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Is it almost August already? Wasn’t New Years Eve last week? Another week down and it’s always worth looking back and identifying your high and low points. This is also an open post where you can really discuss anything you like so knock yourself out.
WORST: My almost 2 year old decided to see what would happen if he put my iphone in a glass of water.
BEST: The wonderful words of wisdom I got from Twitter which included this. Sadly, even though the phone still worked, the screen was almost black. But Twitter also told me that Apple will replace a waterlogged iphone for $249. So that’s where I went yesterday and now I have a new phone.
ON MY MIND: I can’t stop thinking about the kids I met in PNG. You can see the photos from my trip here and you can immunise a child by clicking here to be a friend of the Vicks Road To Relief Campaign or buying any Vicks product.
Thoughts and support to everyone going through things far more crappy than a busted phone…..
So what were your best and worst moments this week? And what else is on your mind? You can also upload any pictures you’d like to share…
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Best: Spent a wonderful sunday afternoon in the sun with my Boyfriends Neice, who is as much mine as she is his… she just turned 4 and makes my world go round. gorgeous.
Worst: Arguments with the Boyfriend…… boys suck!!! We have been together for nearly 5 years but he has been very distant lately….
OMM: My Mum, she moved away last year to a small country town with my Dad and I’m missing her oh so much!!!!
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Best: watching my husband falling in love with my baby belly as it wiggled and squirmed last night.
Worst: finding out this week at our 20 week scan that our sweet sweet baby has a Cleft Palate and we have many challanges ahead of us all. Many more tests to come to find out the extend of it. Not being able to share this with our fmily as we dont want to worry them, so we havent had any support and only have each other.
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Best of luck Haylesjb. A friend of mine’s little boy was diagnoised with a cleft palate in utero and the treatment he had was amazing. I don’t know the full details but there was definitely early surgery and some speech therapy but now you would never know. A slight scar but that is the sum total
Stay positive
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LaLaLa thankyou so much, I really needed to hear this
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I’m so sorry about your bad day however everything will work itself out and it will all be okay in the end. Please feel free to check out Cleft Awareness (http://www.facebook.com/CleftAwareness)- a support network to help families like you share their stories, fears, tips, etc. Best of luck to you!
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ill start off with worst to end it on a super good note..
Worst: had phone and internet disconnected due to bill being 1 month late (is it me or is that craziness?) so feel very in the dark at the moment and stressed out trying to get it fixed. Would love to hear peoples experiences of Telstra and Optus for broadband and iphone mobile service as i think its time to switch.
Worst2: feeling a little blue, even with all my high dose anti-depressants – desperately want to be losing my final 8kgs which is tricky on thes ethings, and really want to have to decrease these meds – i want to be happy naturally so i dont need them! anyway its prob just a reaction to the family dramas of late.
Best: asked a guy out for first time in my life, he said yes (we have been flirting back and forth) and we had awesome drinks on Wednesday night! but as my dumb phone has been disconnected since Thursday, im in the cone of silence – grrrr! we discussed a second date too, at the movies…. sooooo lovely….
Best2: lost 2kgs recently, only 8kgs more to go!
big huge hugs to all
xoxoxxo
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Best: My new Blackberry! and I’ve had time to reconnect with old friends this week.
Worst: boy trouble. Oy vey
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Best: Bought beautiful bridesmaids dresses yesterday with a darling girlfriend who is getting married in 8 weeks. The dresses are so pretty and we had an absolute blast of a day shopping (which I normally don’t like that much) and catching up. Yay.
Worst: Bit of a grumpy bum due to not being able to exercise and cold weather.
On my mind: Lots of babies around at the moment. Having one is definitely NOT on the agenda right now, but I am often perplexed by if/how motherhood would change you.
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Concerted effort to have no worst!!
Best: Making concerted effort to have no worst, i am the master of my fate(well at least i can be be happy and try to get there!!)
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no worsts.
Bests – getting married in under 2 weeks. Gaaaaaaaaaaaaagh! And drinking red wine on a sunday night.
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worst: the worst hangover of my life…damn tab’s at 21st’s! recipe for disaster..
best: getting on top of everything at Uni, and everything about my boyfriend…even with this hangover he still makes me smile and take care of me
hopefully the next week is great for you all!
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Worst: Middle child being diagnosed with dyslexia. We have been searching for a reason as to why there are academic struggles… and now we have it. Feel like we have a mountain to climb over and feel sad that things will not come easy to her!
Best: We are all healthy and happy and thats the main thing!
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Now you know what the problem has been and can start to fix it and help her do better and feel better at school! That is great news, Mum of Three!
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Mum of three, my best friend has dyslexia, and she is the smartest woman I know, with a VERY successful career.
Take heart
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A close rellie has dyslexia, but wasn’t diagnosed properly until about age 22. Really put a kink in her learning all those years. What worked for her was to get blue-tinted specs, which seems such a simple thing – and still made a world of difference.
Really glad to hear that your child has a diagnosis now – that will make a whole heap of things easier to get done.
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A friend of mine from uni has dyslexia & now she’s a structural engineer. A damn good one, too!
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A good friend of ours has it too, is now mid 40′s. His main problem stemmed from the fact that it wasn’t picked up early enough or treated when he was young, leading to self-esteem issues/acting out. He is crazy smart and is now always adding extra letters after his name. No diagnosis news is fun but kids today are so much better off with parental awareness, information and early interventions. Go Mum and daughter! Long term, your girl will do great. My best
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PS Yesterday at school pick up, a little boy started talking to me. I looked down and saw he was wearing blue-tinted glasses. This was the first time I ever met him or saw blue glasses, and now I know what they’re for. Pretty interesting co-incidence, given our topic here.
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Worst: Didn’t sleep too well last night & tonight due to being in a strange bed.
Best: Just found out my Nana’s taking me to Japan in September!!!! *SQUEE*
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Wow Japan!!! That will be amazing!
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Yah I’m so excited!! I spent a month there on exchange in high school so I’m really thrilled to have the opportunity to do the tourist-y thing with my grandma!
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Hi all,
Best: Bella is currently at her grandparents house and I slept in till 8!This is only the second time but I’m loving the extra sleep and no fingers down my mouth at 2am!
Worst: So freaking clucky but my husband is wanting to wait a few more months. Is anyone else married to the money police? Yes daycare is expensive and yes it would be better if we waited till bella was 4 but you said July!!It’s August now!!!Now you’re saying December!Grrr! Make up your mind!!I’m abit cranky:)can you tell?
OMM: I have a major rescue complex! My new boss has inadvertantly rescued/saved me from some situations in the last few weeks and I’m getting those stars in my eyes. Add to that a husband who doesn’t communicate and I’m crushing on the poor man big time. It’s not like I’d do anything but I do love the fantasy;)
Also the working mother/SAHM debate resurfacing again this week on here. Guys, where’s the love? Why do we all have to carry around a great big bag of guilt?!
Have a great week.
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Hi Kimbo, yes I noticed that horrible divide emerge again too. Was very tempted to jump in with “STOP THIS RIGHT NOW” but didn’t really think it would help, so resisted. The thing is, I don’t really understand where it comes from. It seems to be very defensive – but since I’ve never actually heard/seen anyone attack someone for what they’re doing, I wonder what they need to defend against?
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About your rescue complex and crush – talk to your husband NOW! Tell him that you’re not feeling the love and that you’re cranky. Crushes have a way of at worst, getting out of hand, or making you feel awkward and self conscious around your crushee. I know what its like to be in your situation and the only solution I’ve found is to talk, talk talk!
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Hi Kimbo,
I have crushes all the time, too! Hilarious. When the weather is this cold, grey and windy, it is a wonderful thing to inspire you out of your snuggly bed and into your corporate finest to the workplace.
I’m lucky in that I always have crushes on nerds. They’re far more likely to get uncomfortable than I am. Don’t tell your husband- what’s the point? I never tell my husband when I’ve found a new nerd to crush on, but I do tell him when I’m wanting more attention!
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i have had major crushes too. nothing has EVER happened except the work day gets a bit more interesting. but worth talking to your husband about needing some love
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Best: first time back on MM since moving to NT last month. Feeling lonely & isolated; but the last 30 mins of seeing all these familiar ‘faces’ makes me feel Sokol much better. Best 2: my gorgeous kids keep making me smile with the funny/beautiful things they say.
Worst: the aforementioned lonliness. Being torn away family/friends/colleagues I’d so hard. I know it’ll get easier, but I just wish I could press the fast forward button to a time when I have managed to make some friends and feel ‘at home’.
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Welcome back, Gnats! I’m sorry you’re finding it tough at the moment. You will get through it, as you say…sending smiles and strength in the meantime.
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Best: My skin has cleared up after having the baby, those raging hormones made my skin terrible after having such glorious skin/hair/nails during pregnancy.. so having clear skin again is a nice thing.
Best: Started pilates this week, need to drop those baby kg’s and tone up. Felt great afterwards so hoping I can see some results soon.
Worst: A Friend of mine’s husband has up and left her with two gorgeous kids. He says they have nothing in common and he isn’t happy anymore. She is devastated, I really hope they sort things out.
Worst: My almost 8 month old has not been sleeping well since he had a chest infection about 6 weeks ago, has been waking every 2 hours at night and then my 3yo girl is up at 5am so Ive been a walking zombie.. After speaking to a sleep help clinic and implementing a few pieces of advice last night Im hoping I can get him back to one feed a night – then no night feeds oh that would be bliss!
Love and Hugs to all x
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I totally hear you re terrible skin after baby…mine has been the same. Did you take anything for it or has it just cleared on it’s own? It’s been 10 months and I’m still looking like a pubescent teenager. Urghh!
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Hi Me
After my first baby my skin did it also but it was after I stopped breastfeeding, and I ended up going to a natropath/iridologist taking herbal tincture and having lymph drainage massages – the works to try and clear it up.. This time round it got bad after I had the baby and just suddenly cleared up! All Im taking is iron tablets and the Blackmores Pregnancy and Breastfeeding tablets as Im still breastfeeding. Im just hoping when I stop breastfeeding it doesn’t flare up again?? x
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My skin cleared up amazingly after my third baby. i was so excited that at 33 I am finally going to have clear skin! Alas he is now 10 months old and I gave up breastfreedung a few months back and my skin is starting to flare up again. i spent years and lots of $$$ trying to clear my skin up previously. i’m really believing its all hormonal now and wondering if anyone has heard of treatments available and if its safe???
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I’m currently getting IPL treatments and using Duac cream at night and Doxycyclin once a day. I had to wait til I had stopped breastfeeding before I could commence so I’ve only just started in the last week. So far I’ve had 2 IPL treatments and I think the breakouts are slowing, although I’m still getting a couple of spots here and there. I have been on roaccutane TWICE, so I’m really keen to avoid it again if at all possible. I agree 100% with you about your skin being hormonal, mine is exactly the same. I spoke to my dermatologist about it and he said that unfortunately I fall into the category of 2% of people who suffer from skin that is very sensitive to hormonal changes. Lucky me!
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Best: Speaking to a professional about my stress levels…which I have been internalising and alternatively denying for the last few months. Truthfully, I have been finding the jump from 1 child to 2, a lot harder than I have wanted to admit. Anyway, after one session, I am feeling a lot better and able to cope with the many stressful situations which leads to my worst….
Worst: Feeling embarrassed by my almost 3 year old’s behaviour. He is a really gorgeous little boy, but a real thinker and hugely emotional. When I say no,he loses it, crying and screaming. He will then calm down after I talk to him, but that initial carry on is doing my head in. I know it takes time, but I am just a bit over it at the moment..
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Hey Mrs M,
well done you for seeing someone and gaining soem great tools to help you cope. That is such a smart thing to do.
Re your Mr 3 – no wordsof advice, just that I sympathise because i’m going through something similiar with my Miss 3. You’re not alone – hang in there
xx
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Thanks Anonymous – it’s good to know there are others dealing with this stage… And thanks for your words of support..I found myself responding to my husband and son in ways I knew were not good…(ie I was getting really angry about v minor things!!). Hope Miss 3 is nice to you this week
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I’m going through that with my 6 year old!!!! She is sooooo over emotional! it is really driving me nuts!
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Hi over the rainbow, thanks for letting me know I’m not alone!! Hope you and Miss 6 have a good week. x
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Worst: Well there’s plenty that’s getting me down at the moment but, this week, it’s finding out I need glasses for the first time. I’ve had a headache for at least a week and I noticed that it came on maybe an hour after reading the paper online of a morning, so I got my eyes tested and I’m slightly long-sighted.
Best: I was so afraid of having to wear glasses but I found a gorgeous rimless pair that weighs practically nothing and I found the courage to order them in red!
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Worst: having to pack up and say goodbye to everyone after studying overseas in Germany. This week has been one goodbye after another to the erasmus students going back home and I swear as crazy as it sounds, it physically hurts. I so don’t want to leave, I think I am in a bit of denial about it actually.
Best: realising that I got to meet so many amazing people from all over the world who I can visit in the future and who have made my life here these past few months so incredibly full and fun and happy. But still I would like them all to stay in Passau with me a bit longer.
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Best-Job interview
Worst- Job Interview If I get the job it will be hard to decide to leave my current job, which i like BUT new job closer to home, no parking fees, no tolls. I like my job but not the bitcheness that goes with it. Money is the same
What happens if the new office is just as bad as the old one,yet I was warned that the office I now work in is notorious for gossip (even HR has stepped in)Hubby says go for it. Have only been in this current position for 7 months. What in the hell do i do
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Go for it!
When you get offered the job you can make your decision… although it sounds like you have already made that decision!
Good Luck
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I agree! Go for it. Sounds like the pros outweigh the cons.
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This is going to sound pathetic but…
Best: my new iphone!
worst: waiting online, on hold and in line for a total of 11hours and 25 minutes!
I did warn you about being pathetic.
OMM a friend who is going through severe finacial burdon after some really really bad decisions. Wish I could help but she’s in really deep. just keeping an eye on her and trying to make sure she does not get too “depressed” about it. She has wonderful family support and I hope that helps her get through this.
Ps thought I would change my name to something a bit more fun
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Best: Husband getting a great new job, meaning we can move home to our families with our shiney new bub..
Worst: Nobody wants to buy our current house. Such a shame, we love it and can’y see why others don’t
So that is mortgage stress!!!!
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Worst: having to make a big uni related decision very quickly and under a lot of pressure. Many sleepless nights involved and waaaay too much chocolate! Also, really need some new clothes and I can’t find anything anywhere!!
Best: decision made. Doesn’t matter if I made the wrong one – at least it’s done now. Wonderful boyfriend and friends and family. Sun shining in Sydney this morning!!
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No best or worst this week – just blahhhhhh
Tink (8 months) has chest infection and conjunctivitis so a week of sleepless nights and just making do but I look at her when she sleeps and its all ok
OMM: feeling inadequate and jealous of others and really started thinking about what Zoe said in the video post about things missing in your life
hmmmm…. what changes to make ???
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I am going to squeeze in another comment as my week changes in a few hours.
Very very wet where I am at the moment. Heard there is a flood warning on our River. Just praying that the chick peas don’t get washed away. I feel very isolated when our road is so shit to drive on when it is wet. It freaks me out about the fact that an Ambulance would not have a hope of getting here if something happened. I had to drive home last night in a bog and a 25 minute drive turned into a 1 hour epic scary journey trying not to be bogged with 3 small kids in the back.
The upside is – I bought a mountain of gorceries so we won’t starve or need food drops by the SES if it floods again.
He He He
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Don’t worry about the ambulance, happymum. There’s always a helicopter!
I hope you’re chick peas are OK, and that you don’t get stranded for too long. Good luck.
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If you are on the end of that helicopter winch, I know things’ll be ok!
Thanks dear, everything will be ok – just bracing for our 4th flood this year.
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Where do I begin. Had a terrible fight with my parents, and our relationship wasn’t good to begin with. The problem is my fiance, they hate him and for the worst possible reason. They hate poor people, they’re wealthy and hate the fact that I want to spend the rest of my life with a “poor” man, and in their world, poor = middle class. They refuse to even acknowledge the existence of anyone poorer than that.
Anyway, they can’t stand the idea their daughter wants to marry someone “below” her. The way they talk you’d think we were living in 19th century Britain, not 21st century Australia. They refuse to come to the wedding and are threatening to break off all contact with me if I marry him, even though I made it clear if they forced me to choose they wouldn’t like the choice I’d make.
So I’m 21 and there is a realistic possibility I’ll never speak to my parents ever again. (They’ve had 4 years to get used to the idea of me being with this man, so it’s unlikely they’ll ever come around).
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My perfect fiance, and soon to be husband. If I was able to create a man I wouldn’t be able to make a better one. He is such a great person. I moved out from home when I was 17 because my parents wouldn’t let me see him, and all through year 12 and all of Uni he has supported me, in the early days some days were so hard he skipped meals so I wouldn’t have to, and yet not even once did he ever complain.
And he refuses to say a bad thing about my parents, even though he is well aware of what they think of him (they were never shy of saying it to his face), he even doesn’t like it when I have something bad to say about them. That’s just how much of a good person he is.
He is so amazing, every day I’m reminded of why I made the right decision, and even if I never speak to them again, he is worth it. If I had the last few years over again, I wouldn’t do a single thing differently.
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Gosh Emma, that sucks the big one, doesn’t it? I don’t get that attitude at all. Your bloke sounds awesome though – glad you’ve got a good one there. What a silly thing to cut someone off about! Would they maybe do counselling or something? Or is there a family friend you could ask to talk to them about it? What a shitty situation. *hugs*
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We don’t have any common friends, their friends are just like them and my friends have never met my parents, for obvious reasons. And counseling isn’t their kind of thing, they are way too stubborn for that. The fact is the one area I won’t compromise on (my fiance) is the one thing they can’t forgive. Money and class is so important to them I think they’d rather I tell them I killed somebody than say “I’m marrying a Policeman”.
The saddest thing is both my mum and dad grew up very poor and became successful together as adults, you’d think if any rich people wouldn’t have that kind of attitude it would be the self made ones.
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Wow! They think a copper is low class?? Holy crap! Yeah, I didn’t think they’d be up for counselling. Hmm, that is really kind of odd that they are self made and so were the poor people themselves once, and now they can’t handle you being with someone who is probably better off than they were at your age! How sad for them to have such an attitude.
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Yeah they think copper is low class. And not just that, I’m doing a teaching degree, when they found out about that they reacted almost as badly as they did to my engagement news. In their eyes, anything that doesn’t make you incredibly rich is a failure and Cop/Teacher definitely falls into that category.
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Well aren’t you just Little Miss Disappoint your parents! I just feel sorry for them, really. My dad has been known to be a bit like this – he retired from management a couple of years ago, totally white collar, but won’t let him forget that he is actually a fitter and turner from Newcastle.
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Nothing wrong with tradies from Newcastle, Kris!!! My dad and 2 brothers are boilermakers from Newcastle!
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LOL I know that! Its Dad who thinks he’s better than his brothers for getting out of BHP! Its quite hilarious knowing what a picky bastard he is about his hair and nails and stuff thinking of him as an apprentice at the steel works! He looks down on his brothers and sister for staying there and marrying a tradie. Goose.
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Your parents sound like they are afraid of life, and think that $ will insure you against adverity- not true. If they want to throw a tantrum, then that’s their choice, and while that is upsetting for you, you can’t control them. I imagine they will be hard work for a while, so if there is not contact for some time, that might be ok. This is what happended to me at about your age, I took a stand from my mother, and whilst it was tough, it felt kind of freeing. It allowed me to detox from her, and the distance allowed her to grow up and stop taking me for granted. Through watching the ways I handle my life, she’s now learned to respect me as my own person (and less as her possession), and I have enough wisdom to see her good sides. Now I’ve had kids, she would be v sad if I were to cut off from her again. When she is painful, she now admits it, says she’s in a bad mood, and goes home. There are some things we don’t talk about, but overall, it works v well. Good luck. Your age is one of big transitions for all of you. Your partner sounds gorgeous, so trust that somehow this will work out.
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That is very sad Emma, and I feel for you being placed into the position of having to choose between those closest to you.
In reading your comment that your folks grew up poor and became wealthy as adults, I wonder if perhaps they feel like frauds in the wealthy circles they move in, and are scared that you marrying ‘down’ will expose them as not truly belonging in the upper class? Perhpas they fear ridicule and scorn from their ‘friends’. It’s just a theory; I could be totally wrong. I’m certainly not saying that it excuses their behaviour, however their behaviour is about them, not about you and the noble choices you have made.
Good luck; your fiancee sounds like the perfect man.
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Your fiance sounds like such a lovely man, I suppose the way to think about this sad situation is soon you’ll have a new family – you two.
And hopefully one day your parents will come around, and if not as simplistic as it is – it will be their loss, you can never feel guilt about any part of it as you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong.
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I agree – your fiance sounds like a gorgeous man. I come from a big Italian family where basically the expectation is that your partner doesn’t just marry you, but marries the entire family. Well, as amenable as my husband is, its I who have come to realise that when you get married, your family becomes you and your husband, and kids if and when you have them. So Emma, you and your gorgeous policeman are already a family and your parents are very much the poorer for their attitude. Good luck and best wishes!!!
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Emma, my jaw just kept dropping lower, and lower, and lower at each comment on your parents’ attitudes. That your values are so different from theirs makes me wonder how you survived in their home at all! I wish you and your amazing-sounding fiance only the best for your future together. Even if sadly, it means losing out on a relationship with your parents for the time being. Hugs x x
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I have no idea how it would have been if I knew what they were really like all along. I was able to survive because I truly had no idea they were like this until I was 17, which was when I met my fiance and moved out from home. After year 11 I met him through a mutual friend at a party, for me it was love at first sight. We spent the summer holidays spending as much time as possible together.
After we were together for about 6 months my parents basically said, “ok you’ve had your fling, time to forget about him and find someone better”, and that is a very mild version of what they actually said. I tried telling them it was the real deal, they wouldn’t listen and forbade me from seeing him.
I moved out, and 4 years and an engagement ring later and nothing changed. When they heard about the engagement this week they gave me a “last chance” ultimatum, when I chose him I believe my relationship with them was finished permanently. I told them they are welcome in my life if and when they accept him, but I’m not getting my hopes up about that ever happening.
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Oh Love, bless. Good luck with everything, including the teaching. My mum’s a teacher, and as Denyse has said, they are wonderful, giving people who make a difference to the community. And that’s exactly what you and your man are. Need I say, NOTHING to be ashamed of, we need more like you two.
My best x x
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So are cops! That is just horrible, reading more about what has gone down. Their loss, Emma!
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My congratulations to you, one of the most mature and assured young women around.
That you & wonderful fiancé have grown in the love & commitment required for marriage is testament to your incredible strengths and human nature which has ‘detoured’ from the nurture route!
You have not been nurtured by your parents, it would appear, nor cared for by siblings. YET you have grown up despite them!
Well done YOU – our world not only needs more teachers and police but if they are of the fine human characteristics of you both – Australia is a lucky country!! Xx
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Well now.
Best # 1 If you ever get the chance to catch up with people from the MM community, take the chance and do it. Met the beautiful, gorgeous, cuddly, kind, cupcake queen and totally delightful Denyse this week. Two hours flew.
Best #2 More of the roller-coaster ride that is my life. I had the most extraordinary day yesterday, one of those It-Started-As-One-Thing-And-Ended-As-Another days. It started as a radio interview and ended up as an offer from a literary agent. No pressure, just thinking about what he had to say.
Best #3 Genuine excitement, trepidation, fear, and anticipation about the TV appearance, now locked in for Monday night. Saw myself on TV for the first time last night. Was appalled, shocked, scared and relieved that it’s finally happening. Swallowed a huge glass of wine.
Worst #1 Family stuff. My mother turns 70 on Monday. The rest of the family are all gathering for a huge birthday bash tomorrow. I’m not invited, because, you know, my sisters are like that. Instead I will take Mum out on Monday to a quiet restaurant and hope that the day is sunny, in every aspect. Because, really, it’s been a rather shitty time.
OMM – I’m thinking about a beautiful MM Lovely who has had the most extraordinarily difficult week, one that has largely been kept private, one that is in many respects an inner journey. There have been copious tears this week, raging grief, anger, intense pain.
I sincerely hope that the sun comes out for you again soon my darling. You are a beautiful woman who deserves your time in the sun. Sending you love and light and cupcakes. x
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So excited for your bests, LPC
When you’re a huge celebrity, we can say “we knew her when…”!!!
Also, so sorry for your worst, but it sounds like you’re handling it with grace. Happy birthday to your Mum
xx
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Can’t wait to see you on TV! Let us know the details?
I hope you have a lovely time with your mum. xx
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It’s Today Tonight, Monday evening 2nd August. I’m the one talking about leftovers heehee.
The spin doctors are advertising it as ‘how you can feed your family for $8 a meal’
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Have you noticed at Coles they have had to put up info about how they work out the $10 meals for Curtis’ recipes? I think the $8 meal is funny!!!
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I am so excited about all the good stuff that is happening for you, LPC! I nearly fell over when I saw your facebook status about the literary agent! Super looking forward to seeing you on Monday night as well. Woohoo!!!
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Wow, things move fast in LPC world don’t they? good luck with the literary agent and good luck for the TT segment.
You go girl!
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#*^)$#*!! Apparently we don’t get TT. Which I didn’t know, of course, because I’ve never tried to watch it before.
Good luck with the agent, and I hope you have a lovely day on Monday with your Mum.
Your OMM – the “retreat” I have mentioned before is of course still open, transferable, extendable to two or more. Whatever. Just sayin’
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Really? I thought Prime showed it at a different time? It is the kind of story they’d have on the website, I’d reckon. Lets hope so!
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You will be able to watch it online from about 7pm. Go to the Today Tonight website and they will have the video uploaded following the end of the show.
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Congrats LPC aka “the lady on today tonight” you did a great job – well explained and so good the focus on what CAN be done! Wishing you all what you’d like from this now! D xxx
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Can’t wait to see you on the telly love!
You are ace xxx
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You really are such a kind lady LPC!!
It was great to meet – we ought to get an MM community get together going – what do you think MMers and Mia, Lana and Nicky??
Anyway by now you’ll be tv appearance panicking but rest assured you have quite a few 100s here & in blogland & f b & Twitter all tuning in for the debut!!
Can’t wait & can’t stop saying awesome sauce * which is a descriptor of you too!
and I wish you a very splendid view of your tv – *fingerscovereyesbutpeepthrough
*hey,Danya you really have added to our vocabulary!!
Love and a big cupcake hug xx
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Love, LOVE your bests! Sorry about the worst but glad you have your own solution. Wishing you a very lovely time with your mum.
Re: OMM, I send much love to that person, whoever they may be. I’ve had a difficult week too and am sure hers was far more difficult. Good vibes are coming their way! xx
P.S. I’m so glad you and Denyse met up — and so jealous! I’m going to have to plan a visit soon
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Saw you tonight LPC- you were great!
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Was a great story hey? LOVED it!
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I saw you on TT too and will definitely give your challenge a go. I fly through my grocery shopping like a headless chook and KNOW that I could be doing better. Well done, LPC – enjoy your success!
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BEST: Seeing our little 6 and a half week dumpling on an ultrasound yesterday… yay.. strong beating heart. Very happy!
WORST: nothing
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Love that heartbeat – one of the best sounds in the world! Hello dumpling! xoxo
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BEST – been really productive at home and getting ‘sorted’ so feeling more organised and able to enjoy my ‘job’ a bit more. Not feeling so much like a bored and frustrated housewife this week. Husband is having treatment for anxiety/OCD at the moment (a life long condition that he’s really been in denial of) and I can already see the difference in him. I know he will be happier, more successful at work (he already does very well in his job) and we will get on better… and he will be able to get rid of all the ‘stuff’ around this place that makes it hard for me to know where to start and to even think straight and frustrates me to the point of it affecting our marriage… so I can see progress already and can’t wait for the positive results that this therapy is undoubtedly going to bring.
WORST – my Nan-and-law (husbands grandmother who practically raised him) ended up in the ICU after being rushed to hospital to remove a blood clot from her leg. We nearly lost her – very scary and it’s hard to watch her in such an indignant position and in such discomfort when she is normally such a stoic and together woman. She is 88 so is doing really well but we’re all now on eggshells hoping she will recover. The prognosis is good so far…
ON MY MIND (WHAT AM I THANKFUL FOR…) – feeling so blessed that we have our ‘Nan’. My husband was raised by a single Mum and his Nan (for the early years anyway) and he lost his Mum suddenly when I was pregnant with our first daughter which as you can imagine was quite traumatic. She has filled that gap enormously and as I have no family here we have been blessed by lots of ‘Nan’ magic. She is quite elderly so we don’t rely on her for ‘back-up’ (eg. child minding etc) but she is such a sweet blessing in our lives. Even though we know she won’t live forever (although she’s pretty tough so 100 is not out the question!) our girls have a great-grandmother that they will always remember and learn from which is awesome.
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I loved reading all that you’ve put down here CA. Seeing your gratitude is so heartwarming. Glad you’ve made progress at home and with husband. Er, not joking here…any main pointers/refs?? (I’m certain I have a problem too!) Your Nan-in-law sounds AWESOME. My best x x
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Hey thanks Ms Twitchy… when you say problem do you mean yourself or your partner? I think there’s all sorts of strategies that can be applied to solving a ‘hoarding’ problem. First of all, if it is the kind of hoarding that has a negative impact on your life, then it does fall under the obsessive compulsive category which is an anxiety based disorder. My husband has had some kind of OCD since he was a child (hoarding is not his only symptom) and while on an every day/face to face basis you would never really know that he is OCD, it does affect his life and relationships. Obviously getting to the bottom of it all is a good place to start and I think seeing a psychologist is the best way to go. My husband had it diagnosed some years ago but never did the work on himself and that’s where it tended to affect our relationship as while I didn’t resent the fact that he had the disorder, I really did resent that he didn’t do anything about it and that it affects our day-to-day life and potentially influences our children in a negative way. Now that our daughter is showing signs of OCD this has given him the motivation to do something. We don’t want our daughter carrying it through to adulthood so we’re doing something about it now and she is getting treatment too – we think she will be fine as we’ve caught it early. A psychologist is likely to recommend and guide you through cognitive therapy which is essentially a technique where you establish better control over your feelings and thoughts and therefore your subsequent actions. The psych will give you advice on dealing with the symptoms of OCD, one of them being the hoarding. On a practical level it is a real battle for me having a hoarder husband as, although sentimental, I’m fairly minimal and non-materialistic and I just hate being surrounded by junk. Having less stuff come into the home to begin with helps so really focussing on the moment where the decision is made to keep something could be a good place to start. Taking photos of things helps. Whenever my husband has been brave enough to throw something out that is worth nothing, but he has an emotional attachment to, he has at times taken a photograph so he doesn’t feel it is gone forever. Keeping a reasonable amount is OK. Maybe get a few good solid storage bins which kind of symbolises the importance of keeping some special things safe and then chose something from each year of your/their life, from each job, each school. Just small things and take photo’s of the rest. Have a garage sale or sell things that actually are worth something. My reasoning with my husband is that he is hanging on to things in his past and this is holding us back, affecting our future. If we sold it we could use the money for our future to make it better. That kind of reasoning… I have to confess to playing the guilt card sometimes – ‘is keeping this stuff from your past more important than your children’s future?’. I really do find having all the stuff around us both physically and psychologically holds us back in life and it really does affect our relationship. I’m hopeful of change. My friends call me the most patient person they’ve ever met! I think if we didn’t have children that we wouldn’t still be together and this would be the reason. Now he is getting help this is the first time I’ve really thought that things actually will change, so that’s probably a good indication that therapy is the way to go. Your GP can refer you/your partner to a psychologist and you can get a mental health plan which gives you 12 sessions subsidised by Medicare. I really hope you can work it out – it’s nice to know that I’m not the only one living with this (well I don’t wish it on anyone but you know what I mean!).
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Thanks CA/Janey. I don’t think I have any OCD, just an over-attachment to collectable STUFF (esp vintage home items) that may just be worth trying to deconstruct with a professional, because it IS a problem and the clutter does slow me down. It’s a love/hate thing! I also recently met a fantastic lady who started her own vintage store for the exact same reason- her habit had outgrown her home. And I reckon I had half the same stuff.
Interestingly, I also had the great idea of taking photos of everything in order to (hopefully) then let much of it go. I recently started my blog partly because of this- haven’t covered this topic just yet. I think my love of a good hunt got a bit out of control from the deep need to have a ‘job’ that took me out of the house once I left the workforce and had a baby and other issues mentioned elsewhere on this post. (Oh why didn’t I choose the gym instead?!?!) There IS anxiety about getting rid of it all though. I’m stuck and out of room. (My secret dream is to have a very patient fairy godmother hold my hand and calmly tell me what to do with it all, and that I will be ok, even if it takes a week.) When I do blog it all with pics, I’ll let you know. It may just be the starting point I need. Thanks again!
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Hi again – I think it’s great that you are open to having someone come in and help you – there are lots of ‘clutter clearing’ services available out there that you could call on. I would LOVE to employ someone like this – I’ve gently suggested it a couple of times to my husband and he has flatly refused. There is no way he’d let anyone, professional or not, near his stuff. He won’t even let me help so there’s definitely a difference between the stage you’re at and the stage he’s at. I think it is useful though to get your head around the emotional reasons for why you’re doing it in the first place and what is causing the anxiety. Looking forward to hearing how you get on.
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Hi CA, gotta get used to that name still!
Such a huge deal that hubby’s getting some help – phew- because there’s nothing worse than you “trying” to will him to give therapy a try & him standing steadfast.
He sounds like a good dad because having recognized symptoms in a child of his own, he has realized that change in him has to occur.
Congrats to you for waiting, wondering & watching until he made the move towards help.
So sorry to hear of his Nans illness- wonder too, if there’s a connection between hubby’s need to “hold on” to things and the fact that he was raised in not so conventional circumstances.
Apparently lots of things which affect us emotionally as adults have their roots in childhood – Ooops got a bit carried away, don’t have Psych degree but read lots ..
Big hugs to you tonight, especially for hanging in three!! Xx
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Hi Denyse – yes the name… I saw another Janey on here and thought it may confuse people so decided to change it and to make it a little more anonymous anyway. Chocolate Aeroplane comes from when I was a kid and other kids used to say “Jane Jane went to Spain in a Chocolate Aeroplane…” etc. I used to hate it but now I think it’s kind of a cool sounding name so I use it in a positive way.
Yes, my husband is a great Dad and he dotes on our girls and they adore him. His OCD/anxiety does make it difficult sometimes as he finds being around all three of them quite stressful and he can get frustrated and angry quite easily. He didn’t actually choose to have the therapy himself (I wish!) but when it was discovered our eldest showed symptoms… our daughter’s therapist actually insisted and he agreed. I was really so relieved that she did this as I’ve been concerned about him influencing the children in this way for some time and finally someone else is telling him to fix it rather than me so it was a blessing. I think too that he has been in denial of it and while he recognises many of his symptoms, there’s lots of things he does that he doesn’t realise he’s doing that only I will notice so he was unaware of the real extent of his condition so less concerned about his affect on the children than I was. He is a loving, smart, funny and gorgeous person so has many good qualities too – don’t want to sound like I’m only talking about the challenging bits!
Funny you should say that about his childhood. After being with just his Nan and Mum for awhile he had a not-so-nice stepfather come on the scene and I know this affected him greatly. This is when the symptoms first started. I don’t have a psych degree either but I feel like I should some days – just from personal experience!! Reading lots is nearly as good – my husband is a complete bookworm (he hoards books! ha ha!!) and he is very knowledgeable – well he has one of those genius brains that just needs to absorb more and more.
Thanks as always Denyse for your kind thoughts… I hope you’re having a great weekend.
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Worst: Hearing about my friend’s holiday to England. Started out well but then she ended up with acute appendicitis and hearing about the horrendous pain she was in and the whole ordeal at the hospital (long story).
Worst 2: Then hearing her lovely old dog died, not long after she got home to Aus. She was holding the dog as it died. So sad, I was crying myself as she was telling me. The dog has been with her (and her family) for 14 yrs, through her separation and divorce, through times when her health was bad etc. Feeling sad now writing this.
Worst 3: (no where near as bad as the others) but am taking Elevit as we want to try for a baby soon, and (TMI ??) it is making me SO constipated. UGH! Anyone have any other ideas as to what I can take? Maybe just folate tablets? Suggestions appreciated
Best: Holding my (husband’s) 3 month old nephew for a few hours the other night. He fell asleep in my arms for nearly an hour, then woke up and happy and smiling. Gorgeous.
Best 2: Watching my silly (but wonderful) cat playing with water droplets on my car. Chasing them all over the bonnet when they moved and then licking them up. So funny, and made me appreciate what a great pet he is. Love him.
On my mind: Was thinking that my life is a bit boring at the moment, but after reading these posts and catching up with my friend (see worsts), life is pretty damn good! I’m healthy and happy, if a little clogged up
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I haven’t got any experience with that particular medicine, but I have such a great tummy after switching my breakfast to Bircher muesli on a nutritionist’s advice. I hope you feel better!
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Hey KP, the particular type of iron in Elevit isn’t as easily absorbed by the body as some other types hence the constipation. There are a load of pregnancy supplements that have ‘better’ forms of iron and a lot more vitamins than Elevit (which ends up being pretty much just iron and folate, not a complete multi). Blackmore’s do a good one or you could see a naturopath to get a practitioner-only variety which are usually a little more expensive but have less ‘fillers’ in them. Sorry for the ramble, hope that helps!
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try the blackmores. i used the pre-conception one & then the preg/bfeeding. My lovely pharmacist said blackmores preg was better than elevit, more folate and other goodies.
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A handful of frozen blueberries on the cereal helps a lot! Also full of Vitamin C. Good luck.
We have a lovely old devoted 14.5 y.o. doggy lady with very stiff hips, but going ok for now. I can’t even read stuff like that without getting teary. My best x x
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Vitamin c helps the body absorb iron better, so myabe take with a glass of OJ? There are other preggy vitamins on the market, ask your GP or chemist. But it will usually settle down after a few days/weeks as its just soemthing the body is adjusting too.
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Thanks everyone, will give Blackmores a go!
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Hi KP
I had Elevit for both my pregnancies and had the same trouble. (However I had perfect babies and I do believe it helped). I switched to just folate when the constipation got too bad and then went back to Elevit later in the pregnancy. I remember six years ago when I had my first someone told me that Elevit was really good early on for the building the neural tube and then mid pregnancy Blackmores had something else in it that was good but I had seen too many studies where Elevit outperformed to totally give it up. Can I suggest Allbran. It really helps with the contipation. Good Luck.
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Thanks for the advice Julie H, I see your point. Thought I might alternate between the 2 products and see how I go. I have only been taking Elevit for 1 week, but it’s been very uncomfortable and I don’t think I could keep going with it for the next however many months.
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Worst: Acually, not too shabby a week… Though my job is playing on my mind again, I need something new. But what? Therein lies the quandry.
Best: I’ve been out this week! Movies, the pub, and I’ve just come home from a Kasabian concert, which was fabulous.
I’m usually firmly gued to my couch.
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Kasabian are great live hey? Even from a distance at the BDO they were fantastic!
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I didn’t manage to post last week, so here’s 2 for 1.
Best #1: The ‘He said I don’t love you’ post. Thank you MM’ers. Brought up a geyser of history, pain, emotion and ultimately, gratitude. Much of Laura Munson’s story rang true for me, and took me back. Appreciating in hindsight the value of patience, faith and long term commitment. It’s all worked out for the better, with real changes and an intact, even added-to family unit. Thank goodness we are long past that hellish, uncertain time that had me thinking I was going to lose my sanity in the process.
Best #2: It’s taken MONTHS but we’ve got Twitchette pooing once every 2 days now (down from 4)! Halle-flippin-lujah. MUCH less screaming. She still freaks out, but at least it’s more frequent, quicker and so much less painful now. Sweet relief! (For US ALL.)
Worst: Speaking of little shits
…my 3.5 girl has been the quintessential Jekyll & Hyde child. Whiplash extremes (delicious, affectionate, insightful, hilarious) to absolutely, shockingly revolting. The things she can say and do to people are just hideous. No, she’s not hospitalising anyone, but only today she made her little friend cry with her sheer nastiness, and nearly the child’s mother too. And she won’t go near my brother’s girlfriend (due to her apparently being the wrong ‘palette’ I’m horrified to hear her verbalise). This couldn’t be further from our philosophy or example, and is utterly mortifying. Most kids are not pure angels, but my heart sinks with helpless disappointment and regret when she’s having this kind of turn. I *shudder* at the mere thought of puberty.
OMM #1: After all the upheaval and adjustment, my grandparents ‘escaped’ aged care and went back home because my antsy and early dementia grandmother was homesick. Stress once again sent my grandfather back to the doctor. 3 weeks later and this week they’ve gone back ‘for good’. I hope she gives him a break now. To cover costs we need to ASAP clear the full house and garage for potential renters. While my do-it-all father is still frustrated and in pain, stuck in a leg cast.
OMM #2: Where has Sugarkane gone? Where are you gorgeous??
My best to all x x
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Nice to hear from you Twitchy!
Yay for your bests.
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Ms Twitchy , your best #1 is inspiring. And I hear you on the worst (*closes eyes and repeats “this too will pass”*)
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Worst: attending a primary school committee meeting where parent’s personal agendas over-ride any concerns of respect for others, honesty, or kindness. Nice. I give up. Primary school, people. This is the democracy you wish for your children?
Best: A weekend of wearing PJs, eating chocolate and other goodies from the market, and sprawling in front of the telly.
Bestest: Finding out I got straight HDs for Uni and can get into Honours no matter (just about) how I go this semester. Yay – now I don’t have to be anxious about next year.
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Yay for your weekend and HDs! Boo to those no life parents at school. Mean Girls everywhere! I’ve considered getting into my local schools’ P&Cs but am quite terrified of the uberMums! I loved school, and I love what public schools do, but that shit really scares me! Especially as a non-parent.
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Sooo right Kris … I love your idea but lovely girl an even better way would be to approach your local primary school and ask if they’re in need of any assistance.
That way, it’s from the school itself not the bitchfest /carpark/playgroundmafia
BTW this is NOT a comment for those wonderful super helpful and non judging parents who work to make the school a better place for kids by their understanding and maturity!! Schools need you & thank you
Back to you Kris, if youve got an hour or so for a day or more you’ll find most schools would have reading and other programs of learning where a caring kindly adult listens to kids read.. You would need to complete (schools have them) a “working with children” form, and also may need to attend some session to help you learn about expectations of a volunteer within a classroom setting – ie issues of privacy, confidentiality re kids etc
Knowing of your enthusiasm, zest for life, enjoyment of meeting people, and liking to help I would encourage you to do this & ask me more if you need to!
“loving your idea” xxx
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I’ve got a couple of primary schools really close by, I will approach them about the reading buddy idea!
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Michelle, thats always been the way. I was warned by someone to keep away from primary school committee stuff…she said its a poisoned challice.
You find the loudest most vocal parents can manipualte their children out of all sorts of pickles if they carry on enough….and the quiet people who just get on with it suffer the consequences
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So true, and thankyou for all the lovely comments. I’ve been feeling horrible about that last meeting and thinking, god, what am I doing wrong. But these comments really made my night. Now I can go back to my daughter’s school and do all those things like reading, helping in the library, cooking with the kids, and just enjoy the parents I like and ignore the rest. It really is true that those that trumpet loudest often win the day.
I have my market goodies beside me, had fun buying little things for my daughter and friends, and drinking strong caps from my lovely smiling German stall-holder.
Thanks everyone – hope your Sundays are lovely
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Best: Same old (fantastic) best for me. My husband is a massive spunk and I am madly in love with him. I went out last night without him, and he beat me home for once. I could hear he was already in the house as I put my key in the door and I got butterflies! He was also very good in our birthing class this week, if a little too enthusiastic on the massage bits (he’s very muscly and doesn’t seem to know his own strength). It was a little more painful than relaxing, but we’ll work on it.
Worst: Ultimate lame worst. My cat is scratching everything. This week I bought her a really fancy scratching post, and a lovely bed. It is no exaggeration to say she scratches everything except the scratching post which she completely ignores. I went in to the bedroom to find her sleeping NEXT to the cat bed, with her head on the human pillows. NOTHING works, she is so destructive…
On my mind: I miss my Mum so much. I wish she got to meet her grandchild. It’s been six years, but it still knocks me sideways sometimes. She was such a beautiful Mum, I hope I do half as well.
Hugs to everyone with actual problems. Love, peace and hugs.
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I am totes hitting the bloke up for massages. He has offered, but I have always gone professional. I LIKE the painful ones, but in your present state, I can totally get the non-painful just nice touching one!
My old housemates had a lovely cat (I’m so not a cat person) and she scratched everything bar her post, until we started teaching her (and then her bastard children
) that when she scratched that was she did it. TOUGH LOVE, love!
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How did you do it? I’ve tried everything. I grab when she starts to scratch and take her over to it, but she just ignores it and walks away.
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It involved scratches and us throwing them (not abusively, just away from what they shouldn’t scratch towards what they should). It takes vigilance, but it worked. Even with little kittens!
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Catnip! You can get cardboard scratching boxes infused with it…
http://www.ozkitty.com.au/webapps/site/60740/50118/info/advertiser-page.html?info_id=76543
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I’ve rubbed fresh catnip all over it and all she does is cuddle it and rub her face on it. Not scratch it. Argh! Our new couch
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Bother!
We’re having trouble with our 8 month old kitten chewing through telephone chargers, hair elastics, computer cords, mini cleo’s art and craft projects… Pretty much anything you don’t want to be destroyed by a kitten. Has plenty of teething toys but doesn’t want a bar of them. Why would you when there is so many more interesting things around to chew?
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I heard somewhere (Dr Harry?) that you spray them with a fine water spray – they think it’s coming from the object and move away. Eventually she will go to the scratching post or stop the behaviour completely.
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Yeah we used to do that with the cat too. It got to the point where we just had to brandish it and she would scarper! LOL
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Hi Peanut – I hope you don’t mind but I wanted to comment on your OMM comment. My mum died 5 years ago and I had her grandchildren a couple of years later. A wonderful positive I found was that I felt like I got to know her all over again. I find myself saying things and doing things with my children that she’d said/done to/with me that I’d kinda forgotten about. Anyway just thought I’d give you something else to look forward to
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JC what a great thought. Next week it’s been 6 yrs for me too, i’ll have to look out for the (good) parenting things i do that came from her.
Peanut – love your bests
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Oh thank you, Ladies! These are great points. I have already found myself remembering stories she told me about being pregnant with me and relating to them so much more.Our Mums did a good job with us, it’s a lovely way to honour them by carrying it forward.
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Hey Peanut… so envy your ongoing best… I wish I got butterflies from my husband! How lovely… your baby will be raised in what is obviously a marriage full of undeniable love and respect.
So sorry about your Mum… my Mum-in-law passed away when I was pregnant with my first and I still long for her to meet her grand children… it just seems so wrong doesn’t it? I always think when they see a butterfly in the garden or a rainbow in the sky that it is their grandmother saying hello… you will find little things like that to make you smile… I feel your sadness though.
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With you on the rainbows already! I see one and say: Hi Mum!
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Hi Peanut (makes me smile just typing that)
If you clip your cat’s nails regularly (every fortnight) it will help alot. I have 3 cats and I find that they scratch their pole more just after I’ve clipped them and that if they do try it on the chairs etc they just slip off without damaging them. Also stops them getting their claws caught in jumpers and rugs etc and pulling threads by accident.
It works really well as long as you remember to keep it up (I have to put it on the calendar!!) and I haven’t noticed that they mind it at all – except for wanting to scratch the pole to sharpen them up again!
You can buy clippers at vets or supermarkets.
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Best: MMers – thank you for your honesty and willingness to share stories on the Laura Munson post – has made a huge difference to my outlook.
Best: finally started tap dancing – am completely uncoordinated and I love it!
Best: a slightly left of centre idea worked
Worst: Found out that someone I don’t know has posted old photos of friends and I on her facebook page – she’s not even in them. They are very innocent but I don’t get why they are on there? I find it very odd. I’m not a facebooker so maybe there’s some reason they have been posted. Start to wonder how many other photos are on there.
OMM: Marriage dramas, family dramas – why can’t we all just get on and get on with it?
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Aren’t MMers awesome? I’m so glad you have found support and solace with this nutty bunch! We ROCK.
I am uber unco when it comes to dancing. Me + step/anything that requires rhythm + movement = HILARIOUS. Weirdly if I don’t try and just go with the grooves, I’m allegedly impressive!
Left of centre ideas usually work better, it just takes them to prove themselves.
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Oh, TAP dancing….glad I re-read that! Picturing THAT unco-ordinated was great for a giggle.
I also just B&W’ed my gratitude for the Laura Munson post. Saw your reply to my comment on that one too, and immediately knew I’d done the right thing by sharing. My best to you Cleo x x
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Best: Close friend just told me that she is v. close to getting engaged!!! Knew her and her boy were serious, and was scared I would start to feel jealous upon hearing this news as I so badly want it to be my turn alreay, but am elated. So happy
Worst: Nothing right know.
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Best: Starting to feel more active again. It’s taken a while for me to recover from my knee surgery, but i’m finding that it’s my fitness that is struggling now instead of my knee. I’m going to have to get back on that cross trainer now!!!
Worst: Shitful week at work.I was exposed to almost all bodily fluids this week, and just general mental and physically draining days (screaming, wrestling, excursions. Etc, etc). Glad its the weekend and hopefully it’ll be out of the kids system by Monday!
OMM: At the moment. Hot Choccy and bed!
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worst – weighed in on Tuesday after 8 wks of working out & not only was my original weight much higher than i thought, but i only lost 500g… 500G! =[
best #1 - dinner with my darling friend who has just returned from 3wks in Ukraine on Wednesday... i cooked dinner & told her to bring whatever dessert she wanted to as i couldn't have any & she made fruit salad so i could have some... i love her!
best #2 - had a catch up session with my personal trainer tonight [Friday] & weighed in again to have a 2kg loss! that means there’s only 8kg to go before my first goal is reached & i have 54 days [8 wks] to do it in…
best #3 – 54 days till Wellington, New Zealand & seeing my babies!!! [niece & nephews] <3
OMM – catching up with a high school friend when he gets back from Melbourne… he is gorgeous! & it makes me nervous catching up with him when i'm this far from my best…
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Hi Fee,
I’m sure you know this already, but don’t get too caught up in the numbers. You’re building up muscle (heavier than fat) and improving your health and fitness already. Just be good to yourself!
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Sparks flying with someone of interest, but I am absolutely petrified of getting in too deep. Have never let myself get too close to anyone for fear of basically everything: being let down, physical aspects, being judged, the list could go on.
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Best: I dreamt that my fiance and I had awesome goodbye sex before he went away for the weekend. Then I woke up. And we did
Worst: Found out I’ve been been snoring again this week. I hope it’s just because I’ve got a sniffle… very upsetting to be told your partner had to hold a pillow over his head to block you out.
On my mind: On Tuesday night came across an elderly lady (80+) wandering around a deserted shopping centre. She was exhausted and a bit confused. I walked with her to the carpark – 15 minutes of slow walking and chatting later and it was clear that she had advanced dementia. I offered to give her a ride home but she couldn’t remember where she lived! I helped her search through her bag for some ID which luckily we found. She was such a sweet lady, lovely in fact but I felt so sorry for her family who must have been really worried about her. I’ve been thinking about her ever since.
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Good on you Emily! (Firstly for your Best!), and secondly for that beautiful caring act you did for that lost lady and her family. She was lucky you are such a warm hearted and interested person. My best x x
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Nice One, Emily. Hey, I bet you know her address, right? Go and make sure she’s OK. You will probably make some fantastic friends!
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Emily your omm is my best. Thankyou for doing such a sweet thing. x
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Thanks, Emily, you’ve made me smile….
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Emily… I’m sure she’s OK – thanks to you! What a lovely thing to do… the elderly are so fragile and we need more people out there like you to tune in to this. Nice work!
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Best: A good friend gave birth to a healthy baby boy last night…. In the car on the way to the hospital. No joke. Dad was speeding go the hospital, but he couldn’t wait to join the world! The story is one that makes me smile and warms my heart to know that all is ok and mum and bub are healthy.
Worst: wonderful things are happening for those around me and I am feeling like I am a little left behind… Babies, engagements, travel… To be fair though my life isn’t so tough ….
Kisses for all. Xx
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i completely understand your worst… sounds like you’re talking about my life…
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Right there with you – though it’s more about the babies and less about the weddings, plus the idea that everyone else is going forward. Crossroads . . but at least we have options!
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And it ain’t over till it’s over – something fantastic could happen tomorrow or next week or next month. I’ve felt in a rut lots of times, then something happens, or I make something happen, and life gets that much better.
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Best: Spent Sunday looking at blocks of land that were gorgeous. Got really excited about maybe building a house on a dream massive block in the mountains!!!!
Worst: Realised we can’t afford it until next year as hubby is SAHD this year (which is brilliant but not so much for the bank manager!) I’m not the most patient person in the world and am anxious that the good blocks will get sold before we get a look in.
Best 2: Just had an awesome evening with hubby and kids, playing trains, dressing up in silly hats and taking photos, making music out of half the baking equipment (have small headache after wooden spoon on stainless steel mixing bowls….). Was a lovely end to a busy week that was dominated by crappy work.
OMM: What kind of house can we build? Can we afford it? Will we be able to afford my own design? Will we find a block we like? Do I really want to work full time so we can get this new house, or do I want to stay at home part time with the kids in our horrible, falling apart, too small, frustrating box of a house? I WANT A NEW HOUSE!!!! But I feel mummy guilt too….
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Also, re last week’s Worst about my friend – her test results have been postponed until next week, so we are STILL waiting!!! ARRRRGGGGHHHHHH
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I’ve been looking forward to this post since Tuesday when my best occurred (slightly sad I know)
Best: cooked a meal for a few of my bestest friends, there husbands and their babies, it was fantastic. A rare moment to get us together from different parts of the country. It reminded me of how lucky I am to have such wonderful friends.
Worst: can’t think of any, but that might be the glass of wine talking. Xxx to those with real worst
On my mind: The election. I feel a real sense of responsibily to make a well considered vote but find myself second guessing everything everyone says from the pollies to the media. Everyone has their own agenda or perspective. Policy may be great in theory but there are so many variables. It’s doing my head in.
Xxxx
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Hey JC I think about posts early in the week sometimes too!! It’s a fun thing to do..but if you don’t want to ‘do your head in’ re elections try to only view/read/hear what seems most important to you as a voter. It’s too much to think of the response to all issues..but that’s just my humble opinion.
On a lighter note – it’s only 2 weeks & 5 days till voting day
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Best: Being back at home after being run out of town by our paranoid schiziphrenic (former) neighbour. We spent a few days just lying around, drinking tea, reading, baking and enjoying being back in our own home.
Worst: I was interviewed for my dream job on Tuesday, and now I’m playing the waiting game. I walked out thinking I the interview had gone fantastically, and now I’m swinging between thinking that it went well the job must be mine, to thinking I fucked it up and can kiss my dream job goodbye. I also run to my phone every 15 minutes to check I have reception just in case they can’t get through
On my mind: Holidays! Where to go over Christmas, how soon we should book, how much to spend?
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I’m so glad you’re back home, Blondie Gal. I hope it has all settled, and good luck with the job!
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Best #1 – I celebrated my 26th birthday this week. I was very spoilt and had a lovely dinner with family and friends.
Best #2 – I started my new job this week, and my class are officially mine on Monday!
No worst this week.
OMM – Programming, assessments, and settling in to a new work place!
Love to everyone having a tough week x
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Happy Birthday for this week!
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Have a wonderful first day with your class tomorrow..I’m sure those kids will love you as their teacher!! Xx
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Long time reader, first time poster
Worst: really struggling with the new boss. After 4 years of a great working environment, it really is the pits to have to drag myself to the office each day.
Best: I’m loving the way my team is pulling together to support each other. What ever happens, I’ll have made long term friends because we’ve supported each other through some tough stuff
OMM: wondering how the neighbours are going to react to the development notice that we’ve put up outside our house. We’ve got some really amazing renovations planned and I don’t need anything hindering the process.
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Welcome. So great when new people join in! x
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Welcome Jobubbles!
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Welcome, Jobubbles! Bet you feel better, huh?
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B – blushing having read Danya’s post. Xxxto you too !!
E- excited that in 17 weeks our son & his beautiful fiancee
will be wed(parents of H aged 3& R aged 1) & that Hubby’s priest
bro will perform the ceremony
S- so happy to read MM babies to be news everywhere!! Lucky kid lets!
T- Twitter , for fun & intellectual stimulation all mixed into one#chocwars still rages
W- whingers and whiners of any sort – cyber & real – get a grip people!
O- oh no, hubby’s health which is pretty crap as mmers know got worse
& he has to have MRIs for brain& spine due to
‘rapidly progressing dementia with Parkinsonism
R – Rudd – did he or didn’t he “leak”.
S – stamps went up … 55c to 60c – who knew? Does anyone other than me still post
stuff in envelopes peeps (not on a blog)?
T- time going too slowly while you wait for outcomes of; medical tests etc
O – occasionally I get worn down so much by caring role that I feel I’ll end up sick
M – MIa’s visit to PNG & her totally frank responses to the pics were inspiring to me
M – making the most of the ‘down time’ from caring work for me & it is, thanks to my
‘day off’ met LPC xx, took time to play on iPad, made cakes for fun,
made more plans to meet up with friends
P – people on this blog are so compassionate & caring of one another and it’s
a joy to see the words of love & support being so appreciated
as comments & replies flow.
S- schools – I might be retired but schools are often on my mind.
If you have a chance to do so, and it’s appropriate, tell a teacher,
office staff, ground staff, school executive that you think they’re doing a good job. It’s a hard task to please everyone
Hugs to all, especially those who are under that bloody black dog, facing sad memories, and recalling losses. You are thought of and cared for many of us here. Stay positive & as well as you can cos I’m gonna try too!!!
I know but some words of ki dness keep on keeping on,
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Ah – didnt proof it too well did I.. Anyway I’m sure you’ll get the drift
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Oh, so creative Denyse!
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Aw shucks – actually thinking about the post – love the B&W time of week- made that creative mind come on board for something a bit different this week.
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That’s so awesome Denyse – I wish you’d been my teacher!
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That is a huge compliment for which I thank YOU Emily!! Xx
I’m a teacher through & through & it’s about enthusiasm for and love of learning AND the kids!!! The ones I taught mostly were K-2 and now my rooms at home for my littlest grandkids have lots of learning stuff that’s FUN … Reading to our nearly one year old granddaughter it’s an amazing thing to watch the concentration & interest & joy!!
Said a lot didn’t I? Typical teacher LOL
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Denyse… you are truly wonderful. I’ve said this to you before (although a while ago now), your husband is blessed to have you in his corner. Best wishes to you both x
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So kind of you KI ! My husband is awesome even with everything that’s coming undone at the moment in his health, he can still put his arms around me for a comforting hug!!
Thank you for your care too – xx
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You are uber awesome, Denyse. Love you long time. Sorry to hear about Mr D’s health dramas worsening.
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Kris – mutual love xx bummer of a time for sure- but hopefully will be a bit better informed this time next week. Got a beautiful picture of Miss R (nearly 1) with her Papa today – such moments must be captured !!
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That is just so clever Denyse.
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That is super cool
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I post – when did they go up??????? I posted yesterday using one of my 55c stamps from the box I have. ohhh nooo !!!!
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Hey I loved this too – nice work Denyse! I agree about saying that to a teacher or school staff – they have a tough job… my parents are retired teachers/school principals and so I completely get this.
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Best: my husband secretly organising for my parents and sister and her fiance to meet us in Brisbane for a weekend on the Sunshine Coast to celebrate my 30th!
Worst: being diagnosed with breast cancer. Having a mastectomy next week. Very worst of the worst was having to wean my 6 month old son cold turkey. That was very sad (and very painful!)
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So sorry to you for your Worst.
Sending lots of love, peace and positive energy your way.
xo
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I’m so sorry Karen. I really hope everything is ok for you. If having to wean your baby is the worst thing to happen from this, then I think that’s ok. I really know where your coming from, being sad about it though.
Good luck, and many many hugs to you!
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Oh shit! I will keep you in my thoughts.
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I’m so sorry to hear that Karen. Sounds like you have a good support network around you – draw on that as much as possible. Good luck with your treatment and keep us posted on how you go x
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Hi Karen,
So sorry to hear your news. My heart goes out to you. Love and best wishes for the time ahead.
Hope you are getting lots of support and love from those around you.
x x
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I’m really sorry about your worst Karen. Best wishes for next week. Will be thinking of you xx
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Thinking of you, can’t even begin to imagine what you are going through xxx
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Bloody hell. So sorry about your worst. Wishing you well honey. x
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I am so sorry to hear about your worst. Thinking of you and your family xx
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Best wishes Karen, love and hugs coming your way xxx
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Oh Karen, that’s horrible news. Wishing you strength and love for a speedy recovery.
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I’m so sorry – that sucks. Hope the op goes well. xx
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Oh no, that is truly suckfull Karen. Sending positive vibes your way. xx
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thinking of you karen xxx
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Oh my goodness Karen. I’m so sorry to read your news. My thoughts & very best wishes to you x
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Oh honey I am so sorry. Sending you love xxx
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Oh Karen! What a week. Hope your breast cancer journey is OK (sorry for the reality show “journey” use, but it really is in your case). Good luck, hon. xoxoxo
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Wow and then woe! Poor you facing this god-awful challenge & the never-dreamt of experience of weaning. Will be keeping everything crossed for a positive outcome and that you’ll be home with bubba and hubby soon as. Much love xxx
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Karen, that’s so hard. Thinking of you and wishing you the best. What a brilliant idea for your 30th! It sounds like you have a lovely husband and family to lean on in the hard times. Massive, massive hugs.
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Very sorry to hear about your worst. Thinking of you.
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Oh I am so sorry for you and what you are about to go through. I hope it all goes smoothly for you (as much as it can). Big hugs
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Karen, I am wishing you all the good luck in the world for you and your family now. I am so sorry.
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karen im so sorry. sending hugs and best wishes your way. wish i could do more.
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Oh my god, that’s terrible Karen. Best of luck with your treatment.
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Thinking of you Karen, so sorry to hear your worst xx
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Karen, I don’t know what to say. I am so sorry – and sending you much love and strength.
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Karen I am so so sorry to read about your worst. I can’t imagine how distressing this must be for you. My best friend had a mastectomy at age 29, that was 12 years ago now. She is OK, she hasn’t let it define who she is but I won’t pretend it hasn’t been tough at times. The early days after diagnosis are a shock and the reality after surgery is extremely hard but you will get through it somehow and the best thing is that it has saved your life and that you will get to see your little boy grow up. My heart aches when I think of you having to wean him but you have given him six months of the greatest gift you can give him and your breasts have done what they are supposed to do which is very special.
I won’t pretend to know how you’re feeling but just wanted to send you my support and let you know I’m thinking of you. It sounds like you have a wonderful family and husband to support you and a beautiful baby to focus on. I wish you all the best in your difficult journey – I hope there are some rewarding parts to it as well.
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I god ah cold
So this will be a somewhat abbreviated B&W&OMM this week.
Worst : Grey pubes
Best : At least the carpet matches the drapes now.
Best : Teenager really shining in his school production
Wosrt : Performances every night this week and 2 on Saturday. Very, very tired.
Worst : People on the internet.
Best : People on the internet.
Best : Fatty
Worst : Fatty
A huge shout out to the super duper awesomesauce Denyse Whelan. The wonderful Denyse boxed up some lovely crafty supplies for my wee beasties and it really made a tricky week much, much better. Love to you honey xxx
“The most compassionate form of giving is done with no thought or expectation of reward, and grounded in genuine concern for others.” – Dalai Lama
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“At least the carpet matches the drapes now.” – GOLD!
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Glad to hear you’ve had a better week.
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Grey pubes. Yep
No-one ever tells you about them, do they? Fortunately the OH matches.
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Love to you all. Thank heavens for the Denyse’s of the world. Glad there has been some lovely bits in your week xo
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I’m gonna liberate your quote from the Dalai Lama for my Facebook motto thingy.
I’m so keen to hear some of your young bloke’s school production – jazz version of the Mikado, don’t ya know?
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Best: Revelling in my new baby daughter – she finally arrived, a week overdue (3 weeks ago, I haven’t been online much!). The birth went so smoothly, it was an amazing experience (so different from my first). Seeing my toddler smother her little sister with kisses and cuddles from the get-go.
Worst: I could say tiredness, but am so happy and thankful that I am not complaining!
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congrats Salsa!!!! Sibling love is so beautiful!
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Congratulations Salsa! Enjoy!
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Yaaay Salsa and big sister! Its a very important job, being big sister. Enjoy the love!
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Truly beautiful, Salsa. Congratulations
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Congratulations! Wonderful news!
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I have a general question. With so many posts (esp the election threads) how can I keep track of new comments? Once it goes to a new page it takes forever to check through to see new posts..esp when someone replies to an older comment. Am I completely missing something? I find it takes me forever to keep up to date with new comments. It’s very frustrating. It would be better if people could quote the post they were responding to, but their reply remains “on top”.
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Best: potential new job opportunities.
Worst: ummmm can’t think of one. That must be a good thing!
On my mind: I really want to buy a new house. We can afford something good now but if we wait 12-18 months we’ll be able to afford something better. I AM NOT PATIENT ENOUGH FOR THAT.
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Worst: My husband’s sister visited for a few days, which should have been lovely, but……….you know how some visitors are a pleasure and easy to have, and others just make everything so much more difficult?
Best: I had a training exercise for work this morning – getting winched in and out of a hovering helicopter. Very cool. A good day at work!
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Oh. My. God. I. Would. Die.
I’m trying very hard to imagine what sort of work you do that would require this sort of training… Bowerbird: stuntwoman extraordinaire?
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LOL, Miz. When I was at Navy recruit school, I learnt VERY quickly to not tell Mum what I was GOING to do. It was much easier for her to deal with week to week knowing that we had all SURVIVED what we had done. Most of it was super fun though!
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Ha! Now I feel soooo mysterious *giggle*. But no, not a stuntwoman, and sadly not extraordinary either. Getting winched is not a daily occurrence, just occasionally
(although, apparently, our organisation’s chopper is the most winched in the sthn hemisphere – maybe even the world! Who’d have thought? Made me feel very safe)
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I never did the winching in and out of a helo, but did do a simulation in a basket thingy when we nearly froze to death in Survival at Sea. Good Times.
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You win!!! Freezing is not my idea of fun
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Oh My God – you are one tough cookie. I don’t like if I can’t see the bottom of a rockpool.
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That is a cool day at work. Are you like some sort of secret agent in training or something?
Bowerbird, Mrs Bowerbird.
Do you like martini’s too?
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LOL. Oh dear, I couldn’t possibly own up to the truth now. It would be such an anti-climax!
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