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By LUCY ORMONDE

The average Australian couple spends $36,000 on their wedding.

Does that sound like a lot to you? Well, it’s more than half of what the average Australian earns in a year. It’s the cost of a new car. Or two. It’s enough money to put a deposit on a suburban family home (or a studio apartment in a big city).

Alternatively? It could pay for a honeymoon in Hawaii.

Hardly surprising then that more couples are opting to bake their own cakes, blow up their own balloons and dance in the backyard to save on the crazy costs associated with weddings.

The Herald Sun reports:

Fewer couples are relying on parents to foot the bill and are looking for ways to scrimp on costs, experts say.

“I’ve noticed that over the last 12 months or so there are more weddings at home than ever before, or in parks, where it doesn’t cost anything,” said Dawn Dickson, secretary of the Association of Civil Marriage Celebrants Victoria.

“It’s a sign of the times. People don’t have money for big weddings. They are putting their money into mortgages.

“They might go to a hotel for a cocktail party with finger food instead of a sit-down meal.

“People make it special at home and all up you could save 50-75 per cent.”

Forget $10,000 wedding dresses, venue hire, car hire and tulips sourced from the Netherlands.

Instead more and more couples are choosing to buy the frock on eBay, pick roses from mum’s garden and walk from the bedroom to the (homemade) arch beside the Hills Hoist.  And as for wedding photos… BYO iPhone?

Rachael Finch married Michael Miziner

How much did you (or do you plan to) spend on your wedding? Where is the best area to cut costs? Any sneaky savings tips?

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  1. Jennie

    We spent $5k and it was perfect. Food and wine were important for us so we concentrated on this. We found a great BYO restaurant on the Yarra in Melbourne, they charged $40 ph for 3 courses (we had 60 guests), we then spent $1000 on good wine at Dan Murphys, $500 on the dress, $150 on celebrant, $80 suit hire for hubby, no cake, $40 bouquet of flowers, no bridesmaids, we took our own photos, we made our own mixed CDs of our favourite songs, everyone still talks about how perfect the day was!

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  2. Sarah

    My husband and I got married in March as a surprise. We invited all of our family & friends to our engagement party in Mum and Dad’s backyard and then said “Surprise, we’re getting married in 30 mins”! Parents and the bridal party knew and were prepared, but everyone else was really shocked, but very excited.

    We had family friends help with the food and hired catering staff to serve food & drinks. My MIL made the cake, my MOH did my makeup, family hairdresser did my hair, bridesmaids & groomsmen wore what they wanted within a colour pallet we’d chosen. I wore an off the rack dress!

    The most expensive thing was the photography, but we cut the cost of that by about 75% by asking the photographer to stay for five hours and not produce a printed album as we wanted to make our own. We did a lot of craft DIY decorating and the whole day cost just over $5,000.

    Our day was perfect and I wouldn’t change a thing. Our guests said it was the best wedding they’d ever been to and loved that it was a representation of us.

    I think if you want to do the big wedding, go for it! But that wasn’t us at all – in fact, it was kind-of my nightmare. We were so glad to escape that and just do our own, off the cuff, go with the flow kind-of wedding.

    Good luck future brides!

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    • Sarah in Sydney

      Love it, sounds perfect!

      The most amazing wedding I ever went to was for friends of ours who had a going away party before they moved overseas. The party was in fact their surprise wedding! It was FANTASTIC! The catering was food from our groups fav Vietnamese restaurant, the bride wore a white skirt and top, nothing foofy, it was them to a tea! It was the most special and emotional wedding ever! And the BEST surprise because they weren’t even engaged and had been together for 15 years and had no plans to ever get married! Super cool!

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    • May!

      It’s my secret wish to attend a suprise wedding at some point in my life! Love it.

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  3. Erin

    I was married recently, and it cost about $40k. It was the best day, better than I ever imagined and I’m glad I spent the money on bouquets and invites.

    I didn’t want to the stress of running around having to do everything myself, and for me it would’ve been very stressful, because I’m a perfectionist. I don’t regret it at all. If I had my time over I wouldn’t have changed a thing.

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    • Duckie

      Could you eleberate on how this was spent? And how it made it wonderfull for you?

      Not trying to sound judgmental just curious and wanting more details!

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  4. Chi

    $500 – a friend who is a celebrant in the park.

    25 guests (not including the casual softball game going on next door – and yes I grabbed the ball and threw it back during out ceremony).

    Champagne and a fruit platter for 25… brilliant. Glass hire was included in the price, and we walked from our flat to the park… no cars required!

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  5. Angelina Ballerina

    We married at the registry chapel and spent about 500 dollars on alcohol and sausages for a BBQ in our backyard.
    A friend made cake and much fun was had by all.
    I really don’t understand why people would spend so much money on a wedding (unless they had millions of dollars).

    A fancy wedding does not make a successful marriage.
    If only people made as much effort with their marriages, maybe the divorce rate would be lower.

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    • Anon

      You’re absolutely right. I always advise that the money is best spent on the marriage, not the wedding. Some bridezillas simply don’t understand what I mean.

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    • Fifi

      “If only people made as much effort with their marriages”- SO true!

      I’ve seen countless women spend far much more time during their engagement planning like crazy people rather than enjoying their partner! The fuss and pomp just seems to detract from the real reason its all happening in the first place.

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    • ReeBee

      Absolutely! I’m currently planning my wedding and every time I am absolutely convinced I need something or the wedding will be crap, I ask myself whether it’s the wedding or the marriage that I really want. Putting that in perspective, I realise I don’t really need that something at all. It’s saved me a bucketload of dosh!

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  6. pinksparkle

    At my mum’s wedding, she had her mother make the cake and her sister-in-law made her dress for free (it kinda looked like Kate Middleon’s).

    btw i don’t get why people would want to get married on the beach- sure it’s picturesque but what about the dress getting all sandy??

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  7. Anonymous

    We invited our family to lunch at a gorgeous restaurant in Melbourne by the Yarra when they arrived I was in my wedding dress and celebrant there to marry us before lunch with our family – both parents were so happy ! Our friends loved it as we had a BBQ with them all and I dressed up in my dress again. Dress, flowers, lunch, celebrant etc all under $2k however based on the average pretty sure I have made up for that spend on travelling the world and those trips have lasted longer than 1 day !

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  8. Anonymous

    This makes me laugh – my sister is getting married in October and is having a ‘cheap’ wedding compared to all of her friends who have married over the last few years – only $30-40 000!
    This is after we (my whole extended family) have been roped in to make all the save the date cards, invitations, ceremony guides, placecards and thankyou cards. We are also expected to help make the decorations, so we are currently saving all of our jars which we will magically transform into flower and candle holders for the reception.

    To be fair to her, I don’t actually see many areas where she is being really extravagant – other than her dress – but the costs of anything associated to weddings is just astronomical. We are lucky enough to be part of a big, jolly family and she is marrying into a big family – the two families are three quarters of her 120 guest list. It wasn’t ever really an option for her to do a small wedding, but it is so much money it just kills me that it is not being spent on something more tangible.

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    • Elise

      Pehaps it is tangible for your sister though?

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  9. Jenna

    Our budget is $10,000. We are not getting hire cars, I’m not doing stupid bouquets ($1,300!!!) and we found a venue which does not have a hire cost, we just pay for the meal.
    We are also getting a friend to make our cakes, we bought postcard style invites and I got my dress for less than half price.
    We want to have a great party to see all our friends and family, so we are really happy to spend that money (we’ve been travelling for a few years so we haven’t seen some people for over two years) and have everyone together. We were tempted to elope, but weddings are one of the few times people will make an effort to come some distance, and many of our friends and family are far flung. So, not an outrageous day, but a special one :)

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  10. becsparrow

    You know I loved my wedding and it cost $10k and that included the dress, the food, the music, Brad’s suit – everything. Brad and I got married on the roof top of the Brisbane Powerhouse (before it was covered over) — there were lanterns and cocktails and lots of nibbly food and great music. My dress was just a creamy/white dress I bought off the rack in a shop in Paddington (so it technically wasn’t a wedding dress). And my three bridesmaids were told to wear black and to wear whatever dress they liked that they felt beautiful in. Our cake was a bit of a disappointment but — who cares? — I had such a great time with our friends. Loved it.

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    • Dee of Adelaide

      Pretty much the same. Ours was $8k, married in the square at Henley Beach and trotted over to a restaurant for cocktail food, sunset and dancing. Got married at 5pm, straight ot ‘reception’ (I hate that whole gap thing. We just had our pics taken before hand) and there were still 40 people there at 3am lol

      We didn’t want a bridal party but my sisters were 12, 14 and 20 at the time and refused to not be bridesmaids. Got their dresses at a cheapie shop for $15. Walked past them and loved them! Beaded sandals and off they went. DH’s three brothers wore their black suits and white shirts. A few flowers for me to hold but no cars (what the heck is wrong with a cab?), bonboneire, no decorations (you are staring out at the beach – why would you need them?) etc. I did lash out on finding someone who plays the didgeridoo briliantly for my ‘walk up the aisle’ and for afterwards.

      I never expected my wedding to be a dream or anything, but it turned out to be the best day of my life.

      Its the casual or unusual weddings I’ve enjoyed the most. The ones where 60 people are in a church to seat 1000 people, a three hour break, followed by a rubber chicken three course meal in a 4 star hotel are always the ones that lack atmosphere.

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      • GB

        I’ve got to go to one of those weddings in a few weeks and dreading it – lunchtime church ceremony, 3-4 hour break, dinner reception in big reception centre. Blergh. And I’ll know only a few people there.

        (firstworldproblem)

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  11. Tessa

    My husband and I got married a couple of weeks ago. We had the big wedding booked and organised for April 2013 but we got a little surprise around Easter that we were expecting. So plans changed and we ended up having the ceremony in the local church where my grandma played the organ and the reception for 40 at my parents house. We had it catered with cocktail food, my cousin did the photography and my Baba made my wedding dress which was beautiful. The next night we had a big celebration with 100 people and surprised them with the news. We did all the food etc. ourselves. All up both nights cost under $10,000 and we really appreciated having the small wedding as we spent all of night at the celebration party trying to speak with as many people as we could but on our wedding day we were relaxed and got to spend quality time with the people who matter the most to us. We put the money my parents gave us towards the wedding onto our home loan.

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  12. ash

    I wonder if Victoria Beckham looks back on her wedding photos and thinks ‘I wish I cracked a smile’.

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    • CC

      She doesn’t like her smile, so probably not.

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    • bec

      I wonder if she regrets that ridiculous crown!!

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    • Sez

      Or those ridiculous thrones!

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  13. Me Myself I

    Mine was $4,000. Cocktail party for 90, no bridesmaids, affordable photographer. Booze was the biggest component, haha. Most people said it was the best wedding they had been to. It was very laid back and pulled it together in 3 weeks.

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  14. carla83

    I’m not engaged yet, but when I do get married, the budget is $5,000. I decided on that budget when I was 20, I’m now 29. For me, any more than that is wasteful. I would rather spend my money on travelling after the wedding

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  15. Mimi

    i love posts like these! they are fun! :)

    Our Wedding was cheap – Registration Office held at the gorgeous Old Treasury Building in Melbourne and then we had lunch at a gorgeous resturant in South Yarra :) i had 15 people attend all up my wedding including my dress and shoes as well (husband already had a suit) cost around $4k…it was intimate and perfect!

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    • Mimi

      Ps…My mum did my hair and my gf was the photographer :)

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    • Anonymous

      My partner and I are doing this in Melbourne later in the year. The Old Treasury Building is pretty. We’re just having our two best friends at the ceremony and then having lunch with them and our immediate family – at the restaurant where we had our first date!

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  16. Louise

    I’ve never imagined my perfect wedding, not even as a child. I was always pretty certain I just wasn’t going to get married but lately I keep imagining it more and more, browsing dresses on line, thinking of locations, picking my brides maids.
    I’m only 20 and I’m single, not sure why it’s on my mind so much… :/

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  17. Sweetness

    My partner and I are planning a ‘cheap’ wedding.

    We won’t consider scrimping on the things that are important to us, but we aren’t doing a lot of the ‘done’ things. We aren’t having a bridal party, though will still have a few special people get ready with us, we aren’t doing a sit down, I will get a friend to do the flowers, we will DIY the decos-quite simply with vases of flowers from the market and pot plants.

    We aren;t having a sit down dinner because it is cheaper, we are having a cocktail party because we have a lot of friends who don;t know each other (uni friends, OS friends, school friends), and want them to have the opportunity to mix.

    We were going to have our wedding in my partner’s parents yard actually-but decided it would be too much work to organise from a distance, and put too much reassure onto them.

    We are in our late (late…) 20s, we are paying off a house, we are planning a family, neither of us want to go into debt over our wedding.

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    • Sweetness

      Also, because a lot of what we are doing is low key, it kind of follows through to other choices. A chilled out, low key wedding would;t suit a $10,000 big, diamonte dress.

      ALso, neither of us are big fussy people, we do want a cruisy, personal, relaxed, fun wedding. I’ve been to wonderful weddings at both ends of the spectrum. Do what is right for you!

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    • elli

      I’ve been to a cocktail party wedding and it was great! I’d been dating the groom’s nephew for a short while and got to chat to people I otherwise wouldn’t, eg the bride’s sisters. Just remember to put plenty of chairs around the walls for elderly relatives and high heel wearers.

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  18. Beckala

    Mine was on the cheap – bought my dress off the rack, my mum and I did the flowers through the flower markets, centrepieces ditto, made guest gifts, married in a church but used cd player instead of musicians, reception was at the local club which had a beautiful function room, which did a lovely straightforward menu for about a quarter of the price of anywhere else – and also alcohol was a LOT cheaper for us. All up – about $9,000 – and many people say its still the best wedding they’ve been too – less pressure, more personal because it was about what we loved rather than making a massive impression.

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  19. May!

    I’m not getting married anytime soon, but I love weddings and have a habit of looking up wedding stuff online! My favourite weddings are always ones that seem to be very DIY. I think maybe a rise in popularity to all things vintage (as opposed to flashy/ glamour) has helped this trend along?

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  20. Sarah Lewi

    I’m not DIY’ing but we are outsourcing – in other words we are having a destination wedding in Thailand. Our guest list is small, our costs are a lot lower and we all get a holiday out of it!

    $36k on one day is excessive for me personally, but I do think its a personal choice how you celebrate your wedding.

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  21. InKL

    Elope.

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  22. LuLu

    3 Things…

    1. It frustrates me that The Herald Sun must always put a ‘because we are doing it tough and have no money’ angle on everything. It is lazy, not always true and uninsightful. We are one of the most prosperous nations in the world. How about thinking a little harder as to why this might be. Plus, it creates the idea that we, as an nation, have it bad – which we don’t.

    2. My experience is that people who marry after they have hit 30, seem to opt for less fancy weddings. This might be because they value other things more, don’t feel the need to prove anything, they have through the years distilled their friends down, are confident enough to tell others that they will have the wedding how they want or lots of other reasons.

    3. I got married when I was 33 and did it on the cheap even though it was fully catered and I felt like I didn’t miss out on anything. It was a brilliant day and made even better because I didn’t have to feel ill about how much it cost.

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  23. Nik

    I guess I was a trandsetter, 2.5 years ago got married in a church, reception at my in-laws property, spit roast dinner, home made bouquets (couldn’t justify $400 on flowers when we could get four bunches at our local farmer’s market for $40) , family friend as the photographer…. best night of my life costing under $10,000. Our savings went on our house deposit and a round the world trip.

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