By JAMILA RIZVI
“This didn’t used to happen at my old job.” That’s what has been on my mind (OMM) this week. In fact it’s been on my mind so much that it has basically become my mantra.
Making the shift from the not-always-so-bright lights of Parliament House in Canberra, to the sparkly and neon post-it adorned offices here at Mamamia – has been a pretty big change.

Go Leisel go! We made this and it recieved more than 4000 likes on Facebook.
I knew it would be different of course. The world of politics is quite unlike anything else. Your life exists in a bubble because you live and breathe the stuff that everyone else only casually engages in as they watch the news at night or when they flick through the newspaper over a morning coffee.
So I expected to have to go through a period of adjustment. I was pretty damn excited about getting to BE the media instead of just trying to convince the media to write nice things about the Government. But overall I was confident it would be a not-so-difficult change to manage. Right?
Wrong. Absolutely nothing could have prepared me for coming to work at Mamamia.
During my first morning meeting we discussed Madonna’s nipple. Her left one to be precise. The one she flashed. At the final morning meeting at my old job, we had discussed the outcomes of the G20 Employment Minister’s Summit and how we could better support the long term unemployed into meaningful work. We’re not in Kansas anymore Toto.
In my old job, there was no ‘sparkle’ day. I think the Minister and I once wore identical Country Road suits to a media event but that was about as fashion coordinated as we got.
I brought ideas to those first few editorial meetings and other writers would raise their eyebrows at me and say “that feels like homework Jam, readers like to read stuff that is you know, um, not boring.” That would be followed by fart noises.
The strangest moment has perhaps been the merging of the two worlds. Having the Prime Minister visit the Mamamia office to engage with readers directly about child care. A little strange for me (!!!) but more than anything what a GIGANTIC compliment to the Mamamia community – it shows how switched on and engaged our readers are, when our nation’s leaders seek us out, anxious to hear your opinions. I have loved to be able to write about politics too and see the world that I was once a part of from the outside. It has given me a whole new perspective.
Each day we try and make sure Mamamia serves you up a tapas style platter, with a little bit of everything that is going on that day. And I love that. The site is as complex as all women are – our tastes are wide and varied and our conversations switch from politics to fashion to relationships to motherhood in a matter of minutes.
Most of all, I enjoy reading the great submissions we get about current issues that have that slightly different ‘angle’ to them - that’s what ultimately makes Mamamia different to other websites. Our contributors and writers have their own take on what’s happening in the world and it’s often one you might not have considered before. Coming from the world of politics where you have a standard line and you stick to it – that is tremendously refreshing and stimulating.
Mia and the team inquire about my love life daily. Yes, daily. The entire team’s personal lives are front and center of morning conversation – it’s a great feeling to be working with friends. I find myself saying things like “I’m going to post the semen now guys” and I have email folders called “sexy selfies” and “erotic fiction“. I’m serious. In my old job, that would have had me in breach of the Government’s IT code of conduct.
7 weeks in and I am still swimming rapidly towards the side of the pool, so I can grip onto the edge for dear life and have a quick break from treading water. But I’ve never had more fun. Every single day it’s a joy to come to work and I’m learning new things from fabulous people at a crazy, crazy pace.
But I am getting there. Only a week ago someone in the office looked up from their computer and asked “How long were Tomkat married for?” And I knew the answer. To the month. *Waits for applause* I’m still a little bit chuffed.
What new and exciting things are happening in your life this week? Are there new jobs, new loves, new obstacles or most importantly, new shoes? We want to hear all about it. What’s on your mind.
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Comments
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i just wanted to say Jamila that I’ve loved your posts and comments so far, I think you’re doing a fabulous job. So pleased you’re enjoying your new role that is challenging, exciting and makes you happy! Can’t wait see more of your work going forward xx
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I know i’m coming late to this but just wondering if some melbourne people could give me some advice, am coming to melbourne for the weekend and staying in the city and looking for things to do…can anyone recommend some good but not too expensive thai and italian places? and also some good pubs to go to? was thinking about maybe going to the casino? any advice would be appreciated.
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OMM: Where the F**K have the last 10 years gone???!!!! my 10year high school reunion is coming up soon, and after paying for my ticket to it this afternoon i was feeling very nostalgic, turned my itunes on to listen to some of the music i used to love in senior high school, its an eclectic mix ranging from britney spears to system of a down and the prodigy.
Got a little bit wrapped up in the memories the music brought back….i was justr reflecting on how in some ways i havnt changed much since then….. till my toddler stopped playing and appeared beside me…..dancing like crazy to system of a down…not quite toddler appropriate..whoops!! in one crystalised moment it was clear just how much my life has changed!!
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Hi Jamila,
OMM is the terrible grammar in the first sentence of the post!
‘this didn’t used to happen…’
I’m certain that ‘this didn’t happen….’ is sufficient.
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hehe i think i like ‘ this didnt used to happen’ better!
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I know im late to this weeks OP, but…
OMM : Mr grumple stiltskin last night, came home from work in foul mood, shower and went to bed at 6.30. Better this morning but now going away for work tonight and back tomorrow. Feelings of undervalued and frustration at other employees who ‘do nothing all day’.
MEN !
How to make him see that he is valued, and attitudes of others are noted, just unfortunate that middle management don’t know how to handle them. Having ‘sick’ days so that someone else has to do some work is not the answer, it only reflects poorly on him. As frustrating as it is, the only person he needs to worry about is himself – be the best person you can be and it will pay off in the future.
arghh
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We miss you Jamila! But glad to hear you’re enjoying your new job!
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Thanks babe! Xx
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Great post Jamila! I would love to hear some of your “boring” and homework like ideas
I know it’s not true because I have always pushed myself and laziness is not part of my personality (I have a great psychologist that helped me realize this.) so at the moment I’m just trying hard to focus on myself and taking care of myself. Because as much as certain people may decide I’m not worth it or are angry with me for not getting better faster in the end it’s my future I need to look out for. I know of people who due to pressure from people pushed themselves with cfs and are now in wheelchairs and on oxygen. So the next time someone gets angry because I take my drs advice over theirs and refuse to do some weird alternative medicine (tried it all anyway) or refuse to “just get out there and do more things, take a walk in the fresh air” I will remind myself to stick to my treatment plan and NOT let them get to me because it would be ME in the wheelchair or worse and not them. Sorry for the vent but I’m still working through all these emotions and well it is OMM :p have a great week people!
OMM: new research on my cfs made me realize I’m handling it wrong! I need to rest more and not push myself. So trying to get over the guilt of NOT doing things. And am really really angry at those people who made me feel guilty about being sick and dismissed my illness as something insignificant implying that I’m just lazy and over reacting. And even angrier at my so called friend who I haven’t heard from for 7 months because she is angry that I’m still sick. It hurts having people say I’m just not trying hard enough.
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Good on you! It’s your life & your the one that has to deal with your illness & your recovery. Is cfs Chronic Fatigue? My husband had this before I met him & he leads a full happy life now. It can be hard for people to understand chronic fatigue in the same way that it can be hard for people to understand depression. It’s not an illness you can see, you have to imagine it & not everyone has the scope to do it.
I wish you luck in your recovery, stick to your treatment plan, amend it when needed with collaboration with the professionals. They know boats!
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Jamsie! Congrats on having your ‘I am a feminist’ piece being a national hit!! WOOO HOOOO!
BY the way, I loved this piece too; the tone is just right- not that it isn’t at other times!
OMM: Organizing my time. Some days I manage, others: not so well.
Hmmmm… also, exams are coming up soo soon. Wondering about other course requirments. I know, I think too much about the future. But, that’s what a girl’s got to do. Think about and mull over things far tooo much!!!
OMM number 2: I want to watch a good romcom sooo bad. I like Pride and Prejudice, Sleepless in Seatle, Two Weeks Notice.
Any recommendations MMer’s?
Thanks a bunch!!
xoxo
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“Jamsie” – you know I think that’s a new one! Thanks curly hair. X
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OMM – we are moving from Melb to Brisbane and I am wondering if I will have enough boxes for all the ‘stuff that has to come with us!! Really looking forward to getting there it’s just the packing. *sigh* Also, I note that helopetal mentions a Brisbane MM catchup. Can someone let me know when and here – if we are not there in time, you can count me in for the next one. Thanx
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Hi SK
Helen is organising the first Brisbane get together & it will be a dinner on the 11th August. We decided that would be best to meet then we can arrange a park picnic or something where we can bring the kids, for those of us who have them. Helen’s email is here, she has put it up on Mamamia before so sure she won’t mind my passing it on: helenmaclean@y7mail.com
Brisbane’s great. I’ve been up here 17yrs now. It’s grown a lot n the last 10yrs. When do you move?
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OMM: It’s not the first time I have mentioned this but the tone of some of the comments on here lately have become a real bummer. And I don’t mean this post, I mean MM in general.
I’m really disappointed that some posts have had the comments closed. Feels like I might miss out on an opportunity to comment if I’m not quick enough.
While I have no clue what it must be like trying to moderate the comments, I have started to wonder if the MM team are too concerned about protecting their authors. The content on here has clearly changed over the last few months and perhaps the reality is that with those changes comes a different type of conversation, and, sadly, more trolls/negative readers.
When things start to get a little heated it seems like many of the MM team/regulars jump all over the post in support of the author. I love that you all have each other’s backs but often it just adds fuel to the fire. Sometimes I have even wondered if this is intentional. Like when some of you come out saying how hurtful, disappointing or negative a lot of the comments have been and then other readers start asking ‘huh? I thought this was a good conversation.’ But then I think it surely can’t be intentional because you guys have started going to the length of closing the comments when needed.
My rant is really just a long way of saying maybe it’s time to look at what kind of readers you are attracting with the changes. I feel really sorry for the MM team and that you are all clearly (I hope) trying so hard to encourage respectful debate and a lot of the time it’s not happening. It must be exhausting moderating comments/defending authors/positions/decisions when I’m sure all you guys want to do is interact in a positive way with your readers.
I hope you guys can make the right changes to get the MM community back on track and it not descend into madness like some other sites.
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Oh THANK GOD! I thought I was the only filthy animal who did the towel trick, I feel much less ashamed now
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Hello everyone,
I am researching relationship quality for a psychological research project for my honours year. I am really interested to know what you may believe others think about your relationship and if the backgrounds you and your partner identify with impact on your satisfaction.
The link to complete the survey (which is completely anonymous) is http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/relationshipquality
Post approved by Mamamia administration
Thanks everyone!
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mia, where did u get the star necklace/s? i think one is sass and bide? can u help with the others?
ta
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Seed Kids!
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hilarious. good one. thanks
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I posted around 5:30pm & it’s not showing up. I tried to re-post & it told me I’d already said that, yep sure did? Where in cyberspace have my words gone?
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I shall investigate hellopetal! They may have accidentally got caught in the spam filter. Hang tight.
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This has happened a few times to me lately. I emailed mamamia help desk but no reply. Disappointing as one comment in particular contained sound advice (in my opinion) for someone going through PND with their partner.
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That’s a shame Charlotte. So far I’ve always gotten help when I’ve asked for it, mostly from Jamila. I had PND & that’s a time when you really need help too. I hope the person found some good advice elsewhere & got the help/answers they needed.
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Hi Charlotte. We do aim to reply to everyone, so I’m really sorry if somehow your email was overlooked. Sometimes our spam filter can be overzealous, especially if you’re posting links. But if it happens again please flick the info@mamamia.com.au email a message and we’ll try and restore your comment as soon as we can. Jamila
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I also had trouble posting a comment yesterday afternoon (Western Standard Time – just after Lizi’s comment) as the site kept crashing – I kept getting an IE error message but the same thing happened when I switched to google chrome.
I just assumed there were heaps of people trying to access the site and it couldn’t cope?
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Does anyone know which is the best ALIA approved Masters in Information Management/Librarian studies?
I’m getting the impression it is Charles Sturt…also, does anyone know how much IT is involved? The Masters offered at QUT in Information Management actually falls within their IT faculty and that sounds scary!
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I’ve been looking at doing my Masters in Teacher Librarianship and CSU looks like the best (and only) place to do it.
I’ve heard great things about CSU, especially in regards to external students, since they seem to specialise in externally offered courses.
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I don’t know if this helps at all, but quite a few people I know of are doing degrees/masters degrees in the same area by correspondence. And I believe the majority of them are doing it via Charles Sturt.
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OMM: am starting to feel like my old self. It’s been 8 weeks since my hysterectomy and the overwhelming tiredness of the past couple of years is slowly lifting. I haven’t told anyone in case it’s just in my mind. Feels nice to wake up and feel ok.
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So, no new job but some reassurance that I’m doing well at the job I’m doing – raising daughter. This morning we went & checked out a kindy for which we are wait-listed for next year. It was great to see how the kids interacted with each other & their teachers & they’ve got awesome facilities. Also chatting to the teachers I was reassured that the things I’m doing, joining a new playgroup, teaching her how to go to the toilet without pulling off everything she’s wearing on her bottom half are good things to be doing to help get her ready for kindy next year.
Also after reading Emma’s article the other week, I have made a concerted effort to be friendlier to people – parents at the park, people at the shops, etc. At a new playgroup for the first time last week, I told the other mums (also new) about the local fair that would be on & the local kindys. I went across the road & daughter & I introduced ourselves to the new family who have moved in. I just walked up the shops to get some essentials, at the insistence of MIL who’s babysitting today, & ran into one of the playgroup mums who thanked me for letting her know about the fair. Her family all went & had a great time. We’ve touched base & will both be at playgroup on Friday so perhaps our daughters can get to know each other better & us too.
There’s also going to be a Brisbane dinner this month of some readers who’ve expressed interest in making new friends which I’m really excited about.
Thanks Emma for a great article. How are you doing? Have you met or connected with anyone yet? Thanks for getting me off my bum & back out into the world. I’m also going to be hooking up more regularly with a busy friend because we adore each other & so do our daughters but she’s a busy bee!
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About to buy myself a laptop. Macbook Air or Pro?
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PRO – don’t go Air as you have to connect an external hard drive all the time. I love my MacBook Pro.
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Depends what you want it for. My Air is bliss – great to travel with. Far prefer it to the iPad (not much weightier). All my big files live on my iMac.
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I love my Macbook air, so portable.
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Just to confuse you further – love my Mac Book Pro – not so heavy that you can’t carry it around but so user friendly – perfect size.
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Air if you travel frequently but Pro if you want to do sound and vision
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Worst: another ‘No thanks’ on the job interview front. Sigh: who was the person who posted that she’d written 500 job apps before she scored? That’s a lot of employment ‘frogs’ before you find your prince.
Best: an old client came in with a new freelance project – so I can still afford Tim Tams.
OMM: Enjoying the Olympics, although the only decent commentators I’ve seen so far are the equestrian and the rowing. Nine’s coverage is so underwhelming – Foxtel must be raking in new subscribers.
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OMM – how this week’s open post introduction and photos make me want to come and work at Mamamia even more than I already did! I will happily move from Melbourne and work for free! That’s how bad I want to work with you ladies! Don’t know if I could keep up with the absurdly exciting fashion but would love to try…..
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Your comment made me smile. We’re pretty lucky
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You are very lucky by the looks if things but I feel lucky to have this site that I love so much and visit multiple times a day to read all the great writing.
Keep up the good work peeps and don’t let the haters get you down
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I have a new job for the school of the air. AM terrified but ridiculously excited about living and working in remote australia. That’s whats OMM.
Worst: nephew crying when we said goodbye.
Best: flowers from the boyfriend.
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G.J – Maybe look at the worst as a best? My newphew now gets really sooky now when I have to leave. I hate seeing him upset, but I love that he misses me when I go. It’s a nice feeling that they love you and really miss you. (He’s just shy of 2)
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Very true
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OMM1: it’s a good week. Hubby turned 40 yesterday. Today my dad arrived from OS for a visit. We’ll have some nice couple of weeks.
Then I am turning 30 end later this month. We are kind of still unsure if we should do a party for our birthdays.
For hubby’s birthday we just had close family members over for dinner, because we most likely we are going to do a joined party for the two of us.
No in the middle is not an option, because almost in the middle is our daughter’s birthday.(Yes 3 birthdays in the space of a month, yay-that was sarcastic, because by the time my birthday arrives, I am tired of the cooking and preparing and don’t even want to celebrate my birthday)
OMM2: saw this Four Corners on ABC1 the other night about the those two women, who were murdered by their ex-partners after they left them because of domestic violence. I am so devastated for the kids, their family, and just in general, that this happenes here in Australia. With this I mean women not being taken seriously by police and authorities, unable to find a safe place and feel safe. Just makes me very sad for them, and at the same time very appreciative of my home and life.
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OMM: I have completely lost my mojo. After last weeks heartbreak, and a couple of other things, I’m trying so hard not to be sad, and I’m successful about 70% of the time, but the rest I’m just sad.
Can’t wait to get out of this funk. I don’t want to work, I just want to sleep. Don’t really give a shit about anything.
Found out my “nephew” is having two engagement parties and that has really irked me. Knowing the family, seems like a grab at presents.
I’m still blogging but lost the mojo with that too. If you want to look I’m at http://iamevilcupcakeblog.wordpress.com/
Ugh. Sorry I’m so negative today. Hope everyone is well.
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Hey Evil Cupcake,
Just wanna say *hugs* Hope the funk is over very soon
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Maybe this will cheer you up Cupcake! (Brazilian Olympian)
Sorry to hear you’re feeling down.
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He’s pretty
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this will sound blase, but its helpd me in the past: eat really well. eat really fresh, organic, healthy food, and it so helps with your moods. It’s when you eat junk and come close to being overweight that will affect your feelings as well.
so nourish yourself and your emotions react accordingly.
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Unfortunately I’m flat broke at the moment and living off 2 minute noodles. That’s part of the reason why I’m blah. But not all.
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Quote for you from the movie, Out of Africa – “Perhaps he knew, as I did not, that the earth was made round so that we would not see too far down the road”.
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Just sending you be hugs cuppy! Hoping you find your mojo really soon!
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Nawwww cuppy I hate it when you feel like shit on a stick. I wish we were real life friends and I’d come over with cupcakesand wine and we’d drool at pictures of French rugby players and gossip and laugh and shit xxx
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OMM: Toilet Training
My daughter has started consistently putting her hands down her pants following a poo – lovely!! I’ve been putting it off but it doesn’t look like this is going to stop, so i have some reading and work to do (probably should be doing that now instead of MM :p)
OMM 2: Where has the like button gone, I miss it
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ps Found the like button on 2nd page of comments…but still not on first, is there anything i can do to fix?
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Hi gee jen
It’s not disappeared intentionally, the like button is just being a bit snobby at the moment and only coming to the party on some posts. Our tech team are hard at work.
Jamila
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Thanks for the reply Jamilia – all the best to the tech team I have my fingers crossed for you!
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Our daughter started doing that too so we invested in some extra rompers which do up between the legs, stopped the poo smearing dilema!
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What a great idea Rabbitsal, thank you!!
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Best – last day of work for a month, just chilling out tying all the loose ends at work before I clock out in less than an hour and a half.
Worst – Work is in a state of disarray at the moment, and I’m a little stressed that there will be a job to come back to after my holiday. There’s talk of merging my whole division into another… meaning definite redundancies.
OMM – Flying to London tomorrow. YAY!
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Hey Jamilla, I just wanted to say that I read a few negative comments last week criticizing the content of the ‘open post’ and ‘best of’ introductions, and that they were just rehashing the content from the week. Can I just say that this weeks introduction is really interesting, and it is interesting hearing about what’s happening with the Mamamia staffer’s lives, and their perspectives. Keep up the good work!
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Thanks for the feedback merindakennedy! Appreciate you taking the time. Xx
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On my mind is clerkship year for law students.
Law schools around Australia drum it into our heads that clerkships are the be all and end all. I submitted 25, have five years of legal experience, have a D average and nothing. Nada.
It’s so disheartening.
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Whereabouts are you located?
If it makes you feel any better, I’m in Brisbane. I had a 5.1 GPA average (so marginally above a credit average) which was pretty average, because I spent most of my time at the pub or watching TV shows like Gossip Girl (I must admit, your GPA follows you EVERYWHERE in law so I do wish that I had tried a bit harder) but lots of extra curricular and a consistent work history in retail and as a secretary while at uni.
I did not do any clerkships as they are mainly offered in top tier or big mid tier firms and I didn’t really want to work in either of those. I finished in 2008 and I actually had a job already lined up as I was working as a paralegal. I personally feel as though law schools have an interest in pushing clerkships, as those “big firms” often sponsor many student events. I was on student government and all our money came from big firms.
I did feel at uni that you *had* to do a clerkship with a tier 1 firm and getting a graduate job in a tier 1 SHOULD BE YOUR GOAL BECAUSE YOU ARE A LAW STUDENT AND YOU ARE ALREADY AN OVERACHIEVER BY VIRTUE OF STUDYING LAW SO YOU SHOULD AIM FOR THE BEST.
I put it in caps because that is how much pressure it felt like!
Quite frankly, it is bullsh*t. There are SO MANY options that don’t involve working in a national or tier 1 firm.
Out of maybe 10 people I went to uni with who were in top tier firms, only 2 of them are left in top tiers.
The rest have burned out and gone to government, in house, etc. Some have left law all together. Mr W and I both started out in small to medium sized firms, did not do clerkships, at all, and we are both MUCH better lawyers for having worked in small/mid sized firms because you get thrown in the deep end big time.
I reckon you are much better off (if you can), trying to get work as either a typist, receptionist, secretary or paralegal in a law firm, as your part time job while studying, than to do a clerkship. My friend and I worked as secretaries and we are better off for it. That’s just my opinion though, I’m sure that there are plenty of people who went the clerkship–>top tier route and disagree.
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Hi WhipperSnapper,
Located in Sydney. I know I shouldn’t be complaining – I already have two paralegal jobs at two different firms who I’m sure would take me on after my degree. Its more of a case of wanting more
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Hi Legally Brown. I’m also in Sydney and was going through the clerkship process a couple of years ago. I’m in a slightly different position to you in that I thought commercial law is what I wanted but I’m now having serious doubts! Having said that, I do really love the culture of my firm and will stay there into the near future (definitely don’t believe all the horror stories about top tiers!!).
I would say that just about all top and mid tier firms take on grads that have not done clerkships – sometimes they advertise these positions but if not, I would go ahead and contact a staff partner or HR manager directly. You’d be surprised how many people get jobs through this avenue. Also, I would ask a friend who has got a couple of clerkship interviews to have a look at your CV and cover letter. It might be as simple as changing up a couple of things. Also, bear in mind that economically things are not looking great right now and so firms are taking few clerks – it might be worth applying again next year.
Don’t be disheartened – the right job is out there for you. Lots of luck!!! xox
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Hey MMers – happy hump day!
Beena bit quiet lately because I snuck away with the cherubs to visit my big girl in Brisvegas!! I think I needed a dose of family. Had the nicest few days. We are very good in small bursts
It refilled my cup, you know. Sometimes I think because I’m a bit crap at family, I don’t necessarily realise when I need it. But it was good, and happy and warm and Hallmarky…yay!
Going to kareoke tonight. I texted the usual suspects and suggested we make it a 70′s theme – wigs and 70′s songs – ftw!
OMM – Been kinda messaging a guy and he is taking me out on Saturday night. Cautiously optimistic.
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I have finally ventured into the world of “i-things” and bought myself a small ipod (nano). I’ve got it home. What do I do now? Do I need to download itunes or do you just use itunes online? (Sad, I know).
My lips are starting to show creases (not just in winter). Is there a tried and tested lip conditioner that would help me? I don’t look 40 at all, but I feel my lips sort of look that way..
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You need to download itunes onto your computer. Then pretty much dump all your song into that and sync when ipod is connected and Voila! Music to your ears – literally!
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thank you. what do you mean by ‘sync’?
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When you connect the iPod to the computer using the USB cable, iTunes will automatically start up, and also automatically “sync” your iPod to your iTunes. This means that whatever is in your iTunes will be moved onto your iPod.
My suggestion is get all the music into your iTunes first, and then connect your iPod to your computer.
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They mean ‘sync’ as the iPod will synchronise with iTunes, so whatever music is on one, will also be on the other
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get yourself a small red tube of pawpaw ointment from the chemist. It will do amazing things for your lips. I had an awful skin condition for ages, and this cleared it up in literally a matter of hours – it’s all purpose, and flavourless/colourless and adds a nice shine too
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OMM: I’m working in a job I absolutely love, in a team that values me however, I’m looking and waiting on another job. Any job. My current job is temp role in an agency that can’t guarantee me any more than 2 weeks at a time. I feel like I’m on a treadmill I can’t get off of. I’m good at this job. I can see so much I want to do with this role. I need to pay bills.
Best: I had my haircut last week and it’s easy to manage. My toddler has also slept better the last few nights. I feel almost normal.
Worst: My husband goes away tomorrow for work. We don’t all do well apart.
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Had a bit of a scary experience last night – my partner and I almost had an accident (entirely our fault) and thankfully I screamed (rather embarassingly…) and we stopped/the other guy served. We were literally 100m from where we were going, so we stopped outside the house and took some deeep breaths.
Then, we see the guy we almost hit come screaming down the road and he stops, jumps out of the guy and absolutely loses his shit at us. Swearing (including the c word), telling us to get off our cellphones (my partner wasn’t using it), how we are lucky he is on parole otherwise he would lay my partner out, all while holding his pitbull who is barking it’s head off at us.
We were just standing there, apologising profusely, saying it was just an accident, we didn’t see you. So I am a wee bit shaken up after that!
I understand being angry and wanting to yell at someone if they almost hit you, but turning around to follow someone, and the vitriol and rage from this guy was scary. I am so glad he didn’t get violent and hit my partner – although only because of his parole plus the fact that my partner was much bigger. Makes me even more scared that he probably would have acted the exact same way if we were a little old elderly couple, or if it was 2 women in the car instead, or if we had children with us.
On top of that (not sure if related…) I am feeling horrible today. Tired, and sluggish and just having a blah day. Can’t wait for uni to be over so I can go home and watch the Olympics.
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What a nutjob, I can understand being upset but nothing excuses acting psychotic like that. I hope you are okay.
And I hate to say it but that pretty much sums up how I imagine pit bull owners.
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That is incredibly scarey. Did you get his rego number? If so you should report him to the police. He threatened you. God knows what he may do to other people….
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No I didn’t! And I am still so annoyed at how I acted (or didn’t!).
I wish I had got his rego or at the very least knocked on the door of our friends house so that he and his parents would come out – they might have been able to act more calmly and rationally than I did!
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that is a very nasty experience. Thank god he wasnt physical. Although the verbal rage was obviously very frightening. Might take you a while to recover.
Take care.
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I love reading Jamila’s Open Posts!!!! Feel like we’re having a chat…..
OMM:
Stopped breastfeeding baby #2 during the week. Happy as have been wanting to stop for a while but he wasn’t into the bottle then all of a sudden BAM – gulped it down and hasn’t turned back! Am really happy about it but feeling rather “reflective” (not sure that’s the word I want….) because we aren’t having any more kids so I will never breastfeed again….. Laughs and jumps up and down ecstatically / bawls eyes out that my babies are “all grown up”!!!
BEST: Have had 2 really good weeks of healthy eating and exercise and feel SO, SO , SO much better! Had been making excuses but no more! It’s a priority that I feel my healthiest and best and I’m glad I’m on my way back to “the old me” that was always fit and healthy!
To celebrate, my latest blog post is something VERY VERY HEALTHY and good for you and SUPER DUPER TROOPER easy to make….. yet still DELICIOUS TO THE MOON AND BEYOND!
To those having a crap week, thoughts and strength!
Phoodie
http://phoodie.wordpress.com/2012/07/31/chickpea-salad-with-quinoa-almonds-and-goats-cheese/
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I love writing them because it means Phoodie, that you RESPOND WITH DELICIOUS PICTURES OF FOOD. You’re killing me… Yum!
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Yum this salad looks so good I can’t wait to make it!!! Can I make a suggestion though? It would be great if on your website you could provide a printer friendly version, I just printed it out and it was 27 pages!! Lucky I’m at work!
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Hey snap! SO excited you’re going to make the salad! It is BEYOND delicious….my FAVE part is the crunchy almonds…..no…the goats cheese….or maybe the quinoa!? Oh it’s ALL my favourite!!
How would I go about doing a printer friendly version!? Anything to help my readers I would love to /be happy to do! Is it hard?? I totally get the “printing at work” thing!! I used to do it all the time. Naughty!
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Great Idea about the printer friendly version Snap!
Sorry Phoodie, no idea how to do it. A suggestion tho – maybe the printer friendly version, could just be the main pic at the top, then the ingredients and step. And leave out the step by step pictures. Err… I mean leave your posts as they are (they are fabulous) but when you hit Print (or whatever you need to do) they convert to just one pic and the writing. Am I making sense? I’m not sure that I am. Sorry! That’s probably making it a bit more conplicated for you to work out how to do as well. Sorry (again)
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OMM: What happened to Lu? Does anyone know? I miss her comments.
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what about ‘susan as well’
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Most of the regulars seems to have left for some reason. I noticed Lu is missing, I liked her comments.
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And Detachable Princess….?! Where have you all gone?
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OMG she hasn’t been here for ages.. hope she ok?
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Yep, she’s great. As are the rest mentioned, over at kikiandtea.
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And John James? And Monique? And Whippersnapper?
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and Miss T
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They’re all over at http://kikiandtea.com/ writing their own stuff. check it out, it’s good! Miss T and Idle Dad are there too.
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Hi Everyone!
*waves*
Yep…lots of reasons I’m not on MM that much anymore…the main reason being that I’ve found that MM is publishing a lot more parenting and celebrity and fashion posts than they used to…I’m just not into those types of posts…nothing wrong with that, I’m a bloke…I’m not the target demographic for this site…
Rick leaving and the loss of the daily News posts also didn’t help…plus, yes, I miss the community we had on here…but communities change and there will be new JJs and new IdleDads and new Bradleys and new Fenders…that’s life…
Also, I’m back at work, and co-running KK&T with MissT, plus I’m still writing my book…I’m just a lot busier than I used to be…
So, thanks for missing me…it’s nice to be appreciated…I still pop over to MM occasionally and make the odd comment here and there, so I’m not gone forever…
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And his book is called “50 Shades of JJ”
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Bahahahahahahahahaha…
If only….
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Thanks for the mention, JJ ! I’m not here for the same reasons. I’m the wrong demographic too, so I don’t have much to contribute anymore. I still pop in now and again though, especially when someone pisses me off…..
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I am still here, reading.
I just choose not to comment anymore because I seem to get jumped on for even saying something harmless, like: “I like chocolate”. Started to get the feeling that I wasn’t very well liked around here, so I left…
But hey, you can still follow me on Twitter, my blog (www.bakereadblog.wordpress.com) or on kikiandtea.com
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What do you mean you like chocolate! How pathetic of you! Don’t you know it makes kids fat!
I miss you
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mmmmm……chocolate
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I’d love to think you meant me but I’m not Lu… I dip in and out. Sometimes I’m just too busy. And I forget. I agree with John James. I miss Rick and I miss the daily news. But I do click on anything that interests me and I also try to check in weekly to Open Post and Best and Worst of the Week as I love to hear what everyone has been up to.
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I miss them all too. Anyone know abt sometimeskaren?
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Not sure about her MM activity, but she’s one of our regular contributors on KK&T…
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Jamila, that was a great post. In light of yesterday’s article about young overachievers, you seem to be a bit of a prodigy yourself. I thought I read that you’re only 25 so does that mean you made it to the Parliament House by the age of 20? That’s very impressive to say the least. I’d love to hear how you did it if that’s not too instrusive.
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Jam’s very modest so she won’t say this herself – but I’m pretty sure she was the best hula-hoop-er in her Grade 1 class too
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Luce – elastics were actually my weapon of choice and I’m not gonna lie, I was pretty amaze-balls.
JK – thanks for your lovely comment, you had me blushing
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I’d love to know how you got all the way to Parliament House, JamJam. You’re such a great breath of fresh air.
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I just mentally high-fived you for calling her JamJam. I love how it’s caught on
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Go JamJam & cream!
(cream…. team…cream of the crop..) Ok, its a stretch I know.
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I have been continuing my refashioning, and loving it. I went to Goodwill and bought a few things with the sole purpose of fixing them up. One being a pair of Calvin Klein overalls (the short kind) for $3. (Overalls are one part of the 90s I can’t give up…I guess I’m skinny and can kind of get away with it). Anyway, they looked really daggy, baggy shorts and too big. I cut the crotch seam, sewed the legs together at the front and back (like a skirt), moved the side buttons in so it fit better around the waist, and I have a CK denim dress. Woohoo! I even wore it today and got a couple of (good) comments.
I’m glad sewing was a skill my mum and nanna passed onto me at a young age. I love the independence of being able to make and repair/alter my own clothes. I hope I can pass that onto my future children. It’s a shame it seems to be a dying art among young people.
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Ahhh Rach this is something I wish I’d paid more attention too! Alas all I can sew is a button lol!
You should start a blog!
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I should…laziness prevents me from getting off my rear end and actually detailing what it is I do.
Do you think anyone would read a blog that wasn’t particularly targeted but just generally about creative stuff? Coz I like to do a bit of everything.
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Most likely, there are heaps around already, with lots of people doing different crafty and dressmaking stuff. I haven’t come across two with the same mood or aesthetic, so why not give it a whirl
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Sure I think that would be a fantastic idea! I don’t think it has to be targeted and each blog is different so you won’t have to worry about that. If I were you I’d look at other blogs doing similar stuff and see what you think and possibly going ahead like that.
I’d def read it
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Oh this sounds awesome! You should post a pic, or definitely start a blog about it all
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That’s fantastic! I agree, you should start a blog and do a before and after photos. I love buying clothes at vinnes etc some of the stuff you get is amazing.
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Well done Rach! My amazing mum was a dressmaker and she made all our wedding dresses and clothes for years and years. Her skill has bypassed me though as I can barely thread a needle! Well done you! Post a photo of your CK denim overall dress.
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goodwill? you`re in the states? Love love love the thrift stores in the states. Yesterday at an op shop I picked up a BNWT pair of Zara heels for $3. Brilliant!
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Yes, I’m an Aussie expat (of sorts) in IL. Love Goodwill, and I’m planning to go to one of the dollar-a-pound outlets next week in IN.
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Did anyone watch Insight on SBS last night? It was about becoming accidentally addicted to prescription drugs. Very interesting. I would love to discuss the issue here with the Mamamia community
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I work in a pharmacy and the addiction to prescription items, as well as S3 (behind the counter) items is quite shocking indeed. Particularly items with codeine and doxylamine (causes drowsiness!) – can be so harmful in the long term.
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I have to say, I’m surprised at how readily my doctor was advocating six months of codeine use. To the point where I switched doctors.
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I love Insight and I think that’s a great idea for a post. I’ve never really understood the whole addiction thing so would be interesting to read from people with first hand experience.
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I love Insight any time I have a chance to watch! Thanks for the suggestion alyssakt, we’ll see what we can do.
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Thanks Jamila
That would be excellent:)
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This is what’s on my mind…
Has anyone else noticed how comments on this site and on other sites like “The Drum” and “The Punch” are getting more extreme and/or whingy and whiney?
My theory is that since Andrew Bolt’s blog has been shut down for comments all the rabid extremists are flowing onto these sites.
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Ohhhhh, that explains it. I thought maybe it was because the HeraldSun had gone behind a paywall.
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That too I’m sure!
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I think there’s been a significant change in the comments here since Mia’s Sunday column moved from the SMH to the Telegraph.
The tone has change completely, such a shame.
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Jamila, that was so well written. Truly showed off your ab-fab writing talents and gave us all one of the best sneak peaks we’ve ever had into what it’s like to work at MM HQ.
I actually did the opposite to you. Started career land in the sparkly sequinned world of womens magazines (ACP) where every day was a fashion parade and I elt like I was hanging out with all my closest girlfriends (I say girlfriend because the proportion of females to males really was 100:1). Then decided enough of the party times, time to get serious and went to work in economic strategy for government organisation. Apart from needing a serious wardrobe overhaul, I had to a steep learning curve on other frontiers….first up I needed to stop signing emails off with a whole row of kisses etc. I had to stop asking and telling everyone everything about the night before. When my mag girls had asked what about the night before they wanted to know everything, the new workplace I realised didn’t want to know anything.
So. Yes I can relate. And now? Now, I work for myself and that has a whole new culture to get used to as well. And Mamamia’s community really is my water-cooler and what fabulous colleagues/cooler dwellers you all are
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I need to edit myself, sorry. *peek not peaks. Not trying to imply any of you are ‘peaking’ over there!
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I am learning to sign of emails with rows of kisses! No more ‘kind regards’ for me! Bride Body – I feel like we’ve done a Freaky Friday switch here
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Happy Wednesday everyone!
I’m bummed because someone ran into the back of my car last night
I was stopped at a set of lights and she just didn’t stop behind me in time. She was really apologetic but it sucks because my car is only 18 months old, I’m a P plater and I’ve never had an accident. Now I have to explain to the insurance company that it wasn’t actually my fault, and go around getting quotes to get the car fixed and get physio on my injured back and she gets off scott free. Grrrr!!! If only drivers would slow down and pay attention.
And that’s my rant for the week……………..but it could have been way worse!
All made better by the cuddle I got from my dog last night when I got home. Pets are the best – they seem to know when you need a bit of love!
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If she ran up your arse, it’s her that needs to do the explaining and paying. You shouldn’t be claiming anything, should you?
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That sucks! But how come she gets off scott free? Since she ran into you she should be the one to pay…right? I’ve never been in an accident or made a claim so I could very easily be wrong, but it’s what I thought happened.
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If someone runs up your arse, and you’re stopped, it’s their fault. It happened to us sitting at lights when my sister had just got her Ps and we went to pick Mum up from work (we’d had the car for the day). It was good Mum was with us, my poor sis was so shaken by it, and Mum knew what we had to do. Definitely didn’t affect Mum’s insurance.
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I guess it depends on the insurer.
I was with NRMA at the time and have been with Budget Direct for 4 years – and they both definitely care that I made a “not at fault” claim in 2005
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I think there is a difference between making a no-fault claim on your own insurance (If the person who is at fault doesn’t have insurance for example) and getting the at-fault person to pay (through their insurance). It shouldn’t have to go through your insurance company at all in that case. (I don’t think) .
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That must be it! Thanks, Anon.
Now I feel even more hard done by and pissed off – I didn’t ask to be hit from behind by an unlicensed, uninsured driver – but I paid for it at the time (having to accept $2K less for my written-off car than I paid for it 6 months before – and knowing NRMA were not only after the guy who hit me for the money they gave me, but that they also received the refund for the 12 months rego I paid a week before, and selling the 5 brand new tyres, the untouched engine and interior) and I’ve paid an increased premium ever since.
Farkers!!
No wonder unlicensed and/or uninsured drivers make me so angry!
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Your insurer should arrange for the quotes and the car fixing (regardless of whether the other driver is insured or not).
But despite it not being your fault, it will llikely affect your insurance premium for (at minimum) the next 5 years.
That is the really sucky part, from experience!
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Really?? My new insurer only asked how many “at fault claims” i had. Didn’t care about anything else.
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I hope you got her details. Doesn’t matter how apologetic she was..she pays. It’s her fault.
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I am feeling guilty about leaving work early yesterday by faking the school rang to pick up my child due to illness.
She wasn’t sick but she had a school performace and parents were meant to go and she was distraught no one was going to see her( she is only 6). The trouble was we only had a weeks ( do these people not realise most parents work) notice and commitments. I have chucking sickies and hate letting my kids and my work down.
My only consolation is I am still sick myself so maybe it wasn’t a bad thing to leave work.
I still feel bad though.
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Hi Amanda Rose,
I think that is a genius idea. Please don’t feel guilty, and instead marvel at your cleverness. I am
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Ever noticed how when a guy says he has to go to his child’s concert or sports day, he practically gets a tickertape parade from his co-workers?
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Not always. At my work they laugh at them and tell them to get their wife to do it.
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Really, geez what industry do you work in?
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It’s a male dominated trading company. And some of the guys are actually happy to go look after their kids if their wife has to work, but it’s frowned upon.
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Haha AmandaRose, I did exactly the same thing yesterday for the same reason!! I felt guilty but family comes first.
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Don’t feel too guilty. I hate calling in sick myself, have never had “sick” days, but if I was in your position I would absolutely have done the same thing. Think about it in a few years from now– your work will basically have no memory of your going home early day, and you and your daughter will have the cutest memories of her school concert.
As long as you aren’t always calling in sick and having personal days and letting the workplace down by not doing your job properly/getting things done, then I think you def did the right thing!
One look at the smile on your daughter’s face can prove this
I am sure it meant the world to her that you attended something so special to her, that she has probably beein thinking about and concentrating on in her mind for ages.
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the problem was I was locuming at a hospital for a few weeks and I have literally been sick the entire time- I had already came in late one day and had another off. And I am still unwell so I didn’t feel it was a stretch. It was my late day and I am humiliated I have been so sick- I never get sick but I forgot my flu vax and I mainly work from home so my immune system is no longer acustomed to hanging out with sick people .
- I am back there in three weeks-here is hoping I am well by then.
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Happy Hump Day!
its been a crazy morning in the office so far as we have relocated to the other side of our level but now im all settled into my new office and have a wonderful view of the outside world now!!! yay!!!!!!!!!! haha shame i wont be here for long tho….its a happy/sad feeling about resigning at my job as i love the people and working for who i work for has the best perks!!
bt im really happy to be moving back to the east coast near my family/friends and my husband is starting his career so its an exciting new adventure for us and im very happy to have been blessed with this opportunity for us
luckily this move is going to be all paid for by the company and they are flying us business class to Brisbane!! sign of a great company i would say! haha im rather looking forward to having 2 weeks off in my hometown during Sept before i relocate to Brisbane and start house/job hunting! any companies in CBD Brisbane need a fab Exec Assistant? hahaha
Have a great day all!
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i am reading 50 shades atm, half way book 2 to be exact and i am bored of the sex!!! not how its done, but how much there is of it and how easy ana comes ALL THE TIME… does anybody else agree with me?
omm2: we got a beautiful much waited for puppy, border collie to be exact amd i am in love with him, so are my boys… problem is that he won’t saty at home alone. he is anxious and barks, tries to run away, destroy things… we have been crating him and was fine and even enjoying his crate, but i feel bad leaving him for more that a couple of hours, he also needs a bigger crate now as he has grown, which we can afford just now (they cost about 300)… does anybody else crates their dog? if so, for how long?
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Re 50 Shades: Yeah I ended up skipping those parts as I was bored of them. It is labelled a fiction for a reason I guess.
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Yes she must have a really big clitoris.
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Where’s my “Like” button when I need it. Anna, you cracked me up!
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agree – ‘like’
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Agree – that comment is gold !
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Up to age 3, I took my little boy dog to a dog daycare / puppy preschool during my work hours at least twice a week (about $40 a day) and it was worth its weight in gold. He made friends, learnt to be a social dog, got tired out and was never bored or lonely.
It would be good for a collie – they are born to run and round up animals!
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Yes, all our dogs have been crate trained. Our now 3.5year old staffy x sleeps the night in hers and spends a few hours in the day if its to cold for her out side.
The key is a good run or walk dogs needs lots of Exercise.
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Crating should not be done all day. A border collie is a working dog. So crating a border collie puppy goes against every fibre of its being! Has he got a tuffy toy (hollow pyramid shape toy that you can stuff food in and give to pup to keep busy when you go out)? or give him a (raw) bone to chew when you go out? Maybe speak to your puppy training trainer about how to keep pup occupied when you’re out. Good luck!
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Maybe a Border Collie is the wrong breed for you? They are working dogs that need to be kept busy. I think some dogs would be ok in a crate for extended periods but not a Border Collie.
I would say either come up with a way to keep him occupied during the day, toys or something, or re-home him while he is still a puppy and get something a bit quieter (Golden Retriever?).
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How old is he now? Are you taking him for a big work out at the park so that he’s worn out? Especially being a border collie, but all young dogs, need a big exercise, not just a walk, every day. That will really help. Good to train them to fetch the ball whilst their young so that they get big work out.
Is there a laundry you can leave him in when you go out?
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hi guys, thanks for your comments and advices… he is 6months old and we do excercise him everyday, we run to the dogpark in the mornings (about 4km there and back) and usually he has about 1h of running rumbling with other dogs at the park. after that he sleeps til mid arvo happily. the problem is that since day one (we got him at 9weeks old) he is not happy to stay away from people( he follows me around the house all day, even when tired). we tried to put him to sleep in the landry/kitchen area but he barks and jumps the gate(baby gate), so we were advised by the vet, to get him a crate andhave him sleep in it and crate him while we are out ( i never leave him in the crate for over 2h). he is home trained now, so he sleeps on his bed in our bedroom floor( no problems there at all), but i can not leave him in the back yard by himself and go out, because he tries to break through our fence( brushwood fence). that is my “only” (major) problem with him, i can not go out for more than 2 hours atm. our vet suggested a bigger (like xxlarge )crate and then he could be left in there for about 4-6 h (after all the excercise, of course) and i was just wondering about thoughts on this..thanks
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Have a few things OMM this week. First of all I’ve been to the hairdresser 3 times in the space of about 2 weeks! The first time I went I asked for balayage and she ended up putting foils in my hair and calling it balayage (is this something I’m missing, I thought balayage didn’t involve foils!) my hair didn’t look anywhere like what I asked her so I went back a second time (again to the same person) and this time I asked for an ombre look but not too contrasty. Anyway she persuaded me to go lighter than what I wanted and I ended up pretty much blonde which would have be fine except I had two chunks of blonde highlights in the front of my hair and the rest was dark with just a few bits of blonder here and there, hard to explain. I tried to like it and psyche myself up about it but it looked horrible! Husband hated it as well and I was ready to scream by that stage! FINALLY today I went back to someone else and had it fixed PROPERLY! My poor hair has gone through so much I need to take good care of it now! I refused to pay them to fix their mistakes too!
Also last time in B&W I mentioned writing my SIL an email and she got back to me with a nice email, which is great. I’m glad we are starting to build some sort of relationship with each other.
And finally OMM is husband’s work. I’m very proud of him, he has been offered a few different positions from different companies here and has already rejected 3 offers. He has his heart set on one particular one but won’t find out anything until the end of August, but in the mean time another company has made him an offer and it’s a good company, good pay, good benefits so now he/we aren’t sure what to do. I’m thinking if he can possibly stall this company until he finds out at the end of the month what’s going on with the other one hmmm. I told him at least he is wanted so he doesn’t have to worry about that!
Oh and one more thing. I miss watching the olympics back in Australia! Not the same watching it here! Luckily MM is here to keep in up to date with the Aussies
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Your poor hair! Third time lucky, I guess!
I miss Channel 9. I hate that the US media likes to control everything so much, you can only view certain sports online, if you don’t have cable, the local NBC channel is very restrictive, and the US is the only country that refused to show the opening ceremony live. Some things about this country drive me nuts! So forward…yet so, so, so backwards!
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I was surprised when talking with American friends about the Olympics the other day, I mentioned the Aussie relay gold and one of them said “It’s not on for another few hours here”. WTF?
I guess what you’ve said explains it. Really strange that it wasn’t on live!
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Uhhh I know! and it’s meant to be a GREAT salon too, don’t know if I’ll be going back there again, although the lady that did my hair today was excellent, plus she thought I was 23 hahaha!
I know it’s so stupid that they do that here! I was so jealous when my MIL said foxtel shows everything live and you have so many channels to view everything! I don’t understand why they don’t show things live here! We have cable but even that isn’t great! I mean exactly why wouldn’t you show the opening ceremony live! I agree with your last sentence for sure!
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But that’s exactly what channel 9 is like and what so many people are complaining about in Australia. All they seem to be showing is swimming, swimming and more swimming, and if you don’t have foxtel, it makes it really diffcult to watch what you are interested in rather than what gets forced upon you by channel 9.
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I’m in Thailand at the moment and all they show is table tennis! I want to watch swimming, swimming, and more swimming!
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I have been looking forward to the Open Post all week, because I have finally plucked up the courage to write what has been on my mind for many many weeks.
I am 23, have finished uni, am one year into my chosen career and yet I have an inexplicable and extreme desire for a baby. I’ve never wanted for anything so much in my entire life and frankly, it scares me. I know I’m not in a position to bring a child into this world; I don’t have the money or ‘that’ kind of relationship with my boyfriend and I never really thought I would have kids before 30. I did a lot of nannying in uni, for children with and without special needs mostly under 5 years of age, and I know how tough and sometimes isolating looking after kids can be.
I feel so abnormal and don’t feel like I can tell or talk to friends and family about this one.
I often dream about having a baby and when I wake up the sense of loss I feel is almost debilitating. I used to love holding other peoples babies but now I just want my own to hold, a baby who knows me and feels comforted when I hold them (instead of wishing they were back in their mothers’ arms).
Even reading the posts on babies and parenting on mamamia make me feel sick with envy.
I know there are couples who try and can’t conceive, and I’m not trying to pretend my little problem is anything that heartbreaking.
I hope one day I am lucky enough to have children, but until then, I really need a way to get past this because it’s making me miserable. I’m usually such a rational person and I hate feeling this way.
I just wanted to see if anyone else has felt this way? And what they did about it?
Please be kind, I’m not trying to be insulting or upsetting to anyone, I’m genuinely looking for advice.
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Hi Sarah Marie, I don’t think its uncommon. I am on a few bridal forums (I know, I know) and there are a LOT of woman in their early 20s who are trying to conceive, pregnant or new mums. I am 24 and know a few people my age with children.
We hear a fair bit about older mothers, might be an interesting for MM to do a post about people who choose to be parents in their 20s?
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I felt just like that when I was 23. It was a really strong feeling that just came out of nowhere. I ended up pregnant to my boyfriend of a few months. We are still together 9 years later but just about every day I wish I had waited longer. Our relationship is ok but not great, I wish I had given it more time before deciding to parent together.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with having a baby in your early 20′s or even late teens so long as you are in a very stable relationship, are financially comfortable and are absolutely certain it’s what you want. Otherwise WAIT, you’ve got heaps of time.
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Are you me?
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Yes! This is me. I am 23, I have been with my partner for 6 years and know without a doubt that he will be a fantastic father, we have our own home and well paying jobsfand I would love to have a baby now. I don’t even mind waiting a couple of years so we can travel a bit but my partner grew up struggling for money and missing out on things so he would prefer to wait until 29/30 and are very comfortable. While I would love to have a baby now and often I do feel like there is a little hole to be filled, I think I can wait but not sure how I will feel in a couple of years and more and more people will be having babies. That being said I bet when we look back in our 40s we will say oh I’m so glad I waited and took the time to save and travel and enjoy each others company. Because once the kids are here it’ll be completely different!
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I got married at 21 and had baby number 1 at 22 and baby 2 at 25 i’m 28 now and i want baby 3 i have been a stay at home mum most of the time i love it don’t regret anything but my husband is 11 years older than me so he was very ready for kids. being a young mum isn’t a bad thing i got pregnant after one try both times had an easy pregnancy for baby 1 and i had so much energy not so much for baby 2 .
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I don’t think this is uncommon either. I am embarassed to admit that as a teenager I used to daydream about getting pregnant accidentally. Pretty hilarious since I was also a virgin and very much conservative in that area. I just always knew I wanted kids and from puberty onwards every month when I’d get my period I’d think there goes another missed opportunity – mad I know! Thing is I just had that urge, that longing, to be a mother so early. I had an older friend going through fertility issues and I think this really affected me to, partly forcing me to acknowledge what an amazing gift parenthood is and also terrifying me that I might one day have issues of my own. Anyway, I am now 30, very happily married and have 3 gorgeous little boys all concieved relatively easily. I am exceptionally grateful for this. I don’t think you need to do anything about this, maybe just accept that this is a huge part of what you want in your life and make decisions accordingly (e.g. choose your partner carefully!). Good luck, I truly hope you find yourself to be a lucky mother one day and in the meantime just try to think positively about how great it will be when the time comes.
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I’m pretty similar! I’m 23, just finishing up uni, financially not in any position to have kids at the moment – rationally I know I’m much better off waiting for at least 3-4 years, to set up a career first – but sometimes the urge and longing to hold my own baby in my arms is overwhelming! I do have a long term boyfriend and a couple of times my period’s been late and I’ve taken a test – there is always a part of me that feels disappointment at the single line! Even though to fall pregnant right now wouldn’t be practical or wise at all. It’s just hormones I guess.
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Whenever I click on the MM homepage, I get the 24 July homepage, not today’s. Is that happening to anyone else? it’s making it difficult to find the current articles…even though I should actually be working *cough*.
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Same! I thought it must just be my computer.
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Hit control + R – that might work for you!
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Thanks Nat, I think that’s worked!
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i thought i was going crazy! I only get that. I can only get ot the new stuff via my Google Reeder. I have cleared cache and everyting but no deal. help!
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Loved this post. I do ask people inappropriate questions. Always have. From taxi drivers to sales assistants. I seem to have no in-built discretion.
It’s just that I’m CURIOUS.
Drives my friends nuts, my questions.
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OMM #1: I finished Dry July! I ended up raising over $400! Quite happy about that. I look forward to enjoying a glass of red with dinner tonight. It’s also taco night! Yum!
OMM #2: MamaMia I really miss the daily news post the Rick used to do! Are you considering bring it back at all? I miss the social commentary on the daily news!
OMM #3: Am I the only person who is a bit “meh” about the Olympics?
I am just not interested at all! Does this make me a horrible Australian?!
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I’m totally meh about the Olympics too
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Congratulations on completing Dry July and what a great amount to have raised!
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I’m getting that ‘treading water’ feeling this semester at uni!! I think I’m finally getting into a routine but geez it’s hard!
OMM this week is uni, uni and more uni. FWP coming up- be warned.
This week we had an online test. I was feeling pretty good about it, worked hard to have a good understanding of the topics. Then I started it. The content of the questions was stuff I had NEVER heard of and was fairly sure we had not covered. I searched through my textbook and couldn’t find any of the answers. I’m thinking, did I miss something??
Anyway, after I bullshitted my way through it, I talked to some friends who all had the same issues and we discovered the answers were in another text book. Now call me crazy, but surely that is just a BIT unfair?? This content was not in the lectures, tutes or the prescribed textbook.
So I sent a very polite email (meanwhile while I typed I was swearing obscenely) to the unit chair asking for clarification about where the questions could come from since I couldn’t find the answers in our prescribed text, lecture or tutorial material and did I need this other textbook to pass these tests (at $175 per textbook, I had to go with just the prescribed one!!). She dodged the question and said recommended texts were not used as a sole reference. I had to disagree.
Anyway, I think I’m just annoyed because my marks are now compromised because I didn’t buy (read: couldn’t afford it as a broke uni student!) a textbook they said was not necessary, nor does it state anywhere that questions can come from any source other than the prescribed text, lecture or tutorial material.
Rant over! Gotta get back to studying!!
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OMM – I just got a text message from my 80-year-old grandmother. She signed it ‘Luv, Nan Nan’. Made me really happy
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That is so gorgeous. My Grandfather is 93. I wish he would text me.
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Oh Lucy that is so sweet!
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Awww <3
My grandma is 87 and when we tried to give her a basic mobile years ago she wasn't interested and just kept letting it go flat. I can't imagine her sending a text!!
It was 2 years of owning a mobile phone before my mum even sent a text – and only did it out of necessity because it was bad reception – all shouty in capitals and no spaces.
Now she writes on Facebook with her phone!
Imagine the technological advancements WE'LL see in our lifetimes!
Mind boggles!
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My Pa always love to be in touch with the latest technology – he did a TAFE computer course when he was 72! As soon as texting became popular, he asked me to teach him how to do it (I even helped him choose a new mobile at the time) and it was such a special part of our already close relationship. He died a month before my second son was born 2 1/2 years ago and whilst I now have a new phone, I still have his number in my contacts list and have kept my old phone in a box as it has messages still from him.
It was our special little thing…
I love that your Nan is such a groover too x
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That is so lovely Lucy.
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My mum just sent me a text that said: “.tf gnarled Doh”
I sent her one saying, “Seriously, what?!”
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OMM – loving the Olympics recaps in the morning. Would love it if we could a daily little dose of news like that everyday on the site! Keep up the good work
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You’re welcome Megs!
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