by JASMINE GARNSWORTHY
Create space in your wardrobe to make room for new clothes. Free clothes. What’s not to love about that genius concept?
That’s what we thought, which is why we held our very first Mamamia office clothes swap last week. In short, it was almost like finding out Ryan Gosling has become a gynaecologist and HE HAS A FREE APPOINTMENT ON FRIDAY NIGHT.
Here’s how it went down:

Everyone contributes their clothes. And our boardroom begins to resemble a warehouse sale
We can definitely recommend you giving a clothes swap a go with your favourite group of women (it doesn’t have to be a workplace, think mother’s groups, book clubs, wherever you see women on a regular basis). Here’s how to do it:
What to bring: Almost anything – shoes, bags, clothes… Be a little discerning though and make sure you’re bringing a quality item that is clean. That faded black t-shirt that only cost you $10 in the 2010 sales could probably find a happier home in a charity bin.
What you get: Did we mention free clothes? But remember to play fair – fashion is like its own currency. A clothes swap has a code of conduct not dissimilar to a dinner party (or the commenting rules here on Mamamia y’all). Donating a pair of trainers probably doesn’t justify you snapping up the designer cocktail dress everyone is eyeing off. And it won’t earn you any points with your girlfriends/colleagues. Be generous and receive generously.
How to do it: We held ours at the office but anywhere there is a large amount of oestrogen flying around will work. As Confucious says ‘more-people-means-more-clothes’ (not really but hey) so get busy inviting. You will want a wide range of sizes and personal styles to keep everyone happy. Remember you’re playing for keeps. No givesy-backesy. So think about what you donate and make sure you’re truly ready to break up with it.
According to Jezebel, not all clothing swaps go so well thought. So watch out for any of these:
The shock swap:
“I had just moved to New York and didn’t know a lot of people; I was also pretty broke so when a friend-of-a-friend told em about this clothing swap, it sounded great. But when I got there, every single girl – literally all of them – was like a size triple zero. There was no way I was going to fit into any of this stuff, and they all looked at me with pity. Also, all their things were really nice – like, designer labels – and no one was touching my three-year-old Target and H&M – even if they could have fit into it. I felt so bad leaving that place.”
The cut-throat swap:
“My friends decided to organize a clothing swap, which sounded good, since I had some stuff piling up and I wanted to give friends first dibs before I brought it to the GoodWill. Also, a bunch of us are around the same size, so we all knew we could probably come away with something. I was really psyched that this one friend, Julie, was going to be there since she has amazing style and lots of cool vintage stuff she’s found at thrift stores. When I got there, though, I saw that everyone had the same idea. We were all looking at Julie’s pile covetously. Things quickly got really competitive-like, people jumping in to grab things.
The pity swap:
“Some of my coworkers organized a clothing swap: big mistake. It was like the worst of all worlds – not friends, but not strangers either. We were all being super-polite to each other, and the pressure was on to take something from everyone, just to be collegial. The worst part was, since we all worked together, we were hyper-aware of what everybody was wearing and not wearing in the coming weeks. This one girl actually said to me, ‘I notice you haven’t worn that vest I brought to the clothing swap. That was a really expensive vest, you know.’ Result: we all walked around in these totally bizarre outfits for, like, a month, until the sensitivity had died down.”
Have you been to a clothes swap before? What are your tips for holding one?





Comments
34 Comments so far
Would love to do one at Mamamia – I’d aim for Mia’s pile and get decked out head to toe in sass and bide
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This worked well at a recent weight watchers meeting, as everyone was changing sizes, it was great to pick up a couple of things to wear that fit ‘at the moment” and get rid of clothes that had now become too big -
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I agree – this is a fantastic, guilt-free way to update your wardrobe
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This is such a fabulous idea! I think i’ll rally some girls together and edit my wardrobe over a glass of wine. Genius!
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What a fabulous idea ! I’ll definitely be trying this with my girlfriends xxx
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Me and my friends did one of these recently and I got so much good stuff! We had to drop our stuff off prior to the event and some of the girls gave our stuff a value. And we got monopoly money based on how good out stuff was i guess, Then we had a fashion parade and an auction! It worked so well because everyone felt like it was fair. if you bought amazing clothes you got more play money to buy stuff with. But after an hour or so and several bottles of bubbles we all just got in and tried stuff on and got what we wanted. Highly recommend it!!
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I am so doing this with my lady friends one weekend arvo!
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My friends and I do this with books! One of the girls works for Lifeline who run a huge book fair twice a year. We take any books we no longer want over to her place, rummage through everyone else’s and usually come away with a few new reads. Anything leftover gets taken in to Lifeline to sell at the fair. Works brilliantly!
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My friend organised last year for ‘Girls Night In’ where you raise money for cancer (check it out here… http://www.girlsnightin.com.au/ ) a sort of clothes swap. But instead you bought along a number of items that you no longer want and then all the items were auctioned off and all the money went to the charity.
It was so much fun, and everyone ended up with a few good bits & pieces, she is running it again this year, although has limited it to 5 items per person as did get a bit out of control.
Would recommend it to everyone as a great way to raise money for a terrific cause!!
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Ahem, why wasn’t I invited??
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…Cause you don’t work there?
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I wouldn’t even try a ‘swap’ as such, but what a group of us does do is when we have a clean out, allow friends (individually) to rummage through the pile – or take the pile to rummage about at home. Then whatever is liked can be taken before its donated. No-one bats an eyelid if nothings taken/everything is. Works for the person doing to clear out, and the person rummaging!
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My friends and I do the same. We call it a swap but it’s really just a free for all with absolute honesty and generosity!
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Is there anyone who isn’t trendy with up to date style at Mamamia? A clothing swap at my workplace would be the total opposite. I work in a library so you could probably guess what items of clothing would be brought to a clothing swap there….lots of 80′s neck to knee outfits that’s for sure!
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Everyone has their own style BUT I bet if you got some girl friends together it would work for you.
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I’m a Clutter Coach and wardrobes are probably the most common problem for people. This idea is great to take out the things you no longer love, need, want and replace with things you know you’ll use.
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Do you have a blog or website?
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http://www.debislinger.com
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Did anyone else find the ‘Ryan Gosling/gyno’ comment a bit off?
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Yep.
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Yes, actually made me wince…
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ohhh for goodness sake its a comment not a life style
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It’s just a bit weird. Who cares how hot the guy is doing my pap smear, and why am I wasting a Friday night getting one? Doesn’t make sense!
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As a regular Mamamia writer, all I can say is gosh it can be tough when Mia hits the edit button!
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Yes it’s just yuck! Imagine ….’oh wow, Ryan Gosling is heating the speculum…sigh…what a man’
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Oh, yes.. I thought it would just be me…
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I’m not usually this dopey but I don’t get how this works! Does everyone bring, say 10 items and then gets to take 10 things? Or does everyone just throw in their stuff and hope they find something in return?
I’d be out of luck in my workplace because I’m a 16 and most of the other women are 10-12s so, this is just for curiosity sake…
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I’ve been to some great ones and no, it’s defintiely not about getting as much as you give. In fact, sometimes I bring 3 bags of stuff and come away with just a couple of good pieces. One of the goals is to clear out unwanted clutter and all the leftovers we donate to women’s shelters. We mix all our stuff in together first, so that there’s no ‘coveting Julie’s pile’ and you really have to rummage.
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Based on the pics from the open post I would die to have a clothes swap with the MM office! I think I would be like the lady from the first horror story though – bringing Target and Cotton On clothes 2 sizes too big for everyone else!
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Size 16 with long legs. Everything is for wide people. I’m a + size model shape and everyone I know is a 10, 12 or 14. Perhaps I’ll just rely on getting some good shoes (yeh, size 9) or an awesome bag, belt, scarf…..
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Trying to get my head around the point of the “as good as Ryan Gosling becoming a gyno” comment. Ummmmmm ……he’s really good looking so you’d be really excited for him to do your pap smear?? Am I close?
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The less attracted I am to my gyno, the better for everyone!!!
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Bahahaha “Result: we all walked around in these totally bizarre outfits for, like, a month, until the sensitivity had died down.”
I give away clothes to friends and get quite a few items from them too – its so nice when someone says “I saw this hanging in my wardrobe and thought it would look fantastic on you!”. I always add “otherwise I’ll give it to Vinnies” so there’s no guilt if I never see them wearing it. I think formal clothing swaps have HUGE potential for awkwardness!
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I always want to have clothes swaps with my friends, but I don’t ever have anything good/not worn out to swap!
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