by LUCY ORMONDE
When it comes to dating, everyone has their limits. Some hard and fast rules to help them navigate this well trodden field. Would you date a friend’s ex? Would you date an ex’s friend? What about a sibling’s friend or a friend’s sibling? Who is fair game and who is completely off limits?
They say there are plenty of fish in the sea. But in the world of dating, the ocean is small and the most of the fish are mutual friends on Facebook. So the question of whether you can date one person without pissing another one off, comes up rather frequently. At least it does in my ocean, anyway.
The thing is, there are no actual written down rules in the dating world – only unofficial sisterhoods, hormones and clashing definitions of what constitutes an ex. Everyone has a different rule, a different limit, a different line. And while some people’s dating lines are marked firmly like white paint on a highway, others’ are more transparent.
Dating a friend’s ex is a typically considered a punishable offense but whether the sentence is three days of no texts or life without parole (read: deleted from Facebook) is dependent on either party’s personal dating line. There are many factors to consider from length of friendship, length of relationship and you know, level of intoxication.
A friend learned the hard way about the consequences of hooking up with a sibling’s ex.
“I took my sister’s ex to a work dinner one year (at her suggestion) after my boyfriend and I broke up just days before,” she says. “She was fine with that. However she was NOT okay when I kissed him on a dance floor,” she adds. “I personally was okay with the whole situation until he stuck his tongue in my ear and said ‘your sister used to love this’.”
What’s your dating line?