It’s Wednesday! And that means two things – the countdown to the weekend has officially begun and it’s time for Mamamia’s Open Post. If you’ve never joined us for an open post before, pull up a chair and get comfy. Think of this post as the internet equivalent of catch-up coffee with your friends; if there’s anything you’d like to share – whether it’s good, bad, funny or sad – this is the place.
But first, a look at what’s been happening around Mamamia HQ. (Photos by our very talented News Editor Rick Morton).
Our darling Rebecca Sparrow, managing editor of Mamamia Publishing, was in town to talk about the Gift of Sleep eBook on Mornings.
And for music this week, the MM team has been streaming – and loving – the mix from smoothfm.
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On My Mind (OMM)
I’m thinking about a friend this week. She just suffered two pretty devastating losses in as many weeks. And it just sucks to see her hurting so much. My natural reaction is to shower her with chocolate and Ben and Jerry’s, but the house is filled with flowers and enough sugary treats to full the supermarket confectionery aisle. So I’m offering hugs, and a shoulder… and a punching bag if that’s what she needs.
And as I’m writing this I just found out another friend has lost someone close. With that in mind, I’m sending this one out to everyone who’s doing it tough at the moment. Big hugs.
What about you… what’s on your mind?
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Classic movies: I’m on a bit of a classic movie bender at the moment, working my way through a couple a week. Anyone got a favourite to suggest?
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Ahhh classics! My faves: Some Like It Hot, Psycho, The Birds, Citizen Kane and Rear Window.
Enjoy!
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Thanks Alex2! Have got The Sting lined up for tonight, am putting Citizen Kane next on the list!
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I’m really unsure regarding university. I’m in my first year, doing a BA. It’s really not all it’s cracked up to be and I am feeling like a failure. I want to complete my degree (and most likely do postgraduate study) HOWEVER I am really disliking the lack of support. I am also feeling like I made the wrong subject choices.
On top of all this, I have no idea what I want to do in the future.
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It does get better, the beginning is the hardest. Check out if your Uni has any kind of learning support (at Sydney it’s called the learning centre) I’m doing postgraduate but still do the free courses on writing better, how to research etc, they are great)
But even more important, find study buddies. Preferably people doing similar courses to you. It’s immeasurable how much better a quick coffee and chat about the assignments makes you feel! I met people at the learning centre, by chatting before and after tutorials, during group work projects, etc. many days, it makes the difference between coping and not coping
Good luck!
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Did anyone find out where the Mia’s shared blue necklace was from other than “Brisbane”?? I love it and want to get my mitts on one!
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OMM: I think I am going thru a delayed quarter life crisis. Keep on wondering what am I doing and where life is going? I want to change careers from law to something else. Ahh I thought by 28 I was supposed to have my life a little bit more together
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Ahh I can’t stop missing my ex. I’m dating someone lovely but this morning I actually burst into tears during sex because I missed my ex so much…so I think I need to actually face that it’s a problem.
The issue is that my ex is divine, kind, lovely and wonderful – but I’m not sure that we’re intellectually matched, and when I was with him I was always looking over his shoulder for someone more compatible for me. I don’t know if that was because I was in the throes of utter heartbreak after being dumped by my fiance or whether it was because the relationship was actually lacking.
Logically, I don’t think he’s the man for me, that could keep me engaged and in love forever. But we’ve been broken up for ages (a year together then nearly a year of hook ups, final break up in November) and I miss him every day. I don’t want to hurt him more by trying to date if it’s not going to work out – but I miiiiiisss hiiiiimmmm.
Ahhh wise MMers what do I do??
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Sounds like you need to move on – but how can you get over him if you’re seeing him all the time, or at least used to (“a year of hook ups”). To get over this man, you need space from him – which means no catch ups, no coffee dates, no late night phone conversations and NO booty calls. No contact at all.
Of course you miss him – sounds like he’s a lovely person and you had something good together for a while. And missing an ex suuuucks. But one day soon you will wake up in the morning and realise you don’t miss him, and haven’t for a while. And that, my friend, will be a beautiful feeling of freedom that trumps 1000 times the fleeting high of a hook up.
Stay strong. This too shall pass.
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Oh, thank you! I can’t wait for that day to come.
To clarify, I haven’t seen him since November (6 months!) and we don’t speak any more (to try to move on) – only the very sporadic text about specific things (birthdays, etc).
But yes, hopefully this too shall pass. (wah!!!)
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It sounds to me like a head vs. heart thing. Your logic based head told you you were not compatible and as a result you broke it off but your heart has other ideas.
If you’re thinking about him and crying cos you miss him while with someone else after 6 months of no contact it’s pretty clear to me you’re in love with him still.
Sometimes one has to follow one’s heart even if it doesn’t make sense to the head.
The question is were you happy when you two were together?
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It’s a complicated question to answer Angel, because I met him at a very difficult time. I broke up with my fiance then was sexually assualted by my best friend about two weeks after, then another best friend had a huge blow up with the friendship group and I lost that friendship too, then my little sister attempted suicide…and a whole list of other things happened as well. So it was a really tough time and I was kind of traumatised and confused the whole time.
He was the shining light through all of it, the only stable and good thing. I was happy and peaceful when I was with him, but I was also wanting to have freedom to work out who I was after all the dust settled from all the huge changes in my life.
I really do feel like I’m still in love with him, and you’re absolutely right that I’ve been making decisions about it with my head – for the exact reason Jess wisely said below. I’m 27 so I feel like I don’t have time to just get back with him and see how it goes.
Thank you for replying – I know it’s such a first world problem, but it’s driving me crazy!!
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Stay away from him. And if you find that difficult, read this statement over and over again.
“when I was with him I was always looking over his shoulder for someone more compatible for me”
This does not happen when you are in love with someone and you are sure he/she is the right person for you.
Based on what you said, he sounds like a lovely guy and he deserves to move on. I’m sure you don’t want to stuff him around and waste his time with another year of casual hook ups if you know it’s not going to work out in the long term. You both need to move on and that’s not going to happen if you don’t stop all contact with him. Good luck.
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What Jess said!
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Congratulations Mikki on your bump!
OMM:
1. Lucy’s shoes. They are deviiiiiiiiiiine.
2. The new Cadbury Marvellous Creations with pop rocks and jelly. Possibly the best things in the world.
3. In 1 month I’ll be on a plane to India. Cue excitement/terror!
Thoughts are with anyone who’s had a tough week x
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i am SO DONE with school. I’ve been working working working flat out since year 12 started and now I’ve just hit a wall. I don’t want to work anymore, I can never be bothered, I just want to stay in bed forever. My meds are doing nothing but making it seem like I can’t have any real feelings (eg. when I’m happy it feels fake, when I’m sad I can’t even cry or be sad properly) but I know if I go off them I’ll have uncontrollable crying episodes again, and I can’t do Year 12 like that.
Wake me up when I’m dead.
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you’ll get there Tess girl! Hope things look up and before you know it Year 12 be a distant memory. Promise.
Hope you have someone to talk to… :.)
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Oh sweetpea, you poor thing. Year 12 is just the worst year ever. I remember someone saying to me before it started “you will honestly feel like killing yourself sometime this year. You seriously will, I’m not kidding.” He was right. BUT the feeling of freedom at the end of it is the best feeling in the world. After you finish you will have NO responsibilities – all the free time and fun you can want. So just keep your head down and count down the days – you’ll get through it. There’s no doubting it’s absolutely horrible though.
Work hard to do yourself proud – but don’t fall into a stress pit. Your ENTER score won’t dictate how your life turns out, and you can get into courses through different routes and at different times.
Good luck!
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I rarely comment on this one, usually just read. I would like input however.
One of my girls will be 12 soon and has asked me if she can join up on Facebook at 12, instead of the 13. This is facebook’s limit and we’ve previously told her its our too.
She rarely argues with our limits and says after a talk at school she found out she was one of the few kids in year 7 not “on it”. She’s also said that she wants to go on it before the end of the school year, as it will be her last in primary.
I chickened out and told her to talk to her father, but am considering it, with limits (no profile photo yet, no identifying infor apart from name and password access). What do others think?
I remember msn messenger for my older kids, but it was quite different. This stuff gets no easier.
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Definately hold off until she is 13 or longer if possible.
And on the condition that you are a friend so you can see what she is up to.
My daughter is now 15, and organises 100% of her social life via facebook so its unavoidable but when she was in Year 7 there is alot of bullying and then more recently exposure to classmates with status updates of questionable behaviour on weekends.
Plus once they have it does become addictive and they spend alot of time on it
So the longer you can delay it the better.
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Thanks, it’s been the way I’ve been leaning. I just felt bad because she’s so well behaved usually and when she does ask for things I’m more likely to consider it.
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Same here.
I’ve been told its socially isolating for kids who arent on it, however my argument to that is what sort of social life does a 12yo need to have…and if so, I dont really want my 12yo hanging around the kids who have a lot of freedom AT 12. There is plenty of time for that.
The most common complaint I have from friends whose 12yo’s are on it is their lack of understanding. There is bullying and foul language and its all public, its not blocked. I dont think they understand it fully at that age.
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How is it fair that some people get away with paying no, or very little, child support?
It infuriates me that my ex gets away with this all the time and has little interest in supporting our child financially, which means I have to work full time while she’s in crèche and kindergarten. Yet he doesnt get penalised for this. The debt is now around $10,000 and I’m wondering if I’ll ever receive this.
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Perhaps if you don’t count on it, you’ll be pleasantly surprised if it does happen?
Unfortunately some parents just never step up. My ex didn’t.
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It’s so difficult isn’t it Michelle. My ex-husband ran up a debt of over $30,000 for our three children while I struggled to support them by myself, working both full time and taking on weekend and evening work too. My ex then resorted to hiding his income and tying up his assets so CSA couldn’t get anything there. I looked at it as final proof of exactly what kind of human being he really is. Hang in there Michelle, I hope your ex starts to do the right thing by your daughter.
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It’s ridiculously unfair and I can’t believe these men do this while living the highlife. I have no idea how you managed to support yourself and your kids and take my hat off to you Jen. Well done, you’re a much better person than he is.
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You may, just may, receive some of it at tax time. The ATO is linked with the CSA and outstanding debts can be recovered from his tax return. If, and only if, he puts a tax return in though. By law, he is supposed to lodge a tax return by October each year, if he is PAYE. If he is a business owner, it gets trickier. But, you could enquire about recovery of the debt through his tax return at the CSA and perhaps look forward to a small break from working and looking after your child.
And, yes, it is massively unfair on the parents who are the main caregivers to the children. I’m so sorry you have to endure this
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Nearly ran over a small child as I was reversing out of my driveway. Luckily I always stop before edging out slowly with my foot on the brake!!! There were tears… from his Mum and I – toddler was fine!
Be careful reversing peoples! And people who walk with their little ones, keep shouting driveway to make them stop and check before they run across.
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Better still, hold their hand and make sure they dont ride their scooters at full speed down the footpath.
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Saw a great movie on the weekend – Salmon fishing in Yemen
Ewan McGregor, Emily Blunt and Kristin Scott Thomas.
Recommend it to anyone wanting to see a funny, romantic movie with great acting.
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Origin is on the mind!! go the blues!
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You spelled Queensland wrong.
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Sorry Rick, but I had to post this as it was on a friends FB and made me giggle . . .
A man goes to the doctors and says “Every time I masturbate I shout ! QUEENSLANDER!”
The Doctor replies “Most wankers do”.
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Ha, saw that already! What a pity you lost…
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Best: went surfing this morning (I’m learning) and although there was barely any waves, the water was so warm and clear and the sun was shining.
Worst: Groupwork for uni assignment – so over it!
OMM: I finish my bachelor’s degree in communication at the end of this year but I have no idea what to do next. I need some advice from some professional ladies.. which is more worthwhile career wise – an honours year or a masters degree?
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I am in corporate affairs and communications. I suggest you get some work experience and delay your maters. The older you get the harder it is to get a job without experience and once you have experience you may want to do your masters in something else. I did mine in management many years after my under grad degree in arts.
Best of luck
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Hi Lil,
I am very interested in getting into Corporate Affairs and Comms. I have a recent degree in Marketing and Communications and currently working as a manager (so not that related). Do you have any suggestions on what avenues to take to get into this field? I am based in Adelaide so not the best state for a plethora of options/opportunities, especially for seeking out such a corporate business role. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks!
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OMM is all of the big decisions i have ahead of me in the next few month, regarding where I will live, work and what to do with my study. It is stressing me out, because before I can make my decisions i am waiting on decisions from other parties. arghhhhh…
I am trying to focus on other things to stay calm and rational, but had such a horrible day at work today I very much feel like crawling into a hole for a while. i have a cupcake decorating course this weekend so i am really looking forward to that as a nice escape for a day!
I am finding blogging an excellent distraction and find so many wise words on the blogs of others! I would really like to ‘pretty up’ my blog, can anyone recommend a good website designer? My blog is a bit ugly at the moment as i am only using a standard template – http://bakingmyselfhappy.blogspot.com.au/
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Look up The Media Maid. Its Katrina Chambers who was on the block last year, she does some great work. She also had a blog that you might find interesting.
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Have you tried messing around with it yourself? Blogger has the ability to customise the default themes. Click on the “Design” button in the top right hand corner when you’re logged in, and you should be able to mess around changing the background and colours and so on… not too hard. Not especially professional, but a lot more fun than getting someone else to do it.
You should check out http://www.skillcrush.com/ as well — empowering women to create their own technology by demystifying the tech jargon. You can be the website designer…
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Wondering about a whole series of articles in a sunday mag, they were all focused on travelling for your holidays. And yes they may have been a push towards the advertising in the mag, BUT many of the articles were about finding a nice place to sit and read.
WHy would you travel to do that, surely there are lovely places nearby? After asking a lot of people this week i found that there were lots of people who thought of travel to a nice “beach/pool ” to read was a great idea.
I look around my home, the beaches near by, the parks and think I must be really lucky
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I’m not sure, but you know how when you are away you do just relax. But when you are at home there is always ‘stuff’ that needs doing. I know of quite a few people who will hire a unit for a week 20 minutes up the road (I live at the beach), for their holidays. It means they get away and enjoy themselves without a massive travel, and don’t need to worry about cleaning the fridge, doing the filing, pruning the tree.
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I am hoping Zoe sees this or someone can forward it to her – is there any chance she can do a piece on congested skin? I wouldn’t normally ask but I’m desperate … I’m 25 and my skin is not nice. White heads and black heads are destroying my confidence … Look fine from a distance but up close …. Ewww. Shod I get microdermabrasion? If possible Zo, a few different price range options?? Hope you’re having a great holiday. Xx
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See a dermatologist.
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Congrats Mikki! Our office has also gone through quite the baby boom – 6 born in the last 6 months, 3 of those in the last fortnight!
Glad to hear about the Tumblr page too, I’ve recently set up one myself (whileiamfree.tumblr.com if you’re interested) and am finding it rather addictive..
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Ive had a poo week. A few weeks ago I Posted on here as I was a bit shocked and nervy as Id just found out I was pregnant with #3. Anyway all was going super well, hubby was super excited planning underway appointments booked etc but the had miscarriage #5 on the weekend
life is quite poo sometimes. I was so excited and rely felt that this time all would be ok. But not to be.damm
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Oh Jade, sending you hugs
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Me too Xxx
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Thanks. I want a baby
they are so pink and snugly and funny and they grow and give you such love.
I need a bit of magic. I think tonight alcohol
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So sorry, that is just devastating. Hope you are ok.
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I nearly got sideswiped today, by a car doing about 100 kmh as he came over a rise, and nearly lost it. I’m gonna buy a lottery ticket this week !….
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You must!
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Finn is so CUTE!
On my mind: A man here in Holland has just been convicted of abusing 87 children, including babies. He was a childcare worker. I’m so angry about the situation. I don’t think the sentence is long enough (he should never see the light of day IMO) or tough enough. There’s a special place in hell reserved for paedophiles.
On a positive note, we booked flights home to Oz for Christmas! It will be my first Christmas with my family since 2004. I’m already counting the days.
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Thankfully there is a hierarchy in prison, and child abusers are at the bottom.
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OMM: Lots and lots of things. Hooray I have received a job offer today – that I have accepted. It means I will be leaving my four month old with hubby as we will be swapping roles – he will become the primary carer. I know he will do a great job, however I wish my parents would be more supportive. They are always so negative – they are doing my head in.
Also OMM: A little boy named Talin. It is worth looking up on FB (Talin’s wish) – a little 5 year old who was diagnosed with a inoperable brain tumour. I think of his family and wonder what I could do to help and wonder how I would cope in the same situation. Sending the family good vibes and hoping he will make it to the best 6th birthday party ever in a few weeks time.
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OMM: I need your suggestions! It was my 21st birthday earlier in the week and my grandparents have given me money to buy something I love. I want to invest in something that I will keep and remember forever. I received some jewellery from other relatives (I was so very spoilt) so was looking for something different….but don’t know what! I have $500 to spend and want to buy something that I love and my grandparents love too. Any suggestions?
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My grandparents gave me money too for my 21st and specifically said I had to buy jewellery. Trouble is I have all the jewellery I want at the moment. I’m 24 now and still have the money sitting at home. And still have no idea what to get with it.
Maybe wait and hold onto it until you find the perfect thing!
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Beautiful piece of art? Le Creuset cookware?
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Some artwork? Some beautiful crockery? Something that you can pull out on special occasions, use and think of your grandparents. Then you can turn it into an heirloom for your children.
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A Mulberry handbag? Probably a bit more than $500 but they’re gorgeous and classic and never go out of style.
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Just checked and they’re actually $1350. So a lot more than your $500. Sorry!
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I know its really boring but I have a friend who was given some blue chip shares for her 21st by her grandparents. She’s now in her 40′s and they’re worth a lot of money. Maybe now prices are falling is a good time to make a longterm investment!
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I totally agree with this suggestion! In years to come you will realise how much of a gift this is.
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My grandmother gave me a watercolour for my 10th b’day (at the time I thought it the most disappointing present ever). I’m 40 now and she’s long gone. I have it hanging beside my bed and think of her every time I look at it. It’s worth a fair bit now but I would never part with it. So precious.
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Kitchen Aid Mixer, artwook, professionally framed family photo (could possibly hire a photography for a family photoshoot), Tiffany and Co necklace, a classic piece of clothing eg. a quality/ designer coat that you can use again and again. Goodluck and have fun!
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Oh the artwork is a great idea. At 21 it wasn’t something I would ever consider buying, but $500 would get you something nice from a smaller gallery. Not sure where you live, but for instance there are heaps of small local galleries in places like Leura. Spend a day wandering around finding something that makes your heart soar and then treasure it. Even if it doesn’t go in your house now, think about for the future.
And happy birthday. Turning 21 is a special time. Full of hopes and dreams and excitement!
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Thank you all so much! I was originally thinking along the lines of maybedaisy and JamandCream and investing in a bag or piece of clothing, but I think the idea of artwork is a great idea! Thanks again, now to change my online trawling to include art, even MORE fabulous procrastination
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OMM: The fact that I feel so blah even though my life on paper is wonderful. Well not just on paper. It is wonderful. But I feel listless. I know about depression, I’ve had it in the past. But this just feels different, just boredom and lack of satisfaction. It’s mainly focused around work (even though I have a great job) but that drains so much out of me that I want to avoid social occasions. Bleugh.
I’m sorry to those out there that are dealing with genuine stresses. I can’t even get a grip when life is peachy. (hanging head in shame)
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Don’t worry, I went through the same thing. I got some counselling – turns out there were a few unresolved issues that were bringing me down. Fortunately it was all fixed quickly.
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hi guys – your link “but wait, there’s more!” over to the right, isn’t working. It’s pointing to http://www.mamamia.net.au/page/2
cheers
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Heck, thanks!
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OMM: Speaking of people doing it tough… my bf is really struggling with being out of work (again). It’s starting to take its toll. I’m not sure what to do.
How do I support him? I’ve suggested all sorts of things (many of which he says might be helpful but then doesn’t really do), sent him jobs, encouraged endlessly, and it’s making me feel like a nag. He doesn’t have enough people supporting him – he doesn’t have many friends and they are often nowhere to be found. So it’s just me.
I think he needs to speak to a counsellor but I don’t know how to find a good one who doesn’t cost the earth. Being out of work for a while, money is tight and he’s feeling stressed about it on top of everything else.
Our relationship is stronger than ever and we had a really good chat last night which may help a lot but I still think he’s on shaky ground here. He needs to be empowered – but how, when his esteem is rock-bottom? What can I do to get him more support?
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If you are concerned that he’s depressed or needs to speak to a professional, then you can take him to the GP and I believe you can get up to 6 free counseling sessions under medicare via GP referral. There is also lifeline/savlo counseling line, etc.
What about his family?
I think he probably knows what to do to get a new job, maybe he needs you to back off for a while so he knows that you have faith that he can fix it himself? I’m sure he knows you mean well, but I would imagine that it would be a knock to his pride that he is currently so reliant on you for everything.
Once he’s back on his feet, he needs to build a good support network for himself pronto. It’s bad for both of you that he doesn’t have good friends to rely on as well.
I hope it goes well
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this sounds just like my situation. my fiance was struggling with not knowing where his life was going, hated his job, and decided to quit. after careful encouragement, he went to the doctor who referred him to a psychatrist. it really helped him, and he was able to talk about some issues that were subconciously affecting him. even though his still not working full time, his enrolled in tafe to better his math skills to hopefully broaden his career opportunities down the track.
so just keep being there for him, and get a referral from the doctor. it may be pricey, but a couple of sessions might help him . =)
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Oh man, the sleuthing that went on in this forum today had me in stitches. I read every comment. Felt like CSI: Bambino.
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OMM: That it may be time to quit Facebook.
In one day, I found out that a dear friend had her baby because she was tagged in a photo via her husband, and that an old friend was now separated.
It’s made me sad how that this is the point we have come to: that we announce such personal things to our closest friends at the same time as our ‘friends’.
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Same, I think its time I quit too. I’m stalking my old boyfriend from over 20 years ago far too often. Its not healthy.
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but my heart still skips a beat when I see his photo so I’m off to close my account now.
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I quit, best thing I ever did. So much more time! Plus now I make the effort to actually see my friends!
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holy c**p!! those boots are $170!!!!
*sobs into weetbix*
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OMM: Hubby & I are working through our relationship issues and putting our goals down on paper. After a pretty rough patch it’s good to see him making an effort. I am not quite there yet, but feeling like there is hope again has given us renewed faith in a future together!
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Good luck. Wish you and your husband all the best. I do hope it works out.
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Thanks Bird, me too!!
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good luck, having a rough patch myself at the moment and it is very draining! So lovely to hear your husband and you are able to communicate through a difficult time
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OMM: 38 wks pregnant with a c-section booked in for next wednesday. Went to a regular check up with my OB yesterday and baby’s heart rate is perfect, but baby misses every 10th beat! I then went to the hospital and they monitored the heart for an hr and I had an ultrasound. I was sent home saying all was good and sometimes this just happens and the baby fixes itself up on birth. I was sooooooooo scared and even shed a few tears at the hospital but am relieved at the same time. The public health system is excellent.
Gotta go pack my hospital bag…..
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OMM: One of my most amazing friends just called my with news that her pitch just got accepted. She is talented, beautiful (inside and out) and I couldn’t be more proud of her!! I am lucky to know her and share in her successes!! Love it when good things happen to good people!
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Okay guys, I think we’ve made you wait long enough….
Big congrats to our Sales Manager Mikki. That’s her in pic #21
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Yay, finally!
Congrats Mikki
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Whoooo Hoooo !! I was completely off target… LOL Congratulations Mikki!
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Damn it, lost my $5.
Congrats to Mikki!
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congrats Mikki! wishing you health and happiness
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I win! I win!
Or, rather, Mikki does… Congratulations!
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It was a half victory, but I was impressed nonetheless!
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I’m claiming it anyway!
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In fact… *trots off to the other post*
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Phew, its not Rick afterall….
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Ooh finally we know! Congratulations Mikki!! my detective skills obviously need some serious work
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Thanks to everyone for your warm wishes x
We are every excited!
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So congratulations Nicky???????
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Funny old week. Been focussing on my poor house and its clutteredness. Life keeps getting in the way and I just never seem to get on top of it. Really love my house, and really should be kinder to it. Started sorting some overdue piles of laundry with the middle on the other day. Bugger the tooth fairy – I wish for a cleaning fairy!
Was making progress in getting over not-so-funny bloke then I foolishly contacted him last week. Headdesk.
Strange fellow who decided that taking out his wang during a massage was A-OK last week is STILL contacting me, ffs. He just doesn’t take a hint. Or he disappears for a few days then bingo – there’s the good morning hello text. Just going to keep on ignoring him and hoping for the best!
Watched The Best Men on dvd the other night. Hi-Lari-ous! Was a much needed chuckle. Its set at Yester Grange in the Blue Mountains, and I went to a family member’s wedding there last year. I stood where Olivia Newton-John was!!
OMM – taking the cherubs for an overnight stay in the Blue Mountains this weekend. Should be a laugh. I see some autumn leaf fights in my immediate future
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Is it my imagination or did I see the same blue necklace on at least 4 different people in these photos. Oh to work in an office with color, creativity and dress sense.
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I am outrageously jealous that Mia was in the same room as Joel Madden. I luff him in a very teenage, posters on my wall, practice my signature with his last name kind of way. Swoon………
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I wasn’t even sure if I’d comment this week but I’ve had a lot on my mind lately so maybe getting it out on MM will help somewhat…well first of all I feel like I’m not myself these days, I’m always moody and cranky and cry at the drop of a hat. I get snappy at my husband for no reason and the other night I cried for an hour for no reason other than stressing myself out! Plus I’ve put on weight and it’s really affecting me and Im pretty sure it’s all due to being on the pill I am now so went to doc today and he said it could also be my thyroid so I’ll find out tomorrow. He asked if I wanted to go on antidepressants I said no.
Also OMM babies and when I’m going to have one. Rach will understand where I’m coming from with this one! Feels like it can’t happen now but when I don’t know….
Uhhhh anyway am currently curled up in bed trying to keep my eyes open to type and nursing a sore stomach…damn period!
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Sorry to hear you are having a crap time. Don’t knock the idea of antidepressants, even just for a short while. They can be very helpful in just giving you the space in your mind to cope. Take care x
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Hi there, I had the same problems on a LOT of different pills. Constant mood swings at the drop of a hat. Kicked in around the 3rd months of the new pill (from memory) – was so bad that bf and i discussed just going off the pill for awhile to see if it helped & using condoms etc as a trial to see if it was the pill.
It was – was MUCH happier off it.
However wanted to get back on pill as we don’t like using condoms (& we ended up doing the ‘pull out’ method, I’m sure there is a better name but it escapes me & that’s not so ‘safe’) and so 1.5yrs ago I got onto ‘nuvaring’ and i’ve been fine the whole time – it’s been GREAT. I’d suggest speaking with your doctor & your partner about having a trial period OFF the pill completely & if that works you need to find another pill that suits you.
Personally I wouldn’t suggest antidepressants unless you have depression, but then i’m not a doctor….so you should go see one.
good luck xx
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Thanks mandymoo84, I have decided to go off the pill for 3 months to see if there will be any changes, we don’t like using condoms either but I guess for now that’s what we will do.
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Thanks for your comment, I’ve decided to go off the pill for 3 months to see if there will be any changes. But I’m not a fan of taking meds unless I really need them and so I just want to see how I go without the pills.
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I do…I sure do!
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Can anyone recommend some great educational DVDs for a 4 year old boy? I am after anything which is NOT Disney, or associated with a group such as Wiggles etc and nothing like Bob, Thomas, Dora etc. We have had great success with Baby Einstein & Brainy Baby but I feel that he is getting a bit old for that now and would love some advice on a similar range for the 4+ age group. Thanks in advance.
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Don’t underestimate him. My 4yo loves real, adult documentaries, particularly on trains, engines etc. He loves Chris Barrie’s Massive Machines series. I’m always impressed by how much of it he picks up. If your boy is into animals, try David Attenborough.
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Frozen Planet…brilliant!
My 4yo adored it.
And now she loves Planet Earth.
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My 4 year old girl likes kids’ programs, but she loves general documentaries too. She loves watching things about how things are made (e.g. we look up footage that shows how bread is made from scratch in a bakery). I would say let him watch anything that would interest him (obviously not too scary or inappropriate for his age!).
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Both my kids loved nature documentaries at 4. They also loved the Bindi Irwin series. They looooved the Ice Age series. It’s in no way educational but it’s good clean fun. Also Man vs. Wild. There was one series on machinery called Massive Movers or something like that, they both loved that too.
If you have an ABC shop or Dymocks nearby I found they stocked a lot of great documentary series.
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I loved nature docos at that age, even those that were aimed at adults (just beware some gruesome ones!)
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Thanks very much to everyone who has taken the time to reply to my question. Much appreciated.
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OMM: One of the guys I work with. Well USED to work with. I get back from hols on Monday and find out that he had been fired, and unceremoniously marched out the door over a week ago! I’m devastated. This guy is my friend and I was so looking forward to seeing him. I’m annoyed with my workplace, and everyone is just shocked.
I’m sure he will be fine though. He’s happy as he is getting more time with his 3 kids. But sheesh. I’m going to miss him.
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Is there a prize for guessing correctly?
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Ive got those sparkly boots Lucy! So comfy! The perfect height to enable me to bolt around all day after two babies!
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And I have been eyeing them off in the shop for a few weeks now.
Just haven’t got in to get them.
Or convinced myself I’ve got anything to wear them with.
They are lurvely though.
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Get them!
Skinny jeans, skinny black pants, black opaques w a skirt/ dress….
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Four of my friends have them now. We have to call in advance to make sure we’re not all wearing them.
Do it!! They’re fun and they go with lots of things – just keep the rest of your outfit simple.
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I really want them but I don’t know how well I could handle light coloured suede….
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Well, what can I say.
You have convinced me
Now here’ s hoping they are still in my size,
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OMM: Babies! Husband and i agreed to start trying for a baby towards the middle to end of this year. I’m not sure how we will manage on one income and there and hundreds of other worries that fill my head daily but I’m trying really hard to just step back and say ok…lets pro create, we can do this! We are in a good place right now and sure, it will be tough, but i have keep telling myself that all will be ok… hopefully…
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You’ll be fine Snow, we’re expecting our second and survive just fine on one income. And yeah, some sacrifices need to be made but oh boy the benefits are just so amazing
good luck! xxx
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we’re in the same boat and we just started trying! we are ok financially and while one income will be tough the Mr just keeps saying “we will work it out, it will be fine, if we want it, we will make it work”.
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Best decision to be made. You don’t have any regrets and it’ll all work out.
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Best decision to be made. You won’t have any regrets and it’ll all work out.
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One suggestion for you: Try managing on one income from now. It will be hard, but easier to get used to it while there is a fallback option, than when you have no other choices. Good luck.
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Great tip! And you could use the income you’re not touching to make extra mortgage payments, or pay off a credit card or other debts so you have a rainy day backup just in case you need it once the baby is born.
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That’s a great suggestion alright. It’s what my hubby & I did before having our daughter & we ended up saving enough so I could have a year off plus we got used to living on a tighter budget!
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COME ON WHO IS IT? I’ve got $5 riding on this.
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On my mind…
- A new job?
- Travel plans for next year
- The big pimple on my face that is red and sore!
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OMM: Babies everywhere…29 is a baaaad age to desperately want a child and not be able to do anything about it! Facebook, here, in person…sigh.
On a happier note, have an Aussie muso friend staying with us at the moment, and in addition, the weather here has been delightful! Hasn’t yet hit the 95% humidity I’ve been warned about for mid-late summer.
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I’m guessing it’s Nat!
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Mamamia is advertising for a senior editorial member.
So it could be Lana or Nicky.
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Well, I turned 25 on Monday. I finally feel like I have a decent future to look forward to. And the deep, destructive depression that has plagued me for over 7 years has finally started to lift. Finally!
In other news, I came out to some friends and my sisters last night. Fairly certain they all had an idea. But it felt good to make it offcial.
And they were all so beautiful about it. Like I knew they would be.
So. I feel good.:) its a good week.
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Sounds like you’re having a fabulous week
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Congrats to you
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Who’s that in the white top holding Fin (photo 7)? Because if I;m not wrong, she’s wearing the grey dress underneath… plus “zeroed in on Fin”? Clucky?
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That’s Lana, very good point about the top. But I’m still putting my money on Mikki.
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OMM: Nicole Kidman is the luckiest woman in the world. Keith Urban is so amazing.
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