recover from my knee surgery, but i’m finding that it’s my fitness that is struggling now instead of my knee. I’m going to have to get back on that cross trainer now!!!
Worst: Shitful week at work.I was exposed to almost all bodily fluids this week, and just general mental and physically draining days (screaming, wrestling, excursions. Etc, etc). Glad its the weekend and hopefully it’ll be out of the kids system by Monday!
OMM: At the moment. Hot Choccy and bed!
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worst – weighed in on Tuesday after 8 wks of working out & not only was my original weight much higher than i thought, but i only lost 500g… 500G! =[
best #1 - dinner with my darling friend who has just returned from 3wks in Ukraine on Wednesday... i cooked dinner & told her to bring whatever dessert she wanted to as i couldn't have any & she made fruit salad so i could have some... i love her!
best #2 - had a catch up session with my personal trainer tonight [Friday] & weighed in again to have a 2kg loss! that means there’s only 8kg to go before my first goal is reached & i have 54 days [8 wks] to do it in…
best #3 – 54 days till Wellington, New Zealand & seeing my babies!!! [niece & nephews] <3
OMM – catching up with a high school friend when he gets back from Melbourne… he is gorgeous! & it makes me nervous catching up with him when i'm this far from my best…
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Hi Fee,
I’m sure you know this already, but don’t get too caught up in the numbers. You’re building up muscle (heavier than fat) and improving your health and fitness already. Just be good to yourself!
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Sparks flying with someone of interest, but I am absolutely petrified of getting in too deep. Have never let myself get too close to anyone for fear of basically everything: being let down, physical aspects, being judged, the list could go on.
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Best: I dreamt that my fiance and I had awesome goodbye sex before he went away for the weekend. Then I woke up. And we did
Worst: Found out I’ve been been snoring again this week. I hope it’s just because I’ve got a sniffle… very upsetting to be told your partner had to hold a pillow over his head to block you out.
On my mind: On Tuesday night came across an elderly lady (80+) wandering around a deserted shopping centre. She was exhausted and a bit confused. I walked with her to the carpark – 15 minutes of slow walking and chatting later and it was clear that she had advanced dementia. I offered to give her a ride home but she couldn’t remember where she lived! I helped her search through her bag for some ID which luckily we found. She was such a sweet lady, lovely in fact but I felt so sorry for her family who must have been really worried about her. I’ve been thinking about her ever since.
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Good on you Emily! (Firstly for your Best!), and secondly for that beautiful caring act you did for that lost lady and her family. She was lucky you are such a warm hearted and interested person. My best x x
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Nice One, Emily. Hey, I bet you know her address, right? Go and make sure she’s OK. You will probably make some fantastic friends!
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Emily your omm is my best. Thankyou for doing such a sweet thing. x
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Thanks, Emily, you’ve made me smile….
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Emily… I’m sure she’s OK – thanks to you! What a lovely thing to do… the elderly are so fragile and we need more people out there like you to tune in to this. Nice work!
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Best: A good friend gave birth to a healthy baby boy last night…. In the car on the way to the hospital. No joke. Dad was speeding go the hospital, but he couldn’t wait to join the world! The story is one that makes me smile and warms my heart to know that all is ok and mum and bub are healthy.
Worst: wonderful things are happening for those around me and I am feeling like I am a little left behind… Babies, engagements, travel… To be fair though my life isn’t so tough ….
Kisses for all. Xx
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i completely understand your worst… sounds like you’re talking about my life…
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Right there with you – though it’s more about the babies and less about the weddings, plus the idea that everyone else is going forward. Crossroads . . but at least we have options!
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And it ain’t over till it’s over – something fantastic could happen tomorrow or next week or next month. I’ve felt in a rut lots of times, then something happens, or I make something happen, and life gets that much better.
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Best: Spent Sunday looking at blocks of land that were gorgeous. Got really excited about maybe building a house on a dream massive block in the mountains!!!!
Worst: Realised we can’t afford it until next year as hubby is SAHD this year (which is brilliant but not so much for the bank manager!) I’m not the most patient person in the world and am anxious that the good blocks will get sold before we get a look in.
Best 2: Just had an awesome evening with hubby and kids, playing trains, dressing up in silly hats and taking photos, making music out of half the baking equipment (have small headache after wooden spoon on stainless steel mixing bowls….). Was a lovely end to a busy week that was dominated by crappy work.
OMM: What kind of house can we build? Can we afford it? Will we be able to afford my own design? Will we find a block we like? Do I really want to work full time so we can get this new house, or do I want to stay at home part time with the kids in our horrible, falling apart, too small, frustrating box of a house? I WANT A NEW HOUSE!!!! But I feel mummy guilt too….
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Also, re last week’s Worst about my friend – her test results have been postponed until next week, so we are STILL waiting!!! ARRRRGGGGHHHHHH
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I’ve been looking forward to this post since Tuesday when my best occurred (slightly sad I know)
Best: cooked a meal for a few of my bestest friends, there husbands and their babies, it was fantastic. A rare moment to get us together from different parts of the country. It reminded me of how lucky I am to have such wonderful friends.
Worst: can’t think of any, but that might be the glass of wine talking. Xxx to those with real worst
On my mind: The election. I feel a real sense of responsibily to make a well considered vote but find myself second guessing everything everyone says from the pollies to the media. Everyone has their own agenda or perspective. Policy may be great in theory but there are so many variables. It’s doing my head in.
Xxxx
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Hey JC I think about posts early in the week sometimes too!! It’s a fun thing to do..but if you don’t want to ‘do your head in’ re elections try to only view/read/hear what seems most important to you as a voter. It’s too much to think of the response to all issues..but that’s just my humble opinion.
On a lighter note – it’s only 2 weeks & 5 days till voting day
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Best: Being back at home after being run out of town by our paranoid schiziphrenic (former) neighbour. We spent a few days just lying around, drinking tea, reading, baking and enjoying being back in our own home.
Worst: I was interviewed for my dream job on Tuesday, and now I’m playing the waiting game. I walked out thinking I the interview had gone fantastically, and now I’m swinging between thinking that it went well the job must be mine, to thinking I fucked it up and can kiss my dream job goodbye. I also run to my phone every 15 minutes to check I have reception just in case they can’t get through
On my mind: Holidays! Where to go over Christmas, how soon we should book, how much to spend?
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I’m so glad you’re back home, Blondie Gal. I hope it has all settled, and good luck with the job!
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Best #1 – I celebrated my 26th birthday this week. I was very spoilt and had a lovely dinner with family and friends.
Best #2 – I started my new job this week, and my class are officially mine on Monday!
No worst this week.
OMM – Programming, assessments, and settling in to a new work place!
Love to everyone having a tough week x
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Happy Birthday for this week!
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Have a wonderful first day with your class tomorrow..I’m sure those kids will love you as their teacher!! Xx
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Long time reader, first time poster
Worst: really struggling with the new boss. After 4 years of a great working environment, it really is the pits to have to drag myself to the office each day.
Best: I’m loving the way my team is pulling together to support each other. What ever happens, I’ll have made long term friends because we’ve supported each other through some tough stuff
OMM: wondering how the neighbours are going to react to the development notice that we’ve put up outside our house. We’ve got some really amazing renovations planned and I don’t need anything hindering the process.
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Welcome. So great when new people join in! x
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Welcome Jobubbles!
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Welcome, Jobubbles! Bet you feel better, huh?
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B – blushing having read Danya’s post. Xxxto you too !!
E- excited that in 17 weeks our son & his beautiful fiancee
will be wed(parents of H aged 3& R aged 1) & that Hubby’s priest
bro will perform the ceremony
S- so happy to read MM babies to be news everywhere!! Lucky kid lets!
T- Twitter , for fun & intellectual stimulation all mixed into one#chocwars still rages
W- whingers and whiners of any sort – cyber & real – get a grip people!
O- oh no, hubby’s health which is pretty crap as mmers know got worse
& he has to have MRIs for brain& spine due to
‘rapidly progressing dementia with Parkinsonism
R – Rudd – did he or didn’t he “leak”.
S – stamps went up … 55c to 60c – who knew? Does anyone other than me still post
stuff in envelopes peeps (not on a blog)?
T- time going too slowly while you wait for outcomes of; medical tests etc
O – occasionally I get worn down so much by caring role that I feel I’ll end up sick
M – MIa’s visit to PNG & her totally frank responses to the pics were inspiring to me
M – making the most of the ‘down time’ from caring work for me & it is, thanks to my
‘day off’ met LPC xx, took time to play on iPad, made cakes for fun,
made more plans to meet up with friends
P – people on this blog are so compassionate & caring of one another and it’s
a joy to see the words of love & support being so appreciated
as comments & replies flow.
S- schools – I might be retired but schools are often on my mind.
If you have a chance to do so, and it’s appropriate, tell a teacher,
office staff, ground staff, school executive that you think they’re doing a good job. It’s a hard task to please everyone
Hugs to all, especially those who are under that bloody black dog, facing sad memories, and recalling losses. You are thought of and cared for many of us here. Stay positive & as well as you can cos I’m gonna try too!!!
I know but some words of ki dness keep on keeping on,
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Ah – didnt proof it too well did I.. Anyway I’m sure you’ll get the drift
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Oh, so creative Denyse!
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Aw shucks – actually thinking about the post – love the B&W time of week- made that creative mind come on board for something a bit different this week.
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That’s so awesome Denyse – I wish you’d been my teacher!
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That is a huge compliment for which I thank YOU Emily!! Xx
I’m a teacher through & through & it’s about enthusiasm for and love of learning AND the kids!!! The ones I taught mostly were K-2 and now my rooms at home for my littlest grandkids have lots of learning stuff that’s FUN … Reading to our nearly one year old granddaughter it’s an amazing thing to watch the concentration & interest & joy!!
Said a lot didn’t I? Typical teacher LOL
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Denyse… you are truly wonderful. I’ve said this to you before (although a while ago now), your husband is blessed to have you in his corner. Best wishes to you both x
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So kind of you KI ! My husband is awesome even with everything that’s coming undone at the moment in his health, he can still put his arms around me for a comforting hug!!
Thank you for your care too – xx
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You are uber awesome, Denyse. Love you long time. Sorry to hear about Mr D’s health dramas worsening.
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Kris – mutual love xx bummer of a time for sure- but hopefully will be a bit better informed this time next week. Got a beautiful picture of Miss R (nearly 1) with her Papa today – such moments must be captured !!
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That is just so clever Denyse.
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That is super cool
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I post – when did they go up??????? I posted yesterday using one of my 55c stamps from the box I have. ohhh nooo !!!!
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Hey I loved this too – nice work Denyse! I agree about saying that to a teacher or school staff – they have a tough job… my parents are retired teachers/school principals and so I completely get this.
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Best: my husband secretly organising for my parents and sister and her fiance to meet us in Brisbane for a weekend on the Sunshine Coast to celebrate my 30th!
Worst: being diagnosed with breast cancer. Having a mastectomy next week. Very worst of the worst was having to wean my 6 month old son cold turkey. That was very sad (and very painful!)
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So sorry to you for your Worst.
Sending lots of love, peace and positive energy your way.
xo
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I’m so sorry Karen. I really hope everything is ok for you. If having to wean your baby is the worst thing to happen from this, then I think that’s ok. I really know where your coming from, being sad about it though.
Good luck, and many many hugs to you!
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Oh shit! I will keep you in my thoughts.
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I’m so sorry to hear that Karen. Sounds like you have a good support network around you – draw on that as much as possible. Good luck with your treatment and keep us posted on how you go x
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Hi Karen,
So sorry to hear your news. My heart goes out to you. Love and best wishes for the time ahead.
Hope you are getting lots of support and love from those around you.
x x
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I’m really sorry about your worst Karen. Best wishes for next week. Will be thinking of you xx
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Thinking of you, can’t even begin to imagine what you are going through xxx
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Bloody hell. So sorry about your worst. Wishing you well honey. x
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I am so sorry to hear about your worst. Thinking of you and your family xx
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Best wishes Karen, love and hugs coming your way xxx
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Oh Karen, that’s horrible news. Wishing you strength and love for a speedy recovery.
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I’m so sorry – that sucks. Hope the op goes well. xx
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Oh no, that is truly suckfull Karen. Sending positive vibes your way. xx
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thinking of you karen xxx
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Oh my goodness Karen. I’m so sorry to read your news. My thoughts & very best wishes to you x
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Oh honey I am so sorry. Sending you love xxx
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Oh Karen! What a week. Hope your breast cancer journey is OK (sorry for the reality show “journey” use, but it really is in your case). Good luck, hon. xoxoxo
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Wow and then woe! Poor you facing this god-awful challenge & the never-dreamt of experience of weaning. Will be keeping everything crossed for a positive outcome and that you’ll be home with bubba and hubby soon as. Much love xxx
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Karen, that’s so hard. Thinking of you and wishing you the best. What a brilliant idea for your 30th! It sounds like you have a lovely husband and family to lean on in the hard times. Massive, massive hugs.
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Very sorry to hear about your worst. Thinking of you.
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Oh I am so sorry for you and what you are about to go through. I hope it all goes smoothly for you (as much as it can). Big hugs
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Karen, I am wishing you all the good luck in the world for you and your family now. I am so sorry.
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karen im so sorry. sending hugs and best wishes your way. wish i could do more.
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Oh my god, that’s terrible Karen. Best of luck with your treatment.
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Thinking of you Karen, so sorry to hear your worst xx
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Karen, I don’t know what to say. I am so sorry – and sending you much love and strength.
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Karen I am so so sorry to read about your worst. I can’t imagine how distressing this must be for you. My best friend had a mastectomy at age 29, that was 12 years ago now. She is OK, she hasn’t let it define who she is but I won’t pretend it hasn’t been tough at times. The early days after diagnosis are a shock and the reality after surgery is extremely hard but you will get through it somehow and the best thing is that it has saved your life and that you will get to see your little boy grow up. My heart aches when I think of you having to wean him but you have given him six months of the greatest gift you can give him and your breasts have done what they are supposed to do which is very special.
I won’t pretend to know how you’re feeling but just wanted to send you my support and let you know I’m thinking of you. It sounds like you have a wonderful family and husband to support you and a beautiful baby to focus on. I wish you all the best in your difficult journey – I hope there are some rewarding parts to it as well.
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I god ah cold
So this will be a somewhat abbreviated B&W&OMM this week.
Worst : Grey pubes
Best : At least the carpet matches the drapes now.
Best : Teenager really shining in his school production
Wosrt : Performances every night this week and 2 on Saturday. Very, very tired.
Worst : People on the internet.
Best : People on the internet.
Best : Fatty
Worst : Fatty
A huge shout out to the super duper awesomesauce Denyse Whelan. The wonderful Denyse boxed up some lovely crafty supplies for my wee beasties and it really made a tricky week much, much better. Love to you honey xxx
“The most compassionate form of giving is done with no thought or expectation of reward, and grounded in genuine concern for others.” – Dalai Lama
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“At least the carpet matches the drapes now.” – GOLD!
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Glad to hear you’ve had a better week.
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Grey pubes. Yep
No-one ever tells you about them, do they? Fortunately the OH matches.
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Love to you all. Thank heavens for the Denyse’s of the world. Glad there has been some lovely bits in your week xo
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I’m gonna liberate your quote from the Dalai Lama for my Facebook motto thingy.
I’m so keen to hear some of your young bloke’s school production – jazz version of the Mikado, don’t ya know?
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Best: Revelling in my new baby daughter – she finally arrived, a week overdue (3 weeks ago, I haven’t been online much!). The birth went so smoothly, it was an amazing experience (so different from my first). Seeing my toddler smother her little sister with kisses and cuddles from the get-go.
Worst: I could say tiredness, but am so happy and thankful that I am not complaining!
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congrats Salsa!!!! Sibling love is so beautiful!
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Congratulations Salsa! Enjoy!
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Yaaay Salsa and big sister! Its a very important job, being big sister. Enjoy the love!
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Truly beautiful, Salsa. Congratulations
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Congratulations! Wonderful news!
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I have a general question. With so many posts (esp the election threads) how can I keep track of new comments? Once it goes to a new page it takes forever to check through to see new posts..esp when someone replies to an older comment. Am I completely missing something? I find it takes me forever to keep up to date with new comments. It’s very frustrating. It would be better if people could quote the post they were responding to, but their reply remains “on top”.
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Best: potential new job opportunities.
Worst: ummmm can’t think of one. That must be a good thing!
On my mind: I really want to buy a new house. We can afford something good now but if we wait 12-18 months we’ll be able to afford something better. I AM NOT PATIENT ENOUGH FOR THAT.
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Worst: My husband’s sister visited for a few days, which should have been lovely, but……….you know how some visitors are a pleasure and easy to have, and others just make everything so much more difficult?
Best: I had a training exercise for work this morning – getting winched in and out of a hovering helicopter. Very cool. A good day at work!
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Oh. My. God. I. Would. Die.
I’m trying very hard to imagine what sort of work you do that would require this sort of training… Bowerbird: stuntwoman extraordinaire?
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LOL, Miz. When I was at Navy recruit school, I learnt VERY quickly to not tell Mum what I was GOING to do. It was much easier for her to deal with week to week knowing that we had all SURVIVED what we had done. Most of it was super fun though!
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Ha! Now I feel soooo mysterious *giggle*. But no, not a stuntwoman, and sadly not extraordinary either. Getting winched is not a daily occurrence, just occasionally
(although, apparently, our organisation’s chopper is the most winched in the sthn hemisphere – maybe even the world! Who’d have thought? Made me feel very safe)
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I never did the winching in and out of a helo, but did do a simulation in a basket thingy when we nearly froze to death in Survival at Sea. Good Times.
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You win!!! Freezing is not my idea of fun
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Oh My God – you are one tough cookie. I don’t like if I can’t see the bottom of a rockpool.
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That is a cool day at work. Are you like some sort of secret agent in training or something?
Bowerbird, Mrs Bowerbird.
Do you like martini’s too?
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LOL. Oh dear, I couldn’t possibly own up to the truth now. It would be such an anti-climax!
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I’m pregnant! I’m pregnant! I’m pregnant! I’m pregnant! I’m pregnant! I’m pregnant! I’m pregnant! I’m pregnant!
We got the blood test this morning, for those who want to know beta was 548. I did 6 home tests which were all positive so was feeling confident but still didn’t want to believe it. This was after our 8th IVF cycle which was our last shot. I can’t believe it, I’m still so so worried that something will go wrong but I know we all feel like that. I go back next week for another blood test to make sure and then it will be the 6 week ultrasound. Hubby is so happy, you can’t wipe the grin off his face!
Big hugs to everyone out there!
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Hooray! Hooray! Hooray! Hooray!
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congratulations!! so happy for you!
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Beautiful news Oopsyboops!! All the more so because it’s been so hard won.
Will be keeping an eye out for future updates!
Love x x
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Magnificent news xx
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Fantastic news Oopsyboops!! So, so happy for you
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Congratulations! That’s fantastic!!
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oh congratulations wowowowowowow! Bottle this feeling, you will look back and shiver with joy at the memory. So happy for you!!
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GOOSEBUMPS Oopsyboops!! Gosh I loved reading that. Wishing you a (nauseatingly!) smooth ride. My best x x
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Awesome!
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thrilled for you
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Congratulations – such wonderful news!
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Fan-bloody-tastic!!!!!!!
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Congratulations!!!! That’s fantastic news! xx
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This is my fave post. Congrats
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*does happy dance for Oopsyboops*
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So happy for you. Congrats!
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WHOOHOO!!! XX
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The best of the best saved till “last” just like my friend whose “last chance” turned one last week!
Such joyful news for you both xx
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HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOORAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!
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That put a huge smile on my face! Congratulations!
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Yay, fab news for you. Congratulations!!!
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Oopsyboops, that is fantastic and amazing. Enjoy being pregnant! Nothing better than seeing those 2 lines on a stick (or 6). x
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big congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Wonderful, wonderful. So happy for you. I remember doing six home tests in a row, too! Definitely be thinking of you this week. Fantastic
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Congratulations Oopsy! Such great news… really happy for you
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Best: 10 days til i leave for Europe. Work is going really well even if its night shift. Love celebrating with patients when things go well, like when their neutrophil count comes up to normal (i work on the cancer ward). It means we’re one step closer to sending them home
Worst: being very paranoid and over thinking my casual relationship. Being obsessed with him not messaging me, thinking he’s with other girls. Turns out i was over thinking and everything is fine. He is making gnocchi from scratch for me tonight
Worst 2: Having to call a family after my patient died. I hadnt done it before but i think it went well, so kinda best and worst.
OMM: EUROPE!! not sure how im going to get prepared, just going to wing it.
p.s. thanks for being so welcoming after my post last week. It was really heart warming. Loving the MM community
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Gnocchi from scratch? Wow. More than one talent then
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This week has gone in the blink of an eye, and I feel like I have spent it smashing between pillar and post. Anyway, my bests and worsts.
Best: my first mandolin lesson was great, although I think I’ll be a slow and steady type of student. Lets just say it’ll be a while before there are tunes. It was great to have that 1/2 hour (+ coffee time) to be me and nothing else.
Worst: the pillar/post issue. My kids have after school activities 3 afternoons a week, so on those days we don’t get home till 6.30 (we live out of town). Personally I think this is ludicrous. Of course I’m the one who organised it all. I’ve written about this conundrum before. They go to a school with 35 kids, so the ‘extras’ that are at most schools are not there (no choir, sports teams, dance groups etc). The alternatives to me are keep this up or change their school (noooo, it’s so beautiful). But maybe I’m missing something. Any guidance greatly appreciated. So I guess that’s a worst and also what’s on my mind.
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also, advice needed. I have a TV with an inbuilt dvd player. It has stopped reading lots of dvds (not all). Has anyone struck this before? how did you fix it?
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I don’t know how much use my advice can be (I’m not a parent yet) but when I was growing up, an early night home for me and my siblings was 5.15pm (because of where we lived compared with where we went to school) and when we had after school sport and/or extra curricular activities it was much later than this.
While at the time I probably wasn’t aware of the burden this put on my parents (even if they did elect the school I attended which came with these mandatory extra curricular activities) I think the benefits of participating in such endeavours far outweighed the burden. When I look back on it now, I’m so glad that I had the chance to try all manner of pursuits and, over time, figure out which ones I really enjoyed (and still pursue as an adult) and which I let fall by the wayside (but look back upon fondly and grateful for having had that experience).
Obviously that’s just one person’s experience, but hopefully it might help you clarify your feelings on the subject.
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Thankyou so much, your insight means a lot to me. Onwards & upwards then!
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Oh frankie, I can well imagine your worst will be me in a few years time. Good luck and let me know if you find any solutions, won’t you? But I’d also echo what georgieby said – although my childhood feels like an ever-more-distant memory
I’m so glad all those activities were part of it.
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Thanks Bowerbird. I ‘tried’ lots of things in my childhood but was never really encouraged to push through when they got hard (not a poor me thing, just a fact). So with my kids I try & help them through those really hard bits. Hopefully they’ll look back fondly like you do.
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Frankie, I was having this very discussion with a friend yesterday. I feel the pull to do many things as our small school does not have these extra activities. My answer is – you can’t do everything! It is hard as there are so many sports on in our town and I have parents asking me left right and centre if our boys will do Junior rugby union. It is only on once a month and we have to travel to Moree, Orange, Gunnedah and so on – but there are no home games here where I live. Absoluteley ridiculous! My kids are always asking if they can do football as all the other kids do it but we need to draw the line or we would spend our weekends in the car and loads of money on motels as these kids footy matches are 4 hours drive away. We stick to local stuff like soccer once a week. Swimming days a week in summer and cricket once a week too. I find that this is heaps and the kids can’t concentrate on school and are flat doing homoework if any more days in town are had. Also you need to be able to have some downtime yourself – even if you are running around all day catching up for the busy week ahead it is still going to help with the chaos. Where we are we spend enough time on the school bus and in the car to go to various things that the little one gets dragged around and he likes to have his sleeps in the day too. If kids always see mum and dad frazzled and they think that the whole week’s activities are about them, I don’t know how it would affect them later on. Perhaps they would think that mum and dad just need to do everything for them and they need to go all over the place to have a full life? Not sure. But I know this is long, but bear with me. I was asked to join Pony Club the other day and I said “No way, these kids can ride their horse at home” I don’t see the point in taking everyone (including the horse) to town to ride. You learn more by doing your own riding at home by mustering stock. It just seems like a big wankfest to me and another of those cliquey things that mothers like to get their kids into. Anyway, the point is – there is plenty of time to do lots of activities. But just a couple at a time. Give yourself a break. I bet that most of those kids who started young doing everything will not be any better than your kids who may do it in a few years time. It is just about priorities and what do you want your kids to learn. Swimming is my no 1 priority as kids have to learn it. Little A’s not so much as most kids don’t need to run and throw shotputs to survive. Sorry, so long to read for you. Good luck in finding a little bit more balance. I know exactly how you feel on the issue xxx
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thankyou Happymum. I agree, swimming is the No. 1 for us too (town pool, dams, rivers, danger, danger!!). My oldest son swims twice a week as he is a pretty un-sporty little chappy and it is important (esp as a boy in the country my husband tells me!) to be able to feel like you can compete (not win, just be in the race I suppose i mean) in some sort of sport. He likes swimming and says it makes him feel more confident when he does it (bless). And the girls also do a swimming lesson once a week.
All three play an instrument which is their favourite of all. They LOVE it, love practice etc. They are starting to work out how to try and play together which is beautiful. Sadly they can’t as they are all different stages of beginners, but it’s effort that counts! And the girls do ballet. they love that too, and I love that they are both establishing their own little social groups outside their little group of school friends. (Important later on?).
We squeeze this into 3 afternoons so that there are two afternoons and all weekend free. It has been working fine, but it doesn’t take much to tip the balance there. What tipped it is me taking on teaching a night class on the night following the after school stuff. It has got me knackered! But it seems to only get me knackered, as the kids still have their 2 afternoons & weekend free. So maybe I need to toughen up a bit, or just take some more time to get used to it? I don’t want to give up the teaching, I love that class.
Anyway, never in a million years did I think my kids would do 2 or 3 afterschool activities each. But never in a million years did I think I would live in a village of 500 people and that they would go to a school with 35 kids. Life is funny.
Sorry Happymum, I’ve just done a big purge. Hope you have a good week. xx
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Mine was a big purge and I could go on all day about it. So many activities, so much peer pressure (on the kids). So little time in the week.
Your kids are awesome for doing music and loving it. That is the one thing we don’t have in our town and the only teacher is a 80+ year old who taught me piano when I was a kid. She is lovely, but not an awesome teacher. Also I don’t have a piano at the moment. You don’t need to harden up, I think you have a good balance and everyone is different in what they like to commit to. Good on you for teaching. I don’t even have a job and I feel like I can’t cope with all my other stuff. You are an awesome mum! x
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oh frankie I feel your pain….my 4 kids are busy too. but its only because all 4 of them play sport and train on different days of the week which means I feel like run around sue.
but i honestly believe that primary school is a time for kids to feel safe and secure and in their local community. theres plenty of time for the other stuff when they start high school. so if you can hold off changing schools i think you should.
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You’re right about the school Lu, it’s so gorgeous that I really don’t want to change it. They are so lucky to have that quiet little learning environment.
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I’m the same Frankie, and I get so strung out about it that I’ve considered writing to Mia for a group therapy question to see how others balance their time.
We have all three in swimming lessons on Saturdays (like you, not negotiable with a big dam in the paddock closest to the house). Son does soccer: training Thursday arvo, match saturday before swimming. Miss Medium does dance class Tuesdays, Miss Big does horse riding after school Wednesday. Add to this that I have a weekly riding lesson, plus Husband has a piano lesson once a week and I’m a big puddle of exhausted by Sunday.
This schedule feels ridiculous busy, but on the flipside the kids really value having that weekly activity that is ‘their thing’. But then as someone (Kris2040??) pointed out in another post it’s equally necessary for kids to have veg-out time and not being over scheduled. Then you add homework into the mix, plus readers and…
*goes to find bottle of wine*
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Glad I’m not alone in this Miz. We are probably reaching for the glass at the same time Friday night when it’s over. And at least I know that this falls squarely in the realm of first world problems. Really, if this is my problem, then what’s the problem? (still so tired I could cry by friday night though. I just read MM instead). xx
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FINALLY I remember to come back here and post! I have the same issue with after school activities.
Swimming is compulsory, no question. For the past 5 terms Miss 7 has done roller skating dance classes (yes, very retro!) every Wed night from 5.30-6.30pm. The little missy goes to bed by 6.30 most nights, so skating was always a drama, she’d be feral, the big one would get upset cos I wasn’t watching her. Blah blah blah. Last week she decided to not do it any more, I put no pressure on her, it was her own free will but oh, was I happy!? You bet.
Then the next day the local community centre rang to say they finally had a spot for her in their kids cooking class. The timing will be perfect 4pm-5.30pm and there’s no need for me to stay.
And i’m glad others struggle with this, I always thought it was just me who loathed activities! We still have 2 afternoons and all weekend at home, but I really miss those early years where you’re just at home with none of the traipsing around.
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Best: just feeling happy this week !
Worst: watching my husband try to juggle helping me out with looking after 3 littles as I return to some very part time paid work , and keep all balls in the air with his own busy job. I think this also qualifies as a best because it is extremely amusing and I’ve had a goof laugh at his kiddie acopia!
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Best: Ummm…my house extension is coming along really well, going to see Kasabian tonight…
Worst: Nothing too bad this week, just an impatient 2WW…
What’s on my mind: I want to share with everyone what my naughty cat did yesterday…see the pic below.
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I saw Kasabian at the BDO – they were TOPS!
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I saw them at the BDO also. So looking forward to tonight
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Hi Bedlam
You have to have a comment in the message box, if that is what you’ve tried, maybe resize your image – it could be too large.
Cheers,
Nicky
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Am I doing something wrong with the pic upload? Or do they get moderated?
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Take two on the pic upload
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Priceless!
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oh no!
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BAD puss! Bad bad puss!!!
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If that was a toddler I’d suspect he or she was looking for just the right piece of loo paper.
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naughty puss!
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Ha ha!! That is so funny… I have a child who’s done things similar – a fascination with toilet paper… I guess you should be pleased that the cat can’t lift up the toilet rolls and throw them in the toilet!!
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WORST: A huge meltdown on the weekend. Issue which resulted in epic crying session in bed, hours of talking, crying, even the first ever bit of shouting (not by me), to get it resolved. Not pretty.
POSITIVE SPIN: I called my new best friend when I hit rock-bottom. I’ve never reached out to a friend before while falling apart so completely, and the support he gave was fantastic — he helped put me back together. What a find
Also, when the emotional mess was over, the boy and I spoke like adults and took real steps to fixing the problem and making sure it doesn’t happen again. We even made lists of needs we have that aren’t being met to make sure we get ourselves back on an even keel. I’m really proud of us and the way we deal with hurdles.
BEST #1: The bf telling me (randomly and off his own bat) how lucky he feels and how glad he is just to be able to go to sleep next to me. Very sweet.
BEST #2: A night out shopping with a girlfriend, absolutely much-needed in more ways than one! Had lots of fun, talked a ton, spent lots of money (but so necessary I can justify it all) and just really let go for a while. Just the tonic I needed!
Love to all who are struggling xx
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I’m glad those bests followed your worsts.
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ALways good to get a postive spin love xxx
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Best – right now, my littlun is sick and has finally fallen asleep on my lap – after being a terror all day…they are sooo cute when they are asleep!
Worst – not sure I have one…
I am thinking about babies at the moment, I have another one to come I am sure….there are babies all around me at the moment and I just want to get my mitts on them all…still trying to convince my hubby that we should have another one, funnily enough after a week with a two yr old in bed (sideways while we cling onto the edge) he is not feeling it! Perhaps he has more sense than I give him credit for???
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Best: Got a great hair cut this week. Cute short bob. Be gone, bride hair!!
Best 2: Delightful dinner with girls and their partners last weekend. I am seriously happy with the wonderful people in my life.
On my mind: Did anyone watch ‘One Born Every Minute’ on SBS during the week? Loved it. Cluck, cluck, cluck! But not quite time for us to start our family yet. Soon, though.
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My fiance insisted on watching it. And when I overruled him because I wanted to watch Packed to the Rafters, he watched it online later in the week! We are not pregnant and not planning to be anytime soon… I have no idea why he was so facinated by it! (Apart from the cute baby factor)
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i watched that show! actually i am kind of obsessed by it. i thought it was great, i’d never seen anything like it. can’t wait for the next episode!
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Best: getting a phone call from my wife this morning to say that the blood test result had her hcg level @ about 540-580. Second fresh IVF cycle this year, and our last attempt.
Worst: the increasing brain freeze that stopped me getting anything done at work this week, stressing about the blood test result.
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Fabulous news! Fingers crossed for you and your wife
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Good luck!!
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Hmmmm…you’re not related to Oopsyboops by any chance now??
Either way, my best to you and your wife! 
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Hmmmph! That didn’t take long
thankyou – we’re elatedly scaredworried right now. So much heartache to get to this point, so much that can go wrong. Fingers, toes, legs all crossed.
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Well super good luck to both of you, and well done for joining us! Come on, munchkin!
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Best: my 3yo sleepily saying “goodnight mummy, I love you” last night after I tucked him in.
Worst: being sick & missing work again.
On my mind: the toss-up between furthering my career & staying home a little longer with my boys, while being the breadwinner of the household.
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BEST: Being really good and eating really healthy all week and working out heaps
WORST: Eating heaps for dinner last night, red wine, AND sarah lee cake and ice cream for dessert – oh well.. at least it will make me work harder today! And you gotta indulge SOMETIMES
ON MY MIND: How long the boy is going to stay over for 5+ nights a week without thinking about moving in together.. have said things about it but don’t want to push it..
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Ah, that worst sounds like a best to me
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Best: Seeing Lottie Jnr enthralled at a local amateur performance this week. Performance was delightfully terrible, but Lottie Jnr has been dancing and singing her way around the house, insisting we now refer to her as Debbie Reynolds, ever since. She also asks that I ‘introduce’ her before she enters a room ie ‘Please welcome to the stage, Miss Lottie Jnr’ etc Has also taken to yelling ‘GET OFF MY STAGE DADDY!’, which is not easy at it seems the whole house is now her stage (sorry for all the kid talk)
Worst: My Mother snooping. WTF?
OMM: What business should I start in my new and rapidly growing with loads of babies and children, sea-change town?
And: Thank-you MM peeps for keeping me entertained. You guys really save me sometimes
Love to all with tough times.
L X
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I have to agree.. love everyone on here too and reading mia’s stories and everyone’s comments really gives me a pick me up!
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Lottie Jnr is such a card! How funny. Good choice on Debbie Reynolds, the kid’s got good taste
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Kid talk is always lovely
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i THINK SHE SOUNDS GORGEOUS! NO NEED TO APOLOGISE. Sorry caps slip.
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Gee I enjoyed reading about “miss Debbie Reynolds” please do video her because at 12 plus she’ll say “oh how could I have done THAT – OMG”. But will secretly love that you’ve taped her & she gets a wonderful memory.
My eldest grand d was/is just like that – she’d make a stage out of any raised surface! All the mannerisms etc of performers … Actually now at 13 is quite an accomplished singer, dancer & musician. Gotta love the performers in our worlds!!
BTW – your mum ??!! I just don’t get that, not at all. Unacceptable totally!!
Best of luck with decisions on business!! Keep up the applause!
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I loooove your best, Lottie.
And as for your OMM, can I just say that a child friendly coffee shop – sandpit, scribble paper, few books maybe (mainly just the feeling that I’m not completely unwelcome) – gets my $ every time.
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Worst: The black dog is back.
Best: I’m having treatment for the black dog. Be gone, black dog!
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Kim I am so glad to read you are having treatment. Be gone, black dog!!! Sending my hugs to all those who battle to make the dog heel xx
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Even asking for treatment was such a load off my mind, Kim. Second sesh with my new psych tomorrow. She already taught me a great calming tool to get me back into the here and now when I got a bit upset last week. What she did was say right, 5 things you can see right now. 5 things you can hear right now. 5 things you can touch right now. Then 4 things, 3 things. It really worked!
Good luck with your treatment.
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Sorry that the black dog has come .. But glad to hear of treatment.. Hugs!!
My sick hubby – despite all of what’s wrong with him now – says his major depressive episodes were worse. Meds, Counselling and time all worked but patience is required by you & your support network (do hope you’ve got one person at least) because of getting the balance of emotions back to “better” is a longish journey xx
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Certainly gets around, that dog. All the best with it, Kim. I know it can be a very hard road – we’re with you.
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All Bests this week!
Best #1 – getting through 12 week scans and making our bub news ‘official’
Best #2 – sharing the news with Mr almost 4 and Ms almost 2 over icecream!
Happy weekend everyone
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Congrats!
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Great bests, LaLaLa!
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Worst – been battling a head cold. Think this time it has finally got me. 21 weeks preg not anything i can take either.
Best – Baby really kicking now and my 3 year old finally feeling it. Has been asking when will he feel his baby kick since the beggining.
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Best: my almost-2 year old starting to be interested in toilet training, she just wants to sit on the potty and read books!
Worst: Having to let go of 2 very good employees because business has not picked up so there is no work for them.
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Best: Just spent three weeks in Europe. Absolutely amazing, best three weeks of my entire life to be honest. I met soooo many amazing people and I’m really sad it’s all over, but luckily 33 of the 40 people on my tour are Aussies, so it won’t be too hard to catch up with everybody
Worst: Pretty much nothing in comparison to my best, but I’ve (STILL) got the contiki cough and it doesn’t look like it’s going anywhere soon. My whole body is aching from coughing so much ):
hope you all have a great weekend!
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I don’t know anyone who has been on Contiki and hasn’t got the Contiki Cough. All worth it though
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Oh God, I got that bloody thing 15 years ago !
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I am starting to sound like a broken record but..
Worst: Just got my peroid which means I am NOT pregnant. Which makes me want to cry. We have been trying for sooo long. I am young and healthy and we fell pregnant with Miss 2 in about 3 seconds! What is going on?! It’s killing me!!
Best: Still having lots of fun with my new blog.. It gives me an excuse to spend all my time cooking, sewing and gardening!
http://www.growcooksew.blogspot.com
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Baby 1 was about 4 when we decided to try again. I went off the pill and spent the next 18months trying to fall. Each time we were unsuccessful was wrenching.
I went away on a 4 week training course, then just after I returned, it happened!
Hugs to you and fingers crossed it happens soon!
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I’ve been popping in to look at your blog quite regularly Katie – it’s beautiful!
I’m sorry about your worst, it must be incredibly frustrating! Having seen photos of your little one, I can see why you’re keen for another – she’s adorable! Fingers crossed for you.
xox
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It’s bloody hard to handle, that’s for sure. My wife and I tried for 2 years before seeing a fertility specialist and starting IVF. Then it was another 10 months before we struck lucky.
We got to a point with the IVF that we told people that’s what we were doing, because holding it in was just unbearable.
If you have the opportunity, I strongly recommend going to see a fertility specialist, and yes, go through the barrage of tests that are available. Get some facts about what’s going on inside your body and your partner’s body. (For our IVF rounds this year, the FS found some mild PCOS that hadn’t been detected before). That will help make clear how to proceed. And remember to come and let off steam in a forum like this one.
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Katie, I am not sure how long you have been trying for, but hang in there.
I got pregnant with number 1 first time, then it took 10 months to conceive number 2 (partly because I started trying when number 1 was only 6 months, but still..) and then after number 2 I was diagnosed with cervical stenosis, got it sorted and promptly conceived number 3. The months I was trying to conceive number 2 were horrendous and characterised by growing obsession with pregnancy and lots of anxiety and frustration… Mia sums it up so well in her book.
I actually went to see my obstetrician between 1 and 2 and had some basic investigations done after a few months trying, sometimes you can be a bit hormonally off kilter for longer than you think after a baby and breastfeeding. You have nothing to lose by going and having a chat to your obstetrician and taking it from there, it helped me knowing that someone who knew all about reproduction was pretty sure that it would happen eventually for me. I think the wait is easier if you know it is probably a matter of when, not IF.
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Best: Started a blog – very exciting for me!
http://theshawdaily.wordpress.com
Worst: Being back at work after 2 weeks overseas.
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loved it!
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me too!
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One of my bests was you asking me to write a piece for your blog!
My worst was the ghosts that were stirred up to get me to write that piece. Thanks UTAS!
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Well I’m glad you agreed to write it for me Rosie. It is really beautifully written, and I am proud to publish it on my blog xx
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Just had a quick peek and I think it might be one to add to the ‘addictive’ list…
Rosie – what a piece – punch to the solar plexus stuff. Thanks for your raw honesty, for sharing such hard stuff.
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best: Any doubts I had about moving overseas due to not wanting to leave work while having so much success are gone due to massive restructure.
worst: That massive restructure means the remaining months here will see me working in the entirely opposite direction I want to be going. Its going to suck, but there is light at the end of the tunnel I guess.
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Best #1: The week is nearly over. I don’t want to repeat this week.
Best #2: How much I love my Hubby. He’s trying so hard!
Worst #1: My child is ‘homeless’ and house hopping again. She can’t afford to live on her own and I can’t afford to support her. She is >18 and lives 600km away. Her situation is triggering Hubby’s depression, but he’s doing his best.
Worst #2: A task I really wanted and had high hopes for is turning into a nightmare. I thought I had it, but someone else has muscled in and is bent on taking over. Maybe he doesn’t trust us? This task is the only thing keeping me at my present job. That, and the level of the wage which I don’t think I can get anywhere else.
Not the worst in comparison with some, but it hasn’t been a great week.
Kisses and hugs to those really doing it tough.
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Best: being able to wake up next to my boyfriend everyday. Knowing I’m in an amazing happy relationship and I love him with all my heart.
Worst: 3 weeks and still no tax money. I need to pay rego and buy clothes. What’s taking so long!!
Worst: still waiting for outcome of boys interview with police. Watching recruits last night they had 400 positions yet my boy is competing for one of only about 30 which doesn’t give us much hope.
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With the exception of your last worst that is word for word my week!
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best 1: great news for my dad getting a massive pay rise! so happy for him because he has worked so hard for so long and deserves every penny!
best 2: only 2 weeks until my best friend returns from 8 months overseas…missed her so much!
best 3: spending some quality time with my newborn nephew and enjoying many cuddles!
best 4: getting a massive tip at work on wednesday night. nice to know that i’m doing my job well!
worst: back to uni this week….errggghh
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Best: It`s summer!
Worst: Teachers in Japan don`t actually get summer holidays, so still have to come in and sit at my desk in the staffroom all day. Think as of next week I`ll just start training with the tennis team everyday, as chasing a ball around in 35 degree humidity is still preferable to trying not to fall asleep at my desk.
On my mind: Have to send off my application for a postal vote today before I forget. Also, the election is the day after my monthly pay day, so whatever happens at least I can afford to get drunk. Woooooo….
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My bday is the weekend following, which they were touting as the election date before. I thought it would be cool, but then my friend pointed out that she went a mate of her’s bday on an election night, and it was a nightmare because everyone (including the bday boy) was stressing out about the results. Fair point, really.
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The last election night I was still in Canberra and just about to finish uni. My friend and I were in this cheap chinese restaurant getting all depressed when my mum called and said ‘guess what? Howard just lost his own seat!’ It was a great night after that, can’t remember much but I think we somehow ended up at the ACT Greens election night party nearby. And the next day I had to put up with my vitriolic cafe owner/chef of a boss who was pissed off because he’d put $100 on the liberals to win the day before at the TAB. Oh the memories…
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LOL! Good Times. I was super excited when Johnny got ousted by Maxine, it was the same amount of excitement and happiness as when the Yanks voted Barack Obama in. But in a more restrained version, of course.
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Of course ..LOL
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Worst – Major fight with hubby first thing this morning. He told me (being 34 weeks pregnant) that “I don’t contribute enough” to the household and started bringing up events from previous months where he has found my “contribution” unsatisfactory. Is it just me or does being pregnant make your brain move slower? So I was very upset about this and had a massive cry which felt good but I am still feeling dark about it. Sorry I am not wonder-woman???
Best – Reading this post is helping me feel better.
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Oh my gosh.. that’s awful.
I literally had to sleep the whole way through my pregnancy. And even if I was awake I was feeling sick and vomity!
I did NO housework for 9 months.. no cooking, no cleaning, no washing. My husband had to do EVERYTHING!
Tell your husband to lay off.. you are busy making a baby!!
P.s I am now a full time mummy with a 2 year old and I do all the cooking and cleaning, because I can.
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Thanks Lilly… A boost of advice (and reminders!) I most definitely needed! xxx
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He’s kidding right?
You are contributing more than he ever could. He should just shut the f*ck up.
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I’m not wonder-woman either!
I’m 38 weeks pregnant and have been out of action since week 6.
First I was (REALLY) sick for months, then I was just so tired I could hardly roll over in bed. I’ve neglected all the unimportant things in my life like housework in order to have any energy left for my 23 month old and husband (which might just mean not being snappish and cross).
Seriously my house is a tip, really bad. But for pete’s sake it all ends up fine. A lovely baby is worth it all and the house can wait.
I’m with Lilly, your husband needs to lay off. You’re not lazy you’re just one of those people who can’t do it all while pregnant. There are lots of us out there.
I hope you know you’re not alone. You’re doing a great job just doing what you do.
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thanks girls – wish i was kidding but sadly am not, but have been strong and not letting him get away with that, totally NOT cool!! xx
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Best #1: Pregnancy progressing well (only 9 weeks though). Got my bloods back and am all healthy, even my iron levels are high which was a pleasing revelation given I’ve just marked my fifth year of vegetarianism.
Best #2: Told our folks about the bub. They were shocked, as we hadn’t mentioned we were trying, but delighted. So glad to have their support.
On my mind: Next week’s test for Downs, and the subsequent ultrasound 2 weeks later. Today’s story from Diana (‘The little girl we never expected’) couldn’t have come at a better time. Thanks Diana
No worsts this week, but thoughts go out to those being visited by the shit fuck truck.
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Congratulations ChristieV! Enjoy the amazing ride!
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Best: We got to see our little one this week at the 19wk scan, was so amazing! Didn’t find out the sex though as we both really want to keep it a secret. Can’t wait for december!
best #2: cuddle time with my friends twin boys who are 10wks old…so adorable and a lovely reminder of what’s ahead for us.
Worst: Nothing fits, still feel fat, but starting to look less fat and more pregnant which is a good thing. I know it sounds petty but this in between stage is hard.
In the big scheme of things…that doesn’t matter though and my bests by far outweigh my worst!!
Hugs to everyone having a tough time at the moment. xx
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Ezzie I just had a shocker and thought it read ‘cuddle time with my twin boys who are 10 weeks old’ – after I had read you going for your 19wk scan and I was like ‘what the??’ how is that even possible!! My brain is fried…….
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hahah mine is too, don’t worry, I’ve been blaming baby brain from day one! x
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On my mind at the moment… I love Rhys from Playschool. He is so funny! (just to be clear, I don’t think about him on a regular basis, it’s just that my daughter is watching a DVD and we are both laughing at Rhys)
Back later with Best and Worst.
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he is good though, isn’t he. Cheeky, the way the presenters were in my day. (35 years ago aaaah!)
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That is why they do it! Mum still thinks John Waters is sex on a stick, and that was from him being in stuff like Hair before we were born, and then on Play School when we were little. They put hot funny people on it so parents will watch it with the kids!
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He is SEXY. My Mum often talked about an episode where he didn’t wear a shirt so Benita could paint on him? Apparently Mums in the early 80s went wild that day…
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He is actually hot! There comes a time when it is still John! From Play School! And then you get why Mum liked/s him. He played a junkie uber surgeon in All Saints. Hot. In this new show (from the makers of Secret Life Of Us) he is Asher Keddie’s philandering sleazebag Dad! Still hot. I bet Mum will watch it anyway, but John Waters? Oh she’s totes there.
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I only bother watching the episodes with Jay in them!
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My daughter has a ‘thing’ for Andrew Macfarlane. And I agree with her.
And, yes, I know he isn’t on ‘my’ team but I can still LOOK!
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My Mum and I both did! He’s great! No harm in looking (and even less harm in his case).
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Andrew McFarlane is and always was HOT. See my point above re the hotness of the Play School presenters!
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I liked John – blondish hair – always looked at the camera a bit ” you know what mean, mums) … Bloody memory , oh yes, John Hamlin & Noni Hazlehurst had quite a bit of fun and laughter for adults watching!!
Just doingthe maths – I started watching it in black & white at aged 14 minding our neighbours’ kids.
Fast forward to 2010 watching in colour with littlest grandkids..means I’ve been watching play school on & off for…46 years …
Hubby likes Justine & Ive got a soft spot for Simon (yep know he bats for other side)
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There’s no innuendo’s any more like there used to be with John Hamlin. We have an old video with him in it and he is hysterical.
I like when Justine Clarke and Alex Papps are in the same episode, always takes me back to Frank and Ru in Summer Bay!
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Worst: Still feeling yucky about a fight with a friend a couple of weeks ago. Have called her a couple of times and it’s been civil and ok on the surface, but still feels very tense. Also she hasn’t initiated any contact. Will lie low for a little while and see if things get back to ‘normal’ a bit.
Best: My kids, though a handful, are just such a blessing. Love love love them! Things have also been really lovely between me and my husband.
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BEST : Receiving accolades for my performance at a Johnny Cash & CCR tribute night
WURST : a large sausage, esp of a type made in Germany, Austria, etc
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AHHH ha ha ha …. can’t believe no one ‘s thought of THAT one before now!
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oh my gosh I needed that laugh!!
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Thumbs up for that one
PS w00t for accolades!
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hahahah funny wurst
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Best:
1) My 2 week old bubba – I am completely besotted and I never want to leave his side.
2) My mum coming to help do housework so I could focus on my 2 week old bubba.
3) Surviving the first week on my own when hubby went back to work.
4) All the encouragement and support I’ve gotten from friends and family.
Worst: Everything that has been ‘worst’ (sleepless nights, fussy bubby at the ‘milk bar’, lack of time to do anything, etc) seems to just be horribly selfish to say, when I know that it’s because my bub is doing so much growing and developing at this stage in his life. So I simply won’t say them.
On My Mind: The doco I saw on 4 Corners about women in the Democratic Republic of Congo. iView still has it up if you’d like to watch. Extremely shocking, sad and made me so thankful that I can raise my child in a country like Australia and not have to be afraid of civil war, rape or genocide.
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Best: seeing my baby yesterday and finding out that we are having a third boy. He looks so cute in there and it was so amazing to see all the bones in his spine and at one stage it looked like he was sucking his thumb!
Worst: peoples reactions to me having another boy. Seriously boys are beautiful too. I am starting to feel that people don’t generally think a family of 3 boys is a positive thing and its getting under my skin.
I have said so many times now that its a blessing just to be pregnant and how all i want is the baby to be healthy and safe i feel like a broken record!
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Congratulations!
Some people are twats! We have all girls and get the same comments about not having any boys.
Good luck with rest of your pregnancy.
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Congratulations! And I hate the gender assumptions too, especially “ooohhh, girls are so much fun to shop for…”. I always say I just wanted a child, don’t care about the sex. Also, if I was so interested in playing dress ups I would buy a doll.
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I must say it is more fun shopping for baby girls clothes than it was shopping for baby boys clothes, only because there is more to choose from. But that is not a reason to want a girl!
jd – congratulations on your baby boy. How thrilling. Only 20ish weeks to go
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Yeah, some people just don’t get it. I am the eldest of 4 girls and have two girls myself and it didn’t matter a whit to me what sex they were; healthy was far and away more important!
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What is it with gender stuff. We have two girls and then a boy (could you guess? ha ha) and we got sooooo many “Oh – thank God you’ve got your boy…”. WTF are my girls…chopped liver?
I get very frustrated when people scoff and the thought you just want a healthy happy child, gender is irrelevant.
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jd i like your attitude. i would love to have 3 beautiful boys!
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JD, forget them!
I have two boys and got this attitude when the second was born, as if we were meant to feel duped for having the same sex.
You ARE blessed. Boys rock! Good luck with your pregnancy.
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Congratulations, little boys are wonderful! I have two boys myself (and a girl as well), but I would have been just as happy with all boys. You are very lucky
I, too, hate it when people say “oh but girls are more fun to shop for!” – I heard the pregnant Jackie-O (from Kyle and Jackie-O) say it recently on the radio – she wants a girl, she’s made no secret of it – and that was her reason. If people are truly that shallow…hmmmmmm makes you wonder!
Anyhow..CONGRATS
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Yeah people are weird! I am always not sure what to say when people act like I hit the jackpot by having one of each – if anything, we would prob have chosen two girls!!! Not that we cared at all
If only people could sometimes keep their thoughts inside their heads hey? Ah well, they mean well, I’m sure …
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Congrats on another boy! I don’t have kids, but I don’t get the Oh, aren’t you disappointed thing either! I reckon boys are way easier and fun to shop for – don’t have to scour through the stupid skanky ho gear for boys clothes. I have 3 nephews and 2 nieces, and I can tell you easily who I prefer shopping for! And their Mums agree!
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Some people are idiots. My husband is one of three boys, and they’re great friends who played together for hours (and could share clothes). A happy, healthy family is all that matters, no matter what that’s made up of! Congratulations on another lovely boy on the way.
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My Mum is the little sister of two boys. They were shocking to her, but they adore each other. They convinced their little sister by their big brotherly persuasion that Mum’s pressure cooker is a good thing to put on your head! And used to have bunger (ie home made firecrackers) fights AT THE GIRLS as they walked home from school. And one of these ratbag boys is now an exec at Qantas! Boys rock. I am still a tomboy who gets on well witb boys but girls generally don’t like me. Their loss, and the boys will tell them (if they ever get the balls).
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Thanks so much everyone for your comments! Its made my weekend!! xoxo
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Oh I sooo relate, my three boys are beautiful. We had our third baby because we wanted another baby not because we wanted a girl. xxx Good luck
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Bests:
- Loving that my daughter is so excited about her first communion this Sunday. Its like a mini wedding!! The dress, the hair, the cake, the bomboniere! Absolutely hilarious but very exciting for 8 year old fashionista.
- Catching up with lovely friends at nice restaurant last weekend.
- Things all good with husband.
Worsts:
- A teacher at my children’s school, died this week, aged just 49. She’d been suffering cancer for the last year. Very sad.
- Reaction from some parents to the request from the principal that as the teachers would be going to the funeral could we please keep our children home until 12pm? Skeleton staff will be at school to look after those children whose parents are unable to keep them home, so no one is being disadvantaged or put out. A couple of parents I spoke to seemed to think this was an outrageous request. Not a nice reaction. These teachers have all worked together for many years and I think its perfectly natural that they would want to attend her funeral.
- Usual shit with my mother. I don’t think I’m imagining it, but whenever she speaks to me its as though there’s a bad smell under her nose. Now, as I don’t elicit that response from anyone else, it kind of pisses me off. All due to the fact that I don’t do all that she wants – provide her with a social life every day. Her bitchiness and martyrdom just make me back off even more.
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I so hear you re mother issues. Mine is soooo judgemental of me/my lifestyle & especially of my parenting. She was a pretty poor parent (still is, truth be told) so it especially stings when she is critical of my parenting. I don’t suppose your mum is a baby boomer? Mine is. I’ve been reading a bit about them lately & it’s a bit shocking when you relate baby boomer characteristics to their parenting/personal styles.
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Oh that is very sad news for the teacher from school. It is amazing how insensitive people can be about these kind of things, isn’t it? It reminds me of being on a train one day and an announcement came over saying there were massive delays because someone had jumped in front of a train up ahead on the line. The amount of bitching and whinging was unbelievable!
I hope your school’s community gets through OK.
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Best: holidaying in Queenstown! Omg, I absolutely love that place. So stunning! I had the best time.
Worst: stepmum has been in hospital to have cists removed, and worrying about her a lot especially as she’s interstate. This, combined with immense tiredness and post-holiday blues has led to crying at the drop of a hat (e.g. coming home to no dinner….lol. What a brat!)
OMM:
1. When’s my next holiday?!
2. The Election: so uninspired by all the major parties (although I got 75% Labor on the vote-a-matic). I think I need to look into the independents in my seat and what they stand for. But I live in an uber-safe Liberal seat so what’s the point anyway?!
3. TGIF!
4. I want to start losing my winter extra 3kgs now, but I also want to be able to eat whatever I want and not do any extra exercise. I wonder how I can make this work!
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Edit: just checked the candidates for the seat I’m enrolled in and there are only 3 – Libs, ALP, and Greens! Sigh…..
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what’s this vote-a-matic you speak of?
where can i do it? sounds interesting!
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http://www.theage.com.au/federal-election/vote-a-matic/index.html
I came across it courtesy of the MM community also!
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I’m with you on number 4!
If only….
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Omg I love queenstown!!! One of my fave cities! Been there 3 times
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Happy Friday, all you lovely MMers out there
WORST: Feeling like I’ll never start uni. Worrying about getting stuck in my job. It’s a great job for now…but it’s not what I want to do for the rest of my life. The plan was to start uni next year, and now it looks like it might be pushed back again. I feel like I’m never going to get there.
BEST: Last weekend, my beautiful boyfriend surprised me with a whole weekend to ourselves. We went out for lunch, drove around singing along with the stereo at the top of our lungs, spent Saturday night snuggling in bed together, he even took me on a “date” – we went putt putting
I could go on & on, love him so much. Oh, and he kisses me in his sleep. He is, in a word, delicious.
ON MY MIND: A friend’s birthday party tomorrow night. I have nothing to wear. First world problem, I know.
So I pose the question to all you lovely ladies, because I desperately need some help: What do you wear for a “smart casual” dress code, when you have a busted ankle & can’t wear heels, and your ankle brace rules out almost all of your flat shoes?
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Whatever the bloody hell you want I say! No one will care cause they will understand.
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Not sure how much your ankle brace gets in the way, but maybe a pair of flat boots?? With some tights and a cute dress and a pretty cardi? If you make your hair and make-up really fancy/pretty, sometimes the clothes don’t matter. I really like the bare eyes and bold lip look or even swap it and go for a smokey eye with a barely-there lip.
Sorry if this wasn’t much of a help!
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Hi There,
Have you looked into Open Uni (www.open.edu.au)? I’m doing my Bachelor of Arts by distance now. It’s a great way to get ahead with uni before the traditional aacedemic year starts.
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He kisses you in his sleep? Cute! My partner does all sorts of things in his sleep and can’t remember them the next day. Most recently I asked him to take his shirt off so I could naked-cuddle him, not realising he’d already fallen asleep. In the morning he couldn’t work out why his shirt was on the floor when he’d gone to sleep wearing it…
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I wore my usual smart casual clothes – pretty top and skirt etc and a single flat, decorative (read blinged) thong on my good foot.
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Whatever you want I reckon!! They will love that you made the effort to go, busted ankle and all!
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I just always ask others what they are wearing to something if it says smart casual. Luckily most things I go to are rugby related so they are pretty explicit with dress code stuff, eg jeans with a nice shirt for the boys, blah blah for the girls etc.
I have dodgy ankles too, so never wear heels ever. I wear boots a lot because they hold my ankles together. And I mean army style lace up ones, not pretty ones. No-one seems to mind, and if you have to wear your ankle brace, if anyone says anything, they’re an arsehole!
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Best #1: Waking up in the morning, looking at my partner of ten years asleep and thinking that I quite possibly have the best thing in the world lying next to me.
Best #2: Finally after a million years of looking in the mirror and seeing my teenage pimply skin, at the rip old age of 26, my skin is finally pimple free. Thank you Dr. Mullan!
Worst: Sad that my mum is no longer here to enjoy my happiness with.
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Who or what is Doctor Mullan and how did this fix come about?!
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Dr Mullan is my dermatologist, she is amazing and helped me understand all the advertised shit that claims to help your skin is rubbish and a waste of money. She put me on a high dose Vitamin A cream and a serum that has cleared my skin up (it took about 6 months).
I definitely recommend seeing a dermatologist for adult skin problems.
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That’s sad about your Mum, I miss mine too. At least we have someone else great in our lives to direct our love at now.
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Worst (sorry if I ramble):
Not getting into Law at uni for mid-year. I applied in late May and had been receiving positive emails from the admin manager for a few weeks. Then I heard nothing. For weeks I sat there, waiting for my phone to ring and checking the post every single day. I also emailed the uni regularly and called quite a few times (this was when I knew I should have had a response). SO! Last week I call the admin office to be told that “they are still looking through your application and will call you when they know”. Ok, fine. I wait another week. 3 emails (with no response) later, I call again to be told by a woman “Oh, you should have got a letter in mid-June. You weren’t successful”. After informing her that I did NOT receive a letter and have tried with no avail to contact the university, I received a mere “you can try again next semester”. After ending the phone call, I was ANGRY. Not because I wasn’t accepted, but because of how poor their customer service was. Funnily enough, when I got home that arvo, there was a letter in the post “YOU HAVE NOT BEEN SUCCESSFUL”, dated the day before. Well, DUH! They must have freaked when they saw my emails and sent it out. Gee, thanks a lot.
THE STORY ISN’T OVER…the next day, when I had calmed down a bit, I received an email saying, “Thank you for your enquiry.
We understand that you have are anxious for our reply. Please be patient and the response to your application will be sent to you via mail or email in the near future. We apologise for this delay”.
Let’s just say, I probably won’t be applying at that university again. Complete lack of communication and unacceptable customer service. Luckily, my boss was being updated throughout the whole ordeal and was very supportive when I told her what had happened.
Best:
My boyfriend lifting up my spirits when I was feeling like a bit of a failure.
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Ohh, I’m sorry. That’s awful.
But the worst part about reading that is you seem like the kind of student that needs to be studying law, as opposed to the brain dead, I’m-just-here-because-my-parents-are-paying-for-it halfwits that somehow ended up at university with me. I often wonder where all the students are that study it because they’re passionate about it and because they’re dedicated enough to do it.
Hang in there, it’ll be worth it in the end! And if that University isn’t the one, try another. It all ends up in the same thing, and theres something to be said for the magnificence of cross institutional learning! Keep trying.
I hope next week is better for you.
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Best: weighing in at my lowest EVER. After 8 years on/off the Weight Watchers wagon (pregnant with 3 babies in that time too) I am now only 5kg off my ideal weight. I am feeling really inspired to keep going. Bring on summer!
Worst: I watch my darling husband struggle to find motivation to lose weight. He is hovering around 120kg and full of every excuse why he can’t lose weight. He sees me losing and I think he thinks I’ve had it easy and it’s just dropped off me. It scares me that he is so unhealthy, he’s a heart attack waiting to happen. I hope he finds something to motivate him soon, before it affects his health.
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Congrats on your best!! I’m a Weight Watcher too and LOVE IT!!
I’m with you on the worst as well. My partner is the same and its such a worry but he isn’t in the right head space to work on his weight but it’s so frustrating and I don’t want to nag him.
Any advice MMer’s?
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I’m with you – I don’t want to nag him, but I don’t want to be a single mother either……
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i’m in a similar situation as you. 2 bubs in the past 2 years (16 months apart) and thru sheer motivation of healthy eating (well ok, just watching my calorie intake and TRYING to eat healthy foods….i love fizzy drinks!) and the need to exercise to help ward of PND, i am about 5kg from the weight i was before i ever fell pregnant.
my partner and i are also having our wedding on october 17, so i have been trying, for the better part of the last year, to encourage him to exercise. he works in real estate, co-owns an office, so is able to always say he is too busy. i even took to writing it in his work diary when group fitness classes were happening at the gym so as he could attend them! but nooo….that did no good either. i seriously don’t know what to do. fortunately, his weight is not at a stage where it affects his health in a big bad way. it does affect his health in that he gets sick easily, from not eating healthy and exercising. he knows this, yet doesn’t do a thing about it.
what do i say to him now? how do you encourage the person you love to be their best, to look their best, to do their best, when they say they want your help and then don’t take it?
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That is so cool! Its really kind of embarrassing as a chef to be overweight, but living on my own I really can’t be arsed cooking stuff that is good. Or cooking anything, really. Was thinking about Lite n Easy when I start working again and have the cash. I carry it OK but nearly died when I weighed myself at the doctors and I was over 90kg! I’m 172cm so its considered fairly overweight. Having said that, I would look VERY weird at my “ideal weight range” too. I went and saw a dietician a few years ago, and she said with my build, I would have to go extreme to reach my “ideal BMI weight”.
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best – mr nearly 3 waking me up by telling me “i love you mummy” while clambering on me. It’s the first time he’s said that unprompted. That almost makes worst #1 bearable
worst – said child deciding waking up raring to go before 5am is a good idea
worst #2 – very vivid and realistic dreams about my mum. I could actually see her holding and playing with my baby girl. I miss her. And dad.
Not earth shattering bests or worsts, hugs and best wishes to those with real problems this week.
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Best: After being told a few weeks ago that the black ballerina tutu skirt (for everyday wear) that I SOO badly wanted was sold out I went back to the store to discover the sample one, in my size and 50% off. So happy. Want to wear it every day.
Worst: My boyfriend discovered one of our closest male friends sending half naked photos of me from my boyfriends phone to his own phone. Very disturbed and very angry. I don’t think this is something I can forgive. What was he planning on doing with the photos once her had them? It disgusts me. It should be noted that he was also completely sober when he did it, if that makes a difference. To make matters worse he lives with one of my closest friends so I no longer want to visit her at her home and have already told her I that the bf and I won’t be attending their flatwarming anymore.
What would you do in my situation?
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I would be blowing up at said ‘friend’ and cutting him out completely until he can deliver a sincere and meaningful apology. Not. cool.
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Oh my gosh this is absolutely awful! What a disgusting horrid man. I think you need to try and delete the photos off his phone and then delete him from your life.
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Thankfully when my boyfriend grabbed the phone off him they were still pending. Have been promptly deleted from bf’s phone now though. Such a creep.
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best 1: starting a bookclub with a few girlfriends (we are a bit behind the times and are reading Eat Pray Love)after reading about MM online bookclub. we are planning on having a book club ‘excursion’ (lol) to the movies when it comes out… Hopefully Julia Roberts does it justice!
best 2: finally caught up with the rest of the world and started watching Dexter…. omg, what have I been missing! we havse just finished series 4 and are now are waiting (with every other Dexter fan!) for the series 5 to start on TV in the US….
worst: have been slightly emo this week, but am feeling better today. made myself a nice earl gray pot of tea and am at work doing my favouite thing… stats! bring on the weekend!
OMM: having stacks of tests at the mo to find out why the lack of pregnant-ness after trying for 18mths+…… is it me, or my hub, or both of us? in two weeks time we may (or may not) have a diagnosis….. am feeling ok tho… just a day by day thing.
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How good is Dexter!!
Can’t wait for Season 5….will be weird after the ending of Season 4 though…
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I know! Have you seen the sneeky preview of season 5 yet? it is the usual – very deceptive!
I only just found out that Michael C Hall had cancer and was working fiming over the period of him receiving treatment…. would have been hard, it is not the most light-hearted show ever!
and… whilst I seen that little bit online, it said that he and ‘deb morgan’ are married! that spun me out given the brother sister thing on the show…
sorry TMI maybe, I just love the show! Perhaps I should go and find a dexter discussion board! lol
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Best: Seeing Master 4′s delight as he goes off to preschool each week. I hope he finds the same joy when he starts school next year (although I worry constantly that he’ll hate it).
Worst: Migraine & not seeming to be able to find the time to contribute & comment on MM much lately. Definitely still here in spirit though, reading every day & thinking of everyone who’s doing it tough xo
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Glad to hear you’re still around.
Migraines are the worst, I get them too. Hang in there!
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Thank you Bookworm. You’re lovely x
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Sorry to hear about the migraine but nice to see you pop in. Hope things improve for next week xx
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Thank you Picardie.girl. You are also lovely. Great to read about your recent adventures. Sounds like it was a wonderful trip x
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Sorry about the migraine babe. They seem so awful. Hope you feel better soon
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I get them too. Horrible things.
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Best…. Having my partner tell me that whenever I want to start trying for babies he would be happy to. Cant wait for babies but I want to wait till we have our house first.
Worst (1).. Realising that my work’s major conference which I manage is only in a weeks time and I still have so much to do. Lots of overtime this week and also next to make sure everything is ready
Worst (2) .. Watching a TV show last night that brought back the painful memories when Dad died.
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Best: I started seeing a new counsellor on Saturday and she taught me a great calming, get yourself back into the moment technique.
Best: The Breathing for Vitality course I am doing has been really fun! Making new friends is great too. I’m not really normally the meditation type, but I am enjoying learning about this stuff.
Best: The Twitter Chocolate Wars featuring on the radio! Hilarious fun. Team #allchoc will not fail in our quest to end chocolate discrimination!
Best: More Twitter related fun: PT and Flotsam and I getting into a Sweet Valley High thing yesterday. We were enjoying it until we found out the deep, dark secrets of Sweet Valley and it’s inhabitants! Most shocking!
Best: This website set up by a YEAR 8 Civics class for the Election: http://aussiedemocrazy.wordpress.com/2010/07/15/starting-young/#comment-53
Worst: Zero money all week. As in ZERO. But I luckily had enough food to last me, and BEST: I didn’t smoke, and even better, didn’t feel the need to! I am smoking now I have money, and I’m not quite ready to quit, but I know it is doable. I think I need to do it when I HAVE money so I don’t just do it because I have no cash, and then go sweet! when I get money.
OMM: Found out about the impending loss of one of my favourite artworks last night. NOT HAPPY. http://www.smh.com.au/nsw/last-stand-for-newtowns-three-proud-people-20100726-10smr.html
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You are lovely. Just sayin’
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Aaawww fanks, Danya. You’re not bad yourself, for a lazy layabout.
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LOL I made it into someone’s best
And for those who care (and those who don’t) there is going to be a Sweet Valley MUSICAL!
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And we are ALL getting tickets for when it comes here! LOL!!!
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Anonymous was me, I’m on my new laptop and forgot to put my name in!
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What deep dark secrets of Sweet Valley???? OMIGOSH!! Tell me more!
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Check ouot the Wiki page on Sweet Valley, Shaezy. Someone dies of a cocaine overdose! :O Must be in the university series cos there was barely kissing in the High series!
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We were quite traumatised learning this. I said yesterday that the whole thing was more complicated that 28 or whatever it is years of Neighbours! Drug dealers, addicts… Frick, talked to Mum today and forgot to tell her about it!
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Just for something new, I’m adding to my Best and Worst!
Best: WEDDINGS PARTIES ANYTHING are reforming and touring Scorn of the Women in its ENTIRETY. I literally gasped when I saw the poster yesterday!
http://www.enmoretheatre.com.au/events/1970/01/01/weddings-parties-anything
Always a best: Jamie. Food Revolution makes me cry without fail. I am so determined to work with him it is crazy.
Worst: Michael Kroger on Lateline right now. What a complete arseknob.
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Twas a fun week on Twitter with you & more – no white chocolate is still not chocolate but I digress.
Great to read of health improvements in BESTS …. Then 0 money eeks!!
Any job news? Just askin’
Love your energy & enthusiasm mate
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Thanks, Den! I have been trying to see the lady who runs the caf down the street but she’s been in meetings every time I’ve been past! Think its a goer though. Mum was super excited when I told her about it today.
Re the #chocwars. I have noticed a distinct lack of Kylie, Kerri, etc on here. #ALLchoc is good choc. Peter Everett made a white choc and raspberry thing on the Circle today. I reckon the MasterChef dudes’d agree.
Oh PS poor Mum – asked me today – Are you coping with no MasterChef? I said “I’m emerging from the haze. So, this goes on when MC isn’t on????” LOL
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Best: I’ve been on holidays to noosa and now splendour in the grass
Worst: I just dropped my beer on the ground and it’s dead. Boo
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You’re worst made me giggle
You can always get another one!
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SO jealous!!
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Best 1: Spending last Sat with my man in our anniversary. Pretty low key day, we did the Coogee to Bondi walk and finished up at the Bavarian Bier Cafe for Goulash and Beer.
Best 2: Marque have offered us free dinner due to last Friday nights debacle. So it was a nice gesture from them after all (as there was almost tears!)
Best 3: My brother who lives in the UK is moving back! Very excited and happy!
Best 4: My mate who has OCD and more recently an Anxiety Disorder which was increasingly becoming Agoraphobia, FINALLY has gotten into see a psychiatrist. She originally couldn’t get in until November, but they managed to fit her in this week. I’ve been so worried about her and I hope that they can help her so she can start getting her life back on track.
Worst: Nothing really – been really tired but that’s my fault for not going to bed earlier!
OMM: The election BUT I’ve been feeling very informed about whats going on and thank you Mia for explaining a lot of it. My industry had a presentation about it last night which also was extremely interesting…I suspect I’m getting more involved that I planned as it’s all I talk about at the moment, but at least I’m interested I guess!
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Best – still loving being back at work after 4+ years off with babies.
Best – looking at getting another puppy on Sunday. Our dog needs a playmate.
Best – watching Mr 8 months rolling and almost getting the hang of army crawling… he’s getting around!
Worst – being so tired from work and having horrible nights with Mr 8 months wanting to feed all the time and Mr3 having nightmares. Does not make for a happy mummy.
attached, pic of new puppy!
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Oh I love your fur baby!!! Definitely get a playmate for the puppy!!
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Too cute!
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Thanks! MR3 has decided his name should be ‘boy’ or Optimus Prime. dont know about that though!
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PUPPY!!! Soooooo cute
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Worst:
My ex, who is still struggling with debt, took out a loan and bought a brand new $38 000 car. I’m cranky with him for being such an idiot, and hoping it’s not going to impact on my child support payments. And cranky that he can’t help out with Master 5′s school expenses, but he can get a new car? Sigh….
Bests:
Am starting to trust that my ex won’t cancel the boy’s visits on the weekend, and have been scheduling catch up with friends on Friday nights- it’s lovely to look forward to.
I’ve been seeing a counsellor for a few weeks now, I think it’s going well. I find it hard to just start talking, and wish I was being asked questions to start me off, but once I get started talking it’s ok. I just hope that the talking is going to lead to me feeling better about myself and life and stuff.
On my mind:
A complicated friendship. My close friend is on again off again with my ex. I alternate between feeling bad for her (she has the lowest self-esteem I’ve ever seen, and accepts emotional abuse from guys as the norm) and angry with her that she puts up with my ex’s crap. And then I get upset again if she tries to tell me about it, cos it brings up memories of my ex and how he treated me. So I’m trying to limit contact with her to once a week (she comes over at night and we watch a dvd/tv show) and if she tries to talk about my ex I change the subject. We’ll see how that goes…
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Wow, that really is a complicated friendship. I think your friend needs to have some boundaries!
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Goodness Bookworm, your “worst” is a worry. Here’s to hoping it doesn’t affect your children & your CS payments. I would be upset too though, especially about his not contributing to school expenses.
As for your friend, I think it’s all credit to you that you can even maintain/sustain a friendship with someone who is involved with your ex. I can only imagine how awkward it must get at times. It may get to the point where you need to point this out & although it would be a difficult conversation, it would probably be of benefit to you both (& your friendship)in the long run. Hope that makes sense. Good luck with it all.
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On my mind / Worst:
I’m in a bit of a state about going back to work next week after nearly 10 months of maternity leave. I think work itself will be fine, and I know I need to go for a variety of reasons, but the though of it is breaking my heart. My poor little man is hating childcare so far (I have tried to start him early to ease him in, but he has missed a few days already because of being sick, so really hasn’t had a chance to settle in). And the comments on the PPL post about the perils of childcare / working Mums, and how I won’t be a “proper parent” have not helped. I know they are opinions (which the commenters have every right to express) and I would normally let it slide, but I’m particularly sensitive at the moment, and taking it personally.
Worst:
Because of this misery, I’m having trouble enjoying our last full-time days together. I need to try though.
Best:
Just had a few days away with bubba and his Daddy, which was just lovely.
Hugs to all xx
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I’m going to give you a child care/not child care example and I hope it makes you feel better.
My niece has been in child care since she was 6 months old. She is the most fun, social and happy little girl I have ever seen.
My brother and his wife have a friend who had a baby at the same time as Autumn was born, and they had decided not to put their child in care. This kid couldn’t socialize, didn’t cope with being around people that aren’t his parents, and was generally a little brat. After the kid turned 14 mths, they thought they would give childcare a go. Apparently it was a struggle at first, but now he is a completely different kid.
IMHO, sending a kid to childcare is a good start to the kids life. You need to get them socialized.
You are a proper parent KJ, don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.
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Thank you!!!
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Damn straight ! You have to do what is right for your family.
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Hey KJ,
As a mum who has been there let me just say that it will all work out just fine. I know it doesn’t feel like it right now but it will be.
Ignore those people who tell you that working mums are not “proper parents” – I think they’re just desperate to feel superior and that’s all they’ve got to cling to. I was a “proper parent” when I was at home with my kid and I am still a “proper parent” now that I’m back at work. Same goes for my mum (and my dad for that matter).
In my situation I honestly believe that I’m actually a better parent for having to balance work and home. And my kid loves her childcare and gets a lot of value out of the interaction with other kids and all the activities they do.
All will be good, I promise.
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Thank you, Zoe.
It is so lovely to read these reassuring words!
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Hey Zoe2,
i totally agree with you!
I think I am a much happier and content mum from having gone back to work.
sure the transition was hard but my 20 month old LOVES care now and i struggle to get a kiss and cuddle goodbye when i drop her off these days!
kJ i am sure he will settle in and make lovely little friends and be much happier soon, just lots of cuddles and kisses until then (to reassure you as much as him!)
enjoy your last few days before entering the world of work again!
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i agree with cupcake, the fact that you care how your little one feels etc, shows a real parent who is only trying to do what’s best.
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Of all of my 3 children, the youngest was the only one to go to childcare fulltime. He is social, articulate, smart & sensitive. Ignore the negative comments,”proper parents” provide safe, loving environments for their kids and thats exactly what your doing. You have simply found a safe loving environment outside your home.
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I have only been back at work a month or so after putting our 18 month old in child care. Yes it hurts, yes it is hard, but he will get used to it – Miss C is starting to now. You are a proper parent by doing what you need to do. Good luck.
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Hi KJ,
both my girls were very happy in childcare. Once he has been a few times, try to sneak in when you pick him up and you will see him playing happily with all the other kids.
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Thank you all so much, you lovely, lovely people!
You’ve made me feel much better
xx
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The getting sick thing is probably related to being around a whole lot of different people with new and exciting germs. Being at childcare really toughens up their immune systems.
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Best 1: Remembering all the steps at my zumba class this week and being able to get a better work out. (The teacher says they’re changing next week though lol!)
Best 2: Starting a new term of Italian and after absolutely no study on the break, not being as bad as I thought I would be. Such a relief!
Best 3: Seeing the film Inception. I can’t rave enough about it. I haven’t seen a movie so good in a long long long time!
Worst: Losing my watch while seeing Inception and having no one hand it in
On My mind: Needing a de-humidifier for my apartment. The bathroom fogs up and remains wet all day, our clothes don’t dry and I’m worried about getting sick from mould! I’d have to clean everyday to keep it under control!
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I feel the same way about inception, I can’t shut up about how good it is !!!
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Loved, loved, loved Inception.
Re the bathroom – I had this problem at a previous house and bought myself a heated towel rail (standalone, not wall mounted). Best mother’s day gift ever! Still using it about 12 years later, still love my warm, dry towel every morning. Having it in the bathroom not only dried the towels we hung on it, but seemed to dry out the whole atmosphere (plus gave more space for the other towels to spread out).
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Best: That’s right, I’m gonna go there all…sorry again…just as my breakup was a worst for a very long time, I think the new boy is gonna be a best for a very long time
Worst: A very big setback in surgery means I have had to re-get a fairly painful series of surgeries I have already had that leave me looking very unattractive
had the first one yesterday. But, on the plus side, boy has been amazing through all this. He is a keeper.
EQUAL BEST & WORST: offered my dream job. dream. job. cannot take it because of uni, and unable to be available in 3 days time (required). SO BITTERSWEET!
love to yall. xx
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No best or worst for me this week, but on my mind – is it just me, or does anyone else really hate that new Fernwood ad on tv???? It’s driving me nuts. Parts of it look like scenes from Underbelly…..
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Here’s another F word for that ad – FAIL!
Yep, it sucks!
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LOL! Yeah, it caught my attention, but then I just went, wow, thats really shit.
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BEST: Still happily unemployed. Have lots of little projects around the house planned. All those things I have said for years I would get done…will now be finally done =) Also using this as an opportunity to hit gym and healthy lifestyle hard!! Bring on the pain!
WORST: Don’t think I want to go back to what I’ve done for the last 10 years. I live in a small town so there aren’t too many options as far as work is concerned. My mum thinks I just need to have a few more weeks off to forget the toxicness that was my previous job? All I can think about is babies!!
OMM: Canada and USA in Winter. We’re planning on a white xmas and am starting to feel overwhelmed with all of the things there is to be done. Does anyone has any suggestions? Who would you fly with? What would you see/not see?
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Delta isn’t the best. But no matter what airline you fly with, be prepared for some serious delays. I just came back from the US and every flight I took was delayed.
I thought Seattle rocked — but you may not agree. I loved the fresh air, the market, how forward-thinking it is, the friendliness… the scenery. Washington State is beautiful. Think Twilight scenery — damp, woodsy and gorgeous.
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I had my white christmas in Europe last year. I’m super jealous of anyone who has a white christmas now. It was the highlight of my short little life so far
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Queeny…I’d highly recommend a stay at Whiteface Lodge at Lake Placid in Upstate New York. It’s a 5 star “rustic luxe” resort with a homely (but grand) American wood cabin feel to it complete with massive stone fireplaces, antler chandeliers, its own ice rink and outdoor hot tubs with views over the mountains which would perfect for hiking in the snow. Just gorgeous! and Canada is not too far away from there. Plus I’ve heard NYC in Winter is amazing (I went there in Summer). I flew with Qantas to LA then NY and they were great.
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Hi Queeny, I was in the US in November last year. Flew Qantas there & back and American Airlines while in the US. No problems with either, but get to airports early as security & check in can take forever. You can’t go past New York City, it’s the best! Sat on the bus tour when it was -8 deg Cel & the sun was shining! Have a great trip.
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Thanks everyone for the advise! I’ve written it all down so I don’t forget. MelC I’ve checked out that lodge and it looks amazing. Just need to get the boy to sit still for long enough to start narrowing things down! Thanks again! xoxo
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Best: Only five weeks till America, I am getting so excited! Also, a great performance review and my boyfriend, who is delicious. He does this thing where he lightly rubs my neck before I go to sleep, it is DIVINE.
Worst: Why is it that the more you need your tax return, the longer it takes to turn up? Need to pay my insurance STAT ATO, so hurry up!
Love and hugs to those with much more serious worsts.
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A few little Best surprisingly.
BEST 1 – Seeing Neyo. God I am in love. haha! He is such a great performer and singer. Oh and a ladies man. Swooooonnnss
BEST 2 – One of the boys at work flirting with me. innocent but its always fun to be flattered
BEST 3 – Speaking to the boy who broke my heart. Its hard to hate him, but we just caught up, chatting online. It was nice and playful like we were before. I miss him a lot but I’m trying to not look into it too much.
WORST – Work, well not always. Only when my boss gives me a stupid task with an impossible deadline. Oh and the part time lady who drives me insane. Argh.
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Stay strong Lee! Don’t look into it too much, it’s a slippery slope xx
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Worst : We moved house and there was a monumental stuff up with the removalists which resulted in them having to pack and move our entire house in one day. Totally their fault which they have admitted but it was not the low stress move we were hoping (and paying) for.
Worst 2 : The hot water system in our new house gave us two days of service and then promptly carked it. Cue emergency calls to plumbers, more stress and more money.
Worst 3 : Bought a new sink for our kitchen which we will hopefully be renovating sometime soon. It doesn’t fit and will have to be returned.
Worst 4 : My grandparents health rapidly declining and a bit of family fighting over the best course of action for them in regards to home help, retirement village or nursing home. Seeing my Nan trying to please everyone, not be a burden and being unable to actually make a decision on behalf of herself and my Pop (who is not capable of making decisions any longer) is tough.
Best : Despite all the stress and stuff ups we are in a new house and loving it. Also, the kids have settled in really well which is a bonus and they love the house too.
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Best: Catching up with some friends from school yesterday! Yummy lunch, shopping, trying on crazy nail polish – it was great! and made me feel a whole lot better compared to the untter ugliness i was last week.
Worst: the utter ugliness i’m getting from my ex (almost 12 months since we broke up!) seriously, i wish he ould just grow up & move on already!
Hardest (but best): applying for admission to south pacific private hospital for residential treatment in january. it’s time to deal with the shitfucktruck that’s been following me around for years!
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Worst: An update from my worst last week: I listened to the advice of the amazing Mamamia ladies who came to my aid and finally broke it off, for good, with my on and off best friend turned boyfriend turned friend turned friend with benefits turned friend again. I just wanted him to turned around and beg me to stay and beg for forgiveness or whatever it would take to make things go back to the way they were – but he didn’t. He just told me to go, in fact he told me to completely block me out of his life. I know he’s not in a good place mentally, and I’ve been waking up in the middle of the night in absolute panic that he might do something stupid to himself. He told me he just needed to sort it out himself, but it doesn’t help my mind stop creating the ‘what if’ scenarios. If anything happened to him, it would kill me. So, in all, it hasn’t been a very fun week, but I’ll get there.
Best: My netball girls who I coach never fail to make me laugh, my new uni friends are so much fun and so intelligent and I love spending time with them. These two things are keeping me going.
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Cupcake hugs Amy
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I find it is actually for the best if you take some time a bit. Like complete cut-off. its hard but you’ll get there. I’m still thinking about him but I know that we were too complicated.
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Yeh that’s what I keep telling myself, we were too complicated. Its just hard cutting out someone who’s been such a big feature of my life.
Thanks guys
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these first few weeks are the hardest, but you will be thankful for them because you will be so much stronger in the long term as a result.keep enjoying your uni mates and netball. stay strong
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best – husband has made some huge progress with his weight loss (has lost 16kg) and getting his cholestorol down. I am so proud as it’s great to see him really happy and smile and enjoy himself and his body. (his poor mum is a great cook but is so disapointed that he is turning down her old recipes and preferring my healthy choices!! yay tick)
worst – was really looking forward to some mum and sister time, mum is now sick, as is my sisters kids so no one is venturing out to see me and my frizzly teething son today, so it’s after 9 and I’m still in my PJ’s wondering how to spend my day….
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really happy with my friendships at the moment and the direction my book club and playgroup are heading. just got “the Notary” and it looks like a great read!!
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BEST
Enjoying my relationship without being bogged down by underlying tension, over-analysis, worries for the future etc. Our marriage feels easy for the first time in ages. YAY! It feels like sunshine is finally starting to filter through the dark clouds.
Have started making roast dinners most weekends and it has started to become a tradition, which I love. This week was roast pork with crackling; had never made it before but it was a huge success (though I couldn’t bring myself to eat the crackling – pure fat doesn’t do it for me)!
WORST
Bored at work. Have had too many days in the office rather than in court and I start to get ansy. I know it’ll be madness again before I know it, but I find it so hard to get motivated when there’s no sense of urgency!
The amount I’ve been eating because I’m bored at work! Need distractions other than food. Stat.
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Hey TPP – If you’re making roasts, you MUST try bread and dripping. You know the stuff your grandparents told you they ate when they were kids in the old days? It sounds feral, but it is SO SO SO GOOD! Just dip a bit of bread in the pan juices before you make the gravy and eat it. Om nom nom nom nom!
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I use grape seed oil for roast pork….it makes the best crackling ever !
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Glad to hear your happy home news TPP. I don’t know if you’ve been back to it, but your reply to Anonymous on the ‘He said ‘I don’t love you’ post really resonated with me and I wrote a long response. I noticed you had not mentioned where you were at currently, so I’m really pleased to stumble across this. Great going. My best oxo
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WORST: having sad dreams and missing my dad a lot. on a more shallow level: moving. i hate packing and moving. yuck yuck yuck. and on top of that, feeling sick and exhausted. gosh i am a downer this week.
BEST: sometimes it’s hard to think of bests, isn’t it? how about… catching up with friends who you haven’t seen for a while? yeah i like that one!
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Moving isn’t an easy thing! It’s not shallow to not look forward to it, it’s natural.
And big hugs to you. Losing a dad is hard.
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thanks for your kind words EC.
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Big hugs to you LC. I lost my Dad 18months ago. Last night I was watching season one of Grey’s Anotomy and it was the episode where the patient died of pancreatic cancer….I lost it. (Dad died of Breast Cancer and Pancreatic Cancer) Thankfully my partner justs comes and lays down with me, gives me the biggest hug and just holds me while I cry
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oh Dea, that is so sad. my dad had pancreatic cancer too. it is such an insidious type of cancer. and i feel like the sadness of losing him is only really sinking in now (six weeks later).
thanks for your comment, it does help to know that i’m not alone in this.
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Your welcome LC. All my thoughts go to you as you deal with the enormous loss.
P.s Here is a pic of my Dad
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Hugs to you LC, my worst was similar this week, maybe something is in the air?
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BEST: Having my mum here for a few days. My girls loved having her here and thrived with a bit of grandparent time.
WORST: My elder daughter had meltdowns two nights in a row, which is unusual as she is usually very even-tempered. We had a cuddle and chat on the floor of her bedroom and her true feelings came out – “Can we not go to Singapore, and then dad can come home today?” (My husband is working in Germany for 4 months setting up the role that he will take on in Sing) My heart shattered. I texted my husband and he called and had a 15 minute chat to her last night, and then 40 minutes on Skype this morning. It was just general dad/daughter chit chat but I think it’s exactly what she needed and they have made a regular ‘date’ to chat. This parenting thing is hard, isn’t it?
WORST 2: Having some nastiness flung my way on an internet forum I have chatted on for years. (Not connected in any way to Mamamia) It’s a place I love, and have learnt a lot from the people there so it hurt a lot. I didn’t respond to the narkiness and it has all come good but it left a bad taste in my mouth.
Coming up this week the Little Missy turns 4, so we have all the birthday stuff. Gosh kids birthdays go for a looonnngggg time, don’t they?
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Hugs Flotsam. So cute your daughter has Skype daddy dates. That put a smile on my dial.
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yep – parenting gig is the hardest job in the world. well done on sitting with her though and finding out what the matter was – and ten points to Daddy for calling and making a regular time to speak to her. That’s the kind of Daddy I love to see.
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Daddy dates are very awesome. You are doing a great job AND being an awesome friend in the bargain xxx
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Thank you everyone. We had another meltdown this evening, prompted by the very end of the Wizard of Oz where Dorothy says goodbye to the Tinman, the lion and the scarecrow. Both girls started! Lordy! hugs all round and they are now asleep. My husband is an amazing man, and an incredible dad and I know he is struggling himself, stuck on the other side of the world and hearing his little girls cry for him can’t be easy. But we will get there. Oh yes we will!
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You will, Flotsam, you so will. So much care and love from their wonderful parents – they can’t go wrong!
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What a great dad (and mum!). If it makes you feel any better, my middle child told her teacher she was sick at 10am Monday, so I went & picked her up. i knew she wasn’t sick. On & off all day she’d have little heart breaking (& in the end irritating I’m ashamed to say) sobs. like real racking ones & wouldn’t tell me why. She eventually did, right before I got the other kids, at 2.50pm. Evidently, she doesn’t think her dad & I like listening to her play the violin as much as we like listening to her brother play the piano. What the??? Things affect them sometimes, and they can come from no-where.
Thinking of you, you’ll all be together soon xx
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Best: Bought cheap flights for our holiday to Japan next year. Can’t back out now!
Worst: Tottered off to TAFE class one evening, to come home (after making two supermarket stops, and two dinner stops on the way home) to discover my house was a pig pen. Despite prepping most of the afternoon to make it easier for my husband, he had left clothes, nappies, dishes, crumbs, all over the house. Which meant I had to do a forensic search before I could put on washing or do the dishes the next day (when I walked in the door I just went to bed, I was tired and crabby). Did I mention no school lunches made or teeth brushed also?
So the next day I spent literally all day cleaning (okay, I will admit it wasn’t all his fault) and at the end decided to switch to external study (because this mess happens all the time when I go to classes). Husband commented I should go for the social outlet – hey, maybe if every time I left the house you picked up after yourself I would go out more!
that rant felt good. Thank you MamaMia best and worst!
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Japan! yay! i went a couple of years ago and looooooved it so much.
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I used to live in Japan, let me know if you want a few tips or anything
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Don’t forget your Japan Railpass!
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Ah, Laws for Clouds, your worst resonated with me. On the rare occasions when I’m out at night and leave Mr Matty to hold the fort with kids, a similar scenario greets me when I get home. Its as though the sheer incredible superhuman effort of him actually being home and dishing up whatever I’ve left all of them for dinner then renders him incapable of putting so much as a fork in the dishwasher, never mind actually cleaning up/getting kids showered/in their pyjamas, or god forbid, any homework done! He’s a fabulous dad, but definitely the fun dad. Doesn’t put me off the odd night out though, because otherwise I definitely would go mad.
As you may have gathered, I enjoyed your rant!!
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Best: Tax return! Yay.
Worst: Tax return to be spent on bills, bills and more bills.
OMM: Ricki Lee Coulter is the latest celebrity to appear on the cover of Who magazie after losing weight. Wasn’t it only a few months ago she was on it “loving her curvy body”?? Come on Who, this whole celebrity body obsession is getting really old. Won’t be buying your magazine.
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I saw a quick pic on the tv of Ricki Lee. She looked too thin.
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I agree that there’s too much focus at Who on weight stories. I think the last 4 issues in a row have either been weight loss/best body or glamour stories. I DO NOT want my 8 year old daughter seeing that crap. In fact, it makes me feel really bad about myself. I think I too will be boycotting that magazine.
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best: reading everyones comments on the blogs
best 2: ive got the weekend off
worst 1: ex husband completely rewriting history and upsetting my daughter with a whole heap of lies and guilt…he made teh choice not to have any contact with her for years and even now only bothers with maybe a monthly phone call and twice yearly visits….but somehow that’s my fault?
worst 2: feeling really down in the dumps and crying at the drop of a hat
worst 3: having an elderly customer call back and speak to a guy half my age just to confirm that the ‘young lassie’ knew what she was doing and hadn’t made any mistakes…
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When I was a bank teller, we had elderly women customers who would only deal with male staff because they didn’t trust the girls to do their banking right!
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ugh, the young lassie comment is vile. some people are such morons,
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Oh Anna, that sounds like quite a crappy week. I hope you have a better one next week!
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I used to sell financial products, and customers would regularly ask for my male colleague, and would stand around waiting for 20 mins for him to be available while I was free. The funny thing is, he was new, and he often had to ask me for the answer to their questions anyway!
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Best 1: Getting to know my new little AJ. He mostly sleeps and eats at the moment, but I get to look at his stunning little face every day and I’m in love.
Worst 1: LittleDude is very sad and clingy every time I take him up to daycare. I know that he has a great time once he’s there, but I hate leaving him in tears twice a week.
Worst 2: Having a few very restless nights. Most nights AJ is up about every 3 hours, but there were a couple where he was up all night.
Best 2: Figuring out what’s causing the wakefullness – a very gassy tummy! Have started using Brauer’s Colic Relief at every feed, and it’s making a massive difference. Now only slightly sleep-deprived instead of bordering-insane.
Funniest: Dealing with a poo-splosion at 3.30 the other morning. Of course, it happened just after I had taken the nappy OFF didn’t it! Cue major running around finding new clothes, blankets and nappies for AJ.
Hey, if I don’t laugh, I’ll cry.
OMM: That, despite any fears to the contrary, somehow I manage to love LittleDude even more now that his brother is here.
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Worst: We have been waiting 9 friggin weeks for our stuff to arrive from Perth to NZ!!!!! We keep getting excuse after excuse and of course its never anyones fault! It should be here by 3pm today but who knows if it will even turn up! We even used a major international removals company and they still cant provide the customer service or service they said. NOT HAPPY!
Best: Going for a night away with just the husband this weekend for my birthday (kids staying with Nana),….Im going to try and not get too frustrated with the move and think too much about the boxes and stuff at home.
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When i moved to NZ it took forever to get inquiries answered, and it turned out that the mover from Australia (Ive forgotten the name) actually used a different mover at the other end (Allied Pickfords, which was funny because when we got a quote they were too expensive).
Long story short, the mover you used in Australia might be an agent for NZ, maybe ask and check? Then you can ring the NZ one direct.
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Yes, that is a good point, LFC. In defence force moves, your stuff can go through 3 or 4 providers! It is painful.
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We have used Grace and thought that by using them would actually get the better service and paid that bit more so we were only dealing with the one company,,,,
Its just the fact that its such a stressfull time with a big move like this and they just dont seem to try and make it run smoothly for you by giving you the service you paid for.
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Big Best: Getting started on my honours research project this week. I am working off-campus in an industry lab and found myself surrounded by AWESOME people – and I even have some results already (am not quite sure what they mean yet, but lets not dewll on that!). I think this will be a great semester!
Another Best: Seeing photos of my cousin’s beautiful new baby girl. She came a little early and VERY quickly but mum and baby are happy and healthy!
Little Best: Walking from the station to the lab yesterday in the beautiful winter sunshine.
Worst: Nothing too bad this week – although I am a little nervous about an appointment with my specialist next week to decide whether to continue my experimental treatment.
On my mind: Chemcial structures and reaction … oh, the exciting life of a research student!
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Best- Getting my tax return back and buying myself a new scrapboking tool which I have been eyeing off forever.
Worst- Seeing a ghost from the past at my sons school the other morning. Turns out that she is a student teacher there for a couple of weeks. We really dont like each other and to make it worse, I am pretty sure she is helping out in his class today. Just not feeling happy about this situation at all.
On my mind- Thinking about texting a really good friend which I had a falling out with just recently. Seeing that “ghost fromt the past” who I mentioned before, has made me realise who my true friends are and that I want to try and make things better with this friend.
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You are a scrapbooker??? Me too!! I’m an addict, and I need help, but I love it so much! What are you working on at the moment? What was the tool you bought?
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I bought a cuttlebug! It embosses and die cuts and I found a US website that had the most amazing disney dies for like $5 as opposed to the $30 they want for them in AUS. I am working on my sons album at the moment but havent really had the extra cash to buy supplies. Up until the tax office gave me my return back!
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Have you seen the cricut?? It’s awesome
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I have seen it. It looks so good. On my wish list! The cuttlebug was a little more affordable so I thought I would start small and aim high!
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I love scrapbooking too, but finding it hard to do on my own- my intro to scrap world was through doing it with friends so it’s become a social thing for me. Have fun with your new toy!
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Best: discovering ABC Jazz & Dig on one of my TV channels which we’ve had for over 6 months…love, love, LOVE the tunes. Celebrated with TV free week and listening to said stations whilst playing cards, drinking wine and laughing/realllly feeling the love with my man. Bliss…
Best too: This morning’s fog whilst driving to work and my tinted windows made me feel free’er to groove to my Latin CD whilst pretending to do the cha-cha. (steering wheel was my partner) I laughed at myself at how ridiculous I probably looked…but at least I wasn’t holding up traffic whilst doing my make up!
Hugs to those needing it x
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Best 1: new TV cabinet in lounge $15 off ebay. Been looking for a few months, got the perfect thing. Yay me!
Worst 1: losing a whole day when Hubby didn’t take a trailer (!!!) to pick it up. He had to dismantle it & it took a whole day to put back together. Also, not being able to seriously chew him out because of his depression.
Worst 2: now he’s away for the weekend at a work conference. I know it’s not for long, but it’s a first for us & I’m feeling sooky.
Worst 3: not having the few hundred dollars that would mean I could go with him, and attend the conference. (it would be awesome)
Worst 4: Having biiig fight last night before he left. With his depression he totally blew everything I said out of proportion & got all upset. He couldn’t even listen to me properly. It’s frustrating because I can’t get my point across, and also because it shows me how much more sick he is now than a couple years ago. He used to be able to cope with this. *sigh* We ended up ‘taking a break’ from the fight, and never really resolved it. So I feel a bit weird but don’t want to bring it up because I want him to enjoy his weekend.
Worst 5: I start teaching rounds on Tuesday & I’m really really anxious. Two years ago when I attempted the same thing I basically had an anxiety meltdown & had to pull out. I don’t want that to happen again! I know I’ve grown & changed so much that it won’t, I’m just anxious. And now I get to prepare this weekend all by myself. *sigh* Can’t wait for my first day to be over!
On My Mind: Beautiful PNG pics (when did you go Mia?! I didn’t notice you missing!) Those in the developing world have things soooo much worse than we do here. Makes all my worsts seem a trifle insignificant. At least I have access to food, clean water & tertiary education!
Love to all xoxo
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Good luck with the teaching rounds. It’s always good to get the first day over, hey.
I hate it when the Black Dog comes to visit at our house. Hubby’s been on medication for depression since his heart attack 10 years ago. Some days are good, but some are not. Right now, it’s not. Fingers crossed your hubby will get back on track soon! xxx
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Best: going ice skating with my boyfriend at bondi beach. He’s never been before and it was hilarious to watch. He almost fell in front of a group of people watching and everytime we went past them they cheered him on! Then spooning
worst: My friend asked me for some advice, I gave it to her incredibly nicely and she responds by saying: ‘thanks for being so blunt about my situation’. I wasn’t being blunt, I was so nice about it and it was only common sense! This isn’t a terrible worst but just another thing this girl has said that makes me feel awful. I just can’t seem to get good girlfriends, and I just feel it is all my fault.
on my mind: I’m lucky to have such a great family and boyfriend.
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Leni, I completely understand. All my life I’ve always managed to put girlfriends offside. I’ve always got along great with boys. Recently, it’s all changed. The girls I’m friendly with now are just lovely and I realised … it wasn’t me at all, it was just the girls I thought were my ‘friends’!
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Worst: Last week my daughter had a staph infection, this week fifth disease, dear me….
Best: Enjoying the summer with my kids. My daughter starts pre-school in September, so I’m relishing all this time with my babies before she heads off with her backpack…
On my mind: Our move, I think I’m organised. I am ready physically, but maybe not emotionally.
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Best: Have decided to throw a big 40th birthday party for myself. Really enjoying planning it. Having a 70′s glam theme in our 70′s pad. Feel free to suggest some 70′s finger food!
Best 2: With impending birthday looming I have kicked myself into gear and have started running every morning. I feel great for it. Mia something you said about exercise the other day stuck with me. I have to do it early or I will spend all day talking myself out of it. So thanks, it’s working.
No worst for me this week. Have a lovely weekend everyone. x
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you gotta have some of those toothpick things with a gherkin, some polony and cheese in cubes!
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All sticking out of a pineapple?
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And some prunes wrapped in bacon. Who the hell thought of that to start with, anyway?
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potato gems wrapped in bacon!
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Devon with mashed potato in it.
Cabanossi an pineapple sticks.
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Don’t forget to include cocktail onions with the cheese/cabanossi/gherkin
Vol au vents
Meatballs on toothpicks
Fondue
French onion dip
Punch
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mmmmm punch….love it
Is that sad?
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Nothing wrong with liking punch. I was nearly going to suggest that awful Tang drink – now if you liked that, it would be sad.
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*boarding school flashback*
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See if you can find the Supersizers from last week – they lived 70s style for a week, and did all the dodgy 70s party food! Hilarious!
Oooh, see if you can get a fondue set!
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Love, Love, Love Supersizers!!!
Hubby and I sit there and laugh the whole way through!!
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Awesome suggestions! Thanks people.
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Everyone will have to bring a bottle of Mateus.
I love the 70′s
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Worst: Many consecutive asthma attacks and much ventolin.
Worst #2: Failing a practiacl assessment, when I know in my heart that I know how to do it.
Best: I’m going on prac in an oncology ward v. soon!
Best #2: Realising that I’m over halfway to graduation.
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BEST: It’s Friday. I’m spending the weekend with my SIL and my niece. She’s so cute.
BEST 2: Random visit on Tuesday from a close friend and her sister. She also brought me my own slab of Oreo Cookie delight. Yummo. My cat Missy put on such a show for them, it was hysterical.
WORST: You all know what’s been happening, won’t go over it again. I feel so self absorbed everytime I mention it, so I’m going to focus on others.
ON MY MIND: Someone who I’ve know since I was 16
PHOTO: Missy the cat
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Was thinking of you this week – hope you’re ok! Love that you’re looking for the good in life, though you are COMPLETELY justified in having a bit of a wallow!
xoxoox
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I was thinking of you also, and really admire your stregth. xoxo.
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Ditto. Much love xx
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Aww, Missy is lovely
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Have been thinking of you this week, EC. (Yanno, I just can’t bring myself to think of any cupcake as evil…) x
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Hugs to you E.C, thinking of you xx
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A bit of self-absorption is just necessary sometimes. Hugs to you EC
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You’ve been in my thoughts all week too EC. Keep those treats coming I say! Take care x
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Evil Cupcake, I want to give you a vitual slab of the darkest richest choccy mud cake the size and depth of a beer carton. Cupcakes are just too little this time.
Love to you x
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PUSSY CAT!! Adorable
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Worst no. 1. My sister who suffers from very bad depression decided to stop taking her pills and ended up in hospital on Tuesday night after deciding to take 55 panadol. I am so angry at her yet so sad for her.
Best- I have a loving and supportive family who are so tightly knitted that together we will face this with her and she will not be alone.
Worst No. 2. Hearing my Mum’s voice when she told me. Made me so so sad for her.
Worst. No. 3 Not being able to be at home with the family as I am working like crazy at the moment.
Best no. 2- Put everything into perspective and need to be with my family more.
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All the best with your sister Anon. *hugs* Much love to your family xo
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I am so sorry about your sister. I have been there with my brother, and I know how heartbreaking it is. Having you and your family around does will make such a difference to her. Wishing you all the best..
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WORST: Being treated like crap by 2 abusive dads in front of several parents. Because I didn’t have all the info in front of me, they convinced me that I had made several serious mistakes. Felt so stupid!! Next day I went back to check on my mistakes only to find that I hadn’t made ANY and that I’d recorded EXACTLY what the parents had requested. Felt stupid for feeling stupid.
Thing is…even if I had made a mistake…there was no reason to humiliate me.
BEST: Support came from an unlikely source…makes me appreciate the blessings friend can bring.
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I can’t think of a worst right now… because yesterday I found out that I’m definitely pregnant!! I had an early miscarriage a little while ago (and you were all really supportive and encouraging – thank YOU!), and we weren’t really trying this time around… and now I’m so excited!
Why is keeping my own secret so much harder than keeping other peoples?!
Only 32 weeks to go!
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Congratulations! thats wonderful news!! xx
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Congratulations on your new little blessing! xx
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Yay! congrats!
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Congratulations!! So happy for you :’)
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Hooray!
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Congratulations!
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So gorgeous!
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That was meant to be in reply to Anna Sparkle’s ultrasound pic…
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Best: After last week’s CMV infection scare, my blood test results came back as CMV NOT DETECTED!!!!!! So that is one less thing to worry about. My first equivocal test a mistake, lab error etc. I can breathe easy…for a little while anyway!
After all that hoopla, I am now 9 weeks already…not THAT far along, I know, but for me, each week is an accomplishment. And Week 6 always seems a year long to me!
Worst: No specific worst, just constant niggling anxiety about this pregnancy, worrying about the next curve ball that I’ll be thrown. Missing Sybella, as always.
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That’s great news Steph.
Unfortunately, all I can say about your worst is: welcome to pregnancy after a loss. I’ve had tons of people telling me not to be anxious, to stay positive etc etc etc. But the ONLY thing that has started to ease the niggling anxiety is that as I get a little further along (22 weeks now) I’m feeling the baby move more and the movements feel normal. Kat’s never felt quite right. Even so, every little thing that crops up along the way freaks me out and even though I’ve had 2 other healthy babies I still find it difficult to connect being pregnant with a baby in someone’s arms. It’s a long, long road. Just know that you’ll have lots of support. xx
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Steph – I can only echo what Jenni says. Pregnancy after loss is long and difficult. And people will tell you not to stress because it’s bad for the baby – as if it’s just that easy to turn it off. Hang in there.
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Brilliant news Steph. Although I’m not pregnant, everything Jenni has said rings true for me. It would be impossible for me NOT be anxious if I were to ever decide to have another child. One step at a time. Wishing you all the very best as always x
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Best – my husband and I have been chosen to feature on the beautiful wedding blog polkadotbride.com – I am so chuffed and can’t wait for our story and photos to be up on that gorgeous site
Worst – yesterday at work I really embarrassed myself. After a couple of years of putting up with sexist comments from a co-worker I flew off the handle in an inappropriate manner in front of people who hadn’t seen all the comments he’d been making to me and it was out of character and embarrassing and I keep thinking about it and cringing. I should have done something about it long ago but instead I did NOT handle it well, and that’s a terrible feeling
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Oh I love that site!! Congrats!
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Thanks Queeny! x
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I love Polkadotbride – LOVE LOVE LOVE
Congrats
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It’s gorgeous isn’t it!
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Maybe you could turn around the losing your shit to explain that you’ve been putting up with it for THAT long and expose the jerkface.
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It’s tempting but then on the other hand I just want the entire situation to be swallowed by the earth and I never want it brought up again…
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Best: went for NT ultrasound on tues.. was a bit nervous, but to our delight all is well, and im actually over a week further along than we thought, 14 and a half weeks, due australia day! got photos of the bub on a disc which i was so happy about, its great to have something real to look at. Have felt myself literally relax since the scan after being so nervous through the first trimester, i know anything can happen at anytime during pregnancy, but for now all is well, and thats an amazing feeling.
Here is a pic of the little one
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Oh wow. Beautiful! Even though I’ve had two kids I’m always surprised we actually grow people inside our bodies! Well done.
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awww, beautiful!
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Congrats Anna. Gorgeous!!!
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Congrats Anna!
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Love those ultrasound pics. They bring back so many happy memories! Congratulations.
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awwww. Fantastic pic, so clear.
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How beautiful. Congratulations.
(Oh dear, now I want another one!)
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Such great news, Anna, and a lovely picture.
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Wow!
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Best: A week full of organisation, work success and camping out in the bedroom with my fiancé watching How I Met Your Mother and also very excited about trying on my wedding dress tomorrow!
Worst: Not much this week-haven’t had a particularly good diet this week and pretty underslept and still have to see an annoying colleague every day but on the whole, not too bad.
On my mind: Haven’t even been on our honeymoon yet and already planning a trip to Europe next year!!
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BEST: Saw the object of my affection yesterday afternoon. He lives downstairs from my personal trainer/friends and I said hello from the balcony. He makes my heart go pitty-pat. Sigh…
WORST: I run a baking business from home and just got my ingredients delivered. I forgot to order any butter. #EPIC FAIL.
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Oooo, Natski…I remember that pitty-pat feeling so well; can’t remember to breathe, am I blushing?, trying to look calm, what was I doing?…for an instant, the world stops. Just lovely
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Hahahaha re: butter. Been having a week where i seem to forget all those type of things, like taking security tags off the clothes at work (I KNOW IT’s ANNOYING for everyone and i’m sorry but yelling at me for doing it isn’t going to get the tag off any faster) and forgot to get rice for fried rice dinner when i was at the supermarket. (REALLY) Good to know others do things like this toooooo
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Worst: second trimester insomnia. Awake at 4am the last two days.
Best: being awake at 4am…
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Hope you get some better rest in the coming week. Some afternoon naps are definitely in order otherwise x
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Don’t know if this is any help at all, Jenni, but do I remember reading somewhere you like Sudoku? I sometimes find it helpful for getting sleep. I think it kind of distracts my mind away from whatever circles its chasing – and then repeatedly counting from 1 to 9, hey presto! Sleepy………. (but of course, I am not pregnant. Just to be clear!)
btw, I’m still looking for an opportunity to get down to Mur’bah. Will let you know when I can.
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Hanging in there jenni love!! Glad you can make a worst a best too!! Sunshine in your days ahead too I hope xx
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Best: The few SPRING DAYS we’ve had in Brisbane this week! GLORIOUS! Oh – and getting into a musical again. I’m only in the ensemble but it’s going to be SO good being back on stage!
Worst: Deciding to go back to full time classroom teaching – especially after leaving with an independent flourish in 2009. Turns out the money, the paid holidays and the great maternity leave is kind of important when you want to put your daughter into private school, have another baby and buy a house…
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BEST:
Went to a ball on Saturday night last week. Was amazing!
BEST 2:
My duties at work were changed so much better ones. Yay.
BEST 3:
Getting my dress for the wedding out of laybuy next week, a new pair of sunnies on laybuy, (half price!!) and the prospect of new shoes for my new dress. SQUEEEEEE!!
WORST:
Rude co worker
WORST 2:
Felt like CRAP yesterday and gigantic migraine.
WORST 3:
Lost my expensive sunnies on a bush walk on Sunday. Had to trek back through and didn’t find them.
On My Mind:
Lots of money being spent lately..
Loving being able to spoil myself
Wanting to get my boyfriend something special, but can’t afford what I really want to get
Wondering why his mates won’t reply to my messages
Papua New Guinea pics were gorgeous
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Best: Having a lovely breakfast on Monday with my Mr Darcy, and feeling cared for and content
Worse: Smallest child having croup and both of us getting no sleep for several nights.
On my mind: how much my previous relationship has caused me to be reluctant in showing how much I care about the person I’m with now….
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Best:
No 1. Feeling loved by my little one, he is my most cuddly baby out of the three and he drops his head on my shoulder a fair bit. So lovely, my little baby poonce.
No 2. I love coming here and putting my two cents worth out there. I love talking to people on here and it brightens my day when it is raining and stuck inside all day. Sure beats doing my BAS!
Worst: I am slack and procrastinate so much with things that are boring and essential. Need a kickstart to get “moving forward”. Ha!
If that is my worst, I have it pretty darn good!
What’s on my mind:
The election. Extremely worried that our country is about to be run by a bunch of inept, spendthrift, idiotic morons.
I wanted to say that those children in PNG are so beautiful. I lost it when I saw the toy car. I couldn’t comment as there was no submit button on the post. Well done spreading the word on how important immunisations are. I feel so lucky having access to medical treatments and immunisations.
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Aren’t those little arms around your neck just the best feeling?
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Yes they are!
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A loving cuddle and hug from a little one is the BEST medicine to cure any ill ..sweet.
Our grandson hugs his papa around the leg & hubby says that’s fantastic too!!
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Best – My girlfriend is home from the UK! I have missed her so very much, and its just so wonderful to have her home!
Worst – Settlement day has been pushed back 1 day due to the bank holiday so that’s one extra day we’ve got to wait for our keys. (Had to scrape for a worst this week which is a great thing!)
On my mind – Splendour In The Grass. Wish I was there – but the new house is a priority at this point. Damn responsiiblty.
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Best: Making it through the ob appointment that saw me admitted to hospital last year (29 1/2 weeks) with everything looking as it should at the moment.
Best 2: My little sister is off on her adventure to Borneo.
Worst: GD stress. Things were looking OK and then got three high readings in a row yesterday. Really hoping this isn’t the start of it escalating.
OMM: Worried that Tony Abbot might win the election.
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GD not fun. been there done that with my last babe. I’d sit for 20mins having to pysche myself up to give myself the insulin injections… :S Hope that it was just an off day for you Maddie.
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I can’t imagine how difficult your appointment must have been Maddie. So glad to hear you got through it. As for the GD, I went through it too. It’s a bumpy road. Hope things settle down for you.
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