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Mia ran into The Dictator on the Today Show this morning. He's otherwise known as Sacha Baron Coen. She said he did not break character. Not once.
OMM (On My Mind): I’ve been thinking a lot about winter - my least favourite season ever. We’ve really gotten a taste of it in Sydney-town lately, and I’ve been standing at the bus stop on cold mornings just dreaming of happier, warmer, bikini-er times.
I always struggle in the transition over to the colder months of the year. I don’t like saying goodbye to daylight savings, I hate packing my denim shorts away and I’ve never looked good in a beanie. But the thing I’ve really been battling with? Breakfast.
You heard me. I’ve never been a breakfast eater. For me, breakfast is like that friend that you don’t particularly like or get along with but you hang out with them just because everybody else does.
To begin with, I’m not a morning person. I wish I could be the special kind of human that leaps out of bed fully awake before their alarm clock even goes off and wolfs down a giant bowl of muesli with yogurt and five different types of fruit. I’m more the kind that stays up far too late saying “I’m not even tired!” then sleeps through five different alarms and finally half-crawls out of bed to pull on some clothes for work (I always lay them out the night before, to avoid utilising any decision making skills whatsoever in the morning). I have been known to pretend not to see people I know on the bus, just so I can avoid talking before 8:30am.
As a result, I usually devour a piece of fruit before I dash out the door – but with the change in season, fruit’s just not doing it for me. I need something quick but also something that’s going to warm my poor chilly bones. Something yummy but also something that doesn’t involve developing a daily chocolate muffin habit. Your suggestions are welcome. Please no bacon & eggs – I may be the only person alive whose stomach turns at the mention of that combination.
What’s going on in your world this week? What’s on your mind?
(ps. OMM stands for On My Mind, for those of you playing at home!)






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Lana how do you get your Anzac biscuits so lovely and raised? Mine are always flat and chewy. They are yummy but they never turn out biscuit-y and crumbly like yours?
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I had no idea what I was doing – I had to turn to our Facebook page for help when my dough was more crumble than dough. I think the raised look is just excess butter
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Hey Nat, guess what honey, if you go to bed early – you get up early! I only recently found this out myself.
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Hey Nat – are you a fan of weetbix?
I grew up eating that and experimented one day with mushing it up (with milk) and zapping it in the microwave. That may sound bit weird…and my boyfriend said it looks a bit gross….but add some honey and it is DELICIOUS. It reminds me of porridge but not so porridgey. It’s warm and good source of stuff to get you buff.
Takes 2 mins too!
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Just an idea for breakfast – date and oatbran porridge.
Two to three heaped tablespoons of oat bran, two to three dates sliced, enough boiling water to cover and microwave for one minute (for two tablespoons, or 1min30sec for three tablespoons). Stir, add some milk (to make it into the consistancy you like) and you’re done. It’s hot, tasty, simple and light, perfect for winter!
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OMM – I’ve downloaded & am reading Chloe Maxwells book “Living with Max” about her autistic son. I cant put it down. To anyone looking for a new book to tackle I highly recommend it. Such an honest brave girl.
Best: 15 weeks pregnant & feeling great!
Worst: My 2 yr old is a wild, wild boy. eg: he does not stop moving, running, climbing, eating ALL day. Except when he sleeps – he is usually so exhaused from all of his toddler ways that the nap is a 3 hour one, a nice break for me, but I am seriously hoping he settles down a bit before the baby comes. I get boys & I get toddlers, but he is a hectic boy. And he is so loveable that I have trouble getting & staying angry at him…..whenever he is in trouble he smiles & sits on my lap & plays with my hair……I think he is playing me!
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After Zoe’s big post on pigmentation I went out and bought Ultraceuticals (sp?) even skintone serum and the John Plunkett superfade creme.
I have been using both products for a few weeks now – the serum all over cleaned skin at night and then the creme on pigmentation marks. I’ve also been wearing *heaps* of sunscreen during the day while using the products.
Anyway…. I’m not convinced my skin looks any better/different? Everyone on the post was raving about these products so I don’t know why am I’m not seeing the same effects? Am I doing something wrong? Please let me know if so!!
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Hi Bo! I feel the same about the Ultraceuticals serum. I’ve been using it for about three months and I honestly can’t see any improvement. I guess different things work for different people, though. Sorry, that’s probably of no help at all. xx
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Hi Bo!
I found Ultraceuticals serum to be useless and Paula Begoun from Beautipedia cemented that opinion in her scathing review of the product. Plunketts Superfade though is FABULOUS! Are you applying it twice a day and at night? Also using the Accelerator really helps. I have used it a few times in my life after getting hormonal pigmentation and pimple scars and I found it amazing! Good luck x
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Hi Bo, something everyone should know about Ultraceuticals is these products are largely for ageing and damaged skin. I am a longtime user but these products can be harsh and I find that my need for them varies with the time of year. I highly recommend you see a skin care specialist before using these products, especially the even skin tone serum as incorrect use can cause massive breakouts and intense dehydration. There are three different types in the serum so you should make sure you are using the correct one. Why Zoe’s advice is very good and she points out some fantastic products, her information is quite generalised and you should seek professional advice before using professional grade products.
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Baked eggs are my fave for breakfast! Or homemade baked beans with poached eggs on toast..not a rush-out-the-door thing though..
OMM: I have been living all over the place (with different family members) since Jan when my mum moved cities for work into a studio and there was no room for me. I really struggle with depression/anxiety issues and have for many years (I am almost 23). My parents want me to live independently as they feel I need to move on with my life and progress but I don’t feel ready and have struggled with feeling really hurt/anxious that neither of them want me to live with them anymore. My dad is remarried and his wife doesn’t want me to live there and my mum said she wants to focus on her new job and that we’ll have a better relationship if we’re living separately. I am just terrified that living alone will make me feel isolated and I will spiral into a darker state of despair. I feel like I can only get better if I have strong support around me but my parents are insistent that I need to live independently in order to get stronger and progress.
I try to see the logic behind their decisions, but I still feel this raw pain of them not being there and looking after me when I most need it. I feel I am being pushed into something I am nowhere near ready for and am hurt that they see how much anxiety and pain it is causing me but don’t relent on their decision. I also feel it is more that they are sick of trying to help me when i am not getting better and just want to give up and for me to deal with it myself. I feel so hurt about my dad especially as he seemed to understand it was unreasonable for his new wife to not want me to stay even for a short time. However now he seems to forget he ever thought that and says I am rude for bringing up how it hurts me that I can never stay with him even when I am unwell because his wife feels it is too disrupting/she might get sick being around me (even when i am very considerate and do not lean on her for support at all). I know he has his own life but I can’t understand why he would want to be married to someone who obviously does not care about his children at all and cannot put herself out for him or us in anyway. My father has always been there for my sister and I and prioritised us and its so painful now he doesn’t seem to be.
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Wow, you are going through some tough times. Its not easy managing all that you are dealing with. Sending kind thoughts your way, which while not enough, can at least reassure you that someone is listening, and hoping you are ok.
Good luck xx
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Hi elouise,
As a long term sufferer of severe anxiety, I know exactly how you feel.
However, I moved out of home when I was 19 then moved into my own place when I was 20. There were some dark times but living alone really helped me grow into a stronger person. Maybe try it and see how you go?
I think the trick is to keep yourself busy! Have lots of dinner plans with friends, watch lots of TV box sets etc
I also know how you feel re: the step mother situation. My brother and I went straight down the priority list as soon as my dad was in a relationship and even more so when he got married.
I hope you have some really supportive friends as I have found parents are not always the most reliable.
PS. I hope things get better for you x
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Thankyou for your reply. I feel better knowing I am not alone ! I am glad you have supportive friends! Unfortunately i don’t have many close friends as I think they feel too overwhelmed by the anxiety/depression. Something i worry about is finding people who will love me unconditionally (like family) especially when I am struggling. I fear I will be left alone !
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Hey Elouise
Life is hard at times. I think you are better off on your own than being with either a mother who ‘wants to get on with her own life’ or a dad who thinks more of his new wife than his daughter. You need to be your own best friend. Be kind and considerate to yourself, pamper yourself and indulge in the hobbies and pastimes that really interest you. Sign up for a course or dabble in writing poetry or short stories, try painting or drawing and try to discover where your talents lie. Learn about yourself and learn to like yourself then you will be happy with yourself and life will start to get a bit better and hopefully you will get so good and together that you can tell both your mum and dad to ‘go and get stuffed’. I am a mother of grown up children and I have grandchildren and I think that they are all so precious and I feel so priviledged to have them in my life. I have trouble understanding your olds. Good luck to you and I hope you make for yourself the truly great life that you deserve – so go out and get it girl
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Hey Elouise
Life is hard at times. I think you are better off on your own than being with either a mother who ‘wants to get on with her own life’ or a dad who thinks more of his new wife than his daughter. You need to be your own best friend. Be kind and considerate to yourself, pamper yourself and indulge in the hobbies and pastimes that really interest you. Sign up for a course or dabble in writing poetry or short stories, try painting or drawing and try to discover where your talents lie. Learn about yourself and learn to like yourself then you will be happy with yourself and life will start to get a bit better and hopefully you will get so good and together that you can tell both your mum and dad to ‘go and get stuffed’. I am a mother of grown up children and I have grandchildren and I think that they are all so precious and I feel so priviledged to have them in my life. I have trouble understanding your olds. Good luck to you and I hope you make for yourself the truly great life that you deserve – so go out and get it girl
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To Nat: I don’t know if someone already suggested this for you breakfast, I think hot/warm chocolate I find the perfect solution. It’s filling enough possibly until lunch time, yet not a meal and quick to make.
OMM: just heard on the weekend that my brother and his girlfriend split up. we really really liked her and now I feel so sorry for them and for her. I really thought their relationship might last and she would become family, but now everything is changing. hate when nice things end. I hope for my brother he has a good reason for his decision…
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I guess it’s an OMM – just wanted to say how much I enjoy this post each week.
As a self-employed, works-at-home freelancer I love the little taste of office life this post offers.
And, since I’m currently living os, I also enjoy the connection to life back home.
Love your work MM team!
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Thanks stargirl xxx
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Has anyone watched Agony Uncles and now, Agony Aunties on the ABC?
It’s hilarious. Watch it with your closest men and women and you’ll be surprised by comments generated
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I LOVED Agony Uncles as I can’t wait for the Agony Aunts. Hello iView tonight. It should be necessary watching regardless of gender.
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OMM: boys boys boys. Recycling past flames and wanna-be boy-friends. Going speed dating tomorrow for the first time. I think it’ll be fun to dress up and go out with the girls.
I 1/3 of the way through my midwifery course and I’ve already turned into an opinionated midwife. I was really rude to my friend about needing a breast pump. It was so unnecessary. I just didn’t want her to spend money she didn’t have to and create problems with breastfeeding.
I sent her a text to apologise (I figured she would be at work and not answer) and she didn’t reply. Feel a bit weird about it now.
Still heaps to do this week, study steadily, present our group presentation, work, catch up with people, SLEEP!!
Love all MMers
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If you are open-minded enough to realise when you’ve overstepped the mark and big enough to apologise, you’ll go a long way. Besides, I’m sure you’re also just feeling passionate about all the new things you’re learning. You’ll make a great midwife.
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It’s good that you were able to apologise for being a bit rude, I’m sure she’ll come round eventually.
As a Mum who has breastfed I don’t think there is anything wrong with buying a breast pump, esp. before bubs is born while you’re working and still have the money. A breast pump saved my life in those first early weeks as I found it impossible to hand express enough milk to soften my nipples when I was engorged and with the pump I could do it and then allow bubs to latch on properly. It can also come in handy for between feeds when trying to increase milk supply for some women, so having it already is one less thing to have to get to the shops to try and buy when you’re sleep deprived and not feeling your best. My best advice is to talk to as many Mums as possible about breastfeeding and don’t just spout off what you’ve learnt in your midwifery course as one size does not fit all. And many, many babies happily take a bottle and breastfeed from the very first weeks with no long-term breastfeeding problems, despite what you may have been told. While you don’t want a new Mum to use a bottle all the time in those first few weeks while getting breastfeeding established, the occasional bottle of expressed milk will not be the end of breastfeeding and may even provide just the break she needs to be able to persevere with it.
Hope the speed dating went well, it sounds like fun!
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Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a thorough reply!!! Very much appreciated. It will really help me as a midwife. I find there is always a differences between ‘textbook practice’ and real life. I appreciate your insight.
She eventually replied and said it was all good. I sent her a link to a website that hires pumps and delivers them to your house and show you how to use them.
I think I was being a bit narrow minded. Obviously everyone’s experience is different and I should remember that.
Speed dating was interesting. Didn’t meet the man of my dreams but it was a good night out any way.
Thanks again for your reply.
xxoo
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I just want to show off my beautiful kitten, Lola! I live alone and it’s so nice coming home to her. She’s given me a new lease on life and I feel like I can live in the moment a bit more now (perhaps when she’s not ON TOP of my iPad wrestling with me like she is now OR eating my internet connection)
I love her to bits
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My dog and I just finished sharing our favourite treat – cheese and onion chips while reading MM – me reading MM, the dog can’t read yet.
You’re gonna have such fun with Lola
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Everyone who lives alone should have a kitty – such fun and great company. I work at home and love my ‘play breaks’ with my two rescue cats. Very entertaining – though sometimes distracting (in a good way!) Lola is gorgeous.
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Am more of a dog person usually, but she is the kyute
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I have that bedspread AND my beloved little sister’s name is Lola. We’re basically the same person.
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Looks like we are!! The bedspread is just gorgeous… I love it!! I could spend hundreds of dollars in Bed, Bath and Beyond!!
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OMFG – I want those Sportsgirl shoes Mia has on! Going there tomorrow!!
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MM could have it’s own fashion blog. I mean, just of photos of the staff. I always love the fashiony shots in the open post! I’m lusting after that spangly sportsgirl jacket, saw it on Paula Joye’s blog too – you both pull it off fabulously!
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It’s probably been suggested below Nat, but try porridge.
I’m not a morning person either, but if you pour some quick oats in a bowl, add water, microwave for a minute, then add a squeeze of honey and some milk that’s a super quick and filling and warm and nutritious breakfast!
You can add a sliced banana or leave off the honey and grate some apple and add some cinnamon, or even warm up some frozen blueberries and stir them through… the opportunities are endless!
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not nutritious..http://www.marksdailyapple.com/are-oats-healthy/#axzz1tiCer0ca
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Hmm.. for that one article saying they’re not that great, I’m sure you could find thousands from more reliable sources, saying that they are actually very nutricious.
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Numbers!
This week I turned 28.
I will finish Uni in 12 days.
58 days until my holiday with my BFF. Muchos Exited!! OMM: How on earth am I going to fit 10 days of clothing in one little suitcase?
I have lost over 16kgs.
7 minutes until Offspring!
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Aggraahhhhh how could i have missed offspring! Thank god in this day and age it is available online!!!
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I am a size 10!!!! Woot! First time ever. I’m a little excited… I can now walk into any store and fit into any clothes! Of course, i only buy second hand clothes – this week I bought 2 pairs of (skinny) jeans, a jacket, a cardigan, a pashmina and a knee length black leather jacket, all for less than $100! Love op shops!
Nat, i cook up a big batch of muffins every week and chuck them in the freezer. Currently i have cheese, corn and tomato ones and banana choc chip. Microwave them in the morning and hey presto! Warm muffiny goodness!
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How did you do it? I am genuinely interested to know how people lose weight, as I never really worried about my weight before having my children, but am really struggling to shake the baby weight.
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Very boring I’m afraid – weight watchers. Yep, eat less, move more. I didn’t do meetings this time (have lost weight with it before) but did it online. It really works for me! And once I’ve lost weight with ww i seem to keep it off, unlike a lot of my friends experiences with bar/shake diets etc.
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Yum, muffins! Great idea JosieY
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Four assignments due in the next 37 days.
48 days until my last day of work for almost five weeks!
51 days until I fly to London on my own.
I envisage my next five weeks will be spent camping out at uni after work, attempting to hit the gym, lots of caffeine. Eeeek!
Oh and Nat, I feel your breakfast pain! I hate porridge as well… Hate. With a passion. So that’s not an option for me.
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i so understand!!!
However last year a friend introducecd me to microwave oats, wow 2,30 mins later i have an eatable warm mess, i add some tinned fruit or a banana and voila.
Or an egg quickly beaten in a cup, something on top to stop the splat factor, 20 secs in the micro, take out do another swirl and another 15 to 20 secs, and you have a scrambled egg.My husband can take the time to add orange juice or something to the eggs, i cant be bothered
anything quick and easy, i can eat without having to think!!!!
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Nat!!
You have stunned me we can no longer be besties…. how dare you say that. If there was no winter how would you ski?
But i am soooo with you on the breakfast thing and will be looking out for people suggestions. But i did see someone say hard boiled eggs. I have been eating them the past couple of morning and they have been yum!
Normal for breakfast i have Special K (sometimes with yoghurt instead of milk) in Summer and then in winter i will have weetbix with warm milk. I hate porridge.
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Yes! A life without skiing would be a sad one for me.
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HEAR ME OUT. I would like there to be no winter in Australia but still winter in places like New Zealand and Japan and Canada where I don’t have to live but can still visit for skiing holidays. I am only happy in cold weather when chairlifts, ski goggles and powdery snow are involved! Still besties? Heehee
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Got the LOLs reading your reply here Nat!!
And couldn’t help but say – from personal experience – be careful what you wish for…I say this as someone who wished to never have winter again (I am most definitely on the beach side of the weather/season equation)…BUT then I met my man and gosh dang it he’s Canadian and now I have winter that lasts for 6 months!!!!! But really, it’s a small price to pay for a fab relationship.
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Part of the reason I like my boyfriend so much is because he lives in Cairns! Heading up there this weekend and apparently it’s 30 degrees. BLISS.
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Okay I forgive you. I kind of a agree. My problem with Australia is that people pretend it never gets cold! So many people rarely have central indoor heating (hands up who is freezing on a daily basis in their office!) If i could live in a climate controlled bubble I would. I love the temp when it is not cold or not hot.
But i love the beach/water when its hot, but not sure i could live in Cairns!
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First off, I am more than a little bit in love with Mia’s black sparkly Sportsgirl booties. If she’s a size 9 and ever gets sick of them, I live in Sydney and am willing to travel for those babies!! On another note, I doubt it was intentional but I reckon Mia’s cream Sass & Bide jacket with the shoulder details looks like The Dictator’s jacket. I don’t say that to be nasty; I really like Sacha Baron Cohen. It’s just the first thing that popped into my head when I saw it.
Nat – as someone who loves winter (despite the fact that whenever cold weather rolls around, I get the flu), here are my tips:
- Breakfast: have something warm and filling. If you like eggs, scramble them. Not having to think about chewing is a bonus when your brain is still booting up in the first couple of hours after waking. Or try porridge. (As someone who doesn’t like cereal, it’s not my bag but you might think it’s the raddest thing since toast – another viable option!)
- Wardrobe: you don’t have to put away all of your summer clothes when it gets cold; you can layer them! Layer your denim shorts over leggings or tights (colourful ones if you’re feeling especially adventurous!). Wear summer dresses over long-sleeved T-shirts or skivvies and tights with boots. Endless possibilities!!
Hope that helps and that everyone has a smashing rest of the week; whatever that may bring!!
xx
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If the shoes are up for grabs, you’d have to fight me for them!!
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Mia’s a size 6. Too bad. You both lose. I WIN!
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Size 6. That’s one of the saddest things I’ve heard all day… But happy for you, Nat, if they become hand-me-downs.
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My boyfriend cheated on me on the weekend. It’s awful. It’s confusing. I can barely function. I feel like I’ve been completely side swiped with so many different emotions. I don’t know what to think.
He says he is sorry. He’s more remorseful than I’ve ever seen anyone be. We have many many good years behind us… do I throw it away?
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So sorry to hear it. I can’t really offer advice but sending you lots of hugs and strength. xxx
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Thinking of you xx
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How did you find out? Did he tell you?
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yep – spilled all in his guilty state. i’m a bit numb by it all.
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That’s so awful. I’m so sorry that happened. I can’t offer any advice, because every situation is different xxx
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OMM: The winter blues! I know exactly how you feel, Nat. I often feel a little ‘down’ this time of year with the change in weather, the shorter days and darkness creeping in before I’ve left the office. I actually feel like it could be mild seasonal depression. It happens every year. But this year, I am living by myself for the first time and don’t have a man in my life for the first time in 6 or 7 years. So no cuddles when it’s cold.
All a bit sad really but I’ll get used to it.
I’ll try and get some sun during the day when I can, exercise and Vitamin D supplements. I have a lot to be grateful for so I hope to snap out of it soon.
Actually, just writing it down and sharing it feels better
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And remember cold weather is an excellent excuse to drink hot chocolate with marshmallows all day
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Nat, you really need protein in the morning. And carbs.
Could you hardboil a couple of eggs the night before, make a ham & cheese sandwich as well, and eat those on the way to work, PLUS whatever fruit you have? The new season’s apples are in the shops now.
Cold eggs + cold sandwich doesn’t sound v. appetising, does it, but you WILL notice the difference.
You actually won’t want any of those little snackerels during the morning.
Promise.
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That sounds like a good idea! I do always need those little snarkerels during the morning at the moment…
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I’m with you Nat, breakfast is a struggle for me too. I can’t eat anything sweet in the morning because I feel blah for the rest of the day. And by sweet I mean fruit, yoghurt etc… It’s a struggle!
OMM: Packing. Organising, Packing. Organising. And a flight to London with a 5 and almost-3 year old this weekend. Their first long-haul flight.
Cannot believe I shall miss The Voice and Offspring for the next 5 weeks!! But I shall have a great time trolling the cobblestoned laneways of Covent Garden and other such lovely neighbourhoods….
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Good luck flying with the little ones and enjoy your trip! sounds gorgeous! hope the weather is nice too!
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Enjoy your trip, Cordeline! And best of luck for the flight. When I was little, mum used to buy me a tiny present and wrap it up and give it to me at some point on the flight if I behaved well. Always made the flight more bearable (and it doesn’t even have to be anything amazing). Not sure if that will help but worth a shot
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You have a good mum Nat
Just the other night I put together a whole lot of little ‘surprise packs’ for our girls. Just a little activity or something and a tiny snack (some healthy, some not!). I have lots of packs each for them! Thank god most things came from the $2 shop! Hopefully that will keep them amused for the 30 hour door-to-door journey!
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18 for each! Amazing job Cordeline!
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Have a great trip – we can’t wait to hear all about it
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OMM – I’m currently 38 weeks pregnant with my first baby and can’t shake the feeling that something isn’t quite right. I’m a nurse and maybe a little paranoid but I’ve been feeling ‘off’ in a way I can’t quite put my finger on since last Friday. I’m driving everyone, including my beloved and ever so patient partner, nuts. I get nothing but sympathy and reassurance from the midwives at the local pregnancy assessment unit, my obstetrician is lovely and is treating my symptoms as being ‘abnormally normal’ but I kind of feel like they think I’m making it up, or being a drama queen or just plain not coping. It’s frustrating and exhausting and ever so anxiety provoking, feeling like everyone is just going through the motions of expensive testing just to make me shut up, when I genuinely feel that there’s an issue behind my poor health…Anyway – rant over.
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Over the last few years, I’ve been learning (trying) to trust my instincts, as it seems they’re right more often than not. You know your body better than anyone, so please don’t feel bad for being cautious!
Fingers crossed for you that all is well, and I hope you get some peace of mind soon.
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It’s called pre-baby nerves. That feeling a bit sick is your body’s way of dealing with the stress. Enjoy your last “few” weeks of you time and more importantly good luck with the new bub! An awesome ride awaits you….
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Sounds like you are in the best of hands. Looking forward to hearing details of your baby’s safe arrival
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Is it possible to be induced?
I can’t help but think if you feel something is wrong…..
Second opinion maybe..
Good luck
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I felt the same way with my first and suffered so much anxiety (after two miscarriage) my ob said he would induce me at 39 weeks. So glad he did as I couldn’t take the worry and obsessing over number of movements and every time bub napped I would poke my stomach to make sure he was ok.
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OMM: Currently going through testing relating to cervical cancer prevention/detection (results next Wed after a 6 month process!). I’ve found a great forum of women to share experience/advice with at http://www.inspire.com in the National Cervical Cancer and HPV Coalition Support Community but as this is America based there are some differences in terms/treatments/classifications etc, are there any recommendations of similar themed Australian based forums?
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hope it all goes well. Not sure if this will be any help but my friend has recently been diagnosed and starts treatment next week. She has joined something called Cancer Connect, she has also joined cervical cancer facebook page to meet and discuss with others in her situation. These might be a start
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Okay Nat, if you need something quick then it needs to be made on the weekend you can grab, go and heat it up in the office. Try this Spiced Fruit Compote with Ricotta Honey – so yum and you can change out the fruit. This one’s made with plums and cherries (my fave) but you could easily make it with just about anything you want: http://moodiefoodie.com.au/index.php/recipe/details/virtue/220
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ooooh that looks so yummy! i might grab that receipe from your blog!
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Yum! Thanks Jay!
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Just met the most amazing man, spent the weekend with him and…. he’s now gone back home overseas. Trying to stop thinking about whether or not I am just a “girl he met o/s” (it didn’t feel like I was) or if there will even be further contact. How does one stop wondering? How does one get over it if there is no contact?
Hope you are all having a lovely week
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There is some hope: my friend went on holiday to Crotia few years ago and met an amazing Italian man… they had a successful long distance relationship, she moved to Italy to be with him and they are married and planning a move back to Aus to start a family.
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Ooh I love stories like that… thank you for sharing and so glad it worked out for your friend
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I don’t think you can stop wondering. Just wait. Time will tell. Good luck xxxx
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Oh thank you Lana, fingers crossed! Appreciate the thoughts
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OMM: My man and the stress he is under. Tying to do little nice things for him all the time, to get him mind off things.
Feeling drained, and worried about him.
Really need to get some raisin toast for myself for breakfast!
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35 weeks pregnant…..3rd wedding anniversary…..last week of work for 9 months……worrying about many things I have no control over regarding labour and baby…..
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Thinking of you – can’t wait to read about your baby’s safe arrival
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Gosh Nat if I was you I would be a bit concerned – I have a sneaky suspicion that some companies are going to be sending you an awful lot of porridge in the very near future.
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I suppose I’m going to have to start loving porridge!
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OMM: it is enrolment time for kindergarden next year for my son, and I am struggling to know what the right choice is. He is currently attending the preschool attached to a local public school, which guarantees him entry there next year if that’s what we decide. Today, however, I went to the open day at the Catholic primary school closest to where we live and was totally blown away by the school – the facilities,the atmosphere, the principal…I could just go on and on.
I want to make the right decision for the right reasons – but the financial consideration is the biggest issue for my husband. We are comfortable, but sending our children to the Catholic school will be a real strain for us. I want to make the decision about which school will be the best school irrespective of the cost, and worry about that later. I’m worried that my husband is placing too much emphasis on the cost and that is affecting his judgment of the quality of the education our children will receive.
I just don’t know what to do. I feel ill-equippd to make this decision, and all the research I have done hasn’t really helped clarify the issue for me. I feel like I am failing my beautiful children because the financial issue is such a big concern, and I do not want my children to miss out on anything that will benefit them because my husband and I can’t afford it – I’m not talking about the latest gadgets or toys, but their education.
Argh…what to do?
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The Catholic school!
There decision made for you!
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Good luck with your decision!
One thing to consider is class sizes. State govt (in WA) cap class sizes and the Catholic system tend not too. So your child could be in a class with 22 max or nearing 30. Depending on their personality, that could be a big factor.
Also – if your child has any special needs at either end of the spectrum inquire how they might be addressed, if relevant.
Do you know any of the parents from either school? Often the mums you get on with and the children you likeare just as important as the education. And failing that, if you make a choice and one or two years down the track you’re not happy with it … change schools. It wont do th child any harm at all.
Also be aware that in Catholic schools, religious education is compulsory up until year 12. so you need to be comfortable with that
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Cathy’s right about class size. Bursting at the seams. Also make sure they’re not doing open learning. It’s a nightmare. One diocese lost 1000 odd children to the state system last year. Also some have nasty little playgrounds that are completely incompatible with active boys.
Absolutely no gifted and talented and not great support at the other end either.
Having said all that, I’m a Catholic school devotee! Everything else just makes up for it somehow. The other advantage is that you then increase your choices for high school.
Good luck!
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Maybe talk to the catholic school if money is an issue for you – they may be able to help or reduce fees in some way.
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My kids attend Catholic school. We’ve been really happy with the school/s. Our zone state primary school has an emphasis on educating the children with the aim to gain a place in selective school so very stressful and not a blade of grass in the entire school. Meanwhile the Catholic performs really well academically and they are teaching the kids to be decent people with good morals. Also the Catholic school will definitely be negotiable with your school fees. They always say that if you cannot afford the fees they will help. As one of the other posters said it depends on your kids and what they are like. My kids – nor me – would have coped with the stress of high academia but instead have thrived with a balanced approach to their education. FYI there are 30 students in my kids classes but ours is a big school. The smaller Catholic schools in our town have tiny classes and sometimes even composite classes as the schools are so small.
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Thankyou all so much for your thoughts and advice – it’s so hard to know where to begin but you’ve given me some good questions to ask and investigate and some things to think about.
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Tough decision. My son is in Prep at our local Catholic school. Yes the fees are quite a bit more than our public counterparts, but he is in a group of only 17!!!! They know him already. Best pastoral care around and they treat the child as an individual. Money well spent!
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Just wanted to add my opinion in the mix…. financial strain can really mess up your life. It can impact your lifestyle, your relationships (not just in your family but with your friends too), your mental health.
From your post it sounds like your son is happy where he is and you are happy with it too, just that you were incredibly impressed with the catholic school. Personally I would keep him at the public school… he already has friends there, you already know the school environment and it wont put financial strain on your family. I personally do not believe that children get a better education at private vs public schools. I think it depends on the school, and depends on the child, but most of all it depends on the parents. You sound like a loving and involved mother and I imagine this will be what makes your son succeed in life, not where he went to primary school. If you notice he is lagging behind in any areas you can always spend some money on tutoring or other out of school activities and you will still be financially less strained than the catholic school. Oh and one more thing, are you catholic? If no, do you want your child exposed to all the religious aspects of catholic schooling?
Just my opinion (and my thought processes behind enrolling my son in the public preschool yesterday!).
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Are you Catholic? And if you’re not, are you comfortable with your kids being indoctrinated into it?
If you can’t afford it, you can’t afford it. They’re not going to suffer at a public school!
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We’re not Catholic, but made the decision to send our son to a Catholic school. We decided it was the right school for him for a whole range of reasons, and I was very concerned about the “indoctrination” concept Kris mentions. We’ve found that while the religious aspect is ever present at the school it is not forced down anyone’s throat and our son, now in year 6, has made his own decision that he doesn’t identify with the religious concepts he’s being taught. However, he has learned tolerance and not to judge other people for their beliefs. I will say that his year 6 teacher is the most amazing teacher he has had so far (and he’s had some good ones, and some where they haven’t quite clicked which is to be expected). His teacher is a very religious man and we feel that this has certainly contributed to his compassion and empathy. So I guess what I’m trying to say is that if the religious aspect is concerning you, that it may not necessarily turn out to be a negative.
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Kellys, my advice? Send your boy to the school that suits your family. You won’t be doing your son any favours if you feel stretched financially. If you care about reading and writing and about your boy’s happiness, he’ll be fine, wherever you send him.
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Is the public school ok ? If so I would go there. Most public schools are great and its only primary school so I don’t think he will suffer much academically. If however he is a very sensitive child/needs a bit more attention the Catholic school might be more appropriate. We moved our daughter from a public school to the local catholic school after she was bullied and the catholic school was a much more gentle, compassionate environment where she thrived. However she then went to a great public high school and loved it. Depends on the individual school i think!
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Go with your gut.
Re the class sizes, yes the Catholic schools class sizes can be larger, but they tend to get smallers as the kids get older. Public schools class sizes are only smaller for kindy-YR2. My friends who chose public schools because of the class sizes have found their kids are in classes of 32 by Yr4, while my daughter at the Catholic school had 12 kids in her class last year.
But dont go chasing a certain Principal. I know people who chose a less convenient school because it had a highly respected Principal. He left the next year, so just go with the easiest option for you.
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I LOVE Winter!! Best season of them all. I love the clothes, the snuggles, the wonderful hair days… lovely.
OMM: Assignments!! And exams. Four more weeks and then I get a break from uni. One more semester and I have finished the undergrad of Psyc. Only three post grad years and I’ll be done. Like a marathon! Each milestone in turn.
OMM pt two. Completely failed at Mish Bridges 12wbt and I don’t know if I should try again. I exercise perfect will power in all aspects of my life except food. I can refuse to socialise if I need to study, I can say no to impulse shopping, I can say no to drinking when ot with friends. But a plate of hot chips or a bowl of spag bol and no doesn’t exist in my vocab… Sigh. Guess I am going to look how I look on my wedding day
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I’m the same. Nothing better than a nice bowl of pasta hey? I’m sure you will look absolutely stunning on your wedding day regardless!
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I love winter, my favourite time of year. I love dressing in coats, scarves, knitwear and boots. I guess I like winter so much because I really hate being hot. Even in winter I rarely use heating I just feel so much better and happier in cold weather. I go on holidays to Europe in winter.
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I’m with you. I can’t wait for it to get colder than it is now!
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OMM: Despite my ex still hassling me (his mum sent me a message ON MY BIRTHDAY asking me to please just speak to him, that he had been admitted to hospital after alleged overdose, and subsequent messages from her phone which I suspect he wrote practically begging me to give him another chance), I am loving being single! Have been on a few nice dates after I put a profile on RSVP, went on a free speed-dating thing at Coffee Club last night and met a rather lovely pilot, and I have a big weekend coming up. Such fun!
In other news, I took the advice of many of you and went out and bought the Fifty Shade of Grey trilogy ($10 each at Kmart!), and boy oh boy. Being single while reading it is not recommended!
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Why don’t you just speak to the poor guy one last time so he gives it a rest?
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It’s not always that simple- my ex broke it off with me, decided he made a mistake, we went back, he broke it off again, I decided to try and move on and a year later I had to take out a restraining order. I spoke to him that ‘one last time’ at least ten times, he sat outside my apartment in his car threatening to kill himself, it was awful for both of us. So that ‘one last time’ is probably not going to help.
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The best thing for him as he is totally not handling the break up is to completely cut off all contact otherwise it will just drag on and on and he will never get over it. He needs help but she can’t provide that.
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Happy Humpty Day to all!
Nat – porridge is a quick and healthy meal for breakfast and warms you up to! add banana or berries to it for some extra fun!
Im the opposite after such a hot and long summer in the west i am loving the slow transition of autumn/winter! bring on the tights and blazers and boots i say! gives me an excuse to wear my fur too (i hope!)
OMM: ive being an EA for about 6 years now and feel like im in a career rut and wanting a new challenge and ive decided after talking to my friends and husband that i will do an Events/PR management course next year and change my career
im rather looking forward to the challenge! i wont be doing a Uni course as i didnt complete my HSC so will look at doing a TAFE or private course just a matter of finding what is out there for me and perhaps getting an internship or something….i dont know if there are any event management people out there who could give me some tips?
also OMM: going to Groove in the Moo in 2 weeks and thinking of fun makeup and hair accessories to wear! thinking a feathered hair piece or something a bit tribal! hehe!
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I did a Diploma of events at Tafe in Sydney and it was brilliant. The only thing I would suggest is get as much volunteer work on as many events as you can. It’s a tough industry to get into – 2 years out and I’m still not working in events
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thanks so much Cabbagefairy
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I used to work in events before a career change. Don’t overdo the study. It is great if you are young and have the luxury of time to devote to a two year or so course, but as an older professional with the experience already as an EA you can get away with less.
What counts more is work experience, work experience, work experience. It is not hard to find – most events are screaming out for volunteers. Be a good volunteer, offer to do anything and everything, push forward the skills you already have and make contacts. As an experienced EA you should be able to jump ahead to a more challenging volunteer position.
Someone with 6 years as an EA, some sort of event qualifications and a tonne of work experience and contacts should not find it hard to get work once you are ready.
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thanks so much for your advice Guest! it really helps this weekend i will start to look at some places i can volunteer at and ive got a good solid background organisng events from past jobs so was going to do a short tafe course or something
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I’m a corporate events manager for a law firm in London – and I’ve no formal qualifications but a mountain of hospitality experience which led to an events role.
I cannot stress enough the importance of work experience and relationship development. Quite often charities need volunteers to help run events, get involved wherever/whenever you can. Identify your strengths – whether it’s meeting & greeting, organising collateral, putting up signage or just being a go-to person. Make yourself invaluable. Don’t expect to do the big things first, it takes time.
Meet as many people as you can in the industry and network as much as possible.
Good Luck!! x
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Thanks so much Ozinuk! your advice is golden! ^_^
Happy Spring to you over there in the Uk!
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Many years ago I did some very high profile events. You have to be, I think, a certain type of person to do events, they can be extremely stressful and very hard work.
But your experience as a PA is fantastic background, will really be a benefit. Lots of PR and event companies offer internships full and part time, you can find them on the PRIA website. That is the way to get your foot in the door. Also getting a PA job in a PR or event company too would be a great start. Good luck.
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A shallow OMM that I forgot to mention…advice wanted!
So it’s almost summer here (today we had a tornado and a thunderstorm, tomorrow its going to be 31 degrees! WTF?) And I swear every winter, my legs are a little paler than the previous year.
Some of the brands are the same here, so hopefully advice will transfer, but what is a good, low maintenance tan-in-a-bottle? Or is there no such thing?
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Rach, I am a tan-a-holic, and I swear by the LeTan Foaming Mousse in Deep Tan. It is really not that dark (I am pasty and blonde and it goes a nice tan colour on me!)
Make sure you use gloves (plastic disposables work well) to apply in long strokes. My routine is 1 coat, dry with the hairdryer and wait 30 minutes while lounging in the nude (optional), then apply another coat.
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Me too – love that one and Im fairly pale and blonde too. Also like the Garnier cream one – easy to rub in and doesnt smell too outrageous after you wash it off.
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I’m pretty sure both brands are available here…thanks guys!
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Opinions needed. Does the following situation strike anyone as completely weird?
Recently a family member passed away. The spouse of the deceased is very rich and the deceased had a modest amount of assets to be divided amongst the children. The rich spouse refused to pay for the funeral of the deceased but instead took the costs out of the remaining – small amount – of cash in the deceased bank account. Some of the children are struggling financially and could have used a few extra thousand.
Does anyone else, like me, think that it would be the greatest final way to honour one’s spouse by giving them the best funeral that could be afforded? Does anyone else think it is really weird that the spouse of the deceased refused to pay for their funeral?
The other complication is that the spouse was left out of the deceased’s will and is most upset about it – even though they have also left the deceased out of their will in favour of the children.
Is not paying for the funeral a final act of malice?
Where do people stand on this kind of thing? Would love to hear other people’s experiences with family tussles over funerals and assets.
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Funerals are funny things and mean different things to different people. I had to organise one last year and their wishes were to have a “basic” funeral. People were thinking it was my fault that everything looked cheap but it was his wishes not mine.
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I guess it depends on how long they were married for and whether or not the spouse and the deceased kids got on well. My guess is the spouse considered the funeral to be the kids responsibility. But that being the case has no right to be upset about not being in the will in favour of the kids! Can’t expect to get out of the funeral costs but expect to be in the will! Money always brings out the worst in people!
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As Lu said, money brings out the worst in people. A death in the family brings out the GREED in people. I have never known anything but malice and loathing in families after a death. Including my own family.
However, the bottom line, really, how people want to dispose of their assets in their Will is, after all, what they wanted. It’s theirs to dispose where they wish. AND to have the funeral they planned, or wanted.
Doesn’t alleviate the bad feelings that come out of it all, though, does it?
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I do find it slightly strange that a spouse (I take it you mean a defacto relationship) would be using the ‘estate’ to pay for the entire funeral, unless they were one of those couples that I believe was documented on MM before where the two people kept all their funds seperate their entire marriage?
When there are adult childre from different marriages invoved with inhitances it does get hard.
New relationships when both have adult chiren is hard, especially when thinking about the worst senario if someone passes and the most fair division of assets- people want to protect their children and their partner but it is hard to find the fair balance.
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Hey CE the couple were married for many, many years. The children and parents all got on really well.
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OMM: The NEW HOUSE we bought on Monday!!!!!! So fricken excited! It’s gorgeous and old and in a wonderful location and we got it for a terrific price and I am just thrilled. Needs a bit of “old house” work but nothing we can’t handle.
On a spooky note – after my article about ghosts was published on Friday, we saw and put an offer in for this house on Sunday. That night I dreamt about the ghost of an old woman in the house which was a bit scary but she was nice. Anyway, the next day, the owners asked the agent to tell us that his elderly mother had peacefully passed away from old age in the house a few years ago! Will I have a ghost in my new house?!
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Congrats on the new house Shaezy! Loved your article & reading all the comments over the w/end but am currently getting up multiple times during the night as Bubs is squishing my bladder – I now run down the dark hallway to the bathroom & back as I’m still freaked out over some of the ghost stories! Oh well, atleast I’m getting a little more steep as I’m now running instead of stumbling ; )
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I can sympathise, although my pregnant nightly toilet stops are on the run in the dark because we have had mice
I stomp as loudly as possible to scare the potential mice and drown out any scampering noise.
I think we have won though!
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Oh Rabbitsal! I’m sorry!!! lol. Maybe get a night light/torch/exorcist for your trips? Haha. And I completely sympathise about the constant peeing. I’m sure it’s nature’s way of preparing you for getting up 67 times in the night with a new baby. Best of luck with the baby and I hope you don’t stay too freaked out! If it’s any consolation I am petrified of the dark!
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I just read your ghost post (lol!) – didn’t see it last week as was overseas. SCARED THE SHIT OUT OF ME!! I love posts like that on MM, keep them coming!
congrats on the new house too
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Thanks whippersnapper! Hope you had a great time o/s.
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Shaezy, you will have a beautiful warm loving presence in your new house – she’s really happy you are moving in and you will all feel calm and serene living there.
Congratulations, and … enjoy!
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Thanks xanthe, that makes me feel better! I didn’t feel anything when we looked at the house so I figure that in itself is a good sign. I’m going to triple smudge just before we move in and I am more than happy to share with her (it’s her home after all!) if she is fine with being nice to us! I’m hoping it will be a calm and peaceful home – it certainly looks like it will be. Thanks again! xx
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Good Afternoon MM!!
So happy it’s Wednesday…It’s been a long couple of days.
Nat, I hate mornings too, no matter how early I go to bed, I ALWAYS have trouble dragging myself out of bed. Like so many other people have said- porridge is your best friend in winter!
OMM: Only four weeks until I leave for my month long holiday in America! Soooo excited…But I have a few questions for the MM community- seeing as so many of you have been to America.:
1. How much spending money do you think I will need for 1 month?
2. How does tipping work in the States??
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I’m terrible at budgeting spending money, so I’ll leave that to the more experienced…
A standard tip is 15%. You add it on when they have brought the bill to you (or leave it in change on the table if you paid cash). If the service could have been better, make it 10%. If it was out of this world, 20%.
Very occasionally I have not tipped. And in a country where hospitality relies on tips to actually earn an income (most servers earn around $3-4/hr before tips), that means it was pretty terrible service!
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I spent a lot of money over there, but I didn’t have to and it could have been done a lot cheaper. I spent about $4,500 in 3 weeks, but I shopped (over $1,000), and we spent a little bit more on food when the cheap stuff started making me really sick! I reckon you could do it with $3,000 in a month, but it might be tight, especially if you are going to NYC and Vegas!
I tipped a lot, because I know the waiters only get paid about $7 an hour and I felt sorry for them. 15-20% or double the sales tax is supposed to be standard. For a $30 meal I was tipping over $10 usually.
It’s not like Australia where you go up to the register and pay when you’re done either! You ask for the “check”, and either leave cash on the table, or put your card with the black folder thing the cheque is in and they bring back a receipt with the amoutn and you handwrite in the tip you want charged to your card!
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It depends if your a shopper or not!! You could get by pretty cheaply if you’ve already paid for your accomodation. I went for 3 weeks in Feb and i spent nearly $4000!!! That was food, drinks, sightseeing and shopping but it can be done cheaper, it also depends where your going =)
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Tipping is easy – there’s an app for that
seriously.
As far as spending money goes – my only advice is to pack your suitcase proportionately to the amount of money you take!! I left behind a TON of clothes in America because I may have got a little crazy buying – the prices were SO GOOD!
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As a general rule i budget about $100 a day for most holidays… but this is for everything (besides accom) meals sightseeing, shopping… Some days you will spend barely nothing others you will spend $300 – $400. It will all work out in the wash!
But you def could get away $50 per day in the states if you wanted to do it on the cheap!
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OMM: I am off overseas in a month for six weeks with my boyfriend. We will have been together for six years come mid-July and are perfect for each other. The thing is I have never been the kind of girl that was desperate to get married even though most of my friends are and have already starting making babies.
But my big deep dark secret that I won’t admit to anyone is that I really hope he proposes to me on the trip….I am too afraid to even say it out loud though in case he doesn’t, and I don’t want to get hung up on it because I don’t want to ruin the trip. But I can’t help the way I feel…..
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To tell you the truth I felt that way when my partner and I went overseas. Every romantic evening I was semi waititng for the ring and the question to appear. It didn’t. When it did it was such a magical and wonderfully unexpected surprise… and when I asked him why he had squandered Paris or Venice in exchange for our house, he said those moments had had their own magic, and didn’t need to be overshadowed by a proposal. Plus he wanted us to get married very quickly, and so waited till we were home (we spent two years away).
It happens when it happens. Enoy the trip for what it is, and take it as it comes- that way, it wont be layered with disappointment. Enjoy being in love!!
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I know and that’s what is driving me crazy – generally I am a very rational and calm person. I have never been desperate to get married or start a family. We have been living together for years in an apartment we both own, and I have never felt the need to put a ring on my finger. But lately it just feels like the right time…but I don’t want to be the kind of girlfriend who ends up pressuring my man to marry me.
We have talked about the idea of marriage before and we both want to, we just have never been in a rush.
I know it is so silly of me to suddenly want it to happened and for it to happen on this trip. But I am trying really hard to not think about it or worry about it – what happens, happens.
If only our friends hadn’t put the idea in my head! If I had a dollar for every time someone asked when we were getting engaged or if I thought he would propose on our trip, I could have paid for the expensive airfares
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ARGH!! The friend pressure! You just feel like saying ‘what do you want to ruin the surprise for me?’ asking that question is like asking someone if they are pregnant. Its just wrong!!
Enjoy the trip
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I know. I would never ask someone if or when are you having a baby or why someone isn’t married. It ain’t any of my business! Yet people seem fine asking me those kind of questions….
Looking forward to the trip very much no matter what.
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I felt that way last year as we were going on a trip to NZ and I was wondering if my partner had sorted his sh*t out and was going to propose.
The day before we left, I came home from my run in the morning and we were chatting, and just casually I said “really, what are we waiting for?” He pondered and agreed.
That afternoon we went into the city and bought a ring
Why wait for the man to propose….Making it a mutual decision definitely takes the pressure off with ring shopping etc. And I secretly am delighted at the shock/disappointment when people ask our proposal story and I tell them there isn’t one, we decided together. Do it your way I say!!! xxx
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That’s so great Alex2! Congrats.
Yeah we have talked about it before and he said he would rather ask me than me ask him.
And I know he has been thinking about it because he has been talking about us moving to a bigger place next year and when I asked why we would need so many rooms, he said for when we have children one day.
But I really am not too fussed – I think I just got caught up in all the expectations other people have! Every expects him to propose because we are on a romantic holiday – i just hope he doesn’t feel that pressue.
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Good luck with it all….Whatever will be, will be
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Maybe just flag it to him clearly (but casually and not in a pushy way) before you leave, so that you know he’s aware that you would be up for it, and that it would be appropriate.
That way you know it’s in his head, and if he doesn’t propose it’s because it was an active decision not to (maybe the timing or finances or whatever isn’t right at the moment – I’m sure he’s desperate to marry you!), and not just because it didn’t occur to him. Guys can be a bit dense about that sort of thing sometimes!
Good luck! And whatever happens, have an amazing time on your trip! xx
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OMM: should I do Michelle Bridges 12WBT? Just had second baby and need to get rid of the baby weight – for good! Just not sure how I’ll manage it with 2 kids and no one to look after them for me so I can exercise (and I’m not comfortable with the idea of leaving them with strangers at a gym crèche). Really want to do something for me, but don’t want to waste money.
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HI I just posted about this! I failed miserably… I just couldn’t do it. That said, one of my friends, who has five very samll children focussed only on the nutrition and stuck to the plan for food like glue and dropped 20kgs. So it can work, depending on how strict you are.
I’m going to see if I can follow the plan for the next three months on my own before I sign up for her support again.
Well worth it for some… just depends on that willpower muscle. Its hard saying no to sugar in tea, milk, cheese, all those things…If you look at her cook books the food is quite similar.
Good luck!!
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I have just finished Round 1 of 12WBT- and have lost just over 15kg, and feel absolutley fantastic. I cannot reccommend it highly enough. The food is wonderful, and you won’t be hungry at all.
However, having said that, if you aren’t committed to following the program to a tee, both with nutrition and exercise, it will be a waste of your money.
All the best with whatever you decide!
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I signed up but as I moved back home I couldn’t control my food. My mum is fanatical about us all eating the same meal at the same time. I could control breakfast, lunch and snacks but not the dinners which are pretty calorie-laden. I explained everything to her and ate smaller portions to consume fewer kj but was still hungry etc. It’s pathetic but that’s what it took to get me unstuck. Then once that stopped, I didn’t commit to the exercise either. I have been much more successful on my own – last year I lost 12kg by myself and thought that the 12wbt would be helpful.
I found also found the online side of it pretty crazy. I’m 23 and use facebook etc but the facebook pages were crazy and people kept trying to top each other with their achievements. The forums as well. It got too much for me – distracting and unhelpful.
I would suggest you seriously think about how committed you are to losing weight. One of the “pre-season” tasks is to go through all of your excuses and problems – your kids could end up being a similar excuse to mine. One thing to think about is exercise videos – I have been using Jillian Michaels for a while (30 day shred/ripped in 30) and find them really good.
If you’re committed you can do it on your own – sign up for myfitnesspal and work out how much you eat on a daily basis, find some healthier recipes, and buy an exercise dvd or two. You can borrow Michelle’s books from the library to get the overview of the program and then DIY. It is as simple as calories in, calories out and if you do some exercise as well then your results will be better. Sorry it’s so long but hope I can help you make your decision.
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If you don’t want to spend the money and think fitting in the exercise will be a struggle at this point in time, I would recommend getting Michelle’s Crunch Time Cookbook.
I cooked meals out of that for a couple of months ages ago and my husband and I lost about 10kg each – with no exercise. And the meals were delicious and easy and very affordable.
Good luck x
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Are they really young? An hour three days a week at a gym creche would be fine wouldn’t it? They may really like it and it gives you the chance to work out.
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OMM: Housework. I am sitting in my loungeroom with a silent house with 3 small people asleep and I can see my gauzed in verandah out the door looking like a bomb has gone off. I am very tempted to sit here and read through everything on this site, then check facebook, then see if anyone’s decided to put a million dollars in my bank balance just becuase, then read the papers on line, and check my emails again … but I think I need to get up and clean my verandah to give me some sort of achievement today other than talking to two great friends on the phone for over 2 hours (different calls).
But OMM2: Friends. Lovely dont-talk-in-age-but-when-you-do-its-for-ages-and-its-like-you-spoke-like-week Friends. Those two calls – albeit taking away cleaning time and a bit of 1 on 1 time with said children (I did BF one while I was talking and make the other two morning tea and there’s always this arvo) – totally got me out of a bit of a rut because I could have a little vent and they vented to me and the world seems a bit of a better place now we’ve all caught up on each others lives.
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Hope you just sat and read and had some time to yourself… you deserve it!!
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I can’t go past scrambled eggs for brekkie. Quick, easy and warm!!!
OMM: I’m hungry, and it’s lunch time, but I’m all cosy on the couch and it’s such a shitty day out I don’t want to move!!! Very lazy, I know. I won’t last much longer, ill get off my tooshie and do some work soon.
Also OMM, I had a neurologist appt this morning and I have to change meds again, which is always fun, at the same time I have to change contraceptive pills – should be interesting!!
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A little worried about the separation procedures. I have NO clue having no separated friends (unbelieveable in this day and age, and I’m embarassed that I’ll be the first to have a failed marriage). I’m worried about the legal stuff – we want it to be very amicable and fair. I have no idea what it’s going to be like as a single mother. I know I will have his support looking after the kids, physically and financially, but he may have a partner and another family in the future, it’s possible.. I’m scared of the legal process causing stress between us. Hopefully it will go smoothly. He is worried that I will take everything he has (or 50%), but I’m not like that. I really don’t know anything about a separation, so hopefully a joint meeting with someone who can provide legal advice will enlighten us. I still think we’re giving up too early..
I went to his relative’s b’day on the weekend and spent time with his family. They are lovely. And this weekend we’ve got a couple of his colleagues and brother coming up, and we’re having a bbq at home. I think that’s being amicable and cooperative.
It is painful though. I wish I could make this work, but it takes two people to do so. Of course we both played a part in how things have turned out, with a young family, moving to regional areas, not having the trusted friends/family to give us time out as a couple…but while I thought this is a phase we’re going to get through together and which will get easier as the kids grow, he obviously didn’t feel the same. He also said that he’s not keen to work on things because he feels he wants more than what we had even at the start of our relationship…it’s a painful time. We do have a choice on how we deal with this situation and we’re trying to be as ‘adult’ and graceful about it as possible. It is very difficult though.
On a completely different note, are there any online websites that sell nice quality (but affordable) woollen clothes/jumpers?
Also, where is mamamia’s office? Near water/a wharf? (looking at photos)
Love Mia’s pink shoes.
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Bird, can I just say I wish you all the best, but please have independent advice. I have too many friends going through this at the moment and all of their husbands promised them the world at the beginning, usually out of guilt. But as the dust has settled they become different people and the promises have been broken. Please protect yourself and your kids.
Good luck.
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By independent advice, do you mean we should have separate lawyers? I don’t want it to be like we’re fighting each other, I just want it to be fair. I’m naive, but I just want it to go smoothly. I’ve been told by others too, that I should get independent advice.
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I dont think it would be seen as a fight but simply you having someone who is solely looking out for your best interests. Amicable separations can turn ugly very quickly, especially once he finds out what he should be paying you as opposed to what he wants to pay you etc…
Just look out for yourself and your kids.
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Bird, I feel for you. It must be painful but it will get better – I promise you, give yourself time and take care of yourself.
I buy cardies and jumpers from woolovers – great quality, increadible prices.
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Thanks for the reply and wool website – I’ve had a quick look, it looks good!
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From what you have ordered from the website, are there blends that are scratchy? That’s the problem with not being able to feel them. Thanks
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hey Bird, sucks that it hasn’t worked out. If you are definitely going ahead with the separation I wish you the best. I’m a family lawyer, so if things go to shit (and hopefully they don’t), first step is usually mediation. I recommend places like relationships Australia, or some lawyers are actually mediators as well. I tell you this now because sometimes people benefit from getting some mediation even if they feel everything is amicable – helps you put any fears or concerns on the table (eg what happens with kids if you or he re partners etc), and work out a parenting plan. They can also assist with property related matters if you are having trouble. Otherwise a good family lawyer in your local area will be able to assist you. Good luck
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Thanks for your advice…
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Hi Bird,
So sorry to hear about your separation. I always think it is sad to hear about marriages breaking up.
I’ve not been married before but I am my husband’s second wife, so the advice I would give you is to agree with Lu and make sure you get independant advice. My husband and his ex had the same lawyer and I think that he could have got better advice.
Make sure this includes consent orders regarding children. You may think it is all amicable now but in my husbands experience and experiences with friends, what seems amicable now, may not down the track.
My husband also attended a seperation support group when his first marriage broke down. He found it enourmously helpful and though the only male in the group, is still friends with all the women. I have met them all and they are lovely.
That said, I hope that all continues to be amicable and that your currentl grey cloud comes with a silver lining.
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Thanks for your response. We will talk to legal people about everything, including what we need to think about for our childrens’ future…things I never thought I would need to do.
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I thought it was a conflict of interest to have the same lawyer? As in I thought you actually weren’t allowed to have the same lawyer.
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Bird, please do not focus so much on being amicable and agreeable. I’m not saying to go to the other extreme but i think you need to be practical and look after yourself.
He’s left you. He didn’t want to work it out. Fine but now you are a single mother and you need to protect yourself and your children. Be smart and self protective. Get some legal advice and do not focus on being so nice to him.
I’d also suggest not going to too many functions with his family, it will just make it all harder. Time to get your own life on track.
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I just read Mia’s letter to her daughter that she never got to meet, and man, grief has so many shapes.
Her post brought me to tears, as I am feeling very raw and sad about a baby, but in a different way.
My brother and his partner, who both have mental illnesses, have just had a baby. I would go into bat for either of them in any way I could, (and I have) and I am the first to defend the rights of the mentally ill. I understand the subtleties surrounding the difficulties they face pretty well.
The two of them bringing a baby into the world was a pretty big leap of faith, and we were all really hoping that they would cope (lets face it, we had no say either way).
Crushingly, they think they are doing a really good job with their 1 month old baby so far, and they are not. The care they are giving the baby is falling short.
The rest of the family is moving heaven and earth to give them as much support as possible, but the tightrope we walk is difficult – if we point out the “right way to do things” to often, they will cut us off, and the help we provide, for good, and it will be their baby that suffers.
Before anyone jumps on me for being judgmental and bigoted, the “right way to do things” is not about the perfect way to wrap a baby or breast vs bottle, but basic hygiene and safety.
I have 3 kids, and I know there are lots of different ways to parent, but there are some things that are just not right.
I feel like the weight of the world is on me right now. I don’t believe that Human services is the right place to turn for help. The Maternal Child Health nurse, and hospital social worker are both doing all they can, with lots of home visits, they are clearly concerned too. I just know, whatever happens, we have 20 or so long years ahead of us, and this little baby will be needing lots of our help – I hope his parents let us give it.
Wow – I really needed to get that off my chest, anonymously, in a safe place
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What a terrible situation to have to try and work through. Am hoping that you all find a workable solution soon. Will be thinking of you and your family.
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I just wanted to offer a virtual hug and say thank you for looking out for that child. It sounds like you are in a really tricky situation and treading delicately but hopefully the parents will see that you just want what they want… what’s best for their baby.
Glad that you have somewhere to talk.
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Such a hard situation and I have no advice to offer unfortunately, but sending you lots of hugs and strength xx
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God be with you all.
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Oh love, many hugs to you
I hope, really hope, that you can get some supportive community help that doesn’t crowd the parents, and that the little one is OK. Having had a parent with severe mental illness, I can tell you honestly that that this baby’s life will be so much better and easier for having extended family around that love it and have concern for it.
Best of luck.
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Two this week:
How the HELL do I get antibiotics into a very reluctant 1 year old? I try and get the syringe in the side of her mouth but MY GOD can that girl put up a fight! But she has tonsillitis and needs the antibiotics! 4 times a day – good times. It is in an Orange flavoured syrupy suspension so I can’t sneak it in to food or drink. And she only has water from a sippy cup anyway, so would be rightly suss. I *am* wearing less as we go though.
Just got an email from the Uni people saying that following my feedback about childcare they’re reviewing their policies to give students, then staff, then the general community priority! Yay! Thanks to everyone who helped me out with links for that one!
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I feel your pain Kris and she is too young to bribe.
One of my sons was a nightmare with antibiotics and he had lots of ear infections when he was little. I found a compounding pharmacy that could flavour the medicine to a chocolate flavour that he absolutely loved.
Maybe you could try that.
Good luck.
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I’ve only had experience dosing a reluctant cat, & I don’t think the same procedure would work on a baby, but good luck.
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My Dad used to sit on me and drop the medicine in my mouth as I screamed.
I’m sorry. I wouldn’t want a child like me! I hope you find a way…
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That’s kind of what I’m doing, Rach! Dad suggested holding her nose to get her to open her mouth, but the hands and kicking are hard too! Man she is STRONG. I wish I could bribe like Lu mentioned! Lulu, I don’t think the procedure is actually that different to dosing pets, you know!
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Show no mercy Kris. My daughter gets tonsilitis a lot and it’s a horrible thing. You have to push through. I used to hold her as if to breastfeed but put her arm closest to me behind my back or hanging down so she had no leverage. Push her body in close to mine so that her head was tilted back a little bit anyways. Stick that syringe in down the side of her mouth as quickly as possible and shoot that medicine down. Throw the syringe in the sink and then cuddle her until she swallowed it. Mop up the tears and collapse on the couch.
Repeat.
Good luck.
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That’s kind of the method I’ve been employing. I don’t back off because she’s upset or whatever – I know she has to have the medicine, and I tell her that! I think the best one was at 3 in the morning, but I can’t really remember how I did it – it was on my bed and I think maybe both my legs and arms were employed! Mum got her wrapped up in a cloth nappy last night and we got most of it in. Thankfully she’s on the mend so it’s only the antibiotics that I need to get in there, as the temperature is back to normal – so no need for the panadol and nurofen now.
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Wait a minute, don’t tell me YOUR daughter is stubborn and strong-willed?! Never!
I agree with In KL’s method. Lay her down as if to nurse, wrap your top arm around her head and hold her arm down, then use your other arm to hold down her body and squirt the syringe.
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I know! Crazy town, right?
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My daughter (20 months) also refused to take medication until I found this amazing device. It is a dummy with a medication dispenser attached. Mine is made by “munchkin”. Now she asks to take her medicine! But maybe this only worked for me because she is a little addicted to her dummy
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She won’t have a dummy! She’s never taken one! Same with bottles.
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I just saw this post and I hope I can help. Have you checked with your pharmacist whether you can give it to her with food? My now 2 1/2 year old and 10 month old have both been on antibiotics over the years and I never had one that you couldn’t slip it in some custard on a spoon or some icecream. My 10mth old loves that Raffertys Garden chocolate custard but I only give it to him when I have to give him panadol, antib etc. Works a treat when you ,easure it out and put it on a spoon with the choc custard. Give it a go!
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Sorry meant to say that choc custard covers up the orangey taste if you just give it in small amounts on the spoon with LOTS of custard!
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Maybe try these:
1. Mix up orange cordial for yourself and make a big deal out of both of you having the special orange stuff. Call it something other than medicine that will appeal especially to KDot. KDot’s & Dorothy’s Delicious Drinking Sauce (as in Dorothy the dinosaur or whatever KDot is really into).
2. Bribe with her favourite treat to be given after the medicine.
3. Squirt it onto her fingers a little bit at a time if you think she might suck it off her fingers.
4. Give her a syringe of orange cordial to squirt into your mouth, then you do her. Sometimes, my kids would then squirt their own into their own mouth too … they really like to have control.
5. If she is completely against the orange-flavoured one, see the GP and get another flavoured antibiotic. Most broad-spectrum antibiotics will kill tonsillitis germs.
6. If you get a new one, let her smell it, touch it, try a little at a time, like you do when you introduce a new food to her. No way will an adult just chuck something new into their mouth without smelling etc first. It’s a primitive survival instinct, hard for adults to overcome and even harder for children.
Good luck
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Yeah after Lu and KTT’s suggestions, and yours too, I think I’ll hit the chemist up for a different type tomorrow – I have a repeat. Maybe they have the chocolate version? That would go better with yoghurt or custard than sickly orange!
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Mix it in ice-cream? With a few squashed-up Jaffas for the orange taste?
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Hi Nat, try the Uncle Toby’s apple and cinnamon quick oat sachets. Rip it open, chuck it in a bowl with water for 90 seconds in the microwave, bit of milk et voila! They’re low fat, really quick, warm and yummy and keep you going until lunchtime. They’re my go-to in winter because I hate breakfast too. (AND this is not a sponsored comment but I will accept free oats or diamonds in thanks if anyone’s listening out there…)
Hi Mia, strangey-weirdy question, but does the beetroot juice make your wee pink or is that just me? Rx
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Another Uncle Toby’s Quick Oats girl here. I also hate breakfast particularly in winter. I use water only and while it is in the microwave I chop up a few strawberries to put on top. My favourite flavours are the honey one and the brown sugar and cinnamon one. Although make sure you leave time to wash up the bowl or rinse it thoroughly before you leave. The oats stick hard and fast if left in the bowl all day.
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My old boss used to eat beetroot soup and said it made her wee pink!
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Raisin toast with a little butter and topped with strawberries. Quick, warm, filling and healthy!
OMM: my sister and I have been doing Michelle bridges 12wbt. The big finale party is in a couple of weeks and we are going! Sis is flying over from Perth so we can go ( party’s in Melbourne). So it’s very exciting, we’ve both lost the weight we want to, are a lot healthier and fitter! I’d like to organize for us to get our hair and makeup done the afternoon of the party. Can anyone recommend a Melbourne cbd hairdresser who does a good blow dry?
And I was thinking of going to the Napoleon counter in myer to get our makeup done. Has anyone done this before? Are they good? Do I have to book?
Thanks everyone!
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I have used the Napoleon counter at DJs they’re great. Yes you do have to book. There is a counter near by that does blow outs, i’ve seen lots of people use it. Otherwise Toni and Guy on little collins always do a good job after my colour.
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Heading Out in GPO do great blowdries and as for make up, I’d recommend going to Mac rather than Napoleon. I used to work in make up in Melbourne (not for either one of these companies) and while Napoleon is hit and miss, depending on who does your make up, everyone at Mac is super talented and is sure to do a great job. You have to book and the booking fee they charge you is reedemable on products on the day. Good luck.
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