Last weekend, I admitted to my boyfriend of 3 years that I once had fleeting feelings for a male friend of mine. My boyfriend, not being the most secure of people, always had an issue with me hanging out with this other guy, even though we were JUST FRIENDS. Because we were JUST FRIENDS, I always reassured him that there wasn’t anything going on, because there honestly wasn’t, apart from my passing teenage crush, which was never ever acted upon by either Male Friend or myself.

Now, after devastating my poor boyfriend, he feels like he can’t trust me any more. He has forbidden me from making any contact at all with Male Friend, which I am really sad about, and when I mentioned to him that I was going out with the girls this Saturday night for innocent dinner and cocktails, he told me that he didn’t want me going out for drinks because I couldn’t be trusted around alcohol and (possibly) other boys…..

I responded to this (in the nicest of ways, all while trying not to lose my shit), by asking HOW I could POSSIBLY earn his trust without being put in situations where I had to act responsible and trustworthy (not that dinner and drinks with the girls is exactly a risky situation).

Let me ask you…….How much is too much? Where do I draw the line between showing him that I’m 100% committed by sacrificing a good friend for his benefit, and letting him know that he is stopping me from living my life/seeing my friends/having fun, and may as well put me on a leash??

HELP!