Bathing. Showering. Beyond the age of seven it’s generally one of those on-your-own activities. Like using wonder soap to get stains out of your delicates, plucking ingrown hairs from your bikini line or doing number twos.
Occasionally it can be a nice, shared experience. Especially when you’re in the early months of a new relationship and he/she is just SO amazing that the prospect of 5 minutes standing under running water without each others’ company is simply TOO MUCH TO BEAR.
At those times, sharing is caring. Sharing is friendly.
But what about showering with actual friends? Girl friends with whom you are most definitely not having sexy times.
2DAY Network drive show hosts Jules and Fifi tackled this one earlier this week and were astounded to discover that women showering with other (straight) women friends, isn’t all that unusual.
Jules had this to say on his radio show this week:
“I’ve mentioned that I am a little bemused by women. A friend of mine was telling me last night, and um, I got a lot of joy out of it and I wanted to bounce it off you because as a guy, I don’t really know what to say. It seems odd to me. So on the weekend she had a friend stay with her. A female friend from interstate.
“They’ve been friends for years. Decades. Anyway, so they were chatting. And my friend, she was saying – she went and had a shower and her friend walked in and was just getting ready. You know, brushing her teeth while she was in the shower.
“So at this point they’re chatting…. And there’s a glass door to the shower only. It’s not like footy change rooms where you can’t really see each other. So that’s pretty weird. And my friend wasn’t all that comfortable. She’s sort of facing the other way, she’s not flashing her bits as her friend’s brushing her teeth. Anyway, so as they’re chatting, my friend’s friend goes “oh, I might pop in.”
“She drops her kit. I promise you… this is true. She’s naked. She jumps into the shower.
“My friend let her in because she just didn’t know what to say.
“At this point you’re starting to wonder ‘do other people do this?’ Do other people’s friends have showers? So she gets in and they’re in the shower together. Is that…?”
Here is Fifi’s reaction to Jules’ story:
“No, that’s not normal! Look, the shower nozzle only covers one body. You freeze if you have to share the shower with another person!
“It’s even annoying when boyfriends or partners try to get in!
“You and your friend were sharing ONE NOZZLE. I’m saying no. Ok?
“The answer to the question has to be no. I think it’s strange to share a shower with a friend. That’s just not necessary.”
After that, several women rang into their radio show to swear that THEY TOO shared showers – and baths! – with girlfriends. So tell us. Is this a thing? Is it just an environmentally friendly and indeed friendly-friendly norm of 2012 that straight female friends will shower together?
Do you shower or bathe with your friends in the nude?








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121 Comments so far
Now men will be encouraging all their gfs to have showers with their friends. Lol
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I have showered with girlfriends in the past. I guess at times it’s because we are going out and are in a bit of a rush…but mostly it’s just because we are chatting, the shower is pretty big and it seems like a waste of time doing it seperately…
I also share the bathroom with my girlfriends while we are showering. It’s actually quite hilarious because I’ll be innocently doing my make up and as I glance sideways at my best friend she has pressed her nose and boobs up against the glass and is pulling a super ugly face. Gets me everytime…
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When I get my kit off for the shower, I want to leave the room MYSELF.
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Thanks Chef, that gave me the giggles.
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No way – weird! And Fifi is right, unless you have a shower designed for 2 someone ends up freezing cold.
I was at the gym once and a friend came out of the shower with her towel wrapped around her. Turns out that her locker was right next to mine and she stripped off in front of me and kept chatting. I didnt know where to look and turned away from her! Now if that was the other way around, I would have taken my clothes into the shower and dressed in there.
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I know of a mother and daughter who shower together every day. The daughter is 32.
I sure as hell choked on me vino when I heard that one!
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That really is a bit ewww! I don’t get that at all.
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I know! I’m pretty liberal but it’s just weird. I know I came out of my Mama’s lady bits but I don’t need to see ‘em every day!
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Lol! Exactly.
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Nup, no way – weird! Would never ‘pop in’ to any naked scenario with anyone if it wasn’t for sexy time!
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Doesn’t worry me being in the same bathroom with my besties, however GETTING IN THE SHOWER TOGETHER IS REALLY REALLY WEIRD. And annoying. I want the lovely warm water all to myself thanks very much!!!
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If I am away with girlfriends or sisters, or getting ready at eachother’s house, we will all have an open door policy… its not like we plan on all getting naked in front of eachother, but if we are chatting and getting ready at the same time it saves time and you dont have to interrupt the gossiping! I have no problem with it, but if someone else feels uncomfortable, you have to respect their privacy.
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Nope, no, no way, uh uh, as if, not going to happen, hell no.
I’m comfortable with my body, but there is NO showering with friends past the age of about ten.
Sorry, but it’s just weird not matter how ‘natural’ you want to argue it is.
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Hell to the NO.
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22 years together,and I still shower with my man at least twice a week. Keeps the love alive. I have showered with women before, and I must say , I quite enjoy it.
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I totally agree. I used to hate showering with past boyfriends for some reason but can’t get enough of it with my now fiance. Of course it often gets steamy in there but we also just have a laugh and a gossip whilst covered in bubbles – great way to start the day!
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Damn, my eyes saw ‘nan’ not ‘man’ for a second there and I flipped.
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Now that would be weird!
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Always on the weekend for me and my partner, would happily during the week except that by the time he is getting out of bed and headed to the shower I’m heading out the door to work.
Friends I would have no problem being in the bathroom with naked, but showering no. The boy gets that privileged because it comes with cuddles and a neck massage.
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Me and my man shower together every morning.. we only have one shower and commute to work together so it just makes sense to jump out of bed and into the shower. I love it!
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Um hello- FOOTBALL TEAMS!! My boyfriends team basically get naked as soon as they are in those changerooms where they then stay that way while showering together, having game debriefs and man-bonding time. Its hilarious! Apparently if anyone actually covers themselves up they get payed out!
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Yeah, but I am sure they do not share the same showerhead, so not really the same thing. More that it is a situation with many showers with no doors!!
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Yep, definitely a sport thing. Took me a lot of years of playing rugby to get used to it. Used to leave my bra and bike shorts on, but eventually it’s was the same group of girls ( gay and straight) and I got over it. Spent a year in England playing and not only were we with our own team, but with the opposition. And everyone was naked, it was more odd if you left your underwear on. And definitely shower head sharing if there isn’t enough. My club only had 4 nozzles in the showers and to get a team of 15 odd girls showered and dressed quick enough to get the next team in required sharing
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I’ve done it a few times, when I was about 18 with close girlfriends (who I’d known for years). We went on beach holidays a few times and there were always 10 girls sharing 2 bathrooms.
Getting home from the beach/dinner at 9pm, and having to be ready to go out at about 11pm, does not leave enough time for everyone to have separate showers. So we just did it in twos. No big deal.
I don’t know if I’d do it now (I’m 22). My friends and I are still very comfortable getting naked in front of each other, peeing, and doing make-up while someone is in the shower.
I think it all depends on your barriers, and also on how long you’ve known your friends.
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I’ve done it a few times, when I was about 18 with close girlfriends (who I’d known for years). We went on beach holidays a few times and there were always 10 girls sharing 2 bathrooms.
Getting home from the beach/dinner at 9pm, and having to be ready to go out at about 11pm, does not leave enough time for everyone to have separate showers. So we just did it in twos. No big deal.
I don’t know if I’d do it now (I’m 22). My friends and I are still very comfortable getting naked in front of each other, peeing, and doing make-up while someone is in the shower.
I think it all depends on your barriers, and also on how long you’ve known your friends.
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I have had showers with my best friend and female cousins and my sisters. In times of extreme time restraints this is necessary. I don’t find it weird. We all have the same stuff.
And I shower every night with my man.
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“In times of extreme time restraints this is necessary.”
Umm no, it really isn’t. I’ve never done this in 30 years and somehow managed.
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Um, that’s going a bit far. I always freeze in the shower cause my boyfriend is the water hog, haha. He takes forever to shampoo and condition his hair, then wash himself. I am happy to shower with him every now and again, but never with a friend. That’s crossing the boundaries. I’d have told her to wait!
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The first bit, sharing the bathroom, I’m totally fine with. Sharing the shower in a, leave the water on – i’ll hop in while you hop out thing, I’m also fine with.
But not the showering. I can’t understand why you would even want to share a shower with a friend. I don’t even like sharing with the kids.
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Yea that’s something I’m not ok with, but having said that I don’t care who’s around when I’m changing but showering is my time and space. I hate when my partner gets in and we only ever have a bath together but even then I get out quite soon after as it’s uncomfortable unless it’s giant!
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Gulp, I had to re read that last bit 5 times to get your meaning, almost spat coffee over screen.
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haha whoops!!
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No!!!!
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Why not? My bestie and I have before. We’ve all got the same bits they just look a little different. Lighten up people. Indigenous people of most countries don’t seem to mind being naked just us westerners.
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Haha, I just came back from a trip back home and I can tell you not only did I not have a single shower whilst in my village (alone or with others – bit hard to do with no running water), I also filled up the bucket and took it to the bath my dad had installed in our house (after heating with the ring heater connected to the generator) and bathed alone. The only boobage I saw was my cousin breast feeding and some old woman who couldn’t hold up her towel properly. Most people don’t bathe at the stream anymore, especially now that there are so many bore holes around the villages. So even us indegenous peoples are catching on.
But you are sort of right about the nakeyphobes amonst us. I am such a prude, though I don’t think it is a Western thing, I think it is more an Anglo-Celtic thing (the countries where their beggnings are from British & Irish colonisation/immigraton), as I reckon the rest of Europe is pretty lax when it comes to nudity and the like – hence why everyone in school watched SBS movies…lol
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I don’t get the whole “we’ve all got the same bits” argument. Yeah and when we do a number 2 it all looks the same, but that doesn’t mean I need to see anyone do it. Ever.
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I agree with Fifi about the freezing part, but at the pools/gym it doesn’t faze me at all. Swimming pool showers often don’t have full cubicles or dividers.
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Nu-uh. No.
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Nooooo.
I would be ok with being in the shower with frosted glass while one of my best friends was in the bathroom doing make up and chatting. I have peed in front of friends, while drunk.
But to actually be fully naked in front of them, in the shower, is WEIRD!
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Absolutely no way. I am also against changing in front of female friends. Some of my friends are fine with changing clothes in front of me and I’ve seen them naked etc but I prefer to get naked only with my love interests!
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Absolutely not. I don’t even like it when the other half wants to share. 100% agree with Fifi’s “nozzle theory”.
Also, ALONE TIME.
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No. Just no.
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No, sorry, that’s weird!!
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