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The sound of silence. Huh?

What can you hear while you’re reading this? The radio? Someone at the next desk talking on the phone? Your kids? The TV? Jack-hammers?

It’s been a pretty hectic week on Mamamia so I thought it might be nice to have a change of pace.

Australian journalist, author and mother of two, Julia Baird who is a senior editor at Newsweek in the US has written an article about silence. More specifically, how we’re in danger of losing it and how we’ve certainly devalued it.

She writes….

Sara Maitland is more conscious of noise than most—she spent more than a decade pursuing silence like a hunter its prey. She writes in A Book of Silence, just published in the U.S., how she traveled to the desert, the hills, and the remote Scottish Highlands because she wanted to discover what silence truly was, and immerse herself in it. “I am convinced that as a whole society we are losing something precious in our increasingly silence-avoiding culture,” she writes, “and that somehow, whatever this silence might be, it needs holding, nourishing and unpacking.”

After spending 40 days in an isolated house on a windy moor, Maitland found silence did several things: her physical sensations were heightened (she was overwhelmed by the deliciousness of porridge, heard different notes in the wind, was more sensitive to temperature, and emotional); she became what she calls “disinhibited” (a Jungian notion that once alone, you are free to do what you want—picking your nose while eating, stripping your clothes off, abandoning grooming, washing once a week); she heard voices (a young girl, then a male choir singing in Latin, which she thinks may have been the wind); experienced great happiness; felt connected with the cosmos; was exhilarated by the risk and peril in what she was doing; and discovered a fierce joy, or bliss.

It is a strikingly refreshing book to read, in the midst of the clamor and din, ever-mounting distraction, yelling TV pundits, solipsistic tweet-ing, and flash-card sentiment of our Internet age. It made me realize what a profound longing many of us have for silence, how hard it is to find, and how easily we forget how much we need it. Most snatch it in small grabs—hot baths, long runs, lap swimming, bike rides. Maitland rails against the idea of silence as void, absence, and lack—something that we must rush to fill—insisting it is positive and nurturing, and something more profound that must be actively sought. (When silence is imposed, of course, it is something entirely different.)

…..We often talk about distraction, and the banality of a culture that seems to smother deep thought or time-sucking contemplation—we tweet sneezes, we blink and record it for our friends, we sprint to be the first to speak. The anonymity of the Internet has been replaced by hyper-identity; the idea of shutting up and staring at a rock, piles of sand, or blinking stars for hours, if not weeks, seems profoundly countercultural.”

There is so very little silence in my life. Without even realising it, I deliberately avoid it. I’m not as bad as I used to be (or perhaps my ability to multi-task is diminishing) because I no longer write in front of the TV or with the radio on in the background.

But kids and silence are not that compatible. Whenever I travel and stay in a hotel room, I find my ears take a while to adjust to the deafening sound of…..silence.

Do you get any silence in your life? Do you need it? Do you crave it?

Do you even remember what it sounds like…..?


ALSO NEW ON MAMAMIA TODAY:

1. Frockwatch: Best/Worst Dressed of the week – come vote

2. New Ask Mia video – FINALLY, I talk about my favourite beauty products

3. Twilight’s Kristen Stewart’s interview with Conan O’Brian (video). I like her. A breath of fresh celebrity air.

4. Who Wants To Be A Horny Millionaire Quiz Show Host (video)

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