By LUCY ORMONDE.
Cough. Sneeze. Sniffle.
WARNING. WARNING. Do not enter the Mamamia office this week. You might not find anyone here. We’re all at home sculling cough syrup and spooning our hot water bottles.
Welcome to *cough* Mamamia’s open post of the week. If you’ve just joined us, this is the place where we open the floor to you – our wonderful readers – to tell us what’s happening in your corner of the world.
We have a red card system at play here at MM (and it doesn’t involve after-work soccer games). Cough once? Red card. Sneeze? You’re OK. Sneeze twice? Yellow card. But sneeze three times? Get on the bench, kid.
First it was Mia. Then me. And today Nat’s at home being spoon fed tomato soup by her Grandma.
Meanwhile, while we’ve in and out of the office, our managing editor Jamila is in Italy eating pizza and dancing in the Trevi fountain. (Not jealous AT ALL.)
When you work in a small team like we do, it’s always tough when team members are away. But we’re making it work thanks to online chat, Vitamin C and the cafe across the road with the awesome Vanilla Slice.
Big shout out to our Mamamia and iVillage interns for all their hard work this week (and every week.)

Mia in gorman spots and stripes.
Now, over to you – what’s happening in your world?







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Women who whinge about having no time because they have a newborn, 2 under 5 and one at school. Just because you can fall pregnant naturally don’t you think that it’s a good idea to plan and make sure you can afford to support these children. So many women these days are just having child after child and expecting everyone to feel sorry for them or provide for them.
After using IVF it makes my blood boil.
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My step sister is getting married shortly. We asked when it was announced are you having children at the reception. She said our children are invited. The invite arrives, my son who knows his Aunty is getting married rips open the envelope, reads the invitation & realizes his & his sisters name are not on it. Floods of tears (he is 8 & has heard plenty of conversations in regards to the wedding) & I am unable to explain to make him understand why he isn’t invited. I understand no children at the reception but I’m deeply hurt that she didn’t warn me that she had decided no children. She hasn’t apologized or spoken to me since I told her how upset I am that she didn’t warn me, that way my son wouldn’t have seen the invitation. My Dad is giving her away & it hurts that my Step Mother & he haven’t said anything to her. My Dad keeps telling me that she is hurt & it’s the husband to be who has decided no children.
To make matters worse my sons teacher is getting married on the same day & has her nephew going to her wedding. He thinks he has done something wrong & his Aunty doesn’t like him anymore.
I have said we will attend the church but I have no desire to go to the reception.
Does anyone have any advice or am I being unreasonable?
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Why is it after you experience the horror of a stillbirth, everyone you know is pregnant and having babies? Suddenly everyone starts asking when you’re going to have kids or – even worse! – they start telling you how lucky you are not to have kids!!!! How about you tell me how lucky we were the day we were holding our newborn daughter and she wasn’t alive. Why do people say such hurtful things?? Too many questions that can’t be answered I guess???
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I’m sure people don’t want to hurt you. It is very hard to know what to say.Oh God, I just want to hug you, you poor little thing. I know it’s not the same, but my son, when he was eventually born, had no heart rate nor was he breathing. They resucitated him and I was told he would be forever disabled. No one came near me or him. I truly think everyone feels how absolutely devaststating this is and it is eveyones worst nightmare. We all feel the devastation of you losing your beautiful baby girl. I truly don’t think anyone means to be hurtful. I wish I knew you so I could try and be there for you.
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One of the gang rapists in the Skaf gang has been granted weekend parole.
Why on earth don’t criminals have to serve out their entire sentence?
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Do you know which one it is?
The members of the gang received quite varied sentences, So I’d guess it’s one of them who copped the shortest sentences.
They were a disgusting bunch of guys though. They really don’t deserve to be part of society.
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Because the handwringers want him to spend the next few years rehabilitating back into the community. He was 16 when sentenced and he got 16 years so he’ll only be 32 when he gets out.
I cannot tell you owns irate I am about the sentences given to pedophiles and murderers. It makes my eyes spurt blood. They should NEVER be released. Never.
The only benefit is that the cops know where to look to find the body when these scum decide not to leave their next victim alive.
I HATE this. Really HATE it.
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Can anyone recommend a good Pilates DVD? I have recently discovered how awesome it is at my gym but it is only on twice a week.
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Emmeline, Try looking at POP Pilates on Youtube. She’s awesome!
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OMM: Last night on Gruen Planet the segment The Pitch, where 2 ad agencies compete trying to sell something a bit “out there”, the topic was a campaign to ban all marriage (seeing as same sex marriage isn’t allowed) .
The ad that won took the line that if you can’t take your vows seriously, why take them at all? To illustrate this they showed what they called the “harsh reality” of marriage. This was depicted by some of the marriage vows juxtaposed with dramatisations of men getting angry, a man being unfaithful, a battered woman and then finally a death (not actually shown but it was either of a battered woman, or a man who has been killed by his battered wife) .
I know this is a light hearted programme, but I have been unable to get this out of my mind since I’ve watched it. Jane Caro was the only one of the panel who didn’t choose this ad as the winner, the three men did.
Not sure what that means, but I think it was appalling stereotyping of men as the baddies. I can’t help but think that if the situation was reversed and it was stereotyping women there would be a massive outcry. Did anyone else see it?
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I thought both of those ads were a bit pointless – there was almost nothing in them which doesn’t happen in de facto relationships as well, so it wasn’t specifically *marriage*-related.
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this is why we send our young men to afghanistan.
http://www.news.com.au/world/afghan-girl-beheaded-over-prostitution/story-fndir2ev-1226498197587
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They’ve been there for 11 years already. What exactly has been achieved?
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Every village that is freed from the Taliban means that the inhabitants have some chance of achieving something in their lives, particularly the women and girls.
Are you saying that this sort of disgraceful treatment of a young woman by her husband and mother in law is ok?
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OMM sleep deprivation, having a newborn while still juggling a 2 toddler and school aged child is becoming quiet a balancing act. Ended up in tears when my car broke down today. Lucky he is cute. Also we have dance concerts in 5 weeks. So busy few weeks a head
Also omm wish my ex would do the right thing and pay child suppport he owes a lot and is making it hard for csa too collect. The extra cash would come in handy while i am on maternity leave
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Total FWP but for my birthday last weekend, I went antiquing with a friend and found a gorgeous footstool that I gave to myself as a gift. Now I am frantic on Ebay chasing down a chair that would match it wonderfully but I can’t justify spending that much money on a freaking chair!! (no matter how gorgeous and old and amazing it is….). Auction ends in 40 minutes and I don’t whether to bid and use it as my xmas/bday gift for the next 2 years or leave it and just love my footstool.
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Julia Gillard fell over because her heel sank into the dirt and caught there. Just another reason not to wear high heels. They ruin your feet with bunions, etc. they make you walk with your arse and boobs sticking out, they are ridiculously expensive, and they bloody hurt. Why don’t men wear high heels? For once, they might have the right idea.
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for once men have the right idea?
surely you jest!
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I kind of like that they ‘make you walk with your arse and boobs sticking out’ – it’s the point of them, besides extra height, yes?
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My dear friend Gregory Moore is raising much needed funds for Multiple Sclerosis through their MS Moonlight Walk 2012 this Friday.
I’m unable to participate due to health issues so I’m trying to help them raise as much money as possible.
If anyone would like to make a donation…as little or as much as you are able…it is greatly appreciated.
http://www.msqldevents.org.au/MS-Moonlight-Walk-2012/More+of+Moore
Cheers!
Ericka
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OMM: Unwanted male customer attention at work.
Served one guy the other day who stalled and changed his mind three times, asked inappropriate questions. Thought he was just a weirdo. But no, yesterday he comes in, butts in while I’m serving someone else and goes “you’re gorgeous”… His demeanour kind of indicted he wasn’t the full quid but geeeez.
A couple of weeks ago I had another guy ask me out… only double my age, seedy and way shorter than me.. Sure, so turned on! *cough*
Today I had my back to a customer, looking for something, after I’d finished serving him, a couple of work friends came over and told me he was staring at my ass the whole time I was turned around.
And apparently because my boobs are fairly large in proportion to my frame that means there’s a sign there saying “please, look at me!”
Not really giving me much faith in the male species…
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Yuck! I remember a having a particular creep who used to follow me around at work when I lived in retail. Once he brought in his very young thai gf (who spoke no english) in and said she wanted to have a threesome with me. She clearly had no idea what he was saying, and just looked embarrassed and confused as he tried to rub both our shoulders. I told my male boss i felt uncomfortable and wanted to leave the floor until he left, and my boss told me that he was a customer and deserved to be served. Thanks for the support, d-head!
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Gosh, that’s terrible! I work for a large retailer and I know my store manager has kicked out a guy who touched one of the female workers before, so I feel safe in the knowledge that if anyone went too far there would be back up if needed.
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So the guy is older and shorter, does this make him a bad person does it?
If it doesn’t, why mention it? Would you like to be characterised by a physical trait?
I doubt it.
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I’ll grant you the shorter, not really relevant, but older? As a female in my early twenties I don’t really go to work to be asked out by a male in his 40s who is unable to actually look me in the eye. Just saying.
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Best: The first episode of “The Good Wife” was awesome. Hopefully its going to be a good season & I finally got to see “The Bourne Legacy” and it was excellent – me and the other person in the cinema thought it was great.
Worst: Parked at the shopping complex carpark this week and I was in a rush and didnt exactly park perfectly straight but it didnt impact on the cars on either side – it was only a little bit wonky.
Anyway, came back to find a note under my car windscreens wipers which made my son blush “you;re a ********** *********, your car is obviously too ********** big (which it isnt – its not a 4WD) **********. ”
Seriously. Where does this anger come from??
I’ve come back to my car before and had to climb in on the passenger side (I’m not joking) as I couldnt even open my drivers door because the car next to me was so close. This has happened more than once.
Do I leave offensive notes?? No
Rant over. Going to brush up on my parking skills now.
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I’m tired. I haven’t slept a full night for weeks. I’m normally a really good sleeper… and no, there are no kids to wake me or loud noises outside. I’m tired. I’m stressed and I’m not sleeping. I’ve taken delivery of some pillow spray, some relaxation candles and I’m exercising more in the day to encourage exhaustion sleep. It’s not f*cking working.
I have nothing but pure admiration for the Mums of the world for which this is normal circumstances. I don’t know how you do it.
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Try a really hot bath – hot as you can stand – immediately before bed. Apparently your body temp drops sharply when you go to sleep, so if you raise your body temp and then get cool suddenly, it tricks your body to sleep. Sometimes worked for me when I had insomnia. Good luck! Hope you can get some zzzzzz’s soon x
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I can second what Vegas says re temperature changes. I struggle with insomnia at times, and I’ve found that a long, very hot shower right before bedtime can really help. Also, I know it is hard but try not to feel stressed about not sleeping enough. It will compound other stresses in your life and just make it even harder for you to sleep.
Good luck!
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Orgasms work – they do. Have one right before you wish to sleep.
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I was going to recommend chamomile tea (has to be loose leaf preferably from asian shops) but you’re suggestion is much better!!
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Hey MMers
Well life in Mavenland is still rather delicious. Had a little private work, an interview today for a contract role which went well, and the man and the cherubs are getting along famously.
Had a Pink Ribbon do on the weekend. Mini rant – why do people bother to rsvp yes then don’t even front, let alone apologise or explain? I was SO peeved. 4 people both the Bodyshop lady doing the product demos and I had catered for, just didn’t front. Rude! Anyway – I’m posting the Pink Ribbon bank info on my facebook page and hopefully this may guilt them into at very least donating!
My back is giving me grief atm. And I know what you are thinking :p….I’ve actually had an injury since 2003 that has decided to be a cow and give me crap atm. Had a CT last week – have a pinched nerve and spurs and arthritis between L1 and L5…grrrr. So yeah I probably run out of nice before coffee more than usual :$
The man has been making me happy though. He came to the youngest cherub’s choir concert the other night – I know its 2 and a half hours of his life he’ll never get back but she was thrilled he came. We have been talking big long term stuff, and you know what – its not been half as scary as I’ve found it in the past. Its crazy comfy.
And I bought an oz lotto ticket. Hoping that ship came in :p
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it’s all sounding rather good at the moment, Haven ( except for the yuk back stuff, and I totally feel your pain there) and I’d be looking at it as 2.5 hours invested in his future, rather than time lost. Because he will get it back in spades, as a cherub will always remember that he was there, and so will her mama. Glad it’s all going well. xx
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Yay for a loved up HavenMaven and a nice man. Boo to rude guests and bad backs. And fingers crofor oz lotto!
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Have you tried muscle relaxants? Not over the counter ones, but ones prescribed by doctors? I had extremely bad back L5si ruptured discs for 20 years and went to doctors, neuroseurgons,all different types of specialists, all men. I was in terrible pain, nerve damage in left leg, hospitalised frequenlty etc etc.
Finally I went to a female neurosurgeon and she put me on Doxepin Deptran which in large doses is used as an antidepressant, but in very small dose ie; 5/10mg at night is a muscle relaxant. Problem fixed two days later! Has to be Deptran too, not just the plain Doxepin.
Hope this may help.
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OMM: I’ve just returned to work from 3 weeks holidaying through South and North America … and I return to see Mia has swapped her Sass & Bide outfits for Gorman. What!?? hehe
But seriously, on my mind: I’m recovering from my trip and can’t stop looking at my new Proenza Schouler tote – my first designer splurge ever and a fantastic souvenier from my first trip to NYC
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OMM: Noooo! One of my besties at work is leaving! She just got her dream job and is packing her desk up… well, she will in a few weeks. It’s amazing how dependent we get on our work colleagues, always assuming that they’ll be there to talk, laugh and share with – and then they can just leave us!!
And what about the new person? I like newbies but what are the chances that we’ll ‘click’?
Delighted for my friend, of course, but so not happy about this!!
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OMM: I have a job interview tomorrow. It’s for a retail position and I’m really nervous. I was in my last job for over ten years and I finished there at the end of June. Does anyone have any suggestions that may help my interview go smoothly? I’m a nervous person with low self esteem so any help will be good.
I hope you all are better soon, being sick sucks!
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Sarzieb, just keep in mind they are already interested in you – they want to meet you.
Remember it’s always ok to ask someone to repeat a question and perfectly ok to take a moment to construct your answer – there is no need to rush.
You have clearly had a lot of experience – who wouldn’t want you
… remember that too.
Best of luck.
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Aww thank you Teal, that’s just the confidence that I need!
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Most welcome.
Kick butt tomorrow
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If you’re having an interview they have already that you have the qualifications and experience to do the job. The interview is now about how you interact with them..
Make sure that you know about the company, and have an answer for the “where do you want to be in 5 years” question.
Just remember, they have decided already that you can do the job, be confident but not arrogant and you’ll be fine.
Best of luck
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Two shit things happened this week:
First, a guy who didn’t know that well, but worked with several times on projects got made redundant about a year ago. He committed suicide on Friday. Basically he’d been unable to find more work and just couldn’t take it any more.
And today, another round of redundancies. My department was safe (our redundancies went through about three-four months ago) but HR picked a glass walled meeting room right next to where I worked, so all day I tried not to glance over at people getting fired. It was horrible.
Half of me would love a redundancy payout, the other half quails in fear.
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The redundancy thing is hanging over our head too (Qld health), even though we were told 6 months ago it wouldn’t affect frontline staff, that has now been changed and no one is exempt. at the moment though, we’re just waiting for the taps on the shoulder
We kind of know what our payouts would be and what I’d get is just not enough to to tempt me, but there’s the possibility that you would just lose your job anyway.
HR can be so thoughtless can’t they. It’s awful about your former colleague.
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Terrible news about your former colleague An Idle Dad. It’s horrible and frightening to think that a job loss could be a trigger for so much worse in one’s life. I’ve always advocated for the companies I work for to provide ongoing follow-up support after people were let go. You never know unless you ask, and check again, how much/little support someone has in their lives once they walk out the door permanently.
And while I’m on that rant, you’d think at least one person in the HR Dept would have more emotional intelligence than to think conducting those meetings where they did is a good thing in any way. Such a mind screw for those of you on the outside and even more difficult for those being let go. Seriously bad form.
Fingers crossed your job is safe for as long as you’d like it.
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I got trolled for the first time today, on twitter. It felt so strange. I spoke up agasinst a ‘hail hitler’ type page and the responses were frightening. I am so glad that I am in a mental state where I am able to laugh them off but I really feel for others who take the horrible things people say to heart.
A part of me is so annoyed that people do this- People that have nothing better to do than spread hate. It is so immature.
@katebmcleod
Also, I can’t wait for Christmas! It is one of my favourite times of year! and I am so loving being single again
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Kate, I saw, you were awesome.
How does Godwin’s law word when actual Nazis attack?
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Actual Nazis? Local?
Very tempting to remind them that WW2 is over and they LOST.
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Get better soon girls!
SO jealous of Jamila in Italy…..
Not much else to report……
Boring today ladies – sorry!!!
Here’s a yummy picture though… literally JUST came out of the oven….
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Thanks for your lemon cake recipe the other week – turned out well and from what I hear went down well at the wedding!
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Ahhh! You’re SO welcome! That’s Awesome
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OMM: realising how completely alone I am. My family live in another state and my partner works on a mine site. I realised how alone I was when I had to take myself to the emergency department on Sunday afternoon as I was experiencing symptoms similair to pulmonary embolism (my immediate family have a genetic blood disorder that causes PE) being on the phone to my mum (handsfree!) while driving to ED was the most scared I’ve been in a while. People always say when they hear “you could have called me, I’d have taken you to/picked you up from the hospital” but, really, could I ask a colleague or friend to take me to the hospital and either wait with me for 7 hours or come pick me up once Im discharged after midnight? My best friend said I need to stop worrying about inconveniencing people and just call her when I need her, but I hate for people to feel obligated.
OMM2: I absolutely cant fault the Dr’s and nurses on Sunday, I dont know why people in QLD complain about the public health service – they were thorough, comforting and just lovely. In my opinion, nurses are amongst the best people in the world.
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Sorry you had to experience that on your own Jess (thank goodness for phones, right?!).
On feeling alone and what your best friend said, I have to agree with her. I used to never ask friends for help because I was worried about imposing, but something snapped while I was living overseas and only had one friend I hadn’t been close with in years nearby. I did ask her for help, we’ve become best friends since and I realised something very important: asking is not an imposition. If people want to help they will. It’s something another friend of mine has had to learn this year, and it’s hard at first but very liberating. Hope that helps
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Thanks Amyspeak, I know you’re probably right and if it were the other way round I would be saying exactly the same thing to my friend. Asking for help the first time is hard, but its harder to go though a health scare alone – I’ll remind myself of that if I ever find I’m in that situation again (fingers crossed I’m not though!)
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I hope all is well with your health now too!
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So so sorry to hear that. Sending you hugs X
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Lucy is that skirt from Kmart you’re wearing in image 14 a new purchase? I think I need it…
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Yes! Last few weeks new
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Just found out that we will be moving states after Christmas.
Cue lots of waking up in the middle of the night panicking that we are doing the wrong thing. Wondering how the children will cope with leaving friends behind, changing schools etc. Wondering how I will cope without my family, fabulous friends and wonderful support network. Perhaps moving to a city where I will only know one person isn’t such a flash idea?
Also lots of excitement about exploring a new city, the new people we will meet and the new lifestyle we will embrace.
Any suggestions for making friends as an adult (and not looking like a stalker) gratefully received.
Oh we are moving to Brisbane, so if anyone has suggestions about things to do, places to see, fabulous café’s etc. please let me know.
Thanks
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Brisbane is a great city. There’s heaps to do, great cafes & restaurants & some great parks for kids. Do you know what suburb you’ll be living yet? I suggest doing what you like to do to meet more friends, whether that’s yoga, swimming, the gym, a book club, whatever floats your boat. Then there’s the chance that the people also doing that activity might have similar interests. Brisbane City Council have a What’s On section to their website that advertises groups etc.
It’s not always easy when the kids come along or you move states or countries. Some Mamamia readers seeking new friends met up in August for dinner & then at a park with kids in September. Not sure when & what the next thing will be but if you’re interested in being included in emails etc let me know.
Best of luck!
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HelloPetal, Thanks for those suggestions!
We haven’t picked a suburb yet,but i am looking forward to exploring where ever we end up.
I would also love to be included in the emails for the Mamamia get togethers – thank you. Can Mamamia forward on my email address please.
Again, thanks hellopetal – I hope most Brisbaners are as friendly and helpful.
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HP
Can you email me at rebecca@mamamia.com.au and I can pass your email onto Eccles!
Bec xx
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Bec, I will email my address through in the next day or so to pass onto Eccles. I’m laid up with a head cold today & hubby has taken a carer’s day from work to look after our 4yo.
Only up to reading Mamamia & lying about today with a box of aloe tissues on one side & the air con remote on the other!
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Brisbane is fantastic place to live (why oh why did I ever leave there).
Wynum area, by the water is fantastic for picnics – there are a few good playgrounds (not sure how old your kids are), and we often spotted turtles or dugongs, which is lovely.
They are a number of great shopping centres in Brisbane too – although avoid Indro and Chermside near Christmas – Chermside Westfield has a fantastic playground nearby ( about a one minute drive or a decent walk across a park)
Southbank is always a fun happening area – a fake ‘beach’ to swim in, and there are usually markets and performers around. The (free) museum is right nearby too. Lots of great restaurants around there too – although can be a bit expensive. And, if the kids are up to it, you can walk across the bridges into Queen St city centre area.
Best of luck with your move
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Four weeks single, after four years… and doing so much better than I thought I would. Staying positive, making plans. OMM: the future and all it’s possibilities.
Best: saw my first love this morning for the first time in 10 years (drove past him, he didn’t see me). It felt like the universe was trying to tell me something along the lines of “see! Remember how you felt back then?? How many wonderful things have happened since”.
Worst: recruiting participants for a research study. Like pulling teeth!
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I feel you on the recruiting participants for a research study! Soooooo painful. We’ve been using stakeholders from relevant organisations to help us, and some have been very helpful and others have not
It’s worked best for us when I go see them personally to explain how important it is, then follow up regularly.
What sort of participants do you need?
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It’s an on-campus lab study (cognitive psychology). So people need to sit at one of our computers for 10 minutes – easy. Or so I thought. Posters and flyers were getting me nowhere so I’m just walking up to people and asking…. so much rejection! I don’t blame them though, people are busy!
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That’s me, obviously
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Oh bummer, if it wasn’t on campus I would volunteer … but I do not live in a capital city so guessing I’m not near you.
Can you use bribes? $5 was all it took for me to volunteer for a cognitive psychology study in first year … but maybe I’m just a cheap study
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I am afraid, no lets say petrified of becoming like my Mum. I do love her, but I don’t want her jealous pettiness.
Also thinking of how far I’ve come in my job since the beginning of the year and looking forward to a possible change in position, moving up.
Finished an INCREDIBLE book called The Time Keeper by Mitch Albom. Changed my perspective on things..
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How good is Mitch Albom? Tuesdays with Morrie in my top 5.
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Tuesdays with Morrie is one of my favourites too! Love it!
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Babe, being aware of the trait you don’t like in your mum is the best way to be sure you don’t emulate it. x
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Beautifully said!
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WTF is wrong with kids fashion designers!!!!!
Since my daughter turned 7 shopping for sensible play clothes has become a nightmare. In particular trying to buy a pair of shorts that doesn’t threaten to expose her budding lady bits is impossible! Apparently when you turn 7 no-one cares about your risk of skin cancer either because everything from tops to bottoms is so damn short and skimpy!!!!
I am really cranky about this and noticed that a TV advert for Target the other day showed men and women and all ages of boys and very young girls in sensible shorts but there was not a single 7 to 12 year old girl in shorts….because the shorts are all X-rated!
Please, please, please can we have some sensible length shorts for girls aged between 7 and 10 years!
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I totally agree – in fact this was my very same rant on the weekend!
If you find a store that stocks sensible clothing for girls 7-12, please let me know.
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I totally agree.
There are some cotton shorts in Big W (were only $5) in 4 different colours, great length, that won’t be mistaken for underwear and won’t reveal butt cheeks. Sizes 8 – 16? I think.
Hope you are somewhere nearby a shop (and they have some) and they help for Summer. I was shocked and happy to see them.
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How about op shops? A lot of the clothes that have been donated are great quality and only lightly worn – I bet you can easily find basics like shorts that were manufactured before the skimpy trend of the past few years and so will be a length that you’re more comfortable with. And as a bonus, clothes bought at op shops are low cost and you would be contributing to a worthy cause!
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I would love an entire post on this topic, as I have trouble buying clothes for my size 3 boy. The situation is not completely dire – I can usually find something that will do – it’s just that a large proportion of what’s on offer at the cheaper end of the scale is covered in skulls and graffiti, or other ugly logos. I just want some cute animals.
My daughter is size 6, I haven’t yet hit the older girls section of the shops, and my problem right now is that there are tooo many gorgeous dresses and I need to stop buying them.
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Check out the op shops for kids pants/ jeans and cut them to the desired length. You don’t even have to sew – just cut a bit longer, roll them up a couple of times, and iron down the cuff!
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Hubby and I are trying everything we can to get pregnant this month. He’s on board 100% now and is even eating healthy and we are both exercising as well as charting my cycle to improve our chances. After 6 months of trying I’m over it! I want to start a family already
Wish us luck
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Good luck Snow! Hope you get some exciting news soon xx
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Good luck! Hang in there. After trying for 12 months I started charting my cycle & taking my temp, bingo pregnant straight away. Turns out I wasn’t ovulating when I thought I was, but later in my cycle.
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Recommended is ‘once a day’ from days 10-16 of your cycle, generally speaking, especially on days 12-14.
Have fun getting there. Smile!
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Goodling! Fingers crossed for you xx
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whoops that was meant to say good luck!! Stupid auto correct!
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OMM: Head Lice.
I’m ashamed to admit it, but I have spent the past 10 or so years living in a smug bubble of lice-free happiness……
Well MMers, the karma bus has well and truly caught up with me, and I am 3 WEEKS into a war with the hideous creatures in my 11yo daughter’s long thick curly hair.
Sigh……..makes me itch just thinking about it……
I promise to NEVER be smug about head lice again…please just MAKE THEM GO AWAY!!!!!
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I’m the eldest of 3 and my little brother ALWAYS used to bring them home from primary school. It truly is an ongoing nightmare!
Until Dad had had enough and went for the heavy duty kp-24 or whatever its called. None of this namby pamby hippie tea tree oil based products.
We never got them again.
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OMM: Are there any sole parents out there who have found and pursued careers whilst raising their young children? I am interested in being a teacher, but I was wondering what other career options there are. I am sick of just having a job and not studying towards a career that I love.
Any advice would help, like how you did it, why you love your job, pros and cons.. thanks MMers..
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Hi Ess,
I am not a sole parent now, but was for most of 2010 & 2011. The opportunities out there for you to access subsidised childcare and study are HUGE! You may also find that if you receive the single parenting payment from Centrelink that it might increase to take into account your new lifestyle as a student.
It is really worthwhile taking/making time to go in to Centrelink or even into a local uni to find out what sort of assistance is on offer.
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I’d also like to know what kind of jobs are good for single parents. Teaching is good for obvious reasons but I wonder if there are others I haven’t thought of.
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Nursing! Obviously shift work in hospital wards is difficult, but nurses also work in health centres, schools, doctors offices etc – and all these could have good hours!
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Can anyone recommend a good couple’s counsellor in Brissie? Just someone with some experience, a sense of humour and some common sense… Need some marriage maintenance to stop the distance between my husband and I growing any larger – I’m scared if we don’t do something to correct the drift now we won’t be able to keep it together, and I really don’t want to be a single mum….
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These are not recommendations, I don’t know them, however it’s a place to start.
Call to speak directly to the counsellor and get a feel for them, see if they make you feel comfortable. Ask a few questions about their style, approach, technique etc. (you get the idea) and see if they rush you off the phone or have a bit of time for you. The sooner you start, I’d say the better:
http://counsellorsroom.com/
http://www.humaneed.com.au/marriagecounsellingbrisbane.asp
http://couplescounsellingpsychologist.com/
http://www.positivelifecounselling.com.au/brisbane_relationship_counselling.html
All the best with it.
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Relationships Australia are fantastic an very reasonably priced too.
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I have a term off from my 3 day a week job which I am loving. I have 2 kid free days a week at the moment.
On a very shallow note I have just become obsessed with scented candles and can’t wait for my 2 new ecoya candles to arrive as we’ll the glasshouse night before christmas one.
My brother and his wife are pregnant and she’s having a girl. First child from my only sibling. I’m so excited.
Due to the fact that I don’t have report cards to write this term I’ve skipped ahead to Christmas planning. I’ve also started secretly playing Christmas music when I’m home alone. How obvious is it that I have much more time on my hands at the moment that I’m not used to?
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Oh! Just last night I was wrapping all of my christmas presents and singing along to christmas music for about two hours. Straight. I also went through a few old Christmas photos and reminisced. You are not alone
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Sounds like bliss!
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I listen to Christmas music all year round. Whatever makes you happy, I say
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I’m sick as well! I came down with the sore throat on monday and now my nose/sinuses are blocked, i’m coughing and my ears are sore (probably from the sinuses). I’m also achey too, although I’m not sure if it’s from indoor hockey (monday night) or if i have a flu. Anyway, i feel absolutely shocking, and headed off to work in an hour.
I need to be better by friday, because I’m graduating from uni! PLEASE COLD, GO AWAY!!
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I’m graduating on Friday too! Congrats
And get well soon!
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OMM is the mammogram, ultrasound and fine needle biopsy that I have booked for Monday. The odds are in my favour in that 9/10 lumps are not a problem but it is the now to Monday and the result I have to get through! Also it is painful so I just want to be rid of that as well!
Hope everyone has a happy hump day!
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Oh Janie I’m sure it’ll be fine, although the mammogram machine MUST”VE been invented by a man, its evil isnt it!
I had 3 fine needles, 2 core biopsies and a lumpectomy by the time i was 30 (thanks to a maternal history and lumpy breasts). All were fine. I had fine needles done during my lunch break at RPA (wonderful clinic there) and the worry in the leadup is much much worse than the actual procedure.
Its hard, but stay relaxed and positive. Thinking of you x
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Just went through this, with a happy result. Hope you get the same and the waiting doesn’t destroy your peace of mind too much! xxx
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OMM: Gahhhh! So over it!
I don’t want to rant much today, but sooooo much crap has been going on, this stupid marching band contest we were forced to volunteer for, so I missed all my birthday plans, now husband has major assignments he needs help with, I’m not getting any of my own stuff done…I would like the world to stop for a little while so I can get off.
And I’m getting pretty homesick. Probably because I’m sick of everything, so the grass is always greener! Miss my dog, meat pies, my job, real cheese, Aussie slang…
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Homesick yes, I feel it almost everyday but sometimes it feels so strong! Especially when I see photos on FB of for e.g. my mum’s birthday with everyone at lunch and I realise I’m on the other side of the bloody world!
I miss Aussie slang and accent too, luckily I can hear it everyday with husband lol.
So you didn’t do anything for your birthday?
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Nope. And now that husband has a massive midterm next week in addition to a couple of essays, plus homecoming is next week, I doubt anything is going to happen until November.
I got so mad the other day, I told husband, “When we go home, I am having the biggest f-ing party ever, for all the things we’ve missed. Like my 30th. And 29th. And 28th.”
He just said, “Okay.” Smart boy.
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There’s some nasty bugs going around at the moment. I had something last week and still have a residual cough and husky voice, but luckily feel sooo much better. I hope the MM team recovers soon too.
OMM is changes at work. Lots of exciting stuff, I just can’t wait for it to all settle into a new phase though. The transition is always the hardest part I guess, but I think change is good overall
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Pregnant!!!
YAHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Just want to shout it from the rooftops, but since that would be rather inappropriate at work, Im using mamamia as my virtual rooftop.
Hellooooo all you people out there… Im pregnant! Im having a baby! Im going to be a mum!!!
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CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
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Congratulations!
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Good for you!
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Congrats!!!!!
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Congratulations
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Congrats and hope you have a great pregancy!
How exciting!!
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Ahh tears just sprang to my eyes when I read that! I don’t know you but I could feel your happiness in your words! So happy for you darling. All the best xxx
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In desperate need for help with insomnia! Three nights and counting now……
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You’ve probably already tried a few of these but… a cup of warm milk, lavender oil on pillow, read a book, exercise, ear plugs, eye/sleep mask, melatonin, valerian…
Lack of sleep is horrible, hope you get some sleep soon!
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I find I usually sleep well after a Big-O. If you are alone, spend some time havign some fun solo! It does work.
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Chamomile tea really works. Get it preferably at an asian shop, loose leaf. or at a health store. You go to sleep and it’s a much deeper sleep too.
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I would like to bring up the subject of rare diseases and cancers. We know that breast cancer, bowel cancer and prostate cancer is gaining alot of media attention, so to are the charities set up to support them.
But what about rarer types of diseases and cancers like neuroendocrine tumours or NET.
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuroendocrine_tumor gives a more detailed description.
Contrary to first reported, Steve Jobs had a pNET (pancreatic neuroendocrine tumour) not pancreatic cancer.
Patients are often misdiagnosed for an average of 5-7 years. The Unicorn Foundation was founded in 2009
http://www.unicornfoundation.org.au/ the only Australian not-for-profit medical charity focussed on neuroendocrine tumours.
So why the interest?
My 13 yr old daughter was diagnosed with one of these tumours in April this year!
We have since discovered out family has inherited a rare gene that causes these particular types of tumours to grow.
The only way to create awareness about this type of cancer is to share our experiences in the hope that funding and research will lead to better outcomes and improve survival rates for patients.
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Wishing your daughter and family the very best Jackie! xo
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many thanks amyspeak, knowledge is power!
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OMM: I am so up and down. Yesterday I felt totally ok, today I feel completely awful. The thing I seem to keep focusing on is that Ex Mr W is going to meet someone else and be married within a year or two and I’m going to be a frumpy singleton.
That being said, my friend Alece told me that worrying about it isn’t going to change anything and that the more I put it out there into the universe the more I’m growing the idea and guaranteeing it will happen!
What IS really good is that my new housemates are REALLY GREAT GIRLS. I feel it must have been fate I found them. I am really happy living with them right now (on day 3….haha)
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Brighter days ahead for you, I hope things only get better from here! Sending my love
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Whippersnapper I have been thinking about you this week and wondering how you were going.
You know what I think? I think if you and ex Mr W are meant to be together then you will be. You’ll reunite. And if you’re not, then have faith that there is someone else.
But what is meant for you will not go by you. That’s what I always tell myself. But it doesn’t make your heartache any easier to deal with. Hang in there. xxx
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Thanks Bec. I am surprising myself at how well I am doing.
Yesterday, I was sort of just like “Oh well, these things happen, I’ve got a lot to look forward to on my own”. But today, I’m like “OMG, I’m 26, 27 in March, I’m so OLD, I’m going to be one of those single women at 35 who is desperate and he’ll be married with kids!”.
Rationally, I know this is the grief talking. I am an independent, free thinking, smart, funny, articulate, VERY PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE WOMAN. Do I have all my sh*t sorted like he does? Not really. Does it matter? NO. I’m not 40, I’m 26.
I rang him on Monday and we spoke for a bit a couple of times. BOTH feel as though it was the right decision. BOTH of us have said it is not a lack of love or not being “right” for each other, but that we want different things and if we find our way back to each other than it is meant to be.
BUT, I want to move forward, on my own, and NOT move forward with the expectation that we will get back together because that will not help me at all.
I am going to be ok.
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Hi Whippersnapper, When I was 26 my Finance left me for another girl. I had the exact same thoughts and emotions racing through my head. I was 3 months away from turning 27 and over the hill. I was going to be single forever etc etc. I am now 30 and while yes I now have a fantastic man in my life that isn’t my point. You are not over the hill. You have so much time. More than you realise. Go out, do all the things that make you happy! Your time will come and your ‘perfect for you’ guy will arrive too. In the meantime enjoy this time. It won’t last long in hindsight….
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“BUT, I want to move forward, on my own, and NOT move forward with the expectation that we will get back together because that will not help me at all”
- I’m in that exact same place. I too just went through a break-up because of wanting different things. Just keep in mind – we are far stronger than we realise. Hugs to you x
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lol@ ‘OMG, I’m 26, 27 in March, I’m so OLD’ !
I am 32 and neither look nor feel old. I also know myself far far better than my mid twenties. Ironic, but I am more confient now and more self aware:D
You have LOADS of time W/S, do not fret.
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I believe that 20 something is the age to get out there and live your life. It is sooooo young!
You have so much time, why settle down when you can do that in your 30′s?
I used to think I was old in my 20′s and now at 47 I realise how incredibly young I was. You have the world at your feet, please stop worrying about your age and live it up.xx
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I know it’s hard but just remember that eventually the good days will out weigh the bad. And as for Ex Mr W getting married in a year or two… you don’t know that will happen and if it does then so it does and that doesn’t mean you’re going to be a ‘frumpy singleton’.
I was engaged to my ex boyfriend before meeting my husband. We broke up and within 5 months he was married to someone else…. did it annoy me at first yes but now that I look back I think how lucky I am not to have been the person he married and that I’ve got my husband.
I know it doesn’t seem like it now but one day you will look back on this and realise exactly why it didn’t work out and why you’re happy. As for your housemates that’s great that you were able to find people who you like… makes things a bit easier I imagine
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Don’t base your happiness on meeting someone and getting married. If it happens thats great, but, there is plenty of great things in life that don’t involve marriage and children.
You are great. You will get through this and you will look back and KNOW you made the right decision.
P.S.: You should buy yourself something new this week and go out dancing with your new flatmates…Gangnam Style !
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I negotiated getting paid out for the rest of the month after my somewhat dodgy redundancy. Yay! But not having much luck with the job search. Boo.
I’m also in a new relationship with a great guy – but am currently doing my very best to self-sabotage. After being cheated on in my last relationship, I have trust issues. I know I’m being my own worst enemy here and I’m doing my best to overcome, but it’s hard sometimes. Any advice?
And I hope the MM team is feeling better soon!
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Have been going through the same thing myself. The most important, and obvious, thing to remember is that current boyfriend didn’t cheat on you. He didn’t lie to you and break your trust. Try not to punish him for someone else’s mistakes. It’s hard but I’d hate to see you lose a good thing because of your d-bag ex!
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The way I view cheating/trust is that you never ever really know what someone else is doing. Sometimes you don’t even know what you’re capable of doing yourself! No amount of sneakily going through phones, jealous tantrums or paranoia when they go out will prevent them from cheating if they’re going to. But it WILL ruin a relationship if they’re not.
Trust doesn’t just happen, it’s a decision. You have to choose to trust him. Choose to believe him. Then promise yourself you’ll never indulge your jealous unless there is a genuine reason to. Best of luck xx
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OMM my manager accepting equal praise /acknowledgement for work I have done and projects I have managed solo. Yet, it would be a bad move to correct this in front of the team, and the team manager (her manager). Career path within current employer = stunted.
I know what I need to do, but I need my mojo back to do something about it.
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I’ve been feeling pretty sick for the last few weeks but have increased my medication and today feel not too bad! It is so nice to not feel nauseous, I can just deal with the kids so much easier, do housework. Everything.
So I’m keen for anyone else’s experiences with radiation therapy. When did you start to feel “normal” again? It’s been 9 months and I’m heartily over it.
But in the meantime, we too have been doing some gardening (we got an olive tree for Miss C as she loves olives, I know, a 3 year old who likes olives. But she has them on everything), plus some pretty flowers. I have a terrible black thumb so we will see how long they all last
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Wow where to start a few things OMM the first of which is that I had a breakdown in the bathroom the other night (didn’t want husband to see me crying). Why? Well I was speaking to my sister and she told me my cousin is pregnant and of course I was happy but then all of a sudden all these emotions started building up inside of me and I found myself with tears in my eyes and just wanting to cry… I don’t know what it was I mean I read about people being pregnant all the time but I think because this one was close to home and someone I know it made it all so real. I cried because I wondered when it would be my turn… right now there’s no way I can get pregnant. We aren’t even sure if we’ll still be here in 6 months time plus husband has an interview he has been preparing for all week so I didn’t want to worry him. So I had a good cry in the bathroom and then washed my face and said to myself… your time will come when it’s time.
Also OMM was the absolutely insane dream I had the other night, I woke up in the biggest panic. The dream was kind of long but it was basically about me running away from a guy with a gun and in the dream I could feel bullets grazing past my head and then towards the end of the dream I was face to face with the guy (someone I’ve never seen) and he was shooting me at close range… and I could feel my body slowing down and not being able to move…. omg it was intense and I have no idea what it means! I didn’t watch anything before bed that would have led me to have this dream.
Took me a couple of days to get over the shock!
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I feel stressed just reading about your dream!!!
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Oh Bec… it was intense and I couldn’t stop thinking about it for days, even now when I think about it I get freaked out! It was so vivid and real.
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Ohhh…I know!
I was reading a FB post from a friend I don’t even see any more, and it was the stupid ‘I can’t believe it…we’re expecting! Share this if in 12 weeks you are expecting Santa too!” On my phone I could only see the first line. I felt the tears well up, then read the rest of it. What an idiot! I find it worse because of the not knowing, when, where or even if I can get pregnant. There’s no way of knowing until it’s time to try. I’ve never been pregnant by accident, so I just can’t know.
And the dream? Well, my nightmares almost always involve shooting. My mother always had water nightmares (capsizing, drowning, etc) but I always have guns and bullets. Weirdness! I don’t even watch TV much!
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Yeh I don’t know what happened but as soon as my sister told me ‘so and so is pregnant’ I could feel the tears well up and I knew it wasn’t tears of happiness but tears of ‘when will it be me’. I’d love to have a baby now but realistically it’s not possible plus I told myself that there’s plenty of other women in the family who haven’t had babies yet either.
I think also the fact that this cousin and I are so close in age, she’s 3 months younger than me and we grew up together. It really just hit home and then I thought oh great now everyone’s going to be asking when it’s my turn and don’t want to deal with that! In a way it’s been good being overseas away from those kinds of questions.
I’ve never had a nightmare involving guns, that was the first one and actually as a kid all of my nightmares revolved around water as well, mainly drowning. There was a point that I wouldn’t go into the water at Cottesloe beach when we’d go there as I was so afraid. Not to mention the fact that I almost did drown as kid visiting family overseas and was pulled out of the water by my uncle and then there was the time when my younger sister who was 3 at the time fell into the pool and I luckily saw her and jumped in to get her. Uhhhh anyway I’m off to watch something meaningless and funny on tv to get my mind of these things!
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Actually no one should be asking “when is it your turn?” Same goes for “oooh, are you pregnant?!” as a guess from friends, family, colleagues, acquaintances…
It is rude, invasive, personal and inappropriate.
- When is it your turn? They may not know whether it’s a choice or not that you aren’t trying or expecting right now. I’d probably find myself being sarcastic (can’t help it) saying something like: “We’d love to, but don’t know how babies get made. Do YOU know?”
- oooh, are you pregnant?! If you are, then they are either forcing you into announcing it on their time in their way or denying that you are which is horrible. Otherwise, if not pregnant then that is a whole world of trouble too… for so many reasons.
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Water in dreams represents emotions.
Drowning can mean you are (or have been) feeling overwhelmed by emotions.
Is (or was) there a situation where you feel unable to “keep your head above water?”
Drowning can also mean death followed by re-birth. But this is nothing to get scared of.
It’s the cycle of life – many plants etc die in winter, to get re-birthed in spring. Animals hibernate, and re-birth. Baptism is a kind of “death and re-birth” …
xx again.
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oh my gosh I had a dream like that just last week, I was walking to my car in a car park being followed by a black car with a really loud engine, then he sped off and I was relieved, but I turned the corner to my car and he was standing outside of his car leaning against the roof of it pointing a rifle at me… I dropped my iPad I was carrying and ran but I was moving so slow and I tried to scream but my voice was so quiet..I .could hear him shooting at me… I felt sick with fear when I woke. .
I know exactly how you feel with the pregnancy thing… Its such an emotional thing.
We have now been trying for a baby for 23 months and still nothing, another round of fertility treatment has just failed. Day after I found out it failed one of my close friends messaged me and announced she was pregnant with her second child and posted the ultrasound pics on facebook . She was so happy and so excited, rightfully so! she started her dream job a few months ago and told me they timed it to fall pregnant perfectly timed to be entitled to mat leave by the time she gives birth. My evil , nasty, bitter insides screamed with envy….that they could pick the month and boom it just happened perfectly. I know this makes me an awful and selfish friend.
I said I was so happy for her and of course I am, but I’d be a liar if I said a huge part of me didn’t want to just collapse on the floor and sob, I hate being the jealous beast but it always feels a little bit like being punched in the guts when I hear another announcement and think of the 120th negative pregnancy test sitting in my bathroom bin . Just so desperate to be the one with something wonderful to announce
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Traditional dream therapists would tell you that a gun symbolises a penis.
Are you avoiding sex?
Or is the penis firing at you and missing every time?
Was your body slowing down to the point of paralysis, in order that the “marksman” might fine a non-moving target easier to hit?
Only you can interpret this.
But I assure you, it’s not an omen of bad tidings.
xxx
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After a year of wedding planning stress and alot of hard work we got married 6th October and we are now on our honeymoon, and I have nothing on my mind and that’s the problem! How do you relax after such a stressful mind boggling event? Talk about having a first world problem. So my mind is going to bigger issues like climate change, poverty and politics. I can’t just switch off an enjoy. I need to be taught how to have a holiday. Every day I get up and ask my husband “what are we doing today? Exploring, adventures etc?” and he replies “how about we just do nothing?”. Easier said than done my dear husband. Life is so frantic nowadays, holidays are alien to some people I guess. With only a couple of days left of the honeymoon I best try to meditate on the now and celebrate the start of a new chapter and learn that it’s important to relax and not feel guilty about it.
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Congratulations on your wedding and happy honeymoon. My advice is easier said than done – but you are on your honeymoon so here’s what you do…. step away from keyboard and turn off to the world. If there is one time when there should be NO GUILT for relaxing it is your honeymoon. So I, and I’m sure all other mamamia’s give you permission to “do nothing”. Now, run off and shag your husband and have a happy, blissful holiday.
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Can anyone relate to this?
My relationship with my boyfriend is generally wonderful – we’ve been together for 18 months, live together, plan to get married and have a child etc (and he says all these things off his own bat).
My issue is that he sometimes wanes in his affection and attention when stressed, tired, or ‘just cause’ and I immediately start to freak out. I can sometimes calm myself by reminding myself of another time when I freaked out and it was nothing (it always has been – we don’t fight, ever), or by reminding myself that he was totally fine yesterday/last week and maybe he’s just having a bad day/week … but it doesn’t always work. I try to hide my anxiety as logically I know it’s nothing (not worth bringing it up), but it can make me a little standoffish, quiet, more reluctant to initiate physical attention. I’m not talking sex either – that’s fine – it’s just the extra hugs, kisses, touches as I walk past etc, or making little jokes that are a sign of love only between us.
Does anyone else go through this as well? I understand the concept of the man cave but emotionally it still stresses me out.
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Hi Anxious
Try to remember, wht you fear you create. So, if you’re afraid his mood is about him being unhappy with you then you will self-protect and risk pushing him away.I understand why you might not want to offer that extra cuddle when he’s like that. He may not want one either, so it may be a good thing.
Instead try being up-front and naming his behaviour (after the mood has passed) and how you feel in response to it. This is much better than hiding your anxiety.
Try, “When you eg. leave the room to be by yourself I start to feel anxious that it is because of me. If you say it’s not, and it’s just that you’re tired/stressed then I beieve you. What can I do to help your stress?”
If you want to get married and he babeis with him then start as you intend to finish. It will save you a lifetime of hard work.
Good luck
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Personally when I am stressed or anxious I like space and don’t like to be touched or affectionate with others. Maybe your husband is the same? Why don’t you have a casual conversation with him about it?
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OMM: My husband is overseas for work related stuff. He is there for two weeks and will be back on Sunday. I can’t wait! My kids are almost driving me crazy. Though I do have support from his parents, still it’s the day-to-day-things.
How do women do this, whose husbands are away frequently or for longer periods?(For us it’s the first time and it will be once or two more times only.)
OMM2:Did anyone watch ‘Insight’ yesterday? It was about internet trolling. Very interesting. I’m not on twitter and don’t really get that whole twitter trolling thing, but it gave me an insight and I also thought, it looks like there is no happy ending in sight any time soon.
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I saw Insight as well and all I could think of when I listened to the trolls was, ‘What a bunch of crazy loser dickheads,’ esp the bearded dude from San Francisco. So interesting though, that the trolls thought their activities were funny, meaningful, and somehow intellectual – a couple even thought they were providing society with a service, ‘exposing people for what they are.’ My heart broke for the Dad whose daughter’s RIP Facebook page was trolled. It’s the graffiti of a new generation and I don’t know what can be done other than stick to our real life friends when we’re most vulnerable.
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“exposing people for what they are.”
‘self-exposing’ is more like it.
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Oh my goodness Kate I was watching it last night with my mouth to the floor. I loved that Jenny gave the Dad (who had the RIP page for his daughter) the last word and he simply said “it’s all just shit”. I love Insight at the best of times but last night I found it so confronting that this is the world our children are growing up in. As for the guy from San Fran – the mind boggles. I think Joe Hilderbrand from the Daily Telegraph handled him very well.
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yes excatly my thoughts too!!!
“freedom of speech” bla bla bla, I couldn’t believe my ears.
saying that it is meaningless but then actually twittering really hurtful things to strangers…
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If it is genuinely meaningless, then why do they do it?
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My husband is away for 3 weeks at a time, a few times a year, and we’ve been doing this for years (i have a teen, a 3yr old, one on the way and work 2 days a week). Yes, you’ll have to do EVERYTHING, and be insanely jealous of the little luxuries he gets, such as watching tv uninterrupted, sleeping in on weekends, and eating/drinking with adults all the time. I still struggle with this, but have come a long way in being more positive about expressing it. But you can enjoy some things! Let yourself go and slob around, you’ll get more sleep at night lol, and treat yourself to takeaway for a night off cooking at least once a week. Think about all the annoying habits of his that you get a break from, and do things your way all the time, in peace
Also, plan fun things you wouldn’t normally do on the weekends, as i find that’s when i get loneliest. Stuff like finding good local markets, and taking the kids out for lunch. And if he gets paid an extra allowance or bonus in the pay for being away, then some of that is shopping money for you
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naw, thanks for your super cute advice. I have been doing some of it so far-more sleep, less laundry, tidier bathroom and bedroom and watching what i want on tv(when i have time). But thanks for reminding me and for some fresh ideas!
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OMM: Feeling very loved up – do not read further if mushy stuff makes you want to vomit, you have been warned! ;P
Last night I woke up at about 3 and just lay in the dark with my partner curled up next to me. Just the warmth of his body and slow steady breathing. All I could think was “THANK YOU” to god, or my guardian angel, or fate, or my own damn tenacity that got me out of the hideous relationships I had been in, to by lying in utter peace next this wonderful man. I drifted back to sleep with a huge smile on my face.
We have been together for almost 2 years and it can become easy to take his presence for granted so I love these little moments where I remember how precious this is. I fall more in love with him all the time.
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Oh and get well soon Mamamia team! I work in a small office and we actually had to close the office week before last because so many of us were out sick. Not fun.
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Good for you vivacious! I’m not a vomiter. Mush makes my world go round
I often feel the same way when hanging out with my kids. Want those moments never to end!
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