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by JAMILA RIZVI

I’d like to say it’s been a week of swings and roundabouts for me. But that wouldn’t be a remotely accurate description of how I’ve been feeling because I’m a Canberran – which means I bloody love a roundabout.

So, let’s just say that I’ve had a less than divine week: with illness in the family and romantic (or not-so-romantic to be precise) turmoil. I have come out the other side with one lesson well and truly learned and it is this: always surround yourself with fabulous women and then the crappy stuff will seem a whole lot less, well, crappy.

Speaking of fabulous women – I’m lucky enough to work with a whole lot of them, including our new group of Mamamia and iVillage Australia interns. After 3 weeks, they are well and truly settling in – knowing which kitchen cupboard the mugs are in, remembering the optimum image sizes for the website and learning that the love of the editorial team can be shamelessly bought with cupcakes.

We even took a couple of our interns, Megan and Sophia on a ‘school excursion’ on Friday, as we headed over to Darling Harbour to watch Mia host Ecco Shoes World’s Longest Catwalk event. Here’s a peek at what has been happening in the Mamamia offices, the amazing World’s Longest Catwalk and some of our highlights from the internet and social media:

Mia weighs in on the circumcision debate during #QandA

You’ll be hearing a little more from our interns in the coming weeks, as they join our new team of Community Moderators. As the Mamamia community grows and the site receives more and more comments, we’ve asked some of our interns and a few of the regulars on the site to help us out in moderating comments and being around to answer your queries.

So keep an eye out for Phoodie, Amelia, OopsyBoopsy and Sarah in the comments and please make them feel welcome.

That’s enough from me. What’s been happening in your world?

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  1. Eileen Stapleton

    Thanks so much for the opportunity to post here (Administrator approval). We are two Sydney mums who are going to climb the world’s highest free-standing mountain, Africa’s Mount Kilimanjaro to raise money for Special Olympics Australia. We climb next February 2013 and are in training now and raising funds. If you would like to donate to help us on our way please email Eileen Stapleton on info@kidsizeliving.com.au. With every step, we will be helping Special Olympics Australia transform the lives of children and adults with an intellectual disability.

    Every two hours an Australian child is diagnosed with an intellectual disability and Special Olympics Australia is there to support them by providing regular sports training and competition. Through sport they can get active, have fun and make friends, and with every step of the journey they develop the confidence and skills to overcome daily challenges and reach their personal best. You could say they climb mountains every day! Thanks for your time and hope you are inspired! Eileen X

    https://specialolympics.myetap.org/fundraiser/mtkili/individual.do?participationRef=4136.0.608341013

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  2. Alice

    I just wanted to say that I’ve been loving MM recently. I really love Jam Jam’s contributions, and the stronger feminist stance MM seems to be taking on a lot of issues. I feel like the site went through a period a while ago where all the articles seemed to be aimed at a (seemingly, based on the articles) mindless group of women brainwashed by babies and exhaustion. Now the site is aimed at strong, intelligent women at various stages of their lives and with varying priorities (babies, work, health, relationship, etc) who can handle the opinions of others and can engage in interesting debates. It’s been great!

    For example, thank you for the article on provocation – and then your repeated defence to commentators of the gender slant of the article. Provocation is primarily used by male killers to justify killing women. That is not bias, that is a fact. It’s not an evenly employed defence – so thank you for sticking to your guns on that. Violence against men is never okay either, but it really p***es me off when articles attempt to be neutral on very gendered issues, just because they are afraid of offending people. Sexual violence and domestic violence (of which the provocation defence is usually a result of) are issues that have primarily female victims. Acknowledging that doesn’t mean you don’t care when it happens to males, it is just giving the deserved attention and acknowledgement to the victims, rather than ignoring a huge part of the issue (that ingrained sexism causes a gendered bias of the victim/perpetrator ratio). So thank you for not fearfully reporting it in a gender neutral manner!

    Ditto, thank you for taking a stance on the embarrassing TA interview, and not being afraid to look like you were favouring a particular party. Good interviewing is good interviewing, regardless of what politics leader is embarrassing themselves. Nice work guys.

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  3. G.Sims

    Earlier this year I was blacklisted by my (birth) Mother, two adopted Sisters and foster Sister for not approving of my 59yo Mother adopting an 11yo girl. The reason I am against it is because she was adopted under misleading concerns. My Mother told her birth Mother that ‘something’ could happen to her daughter if left alone with her Husband (the girl’s Step-Father). This infuriated me as my Partner is a wonderful Step-Father to my son (previous relationship) and I have a great Step-Father relationship with my Mother’s second husband. The adopted girl’s Step-Father has taken in children who are not his own and has never done anything like what my Mother has ‘predicted’.

    When the adopted girl arrived in 2011 during the middle of Term 4, my 59yo Mother left her in my care without prior arrangements (knock on the door) and then proceeded to do so until School resumed in 2012. I was going through PND and dealing with a toddler going through ‘The Terribles’. Two years ago, I made it clear to my Mother that I did not want another kid in my immediate family as we all knew, our Mother is not the one mothering.

    My Mother also goes to Bingo and leaves the 11yo girl in my brother’s care – a 34yo with a mild mental disability! My brother sometimes comes over to our place because he’s hungry or wants company. Our Mother is his Carer and I know she is neglecting him to go to Bingo and planning the Wedding of my adopted Sister.

    My partner, two sons and I are moving interstate at the end of School Term 3 because of the backstabbing and the silent treatment… other relatives not communicating with me via Facebook either. This decision came after I found out on my cousin’s Facebook that my younger adopted Sister of 26yo has sent out Wedding Invitations and the wedding date has been changed. We live on the same road as my Mother’s household and noone has said anything to us! The last straw was when the Bride-to-be called me after 3 months of no communication to say ‘It’s Sally. Are your sons still in my bridal party?’. I couldn’t believe it. No, Hello. No, Our Wedding Date has been changed… Of course I replied ‘No.’ and hung up.

    September 22 cannot come fast enough. I’ll only be sad to miss my brother and Step-Father who have never treated me or our kids differently and visited us a few times a week. Is this how other families behave when one person is in opposition to the majority?

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  4. ameliastclair

    Good morning all!

    I hope everyone is having a terrific week! Apologies for my tardy OMM, but once you’ve read the OMM it may make sense!

    Firstly, thanks Jamila and the MM team! I’m thrilled to be a MM Community Moderator and look forward to ‘hanging’ with the MM readers more often! I think the inclusive spirit of this online community is unique and I love being a part of it SO MUCH.

    Like Phoodie said below, I’m happy to help out with anything I can, MM related or not! I love a good discussion and will happily type under wet cement so please say hi! You can find me Instagraming up a storm (ameliastclair), Pinterest-ing like nobody’s business (ameliastclair), Tumblr-ing around (http://ameliathroughrosecolouredglasses.tumblr.com/), hanging on LinkedIn (Amelia Arnold), tweeting, albeit infrequently (@ameliaarnold089) and generally just being a social media addict online.

    OMM: SOOOOO. I applied for medical school (2013 intake) back in May and anyone who has been through any kind of intensive uni application process will know how mentally exhausting it is waiting to hear back if you’ve been lucky enough to get an interview or not. I’ve been an absolute WRECK all day (Wednesday) because interview offers were due to be released AND THEY WERE NOT! Alas, a delay! Sooooo I spent the day refreshing my email account every, err, 3 seconds for nothing! I had to have the Cadbury popping candy chocolate to calm myself and I think I may have developed a stress ulcer. (Kidding, although I wish I were kidding about the chocolate…). This yucky stress is in addition to moving house last weekend and having a week jam-packed with other uni work! Eww. So OMM is everyone awaiting any results, be they uni related, work related, health related – it’s so nerve wracking when there is nothing you can do but wait and pray!

    Big high-fives to those who have had a great week and cuddles to those who need them after having a tricky one. Much love!

    Amelia, MM Community Moderator x

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  5. Rabbit

    Hi again – so, I mentioned earlier that I am in the waiting period to see if I am pregnant with baby #2. Today I have had the WORST nausea…I went to the grocery store and had to ask the store clerk for a bag because I felt so sick. However, I am only a week past ovulation. Can this be morning sickness already?? Or just wishful thinking? Thanks.

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    • stacey87

      not sure if this is relevant or completely non-related… but when I was pregnant (about 6weeks) and didn’t know it, the first time I knew something was up, it was when I was grocery shopping.. Looked at my list of pasta, rice, milk etc and the thought of buying any of it made me want to be sick. All I ended up buying was celery and carrots- my crunchy vegetable pregnancy cravings had begun!

      It was the nausea and weirdness I felt which made me realise something wascompletely different with my body. I wish you the best of luck with everything you are hoping for.. keep us posted Xx

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      • Anonymous

        Thanks Stacey….something sure is off with me right now! :)

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  6. Chellebelle

    OMM right now is this lurgy I have. I have been sick since Saturday. Saw the after hours doctor tonight and she said I should have tomorrow and Friday off too. But I’m out of sick leave and have 2 training courses the next 2 afternoons. I guess I’ll have to see in the morning whether I’ll be well enough to go in. I wish I had a crystal ball!

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  7. Coaster

    Posting problems ! I’m not sure if it’s my computer or your site but it’s been a couple of weeks now that I’ve been having problems. When I try and comment I just can’t get text to show up – I’ll be madly typing away in the text box and then look at the screen and there might be 2 letters typed and all the rest just doesn’t show up. Then when I try and add to the lonely 2 letters it won’t let me type at all:)
    The only way I’ve managed to type this is in Word and then pasted it on to your site. I know there have been continuing problems with the site recently but I haven’t seen anyone else mentioning this particular problem so thought I’d pass it on just in case there’s a fix. Please try and fix if possible – I don’t comment much, but really miss just being able to bash out a few words easily when I feel the need:)

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    • Mia

      Yep! It’s annoying I know. The page keeps refreshing while you’re typing and it’s sooooo frustrating. We’re working to fix it…..sorry!

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      • k8e.

        good im having this issue too!

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    • My turn!

      I haven’t been able to load the site at all for weeks. Four people use one iPad to comment because its the only thing we can get the site on.

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      • Mia

        Hey there – can you let us know what browser you’re using and any other details that might help us nail the problem?

        nat@mamamia.com.au
        Tell her I sent you!

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  8. Shaezy

    After a lot of soul searching, I have applied for uni in 2013. While I like my current job well enough, I love writing and editing, and would really like to work in the publishing industry one day. I was studying a million years ago but deferred and went travelling instead. Some days, I kinda regret that.

    So, I have taken the bull by the horns and will study my tush off for the next couple of years and see where that takes me. Hopefully in the direction of a publishing house.

    And besides the fact that I am going to be studying writing, the best part is all the NEW STATIONERY I will have to have!!! lol

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    • Mia

      Love a bit of new stationary! Any excuse will do……

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  9. MP

    OMM: I would really like to sponsor a child overseas. Does anyone have any recommendations of who to do this through, Unicef, World Vision, any others? I’ve heard many mixed reviews so any help or feedback is most appreciated. Thank you.

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    • sarahinsydney

      A girl I went to school with quit her high income job to start an organisation called Lille Fro, it is a grassroots organisation sponsoring children and does amazing work. They are Australian run and Tamara herself spends time innthe countries for most of the year. This is their website www. lillefro. org (without the spaces, I put them in to stop this going to spam). Check it out and see for yourself.

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    • chocolate aeroplane

      Hi MP – we sponsor a child in Vietnam through World Vision and we have no complaints. They are very organised and make it really easy to communicate with your sponsored child. When I was a kid my family sponsored a child through them which was 30 years ago so I’m thinking they’re doing something right to still be operating so effectively. It also feels like, because they’re so established, that they can make more of a difference due to their reach and experience.

      I’m sure the others are good too – that’s just our experience – good luck!

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      • chocolate aeroplane

        I must add… we chose a boy who was older when deciding which child to sponsor. We just felt that the younger kids, eg. babies and toddlers, are probably more ‘popular’ and more readily sponsored and that our boy (who was 8 at the time – now 14) had probably been waiting quite a long time being the age he was. I could be completely wrong but it felt like he needed us to pick him. I’m sure you’ll find someone who needs you just as much and that you’ll do whatever feels right – just wanted to share that. x

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    • rachel@sotheycan.org

      Hi MP,

      Thrilled to hear you are interested in sponsoring a child overseas.

      We sponsor a World Vision child in Tanzania and a child through the charity group ‘So They Can’ (STC) in Kenya. Whilst I don’t believe you can go wrong when it comes to sponsoring a child I think you are wise in considering your options.

      I have recently returned from visiting my STC sponsor child in Nakuru, Kenya and I was totally overwhelmed by my experience as your support is so gratefully received and the difference being made in a short time is astounding.

      I started helping a group of parents here in Northbridge raise awareness about their work in Africa and found myself ignited by their approach. They have established a primary school which is continuing to grow, and attached an orphanage to ensure the poorest of poor and most needy are educated. They run adult education classes at night at the school and offer micro-financing to women that prove they have the skills and determination to start a business. A medical clinic is in operation and medicine masters students from NSW Uni have just returned from completing a study there. Social businesses are being established to aid in the funding and develop self sufficiency. It’s a very holistic approach to the development of the children and this totally appealed to me. It is also proving successful due to the results the children are achieving in national testing. The wonderful thing is that every year a group is organised to visit the school for a working bee, meet your sponsor child and go on an African safari so you too get to experience another culture and the change you are making to someone in the world.

      Some wonderful people are involved and Tara Brown (60 Minutes) and Neil Finn (Crowded House) are part of our team of Ambassadors.

      If you would like to meet us come to the following event. We’d love to see you there or visit us on Facebook or at http://www.sotheycan.org

      Thank you for your thoughts and consideration.

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  10. Mumabulous

    The Samantha Brick vs Germaine Greer fiasco on 60 Minutes last Sunday caused quite a stir among my friends.
    http://mum-abulous.com/2012/08/29/curse-of-the-pretty-woman/

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  11. Rach

    Mia’s column about the wheels falling off is so me right now.

    This year my boyfriend and I have built a house (yay), moved out of a rental and in with his parents and then moved into our new house. All of this while working full time and doing a Masters degree part time.

    I have 37 days until uni is over… then I can fall in a heap

    lol whinge over

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    • Mia

      Rach, you’re a star. That all sounds exhausting. Wheels? They’re over rated… ;)

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  12. Abbi

    At work today I saw a magazine with a feature about famous Dads and their kids, it really made me sad. I unfortunately chose the wrong man to father my children, we are seperated now but even when we were together he was selfish and didn’t take any interest in what the kids were doing, It was always a struggle to get him to look after his own kids so I could have some time out. Now he lives overseas and is supposed to Skype the kids every weekend, but this only happens if they contact him. He will be in town this weekend for our sons birthday (at least he kept that promise) but I’m not organizing a fathers day present for him. I only hope that when I bring a new man into the kids lives he will be a better ‘dad’ to them than their real dad is. I guess at least now they have a chance of knowing what a dad should really be!

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    • Bookworm

      Wow you sound like me! My ex is living overseas with a new wife, he Skypes the kids on weekends too (if reminded). And yes, he was selfish and didn’t take an interest in his kids either when we were together. Hang in there!
      I quite enjoy living in my own without the stress of having him around- and my boys have a wonderful Grandad and Uncle that make time to be in their lives. It will get better. xx

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      • Abbi

        Thanks Bookworm, I am much happier without him, and I look forward to a better life for myself and my kids. Hope you find happiness too :)

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  13. LaurenHC

    Panic attack at work on Monday. I was surrounded by people and busy as hell and therefore unable to find somewhere quiet… Couldn’t breathe, general feeling of doom, trying not to cry while people pissed me off… It was just awful. Went home and cried to my boyfriend and felt pathetic.

    Damn anxiety.

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    • londoneye

      I know exactly how you feel. Have been there more than once and feel myself there again tight now. Some mental health days are in order for me. My boss spoke to me yesterday and I almost burst into tears…

      Sending you a big hug xx

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    • elle

      They’re terrifying aren’t they Lauren? Take care of yourself x

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  14. sarahinsydney

    You know you are desperate when you raid the cupboard for cooking chocolate. Not that I’m sitting on the couch in my jammies eating cooking choc right now, nope not me!

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    • Chellebelle

      Sarah I need to save you from the cooking chocolate. Here’s what you do. In a coffee mug mix 2 tablespoons of plain flour, 2 of sugar, 1 of cocoa and a pinch of salt. Then mix in 1 tablespoon of vegetable oil and 1 & a bit tablespoons of water. Microwave for 30-60 seconds depending on how powerful your microwave is and how gloopy you want it. Voila, a mini serving of warm chocolate brownie made from standard pantry ingredients. You never have to hunt for chocolate again!

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  15. hellopetal

    Still feeling like sh^t with this head cold thing but a lot better than a week go. Husband has had last two days off work with the same thing & said to me yesterday, ‘this is particularly nasty, no wonder you & daughter have felt like cr#p!’ No sh^t sherlock!! Any way had an acupuncture appointment today & am starting to feel so much better. Nothing like a couple of needles in your face to get the sinus congestion moving.

    OMM: Health & balance. Being a better person, being less impatient & doing more for myself, creative pursuits, things that soothe the soul.

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  16. Guest2

    Any suggestions of where to go in NSW for a few days or maybe a week with 13 year old son (just him & I) in first week of school hols (late Sept)?

    We;ve done Canberra & Port Macquarie several times already.

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    • Cath

      Seal Rocks is gorgeous, so is Mollymook and Bateman’s Bay on the south coast. I also love the Blue Mountains in Spring.

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    • anon

      Byron Bay

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    • chocolate aeroplane

      We LOVE both Port Stephens and Jervis Bay.

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      • Cath

        Oh yes Port Stephens is fabulous, especially around Soldiers Point. Good idea chocolate aeroplane!

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        • Pumba

          Nelsons Bay/Shoal Bay area is lovely. Should be warm enough to swim/surf//snorkel at that time.

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  17. Cath

    My husband has been working overseas on a yacht for the last 5 months. Tonight he jumped on a plane and left Europe and will be home for 4-6 weeks and I can not wait! I’ve missed him sooooo much. I don’t think much work will be done in my office this September ;)

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  18. MACB

    My partner was made redundant a week and a bit ago with nothing more than a few hours notice. So as he looks for work I have been offered a great new job. All should be fine except since telling my current bosses they have barely spoken to me and have requested I don’t tell any of the staff that I’m leaving… I’m a manager and have some really lovely staff including lovely school aged kids so I’m annoyed by this. Oh and they put an ad on gumtree within 2 hours of me notifying them but haven’t told me a thing so I appear like an incompetent fool when people ring to enquire (they were away most of today).

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  19. Crunchiee

    OMM: My boyfriend is pretty much doing nothing with his life right now. He graduated from uni this year with first class honours in mechatronic engineering, so he’s very very smart. He’s been applying for graduate positions for next year, and he didn’t get any of the 30 he applied for (he did make it to interview stages though). So now he’s not doing anything. I know its not really my business but I want him to keep applying and not give up!
    When I try and talk to him about it he gets all shirty with me and tells me to drop it. What am I supposed to do? He’s 22 and sits around all day watching TV and playing computer games

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    • Anonymous

      That sucks babe. He might get depressed if he’s sitting around all day with no purpose, so you’re right to be concerned. I don’t really know what you can do though!! Could he organise a trip so he has something positive to focus on, which will renew his energy for applying for things?

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  20. Alibee

    The Marriage Amendment bill passed the first reading 78-40! Woooo!

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  21. Sweetness

    Rubbish day at work. I love my job, and am endlessly patient, but today was the pits.

    Started with a phone call from a parent who was stressed and concerned because someone who knew better than to pass it on (even telling the parent that they shouldn’t be saying it) had given them wrong information. While I know they were doing it out of concern-you see 5 minutes of the day-you do not know what is being done to address the issue. Which actually isn’t even an issue, as it is managed! Grrr…

    Plus copped a few hits and kicks on playground duty, with at least 2 big bruises on my legs coming up. Awesome.

    Handful of other annoying things too that just added up to a shitty day.

    But off to puppetry of the penis tomorrow night with 10 girls from work so should be fun!

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  22. MP

    OMM: After nine months in a new city I have finally found an awesome doctor, dentist and hairdresser! So excited. The things you take for granted huh..

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    • sarahinsydney

      That is HUGE! I’ve found a great Dr and Dentist, no luck on the hairdresser and also need a good beautician.

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  23. chelsjo

    Went to a careers development event today at my university, so have graduate positions/applications OMM. I will be finishing university (I’m an accounting and information management student) at the end of next year, which I know is a while away, but we have to apparently have applications ready by early next year.

    I am not sure if I want to go straight into a graduate role when I complete my degree, and travel in a few years, or take some time out to travel first, see Australia and the rest of the world?

    I was just wondering if a few wouldn’t mind sharing what they’ve done (gone straight into work or travelled first?) and if so, did you find it worked for you, or do you wish you did something different?

    Many thanks in advance :) :)

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    • TheMrsSmith

      Hi Chelsjo

      Big decision to make! When I finished uni, I was lucky enough to secure a job working in the UK for an international travel company, who recruited at my uni every year for Business/Tourism graduates. I travelled to Edinburgh and spent a year working in a pretty rubbish job as a travel agent, with some fantastic people in an amazing city, thinking I’d do my year away, then head home and start my ‘real career’.

      After a few months back home, I realised that being in one place wasn’t for me, and ended up heading back to Europe, basing myself in Dublin, and then getting a job working for Contiki as a Tour Manager, then spending the next 5 years getting paid to host tours around Europe. It was the absolutely brilliant – and I made lifelong friends and had some unbelievable experiences. But when I returned home to Oz at the end of 2005, I found it incredibly difficult to break into my chosen field (Human Resources) even in an entry level role – with many employers finding it very difficult to recognise the value and relevance of the work I’d done in Europe. After 6-months of applying for everything, I finally managed to secure an administrative role in an HR team and worked my way up from there. 6 years on, I’m in a fantastic HR role, with a great organisation (currently on mat leave), but sometimes compare my path with friends of mine, who took the graduate path immediately out of uni. True, they are more financially secure than I am, I don’t own a house, and probably can’t afford to anytime soon (now that we’ve started a family), but I wouldn’t exchange my experiences of travelling and seeing the world for any amount of security.

      It’s a decision only you can make, but I will say this – life is short, we can’t see what’s around the corner or in store for us – so do what makes you happy. Follow your heart. Good luck!

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      • chelsjo

        Thank you for taking the time to reply to my post, I appreciate it. Your time in Europe sounds amazing!

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    • anon

      Husband and I both went straight into work. Saved up and bought a house in our early 20′s while most of our friends were travelling. We had our first baby when they were all starting to come home, mostly single and broke. Fast forward 15 years we live in the area we want to live in and are now travelling with our teenage/tweenage kids. Most of our friends who had fabulous years travelling have had to buy where they can afford, not really where they want to live, have had to compete with younger more qualified people at work just to get their careers started and are juggling huge debts and babies and toddlers..
      Its all a choice and I’m glad we made the one we did and I know they dont regret their years of travel. Just depends if you’re a risk taker or a homebody :)

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    • Chrissie88

      Well I went straight from high school to uni and straight from uni to work – but I managed to squeeze a lot in between! I did a six month exchange to Canada in my second year of uni, and have tried to do one big trip every year since. So I haven’t really felt like I’ve missed out by going straight into full time work! (TheMrsSmith, your experience sounds amazing btw! I’ve done five Contiki tours now – addict much – so I know how great they can be!). I’m also lucky to be working in a role with huge travel opportunities… in fact, I’m off overseas tomorrow (very excited). I def don’t regret anything – it doesn’t have to be one or the other (work or travel)… do it all! Anyway good luck with it all Chelsjo :)

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      • Emma in Melbourne-land

        I finished uni at the end of last year and went straight to work. I landed a federal public service graduate job with excellent (for a first year) pay and conditions. I don’t regret going straight to work at all. My boyfriend and I will be buying our first home early next year while a lot of my friends are travelling and partying around the world. You can do both. Working doesn’t mean you can’t travel. In fact I’m going to Cambodia and Vietnam for 3 weeks in November! :)

        End of the day it’s an individual choice. Good luck in making your decision :)

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  24. Ani

    OMM: due to have my 2nd baby in 5 weeks, and feeling depressed and guilty about feeling that way. I think it’s a mix of being massive, over it and really really just wanting my body back. Add that to having complication after complication this pregnancy I’m just not coping. Everyone keeps saying “not long now” but 5 weeks is a LONG time!

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    • Lozzie

      Being heavily pregnant is not fun. Can understand your frustration, especially after a troublesome pregnancy but 5 weeks really isnt that long in the scheme of things.

      Hang in there.

      Focus on the fact that by Christmas, which is not that far away, you will have a gorgeous 3 month old baby.

      Wishing you a straightforward delivery and healthy bub.

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    • Helen

      Poor thing. I feel your pain. I am finally at the point where it really isn’t long to go (one week! Yay!). But this pregnancy has been hell and I’ve been really struggling and at 5 weeks it also seemed like an eternity. I think it makes it harder as there is this expectation you should be happy but feeling like hell for such a long time really is difficult to cope with. I have also been feeling bad for my baby because all I can think about is not being pregnant anymore whereas my first pregnancy was wonderful and I felt nothing but love and joy. That probably doesn’t help much. I just wanted to let you know 5 weeks felt like a long time to me too and now I’m finally close. You will get through it and it’s ok to hate how you’re feeling. Hugs.

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    • anon

      I want my body back too! I feel so bad saying it out loud

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  25. oopsyboops

    Happy hump day all. I’m very excited to be asked to be a community moderator, and look forward to commenting more! (oh who am I kidding, I’m rather opinionated, there will be no change ;) ) But like Phoodie posted below, I like to share so any questions fire away :) (although I’m nowhere near as good a cook as Phoodie is).

    OMM: Getting healthy and the food I’m eating.
    We are also going away very very soon (driving with the kids to Sydney) so I’m getting a bit anxious about that – how will I cope, how will they cope, the actual drive, etc etc. Need to stop stressing and let whatever will be will be.

    Hug and cupcakes to everyone.

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    • hellopetal

      Congrats oopsyboops! Hope you have fun moderating away.

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    • little jojo

      Oopsyboops – feel free to post any questions or send me a message on my Facebook page (A Healthy Paradigm) if there’s anything specific you want to know re your OMM: Getting healthy and the food I’m eating. I really want to use the page to help people out. xxx

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  26. Jess C

    Got asked out at work by this sleazy, older man this afternoon. Apparently he had been standing behind me for a while looking at me and when he came to my register he was just staring at my breasts. When he finally left he said “oh I’m probably too old for you anyway”. I just smiled and said see you later.

    With the benefit of hindsight, I should have told him I prefer men who look me in the eye. Argh!

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  27. M

    Blah bleh bluhhhhh blah blah sh#tf#ckbugger

    Thank you for letting me say that

    Deep breath…onward and upward!

    Xxx

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    • hms

      Sounds like your day was like mine! Fingers crossed we both have a better day tomorrow xox

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  28. LouEm

    Work has been so hectic this week, looking forward to going home and crawling in to bed.

    Got a new bed frame so looking forward to putting that together and getting a few more things for our place to make it homey :)

    A friend of mine moved interstate a couple of years ago, and before she moved we were very close. Obviously she was very busy once she moved, I got a new job that takes up alot! of my time and our calls became less frequent. I just feel a bit cheesed off because when I call her (and it is always me calling her) she mentions how little we talk now and eventually tells me she feels its my doing. Maybe if she called me once in a while we would talk twice as much as we do now…. I do message her but rarely get a response :(

    Looking forward to date night with my partner this weekend, I love just the two of us going out and spending quality time together, being wined and dined. Hopefully this stomach bug which is stopping me from keeping any food in my body longer then 30mins goes away, I feel like I am living in the bathroom at the moment (sorry for the over share)

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  29. hms

    Had a shocker of a day which started with an argument in the staffroom with a co-worker. She wants to change the way we do everything but isn’t consulting anyone, just telling us the way its going to be done from now on. Even the boss isn’t being asked but she can’t see anything wrong with that. Is driving me up the wall at the moment.

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  30. MissKate

    OMM: The US election what a nightmare. crossing fingers Obama is reelected.

    BESTS: Returned from a wonderful holiday in the US and love looking at my pictures. Best 2: 31/2 months pregnant and very excited and feeling happy. Best 3: My little sister returns from Europe on Friday and looking forward to catching up on our O/S trip gossip over dinner Best 4: Looking forward to our holiday in a couple of weeks.

    Worst: Feeling tired due to pregnancy and at the moment don’t like to commit myself to any weeknight activities that will mean I’ll be home after 9:30pm. I think it is starting to drive hubby up the wall :) any advice???

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    • oopsyboops

      Congratulations on your pregnancy! My advice on not going out is – don’t go out. You are growing a tiny human inside of you. It is tiring. When I was pg I would get home from work, lie on the couch while hubby cooked dinner (I couldn’t even face the fridge) and then I would go to bed by 7. If you can make it to 9.30 fantastic, but don’t put any pressure on yourself. Hopefully you will have a bit more energy once you are well into the second trimester, but for the moment let your body be your guide.
      Good luck!

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      • MissKate

        Thanks for the comforting advice!! Glad to hear I’m not the only one! I guess I’ve been trying to fight through the tireness…I guess it’s an excuse to enjoy the rest.

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    • Kerr

      Congratulations!
      Honestly, my advice would be to tell your husband to get used to it (and I really don’t mean that to sound snarky). You need to look after yourself and your tiny growing person and sleep is a big part of that. Then the bubba comes and, well, sleep becomes even more important. The good news is though that most people are the most tired at the start and the end so you may have a couple of great feeling months coming up.
      Good luck with the pregnancy, babies are the best!

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    • sarahinsydney

      I was exactly the same as oopsyboops, as soon as I got home I hit the couch, hubby cooked (mostly outside as I couldn’t stand the fridge or the smell of any cooking!) and only moved from the couch to go to bed! I was supposed to have an early morning meeting once a week, I never made it! Just couldn’t do it, I was so exhausted! It is totally normal to be shattered, especially in the beginning. Look after yourself and tell your hubby that you can’t help it and it will be totally worth it! I really wish men could be regnant for a month, just to see what it feels like!

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  31. megs

    “sometimes you have to go through the bad to appreciate the good” pretty much sums it up for me atm!
    After a complete shocker of a week last week, which included finding out I had to move houses within a week and losing my passport a week out from heading overseas (hello $450 later!) this week has been amazing!

    I leave for Thailand/Europe/UK on saturday. Tomorrow is my last day of work for 6 WHOLE WEEKS! i just can’t even fathom what that amount of time off will feel like, or how amazing it will be to visit all the places i’ve only ever dreamed of visiting!

    My contract has been extended till November (I work in the QLD public service – any extension for us at the moment is a win!)

    A group of girlfriends and I had going-away dinner and drinks last saturday night, and I met a boy :) we went on a coffee date on monday and are going for dinner on thursday night. He is the first guy I’ve met in a loooong time where i walked away and thought wow – we had so much in common and he was so lovely and smart, not to mention cute! i have literally not been able to wipe the smile off my face all week. love my timing too – meeting him the weekend before i go away! ugh!
    i really felt a connection and i hope he did too (he’s text me every day since then so im thinking so!) – i’m a little worried about being away for so long but my girlfriends tell me if it is meant to be we will pick up where we left off once i return. fingers crossed!

    hope your all having a fantastic week Mm’ers

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    • LouEm

      Your friends are right, if it is meant to be then 6 weeks is not too much time to ask of him to wait. At least when your holiday is over and you are in the post holiday blues, you will have him to cheer you up. I hope things turn out for the best!

      Have a ball on your holiday, I did a 6 week trip to Europe/UK/Dubai and had the time of my life :)

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    • mags

      Oh wow! How darn exciting!!!

      The same thing happened to me, I met a guy a bit before I went to Thailand for 6 weeks. We went on two amazing dates, he waited for me for the 6 weeks and now we’re happoly in love. I hope you get this ending too!

      It’s the Europe bit I’m jealous of! :)

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      • megs

        Thanks for the lovely comments girls!

        wow mags – what a beautiful story to tell! he must have realised that you were worth the wait!i hope i can say the same! i’m going to tell him on our date tonight that i hope we can catch up when i get back – bit nervous as i would normally play it cooler on the second date – but oh well! i guess only time will tell!

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  32. Haven Maven

    Hey MMers

    Having a ‘meh’ day. Work has been kicking my arse. Woman I work with has a bunch of stuff going on and has decided to manifest it by kicking arse at work. ie mine. Got in the other day and she had completely rearranged my desk, supposedly ‘making some visible progress for the boss to see’. I was SO pissed off.

    Coloured my hair blue black last night in an attempt to cheer myself up.

    Lovely Dave has become Dickhead Dave. Why is it the minute you actually show that yes you are interested, the chase is over and they treat you like the house frau??? And no I didn’t bonk him. Maybe he just has a uterus…*sighs*

    OMM – my social crowd. Insane. Within about 6 weeks one couple has split up, gone on to find other partners, one has moved in with him, the other has gotten engaged. All within 6 weeks??!! People in their 40′s I might add.

    Kid free this weekend. Hate being at a loose end when I know I have time on my hands.

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    • iamevilcupcake

      What the hell is wrong with these people?

      Seems like all the good men are married :(

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    • Coaster

      Sorry to hear Dave’s a dud ! I did have higher hopes for him. I know that I don’t know you but I feel like I was in a similar life to you a few years ago. These days I’ve just given up on ever meeting anyone so happily live a boring single life where I work a lot.
      I just live vicariously through others, so am more disappointed than I should be to hear your news.
      Keep on trying :)

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  33. ash

    OMM: I’ve spent the last few months worrying because I thought my work wasn’t up to par. I feel like I’ve been so easily distracted, and basically just not getting enough done.
    However I had a review today with my director and manager and they both pretty much had nothing but praise for what I’ve been doing. They really put me at ease and even discussed a pay rise before Christmas. Delight! I feel much more at ease. Hopefully if I stop stressing about my performance, I will actually get more done and feel more successful!

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  34. Carrots

    This is a really odd request…

    Does anybody know of any “haunted houses” or sites in the Coffs Harbour area? Any places that have been reported (or not) as having paranormal activity?

    (Please don’t reply and tell me I’m bonkers. I’m not. There is a reason for asking.)

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  35. Teenage insecurities

    I am a single mum, grownup and independent. Started seeing a guy 6 weeks ago who I am crazy about. He says he is in love with me. BUT I find myself plagued with insecurities which I haven’t felt since before I got married and was considerably younger.

    I forgot how different men are. That they don’t communicate the same way. I sit here waiting for a “hey, how are you doing?” text or call during the day and getting nada. I have initiated those a few times but don’t want to be chasing. So is this something? Nothing? Is he just busy? Aaaaaaah. I am driving myself mad.

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    • Haven Maven

      Men are weird.

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    • Kathy W

      6 weeks dating and he says he’s in love with you? Hmmmmm

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  36. petal

    This week I have been pondering my life’s recent ‘change of gears’. The shift hasn’t been brought about by any big changes – I am still a single student, working part time, living in a share house. But my life has a really different feel now. I am really focussed on uni, I have stopped drinking alcohol, I exercise most days and am budgeting really carefully. I feel great – more balanced and happier than before. But there is something about the excitement of my old life – fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants craziness, big nights out, somewhat dysfunctional but always exciting life. I wouldn’t go back to it but sometimes I miss the excitement.

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    • MissV

      There’s no reason that you can’t occasionally indulge! hehe
      I’m a bit like you, I’ve gotten over all that excitement but still do it from time to time.

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    • Elisha

      Looks like we’re both living the same life. I miss the crazy wild nights that I would have during the weekday. But I realised I can get the extra excitement elsewhere with friends who care about me and we can usually come up with something fun and silly to do. And that is my excitement? it’s different to what it was like during my first year of uni. My weekdays are for health eating and drinking and lots of exercise! and I feel great!

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  37. Kerr

    Things are going to great for me right now. The kids are sleeping! After my first who never slept through until she was 2, after 5 months I’m feeling more confident in saying, ‘this ones a sleeper!!!’ Sleep is so great! I’m loving being back at the gym and feeling great after losing the last of my baby weight.

    (maybe related to the sleep but…) my sex drive is back! Woo hoo!

    It’s getting warmer and we are playing outside and having picnics. I’m feeling so appreciative of not having to work. Spent a lovely afternoon in the sunshine in my backyard the other day drinking tea with friends and their lovely kids.

    Just feeling really grateful for everything. That I have a lovely, safe home. There is no war outside. I have enough food, money, everything for my children. My husband, my family… I’m sure you are all sick of reading this now so i’ll stop. Could be completely different next week…

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    • Houston

      Hi, just wanted to say I loved reading your comment. Your happiness and optimism made me smile during my lunch break so thank you!

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      • Kerr

        Aww, thanks so much!

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    • phoodietweets

      Not sick of reading it AT ALL!

      In fact, didn’t want it to end…. Like Chachi’s comment below…..it is SO nice to read happy, appreciative and positive posts….. if you look for the good you will surely find it….. something i need to remind myself of a bit….

      I’m definitely a glass half full type of person but SOMETIMES it’s easy to get carried away in the cycle of complaints…..

      Thanks for the reminder to be grateful!

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    • becsparrow

      Yay Kerr! Loved reading your comment!

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  38. trace63

    I am trying to accept that some people never do learn from their mistakes and I have finally accepted that some people do not deserve my trust.

    I am trying to be a more positive person and trying to see the good in everyone, while also trying to show empathy to people. Being more courageous in my decisions and talking about the positives in my life. Basically I am in control of me and I need to steer myself in the right direction.

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  39. Rach the Muso

    OMM: A positive start to the school year!

    Auditions were yesterday, and I placed exactly in the ensembles as I’d hoped. When I think that this time last year, I was in a new country, scared, knew no one and felt completely out of place, this year has started so differently. The last few days I have been stopping to chat to every second person, helping people find where they are going and what they should be doing, even assisting new staff! I have been enjoying the fruits of a year’s worth of connections, and it feels good.

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    • Cinnamon

      Wooohoooo :) Glad to see things are going well for you :)

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  40. Tripitaka

    OMM: The mini-series “Mildred Pierce” which I’ve been watching over the last few days, staring Kate Winslet and Guy Pierce. It was very well made, but harrowing, and depressing, and I can’t stop thinking about it dammit.

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  41. JosieY

    OMM: I have a very close, very high maintanance friend. Although I love her dearly she is exhausting because I have to be SO careful what I say and how I say it. At the moment sh givin the silent treatme and I don’t know why I tend towards anxiety at the best of times, and this is causing me a heap of stress. If only she would TALK to me I could apologise (or not) and try and work things out, but I don’t have the chance. This happens about 3 times a year and I really really hate it. The thing is, she is a great and loving friend most of the time, which is why I can’t just ditch her. She’s my daughter’s godmother and her son is my son’s godfather. Big deal here! Anyone have any advice?

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    • anon

      No advice, but I can sympathise. I have a very dear friend who is super sensitive to anything that is said to her, but says the most insensitive things herself and has no idea she has done the wrong thing!I just overlook it now because I cant change it and she is otherwise a great person.

      Just ignore her and give her the time she needs to get over herself!

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    • MissV

      I have a friend like that too and I’ve started slipping in some not so thought out comments. Not speaking to her the way I would with other close friends but not being so careful either.

      She was pissed at the start but I think she’s realising that she’s being a bit dramatic about everything.

      Might be something to consider, however it may also backfire.

      Good Luck!

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    • Sweets

      Have you tried asking her why she is giving you the silent treatment?

      Sometimes it is good to call out passive aggressive people on their behaviour.

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    • Kathy W

      Read back what you just wrote. If this were a friend saying this to you, what would you advise them to do?

      This person is not a friend. Friends love unconditionally and make you feel good – not anxious. What’s the worst that could happen if you call her on her crummy behaviour? She will cut off the friendship?? If that happens, you’ve found out she’s not worth having as a friend. More than likely it won’t happen and she might be shamed into examining her manipulative, cruel attitude.

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    • elle

      The ‘silent treatment’ is a form of passive aggression and completely not okay. Your friend needs to learn how to communicate effectively because it’s just not possible to have a good relationship with someone who regularly shuts down and won’t talk.
      You need to set some boundaries and not let her keep behaving like this. Maybe tell her how much you value the friendship but that it is not okay for her just to shut down and ignore you when she’s upset by something. Tell her you need to be able to communicate when there is a problem because this isn’t working.

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  42. Natalia

    I am having an excellent week. This will probably change very rapidly when it gets to Friday night and I have to spend the entire weekend doing an essay on constitutional law – but hey, so far so good :)

    OMM – My mum has got a big birthday coming up in December and we’re starting to plan it now. She can’t decide if she wants to just have it at a restaurant, or get everyone over to our house and have it catered, etc etc. Any suggestions? Anyone been to an awesome party lately?

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    • Myv

      My mum just had her 50th and wasn’t planning on having anything until we talked her into it. We ended up having a party at home and getting it catered for. It was really good as everyone could stay as late as they wanted and things got pretty raucous on the make-shift dance floor.

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    • Amy

      Ooh Nat I feel your pain! Constitutional law essays were awful. But hang in there, it does end up getting kind of interesting. Lots of tea, plenty of chocolate and you’ll be done before you know it. Good luck! xx

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    • HB

      We had a great party for my (very young!) mother’s 70th – we had it at home, but had it catered by the Asylum Seekers’ Resource Centre – they run a program for refugees to learn business/hospitality skills and it was fabulous. The food was of an excellent standard, and it was a great way to introduce some of the oldies to new cultures through food ;-)

      We were also able to use music from the various nationalities to further the link, and had lots of people up dancing.

      Mind you, this was in Melbourne – it might be hard if you are not in a major city.

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    • Kitten

      My mum and I ran away to Italy for her 50th! :)

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  43. Cinnamon

    OMM is the wedding I just went to in Toronto with my husband. One of my closest friends got married and it was so amazing to be there to see it happen! We drove there, took us 5 hours to get there because the traffic was atrocious but luckily on the way back it was 4 hours and we got through the Canadian/USA border pretty quick which was good since the last time we drove to Toronto we got held up at the border.

    Anyway the wedding was a lot of fun, we got to Toronto on Friday night, then Saturday the whole day was wedding stuff (one ceremony in the afternoon and reception at night) and then we drove back on the Sunday…. so not much time spent there but like I said it was, for me, the best feeling to be there to see my friend get married. Have been through so much with her, she was even with me when I met my husband that one random night back in 2007 :)

    I’m sad that her and her husband are moving back to Melbourne, where they will be living for now… and my husband and I are now living here and away from Melbourne (our home)… would have been nice to be there as well and have another couple to hang out with!

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    • Rach the Muso

      Glad it was good for you! I would love to see Canada.

      I get the couple hanging out thing! Especially being on campus…it is hard having other people my own age to hang out with, let alone other couples!

      Sorry I have been absent of late…between moving, starting school and working, I am lucky to even get meals and a decent bedtime! :) Things will calm down soon, I hope!

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      • Cinnamon

        Thanks! Toronto is great, the first time we went we stayed in the downtown area and got to see a bit of that area, although we only stayed for a day that time. This time our hotel was near the airport and not in the best location! So we really didn’t see anything/go anywhere other than to the wedding stuff. Toronto really reminds me a lot of Melbourne and was making both husband and I so homesick! It’s a cool place to visit, I don’t know that we’d go back there now that my friend is back in Melbourne but who knows. Traffic there is absolutely crazy though!

        No worries about being absent, hope you have settled into your new place well :) And I hope things calm down soon for you ;)

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    • phoodietweets

      I love weddings and would love to go to one in Canada as well!

      So glad that you got to be there with your friend on her special day. Those memories are priceless.

      You know, these days the world is just such a BIG Place in that everyone just lives everywhere….. gone are the days when families all live in the one city and in a way its sad but it’s also just “life” now, right!?

      My husband is from South Africa and his family are now spread LITERALLY across the whole world. I’ve met many of them and they are all amazing people, and whilst we miss them lots and lots, it gives us an “excuse” to travel and beautiful family to hang out with in so many of our holiday destinations!

      :)

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      • Cinnamon

        Thanks Phoodie! You’re so right about the whole everyone being everywhere these days…my family is definitely all spread out. My older sister and her family live in Perth, my younger sis lives in Tassie, my parents have a house in Melbourne but they are always travelling for work and husband and I are in the U.S now.

        It’s hard knowing we are all in different places but as you said it’s life!

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  44. Renee

    OMM: Had an interesting discussion with a client yesterday about how perceived advantages can actually be disadvantages. It started because we were talking about people in the industry that I’m researching for him, and I said how I felt a natural affinity towards those that had succeeded from poor backgrounds, since that’s where I’ve come from. By contrast, he is from a very wealthy famous (in Aus!) background, and so is his wife, and have had every advantage in life to succeed (which they both have). We were talking about his wife in particular and how people just see “the rich b**ch playing at (her job)” rather than the struggle to get accepted in a male dominated industry and to be taken seriously in her own right, not just as an extension of her father. I said “surely she’s been at the top for long enough that she is seen as successful on her own, because that’s how I see her. And in a lot of ways, I admire her from a feminist point of view for being great in a male industry while retaining her own charisma and style” But apparently I’m in the minority. They’ve recently done some focus groups for an ad campaign, and the whole silver spoon thing came up a lot.

    So I have all these ideas about perception rattling around in my brain. And now with your article on being called a cow – is part of it just because she’s female? And how, well, old-fashioned is that! (now back to writing bios)

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  45. Chachi

    I have been so sick this winter and generally feeling run down and low on energy. So I decided that I am going to stop focusing on the bad so much and really make an effort to look at the great things going on around me and enjoy it all.

    It is so easy to get caught up in the little things that bother you or bring you down and before you know it you are overwhelmed.

    So I made the decision to stop letting the little things get to me.

    Instead here are some things that are pretty damn awesome in my life right now:

    1. I have a great fiancée who has decided he should cook dinners more….well that’s good for some many reasons

    2. I have great friends who I can share a laugh with and also have a good bitch session when needed

    3. My hair is finally through that awful ‘not long enough and not short enough, but somewhere in the middle’ stage

    4. It’s almost springtime!

    5. I get to plan a honeymoon……

    6.I have amassed five great books to read, so I don’t have to go searching for more for at least 10 days :)

    7. I have a remedial massage on the weekend which I really need

    8. I am lucky enough not to be allergic to or unable to enjoy chocolate – very lucky indeed

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    • vivacious

      I totally agree with this mindset. I wrote a post on it for the C.R.O.W.N Project that you might like to read on how I do this every day: http://thecrownproject.blogspot.com.au/2012/08/findinghappiness.html

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    • phoodietweets

      I love this comment!

      So positive and just made me feel happy reading it.

      It’s so true that if we look for things to complain about we will surely find them, just as the opposite is true!

      Thank-you!

      :)

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      • Chachi

        phoodietweets your comment made me feel happy reading it :)

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    • shan

      this is lovely, thank you!

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      • Chachi

        Feel free to share your own things that make you thankful

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    • Renee

      I love your #8. I am allergic to chocolate!! But I figure there are plenty of other vices :)

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  46. Sienna

    Em’s skull leggings -yuk!
    Mia’s black shoes – not so nice!
    Boots in pic 6 -hideous!
    OMM: What is Waf’s real name?

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    • phoodietweets

      I LOVE Mia’s shoes….. actually came very close to purchasing them myself but couldn’t decide on a colour and took that as a hint to shut my page down right away!!

      :)

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      • jamilarizvi

        Oh Phoodie.

        You confirm your status as the loveliest person alive – I tried to like Mia’s shoes, I really and truly did but it this case the shoes do not do justice to the wearer! So glad to have you on board as a moderator.

        Jamila x

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        • LaLaLauren

          At first I was a bit iffy of those shoes too. I think they look good when paired with the correct pants/outfit. Some nice (probably dark) skinny’s and a rocking leather jacket, and they’d look great!

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        • phoodietweets

          You’re phunny Jam Jam! :)

          I honestly LOVE the IM sneakers….I actually can’t stop thinking about them….

          STUFF IT!

          They’re gonna be mine!

          Will tweet a pic!

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    • Waff

      Hi Sienna, Waff is short for Waffaete and that rhymes with Yvette if you’d like to know how it’s pronounced.That’s my real name. :)

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  47. Anonymous

    OMM: so happy those Kmart ads (the ones with the lollies) are gone from this site. They were bloody annoying.

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    • Rach the Muso

      Same here!

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  48. phoodietweets

    Hi Everyone!

    Yeeeeeeee hawwwww – gotta love a Wednesday….. only 2 more sleeps ’til Friday and my how I heart those Fridays :)

    Bring on the weekend!

    I’ve had a pretty good week….with one exception…. my son has been sick. Nothing serious, but sick enough to massively disrupt everyone’s sleep and that alone is all you need to send anyone mad. He’s getting better and that’s the main thing….. It’s quite amazing how when one of your kids is sick EVERYTHING is just so much harder…..Every time one of them is sick I say to myself (and to anyone who’ll listen) “I promise I won’t complain about the boring, day to day things I always normally do as soon as he’s better”…. and then the kids get better and I start to complain anyway….whatever :)

    I’ve been FLAT OUT busy the past few weeks….. I’ve been blogging like mad, sketching for the cookbook ’til I can barely draw a straight line and looking after the 2 babies, as per usual! I’m always so much happier AND so much more productive when I’m busy busy….I think most people are…..

    In other SUPER DUPER news I am now officially a MM Community Moderator and I couldn’t be more pumped! I ADORE this site and the phenomenal village of people who make it what it is. I love asking for and offering advice here, having a general chit-chat and learning new things. The MM community is full of witty, intelligent, thoughtful and compassionate people and it makes this just the best place ever to “hang out” online.

    One of the main things I love is when I change my opinion about how I feel about something based on just reading through the comments that people have left. This happens often. Ok, maybe not necessarily COMPLETELY change my opinion, but certainly stop in my tracks and ask myself why I have always thought a certain way about something and why I haven’t considered certain other view points.

    I come here every day to read/comment so if you have any questions about ANYTHING (ok maybe not ANYTHING….I’m not going to tell you the last time I waxed my legs!) PLEASE feel free to ask! If you can’t find me on here one day or need to know something IMMEDIATELY (E.G the risotto is on the stove and you aren’t sure if you need to add the next ladle of stock yet) you can find me on twitter (@phoodietweets) on email (phoodietweets@gmail.com) or on FB (www.facebook.com/phoodieblog).

    Now… i’m off to get my cuppa and start browsing the comments!

    Have a good day!

    :)

    Phoodie – MM Community Moderator

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    • JamandCream

      That stack looks so good!

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    • LaLaLauren

      Phoodie – I love you! I think your awesome. So excited to be reading more from you on here!

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    • Kerr

      What is a community moderator? And can you please come over for morning tea, and bring that stack? I’ll make the coffee!

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      • phoodietweets

        Every time i see your name I get an image of Miranda Kerr in Angel Wings strutting down the runway! Hilarious!

        A CM is someone like me who is a regular commenter and hanger-outerer (hehehe) on the site. We are here to answer questions / help out / welcome peeps and keep an eye out to ensure that all commenters keep it real….so to speak…. you know make sure everyone’s down with the “dinner party” rules and contributes to respectful discussion when topics become heated!

        I PROMISE you can EASILY make the stack yourself. EASILY. Just make it over a couple of days and make sure you have 100 people coming over because that’s LITERALLY how many people it feeds!

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        • Kerr

          Yep, that’s pretty much exactly what I look like! I’ve just joined your FB page, why did I not find this earlier?!? Looks amazing!

          Great idea about the CM too!

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    • becsparrow

      We are so lucky to have you!!!!

      WOO!

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  49. sarahinsydney

    Humpy day!

    Thrilled to be asked to be a MM moderator, I love this site and look forward to continuing to be a prt of this great community.

    Very excited to have a friend and her daughter arriving tomorrow from Adelaide!

    Sydney keeps turning on gorgeous weather, this city is getting better every day!

    Nooooooo clue what to get my hubby for Father’s day!

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    • jamilarizvi

      We’re so excited to have you!

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    • Meltie

      Yay Sarah!
      Who’s coming? V exciting,
      Love that you’re a CM -you’ll do a fantastic job :) x

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    • becsparrow

      Sar

      You’re the perfect addition as a CM!

      Glad to hear you’re loving Sydney!

      It’s cold and wet in Adelaide. Sigh.

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  50. MissV

    OMM: How do you find real estate agents to rent our your property?

    OMM 2: My nana, I love her to bits but she’s very needy. Mum and I can only talk when I’m at work because my nana gets jealous and interrupts me if I talk to mum or starts telling my mum she’s a bad daughter for ignoring her. There’s really nothing that can be done. Just frustrating.

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    • Anonymous

      I dont want to be rude but is it possible your nana has some kind of dementia? paranoia can be a sign of fronto-temporal dementia before forgetfulness.

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    • Josie

      Contact local real estate agents and ask what their management fees are, how often they do inspections etc

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    • Cinnamon

      We went through a local agent when we had to rent out our place before moving overseas.

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    • MissV

      ooh thanks for the advice

      anonymous, it’s a possibility, she is 89 but she seems to be pretty spot on so far. Will keep an eye out though

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