It seems to me that it is becoming increasingly popular for people to construct “guidelines” around gifts that either they, or their children, are being given. It is not uncommon for a bride or a groom to make a gift registry, or to ask the guests for a small (define small) monetary gifts instead. Recently, though, things seem to be getting extremely a little out of hand.
A couple of weeks ago Shauna Anderson wrote about a mother who felt she was ‘ripped off’ because siblings bring one present to her only child’s birthday party instead of two, when she has to buy a gift for both siblings. Please get over yourself. The act of giving a gift is meant to be one of beauty and sincerity, rooted with kindness and showered with generosity. I’m not saying that gifts aren’t great, we all love a good pressie. What I’m saying is that their sentiment is ruined the moment we politicise the act of gift-giving.
A few months ago my boyfriend bought me a clock for our one year anniversary. Yes, you heard that correctly, a clock. And yes, you’re right, it was ugly and totally not my style, but that was beside the point. I loved it because in the card he wrote ‘I’ve been with you a long TIME!’. The moment I read it I laughed and dismissed any feelings of disappointment confusion about why he’d bought me a clock at the door. What started out as a gift so bad (comparable to the knitted coat-hangers from nan at Christmas 2010), became an incredibly thoughtful token that I now smile at. He completely sidestepped the traditional ‘girlfriend’ gifts and I was over-the-moon flattered by it.
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Weddings are becoming out of control.
We went to a wedding recently and there was nothing on the registry under $300..
The bride has a $45,000 ring, they had an engagement party that was bigger than most wedding and their wedding was extremely extravagant. The honeymoon was 6 weeks in Europe. And now they're living with the brides parents because they're broke!
Seriously crazy priorities.
I hate gift registries. They are privileged and they do not take into account that some people are poor, poorer than you and can't afford to get you the white dinner set because they have to eat and live and stuff. I love picking out gifts for people and I think that they most heartfelt gifts (like the clock above) don't need to cost much, it's a cliche, but it's the thought that counts. I have some ugly-ass ornaments that my dad has bought be over the years, out and proudly displayed. Because he thought of me when he bought them and really thought that I would love them. And I do, because they are from him. He was proud when he gave them to me. If you are that worried about what gifts you are getting, you need to have a bit of a look at yourself.