What were your BEST and WORST parts of the week?
BEST: Loving my kids stupid at the moment. As I tweeted the other day: They make my heart soar. And sore.
WORST: A fight with someone very close to me over something silly. We sorted it out but it threw me for a couple of days until we did.
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Thank you for your reply. Well I have started taking medication. Went to a great doctor who has referred me to a good counsellor so hopefully things will be on the improve really soon.
Thanks again xox
Disagree, Anna. The mother should have let Jess know about the polo thing – at least so she could dress appropriately. Although, thinking about it, maybe if Jess had showed up to/for the polo in her jeans, Mother would have preferred that as it would mark her as the employee? I’d tell her to jam it too.
That would be so cool if it was the same people! You’ll have to try and figure it out, Kass!
Good luck at your friend’s funeral, Eloise. In my limited experience, the worst bit is the time between them dying and the funeral. Thinking of you.
I love that your daughter has made a new friend, Ggirl! What a great feeling for everyone! I hope it continues, and good on her for approaching her new friend while you were out. How exciting and uplifting!
Re your work worst – Doesn’t it drive you insane when people don’t ask if they don’t know? I got told off by my old boss in the navy for asking too many questions, because no-one else felt the need to. I responded with “Well, Chief, maybe I am the only one with the guts and the thought to ask questions”. He had no response for that. I’m lucky that I am quite happy to sound like an idiot if I don’t understand something or if I think others don’t. God it would make work easier if people just bloody said “Hey, can you show me that again because I’m not 100% on what I am supposed to do”. I love mostly working on my own now, it rocks.
I fought going on meds for months, but when I did – OH. MY. GOD. So much better. Ongoing counselling helped, and I am off them atm, but know when I need to start popping them. The best way to look at it (I found) was its like any other ongoing medication – the chemicals in your brain should be at a certain level, but for some reason they’re not, so you need to take them in pill form to get them there. Hope your feeling better soon. **HUGS**.
teddy bear,
the dahhling wasn’t to you, sorry if that came out rudely, it was more directed to the mothers out there, speaking like that! I definitely see both sides to the debate! I guess it was a real build up of years of being pulled here and there (of course as bad, but kind of resembling a slave)! anyway, i’m hanging up my babysitting boots now, time to get into my career in media and communications. Looking after bubs was something I fell into for cash but ended up falling for all the cute little bubs and getting stuck in a rut. So its time to hand the job over to girls (and guys) whose heart is in it and will do the job properly, while I go full steam ahead with my career! I will not turn down the odd babysitting job but ill cut down my hours so I can be a happy, flexible (within reason) babysitter
Jess
Thanks LellaK, yeah, lots of tears … and still got funeral tomorrow
x
Gosh, thank God they don’t have those ‘body definitions’ these days – that’s just gross! Now you can choose from Slim, Athletic, Average, Slightly Overweight, and Large-ish (to describe both yourself and ideal partner). All fairly respectful I think.
I haven’t noticed any leaderboards either! But then, I pretty much just log in to suss out my new ‘kisses’, I don’t get too involved with the other site features.
AJ, that was my fourth date on Sunday – each with a different guy (although I’ll probably see Sunday dude again, he was really nice so I’m happy to give it another go although I suspect he’s not really my type). I came out of a 7-year relationship last year, so it had been a LONG time since I’d had a date, I wasn’t sure what to expect at all. Each of the guys has been very nice, respectful, polite, and pleasant. I think the odds of connecting with someone you’ve chosen to meet based only on a photo and a short profile are pretty slim, but my mum and stepdad met on RSVP so I know it can definitely happen!
I’m thinking though that you’d have to be really open to dating lots of people, if you want to find someone special. First of all, a lot of people just don’t look anything like their photos. And secondly, when I think back over the guys I’ve been attracted to in my life, I probably wouldn’t have given their photos a second glance. It’s all about chemistry in person! I’ve actually been thinking of suggesting to RSVP that they introduce a ‘Webcam Profile’ option – at least then you could hear the person’s voice and catch their ‘vibe’.
I think I’ll be extremely lucky to find a ‘boyfriend’ online. To be honest, I’m still hoping it’ll just happen in day-to-day life!
Gosh, thank God they don’t have those ‘body definitions’ these days – that’s just gross! Now you can choose from Slim, Athletic, Average, Slightly Overweight, and Large-ish (to describe both yourself and ideal partner). All fairly respectful I think.
I haven’t noticed any leaderboards either! But then, I pretty much just log in to suss out my new ‘kisses’, I don’t get too involved with the other site features.
AJ, that was my fourth date on Sunday – each with a different guy (although I’ll probably see Sunday dude again, he was really nice so I’m happy to give it another go although I suspect he’s not really my type). I came out of a 7-year relationship last year, so it had been a LONG time since I’d had a date, I wasn’t sure what to expect at all. Each of the guys has been very nice, respectful, polite, and pleasant. I think the odds of connecting with someone you’ve chosen to meet based only on a photo and a short profile are pretty slim, but my mum and stepdad met on RSVP so I know it can definitely happen!
I’m thinking though that you’d have to be really open to dating lots of people, if you want to find someone special. First of all, a lot of people just don’t look anything like their photos. And secondly, when I think back over the guys I’ve been attracted to in my life, I probably wouldn’t have given their photos a second glance. It’s all about chemistry in person! I’ve actually been thinking of suggesting to RSVP that they introduce a ‘Webcam Profile’ option – at least then you could hear the person’s voice and catch their ‘vibe’.
I think I’ll be extremely lucky to meet a ‘boyfriend’ online. To be honest, I’m still hoping it’ll just happen in day-to-day life!
Gosh, thank God they don’t have those ‘body definitions’ these days – that’s just gross! Now you can choose from Slim, Athletic, Average, Slightly Overweight, and Large-ish (to describe both yourself and ideal partner). All fairly respectful I think.
I haven’t noticed any leaderboards either! But then, I pretty much just log in to suss out my new ‘kisses’, I don’t get too involved with the other site features.
AJ, that was my fourth date on Sunday – each with a different guy (although I’ll probably see Sunday dude again, he was really nice so I’m happy to give it another go although I suspect he’s not really my type). I came out of a 7-year relationship last year, so it had been a LONG time since I’d had a date, I wasn’t sure what to expect at all. Each of the guys has been very nice, respectful, polite, and pleasant. I think the odds of connecting with someone you’ve chosen to meet based only on a photo and a short profile are pretty slim, but my mum and stepdad met on RSVP so I know it can definitely happen!
I’m thinking though that you’d have to be really open to dating lots of people, if you want to find someone special. First of all, a lot of people just don’t look anything like their photos. And secondly, when I think back over the guys I’ve been attracted to in my life, I probably wouldn’t have given their photos a second glance. It’s all about chemistry in person! I’ve actually been thinking of suggesting to RSVP that they introduce a ‘Webcam Profile’ option – at least then you could hear the person’s voice and catch their ‘vibe’.
Gosh, thanks God they don’t have those ‘body definitions’ these days – that’s just gross! Now you can choose from Slim, Athletic, Average, Slightly Overweight, and Large-ish (to describe both yourself and ideal partner). All fairly respectful I think.
I haven’t noticed any leaderboards either! But then, I pretty much just log in to suss out my new ‘kisses’, I don’t get too involved with the other site features.
AJ, that was my fourth date on Sunday – each with a different guy (although I’ll probably see Sunday dude again, he was really nice so I’m happy to give it another go although I suspect he’s not really my type). I came out of a 7-year relationship last year, so it had been a LONG time since I’d had a date, I wasn’t sure what to expect at all. Each of the guys has been very nice, respectful, polite, and pleasant. I think the odds of connecting with someone you’ve chosen to meet based only on a photo and a short profile are pretty slim, but my mum and stepdad met on RSVP so I know it can definitely happen!
I’m thinking though that you’d have to be really open to dating lots of people, if you want to find someone special. First of all, a lot of people just don’t look anything like their photos. And secondly, when I think back over the guys I’ve been attracted to in my life, I probably wouldn’t have given their photos a second glance. It’s all about chemistry in person! I’ve actually been thinking of suggesting to RSVP that they introduce a ‘Webcam Profile’ option – at least then you could hear the person’s voice and catch their ‘vibe’.
I think I’ll be extremely lucky to find a ‘boyfriend’ on RSVP – and to be honest, still hoping it just happens naturally in day-to-day life!
Ohh poor thing – Year 8 was the toughest for me out of all the years at school. They will be fine, they’ve got you
This is why I never judge when I hear about affairs.. You never truly know a situation until you’re in it.. xx
Congrats – can you tell us his name? Baby names are one of my favourite topics!
Hope you’re okay C x
A small over-reaction perhaps darlin? I do alot of nannying (and am a highschool teacher with 27 first cousins) and it just goes unsaid you prepare for everything and expect anything. Go with the flow… Especially if you had committed to be available for her that day. I understand you would have preferred some more notice, but cancelling on her like that just comes across immature.
He is gorgeous!
OMG – that would be murder on your boobs. Men always have a home handyman solution don’t they? Ha Ha imagining it now!
oh how heartbreaking for all involved. I hope they all make it
xx
Worst: Spotting during my pregnancy. It came to nothing thank goodness.
Best: Seeing Ronan Keating in concert (Finally!) It was fantastic.
Jessica,
i feel your situation more than you can imagine! it is such a tough job and think it’s taken very lightly from the some parents. your heart is in the right place i can see that our very passionate about the care you give to the children you look after, and what more could a parent want from their “sitter”. i saw so much of you in myself when i read our story. you are fulfilling such huge shoes when you walk into a house and I’m sure you would do anything to make everyone satisfied and happy children, parents and pets included, and sometimes forgetting about yourself i found it very overwhelming to know when and where to draw the line and some parents just have no idea the bond and relationships you form with their children. i have worked with families for over six years for an income while i study. nothing more upsets me when as simple as communication can be it seems to fail and come across as inconsiderate and dam right rude to have these expectations from your employee. i believe you needed to react in the way you did, just to make people rethink their actions and expectations because we are not just the “babysitter”!
Thanks… better this week
so good to hear!!!
Wow!
Thanks everyone!
Now I’m crying!
We think he’s beautiful and it’s good to know we’re not totally deluded!
xo
try dr stuarts sleep plus tea – i tried everything and this an hour before bed worked for me. should be in coles or every health food shop. their detox tea is great too
Isn’t it sad that girls can start being bitchy/exclusive at such an early age? You must be so proud of your little girl though, having the balls to attempt to befriend someone is still daunting 20 years later! How lucky for her that another girl was just as brave
nawwww
hugs to you, its an awful thing to go through x
Worst: Being off sick on pregnancy bed rest for 4 days, then getting really bad food poisoning on Friday night – at only 11 weeks I was (still am a bit) terrified of it affecting the baby… Am so angry at the restaurant we ordered from, will try to remember to call the Food Authority this arvo. Also annoyed by news reports refuting the existence of baby-brain! I am feeling SO dumb recently, my spelling has been atrocious, I forget words and am generally inefficient at work
Best: reading other mamamia comments and realising how vacuous my complaints seem by comparison, but also appreciating how lovely and generous this community is to each other – rare on the interwebs these days!
Also, my normally unromantic and kind of insensitive boyfriend has been uncharacteristically nice throughout my pregnancy – staying up outside the bathroom whilst I was sick (although I hate that, especially when I’m really sick – I don’t like ppl hearing me use the bathroom, especially when… well you know) and insisting I come back to bed instead of sleeping on the couch (I was paranoid that I wouldn’t make the bathroom in time) he said he would still love me even if I didn’t!
Thank you for your kind messages. I have been struggling with it on and off for a couple of years now but its at an all time worst now. I have been to a counsellor before and tried a couple of other things but I have a doctors appointment tomorrow to get things going with some treatment.
Thank you for cheering me up xoxo
Oh god, and I’ve been thinking I’d prefer a little boy of my own – rather than risk having a daughter turn out like me, but now I realise both genders cause unnecessary stress to their parents, just in different ways! I must say, Mamamia is a great resource for an honest, realistic view of highs/lows of motherhood
Beautiful! Congratulations – I’m a sucker for this stuff now I’m pregnant
Well done, Megs
My 2nd marathon (I actually signed up for the ultra – so it would have been my first ultra!) and I’m shattered.
If the govt won’t close the roads, I don’t see how they can run it. I’m not running around a park for 5 hours that’s for damn sure!
I’ve got a running friend in Canberra and she warned me that there were rumours about the event organisers being dodgey but I couldn’t believe that they would take registrations for an event that might not go ahead. What a bunch of crooks! My friend told me that the club she runs with is going to held an alternative (and now the replacement) event in May but that doesn’t help those of us who have forked out the cash already.(And thanks to their no refunds policy, kiss that money goodbye.)
My 1st marathon was last year – Melbourne Marathon – and I can’t recommend it highly enough.There were issues with the 5 and 10km (races were measured incorrectly) but the mara and half were superbly run – so professional. It was one of my biggest achievements to cross that line, the feeling is indescribable. I know it sucks but don’t give up on your dream of running a marathon – it’s exhilarating, exhausting and wonderful all at once and once of the best things you’ll ever do.
If you can wait until October, sign up for Melbourne! Otherwise there’s Gold Coast in June/July I think. I don’t know about Sydney – surely there’s one there? Good luck and don’t give up (and there’s always that sliver of hope that Canberra might actually happen – I might see you there!)
Emily, I sooo hear your Arrgh! We had also signed up and booked accommodation. The press release from the ACT Minister on 4th Feb and subsequent articles including some by the ABC Radio seemed to leave no doubt that it is cancelled with headlines announcing “Marathon Scrapped” not the more promising “Marathon in Jeopardy”….the official website from the organisers posted an update only this morning announcing that despite the Govt refusing to close the roads for the race they are “looking into their options”….Whilst I normally pride myself on being an optimist I’m not holding out much hope on this one!
This was going to be my first marathon. You?
WTF? Are you serious about the Canberra marathon being cancelled?? I’ve already paid my rego and was about to book flights! ARGGH!
Congrats Emma … it’s such a nice thing to be looking forward to!
Hope all goes well with your Nan xx
Crap!!! Fiance. . . . man of all things to get wrong when replying to people focused on spelling
I don’t know if Elisa is enjoying RSVP but I met my fiancee on line but it was on one of the smaller sites – I think online dating is similar to real world dating and there are boutique options and meat markets. When I was online dating, RSVP ran a little too meat market for me – there was something where the “best” singles were put on some sort of leader board and there were several body definitions you could choose – slightly overweight, curvy, tubby, chubby, obese, when I couldn’t be bothered with that! That was just my experience of it AJ, Elisha may be finding it much better.
Oh yeah, manual expressing is very hard, go with the electric machine. In fact after watching me struggle, my first husband, a carpenter by trade, offered to wire the machine up to his compressor so I could have it dragged out of me 750 times faster . . . I declined the offer.
Thankyou all for the fabulous tips on expressing. I have borrowed an electric pump from Community Health and I hope this will be better at sucking milk out.
Cleo,
Awesome Banana muffins (eggless, dairy-free)
2 cups SR Flour
1 cup Sugar
1tsp Vanilla essence
1/3 Cup Oil (any you like)
2 bananas Mashed
Some soy milk
Mash Bananas in bowl, throw sugar, SR Flour, Oil, Vanilla essence in. Mix it all up and add some soy milk to make it look like the consistency of cake batter. Put in muffin cases, chuck in oven 150 degrees (fan forced) for about 15-20 mins or until golden.
When cold freeze them and get one out each day for lunch. So easy!
If you like you can make with real milk, rice milk, any milk you like and if you like eggs you can chuck an egg in also if you lilke. But if you want them to be allergy friendly stick to above recipe and it is so good, does not taste like dairy and egg free.
Hi Layla, I felt for you so much in this incident and considered doing the same for my twins even though they’re in primary school. I am going on what I hear in the playground and some limited research, and I think the state school system is such that if a school expels a child, they have to guarantee the same child a place in another educational institution. And/or employment if they’re of age. So if the school expels the bully, the school has to find him another school and guarantee they’ll take him. Of course, schools don’t want to take other expelled students so it seems a lot of school management now are very hands off and hope that it sorts itself out.
I would definitely look at the distance education if it was my child and he has that allergy. Good luck! I’ve been thinking about you and your son.
Oh Josie, I can tell you it is shit having depression. It is just so isolating…. Please don’t feel like you are alone in the world, because there is always people who care about you and would love nothing more than to help you feel better soon. xx
Worst: Killer headaches, mood swings & lethargy coming off the pill. Horrible, stressful job that’s just not getting any better and that I don’t seem to be getting any better at.
Best: My boyfriend being a total sweet pea while I grump around. We are moving in next weekend and I hope I’m back in form by then!
Yay!!! Couldn’t be happier for you both. xox
Oh no, Josie — are you getting any help with it?
Sending hugs for better times xx
Worst: Depression
Best: Nothing
I’ve had to deal with endless noise from construction work around our house. I came home with my new baby to find a neighbour had started renovating their house whilst I had been away…..in hospital!! How discourteous! 4 months of digging thru stone…….Start, stop, start, stop! Why did I never think to drop off a note. If only I had done so instead of just grumbling and complaining around the house with an unsettled newborn!
[All jokes aside re: the note…..it actually is hard for the mum with a baby who isn’t able to sleep! I’m not comparing it to those who have it far worse. But it does make it harder for the mum and the baby)!!
I’ve already posted, but would like to add a “Best” update: the boy GOT THE JOB. I’m relieved, excited, all those good things. Life can start again, and I could not be more grateful
Well, got my car checked and the previous mechanic put locking nuts on the wheel and didn’t give me the damn key! >:@ Now I need to chase it up with the other mechanic and get him to get them off! So peeved. I didn’t ask for them, thus been charged for something unnecessary and potentially expensive. Can’t get the wheel alignment or tyre rotation until the damn nuts come off. MECHANICS! ARGH!
I have never driven into the city before. Plus, it was dark and pouring with rain, I am not the most confident driver when I am in unfamiliar territory!
hallelujah
been there done that with the visa!! hang in there, it’ll happen, but it won’t happen fast. we waited 10 weeks!
have happily been living here in london for just over two years… trust me, it’s worth the wait!
i think that is very rude and considering she would have known you were coming to the polo when she booked you, she should have let you know then. i am sure if you dropped a mini bombshell on her like that she would really not appreciate it
i find expressing while looking at photos of your baby works really well
Watched the show on ABC about it – gee it must have been hard for the people on it to tell their stories. Just devastating.
Sarah’s are like that – they are very wonderful
*contRacted employees
I have crocs thongs and they are the best thongs I have ever worn!!
WORST: Both kids sick again this week (luckily not at the same time at least). It just makes me miserable to see them miserable!
BEST: In among the chaos, got to have an afternoon at the movies (3D Avatar – loved it!) AND a date night at a great restaurant using a voucher given to us as a Christmas present. Hubby and I had the first real, non-kids-based, eye-contact conversation we’ve had in ages, it was so great to re-connect! (And the home made blackberry and apple pie for dessert that I didn’t have to share or wolf down wasn’t half bad either!)
good for you for going over the head of principal LPlates, I woud have done the same for sure!
fair enough Jess, point taken…x
I used to find expressing on one side while the baby fed on the other worked well. I didn’t bother with the pump, once the “let down” got going I could get enough for an emergency bottle without it. I never tried the shower but it’s a great tip.
I’ve got a 3yrold Spiderman impersonator who today flew through the (open, broken) zipper bit of the netting of a trampoline and landed on the grass. Two days after having his sling off from a broken collarbone.(luckily no damage this time) What with the collarbone and his asthma, I know where you’re coming from Bern! We’re on a first name basis with the local emergency room.
KiwiChick what an amazing gesture. And Danya, not only does your ‘venting’ allow others to show you their support, but telling your story week after week, both your strong moments and your moments of despair, is so valuable to me and I’m sure many others. It not only inspires me but gives me a giant kick up the arse whenever I start to consider the more crap aspects of my situation. I think of you and what you are going through and how you are holding it together and I tell myself to HTFU! I really hope things look up for you. You are changing what you can and accepting what you can’t with grace. No one could do any more than that. The fact that your kids are thriving is truly a testament to you, and you should be very proud. In so many families, Mum is the glue, but especially in yours. xx
Why would they write that? That is a good question. Often personal attack is subconsciously to try and bring the victim down to the level of the attacker, who may be threatened, or feel envious of, or jealous of the victim. This is often referred to the ‘tall poppy syndrome’.
Maybe, Fiona, some of your aquaintences (I hesitate to call them friends) are jealous of your success, your personality, your social skills, your beauty, your other friendships, and so on. They are denegrating what they cannot have or be.
Glad you’re honest, Elisha (and I totally understand, I work in marketing/pr!). And really glad to hear date went well.
I just had date 3 and while his spelling may not be a dealbreaker, there’s too many other things that are. *sigh*
I have never tried RSVP. How are you finding it?
Oh really complicated. I guess if you’ve got a strong relationship he’ll be able to deal with what you tell him, even if he’s angry at first. Hopefully you can work it out at work, without damaging your relationship. x
Yes please! All the lunchbox ideas I can get…
I understand where you are coming from completely, Layla – there is no way in this situation that you can give it another chance and see what happens. It’s just so wrong that your son can’t go to school and be safe. It seems so wrong that the schools haven’t been able to make any headway with this other boy and the impact of his actions on the environment around him. Good luck with the distance education application and look forward to seeing a Best soon.
you and your son have rights that the school is overlooking. Your school is supposed to ban all peanut products from grounds if a child is allergic. IMO… Make waves and contact the dept. of education if you don’t get any positive response from your sons school. He is NOT the one who should be schooled elsewhere anyway.
Wow, thank you Jess! Finally a babysitter who is independent and confident enough to make a stand against what are simply poor manners. Kass, I think your correct in saying that perhaps it wasn’t the polo which was the issue but the blatant disrespect and lack of courtesy shown but someone who is far too wrapped up in her own life.
Not only am I a babysitter but I am also a Registered Nurse at a very large Melbourne Hospital and I deal with what is ‘reality’ for some people- sickness, endless medical procedures and terminal pain. So far in my 4 year Nursing career I’ve met several mothers who complain more about their ‘reality’ (dealing with the day to day life of being a stay-at-home mum) then I’ve heard from those lying in a hospital bed. I’ve experienced a mother who has left notes in a neighbouring letter box asking for construction of an adjacent house to cease during the period of 11am and 1pm daily as her 14 month year old would be sleeping through this period. Was she serious? Time for a reality check lady!
I agree with Jess that there are amazing families out there (more than there not) who genuinely care for their hired help, but there are some who can’t see past their little world and would benefit from someone like Jess making a stance for what she believes in.
I guess rudeness pays its price- too bad to the mother who missed her polo event; I can’t do anything but have a chuckle to myself! Perhaps she’ll give her next employee the politeness of a phone call the day beforehand rather than sending an SMS!
So true – the bullies and the “self proclaimed populars” at high school ARE the ones who peak early! The rest off us come up trumps in the really big adventure that is the rest of our lives.
Hang in their Fiona – the best bits of life are just around the corner
Is that two Mamamia babies this week?
Welcome bubby – and enjoy the ride new mummy
Were the parents of the other child told about the situation?? The school was horrified but what did they do?? I understand why you took your child out of the school but what were the consequences for the “bully”?
Best: 12 months since Black Saturday – the year of ‘firsts’ is over.
Worst: 12 months since Black Saturday. Still so f**king raw for so many people (and Victoria).
Wishing everyone impacted my prayers – it will never be the same but eventually it will be okay.
Sorry, I would love to take the credit for that one – but sadly I did not give that recipe. I am so glad they turned out ace for you! I will post my Banana Muffin Recipe though if anyone wants it?
AJ, you’re totally right of course. And our date today was lovely, he said some way daggier things than ’squizz’.
Spelling and punctuation ARE unfortunately dealbreakers for me – but I put that in my RSVP profile so at least I’m honest about it!! And I won’t even read the profiles that are all in caps, or use SMS-style shorthand. Maybe I’m missing out on my soulmate, but as a word snob I just can’t get past this stuff! I’m very accepting in most other ways though!
By the way – has everybody else lost their emoticons and italics / bold functions, or just me??
Hi Cleo,
After seeing that the system was supporting the child with issues rather than my son (and many other kids) we made the choice to change him to another school post that incident. They are just meeting up again after 3 years. The school principal, counsellors and year advisor were very distressed at this incident happening. They have been horrified that in only 4 days of high school this boys name was coming up so frequently. I just know we can not live with sending him into an environment where if this child is feeling vindictive, our son could die. I truly hope this boy can get the help he needs and change.
No-one wins in this situation. I can’t believe that this bullying is still going on and it wasn’t dealt with after the pencil incident! The actual bully’s self esteem must be way out of whack and everyone around him is suffering. Makes me think of the earlier post written by the girl at uni who was abused/harassed and the bully got away with it.
I also went through Newcastle and you will meet a lot of others in the same boat as you. Have a beer at the bar on the hill – if its still there, that is! Good luck and enjoy uni
I’m amazed that the school didn’t remove the troublemaker, rather than you having to remove your child! I hope that you work it out LPlates and that your son has a good year
Good on you L plates! If you were fobbed off initially by the principal then I can’t see what other choice you had but to go over their head! Well done
It appears that this happens all too often! As if it’s not enough that the child is bullied but is then the one that has to rectify the problem by removing their presence! Problem solved!!!
Damn – now i am all teary!
He is a little miracle and so angelic.
Welcome to the world little man!
Ok – I have a confession. After taking back a pair of Sportsgirl red wedges (they fell apart after one week!) I met a woman in the shop who gave me a tip-off. I now own a pair of croc wedges – and no-one knows (well, all of you know now).
I am five foot nothin’ and usually wear high heels – these are so good for work. Mine are a red pair with a neutral colour sole. The uppers are leather! )Who knew?)
http://www.crocs.com.au/product_detail.php?page=showcase&id=10395&cid=060
I am speechless – that is awful for you and your son
he’s the one you were waiting for! so beautiful!
Thanks AJ. This is her first job fresh out of uni, needless to say…she has a lot to learn. Pleased to report, having a positive, productive weekend and can only hope its the start of a great week ahead of me =)
Happy mum… I think it was you that gave the reciepe for scones using lemonade??? They worked a treat… THANKS!
Pixie, I have the same ones for work. Best part – you can throw them in the washing machine with a load of towels and ta daaaaa they’re clean (I work in a dirty place!)
Welcome t the world Jay! Congrats Megs, so happy for you!
Thanks for all of your replies, as I too have been umming and arghing over my decision to not go to the polo. Clarinette and Teady Bear, i do work in my worktime – very hard in fact! During after school picks, I’ll drive between three different schools, then drop the children to three different after school activities (all in my stinking hot old Saab), i’ll get down on my hands on knees and play and engage with the children at their level, help with homework, go swimming at the local pool etc.
Over my years of babysitting I have been to polo but have been told prior to 5 minutes before I’m supposed to be at the family home. One time I ended up taking on numerous families’ children because their own babysitters weren’t capable and didn’t care enough to start games for the children and make sure all were in eye sight. I was comfortable in my surroundings and wore cute boots and an appropriate outfit. I personally can only operate to the best of my ability when I feel comfortable and respected.
Teddybear – No, I don’t understand the reality of motherhood but I do understand that upper class women sometimes can’t see far past their own existance. I believe they have a thing or two to learn about proper and intimate engagement with their children and how to treat people of all classes, ages, professions with respect daahhhhling!
Thinking of you love xxx
That is just shit. It should definitely be the awful bully who is removed
To clarify: The steps are mostly intact. But most of the stairs have the corners that are broken off and the top step has a small area on the side that is broken off! But even just that top stair is enough to do harm as the kids are walking up and down the stairs all the time which can release the fibres. The school says it is glass fibres not asbestos and they may well be right. But without testing I don’t know how they can be so definitive in their belief! I didn’t propose the testing the Education Dept did. I don’t see how it is a problem to do this. But obviously this is more about ego and power on the Principal’s part. But this school appears to have a problem with parents questioning them!
Best: My youngest starting Kindy and on the same day my eldest turned 9!
Worst: Organising cup cakes for 31 kids + teacher and presents etc for eldest and organising youngest to start Kindy!! Then finding broken stairs on demountable classroom for youngest child. Had expressed concern over moving of demountables last year to Principal who fobbed me off saying there was no asbestos in demountables contrary to media reports and online register!! Called Education Dept for reassurance that steps were fine as they are in charge of register. They said there was a 50/50 chance of asbestos and were going to test stairs. Principal was not happy I went over her head and asked me to consider changing schools!! All on first day of Kindy!!! Didn’t get time to process my baby starting school with all the stress!!
That is so wrong, the other child should be expelled or suspended at the very least. That is assault and threatening your son is just absolutely disgusting. I know you want your child away from this vile bully, but it should be the bully who has to find another school to attend.
It is just not fair.
That is just horrible for you & your son Layla. I hope the school can sort something better out, Distance Ed. can be really hard. (Not saying your son wouldn’t be able to do it, just that the school should be able to find a better resolution than this). xx
I dont think it was the Polo per se that was the problem, it was the 5 mins notice. At least if she had known in advance, Jess could have dressed appropriately. I’m pretty sure I would not like to go to the polo in my grotty clothes either – no-one expects Cinderella to go to the ball in her work clothes, do they?
my friend in Scotland is waiting for her mum to arrive in about 2 weeks – I would laugh if it were the same person – and I know SHE is very excited to see her Mum! Enjoy your trip!
Disgusting. It is the other child who should be removed.
Only have a worst.
GUTTED. My son stated High School. He has Anaphylaxis, peanut allergy. On day 4 a well known trouble maker in class threatened to rub a peanut butter sandwich in his face. This same kid stabbed him with a pencil in primary.He bullies everyone. He finds kids weaknesses and uses it. Unfortunately for my boy it wasn’t hard to find. As a result have pulled him out of high school and looking at applying for Distance education. I refuse for my son to be put in this situation.Taking him to the allergist to see if we can get him onto this desensatisation program.We (the school and parents) do not feel that it is a safe enviroment for him to be in. I just feel so sad.
jess, sorry not guest…
i’m with you clarinette, i thought the mother’s sms was reasonable to be honest…surely babysitters need to be flexible..it wasn’t like she was asking you to scrub the toilets…a day at polo sound quite fun..when you have your own kids guest you might not be so judgemental when you realise the reality of motherhood…
It is nice when you “just click” with someone. I remember randomly meeting a lady in an doctors waiting room and we had a great laugh and I wonder about how she is going now and I am kicking myself that I did not get her number, but you feel like a stalker/weirdo if you ask for a stangers number. Now i wish I just got over it and got the number.
I clicked with someone on the phone and met up with them and now we have been really good friends for a year now.
Best of luck with the cooler change and being pregnant!
Next time you want to go to the Zoo I highly reccommend Western Plains Zoo in Dubbo. It is much more free-range and nicer than Taronga. It is paddocks of Animals and they mostly look happy, I love it!
Good on you – enjoy!
Fiona, you are a champion! And I hope those losers will realise soon that they need to get a life.
Don’t let them drag you down, obviously they are insanely jealous of how lovely you are – and those bullies (cowards) will be asking you “Do you want fries with that?” or another phrase such as: “Would you like a bag to put that in?” You will see them next a few years down the track when you have a fabulous job you love and friends who love you and the life you chose to have. Best of luck xx
If she had only given you a day’s notice that you had to babysit the kids at the polo. It would have been much better manners. I understand what you mean totally.
I am going to try this one! Thanks Wonderpet for the advice…
Yes Frankie, I am like you in that I can feed forever with boobs in babies mouth. Stick a pump on there, and there is nothing coming out.
Best: We went out to dinner and Miss 10 saw some kids from school. She went to say hi and the next thing I know the mum is asking if Miss 10 can come over to play some time. We exchanged numbers and when they left, Miss 10 whispered in my ear “I’ve made a new friend!” I was so happy for her! Her current friends aren’t always very nice and can gang up on each other and be totally nasty. It’s about time someone nice came into her life.
Middle of the road: the visitors are here. they are for the most part OK and they are paying for their share of things and it’s a nice change of pace to have them here for a while, but I do have my issues…
Worst: having inconsiderate visitors. I could list all the issues I have here, some petty, some more serious and I’m sure I would have most of you nodding in agreement that they are annoying things. But I won’t bore you with details. Suffice it to say, they are annoying me at times! I will say my biggest problem is they are feeding my dog human food to the point she got quite sick. I told everyone NO more human food, but I found on a few occasions they are still sneaking things to her. She is MY dog. You wouldn’t treat a child like that, would you? Oh wait… who am I talking about?
Other worst: having contacted employees who are basically useless. Having to redo their work because they can’t follow simple directions. Talking to them and having them repeat the instructions back so they understand – I feel like I’m working with a child. And they don’t ask if they don’t understand. Either they do it wrong or don’t do it at all and say it’s done!
Funny. I get a lot of “Mum, watch me!” followed by some sort of backflip from a couch. I’m a bundle of bloody nerves
I was hopeless at expressing until I discovered…..expressing in the shower. It worked a treat! Something about that warm water! LOL!!
I could never ever express and I breastfed for 3 1/2 years over 3 kids (not each…) and had plenty of milk. I just couldn’t express.
Best: Loving my gorgeous kids to bits, and so thankful for the beautiful life my husband and I have with them.
Worst: Losing a loved friend to cancer. Heartbreaking.
Newie is a top place. I am Newcastle born and bred. Went to Newcastle Uni too. Now I live in Sydney.
Best: My brother and his fiance are finally getting married! They have been together for almost 8 years (engaged for over 3). They were getting married in May but have bought it forward to this month!
Why?
Worst: Her father is terminally ill, has been given a few months at the most, but is not doing very well at all. It will be a bittersweet day. My heart goes out to her, feeling so sad.
Can’t believe that she SMSed you with such a last minute change of plans rather than call and explain! I would have been tempted to get grotted up even more and say that I didn’t get the message – Was there a problem? – and smile as sweetly as possible…
And I am now a mother who used to be a babysitter… No need at all to treat the babysitter with disrespect.
xD Phillip the car!!!! awesome!!!
wow in case you’re wondering if everyone is saying that just to make you happy, they’re not!!! he’s gorgeous!! want to kiss him all over xD congrats
not sure i get it….i did some baby sitting when i was a kid too, what’s wrong with going to the polo? i mean , i get how it can be annoying to be told what to do on a week end, but aren’t you their employee? isn’t it work time? anyone would prefer watching tv and not wash their hair on a saturday but huh then why take a week end job? how is polo insulting? i REALLY don’t understand the point you’re trying to make . Except maybe ”wtf, i’m not going to work on my worktime….”
Way to go Jess. I can’t believe someone would do that!
Haha.. Well I have now gotten even more of this weird abuse stuff.. Someone commented on my friends blog “Fiona has a flat chest!”……….. This doesn’t offend me as much as the first thing did, that was terrible. But what the hell? My boobage is nothing to do with my (GUY) friend, its personal! Geez! I don’t even know why they would write that? Can’t wait to get out of this immature school
LOL ulladulla
THANKS GUYS <3
Please write it !! It’s a great idea to post about what’s helpful and not helpful
I wish I was more articulate and I’d do it too – Too many people have absolutely no idea what to do and say the most stupid and innapropriate things. Can anyone possibly believe saying stuff like “she’s in a better place” and cliched shit like that will make anyone feel better? While I know it comes from caring and them not knowing what to say or do, people just mustn’t think either – the majority mouth platitudes or pretend nothing ever happened which is even worse!! I applaud your goal of making your bed – mine was simply to get through the day till I could get back into my unmade one eventually ! The only thing I know is that it does get better but it takes a long time. Keep hopeful x x x x
There are people who cope and people who don’t – I think you are one of the ones who will cope with whatever shit life throws up & that is an awesome strength
Not that I think it’s easy in any way for you but you just seem to get on with whatever happens with humour and acceptance despite the tears as well. I applaud you for that and hope life improves!
Don’t forget you also get paid part time hours as well – I work part time and sometimes feel guilty that I am not there as much as everyone else – but then I remember that I am also not getting paid to be there as much as them.
Hope it’s all good
It must be such a stressful time for you….fingers and toes crossed for you
Love stories like yours
All the best with your beautiful boy.
Best -fly out to England in 8 days for a month to visit my daughter who has been living over there since March last year – will be so cold but so nice to catch up with her after so long. Phone calls and emails just aren’t the same
I miss her.
Worst – working 60 hr weeks to get caught up at work and train people for my absence after couple of months of upheaval and change of booses etc …am so over training people who need their hand held every step of the way – no one taught me much – I had to figure it mostly out for myself by trial and error but after months of me sitting beside them telling them every step to take when they need help, they are still struggling – it’s seriously not that hard !! I am trying so hard to be to be patient – but it is so draining – I was proud of myself today that I was so supportive when someone took 8 hours for a 2 hour task & it still wasn’t right in the end…. but I just kept encouraging her that she’d be fine next time….oh holiday…oh holiday…can’t wait (probably should say it’s been over 2 years since I’ve had a holiday more than a couple of days) Have already warned my new boss that I might not be back
Mia,
I know you and a lot of people who read this great blog are mothers, so I want to spread my message loud and clear through my telling my WORST moment of the week!
I am not a mother but a babysitter. Around 78 Melbourne mothers have my phone number (this could be an exaggeration)because I do a good job of looking after children. Some families are gorgeous and leave Cornettos in the fridge, slices of pizza in the oven and even give French champagne as Christmas presents but some are complete duds – with a lack of respect for their helpers!
Today, I was walking out the door ready to take on four kids, who I had never met before when I received an SMS from the mother, “Hi Jess, U will be coming to the polo with us and children so do bring a hat and jumper in case.X”
At that time I was wearing a standard babysitting kit (jeans, black top and hair shoved up in a bun, OK greasy hair shoved in bun – it’s a Saturday morning after all.) I was not at all mentally nor physically prepared to go to the polo with this family, I thought I’d be dagging around with the kids, going to the park, making a mess painting etc etc. I simply couldn’t think of anything worse than being in the company of posh ladies in their Saturday bests, running around after four children I didn’t know. Feeling a little diva-ish and using my new-found 24 year old confidence – I said a big ENO – No!
I did this on behalf of every babysitter that gets screwed around by mothers who take advantage of their helpers. Good help doesn’t come around often so you’ve got to make sure you take care of your babysitters and nannies because guess what? They are taking care of your offsrping, kids, children, rug rats, anklebiters! I know enough babysitters (all of my friends) to tell you, we do a great job when we like our employers – empty dishwasher, spoil your kids with baby chinos and come to their birthday parties (unpaid) because we genuinely care. But if we get a dud family, they don’t last minute! There are countless bubs who need babysitters and nannies so the message for mothers is – dont bite the hand that feeds your children!
Jess
BEST- having a date with my husband today.
WORST- work issues: fight with a colleague (which actually involved me finally speaking honestly), another colleague fighting cancer and then just general work rubbish. Next week has to be better.
BEST – No 2 boy starting Kinder for the first time, he was so excited.
Accommodation, flights and baysitter sorted out for AC/DC. I am SOOO ready to rock!
WORST – Trying to express breastmilk for Pudgy Papoose. I pumped for 1 hour and got 50ml out. Babysitter will not be impressed if no milk for baby on the night. Expressing blows. And I am so crap at it!
Elisha, if it is a dealbreaker that you said squizz, then to him I would say “get over yourself”. Don’t stress about it hun, I, too, say is every now and again. It’s not offensive and hardly paints you as inarticulate!
Although I have to say I’m probably being a bit of a hypocrit, since my potential beau’s spelling is driving me up the wall! LOL but that for me is not a dealbreaker.
Mia is right. The girls who gave me shit in school are either extremely fucked up on drugs and still in Ulladulla, or are popping out children to multiple fathers (still in Ulladulla)
FIY: Ulladulla is a supermassive hole. You only live there if you are are a government sponsored surfer (dol), or if you are under the age of 20 and want to have a massive family.
Oh my goodness, that’s terrifying! I hope you don’t get to traumatised.. I was in an accident 6 months ago, and for weeks afterwards I had trouble sleeping. Hope you are all okay and things turn out GOOD!
And Wicked…. I KNOW, ITS AMAZING! I’m a MASSIVE musical theatre geek, and Wicked is a very fun theatrical experience. How awing is “Defying Gravity”, especially as she rises up!
He is so beautiful! Congratulations x
Thanks for the suggestion Liv72 – I have been thinking that with Valentine’s Day next week I may even go further & have the small boy ’sleepover’& the grandparents … movie, wine, nice food DEFINATELY…
Thanks! I’ll need it!! Just did my enrollment this week- looks like it’s gonna be pretty full on!! Ahh!! =P
In a souvenir shop. It’s a small place so usually I work shifts on my own, so I’m the only one there if customers are being difficult, no one to help you deal with them and no one to vent to straight after they’ve gone- makes it difficult at times!!
Congratulations – enjoy this wonderful time!
A new Best – my Miss8 FINALLY got off her training wheels today. Halleillua (sp?)
Hi Kriss, try having a date-night-in. Hire a DVD (rating above PG is compulsory), open a bottle of wine and make your favourite adult yummies and snuggle up on the couch.
So did my Miss 5. I’m still adjusting to not having her around as much. Mr 1 just doesn’t have the same conversations yet.
Best: my daughter’s first day of school.
Worst: trying to adjust to my daughter being at school.
Double edged sword that one.
I’d be pretty happy to be lonely on a Sunshine Coast beach right now… particularly Coolum beach which I absolutely love.
I’m sure you will make some friends in no time.
Best – Quickly flying through the working week and finally getting to see my man.
Worst – dropping off my niece (2years) off at Child Care and having her bawl her eyes out and telling me she wants to come home. Its so hard to not turn around and pick her up and taking her home
http://www.crocs.com.au/product_detail.php?page=showcase&id=10066&cid=001
They’re not quite so chunky!!
Best: My gorgeous, well-adjusted, self-confident, happy, independent 3 year old started Pre-school without a hitch.
Worst: He’s growing up way too fast! He didn’t miss me!!!
Slightly less ugly but more robust and still very comfy are Birkenstocks – chefs swear by them.
Danya, I’m sure given the choice you would rather be anything but the poster child for guts and determination and a barometer for keeping things in perspective but you continue to be an inspiration.
I’m so glad you can express your fears and lowpoints as well as your little victories and you get some small consolation that is community support. Like everyone else I am right behind you and hope you can feel a little virtual hand holding and virtual shoulder to cry on during those times when you are on the floor.
I hope you do take the time to check in with your inside people frequently. They’re stronger than you think but they still need some looking after and I bet anything that’s what Fatty wants too. xox
God I feel for you so much. It is heartbreaking isn’t it. I hope that you feel better and come to know that he doesn’t love his dad better, as you said it would just be because he misses him. Good luck, I hope things get better for you all xo
BEST: Realising I was NEVER comfortable working 5 days a week & having 3 yr old son in daycare everyday [I have had Wednesdays off for the past 2 yrs]. The opportunity came up to reduce my load so I bravely approached my male Principal who couldn’t have been better or more understanding about it! I teach in a large secondary school & for other teachers out there you will know that a secondary school timetable is a masterpiece of juggling so to do this in week 2 was no small feat. The relief at having my mid week break back with the boy again is just wonderful!
WORST: Not enough ádult’time with husband & its starting to get me down… Now that I have a day off will HAVE TO prioritise this ….
Thank you!
Adding another worst: My 4yo already not wanting to spend time with me anymore. For ages we’d organised to go to the “Dive in movies” at our local pool to watch Ice Age 3. It was going to be just me and 4yo and we had been excited about it for ages. He was going to have a sleep in the arvo as the movie doesn’t start until 845 (stupid time really). But today he ditched all of that because he wanted to play with the neighbours. To play with them he tried to sneak out the front without telling us. Then when his father and I told him he’s not allowed to play with them because he was so sneaky, he decided he didn’t want to go to the movie anymore either. I am absolutely shattered. I know this is lame compared to some horrible worsts on here, but he is only 4 and I desperately miss spending time just the two of us. This is the 2nd weekend in a row I’ve tried to organise something nice for me and him to do while hubby has 13month-old and the 2nd time he said he didn’t want to do it, despite being excited about it for so long before. It’s breaking my heart that he’s like this already, and I haven’t been able to stop crying about it…I’m not even PMSing!! I miss my little boy
Poor Guest. You have shown enormous strength to have broken it up, it must have been heart-wrenching. Those grey bits of life are the ones that make it impossible to wear somebody else’s shoes. I am not surprised to read that you are ‘terrified’; who would not be in your place. The unknown is just that.
I disagree with your final thoughts on e-mailing Mia for a Group Therapy session. It may not provide you with a solution, but may help calm your mind, and maybe give you a direction. Also, it may well help others with issues, if not necessarily the same ones. I would encourage you to go ahead. The fact that you have made four posts on this, further indicates to me that you may gain from it.
I was touched when I read this yesterday, and was not sure whether I should or could make any useful contribution, but I feel for you, and wished to add something, albeit sympathy. (Maybe its the ‘eternal romantic’ in me.) It would seem that you and your lover had much more than physical feelings for each other right from the start; it is only now that they are being stated and realised by you both, and it is scary. You both seem very loyal, faithful and caring, in not just walking away from your respective partners, so that you can be together. That makes it so difficult for you. Perhaps the time apart from your lover may help sort out things in your mind, and the advice given regarding couples counselling seems a good direction, and probably
essential for your own relationship.
Maybe it all proves that you can be in love with more than one person. But what does one do about that?
Also, how does your partner feel about children; also your lover? How do you and your lover’s wife feel about a family, which is probably not possible in their case?
In reading back over this, I cannot see much help, sorry. Maybe time will have to take its course; good luck.
never a truer word said Mia x
yah for you! so exciting! he is gorgeous…x
BEST: Meeting a new lovely friend at the gym
BEST 2: My beautiful girls being the beautiful girls that they are…
BEST 3: Getting my first pay cheque in 4 years..
WORST: Feeling good, no worst here..
I’m in the process of writing a post about Matilda and also, what’s helpful and not helpful to Mums of Angels.
Your comment doesn’t sound flippant – I started with making my bed as my goal each day.
…workplace when you’re new and part-time!
Thanks Liv72, I’ll hang in there. Sometimes you feel like the alien of
Poor thing, hope you get some well-deserved ‘time out’ soon.
My Miss 5 started school this year too; it was my saddest and yet proudest moment. You suddenly realise how quickly they grow up!
Tee hee. I have avoided Crocs with a passion because, well, they ARE tad ugly… but obviously I shouldn’t judge until I try them!!
I don’t know if this really qualifies as a worst, but is the use of the word ’squizz’ (as in ‘having a squizz’) an automatic dealbreaker when meeting a potential new partner? I’m afraid I pulled this out of the bag today when on the phone with a guy I was arranging to meet the first time, for coffee tomorrow. Sigh. I am a well-spoken and articulate person, but my ockerisms do tend to break out at the most unsuitable times. At least he still seemed happy to make the date…
Best: There are lots of lovely, normal people out there. Tomorrow will be my fourth RSVP date, and all of the first three were decent, friendly, non-freaky guys – no chemistry yet, but it gives me hope. As a bit of an introvert, I’m also surprised how much I’m enjoying meeting new people!
Best 2: My blog. It’s developing slowly, and I might post a link one day, but it’s a type of autobiographical fiction I’m not really comfortable making public yet – at the moment it’s a private project, a practice novel maybe, more than anything else. I’m having so much fun tinkering away!
Huge, mushy hugs to everybody who needs one this week.
BEST-I finally found some comfortable shoes that won’t kill me when I’m on my feet all day at work.
WORST-They’re crocs
I suggest, when it is anonymous, that you just delete it, and try not to let it play on your mind.
It strikes us all; I have had a similar problem this week, with an anonymous letter at work, and I am a lot older than you.
Good luck for this year.
Best of luck, Peanut (and congrats).
More hugs xxx
That’s really tough on you Felicitey. Tell her you love her. That’s the most we can do for each other, esp in bleak times. Good luck xxx
what a lucky baby brother – both of them!
Beautiful girl, don’t give those horrid people any more of your time or attention, they don’t deserve it x
I started a new job this week too and feel exactly the same way! Esp as it’s a career change so I am no spring chicken. I figure this is normal.
Good luck to us both!
That book is fantastic. I’ve had it for 3 weeks, haven’t had a bad recipe yet. The tuna with wasabi coleslaw was a particular hit.
what a spunk! Well done mum x
Thanks for all your advice x She uses Clinique so her moisturiser doesn’t have spf, but she has the Clinique sunscreen, just doesn’t use it! I will talk to her about the texture, maybe that’s it. Ad for the hat, well, it was picked by the girl but again, she wears it out of the house and then takes it off and puts it in her bag. Maybe I should threaten her with a foreign legion hat from the warehouse and hot pink zinc and see if she’ll take the lesser of two evils???
x
Congratulations!! He is so gorgeous.
Best – thyroxine medication finally seems to be making a difference, sleeping alot better and booked flights to New Zealand to see my sister in September for her birthday, it will be a year since I have seen her, so really looking forward to that! My eldest sister is coming with me so it will be a rare treat for all of us to be together.
Worst – nothing too bad, concerns over finances, but I always have to worry about something, lol, so all must be good.
Disappointed I missed out on an outing this week, it was my choice not to go, but feel sad because I just dont comfortable associating with some people anymore.
Best: sorting out my finances and discovering I have saved more than I thought. Yay for me.
Worst: caring for my sick little puppy this week has been tough. She’s such a gorgeous little thing, it breaks my heart when she’s not well.
My sister said recently that as a mother of three little boys, she’s learned to call the ambulance as soon as she hears the words “watch this guys”.
Sincere congratulations to you! What a wonderful time in your life!
Best: Spending time alone with my husband to celebrate our 5 year wedding anniversary. We had a couple of pre-dinner drinks by the harbour followed by a very special dinner at Rockpool. Must admit the food was disappointing but the company was great.
Worst: My nephew has split up with his wife and she has taken their daughter and no one knows where she is. It’s tragic to see the pain on my sister’s face as she looked after the little one a couple of days a week. It’s all I can think about as our daughters (2 1/2) are almost the same age.
Definitely awesomesauce. With bells on.
No bollocks on toast here!
BEST/WORST: Could be pregnant…. 1.5 weeks late (always on time) but all the pregnancy tests say negative! Excited that I could be… deflated beause its not giving me an answer!!
WORST: Dad has bowel cancer… bright side- it has been removed and has not spread..
The whole week has been bitter sweet really…
It would be really nice to have a “thinking of you with hugs” or similar button on here!
What a fantastic happy ending to your story Megs. Congratulations, he is truly beautiful…xx
Try a product called “Lalisse”. They sell is at chemists and the cleanser is gentle and lovely and very affordable. Luck!
KiwiChick, you & hubby are brilliant! I have been donating but nothing like that amount. But that’s really what it’s about, giving what you can, whenever you can, to help someone through a shitty time. Danya would most definitely call you an ‘awesomesauce’ kinda chick
Which just goes to show that we should follow our instincts more. How lucky that you did
Thanks Candi, I’m really looking forward to the broad degree! Good luck with your masters
Customers suck sometimes. But sometimes they’re lovely too. Where do you work?
I had acne as a teen and occasionally in my twenties, then in my THIRTIES I started getting full on cystic acne outbreaks. Tried so many freaking products, over several years, but the one that worked for me was “MD Formulations”, expensive but brilliant products. I have tried other AHA/BHA products but it was the best for my skin.
Understandably!
BEST: Hearing my 3 mth old chuckle for the first time was the cutest thing ever!!
WORST: Starting to cry in a cafe whilst asking my husband to take the baby out on Sunday afternoon asI have not hadmore than an hr to myself for 3 mths!! I blame tiredness………
Wishing you all the best on little Peanut.
Just look at THAT FACE! What a beautiful, chubby, healthy cute baby. Congratulations!
congratulations beautiful baby all the best
KiwiChick… I am not sure I really have words here and now. It is all these kindnesses that keep me going you know? All of them. I am not normally a big sook, usually I am the rolled up sleeves can do kinda gal. But the grind has worn me down. The constant worrying that we are only just getting by and there is no room to breathe.
Times like this I really need to come up with an even better word than awesomesauce. xxx
Like – except for the insomnia bit. Chat soon
What a beautiful Baby! Well done! Enjoy every minute.
Congratulations!!! What an ace little man!
BEST: I went to see Wicked on Thursday night – Brilliant!!!
WORST: We were in a car accident on the way down there & On the way home we were abused by a completely drunk and probably high young girl who proceeded to talk to herself and people who didnt exist – it was scary! If bad things happen in 3’s i’m worried what’s next! :S
Love to all going through a hard time! Danya, you are always in my thoughts, stay strong xxxxxxxxxxx
I’m 40 and I still get spots!! I have tried most things. Yes the pill worked for me but I also developed melasma (pigmentation)!! But the thing that has worked the best for me has been fish oil!!! You should buy a really good quality fish oil. I buy BioCeuticals UltraClean EPA/DHA Plus from my local health store. It really works! I have also recently started taking a supplement called Selenium. Since I have started taking both of these my skin has cleared up with just an occasional spot!! I don’t know why it isn’t promoted more to acne sufferers! A good quality exfoliator and moisturiser is good too! I haven’t tried the above products but they sound good too!
If it helps to vent please do so. I totally understand. I broke my leg when my youngest was 6 months old. People who I thought I could rely on would ring up and ask if I wanted to meet them for coffee. Seriously, with a broken leg, a baby and 3 toddlers going to a cafe was top of my wish list – not. My sister in law rang up and told me she was bringing lunch over for us. She turned up with a loaf of bread and then asked what I had in the fridge that I could make lunch for her with.
congratulations, he is the most gorgeous baby
Congratulations! what a beautiful baby. Enjoy every moment.
Thanks for your kind words C…the funny thing too is they are moving in 2 months so if I had waited… x
Oh Megs, he is so beautiful…makes all the heartache worthwhile, doesn’t he? xoxox
Hahahaha you guys made me cry! What wonderful support from people I don’t even know. Thank you all <3
I do adore this website and the community here!
Congrats, congrats, congrats! I’m so very happy for you!
If she is interested in fashion maybe buy her a cap from a label/brand that she likes…..even if it costs a lot….at least she will (hopefully) wear it!!! The same with a brand of cosmetics for her sunscreen! Take her shopping with you. It may make her feel grown up and cool/trendy at the same time.
Thinking of you. x
You’re in my thoughts. Sending you much love. xx
Worst: Last weeks best has turned into this weeks worst. The job I was offered was a disaster, I lasted a week, then resigned. The conditions, pay and most of all the lies to get me to work there really put me off. I caught out the HR woman lying to me four times. I realise now HR are there to make a company look fantastic to work for, they really don’t give a shit about you. Its all about portraying a great image to the public, so it doesn’t effect the share price. Its no wonder they have a huge turn over of staff. Definately a lessoned learned.
Best: The support and understanding from my fiance and family, they are gold!
If anyone is going to get through another week chookie, it’s you. x’
Well done! xx
Well done on the new arrival – best feeling in the world. xx
Take care of yourself. xx
Worst: Poor Mr 3 contracted a nasty viral infection from going to Kinder orientation day. He came out in the most dreadful spots we took him to hospital twice. Nothing we could do though until it just passed through his system. We thought he was going to miss his first real day at Kinder but…
Best: Spots miraculously cleared the night before his first day so he was fine to attend. He had a great time and was keen to go back the next day even though one of the kids apparently scratched his face and made him cry. We are so proud of him. Having never been to daycare and baulking at occasional care, it’s his foray into being away from mum or dad for any length of time. He’s coping brilliantly.
I’m sure all will be well. xx
Oh he’s just beautiful!! Congratulations on a job well done. xx
Congratulations.. how wonderful xx
Best of luck… I went through a very similar thing… but all turned out well. Hang in there xxxx
Oh my God,look at your beautiful boy…! He’s gorgeous… a thousand congratulations… how wonderful for you! Lots of love and hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
what a beautiful baby, congratulations x
If you are near a KIT store go straight there. I had been having the worst breakouts until Mario Badescu Enzyme Cleanser and Korres Vitamin C Serum came into my life. Run don’t walk, hope that helps! X
Happy Birthday Zeli! Sometimes the world just goes upside down for a bit. It will flip right side up before you know it. Take care! xoxoxo
Best. My Miss 5 started school. Strangely it felt more surreal that when her older sister started. She is a very annimated child, and the house was so quite, despite mr 2 still at home.
Worst: She got lost at assembly yesterday arvo and was a bit scared until her big sister, mum, and teacher found her very scared and bewildered. There were a few tears, but nothing a chocolate jam doughnut could not fix.
I have to agree with what Mia said. Bullies end up as losers, in almost 100% of cases. Just wait until your ten year school reunion, you’ll see that it’s true! i know it seems a good way off, but it’s TRUE.
hang in there Caffineaholic. Do your job well, ask you bos if other performance agreements contain as much detail (make sure the KPAs are measurable). And remember it takes time to get you mojo back.
You’ve made me cry! Congratulations to you – what a best! He’s so handsome already. Wow, wow, wow.
Best – I became a mummy on Tuesday!
Our beautiful son Jay Orion was born at 8.38am on 2/2.
Thanks so much to all the MMers who have given me so much support through my pregnancy and also through my 3 year struggle with infertility and loss that came before.
Your love and support has helped me through these times more than I can ever explain.
In particular I want to thank the lovely Kate Too – who has gone well and truly above the call of
duty when it comes to kindness to a stranger! Thanks a million Kate! xxx
Worst – absolutely nothing!!!
Good luck Peanut.
Thanks so much everyone! xxx
Oh Bern! what a sucky start to the new year with all those broken bones.
GOOD LUCK! I hope everything goes well.
haha Kell Bell, I had exactly the same thoughts about kittens and elbows!
I’m sorry to hear about your grandfather, wishing you all strength to get thru this time
Makes you think about how quickly things can go pear-shaped. Hope your friend has a better than expected recovery.
Worst: Have recently returned to part-time work as my daughter is now in kindagarten and my youngest is settling into part-time childcare. Worst bit is that workplace keeps giving me full-time projects and have a boss that likes to put every little project into my performance agreement. Also have a clock-watcher that sits next to me. Worst-est bit of the week though was when I came in on Tuesday, said hi to my team and all they said was hi back – no ‘how was your weekend?’, ‘how did your kid go with first day of school?’ I can almost feel their resentment that I work part-time hours and they don’t!
Best: All the grief above means I get to spend extra time with my kids and it’s so worth the trouble of being a part-timer!!
Thank you everyone! xx
good luck, i hope you get your little snoopy safe and sound!
Thanks for your lovely replies everyone. X
My son was 16 when I got ill and on my own and it was a really good thing for him, made him much less selfish and more grown up. I hope your illness is over soon. X
Best of luck with the doctor,I hope he/she gives you great outcomes.
I used to do the early shift every day when I was in the Navy. Terrible for me, as I am such a shocking nightowl – I got around it by knocking off at lunchtime and coming home and crashing for a few hours. Also, I was on auto pilot for the early part of the day. I loved it though – it was making the salads etc for lunch and doing functions. My fave part of cooking!
Why do you need a navigator? Do you not know your way to the city?
I dropped one of Mum’s mates (the dude who told me about it) at her bestie’s joint after a party at the pub tonight, and I was talking to her besty about how we were. When I was like 7 my old man was driving shitfaced (before RBTs) and crashed into a telegraph pole, and basically smashed the whole right side of his body – jaw, elbow, hip, knee were all either wired up or had pins in. He was in serious trouble – but was so wasted that he WALKED to the ambulance and asked for another scotch! He did do the whole rise above the operating table and watch near death experience thing. So he was really close. Anyway, Mum didn’t take us to see him for a few days, and when we did, we were really freaked out. It took us a couple of days, but we realised it was daddy even though he couldn’t talk (jaw was all wired up) and he was in a bed on an angle with weights and pulleys and stuff. I hope the girls do that in this situation – I think they will – you just get used to stuff.
I know! So sad. Apparently the kids are veering wildly between coping and understanding and not coping at all. Apparently Miss 11 was VERY brave. Poor little bugger.
LOL guess I should stick with Miss 5 for now huh? I am a cat person… just no cats and three dogs at the moment- go figure!
Crossing everything for you!
Shit Kris! Stupid boys… your poor friend and his daughter!
I have a new worst as of tonight (after a shift at the shithead boy’s pub – he didn’t even talk to me). Found out that one of Mum and my friends has been in the ICU at Royal North Shore since Saturday. He was riding bikes with his 11 year old daughter, and they came to a big hill. She was too scared to go down it, and said No. He said it’ll be fine, and went down it, and came off his bike at some crazy speed. He has compacted his spinal cord and had to have plates put on his neck vertebrae. They are talking paralysis from the chest down, but won’t really know for anything up to 12 months – needs to go to the spinal unit and then hit rehab etc once the swelling goes down. His poor little girl saw it all. Amazingly, the driver who stopped and called the ambos was a doctor! He is super distressed – they had to have him on a ventilator to get him to breathe. I feel so much for them as they are both migrants (her from Ireland, him from India), he has one cousin here (in Canberra) and thats it for local family support.
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worst: after having perfectly good skin all through my teenage years i got spots that refuse to away just as i turn 20. tried every product and nothing works. dont want to deal with a pill.
friends taking advantage of the huge sacrifices being made for them.
best: excitement for an amazing future thats about to begin
realising that my worsts are completely trivial and that i really am lucky.
Thanks guys. We were seeing each other before I started working there, and have been friends for about 6 years. Others are saying “Kick him to the kerb, he’s being a dick” but its a bit more complicated than that. There is something big going on with him, and I really want to find out what’s going on, because its not just me he’s being an arsehole to anymore (I can deal with that) but everyone else as well. My friend who is the other chef called me to come in tonight as someone rang and said there were 15 of them coming in for dinner, and then when I got there there was also a bunch of guys that Mum used to work with having a shindig as well – he knew about it but didn’t tell any of the girls. He’s screwing people over big time and its not fair. But because he’s the manager they are too scared to speak up – I don’t have that fear, but I KNOW how he will react, and it won’t be fun. IE when I tell him to pull his friggen head in and stop being such a prick to everyone!
Welcome Weddings with Grace! I know how horrible it feels when sport stuff gets cancelled too. I’m 35 and still stand at the window pouting when its raining on netball days.
That’s so great. I remember Mum saying she knew I was excited about starting high school on my first day because I had verbal diarrhoea! Hahahaha
Best: Mini cleo started prep this week and she is loving it. I am SOOOOOOOO proud of her!
Best 2: I was brave and didn’t cry…. much
Best 3: Found some support for a family situation that was playing on my mind far too much and was able to work out a way to articulate how I felt with care
No room for worsts this week – although what am I doing awake at ten to three in the morning? Need to address this insomnia thing methinks…
LOL same Kell Bell! I struggled when I was in the navy to be able to do 10 push ups to pass my fitness test!
Just think … now it’s day 3 of your next cycle – positive thoughts ahead for you
Oh isn’t the Australian Open the best fun? I went a couple of years ago, and it was brilliant!
Started scratching my head! Good luck in scaring them away!
Woo hoo! x
Danya – you are awesomesauce… xoxo
Hugs Jade. I was at sea with the Navy when I found out my Nan had cancer. It was horrible not being able to see what was happening and be here with my family. And I was worrying about what was going on and only hearing via emails from Mum. I really feel for you so much.
lots of love to you Maddie & prayers those moments will continue to come for you and your husband Xxx
Jessicarm – what a gorgeous big sister you are!
It was my thirteenth month that I feel pregnant and the twelfth was a really hard landmark. Just above here is a woman who has just gotten pregnant after three years! What I’m trying to say is, don’t give up hope, sometimes it just takes a long time and each month feels a lot longer than it is really when you want it so badly. I know that’s not a lot of consolation when you want it NOW (or yesterday), but all is never lost and life can change completely in an instant, it really, really can!
I wish there was something I could say to make things even a tiny bit easier for you Danya but I’ll have to jump on the bandwagon and say you and your family and Fatty are in my thoughts and prayers and sending you as much love and support as I possibly can on Mamamia. We are all in awe of you, such an incredible lady!!!! lots of love xoxo
What a little sweet heart! One girl’s loss is another girl’s gain!
hang in there LLC. lots of love xxx
you should tell her what you told us, if you haven’t already
and as for your early shift, loving the positivity!! the earliest shift i have to work is 6am and i loathe it like you wouldn’t believe!
definitely get that checked out as soon as you can,
on the bright side they’re okay and you can tell them these stories when they’re older! and they’ll say ‘really Mum, did I..?’
n than having to find out longer, now you’re free to meet someone who not only is ready but absolutely wants one with you, all the way
xo
Sorry to hear Jess, much better 2 months i
How awful Fiona, i’m sorry you had to be victim to something so very cowardly. Like Mia said on her video I think everybody’s brave when they’re anonymously sitting in front of a computer. You seem like a strong, intelligent wonderful woman and I hope you don’t let it get you down! xx
that must have taken a lot of courage to go see her…good on you I say
thats fantastic. i’m in a similar situation, things will never mend between my Mum & some of her rellies…but it’s great you took the incentive to actually see them 
x
thanks so much everybody, your responses now have me in tears. such beautiful support on this website!! love you all xx
Peanut, I hope your Little Bean becomes your Little Newborn Baby later this year. I know how hard it is to announce a pregnancy after a loss. We lost at 5wks, 10wks and 23wks. The next time I was pregnant, I told everyone when I was 20wks and still freaked out that it was too early! We got our bub though, and I hope you do too.
I cut back on sugar last year, and after a little while you really don’t want it, and sweet stuff is WAY too sweet. Good luck!
HOORAY!
At time of this post there were 425 comments. Mia, which of your feature posts has attracted the most comments ever?
*bollocks ON toast’.
You amaze me every week Danya, thinking of you and hoping next week is better. Sometimes it’s just a week, or a day, or an hour at a time, but you are so very strong.
Also – I love your expressions, they’re so spot on and really sum things up. Very much liked ‘bollocks and toast’. You keep your humour through so much, and are very, very impressive.
Me too! I thought wow – that kitten has a bad elbow!
My theory is (and I’ve moved a LOT), it can take six months to feel settled, but by then – you don’t even remember the hard times!
Oh that’s really hard for you and your Mum. It’s good to know that she can talk to you and you’ll be there for her when she needs you. Good luck to you both.
It’s always a bit like that at first, i am sure it will be fine! Good luck.
Best: I got to the gym a couple of times this week! This is a big achievement for me as I spent all of last week on the couch in between vomits!
Saw Little Bean again and he has become a wriggling tadpole and waved to us with his new arms!
Worst: We were so excited that we told our loved ones early – I’m at 9 weeks and they are SO excited. Last little bean made it only to ten weeks, so now I am freaking out that we might have to let everyone down. My MIL has started to sign off emails as ‘Grandma’. I hope we did the right thing telling them…
That’s pretty cool Jessicarm.
That’s amazing, CONGRATS.
Thinking of you!
Worst – starting a new important job and feeling like I know NOTHING!
Best – drawing a blank here – too stressed about my comment above
I hope you feel better soon! All the best.
Best – One more week of work to get through before 3 weeks of holidays! It has been a year since I was last in Oz so very excited to be seeing friends and family again and soaking up some sunshine. (Please stop raining before I arrive).
No worsts until airport goodbyes which never get any better.
Maybe it came up three times because it was such a super idea KiwiChick! I too have donated online, and will continue to do so, and hopefully everyone who is in a position to will also.
Danya, you cry as much as you need to. God knows, you are entitled! But your kids sound like absolute crackers, so I imagine that they are getting you and Fatty through the tough times. It is wonderful that you can still appreciate your bests! With lots of love xx
Maddie I hope you don’t think this is flippant or wrong of me as it is truly intended with love, but when I read your best my first thought was “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
I wish you many more hopeful future moments. They may be few and far between, but I truly hope they happen for you.
And maybe one day, when you are ready, you could tell us about Matilda. I would love to know more about her from her mummy.
Much love and healing xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
That’s awful Fiona. But you are obviously a super strong person to have focused on the positives on your first week back. Hope your year continues to improve and the bullies get what they deserve.
All the best xx
Yeah, I was going to suggest tinted moisturiser too.
I think you can also buy those gradual tanning lotions (the ones that make your skin glow rather than actually changing the colour) with an SPF factor in them, so maybe she might like to use them instead?
As for the hat thing- very very tough- I’m 22 and I can’t stand wearing hats, though I do have a visor I’ll wear occasionally. They just don’t seem to suit me. You could apply a one or the other rule? If she doesn’t wear a hat she has to at least wear sunscreen? Though you’ve probably already tried that!
Sunglasses are awesome- you can get some great ones that are in fashion and not too expensive from most souvenir shops, Jay Jay’s, beachy places, Target, Big W. etc. etc.
Magazines for her age group Dolly and Girlfriend often promote looking after your skin, especially during the summer months, so maybe buying a copy of one of those might encourage her because it’s coming from someone other than her mum.
If you’ve got a relative/friend who your daughter responds well to and thinks is “cool”, like an aunty or a cousin, you could maybe get them to talk to her about using sunscreen/hat wearing- may not seem as authoritarian coming from them- part of the reason she won’t wear sunscreen may be that she’s just being rebellious. “Mum says so- so I won’t” sort of thing.
Other option- scare tactics. Find some leathery looking women on the internet who obviously haven’t looked after their skin, skin cancer pictures etc. etc.!!
Good luck!! xoxo
If you’re ever in Adelaide, come to our zoo! Apparently it’s one of the world’s best for animal conservation and breeding programs! Also- we have Panda’s!! =P
Don’t worry amy_eb! You’ll very likely know by the end of your Arts degree exactly where you want to head career wise!
I started a double degree in Media and Arts- majored in Anthropology for my Arts degree. Took me 3.5 years of my 4 year degree to work out that I want to end up in Marketing and/or Advertising- so this year I’m doing a Master of Commerce (Accounting and Marketing)!!
As you do different subjects at uni you get to know where your strengths lie and what you actually enjoy. A B.Arts is great for that as it gives you the most options- you have to do a major (and at some uni’s a minor too) but you have a whole bunch of units you can use to test the waters of other subjects too!!
All the best!! xoxo
Lottie Jnr sounds brilliant, clever and hysterical! Well done to you for giving half of your genes and all of your love to create such a wonderful little person xo
OMG!! I was bawling this morning before work as well!!
Glad I’m not the only one, MrsCracka!!
Tara, I check out your blog almost everyday on my blog rounds and really enjoy your posts. So…keep it up!!
That was meant to go under TeddyBear’s “make that awesome” comment! Stupid puter!!
*giant hugs* for you Danya!! xoxo
and add the word sauce! =P
I don’t think you are being petty by feeling upset, but consider that they may have still been hurt by your actions/words and perhaps were not quite ready to email you back straight away. You apologised, that is all you can do at this time. Come Monday I’ll think you’ll find its all blown over.
Have a positively enjoyable weekend and I’m hoping the next week will clear up any concerns about your job
OMG Lol!! It took me a moment too Kell Bell!! I was like “wow, zelicat’s a real cat person caring about her kitten so much!” Haha!!
Happy Birthday for Wednesday! Have fun in Japan also, it’s an awesome place!!!
Feel your pain about running into ex’s- it’s always so so SO uncomfortable!!! xoxo
Congratulations!!! xoxo
*hugs*
WORST: Work… As those of you on twitter would know (I’m zang2424), I’ve had a lot of bad customers lately!!
BEST #1: Cleaning out a whole bunch of crap from the house!! It’s taken about 3 weeks bit by bit and should hopefully be completely finished by the end of tomorrow!! We’ve thrown out so much stuff and everything’s getting organised whichis HEAVEN!!!
BEST #2: Going away next week with the boy to our family shack out on the Yorke Peninsula!! Yay!! Can’t wait!!!
BEST #3: Got to the gym twice this week- worked really hard, and I’ve been eating better too so I’m feeling good!!
What amy_eb said… it was the same 11 years ago!!
Welcome
Compared to what I can do you’re practically Mr T
Even when Year 12 gets tough, enjoy every last moment because before you know it it is over. I graduated High School last year and Year 12 was the hardest, most testing year of my life, but also the absolute best year I’ve lived so far! Get a good balance of social and academic and get involved with extra curricular activities. Just enjoy
You had me completely confused for a second there Zelicat! The first couple of times you mentioned the kitten I thought you meant an actual kitten not your little girl, so to start with I was thinking “oh, I didn’t know kittens had elbows” then when you mentioned she had started school I had a big WTF moment! LOL, i think it’s time for bed, been a big day
Jessicarm, you’re a gem!!! Bless you for your beautiful approach to your younger siblings while being dilligent with your studies. The next 9 months will fly… just remember to keep grounded during this time and I have no doubt the world will be your oyster.
Your post has made my night! Such (seemingly) simple pleasures are worth so very much!
Good luck with your studies and the ” I Love You” lessons
that was weird! I definitely only hit “post” once -promise! Anyway, forgot the donation URL, it is http://helpthewellingtons.wordpress.com/
(And if this comes up three times as well, I’m sorry again)
only bests this week
Always manage to get a few smiles out of him and could just eat him up!
#1: my 3 week old baby brother is lying next to me in my bed as we speak as to give parents a little sleep (he’s a night owl) and I just love this newborn stage so much
#2: Getting great marks back for first assesments of year 12 and knowing exactly where and how to improve them
#3: Knowing that in 9 months school will be oveeeeeeeeeeer
#4: Teaching baby brother (aged 2) to say I love you
lots of smiles this week and full of energy
Best – my 3yr old watching soppy home and away “art of love” ad and saying “that’s you and daddy mummy, in love lots and lots”.
Worst – 8mth old has ear infection
So true Mia …. Stay this focussed Fiona and you will have am amazing year.
Thanks girls
Makes me glad I finally posted something! I suppose there is a best in my worst, I realise he is wrong for me and I am better off without him but it’s still a little hard to take! Holding out for that moment… 
A friend of ours had this surgery 8 years ago – hasn’t had a seizure since and is now a fabulous freelance writer, currently specialising in reviewing whiskeys for a Scottich mag .. not kidding! But wanted to share a positive experience.
Hi Fiona, I’m sorry to read your worst.
I was the target of bullying in High School from Year 7 all the way through to Year 12. I was pushed down a flight of stairs and had a lunchbox threw at my head to name some of the attrocious ways I was treated.
All I can say is, keep your head up, ignore the idiots and just think it’s only 10 months till it’s all over and done with.
Best of luck xx
Congratulations!
Your best is so sweet
Worst – Just found out that my Nan, who is my favourite person in the world has been diagnosed with Breast Cancer. She has to go for a lumpectomy on Monday and then we will know if it has spread to her lymph nodes. I wish I could be there to hold her hand but unfortunatly, I live on the other side of the world.
Times like this make me really annoyed that I agreed to my husband’s request to move over to the UK.
Best: Can’t say I’ve had anything really great but I got my blogging mojo back.
I know what that feeling is like (only I was the one arriving) – congrats!!!
Yes of course . . something that would be fun and promote fitness . . let’s call that off! Grrrr! That’s happened to me before too. Sorry – are there other ones out there you could enter?
Update: he GOT THE JOB!!!! Now real life can start again
Best: Lottie Jnr loving first day at new child-care. (She was so excited to be going, she was at the front door, back-pack on over pajamas, yelling ‘I’m Ready!’ at 5.45am)
Best again: Subsequent quiet day with Baby Lottie
Funny: Lottie Jnr suddenly referring to our car as Philip. Finally worked out it’s Philip as in ‘fill up the car’
Worst: Nadda
Strength to all those with challenging times.
Best: our new puppy, the whole family is in love with him. Even my husband who wasnt really keen. The kids take turns feeding him and cleaning up after him. I realised tonight he was the best thing when I saw my shy 7yo son hugging him and telling him he loved him.
Worst: The kids weekend sport starts again tomorrow at 7.30am. Holidays are over.
it’s doing that stupid early posting thing to me again….
what I meant was “and making perfect sense” on line
dear me
What a sad worst Felicety. Hugs to you and your mum for the weekend xxx
I’m in complete awe of someone who has just had a baby and is together enough to be posting – and making perfecon line! WOW
Welcome Ms Fox! As someone who is waiting on a family member to get the help they need, I say congratulations to you! Good on you for looking after yourself, and I’m sure your loved ones are proud of you too.
…..talking about it on here might help one day soon. Hugs xxx
C, whatever it is, I hope that it soon gets better for you and maybe
Kim, best of luck with everything. I really hate to hear when parents are awful like that instead of helping to make things better but you sound like you can rise above it.
Fiona, I agree with Mia. School bullies think they’re top of the pile but it turns out to be a pile of….well, nothing of substance with a great big horrible, rotting smell! And the smallness of cyber bullies – hiding beyond anonymity like the truly gutless cowards they are – you are SO MUCH BIGGER AND BETTER than then. Glad that you love school, starting off the year feeling positive is definitely the way to go.
Dont worry you will get your chance. I saw an ex last year in westfield…with his frumpy wife and scruffy kids. And they saw me. Its mean and nasty I know but he left me for her years ago and I was looking really hot that day (well I thought so!) and my kids were all behaving nicely and actually clean for a change! It was one of those moments…
Whatever is up I hope it all turns out ok xxx
I hope you let her take them! They offer because doing it makes them feel good so its a win win…
Hahahaha, let me just pause with excitement as I realise Mia posted something to me.. *Squeal*
And really, thank you. It is nice to know someone’s out there
Actually though, Mia, I was wondering if it would be a good idea to do a “Group Therapy” session on Cyber-bullying, as surely there are members on this site who have had it effect them personally, or families (Especially those with teenage kids). I also would love to see some information on “To Write Love On Her Arms” day, it is a wonderful cause.
Have a wonderful weekend everybody! xoxo
Thank you everyone!
make that TAKE a couple of loads of washing…typing one-handed while feeding.
It’s a depressingly common theme on here isn’t it – loser men who can’t move on then take out all their angst on our vulnerable precious kids. Perhaps we need a post on suggestions for GETTING RID OF THEM (in a non criminal way of course:))) Hang in there Jayhay, speaking from experience your children will very soon be old enough to make up their own minds about who is the better parent. Sad but true.
WORST – colicky newborn. Poor little poppet. Plus the chaos our house is in – sleeplessness and the constant cuddles required by said colicky newborn are showing.
BEST – some lovely church people have given us meals and one lady even offered to rake a couple of loads of washing and do them and iron (which I NEVER do) for me.
Hello everyone!
I’m a long time devotee of mamamia but haven’t had the courage or technical ability to post before tonight =)
Best: Two bests this week; 1: started sessions with a FABULOUS and amazing Psychologist who has turned alot of things around for me! Have never felt better and am so glad ive started the sessions.. worth every cent!!
2. Have been completely motivated by a new career direction (after completing a BA and Masters degree in education) and start work experience at a teen magazine next week! Finally going after what i’ve always, ALWAYS wanted to do with the maturity of experience behind me… I CAN’T WAIT!!
No worst this week.. everything is looking up!
Thoughts go out to all the amazingly strong women who are such an inspiration as they battle through so many worsts!
Best – 20 week scan this week and all is good!
Worst – struggling to think of one, so there mustn’t be..
Thinking of all those whose worst are bad though.
you are amazing.
You’re welcome darlin, and you saying I’ve made your day has made my day! x
Sounds like you should get it to your local tyre place for a wheel alignment sooner rather than later. Might be more but that’s the first thing to try.
aw darling! dont worry about that tool, you will find someone and think “what the heck did i see in that gremlin?” XD happy birthday and have a great time! (I was dumped the night before my 20th by a guy I was seeing. ’twas horrible)
yay! enjoy your new child, congratulations and salutations!
I love your BEST i’m doing the same thing at the momment. I haven’t been able to exercise properly for the last couple of days because my shoulder has been hurt and I feel so low on energy because I haven’t been exercising.
Best – Fantastic week all round!!! Really stepped into my power as leader of my business unit and made some good progress getting my hands dirty and getting amongst it.
- Recording a segment for a training CD, HUGE highlight of my career and life so far, i was on a cloud for hours!!!!
- Beinga sked to dinner this week
Worst – tired, tired, tired!!!!
My BEST thing for this week is that I don’t have a WORST!
SOunds like you are going through so much…my thoughts are with you.
Worst-Getting an sms from my mum today saying she didnt want to live anymore (her and dad going through a rather rough patch right now).
Best-Celebrating my birthday, my sons birthday and sending him off to kinder which I know he is going to ADORE, which also means some one on one time with my daughter, which is a rarity.
Thanks Frankie, I know she has to ‘(wo)man up’ and take responsibility for her actions and will be the better for it, in the long term. That doesn’t sit well with her though!
Wow! Congratulations! Well done you!
Thanks for your comment beachlife, I bet your parents are pleased with the way both of you eventually turned out
I think her dad’s lack of real involvement in her life is a major part of my daughter’s issues. It’s not just wild behaviour, she has depressive episodes and this is fallout from the most recent.
Best- Having 34 people visit my blog yesterday! So exciting! Check it out at http://www.zoetahra.wordpress.com and let me know what you think!
Worst- Trying to be there for my sister and mum who are having a hard time. I just want to make everything ok for them.
Your best is good, but your worst is terrible. I lost a dear friend, many years ago, through epilepsy. It is good to hear your positive attitude. May the cure for you be successful and in sight.
Sounds so daunting but Brain Surgery can be very successful. Good luck for Wednesday (and dealing with your mum).
Hugs, C xx
Bad thing happen in threes right? That’s 3 broken arms so it’s finished! Enough! ( I hope…) x
I hear you on the fence thing! I’m currently building a house and in my father’s fine wisdom (which is indeed correct but at which I will continue to roll my eyes at occasionally!) we must do all the retaining walls/fences before any house building can start. So we began. In Summer. With no shade. And it’s been nearly 3 months. *sigh*
Stay strong Louise!!
Thanks JayHay
Thanks for all you comments, it’s uplifting knowing I can come here and blab on & get your understanding & supportive replies.
Zelicat and Lu, that’s exactly what I think, she needs to appreciate the priviledge of having a license and her own little bomb to drive and I’m hopefult that she will in the long term. But the anger & bad attitude are hard to bear and I suspect will take quite some time to get past.
Yep, what C said.
I’m not sure what they are. But to not see the inside of the Gold Coast Hospital for the next 25 years would suit me JUST fine
Best: My baby went off to “Big School” this week – and she loves it!!
My fiancé and I planning our long-awaited and constantly postponed wedding.
All this rain we’re having after so much drought.
And our puppy makes a loving family of four.
Worst: Still having bad epileptic seizures.
I’m seeing a Super Specialist on Wednesday to discuss…BRAIN SURGERY!!
Staying with my parents while I visit the Super Specialist – and my mum’s manipulative and emotionally destructive attitude is enough to set off the seizures.
Parenting alone is bloody hard work and the cocknuckle should move on & appreciate what you do, rather than doing his darndest to do the opposite. Hugs Jayhay, you are doing a great job, keep on keeping on girl
so sorry Stacey. You are well and truly better off without that ex, that is for sure. xxxxx
Best: seeing my brothers. love them so much
Worst: still too upset about it to say, even on here
all the best everybody xx
On the bright side…your boys are clearly very physically confident….!
Hang in there…..I generally find that people who are bullies at school peak waaay too early and end up having pretty sad lives.
Beautiful news…congratulations….
Glad you are being looked after x
Oops, forgot proper worst… Running into recent sort of ex on my birthday with his new girlfriend. He left me for her and the look on her face was priceless. Yes, I did cry in Westfield while getting a pedicure. On my 21st birthday. Why do things always happen this way??
Congrats!
Shit. We need a backyard blitz style program to come in and help you out. One that takes over, gives you guys a mini break and I don’t know, just give you something lovely and unexpected. I don’t know you personally Danya, but I wish I did. You sound awesome. x
Nawww I think you just made me clucky. Sounds perfect, congratulations!
Best: I had a baby! He is in my arms as I type and just perfect!
Worst: No way, I got nothing there!
i did my masters last year… well and truly over study!!!!
Worst: MIL to be doing her best to ruin the lead up to our wedding. Her lying and manipulating really worry me because she is so good at it. If I didn’t love her son so much I’m not sure I’d be able to put the dress on and walk down the aisle.
Best: My Mum. It makes everything ok knowing that I always have her love and support.
Such good bests, such a shitty worst. Hugs to you x
Best: Turning 21 on Wednesday, counting down the sleeps til a long awaited holiday to Japan (5!) Seeing a lot of family and friends to celebrate
Worst: Minor freak out about being 21 (ridiculous, I know), minor freakout about cash for my holiday, minor freakout about the prospect of my last year at uni and 4 months prac I am required to do… and the money situation surrounding that
All in all a lovely week and silly worsts! Long time reader and first time poster
Best: Just decided to drop in on my Aunt as we were passing through Wollongong. She hasn’t spoken to the family in 16 years. It’s fair to say she and my uncle were a little taken back. In a good way though. I can’t believe I actually did it, there was A LOT of family shit going on all those years ago, but she was really pleased to see me.
Worst: Realising that despite the joy of seeing her, the rift with my Mum and my other Aunt will never be mended. The saddest part is that my Mum had to take sides and was caught in the middle of a disaster with her other sister… and there is still some love there for my Mum. And I know my Mum loves her too. However, my Mum and her sisters will never fix things, so I suspect I will not see them again.
I too, also went through something similar in Yr 12. You sound like you have got your head screwed on right for 17/18. As cliched as it sounds, you will grow up to be a bigger and better person than they will. I did…
P.S. Wii fit is awesome!
I live in Newcastle! What are you doing at uni? You’ll be fine, you’ll love being able to get almost anywhere within 20 mins!
People are a-holes. Unfortunately doesn’t stop when you leave school, but at least your sound much smarter than I did in year 12! Study hard lovely and focus on what you really love doing. Study towards doing that as a job in life and you won’t go wrong. Much love for 2010
Worst: The day before school started I got an anonymous post online set to me, saying something terrible about something very personal to me. Technically something constituting cyber-bullying. And nobody is admitting who did it. My gosh, I cried for hours. I got about 3 hours sleep the night before school started again. Worst way to start school. So upset. Devastated.
Best: OMG! I LOVE SCHOOL! I’m genuinely suprised. I’ve never really enjoyed school.. The classes, that is. Now I love it! I’ve finished my first week of Year 12 and I liked it. Especially my English class, I have a great teacher this year. And I’m doing all my homework, which has NEVER happened before! I’m very proud of myself.
Also, today I spent my lunchtime and afternoon free playing Wii Fit in my Media classroom, it was AWESOME! I love Wii Fit. Turns out I’m really good at yoga! Ha!
You guys are awesomesauce
Good luck, but be careful.
Hi Danya, I haven’t replied to any of your posts before, but I have read your stories. I find you to be the most inspirational woman who sacrifices everything for the people you love. You are the heartbeat of your family. I hope things get better and / or easier for you. You are allowed to cry – when ever you want. All the best, xx
Thank you both…today’s been a less than wonderful day, so I needed that.
2 x 10 Chin ups makes you a Buff Gym Queen in my world! Congrats!
Congrats!!!
Good to hear, thought it was just my kids! I think they can sense our boredom. So at the first ‘I’m bored’ whinge my husbands like ‘thank God, thats it lets go home’.
Enjoy your beautiful girls. Sorry things feel so sucky right now. It will get better. thinking of you lots love g. xoxo
Best – 2nd week since I’ve moved out. Freedom, experiences and independance. Bliss
Worst – Broke it off with a boy I was seeing because we were two months in and he ‘wasn’t ready for a relationship’.
Yes you will bloody well make it through another week. Your courage is incredible. hugs and love xoxox
She will never forgot the hassle of it and it will make her the most super careful driver. One of my friends at uni went low range DUI on her P’s and couldnt drive for a while and it made such an impact of her driving when she got it back.
Worst # 1: My Mum and I share a mutual friend who, over the last two years, has cut me/us out of her life and only pops up when she wants something. After discussing this at length with Mum just this morning, call Mum this afternoon to announce I’m popping around…but she’s at this friends house do I want to come around…short answer – NO. I know I’m going to be crucified for this, but don’t feel I need people like that in my life who only call me when they need something from me.
Worst # 2: Have this sickening feeling that the company I work for is up to something sneaky and may be trying to get push out their current administrators. There is no “real” proof but so many suspicious things that I can’t help but be paranoid!! Also loosing my temper with someone today at work, emailing them to apologise and them not acknowledging the apology. Am I just being petty by being up set about this or is it just as rude to not acknowledge said apology????
Best # 1: Having said person in my life makes me love and appreciate my real friends and wish I could see those that live so far away more often!
Best # 2: Have made a great new friend of late, and just by chance we’ve been talking about my problems at work and she is pretty sure she can get me a great job where she is working. Even if she can’t, it’s making me feel a little more positive on a bad work situation. This is helping from slipping in to my dark place!
I remember my eldest saying that to me which she was about 7 – it hurts like hell I know but they only say it because it makes them feel closer to the absent parent. You are doing a great job.. hang in there xxx
Best: I’m pregnant!!!!!!!!! So excited and grateful!
Worst: Certainly nothing to complain about this week! Am just a bix anxious and nervous and hoping that all goes well with the pregnancy. It’s going to be a LONG 35 more weeks but I will thank my lucky stars every day.
Best 2 : my darling toddler is being more and more adorable and affectionate and funny and is just so much fun!
She does it because she loves you.
Take care Jayhay, hope you can keep that black dog at bay.
All the best Vicki II
You must have done a lot of empathizing and appreciating yourself towards your daughter to have it coming back in such a lovely, reciprocal way. I hope your health improves ASAP!
An extra worst: Master 5 said on the way to bed tonight “Mummy I love you and I love Daddy, but I love Daddy the best.”
I know it’s just because he misses his Daddy (my ex) cos he doesn’t visit much, but it still hurt to hear it.
It is so hard leaving them when something is not right. You get in your car, drive away and just feel like shit. Things will improve x
That best is so lovely!
You made me laugh, hope RSVP brings you a lovely guy
Positive vibes coming your way x
Best- I actually cooked something my husband liked. Near impossible
worst- Manual labour, helping my dad biuld a new fence at my place. Seriously why didn’t just do a few extra days work and pay someone? Lugginf fence pailing to the tip isn’t my thing. especially when a trap door spieder ran up my arm.I kept jumping everytime so much as a fly flew by all day
Worst: 7yo falling off the Monkey Bars on Monday and shattering his arm. Not one month after his 3yo brother fell off his fathers’ shoulders and broke both of this arms. We are veritable shit magnets.
Best: 7yo telling me today: “Mum, you’re the best mum I’ve ever had”
Best:
Loving my new early shift. =D
Worst:
Driving to the city at 3.30am for the first time in the rain. My borrowed navigator is my brothers which has a broken charger and was given a suction cup too small! I was petrified the whole way! And my car needs to be fixed and is worrying me by shaking hard and pulling to the left
Well, I move to the Sunshine coast, which is very exciting, but I get lonely… Which sucks.
Aww leaving home starting uni- it is a bittersweet moment! I went through uni at Newcastle- its a lovely place and Newcastle is a great city- you’ll have a ball there!
Best: [last Sunday's included, yes?
] Meeting an amazing group of Australian Swiss fans at the Australian Open with whom I shared Federer’s victory with. It felt like we had formed a completely united group of friends, as well as a unique feeling of family. Even without the added bonus of the victory to celebrate, that week was amazing.
Worst: This is a bit of a bittersweet one. I’m about to start university in Newcastle (I live in Sydney). On Thursday, Mum and I drove up to look at my college room and while it’s very exciting, I’m dreading moving away from home. Coupled with the added emotions of the time of the month, I’ve been a bit sentimental about home lately…
I very very nearly did a Bachelor of Arts Communication Studies, but then political science pulled me away from that. I can see myself doing so many things with my life, working in politics, reporting for a newspaper, being a columnist for a newspaper/magazine, writing for a magazine… The list goes on. I’m just concerned I won’t be able to narrow it down.
I loved your best…that’s fantastic!
Maybe try and do something for yourself next week…might help…but it’s ok to feel sad sometimes though xox
Jeez Dayna, you made me cry!
Lots of love!
Thinking of you all, especially those going through really tough times xo
As for me…
BEST: My first two articles being published online this week! SO exciting!
WORST: Things are going well for me, but for some reason I am back to that horrible place where I just feel really sad. Hard to explain.
I really like your best this week Maddie, hold onto that TIGHT! XX00XX
Danya, everything that everyone else said…I wish we could just scoop you and Fatty up and make it BETTER…I cannot even begin to understand how it feels….hugs and kisses and hope, xxx
worst – i saw a friend this week who i havent’ seen in ages which unfortunatley reminded me how superficial and stuck up she is.
best – taking 8 month old to first swimming lesson and being joined by his two loving grandmothers. i’m so lucky having a terrific support network, my heart goes out to those without family and friends close by
Best: I have an amzing, wonderful, thoughtful, gorgeous, conscientious, empathetic, resilient 13 year old daughter who just fills me with awe.
Worst: A big reason that she is many of those things is due to me being chronically ill, and that as a single parent, she’s the one mostly left to be my carer, and it lots of ways she takes care of me more than I take care of her. I so want to get well…and I will, eventually. It’s just a long way away.
Worst: Master 5’s backchatting has escalated since starting school and I really lost it and yelled at him like a mad woman tonight. (We were able to calm down and talk about it later though.)
Plus feeling overwhelmed with trying to get back into the teaching profession and get my divorce started. And no child care available for Master 2 yet. (want to try him in 1 or 2 days a wk).
Best: It’s only been a week of walking Master 5 to school and I’ve already lost 1.2 kg! So happy! I don’t like exercise, and while walking is ok, I find it hard to do walking with no purpose. So walking to school works out great.
Wow you would have had some tense anxious moments- glad no one was badly hurt.
Worst: looking at my bad cash flow.
Best: My comment on the 9 words women use post
WORST: Being a bit of a dumping ground for my mum’s emotional ’stuff’ which has led to me feeling really frustrated at how my sister is handling her marriage split up. I feel like she should be able to be stronger and cope better and she should see that my mum is really suffering (physically and emotionally) from her neediness….But I am in no position to judge her as I have not been in her shoes and it must be terrible having to try to navigate through life as a single person after having a partner for so long. Then I feel extremely guilty about feeling like that about my lovely sister who is the sweetest person I know. Sorry…rant over!
BEST: Cooked yummy Apricot Chicken which Miss 19mth old loved. So glad we can feed her ‘grown up’ food now, makes things so much easier!
That’s a a hard one Danielle
Sorry to hear. Father’s wives are like that. Mine too. She thought I would break up the family, I was only 14 at the time!!
All the best for you during this time. x
Sorry my point is don’t let he make you feel guilty about it
Sometimes these things happen for a reason… maybe she needs to be off the roads for a little while?
Ouch! worst year of our marriage when I was Mr cats boss… it wasn’t pretty!
your excitement is infectious! Great news!
OOH I love cocknuckle! My friends refer to my ex as The F#$knuckle!
BEST: So many. 4yo starting kindy, me teaching my first meditation class, 13month old getting closer to walking.
WORST: Worst is always watching my mum slowly disintegrate before my eyes…
I so wish there was a triple like button…
Best: Watching my daughter mature into a young lady as she started her first full week at high school, and seeing the joy on her face when I pick her up every afternoon because she loves it so much.
Worst: realising that it is more than likely I will never meet my biological parents; my father because “his wife won’t let him”, my mother because she doesn’t want to accept that she gave a child up for adoption 36 years ago. What about an apology to the generation of children who were adopted because government employed social workers at hospitals talked unmarried parents into giving up their children?
Welcome! Lovely to hear from you!
Hugs for you all ((((xoxoxox))))
It is a great feeling, it’s like he was literally made for me. Thanks for being so supportive. It’s one of the things I love about this site, people I don’t even know are encouraging me in my dreams! That fact that you are being so encouraging has made my day, thank you!
Too Cute!
Best – My 18 mth old starting 1 day a week at day care – he did really well – I was a wreck, but am very proud of him.
Realising I am at a very good place right now, regarding family, friends & relationship – very nice feeling.
Worst – A good friend losing baby at 20 weeks, funeral next week. RIP Little angel xoxoxxox
That sounds heaps interesting! Im doing a Bachelor of Arts – Communication/Journalism. I was also thinking of doing a Masters in Communication Studies. Its ok, my interests are very diverse as well, it makes you a more interesting person in my opinion!
Dayna you amaze me every single day you get up and breathe in and out, and give so much of yourself. I wish for nothing more than you to have your old life back too. xx
*hugs* of the big, squeezy kind…xo
Worst: Hearing an ambulance near my kids’ school and realising it was at my kids’ school.
Best: Finding out no one was badly hurt.
Lovely! Literally put a big grin on my face, congrats!
Best – i have been exercising and feel good about myself
Worst- 2 close friends have annouced they are pregnant. Whilst i am over the moon for them, i wish is was me. After 2 years of trying and 4 miscarriages. Will my turn ever come????
Awww, look at all that MM love! Thank you. xx
Worst: a series of unfortunate events- car accident, the kitten has re-fracture the elbow she broke 2 years ago, being asked to give evidence about something that happened 15 years ago, all the bills due all at once and people not paying Mr cat on time etc etc
Best : we are all ok, it was only a car, the kitten will heal, the wonderful random acts of kindness by complete strangers this afternoon …The kitten started school on my Birthday and going for a lovely lunch with Mr Cat!
Love to all going through a rough time xox
BEST: Taking some real steps towards getting healthy and fit, feeling fantastically alive and energized
WORST: Not having an opportunity this week to share my new energy with my lover
PG this could have been my exact post (except I have a she not a he) – My baby started this week too and she rocked it….and i cried like a great big sooky baby
Yeah, good for you for respecting youself and knowing yourself enough to take that step.
BEST: achieving some fitness goals, the kids happily returning to school
WORST: Grandfather-in-law dying overnight. Lovely old bloke
hang in their mellymoo, Miss 3 and a half was the same when she moved in to the big room, now you couldn’t get her back to the little room for all the tea in china…it will probably take a couple of weeks…keep us posted..
your in my prayers Maddie…xxx
That must be hard for you! Hope things change for her soon!
Well said AJ x
You’re not alone Susie, I too struggle with eating. Am thinking about seeing a therapist as I do a lot of emotional eating.
make that awesome…
what an aswesome person you are Danya…you, fatty and your lovely children are in my prayers x
My friend is the same- hope you find something to stimulate your brain. Have you considered online/distance study?
Merryl, you’re doing the right thing not ‘taking’ the points for her (& I don’t just mean legally the right thing). I have worked with lots of young people and most of them who have the support your daughter does do get through this time. Hang in there and keep on loving her xx
Ms 10’s dad is Maori she has lovely skin that tans very quickly, much to chargrin of her pale blond cousins…
and unfortunately she believed her dad when he said that “our skin can’t catch skin cancer”
eergh! morons shouldn’t be allowed to use their tongues sometimes – yes he really said ‘catch’…
Danya, I know everyone’s best & worsts are valid, but mine just seem so pathetic right now. I’m thinking of you, and wishing you the best of everything, always. Honestly, I just hope some part of this gets easier for you & your family. xx
Welcome Weddingswithgrace! Lovely to have you speaking up!
Kids are just gorgeous when they’re all affectionate like that, you remember why being a mummy is so good
ooohhhhhhh……when my son started school (years ago) I was the only mother who cried ON ORIENTATION DAY
Oh my god, cockuckle! That’s fantastic.. sums him up completely!
You will get through another week Danya. But please feel free to come and vent. Everyone is rooting for you!
So good when you muster up the energy to cook something new and it’s appreciated- yay for you!
Best: Having a clear MRI scan. breathing, loving life. There is no worst here. It could have been, getting teary when waiting for the results, and feeling ill and miserable, but at each of these times I had the support and love of my love team…. love and strength to you all wonderwomen.
Thanks you guys.. the support is always appreciated xx
We’re all thinking of you Maddie…..x
just keep hanging on, hanging on. one day at time, I hope the Gods smile on you and your family very soon xxx
All the best Vicki – and good on your partner for being so supportive.
Stupid ex. Thank goodness your kids have such a loving wonderful mum like you! xx
hugs xxxx
humidity. Good luck!
Be careful not to go completely off salt- surely you’d need some in this
How fantastic!!!! Congratulations xxxxxx
So glad you’re getting such lovely support from your partner
Damn right you will Danya. Wow you are so strong. Hoping next week is a little bit better for you x
Headlice is the worst. Drives me insane.
Yes you will Dayna and I think if any one of us could wave a wand and give you your old life back, then we would. The shit days are going to be there a lot and that’s okay.. fall into it if you need to and then climb back out again…. it is okay to feel rotten and it is okay to have a laugh as well.. as always, stay strong, even when you feel crap… big hugs xxx
Fantastic news Mathilda! Congrats!!!
All my love and prayers
Oh Danya – no doubt about it, you’ll get through next week and the week after that. You’re amazing.
Best # 1 – Going for a run on 4 out of the 5 days this week! Endorphins create SUCH a buzz!
Best # 2 – Getting to catch up with a friend I hadn’t seen for a month.
Best # 3 – Learning a lot this week.
Worst – Still unsure about the bf…and wishing my feelings could just sort themselves out!
Oh that really is such a hard situation. I think EmilyR is right, maybe couples counselling? Wish I could offer more advice, or have something great to say, but I don’t. And like you said, I don’t know the whole situation, so no judgement from me. Hoping you take the right road. x
Love and prayers and hugs to you. xx You have a beautiful strong spirit that I am in awe of.
Thinking of you. xx
That’s so great, lap it up!
You will Danya. Sending a lot of love and strength to you and your loved ones. xx
Fingers crossed for more moments of hope xxx
ooooh boss and bf… complicated
Worst : I’ve been good. I have tried my hardest. Can I have my old life back now? Please? It’s not going to happen is it? Forever and ever is an awfully long time and it looks so very, very bleak. I have laid in bed and cried. I have cried in the psych’s office. I have cried in the shower. I have cried while hanging out the washing. All my ideas about how my life would be have gone. Fatty is miserable and in pain. His arm is swelling and the wound has started to smell. We have new drugs and dressing. We have adult nappies and a lot of laundry
Best : Well the worst is really weighing me down. It is a big steaming pile of bullshit and chips. But the kids are back at school and all seems well there. When asked by the dentist what was the most important thing about her smile Miss 10 answered “To have one.” Mr 13 put his foot through his bedroom window and escaped injury. Miss 7 has given me lovely cuddles all week. I have lost 5 kilos. Lovely donations bought Mr 13’s school books and a new pair of school shoes for Miss 10. I WILL get through another week. Just you watch me
Congratulations. What exciting news! It would be hard having to keep that a secret for the next 3 months. All the best x
I feel for you everytime I read your posts Maddie. I can’t comprehend your grief. But I think you are so strong x
I wish I could offer you more Maddie, but every week I’m just going to try this, so that you know that I am thinking of you and hoping that you are moving through your grief knowing you are supported, not only by your family and friends, but by anonymous people who have a lot of care in their hearts foryou while you’re going through a hard time.
So the biggest *hug* from me to you.
Wow Congratulations! Oh you must be so happy. All the best to you and your partner. That’s really great news
New best and worst – It’s been a year since Black Saturday. Best because of the pure strength and determination of all those people directly and indirectly affected by the fires. They show true courage. Worst, for the most obvious reasons. It was such a devastating time for so many. Sending my love to all those affected x
He was on the radio this morning too while I was driving to work, it was so sad. I was cried too. Turned up to work in tears. Really puts things into perspective.
Congrats Congrats Congrats! I’m doing a little dance for you lovely!
OK, after last week’s mammoth B&W and multiple follow ups I am going to TRY to post just one of each this week.
Best: Feeling supported by the beautiful women on the MM community after having a shitty week last week. To validate that what I felt was ok to feel was so incredibly lovely and helped me a lot to move past the whole thing with my parents.
Worst: Got even sicker than last week, culminating in antibiotics, antiinflammatories and fainting (gave myself a dirt facial!), but am starting to feel a whole lot better after days of rest!
Best: I just found out I’m pregnant after 3 years of trying and I still can’t believe it!
Worst: Can’t think any after my good news!
Yes i understand where your coming from. Not that I have kids myself….but….Took a school bus of kids (6hrs) to the zoo, they too became bored very quickly. Oh it was such a lonnnnnnnnng bus ride home! thankfully I didn’t have to pay to get in.
I bought this book too.
Fantastic best, it’s a great feeling when you’ve got ‘the one’. Keep plugging away at the work experience stuff. Show them how determined you are. Work hard and you’ll get there. Let us know once you’ve got the gig
Best : Feel like I’m in the groove with exercise finally, and getting into the 2010 routine
Worst: Why do 7 year old boys always have to have an answer for everything ? I’m sure i was the same as a kid and i’m doing my best to be nice, but for goodnes sakes, just be quiet!!!
Oh JayHay, how blatantly crappy. I hope things get better for you soon. Keep doing what you’re doing and stay strong. x
Best – Moments of hope about what the future could hold.
Worst – Forgetting that Friday morning is baby reading group at the library (I made a mental note to make sure to avoid Friday mornings after going through this the first time) and having to stand and listen to a Mum tell the library assistant her baby will be three months old tomorrow. Matilda would have been three months old last Friday. She’d died before this baby was even born.
Worst- My boyfriends birthday this past Tuesday and him not dealing well with turning another year older and having to work on the day. I felt bad for him but he has to learn for these things to not bother him so much.
Best- I really dislike running but after being nagged by my brother just to go on a short jog with him, I have been twice this week and shock horror, actually didn’t mind it!
So glad you’ve decided to comment! Well done about training for the marathon. Maybe start to set yourself your own goals – so that by the time the marathon would’ve been here, you’ll be able to run one anyone… and hey, maybe it’s a good thing. Gives you a bit more time to get even faster and beat everyone there!
Hi eMBee- I know exactly how you are feeling about the job situation- I am currently in the same boat and it is not fun. I am trying to listen to some advice given to me by a friend when I was being particularly negative that I should wake up and go to bed knowing I did everything I could that day to find a job. Not easy to do sometimes but we have to have hope!
wow that’s awesome, be proud of yourself for the chin ups
Oh what a fantastic best, so lovely to hear
Best: My fiancee finally arrived after six months of us living in different countries and is here to stay!
He`s already rearranged all the furniture in the apartment (for the better) and bought a new TV. Bless.
Worst: No worst!
JayHay – that sucks. If I could buy you a drink, I would. But, you just have to make do with my well wishes
Best: achieving 2 sets of 10 chin-ups at the gym! Yay for me! (simple pleasures, really!)
Worst: realising that my pay-packet this month is barely worth the effort I put in to get it (bloody commission….) and wondering exactly how I’m going to pay for our family holiday to the beach next month….*contemplates selling many, many items of clothing on ebay*
Best: enrolled at uni…unsure whether to be more excited or nervous!! Starting a new health kick after a low point, feeling good so far.
worst: bloody PMS
Going off alcohol is bad for you ! Every time I give up alcohol I eat more and put on weight.
its a very hectic friday (and im on mama mia… oops. it is my lunchbreak though) and it made my afternoon a bit sunnier
Sending you a big hug pinkpiggy xx
Thank you EmilyR and beachlife. I agree – kindness from strangers is just so nice. Particularly when they compliment a very swollen (I live in Sydney and this humidity is KILLING me!!), waddling pregnant lady. xx
Loving the post-exercise endorphins at the moment too!! Glad everything is looking cheery for you!
Oh Merryl, don’t know what to say! Sending you hugs.
BEST: The first full week of school for Mr 5 and Miss 4. Miss 4 started ballet (she unfortunately has her mother’s co-ordination but she had a smile from ear to ear and she looks adorable in her little blue tutu and pink ballet shoes!) Mr 5 started tap and to my absolute delight and surprise, THE BOY HAS RHYTHM! After just 1 lesson he was keeping up with the kids who tapped last year! He also had a grin from ear to ear. Nothing makes me happier than seeing my kids happy.
WORST: Seeing Mr 5 cry for the first time at school yesterday. As I walked away from his classroom I could see him standing there alone, wiping his eyes. It broke my heart
Congratulations A!!
Best: My eldest survived his first week of high school. Made some friends, got himself to his classes (most of them!), worked out the locker system, navigated the new school, started catching the bus to and from school on his own etc. It’s been such a big week for him but he’s really enjoying it.
Best 2: Joined a gym and went for the first time today. Loved it. They’ve even got a spa in the women’s change rooms – gotta love that!
Worst: Friggin headlice back again on my 7 year old. Can’t bare it!
Bachelor of Arts, planning on majoring in Political Science & International Relations… The I’ll see where I want to head and maybe do Masters in Communication Studies or Politics… My interests are too diverse I’m afraid!
What a cocknuckle…I wish we could stab men like that in the balls
Oh what an amazing sounding little girl you have. Even if that other girl doesn’t know what she’s missing out on I certainly want to be her friend!
Ange that bought tears to my eyes! I’m glad Sarah has found a little friend xxx
Nothing too crazy here this week.
BEST: I met a really lovely mother at one of those indoor playground thingies this week. We kind of connected and had a few laughs about the same kinds of (non-kid) things. It’s cool when that happens. And then we swapped numbers. So I guess I picked up?
WORST: Sydney’s humidity. I feel like a sweaty whale. Awesomeness.
Missy, Best of Luck with RSVP. I hope that you find someone amazing on it and someone worthy of you. One of my very good friends just joined up herself last month and now on weekends is taken out for breakfast, lunch and dinner! All by different men! Enjoy!
Job guy sounds like a jerk.. if you not making a personal phone call at work re another job isn’t enough for them to see that you are a good worker then what is?? Good luck, I hop you get something very soon ..
Oh bless WollyWally, I just love her.
Wow…how did he react? Is love being re-kindled? Would be very cool story to tell if it is
Worst: work was just CRAP this week. I was snippy with my boss, I didn’t want to be there and i was bored. Hopefully better this week. Actually, in hindsight it was probably just me having a crap week and work possibly wasn’t to blame…
Best: I got kissed by a boy this week, after being taken out for a lovely dinner, then watching tv on the couch and chatting. It is very complicated and I’m not sure what’s going on in his head, but the kiss was very nice
turns out he ‘accidentally’ left something at my place too, which he is using as an excuse to have dinner again soon. He doesn’t need an excuse to see me, but its cute that he thinks he does!!!
BEST: I’m training for a marathon and last weekend ran from Manly to Bondi. Beach to Beach is my new favourite run. Forget pub 2 pub and even City to Surf, from now on I am all about the Beach to Beach. Was a truly great feeling.
Another best was commenting here for the first time. I read Mamamia religiously everyday, and feel like I know and love you all without actually ever commenting, which I realised is a bit rude and not like my normal party behaviour at all as the equivalent would be going to party and not ever introducing yourself to a single person even after they’ve shared all their own personal and very touching stories.
(In another life I worked at ACP Magazines myself and so absolutely loved your book Mia. In parts I felt like I was reading my own diary. I had felt like it was time to leave when I did though reading your book made me so nostalgic for it again…)
A Christmas tradition in my very large extended family is nominating our favourite books and films of the year and you had the honour of being the book to receive the most amount of nominations. Ever)
WORST: Said marathon that I’ve been training for was cancelled this week. Was meant to be on weekend after Easter in Canberra. Who does that? Who cancels a Marathon? Apparently there is a fight between the organisers and the operators and the ACT Minister didn’t know who to close the roads for and so they’ve cancelled it. There is talk of someone putting a replacement one on a month later but know I don’t know if I trust them and hate that I had my goalposts cancelled…and then possibly moved.
Thanks
WORST1: I was rejected from one job after making it to no. 2 of 120.
WORST2: I had been given the weekend to think over another job I was offered, rang on Tues as I’d been called into work Mon so couldn’t call. Had to leave 2 messages for him to call back. He finally rang back two days later to say that as I didn’t call Mon he was going to advertise the job and I now have to compete with other applicants but still haven’t heard anything so not looking hopeful! Have spent the last two days feeling rather dejected and angry and have NO money so have been spending waaaay too much time at home alone with my thoughts. I started the week with 2 potential jobs and ended the week with nothing. I have so much to offer, I have a degree and two diplomas, yet no one wants to give me a chance because I don’t have enough experience..
BEST: at least I have my health!! I’m about to cook the bf a lovely dinner and bore him to death with how much I want to be working full-time. (yes, one day I will regret saying that I want to work full-time but I’m rather sick of living on $150 a week)
Love your Best 2….there isn’t any dance lessons where I live. I would love for my little 4 years old to go to dance lessons
Best: having so many people being understanding towards me after the chemo treatment last Monday, I still have 3 infusions to go. Also knowing it will give me good results in the long term so I’m pleased to put up with the tiredness and sweating for now. Able to swap doctor stories with my father who is having some tests for his heart. My lovely partner doing all the cooking, shopping etc and being very understanding about it all.
Worst: feeling crap and not doing much.
stupid bastard ex….
I hope things get better for you, hang in there. xx
BEST : Febfast – Alcohol free February for Charity …. http://bit.ly/cw55o2
WORST : Gaining just that little bit too much weight that my pants won’t do up – thank god for harem pants & brothers who come to the rescue with amazing fat ripping eating plans. How will I cope with no sugar, no salt, no oil ??
Best: My kids. Who I love so much.
Worst: Black dog lurking.. finding it very difficult to cope with so little money, bastard ex not helping out with back to school stuff and telling kids the reason he left me (they won’t say because they don’t want to hurt me). It’s been six years. Move on I say. Sick of being stuck so far from family, got speeding fine and I swear I wasn’t speeding.. blaaaahhhh.. sorry to be so negative.. parenting alone is hard work
How steamy is it? I’ve given up with my hair, its been in a ponytail all week.
hehe it is a little bit funny. I actually had some shockers this week….but all I could think about were my feet
I”m glad it gave you a chuckle…there’s a silver lining to the cloud….I made someone laugh and that rarely happens
oh God, best wishes for some good news soon.
WORST: A Land Cruiser reversed into my Barina
BEST: I’m a live!
thankyou livle.life.love. That really means a lot to me (& I’m a quote girl too) xx
Yikes! What is it with boys and their (expensive) toys? Yes fingers and toes are crossed that we’ll find some sucker to take it off our hands and at least break even. Anyone out there want to buy a 1971 convertible MGB???
Congratulations! Enjoy this time when you have such exciting news just to yourselves!
Best: my baby started preschool – he rocked it! So proud of him.
Worst: my baby started preschool! I cried after I left him for the first time.
I’m glad things are going so good for you! What are you studying at uni?
I hope next week is a little kinder to you xo
I hope the visa works out for you!
oh…the hours spent sitting in the hospital waiting room. I’m not a fan either!
Aha! I knew it! Thanks Emma Lou x
i watched that too. i cried
BEST: Having the best boyfriend in the whole world. Im seriously blessed to have someone who loves me so much and knows how to deal with me. I can only describe him as the one!
WORST 1: I am so sick of having zero money. It makes me hate being a student and makes me worried that a job may not come out of my career and Im fearing that down the track I won’t have the funds to provide finanicially for my family.
WORST 2: I have been trying so hard to get work experience at any magazine or newspaper and no one gets back to me, not even to say that there is nothing available! I called Cosmo 2-3 months ago and emailed them and even though I was told “I’ll get back to you soon”, I’ve heard nothing. I’m offering to work for free and I don’t understand why I keep hearing silence. I just feel like my dream is so far away and I don’t know what to do anymore!
Best – my lover boy getting into the course he wants and seeing him so happy about moving forward in his career & life *proud*
Worst – my lover boy getting into the course he wants and having to leave me 4 nights a week for the next two years *wahhh*
i know how much wet feet suck, but it made me giggle reading that – i do it so many times!
Best: Finally coming to terms with the fact that my 2yr relationship is over and that I’m actually ok with it.
Worst: Fighting with the ex about me moving my stuff out of the house and him telling me that he is having second thoughts! And he broke up with me. WTF.
Needless to say, the ‘best’ came after the ‘worst’…
Congrats on the writing! Good luck with the column…..sounds like you are living my dream
Best: Finally found my Mama Mia book which had fallen behind my bedhead! huzzah! Thought i must have leant it out and lost it, happy now!
Worst: Work has cranked it up in a massive, mind destroying way this week. Feeling down but determined to make it big this year.
By the way i love the kids first days at school updates. my job means i spend a lot of time at different schools and the kids always make my job seem pretty awesome, even if you do get the odd terror!
It was George, Emily R.
Best: Watching my 5 year old start school – and want to keep going back. He seems really happy and i am so proud of him.
Best 2: Seeing my 3 year old love her first dance lesson – they all looked so cute.
Worst: Beginning to get sore hips during my pregnancy – don’t want to feel restricted for the last 3 months, but I know it’s not going to get better until the baby is born. Frustrating!
Thanks emily, yes i had considered the couples counselling… and it probably is definitely worth a try. Who knows what we’ll discover… Maybe it could convince him to look into tests/possible treatment, etc. It’s just hard imagining this tough rugby-playing guy going to therapy. I’ll work on it.
And their situation, you’re right they will definitely need help if they want to stay together for the rest of their lives, and be completely happy with their relationship.
Glad everything worked out. x
Really Picardie.girl? That zoo sounds awful. But the animals were either just lying there asleep or pacin at Taronga. It makes me sad that they are not in the wild where they can run etc. But then I know that alot of them may not still be alive if they were in the wild. It’s sad all around.
And Lu, it did cost a small fortune! I think it was $41 per adult!
My Nan was stoked, she can’t remember what she said to him! We were all so excited to meet him. And he was just the same as he is on tv, just hilarious and so friendly.
Miss 18 months sounds like my 3yo. Busy, busy, busy…
Great news preschool went well. A weight off, no doubt.
And I’m with you. Couldn’t go back to the newborn thing.
x
It’s hard, but 9 times out of 10, they’re pretty much over the upset about 5 mins after you’re out the door! I always found it was good for a while, then they’d start getting upset, then it would be good again… Best thing is to just be confident, say goodbye and leave fairly quickly, assuring them you’ll see them later. They’ll be fine! Understand the heart pull tho. x
Thank you for your thoughts…
I’ve toyed with the idea of emailing Mia for a Group Therapy session for weeks now… even drafted the letter.
But I realized this is no one’s problem but our own. And I’m not sure if people would be able to see or understand all of the grey bits that make up a life, not just the stark black and white lies.
If I can get through the next few weeks/months then hopefully I can forget him. I’d never been tempted by anyone else ever before, and I’ve had plenty of opportunity, but I was just never interested in anyone, so I don’t think it will happen again.
Which makes the eternal romantic in me wonder, what if this is meant to be? what if he is the one i should spend my life with? and everything else has just been a lead up to this. (I really shouldn’t think like this!)
I feel like i’m at the most important cross-roads in my life, and i’m terrified.
I don’t watch very often but I was curious to know who died – I missed it, was it Izzy or George?? (my money was on George).
I was weepy too, and no alcohol involved. Just an emotionally charged episode. Means it was good, I guess!
Cheer up dear Frankie – you did mention before that it hasn’t been a good week.
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“There is a way out of every dark mist, over a rainbow trail” – Navajo Song. I hope you find that rainbow trail (corny, I know…but I love quotes
Oh, forgot the worst, worst (the rest is just shit)
My ex’s uncle passed away on Monday. A lovely man, RIP Stan xxx
Oh God, Grey’s had be sobbing on the couch too! My flatmate came home during it and thought something terrible had happened to me!
Best: Two this week: 1) The 5yr old became a 6yr old. He is so proud to be 6! Me too. 2) Bought Jane Kennedy’s ‘Fabulous food, minus the boombah’ and LOVING it. Have made 3 recipes from it already. It’s always good to try new food, and Hubby is very impressed.
Worst: Off to hospital AGAIN with 3yo last night. Thought he may have swallowed some burst balloon. He started vomiting and looked to be chewing something, and the some bits of orange balloon were hanging around. They gave him some medication at the hospital to stop the vomiting. We tried some juice. He threw it up. So we waited until the drugs kicked, tried some more and he was fine. Didn’t leave the hospital until just after midnight, in bed by 1am! Ugh! Not a fan of the hospital. That’s life as a parent!
Best – a workmate’s birthday lunch. The best, best bit? Our CEO leading the charge and making it compulsory to stay for the afternoon and supplying lots of wine and gossip!
Worst – Crush Boy’s ex is insane (seriously) and I think I have to back away from that situation. Then while wishing my ex a happy birthday, he tells me he doesn’t want me in his life at all anymore. A shitful night.
That must have been a very strange experience…..you’ll probably be thinking about it all weekend!
Can I have an average too please?
Average – watching my baby start school – the most bittersweet time.
Ta.
That sounds like a horrible situation to be in Guest. If you have decided to stay with your current partner, can I suggest you convince him to go to couple’s counselling with you? If you have a really healthy, happy relationship (apart from his lack of libido), then hopefully he will be open to the idea. I know you said he’s not interested in finding a medical cause for his low libido but for the sake of your relationship, he needs to recognise that your needs are not being met so that together, you can find a solution. Good luck xo
PS Maybe you could suggest to your lover that he and his wife go to counselling too? Their situation sounds even worse.
Best – watching my boy come first in his swimming carnival race. There’s just nothing like mother pride to get that emotional rollercoaster rocking.
Worst – haven’t been for a run all week, and now have a Bob Jane TMart outlet around my middle. Better luck next week.
Best: Writing my favourite blog entry and talking to my best friend.
Worst: Getting sick and being confused as to why my body is whacking out on me.
Congrats! I get married in two years.
It’s wonderful that you are rejoicing in your friend’s happiness. Hopefully you’ll figure things out with your other friends!
Best: catching up with some gal pals (sans children) for dinner last night – lovely.
Worst: sick kids (colds & coughing all night) but otherwise, a great week!
Thankyou guys … Makes me feel better to know others are/have been in the same boat.
Think I’m going to have a lovely big glass of red tonight – have been abstaining, but tonight I say bugger it!
I had a breakfast meeting today and was the 3rd parent to drop their kid off. My son just gave me this puppy dog look as if to say “why are you doing this” as he looked around at the almost empty room – and he’s only 15 mths old!
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So I feel your pain!
Love your Best 2
It’s been a horrible week, I’ll struggle to find a best by the end of this.
Worsts: forgetting to pay deposit for holiday house which I think we have now lost for next holidays; kids have been off their heads fighting/screaming & behaving like very unhappy little people; arguing with husband most notably about tins of tuns (don’t ask); tired & yuck.
Best: nothing REALLY bad has happened. That’s it.
I am so happy that you are allowing yourself to both love and be loved.
Get better sweetie!
i thought it was just me! I love Greys but i think it set me on a bit of an over-emotional spin too. In general sad things make me sad but lately i’ve been a blubbering mess!
Your daughter sound so cute!
My god Guest, that is one tough situation. I cannot think of a happy solution. Good luck..
Best: Major major kudos at work this week after pulled out some ar*e saving advice on a project going down the gurgler! Wish I didn’t have my best moments as work related but its been a long slog and I”m proud of myself!!
Worst: Just stepped in puddle and am sitting at work with wet feet! Hardly bad in the scheme of things really but still!!!
Congratulations!!!
And good luck keeping it quiet!! it must be soo hard…
Congratulations! Now enjoy the next few months they go so fast
We hate taking our kids to the zoo. Last time we paid a small fortune to get through the gate and within half an hour the kids were all complaining they were bored.
I know exactly how you feel re your worst, I’ve also hit the 12-month mark this month. It’s all-consuming and it sucks big time!
Best & Worst: Bumping into an ex-boyfriend (from interstate, circa 1992!) in the corridor of my work place just now…
Trust me, I never agreed with affairs either. I was always the first to diss affairs, and always maintained I’d have the decency to break up with someone before pursuing anyone else, and if anyone did it to me – they’d be out of the house so fast! But now… I see things differently.
If there’s one thing I can take away from this, it’s that I will never judge someone’s actions when I don’t know the whole circumstances.
My partner has an extremely low sex drive, and by that I mean he’s not interested at all. He’s also not interested in seeing a dr about possible causes of that. Apart from that we have a great relationship! Fantastic in every aspect.
My friend’s wife had vaginal cancer and will never be able to have sex again. Ever. Apart from that, they have a great relationship too!
We’re two healthy young adults with the rest of our lives ahead of us. We are attracted to each other physically and have had some amazing times together, but now he’s falling in love. And if I’m honest, so am I.
Obviously an affair isn’t the answer, but what do we do… I don’t want to leave my partner, he won’t divorce his ill wife… It really sucks.
Cue the “awwwwwww” – I love thoughtfullness.
Best – Our Galmatic Car Care and Defensive Driving Courses for women will be on TV!!
Worst – Feeling overwhelmed by working from home with 2 under the age of 4
Yay! That is so exciting. I hope you have a good pregnancy
Best: Finding out that my baby girl has been guaranteed a spot at day-care when I return to work in July. I have been so worried about it….woo hoo!
Worst: Seeing the interview this morning on Sunrise with the man who lost his wife and 3 children in the Black Saturday bushfires. He is still so broken and in shock. It breaks my heart and still brings tears to my eyes.
Thats really hard when they have a mind of their own. Mr7 asked me last night if he was going to get suntan cancer because he is very olive and tans without trying.
Congratulations!!
Best: I’m pregnant!! Only 4-5 weeks at the moment. So hard not to scream it from the roof tops. Looking forward to start telling friends in a few weeks.
Worst: Nope nothing! Oh maybe just the trying to keep it quiet thing. Not sure how long I’ll last!
Have a great weekend everyone.
Sending positive vibes your way for the boys Best, best, best
Best: Miss nearly 2 giving me soooo many super tight cuddles & raspberries on my cheeks when she jumped into bed with me this morning
Worst: Just being way too emotional when watching TV or reading sad news – set off by Greys Anatomy I think.
hugs to you darling. let me know if I can help. S x
I just love a happy ending…good for her!
Taronga is amazing compared to others. I went to Buenos Aires zoo and wanted to cry at all the poor creatures pacing around their enclosures.
I know it must be so hard seeing your daughter go through this. If it is any consolation, my sister and I both went through this stage…we put my poor mother through hell right throughout our teen years. Drugs, parties, hanging with the wrong crowd, in trouble with the law…the list goes on. Both my parents are very loving and sensible people, so I cannot explain why my sister and I behaved the way we did. Perhaps it was growing up in a small town where it was difficult for my parents not to give us a fair amount of freedom…and because our friends were all doing the same thing.
The good news is we both grew out of this stage in our early twenties. I went on to get a uni degree and a great career, and my sister is one of the most sensible people I know now. We are both married and have baby girls, slightly dreading their teenage years!
I hope your daughter too will grow out of this stage. Just let her know you will love her and support no matter what, that you will be there waiting for her with open arms.
Best: Booking our wedding ceremony and reception venues which means we have an actual wedding date! Now we can finally, finally, finally start planning other things … like honeymoons!
Worst: Being away from home for work and not sleeping properly for a week. Looking forward to my own bed tonight.