Have you ever noticed the lack of sleeves in store during the Summer months? I get that it’s Summer and lots of people don’t want to wear sleeves. But many, like Mamamia reader Tanya* do. She writes
“I am a 42 year old professional woman, mother of two teenagers. I look after myself and am not overweight, being a healthy size 12. I have, however, inherited my mother’s and grandmother’s flabby upper arms.
I think sleeveless fashion is appalling and unattractive for women with this problem. I remember author Monica McInerney once wrote about her distaste for hot Aussie summers. One of her reasons for preferring a milder Irish summer was the fact that she did not have to expose her white upper arms in that cooler climate.
I feel the same way. To complicate matters, I am a five year breast cancer survivor and two of my daily reminders of this experience are the lymphodema I have in my left arm which forces me to wear a full arm compression sleeve, and a rather unattractive scar in my arm pit from where my lymph nodes were removed.
In short, I want to find summer fashion which provides me with an elbow length sleeve. This would cover the wobbly arm problem, hide my scar and make my compression sleeve less obvious. But where do I find such fashion on a teacher’s salary? the shops are full of sleevless fashion. The only fashion with sleeves is for older women.
There must be women of my age with this problem. But where do they shop?







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I understand your difficulty. I don’t like showing my ‘chicken wings’ outside my home. I often get disheartened with summer fashion – all those gorgeous but sleeveless dresses. I have taken to sometimes wearing a loose tank with a cheesecloth/ loose weave shirt over the top. Allows good air flow but keeps the chicken wings in their coup where they belong.
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Op shops!
I have fat arms (like the rest of me) and I get too hot in longer sleeves, but I do still like to cover my shoulders (which are also scarred and get burnt easily), which means some sort of sleeve, even if it’s just a little capped. I’m a teacher and I think covering shoulders is sensible dressing (like covering cleavage) when working with kids. I agree that it’s hard to find good tops that do this, so I always have a quick look in op shops if I’m out shopping. They’re not what’s in fashion so they’re not all the same style. No one else has the same item. It’s a quarter of the cost.
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What about a kaftan??? loose fitting, light fabric, gorgeous colours and some have beautiful jewels nad beads on them so perfect for going out if you ad metalic sandals or wedges and some statement earings or a bling ring.
You can put tights with them or linen pants.
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Like you, I’m a fellow pale person with arms that do not have the tone I would like (and it being genetically unlikely I will ever achieve this….).
Every summer it’s the same, wandering through the shops finding gorgeous dresses with no sleeves. I think it’s something that gets left off to save a bit of money by using less material.
I find I have best luck at Target of all places. In my climate, I can’t wear a cardigan and women entering menopause are hot enough without wearing cardies.
I’m currently thinking of buying clothes online and/or getting them made.
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I agree with Target!
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Try http://www.birdsnest.com.au, select Womens Clothing then Tops, lots of variety, hope you find something you like.
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plus the sun-protection factor. And it is actually cooler on a hot day to have sleeve on.
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Currently wearing a beautifully cut striped Sportscraft 1/2 sleeve shirt, $51 in the current sale. They had a couple of colour options – a nice blue, or a not-too-pink pink, white and navy version.
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I hate my arms and live for cropped cardis. I find Portman’s the best place to find them, sometimes Jacqui E and Myer. But as some others have said, you often need to stock up in autumn and cooler months. Plus i live in a cooler climate so can wear them in the summer.
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completely irrelevant, but where do you live?
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The key to summer dressing when wanting to cover your upper arms is to shop early in the season – or in the next few months – when the trans-seasonal fashions arrive in store. This is the ideal time (no matter what your budget) to stock up on half-sleeve cardis and jackets.
If you buy these items in fabrics that are cool to wear, then they will not feel icky to wear when you are sweating it out in an Australian summer.
I’m a big fan of half-sleeve draped cardis from brands such as Metalicus, Mela Purdie, wYse and Intimo. The cotton range in Metalicus is perfect; Mela features a viscose; wyse and Intimo a modal,
The best thing that happens when you add in cardi or jacket to your outfit is that you are lifting the whole outfit to the next style level.
You’ll look more put together with that extra layer – and that’s the key to enhancing your personal style.
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Unfortunately, it’s not just a Summer thing. It’s so bloody hard to find a sleeve that’s a decent length!
I’m not a fan of my arms and I like to have pretty good coverage. You wouldn’t think it would be such a difficult task to find a sleeve that’s just a little longer. It’s actually quite ridiculous.
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Agreed on the sleeveless look — very few people actually look good in something with no sleeves, but it can be bloody difficult finding a top with either any sleeve at all, or something a bit longer than silly cut-off cap sleeves that accentuate the fattest part of my bicep! Dresses are a pain too — they are almost universally sleeveless.
Sorry I can’t be more help than to sympathise though…
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Great post! Yes I can relate!
I have this problem, not because of flabby arms but because of my skin condition, ichthyosis. I need to be protected from the sun and also scrapes and knocks, and still keep warm and cool (how complicated my body is!).
It was just this morning that I posted the following FB status:
I would like some sheer nude fingerless stockings to wear on my arms, so I can wear short sleeves without being irritated. Surely there is a market to warrant their invention?
I wear a lot of lightweight longsleeved tees under my pretty or floaty tops or dresses.
They are usually charcoal, black or grey. From Sussan, Jeanswest or Target.
Like this: http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_j2dfReXKOM0/TSQYuKH3w9I/AAAAAAAACLI/yVyu9tNkfxA/s1600/IMG_5950.jpg
This: http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_j2dfReXKOM0/TPr8KAMuTDI/AAAAAAAAB74/DruNVGXrvko/s1600/IMG_5386.jpg
And even under a ball dress: http://carlyfindlay.blogspot.com/2010/10/cinderalla-at-ball.html#comments
I also wear nude stockings, opaques and leggings a lot.
I am not self conscious anymore – I wear what’s comfortable and protecting for me.
Good luck in your search for sleeves
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I have had similar frustrations with children’s fashion this summer. I try to keep my almost 3 year old sun safe and want to teach her to protect her gorgeous, smooth, creamy skin but most of the little girls dresses are sleeveless and putting a t-shirt underneath can be really uncomfortable. And even t-shirts seem in short supply with tank tops or sleeveless tops being more readily available in the stores.
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This post made me smile fondly as I remembered my elderly piano teacher advising me “Never give a concert in a sleeveless dress, if you get flabby arms later dear. It’s quite awful for the audience!”
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I too don’t like to get my upper arms out at work so I wear cotton shirts from shirt Studio
http://www.shirtstudio.com.au/
They have great 3/4 sleeve business style shirts for Summer. They do have to be ironed but they wear well. I have had 2 of my shirts since early 2007 and they are still in great condition. I wear each of them at least once a week, with layers in Winter, and just wash them on the gentle cycle.
I think they do shirt dresses too which might be a Summer option.
They have a sale on at the moment, buy 3 and get 3 free.
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I go for vintage dresses from ebay!
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Rockmans has something called a “perfect shirt” which is a fairly classic button up shirt with a collar and sleeves which sit just on your elbows.
It is great fabric which does not crush too much during the day and comes in lots of pretty colours.
Full price the shirts are $40, however I have managed to pick them up during various sales including one where they were priced at two for $40.
Ideal for work.
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I’m in my early 30s and have been lamenting this every summer since my teens. i hate my upper arms, they are awful and i hate how in summer everything is sleeveless or have the sleeves too long (eg pass my elbows so they make my arms look even fatter) or just tiny bits of fabric.
with dresses they expect you to spend another $100 for a flimsy coverall, but they arne’t appropriate if you carry weight in your stomach and make you look rounder. not to mention $100 for that tiny thin piece of material sucks.
i hate the shortsightedness of all women’s clothing shops, this includes target. witchery, jacqui e, sussan, etc etc i’m looking at you.
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so true, fashion aimed at teenagers and size 6 20+ year olds is one thing but what about the rest of us? I think Mia you are in danger of overload here as fashion for the over 40s is so lacking. Also how about the sizing problems? The average Australian woman is now size 14 but fashion houses seem incapable of properly making clothes for this size – I notice with Sportscraft they seem to sell out of any decent style size 14 in a flash. Simply scaling up a sample size 6 does not make a size 14 actually fit a size 14 person. here here about the need for lovely dresses that have sleeves that don’t cost a fortune!
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I have a big bum and have similar problems for jeans. I wear a size 20 pant. Target go up to 18 in all their stuff, so I have to go upto the plus size, and the 20 is almost always sold out. There’s probably quite a few people out there who are just too big for the 18 but not really ‘plus size’ shaped.
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Thanks everyone. All of your suggestions are fantastic and I have bookmarked all the shops/sites mentioned. It’s good to know that I am not alone in my aversion to sleeveless fashion!
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Call me un-funky but I quite like the new range from Suzanne Grae:
http://www.suzannegrae.com.au/New-Looks/citrus-grove.aspx
As you will see there is a variety of cardi’s in funky colours. Very affordable too!
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I am 26 and have recently discovered – well, actually I’m not sure what to call them… they’re made from the fabric of a really thin t-shirt, long-ish at the back (mid back, round cut) and then sort of curves at the front, and the two that I have are in shorter (mid upper-arm) and longer (elbow) length. I bought them both from Crossroads for about $25 each or something like that… so I can still wear singlets in public, I just pop on my ‘thing’ over it… and they’re really light so you don’t get too hot! I suppose it’s the version of a summer cardie with no buttons.
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They are called open cardigans – weird and obvious lol
I have a MASSIVE range of these I found out about them from an American clothing website and loved them so I bought a range of colours and sleeve lengths that range from full sleeve to 3/4. I find them great and I agree it lets me wear my sleeveless tops without being worried about my arms and they are light weight which is a bous
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Kaftans! I’m a size 10 and I don’t have flabby arms but I have quite a few cotton kaftans because they cover me up under the hot sun and I don’t feel like I’m in a sauna in them. If you’re having trouble finding them, search on eBay… I just did a quick search and found 2,000 of them
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Sussan do light linen shirts as well as Kaftans.
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They’re sleeve-ing, on a jet plane.
Don’t know when they’ll be back again !
Oh, babe…they hate to go.
Peter, Paul and Mary WOULD be proud !
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Great question. I’m the same, 41, slim and reasonably fit yet since about 35 my upper arms have been best covered up. I only know one woman over 40 who feels her upper arms are any good and she’s a personal trainer no less…..
The same question also applies to cocktail and formal dresses. Every time I have a formal function or cocktail party I have such a struggle finding something with a sleeve. The old wrap usually comes to the rescue every time.
HINT:- womens clothing designers – we want nice summer and evening clothes with sleeves!
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I know it’s expensive but Leona Edmiston does gorgeous dresses for special occasions and almost all with sleeves and my god but she cuts beautifully for women.
And although expensive, one of mine I bought pre-pregnancy in 2005 and it still gets hauled out whenever I need a boost. And I wore it through two pregnancies as well….
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you can get Leona by Leona Edmiston dresses at myer quite often on sale. and you’re right, she does cut beautifully for almost all figures!
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Sales on presently at Leona instore and online – don’t forget to check out the vintage stores as well… this lucky bunny just got a gift voucher for Christmas!
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I’m 22 and have the same problem! I can tolerate my legs though so I just try and wear short dresses with long or 3/4 sleeves. I absolutely hate my arms, they are hideous. No matter how much I work out, they’re still flabby!
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Maybe you’ll look back when you’re 41 and realise they weren’t that bad? I covered my arms up during my 20s, now I look at myself and realise how crazy I was to be young, size 10-12 and covering things up.
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Try Metalicus! They have so many 1/2 dresses and cardi’s. They also have 1/2 sleeve basic tops in many colours which you can layer underneath sleeveless dresses. Definitely worth having a look as they do that kind of sleeve alot. They also have a huge sale on at the moment with a further 25% off the reduced price which makes everything very reasonable
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I like Metalicus but find that the material is just too hot for summer. It clings to your skin and doesn’t breathe at all! But it’s a winner for winter.
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That is true if you by the nylon or the merino blends but the cotton is generally pretty good!
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There’s some great ideas on here. I want to know if you can actually get rid of these flabby arms or am I destined with them forever…..
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Tricep dips help a lot to tone up your arms — difficult to explain but if you google, you can watch a video. They are easy and effective (but hurt like hell after not too many!).
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I agree. it was only about 3 years ago that I was fine to go sleeveless… what happened?? About 10 kilos happened. Now I dread really hot days. I usually just opt for cotton short sleeved cardis from Country Road. They have lots of sales so you can pick them up at a good price. I was in Asia last year and got so hot I braved it and went sleeveless. It was quite liberating and felt so much cooler. I miss my slender arms!
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Yes, Country Road have got great cardi’s, I wear them all the time as I’m in the same boat
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I sympathise here because I have a tattoo on my mid to upper arm and I certainly don’t like flashing that around in my day to day life when I’m at work or at the school (cant’ be bothered with the looks etc).
I’m queen of the light weight cardigan…I wear nice summer tops but then throw one of those over the top.
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I thought I was the queen of the cardi! My mum is always teasing me about it…but yes, I have a number of tattoos on my arms and I don’t always feel like scaring the locals (not helped by being quite pregnant and not that young either).
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Tanya,
I have the same problem, and also avoid the little cap sleeves
on some tops.
I recommend landsend.com which is based in the US. They have a great range of clothing including tops with sleeves 3/4 length and elbow length. Most are cotton, so they are cool.
I have bought about 6 topd from them,and they are great quality, esp the button-down shirts.
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cap sleeves are the DEVIL’S WORK
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A girlfriend of mine works in fashion, the autumn lines should hit the shops early February, and then onwards. Sleeves should be easier to find then.
Sussan which used to be a bit old lady-ish has had a re-vamp recently, and I find surf shops have a lot of kaftan type items in light fabrics. Go during the week when it’s not full of teenagers.
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And Just jeans has embraced some beautiful kaftans with beads and such this year. I wish they suited me.
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Go to Tree of Life or similar stores and pick up some Indian-style kurta tops. They’re usually made of cotton. They will wrinkle heaps, though. You can also try those kind of tops online.
Another option that I like – raid the menswear department. Buy a men’s shirt, roll up the sleeves, and go. They’re usually big enough to give you breathing space in summer, and they also work well as kaftans (why spend hundreds when you can spend $60!), and you can wear them open over a sleeveless top if you like, kind of like a light summer jacket.
Or, and this is my personal favourite, which I discovered after many, many years of looking for long sleeve tops in summer that my problem of dark hair and fair skin leaving shadows under my arms even before the hair was back:
Stop caring! Most people are too busy thinking about how they look themselves to even notice your arms!
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thank you for this – see I’m reading this, wearing a sleeveless top. And I have hideous scarring on my lower arms, and some bizzare rash like skin condition on the upper, I also get huge persperation stains (but can’t bare the industrial strength anti-persperant I need to use to fix it, or have those glands removed)…when I was a teenager you couldn’t get me near sleeveless tops, nor when I was in my early twenties. When I was about 23 I discovered black (for the sweat marks) then arm warmers (for the scars) its taken me about ten years but I now just don’t care. Seriously. If someone wants to look, let them.
Mind you the rest of my body is another story (urgh) always something I don’t like about me
But the point of this was I saw a pattern on lincraft the other day ( I think) for changing singlets into sleeved tops – you just add some chiffon or similar to a wide strapped singlet top and bingo – light summer concealing sleeves
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I agree. You remind me of that great English actress on Old Tricks (I think that’s what it’s called) who has significant burning on her upper arm but blatantly and sexily wears sleeveless tops all the time. I think she’s doing it on purpose to make a statement, and love it.
Today we went to the pool, and it is so liberating to look at a huge barnful of normal people in their togs, looking so, well, normal, unlike the airbrushed, well-lit people in magazines etc. Makes you realise you’re not really that abnormal/obscene after all. Even the absolutely drop dead gorgeous teen girls have dimply thighs etc – it’s natural!
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I agree, it is hard, but yes, try the Cotton On cardigans, they are nice and cool and you can wear thrum over sleeveless tops/spagetti straps etc. They are relatively cheap too.
Fadubadubahs rule at my house thoughI am 42, overweight with flabby arms but would rather not sweat like a pig on really hot days so the world is just going to have to live with them lol! I do sympathize with you re your scars though, so the cardies might be the way to go:)))
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I love that you spelt fadubadubahs. We call them faduppaters here.. wonder where it originated from?!!
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Kath Day Knight and Kim Craig nee Day used to talk about them…
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Lol Kris, yes, I stole it from Kath and Kim. You have to have a sense of humor:) I don’t have a muffin top, I have the whole loaf going on lol
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Seen in the personal column….lady with full loaf seeks gent with butter and bread knife.
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Hehehehe, just about!!! Noice:)
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My MIL calls them “ta-ta arms”.
Because they keep on waving goodbye even after you stop!
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Where do sleeves go in the summer ? They holiday in Sleeve-enia, like the rest of us do !
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One, two, three………..groan!
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So far the score is 3 thumbs up, 1 groan. We now return you to the game.
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As the full time hooter sounds, it’s 5 to 1. The crowd goes wild with delight ! Any future thumbs up are icing on the cake of sanity and good humour. Yes fans, humour is the winner by a country mile !
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Goals kicked after the final hooter don’t count. Bad luck !:)
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As a Brisbanite I pretty much sweat just looking at sleeves during summer. My arms are definitely not perfect but keeping cool is more important than looking good during those very hot days.
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I haven’t read the comments but if I were you, I’d do some Google searches.
Type things in like ‘How to hide flabby arms’ or ‘Summer fashion with sleeves.’ Do searches within Australia and internationally. Make some calls. You’ll be surprised at what you’ll be able to find. Gotta love Google.
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I hear you! I’m only 21, but I’m paranoid about skin cancer and medication has made my back and arms really hairy. I wear T-shirts, button down shirts from cotton on and dotti (with the sleves rolled up to my elbows) and kaftan-type dresses from target and the like. I found some nice things at Tree of Life too. Very frustrating! Especially because I’m up in north QLD and the humidity makes even summery cardigans awful to wear. I am definitely wearing clothes made for women older than me, but I try to make it young by keeping what I wear simple and jazzing it up with accessories etc. Bring on autumn!
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epilation! i used to shave or wax my arms – looks so much better
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My flabby arms mean that some sleeves are tight I look like I have an arm muffin top if there is such a thing??! Sometimes I am better off to have no sleeves as it doesn’t accentuate them as much. I am with Holly though lightweight cardigans are the go!
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I think…it may have been…in Murial’s Wedding…or some other movie or TV show like that….they called them “chicken drumsticks”
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Cotton On currently has some great summer-weight, inexpensive, very pretty cardigans. I’ve got three!
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I found reading “The Body Shape Bible” by Trinny & Susannah really helpful in my arm problems. I am a “vase” shape, meaning that my arms are proportionally larger than the rest of me.
In summer, bat-wing sleeves, short sleeve cardigans and even t-shirts rather than singlets help alot! I get most of my stuff from K-Mart, Target and Big W (the joys of being newly married with a mortgage) and I never have trouble finding things.
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I love that book. Yay Trinny & Susannah! And snap on being a vase
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At the age of 67 my arms are far from attractive, so sleeveless is absolutely out. However elbow length is far too hot in an Australian summer, so I’m a short sleeve gal. I can’t say I’ve had any trouble getting short sleeves, but then I haven’t been shopping in a while as I have plenty of tops.
Dare I say it, but all my most comfortable tops have come from cheap old Millers. In amongst the dross, I can nearly always find something pretty decent. I no longer feel the desire, or need, of ‘labels’.
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Look for a “shrug”. This is a cardigan without the torso part. It covers the arms and across the back without being heavy and cumbersome for summer… They are not easy to find but if you do and you buy one in black and a neutral or a bold colour they can then go over all the sleeveless tops you have !
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I found some in Target the other day – black and cream coloured. Not high fashion but cheap at 40% off… and cover up my oobajoobas (those wobbly bits!)
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My local target has them of $16each at full price, in a range of colours in the Hot Options section. They go up to a youth size 16. Okay, there’s no such thing as a youth size but young people’s clothes tend to be cut different.
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Target sizes frustrate me! I can try the ‘Ladies’ and an 8 is too Big. City dressing size 10 in fine, and hot options, I struggle to fit into a 14 GGRR!!! Not even consistency amongst the one store!
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Try maternity clothes! KMart, for reasons known only to them, have some bits in S, M, L, etc then others that are supposed to match with them in 12, 14, 16!
Target I can get into 16s but then if I need bigger Mat don’t fit and a plus size 18 swims on me!
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Try Valley Girl if you have a store near you, they often have lots of shrugs and whisper light cardis
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Im a young sprout a mere 24 years old.
Im absolutely mortified about my flabby arms, Im a size 14 & about 10 kgs overweight but my arms are much larger in proportion to the rest of my body, you can still see my collarbones
Im really self-concious of them and I actually wear light cardigans all through summer, no matter what temperature, just so people don’t see my tuckshop arms.
Ive been told it is a hormonal thing? But also genetics play a role in this.
I also have kankles all year round too, so I live in maxi dresses hahahaha. Thats the only summer friendly fashion I can wear.
I know what you mean though Tanya, there isn’t a great deal out there that comes past or down ot the elbow, even something loose would be awesome, without having to spend an arm and a leg
Did I mention Im pregnant too? So its even harder to find things that are just a little bit flattering
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It’s so unfair! I am about 10kg overweight too and would love my collar bones to stick out a bit more – would be great motivation but it seems futile and unlikely as even my super fit 55kg sisters have basically invisible collar bones
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Ive always been smaller around the top than the bottom sarah. The typical pear-shaped woman.
So my shoulders and decolletage are quite refined and then I have these massive flabby arms
It just looks really weird.
I weigh in pregnant at 83kgs, my ideal weight is realistically around 70kgs taking into account my pearness.
I wish there was a way to lose fat off just your arms, but instead it has to be overall body fat loss. Sure, you can tone, but if you have hangers like mine it doesn’t do much at all
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pearness! – I love it!!
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ok firstly, have you thought about buying sleeveless then wearing with a metalicus top underneath? they are not cheap but last forever, the style never changes so they don’t date either. i have metallicus that i have been wearing for 10+ years. this also means i can wear summery tops all year round.
the other place that always has long sleeve tops is country road. sure they are also expensive but the one thing with CR is you should NEVER pay full price. get online and apply for a CR card, that way you get notified of all the sales, usually before the general public. i love their clothes, they are good quality, and in fact i bought a top there the other day that was light fabric but long sleeve.
goodluck, let us know how you go.
ps. sussans as was mentioned below is good too
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What is a metallicus top? Sorry, I’m a dinosaur who shares the upper arm prob.
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Metalicus is a brand – they sell stretchy basics that are one-size-fits-all. Love them. And yes, useful all year round!
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they have an online shop
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Doesn’t anybody find it odd that society has a “problem” with flabby arms? I know it’s idealistic to expect society to change their attitude vs. simply adding sleeves, but I’m personally quite said that this is believed to be the best way to go about it.
The scars though, now that’s a different story.
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I meant “personally quite sad”, not said
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i actually made a decision this year to just wear sleeveless and not worry about my arms, it made shopping easier and it is so much cooler too.
my arms are far from perfect btw!
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Last year I made a decision to keep wearing sleeveless tops I already own but if buying new ones to try to get things with at least 10cm of sleeve because it is way way way more flattering on me. It makes my wardrobe more versatile too, because although my workplace is casual, sleeveless is a often a bit much
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well that seems like very sound advice i am going to try that too!
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Thanks for a commonsense approach to the ” flabby big arms” ..as opposed to wanting to cover up because of medical/surgical other reasons.
I am more than overweight & my BIG arms annoy me (in photos etc) but being HOT annoys me more
So, at 61, and with everything that hangs heading further & further south each year.. I just say “meh” this is the best I’m going to be TODAY and live comfortably.
My life’s been hard enough to take in recent years with many many challenges and in 2011its “diet no more” but “like myself more” and “accept myself for WHO I am”
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I agree. Its sad she has to feel that way. I just hope she continues to be well. This whole flabby arm idea is just one more thing that society puts on women to try to make them feel their bodies are somehow inadequate.
I have a 12cm scar down the side of my face which I refer to as my “lifeline” – I was fortunate enough to be diagnosed with amelanotic (“colourless”) melanoma before it spread (most people don’t discover it till too late). It gives me no joy to have it but I am happy to have it rather than not see my children grow up. If people have a problem with it that’s their issue. I am alive 14 years on, I have a husband who loves me and am expecting my second baby. My Mum died at 39 of melanoma and never got to see me grow up let alone meet her grandchildren. Its about time we told the perfection police where to go.
That said,a range of clothing styles for a range of tastes should be available, I quite like 3/4 length tops because they give sun protection while still being cool. I hope she finds something that makes her feel comfortable without having to pay a fortune.
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I know what you mean, sleeveless is just not a flattering cut for some of us. I avoid the sleeveless look as much as possible.
I am sitting here wearing a thin voile kaftan/tunic style top that has sleeves that go past my elbow (but not full length). Even though it covers a fair bit, it has slits in the sides to the waist (it hits mid thigh) and an embroidered neckline with a vee slit in the middle. It was sold in the bathers section (not my favorite section) of Myer, as something to wear over bathers. It is not see-through, unless I wear a high contrast bra, and it is still cool even though it covers a fair bit. It is quite flattering and does not look too “Grandma” – so my tip is to try the bathers section or your local department store.
I also find that Sussans often has interesting shaped Tees with looser drapey sleeves.
I also wear a lot of very light, drapey cardigans over sleeveless tops and dresses. Giordano makes a nice cotton/linen blend one in a variety of colours – I have three.
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I think I have the same top on right now! Mine is cobalt blue with white embroidery. Very comfy and I have the sleeves rolled up a little. Regatta brand?
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Mine’s “The Accessory Company” in coral pink (with the same coloured embroidery), from a few years back – I love it, and voile is very light and cool.
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