Mia with Fin in Byron Bay
By REBECCA SPARROW
Next time I suggest traveling alone on a plane with two children under the age of four, I hope someone tenderly takes my arm, murmurs soothing words in my ear and gently leads me to an ambulance. Because if I ever agree again to be in charge of two children on a flight it means that I’m incredibly ill. Or drunk.
And so it was that last week I flew in the face of sanity and yet again boarded a flight with Ava (3 yo) and Fin (8 months). Walking down the aisle of the plane, looking for our seats - with Fin in the Baby Bjorn and Ava behaving oh, not unlike Dustin Hoffman in Rain Man – the other passengers tried hard not to make eye contact with us. A bit like frightened hostages. Bless.
So how did it go? Put it this way, Fin spewed and Ava spent the first 30 minutes with her hands over her ears yelling out, “I DON’T LIKE THE BUMPING! STOP THE BUMPING!’
Meanwhile I sat there praying the flight attendant understood morse code. One blink means I want a double vodka. Two blinks means … well, I still want a double vodka.
We survived, of course. Thanks to a few old-fashioned games and a sing-along.
Just joking.
I handed Ava the iPad and closed my eyes while Fin stuck his fingers up my nose for 52 minutes.
Are we there yet?
Thankfully the holiday was utter bliss. I traveled to Northern NSW to stay with my parents. As soon as I walk in the door of their house, I exhale. It’s one of my happy places where my spirit uncoils. Better still, I had the chance to spend time near the ocean. Drinking tea with my mum. Reading a tantalising book. Talking politics with my dad.
Browsing through boutiques ALONE. And – best of all — having long hours sitting around with Mia (who was also on holidays in Byron – I flew up for her birthday so we could have some much-needed time together) when I went to visit her down the road. Is there anything better than hanging out with a girlfriend just lazing around on couches while you parent your toddlers in tandem and pass each other articles in Vanity Fair to read?
I don’t think there is. And it was enough to psych me up for the flight back home!
So that’s my week. Here’s what’s been going on around Mamamia HQ …
This is the Mamamia team sitting around watching Julia Gillard's amazing performance during question time on Tuesday.
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This is the one where we get to talk about anything right? I want to talk about anyone whose partner has to travel for work? My boyfriend is currently overseas for work, he left a week ago and I have a week to go – we have been together for about 9 months and live together – I lived on my own for 5 years before that – but I am just not coping well with his being away. I get upset about it at some point every day and am just so unmotivated to do anything. I work for myself and yesterday I spent the entire day in bed. I think I am being silly and I can’t understand why I’ve turned into such a crazy lady while he is away – anyone else whose partner goes away for work feel like this? Does it get easier?
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Hi there Sarah, easy answer is yes! and no. i’ve been with my partner for 3 years now, he is generally away more often than he is home. he’s not a FIFO worker, his shifts are not regular or scheduled, so we never know when he’ll be going away next. the shortest he’s been away is under a week, the longest is 3 months. The first few trips were the worst, when I missed him constantly and was basically miserable the whole time. Now, I know that I’m usually ok for the first week, the second week I start to get a bit irritable and by the third week I’m struggling. During this time i make sure that I’m sitting around at home as little as possible. Go to the gym, catch up with friends, see your family – keep busy. Schedule specific times so that people are holding you accountable (..to give some motivation). It makes the time a whole lot easier. And eventually it wont be so hard when he goes away. Apologies for the long response, these are just my experiences, but i hope they might be helpful for you. just think about how lovely it will be to see him again
take care x
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@Bec, Sydney to Byron with two kids – easy peasy
Try single handed Manchester to Sydney with a 2 year old and 3 year old. My kids are now 22 and 23 and I still haven’t recovered!! Not that it’s a competition, but do I win???
Have a good weekend y’all
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Well – he has arrived our beautiful 3rd son Charlie Benjamin. I have fallen in love with him.
I get home tomorrow from hospital & am nervous about the months ahead with 3 little boys under 5.
Any suggesions?
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Hearty congratulations! You lucky duck! I have two boys and dream of having a third baby boy. Seeing as I don’t have three I can’t offer any real advice but when I was stressing about bringing home #2 a wise friend told me that after a few weeks having two would be my “new normal” and it would all work itself out. I’m very happy for you xx
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Congratulations!
I had 4 under 5 and all I can say is dont worry about the little things. Looking after yourself and your gorgeous family is the most important thing. Tidy house and gourmet meals arent important.
You will adjust very quickly, but for those first few weeks where you’re all sorting it out, get some good kids DVDs for your toddlers to distract them while you’re feeding and a playpen to keep the baby safe from cuious little people when you need to go to the loo! Blowing bubbles can create lots of simple and safe fun for the kids. And if you have them all sitting across the back seat of your car together be wary of little pieces of food being fed into the baby’s mouth while you’re driving! I had my 2yo try to ‘share’ her tiny teddy’s with her 4 week old brother while I was driving.
Good luck.
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It is just over 10 weeks to Christmas! Holidays…woo hoo
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I was made redundant last week. I work in a small PR consultancy and was told that there just wasn’t enough work to keep me on. It sucked, but I understood. I came in to the office today to find that a new girl has started working here. Not. Very. Impressed.
My last day is meant to be 30 Oct, but I really would just prefer that my boss paid out my notice period. It is pretty damn hard to find the motivation right now and I’m finding it somewhat demeaning being here.
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If they have just hired someone else to do the same tasks as you then it wouldn’t be considered a genuine redundacy under employment law..you might want to enquire with Fair Work or your state’s employee ombudsman about that.
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I’m just loving reading the outpouring of support Gillard is getting for her message to Abbott. Regardless of how you feel about JG as a politician, it is so wonderful to have a PM stand up and school TA (and Australia) on what constitutes sexism and how sexism is no longer acceptable.
For so long, people have sneered at anyone who mentions feminism or who points out and objects to sexism. You’re called a prude, told to loosen up, told to stop playing the victim. To have a PM stand up and give clear cut examples of sexism is relieving. To have her drive the point home that sexism IS real, is important and is unacceptable is brilliant.
I finally feel like I’m not being a crazy feminazi if I’m offended by a sexist comment. Maybe the backlash against feminism (and the existence of raunch feminism) is over and we can finally acknowledge and fight sexism again.
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I have decided to move to Melbourne next year after living in Queensland for most of my life. I will graduate with a degree in journalism and politics and a Diploma in social work. Does anyone have any advice for me regarding Melbourne? How different is it to Queensland? Does anyone know whether it is worth it job wise for the industries I want to get into? I welcome any and all information
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Hi! I have lived in Melbourne all my life and actually graduated from my degree in Journalism last year. I won’t lie, the job market in Melbourne is really tough. I don’t know what it’s like in Queensland, but the job market is really tight here. Especially for media jobs.They are out there, it’s just super competitive so be prepared for that. There are other options though, like the public service (I work for a federal department). or grad programs! I was a grad this year and it was an awesome opportunity. Melbourne is an awesome city to live in, I’m sure you’ll love it if you make the move. Good luck!
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There are plenty of jobs in the social work field though so that may be a good start. Melbourne is a great place to live, it’s vibrant & there is always some major event on, just brace yourself for our cold winters!
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Advice re. Melbourne? Consider Sydney.
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Thanks everyone
I was thinking of looking for social work jobs first. i can work full time in that whilst I get used to the city and then put feelers out for media jobs.
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OMM: a friend was diagnosed with Breast Cancer last Friday and she is handling with a mix of humour and tears. Her support team is quietly rallying around her.
Whereas another friend had a house move fall through and you would think it was the end of the world……..I am trying to be supportive, but perspective needs to be gained.
Am I being too judgmental?
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so much on my mind. My friend lost her baby at 20wks pregnant last week after the routine scan revealed her beautiful baby boy had died , probably only a few days before based on his size. Just so heart breaking, I cry for her and I can’t begin to fathom what she is going through.
another friend was meant to be married this weekend , her relationship broke down just a few weeks ago and they cancelled the wedding, she has lost so much weight from stress and is so pale.
my hubby is working away this week for the next few weeks,I’m hating it. We don’t live in the best area and there’s a club just down the road so drunk groups walk down our street late at night quite often, our letterbox has been stolen and our fence graffitied a few times so, rational or not, im always on high alert when I’m alone.
find out in a couple of days wether our second round of fertility treatment has worked…. I’m trying be calm but I know if it doesn’t work it will hurt …. This will be 2 years of trying
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Wow anna, you *do* have a lot on your mind. I’m sending you every good vibe I have that you get the answer you’re hoping for in a few days time. Just please try to remember you’ll have a big group of us waiting for you here either way xo
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I feel like I am being left behind by the whirlwind that is social media. I want to understand Twitter and Tumblr and hashtags (seriously, Charlotte on Geordie Shore was SPEAKING in hashtags last night [my husband was watching it, truly] and I didn’t understand what that meant!!!). I used to be able to participate in conversations on MM during the day, but darn it if my job doesn’t get in the way, so by the time I get home, do dinner, baths and bed, talk to my husband and try to catch up, everyone is 40 miles ahead. All my old online communities chat frequently and I’ve turned into the kid no one picks for the rounders team.
I write, and I want to make a career of it. Today I was looking at a FB writing group page and they were talking about their blogs and websites and portfolios, and hashtags, the BLOODY HASHTAGS!!! Ahhh! I nearly unplugged all the appliances in the house and declared us Born Again Amish. I need to learn all this stuff because apparently I need to use it to get any work.
I’m an intelligent 36 year old woman who’s travelled halfway around the world by myself and can MacGuyver a kid size space ship out of a toilet roll, some leftover foil squares and blu-tack.Why can’t I understand the hashtags!!!
I feel like a big old dunce.
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I also need to add Dropbox and Flipboard to that list. Oh, heck, let’s just say every app on my (very shiny) phone…
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Hi Mamamia. I posted a really long and (hopefully) helpful response to Shaezys problem late last night. Please dig it up for me as it took a little while to write it up in a way I hope she will understand well
Thank you xx
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Oh thank you Tryingtohelp:)!! I hope MM can find it – I’d love to have a read and learn something!!! (I feel like I need to insert something here like #confused and hope it;s right lol)
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Oh how frustrating it’s still not here! Well I’m only 16 and to be fair dont have twitter but I think this is how it works. If an artist (like taylor swift for example) wanted to receive feedback/ increase curiosity around her upcoming album she might post a tweet ( a short message on her twitter feed) that says something like ‘Can’t wait for all of you to hear #RED! It’s going to blow your minds’. Now in this instance the hashtag symbol used is a signal of sorts to her millions of followers. If they then have something to say about the album RED they will hashtag that particular word so it becomes a trending topic. NOW as someone who doesn’t have twitter I can look up the word ‘RED’ and suddenly millions of opinions about the album are coming up on my screen (all filtered to be relevant because of the hashtag symbol.) So it’s really just a way to get conversations flowing about particular topics and being able to find the ones you’re interested in asap. This is why on shows like qanda or X factor they often have tweets showing down the bottom of the screen. And before an artist sings there will be a hastag like #thecollectiverock or likewise on screen and while they are singing all these people on twitter critique their performance and use that hashtag in their post. Then the X Factor producers can shift through this ‘trending topic’ in real time and post the ones they like. There are literally billions of tweets out there, so its just a way to gage opinion on ‘hot topics’ of the moment quickly. I HOPE THIS HELPED. AND THAT IT POSTS! Good luck with your writing shaezy
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Oh Bec, I could relate to your plane trip, and I could just imagine it all happening as i was reading it, including the fingers up your nose (parents put up with anything sometimes!), how serene your parents’ place must be and so on..sound like bliss. It’s great that you got to enjoy some timeout with Mia too – your strong friendship is evident when you or Mia write about each other. I enjoyed reading your post above.
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I’ve never made a “life to do” list before, always thought they were a little naff. However… things have changed a little over the last month or two and I feel like I need some direction, a goal, something to make me look ahead.
So I’ve started two lists. The first is simply a “to do” … including knocking off the last five countries to get to my 30 before 30 goal, go horse riding for first time etc. The second list is a “things to look forward to” list. This is the one that is keeping me positive and focused.
There’s nothing quite like the conclusion of a long term relationship to make you re-evaluate your life position. As my mum said this morning, there’s no point in wallowing.
Love xx
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I’m having a good week! I’m fitting into my new job really well and, despite my partner struggling to find a job post ‘surprise redundancy’ (regional NSW… If you’re not in the mines too bad!) am very optimistic.
Oh and I received my awesome prize from Mamamia today in the post… My 50 Shades of Grey classical album!!
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OMM: I’m overseas at the moment, but I’m really getting the sense that there has been a turning of the tide in male/female relations in Australia since Jill Meagher’s murder. There seems to be a lot of discussion – not just on MM but by The Age and Herald Sun – about ingrained sexism in Australian attitudes. First, there was the examination of why women are unsafe both on the streets and in their homes, and now there is JG finally calling TA out on being a sexist idiot with his head in the 1950s. It’s disappointing to hear some commentators saying JG was playing the ‘victim’ card. No, she wasn’t. She was calling sexist comments sexist comments, and finally stating that sexism is not acceptable.
Why is racism and homophobia unacceptable (rightly) but sexism is? Answer: Because it’s so ingrained it seems normal. Let’s stop it from being normal, please. Thank you MM for helping lead the way xx
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If sexism contributed to Jill’s death then it is the judiciary who are to blame, not ordinary men.
And, as a woman the same age as Gillard, I say it was a well rehearsed tirade orchestrated to play her gender advantage and throw the attention of the real issue.
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I think that pointing out that a man who could well be our next PM holds fundamentally sexist attitudes and contempt for women is a very real and important issue. FAR more important than the fact that some douchebag sent some crass text messages (they’re as much about gay insinuations as they are about vaginas, if you’ve actually read them)
And I’m not sure how the judiciary is to blame for Jill’s death more than sexism is. Judiciary is shaped by society – it isn’t a separate entity. It is prevailent and incidious sexism and misogyny that causes the high rates of sexual assault and violence against women. It is also what causes victim blaming when assaults occur. Furthermore, it is sexism that dictates the attitudes towards alleged sexual assault victims and victims of domestic violence, which means that there is a low rate of reporting and an even lower rate of conviction in these matters.
So why is sexism not a “real issue” to you?
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I’m sorry, did the judiciary rape and murder her? Nope, it was an ordinary man. Just like all the men who rape, murder and sexually assault are ordinary men. They’re men, not laws.
Most individual men are kind, gentle and protective of women. But every time they buy Zoo mag or call a girl a slut, they perpetuate the misogynist culture which supports and encourages the evil men who hate and harm women.
Until sexism disappears, men will keep raping, beating and killing women (at a far great rate than they rape and sexually assault other men). This inequality in the gendered victim/perpetrator pattern won’t change until women are seen as equal humans and not just vagina-support-systems-pretending-to-be-as-clever-and-functional-as-men (like those silly chicks in the handbag hit squad, or our hysterical PM).
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Can you explain further what you mean re the judiciary being to blame for Jill’s death, rather than ordinary men? Isn’t it ordinary men who commit crimes, and the judiciary tries to run around after them to clean up their messes?
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OMM:
1. My lack of man-time. It’s been a few weeks and I’m getting antsy. The first week and a bit is easy cos I’m all happy.Then is starts heading downhill and I start being quite shitty. Now that I know our next “date” isnt too far away I’m on the up again. It’s like being on a roller coaster, and I really hate rides.
2. I’m desperate to find my own place to live and saving like crazy. Found the most gorgeous little house but there is no way I can afford it. My job has terrible pay but there just isn’t anything else around the fits my skill set (this job is below my qualifications).
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OMM:
My funny, sensitive, creative, smart, loving and loud middle-miss (6.5 yrs) is currently being assessed for a very probably diagnosis of ADHD/ADD. I have very mixed feelings of both relief (it will explain quite a few things) and heartbreak (it’s an incurable and difficult condition that she is likely to struggle with for life). It’s early days yet so still getting my head around it all. There’s a strong family history – my husband is ADD as is my brother so I’m not surprised that one of my girls is affected. I’m sure when they give us the inevitable diagnosis though it will still be a shock. I’m also bracing myself for the different reactions from others as, like with most mental illnesses, it’s a condition that is both misunderstood and stigmatised.
I am encouraged by the knowledge that there are many creative, successful and smart people who are/were ADHD (eg. Jim Carrey, Einstein, Bill Gates, Walt Disney) so I realise it’s not all doom and gloom.
I also know that there could be a whole lot worse things going on with any one of my girls and there are other parents out there with a lot more to worry about than me.
I would be interested to hear any thoughts from any other parents though, that have had their child diagnosed with ADHD/ADD – especially any girls as it’s so uncommon in girls.
Thanks for reading this far.
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ca, no matter what diagnosis you get, I’d recommend a full hair analysis before you start conventional treatment. I’ve heard wonderful things. Good luck either way.
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Thank you – I will look into it!
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Completely relate Bec – could tell a couple of similar stories of travelling alone with children but not nearly as dramatic as my friend who got on the plane at JFK in New York with her two little girls. As she sat down, she found out the hard way that her youngest was a little unwell and vomited all over herself and my friend. My friend did have a change of clothes or two for her but unfortunately due to a technical issue the plane was delayed on the tarmac for… wait for it… five hours! During this time all remaining changes of clothes were also ruined. My friend ended up so upset she decided she wanted to go home and start the journey again another day but despite begging the crew to let her off the plane, they refused. She then had to travel all the way to Australia smelling of vomit.
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OMM:
I found out I am pregnant today. My period was late but thought little of it as this is my first month off the pill, so assumed it would take some time for it to become regular…
The enormity of it is sinking in, and as excited as I am, I am also terrified! I am telling my partner tomorrow and he will be over the moon!
Wow what a day!
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Congratulations Scorp! Very special indeed. x
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Yay for you! So exciting!!
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Oh congratulations! Tell us in Best and Worst on Friday how your other half responds!
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Thanks for the lovely comments
I will let you know how he reacts. Poor thing will be coming off night shift when I tell him so hopefully he can get some sleep once he knows haha
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Oh Bec xx
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OMM: I am feeling out of place at the moment, both at work (new workplace with some big old personalities who seem to have difficulties being nice to a newbie), and left out of my family. I went out for dinner with my sisters last night and I felt like I was invisible. I tried so hard to offer interesting conversation, took a real interest in their lives & gave genuine complements. Not one bit of interest was shown to me. I know this post is so woe is me but I feel so crap at the moment. I wish people didn’t have such an impact on me, I feel like I have way too many sensors and that others behaviour affects me way too much, but as hard as I try to make that mental shift I just can’t seem to do it. Can anyone offer any advice? Thanks.
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Go spoil yourself and treat yourself to a spa day. Be the good friend to you that you need rigt now x
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I am so feeling the same way at the moment. Despite all the evidence to the contrary, I’m feeling alone and just want to be unsociable anyway. I am also in a new workplace and the stress of wanting to make a good impression and finding my feet doesn’t help.
Is it possible you are overreacting to the situation last night? Is there anyone else who can offer a different perspective? Did anyone else go to dinner with you and your sisters?
My advice would be to treat yourself to whatever it is that makes you feel good. My husband is away this weekend and I’m planning on a quiet weekend(I’m a real homebody and feel like I haven’t been there in ages), maybe going to a movie (by myself), maybe a swim, whatever I want to do without having to consider someone else’s feelings first.
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Thankyou for your replies. I have taken the time today to spend time with people who genuinely care for me and it’s made the world of difference.
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oooh, I did the plane flight thing with a two-year-old, a four-year-old and six pieces of luggage. To New York. On my own. Almost killed me. Especially when I switched planes in San Francisco and the check-in guy informed me we weren’t sitting together.
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I would have thought that not sitting with your children on a flight was an idea that many mothers could warm to!
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I am just reeling over the story about 14 year old Malala Yousafzai. She was campaigning for the right to an education. How does justify being shot in the head. I hope this courageous young woman survives. I’m feeling very grateful that I live in a society where everyone has the right to a good education.
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Mmmmm trying to find Bridal Shoes that aren’t hideously ugly! Does anyone have any tips on where to find them? Online preferably as live in the middle of nowhere!
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There are about a million here: http://www.lightinthebox.com/c/wedding-shoes_2664
I’ve ordered dance shoes from them. They take a few weeks to come and be careful with your sizing, go with the chart not with what you normally take but there is heaps of variety.
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I got my bridal shoes online because I too live in the middle of no where! The site was suna.com.au and they have a store in Rockhampton. I loved my shoes!
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Kathk,
Depends how much you want to spend… I bought mine on Amazon, they are Badgley Mischka – a pretty pink colour, but they were over $200.
Good luck!
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help please mm’ers!! I’ve come off the pill nearly two months ago now and still no sign of a period.
I was on the pill for approx 7-8 years.
Has anyone else had to wait a while for natural ovulation?
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After coming off the pill I didn’t have my first period for 6 months. However it wouldn’t hurt to speak to your GP if you are a bit concerned or trying to conceive.
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It took me 6 months too before getting a period. Dr Google told me to go to the doctor if it took longer than 6 months (but obvioulsy don’t wait if you are concerned about anything)
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My bestie had to wait for 8 months to get her period back. She ended up seeing a natropath who specialised in hormones, and that got her back on track. It’s pretty normal for your body to have an adjustment period, but I’d go see a professional to get it sorted anyway. Good luck!
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It took me 10 months to get mine back after a similar number of years in the pill and I conceived on the second cycle after that. But if you’re worried I would go to the doc anyway. In my case I suspected poly cystic ovarian syndrome but never had it checked out further because I’ve had no issues along those lines since but I still wouldn’t be surprised if my hormones are a bit atypical. I don’t believe the pill caused any issues for me but I did suspect that it had masked an unusual cycle.
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thank you i feel better now! I think i will wait for 3 months and then go get it checked out.
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I forgot to mention that my bridesmaid picked the dress and is now having it shortened so that she can wear it again
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Hi everyone, I was wondering if you could give me some advice. I have recently come to the realisation that I don’t like my brother in law very much and I’m not sure if there is anything I can do about it. He is really shallow and vain, the only thing that impresses and interests him in life is money. He lives way beyond his means, he has a “normal” average-paying job yet he only ever buys designer clothing and expensive things. He constantly talks about money, the things he will do one day when he wins the lotto etc. I feel like I’ve tried with him but have come to the conclusion that there isn’t anything more to him, that this is all he is about.
I’ve always considered myself to be a down to earth sensible person who hangs around other like-minded people. I’ve never known anyone who behaves this way and is so superficial and obsessed with money, and I just don’t know how to handle him.
When he says something stupid about how life is all about fancy cars and everyone should own a designer wallet, should I say something, is there a point? Or should I just limit my conversaton with him? I spend a fair bit of time around him as my husband and him are pretty close but I am getting increasingly frustrated with his attitude.
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Hes probably not worth worrying about.
With these types, i tend to live by the ‘dont fight with an idiot – they will bring you down to their level and beat you with experience’. You obviously know that possessions and keeping up with the Jones’ is a farce, but I doubt anyone as deluded as he is will see sense.
If you need to say anything, maybe just a simple ‘not all of us value those things’ would suffice?
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This is not exactly advice, but maybe a different perspective that could help. I’ve come across a lot of people who act like your brother in law, and what I always find is that the superficial topics are a mask for their insecurities.
People generally don’t like being vulnerable, some more so than others, so they find ways to hide it. Being superficial is often one of those ways (a smaller-scale example might be how we talk about the weather with a stranger). I guess if I were in your position I would just try to approach conversations with him from a compassionate perspective, keeping in mind that maybe his mask is covering up insecurities and fears that he may not even realise he has (protecting ourselves becomes a habit).
I could have this entirely wrong, but it’s what I’ve found from my own experiences with many people (and self-reflection in and out of acting work). Hopefully one day he will feel comfortable showing another side to himself…
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What does your husband think about this? I assume your husband must be the opposite since you say you don’t like this way of thinking.
Anyway personally I think you should just ignore it, obviously this is how he is and you can’t change him. So let him talk about what he wants and just take it in one ear and out the other. I doubt his way of thinking will change even if you say something to him.
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Just ignore him, he’ll grow out of it. He sounds pretty immature. Once he gets a bit older and the reality of a mortgage and/or children hit him he’ll have to change is attitude. Either that or start working a second and third job to support his expensive taste and then he’ll be too tired to be a wanker!
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Thanks for your thoughts everyone.
Cinnamon, my husband is nothing like him and is aware that he has a warped sense of what life is all about but it’s his brother and no matter how much of a wanker he is, I suppose you never see your brother as a wanker.
Amy, I agree that behind all this is some kind of an insecurity. I’ve been wrecking my brain trying to figure out what or who has made him think that he is worth nothing without expensive clothes but so far I haven’t come up with anything.
Chillax, I was hoping for the same thing but at this stage, I don’t think that kids and mortgage are on the cards for him.
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Bec – you are SO courageous to fly alone with your 2 angels!! I would if I HADDDDDDD to, but apart from that…… I think I’d rather not…..
OMM:
Food food food food food – all the time!
Not a bad thing…. it’s just literally OMM 24/7!
Have entered a great new competition called BEST HOME CHEF with my famous 1000 layer crepe cake. There are some AMAZING prizes so I would encourage all home cooks to jump on board! Here’s the ilk to my recipe – http://besthomechef.com.au/recipe/thousand-layer-crepe-cake-w-ferrero-crumb-espresso-creme/
The other OMM: One of my oldest and best friends on the planet is getting hitched this weekend! I am SO excited as I cannot wait to see her walk down the aisle!!!!!!! She has also read the menu to me, it’s being catered for by a 3 hatted restaurant and it sounds INSANELY good. I will photograph EVERYTHING before it hits my mouth (if there’s time!!!!!
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OMM: Had my first horse riding lesson in 8 years this morning! I’m 22, and haven’t been on a horse since i was 14. I loved it! I was a bit wobbly at first, but amazed at how quickly it all came back, its like riding a bike. I ‘d love to do it every week, it’s just so expensive, so maybe every 2 weeks.
My horse was called Callum and he was the laziest thing ever- when I kicked him to make him trot he started grunting as if to say “oh bother, why do I have to please this person on my back?”
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Hmmm let’s see this week has been pretty uneventful so far other than husband getting ready for his interview which is to be held in another state. The thing is though they haven’t confirmed when he is supposed to be flying out so he hasn’t been able to book the ticket yet! Luckily the company is paying for the trip.
It’s getting colder and colder here. It’s getting hard to do our walks outside! Think we might invest in a treadmill for the winter. Also Halloween is BIG over here and most of the houses in our neighbourhood have decorations outside, including lots of scary stuff like the house we walked past last night with a skeleton hanging off a tree branch! Freaked me out! One house had a bench in front with a skeleton sitting on it lol that one was actually funny. I should go and take some photos.
I’m starting to get clucky… well it comes and goes. Husband has mentioned babies a few times recently but not in the ‘let’s try for a baby’ way but just off hand comments like when we have kids type thing. I also really want a cat… but I think I want a baby more hmmmm anyway until we know what is going on with his job, whether we are staying here or not then we can discuss.
Also my mum’s birthday is coming up, just ordered her some flowers online…. hate that I’m not going to be there
spoke to my nieces and sister via skype the other night feel like they’ve grown so much since I’ve been away. This is when being on the other side of the world truly SUX!
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OMM: Bridesmaid dresses!!! After being a bridesmaid many times it is now my turn to choose dresses for my own lovely girls. I really, really, absolutely want them to look amazing. No frumpy, hot pink, sequined, shoulder padded dresses for them. But I am worried that because I am seeing the dresses as part of the whole wedding I might choose something that suits the colour scheme but not them so much. Or that it is something they would never wear again.
Just wondering if anyone has actually managed to pick nice dresses for their bridesmaids and if so where did you get them from!
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Hi Chachi,
I thought the same thing for my bridesmaids! I found the website OuterInner.com really good for LOTS of different dress styles (as in 40 pages worth) so even if you go through it first and see what you like and give them a couple of options? Then if you choose one you can take the photo and get them made?
Good luck!
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I have actually reused one bridesmaids dress in particular and thinking back it was cause it was a darker, non bridesmaidy colour. Not too frou frou or sumptuous fabric. It was actually an off the rack evening/ball gown from mr k. And yes i did get a choice in it but the bride found the style and i paid.
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To be honest I think every bride hopes that her bridesmaids will be able to wear their dresses again. But in reality,from my experience, it never happens! Even the slinkiest most gorgeous bridesmaids dress is still a bridesmaids dress.
Just choose what you like, its your day.
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I know I have never worn mine again and that’s why I want to steer away from the traditional ‘bridesmaid dress look’ and pick something that is a bit more versatile. Am worried though it just isn’t possible!
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I’m with Chillax, I have never worn a bridesmaid dress again. I am in the same boat as you as I’m getting married next year. What I am doing is choosing a colour but I am having varying styles so whater they wear will be comfortable and will suit their individual body shapes. Nothing worse that trying to wear a strapless gown if you don’t have the boobs to hold it up or trying wear a slinky dress if you have a bit of a tummy etc. etc.
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I know what you mean – it is hard to find a dress that flatters a range of body shapes and heights. I like the idea of different dresses in the same or similar shades.
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Mine was challenging for that reason, their body shapes were all very different. One was slim standard size 10, one was very petite but busty and the other one had a small baby and her body was still in recovery mode.
I tried to find something that suited them all but I probably should have gone for same colour/different styles.
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As far as picking a dress that suits the bridesmaid’s style, I think I found a healthy medium.
My gals will be wearing convertible floor length dresses that I had specially made for them by an etsy seller. So they will be wearing the colour and length that suits the wedding, but they can style the top of the dress themselves to however they feel most comfortable/flattered.
The biggest thing for me was realising they wont necessarily wear it again, and that they will be wearing it the whole day. So my choice was deliberately not too expensive, and with an emphasis on wearability and comfort.
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I got my BM dresses from Forever New, which was perfect as our colour theme is blush/cream/pastel colours – Forever New love those colours!
I’m sure your BM will know that it’s your special day and will want you to choose something you love. So long as you stay away from the frumpy hot pink numbers, I’m sure everyone will be happy!
Enjoy the planning
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I don’t know what state you’re in but I discovered a shop called Cocktail on Bridge Road, Richmond in Melbourne. If only I’d discovered it when I was outbridesmaid shopping for our wedding last year.
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So many good suggestions! I love Forever New too and have had a look there.
I am not concerned with my BMs not wanting to wear what I picked, because they are all so sweet they would wear hessian bags if I asked them too (not that i would, I promise!)
It’s really my desire to get something they like. I just know from personal experience I haven’t ever worn a bridesmaid dress again and it seems like such a waste!
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I’ve re-worn one of my bridesmaid dresses a heap of times, because it is a gorgeous dark teal strapless dress with a split. We tacked the split half closed for a more demure wedding look, but have undone the tacking and it is hot! I would totally recommend Matthew Eager dresses (http://www.mattheweager.com.au/collection.html) although they are somewhat more expensive.
To be honest, I think the colour is the major thing. My bridesmaid dress from my sister’s wedding is a light sage green, I just can’t imagine a suitable occasion for a floor length pale green dress, where as the darker teal is much more formal event friendly.
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I had four lovely ladies as my bridesmaids, and all different shapes and sizes- size 8 to 18. They wore varying shades of bluish/ mauve and grey in 4 different styles. They all looked beautiful. They were from Bridesmaids Only in double bay, and were about $300 each. They were so lovely there too.
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I just saw this somewhere else. They seem to have a great range of dresses and colours. You can get the same colour in different styles if it suits you (there are 37 styles). Who would have thought of this store for bridesmaid dresses?! http://www.nonib.com.au/bridesmaids-gallery-home
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My firstborn is back from her first overseas trip, staying with a host family overseas. I missed her so much but she had the best time and talked for 3 hours non-stop when we got home from the airport.
Now, she’s safely home, I can get some sleep!
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Bec, I’m thinking that MM is very good for me and want to let you know I really appreciate this site. I’m very reclusive, rarely socialise, got off facebook after two weeks because I find it mundane, don’t twitter don’t appreciate mainstream news because it’s sooo biased in all ways and this site is where I’m getting the best news now. And its a much better format now it’s been better moderated and the nasties have gone.
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Hi Ali
I am so pleased. We really do have a lovely, supportive community here. Thanks for the terrific feedback. xxxx
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I am that mother.
Like many stories I have been reading our little 3 year old daughter Chiara has incurable Type 1 Diabetes. Our story isn’t nice, it started when Chiara was 2 and was hospitalised while on holidays in north Queensland to stablise her severe hyperglycemia. Our daughters levels were so high at that point she was nearing a coma and brain damage.
We soon learnt our new life was not going to be easy from 4 daily injections countless finger pricks and everything else with food, exercise and constant monitoring…. most of which i have very very quickly learnt to robotically manage….BUT
What I am finding really hard is the nightmares and emotionally traumatized side of our honeybee that causes severe anxiety episodes. The events that are much harder to heal and “fix”. The side that no one knows or even realises til they see it.
For example nose bleeds while attending a hairdresser cause her high temps caused head skin infection now leading to paranoia she will be hurt by the hairdresser … or toileting issues while i try to get measured for a pair of pants cause the man with the tape looks like an IV cord that he will put into her arm.
I am that mother whose little babe is screaming in the shop.
I am that mother who is looked upon with “please stop your child” eyes
I am the mother with a little babe who is petrified …not disobedient.
I am that mother who sleeps unconditionally with her babe every night after she wakes from nightmares so she feels safe again.
I am that mother who has been trying to raise funds and awareness of type 1 diabetes. Facebook has been making this hard of late. Our business page no longer reaches all of our fans. I am trying to reach anyone and everyone!
Its an awful awful chronic illness. Yes totally manageable and yes could be far worse… but still an in curable nightmare for many of us.
I am that mother who is just trying to help all of the little people who can’t fight this illness alone xx
thank you so much for letting me vent xx
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I live in Hong Kong and everytime I do the 10 hour flight on my own with miss 5 and mr 3 I swear I will never do that again……. but I do! I hear you, sister!
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Happy hump day, MMers!
My life is full of crazy happy atm. Kareoke man is rocking my universe. Because we’d been friends for a while, and he’s met my kids before at kareoke, he came over for dinner the other night as a kind of ‘test case’ kinda deal. The cherubs were great. The 13 yr old was just sooo lovely, however the 8 year old decided to give him a few rounds. ‘Did you know my mum isn’t actually divorced yet?’ ‘So are you bf and gf?’ We just ended up giggling. Yes – we are 15
He’s very right brain, I’m completely left brain. I’ve started to give a crap about keeping my house clean. I’ve been enjoying cooking again. Isn’t it insane how being happy completely realigns your thinking.
Had a little private work here and there – keeping the wolf from the door.
OMM: Bloody hell Julia – you were all kinds of awesome last night. I was so impressed at how strong and solid she was. Had to laugh – after all the parading the wife that Tony Abbott has been doing this last week, and seeing Julie Bishop answering on his behalf this morning, I imagine his PR ppl are telling him to keep a low profile!!
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Hubby and I are really going to crack down and try everything we can to get pregnant this month. If anyone has any suggestions throw them my way
Still feeling a bit sad and jealous that my cousin, who is also 26, heard that I was trying for a baby and wanted to be pregnant at the same time and bam! She got pregnant first month of trying… I hope I can catch up this month.
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1. Know when you’re going to ovulate and be able to detect when you begin ovulating
2. When you can establish the above information, refrain from sex for at least 14 days before ovulation to increase the level of your partner’s fertility
3. When you begin to have sex (after 14 days’ abstinence) do lots of it for the next 7 days.
4. If you prefer to have a boy, salinate your vagina before sex. Use a mild salt solution and a douche to do this. Male sperm prefer alkaline conditions, female sperm prefer more acid conditions. Saline solution will make your vagina more alkaline.
Good luck. this is what I did. It worked 3 times for me, and each time I got pregnant, I knew I would. I think it also helps to remain positive. I detect a tone of negativity has already crept into your thinking. Think “I am …”, not “I am not …”.
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Thanks Ali. never tried a douche before.
I will try and stay positive
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The period tracker app was great for me!
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At 39 I knew getting pregnant wasn’t going to be as quick as when I was in my 20′s, so I had sex everyday until I became pregnant. I didn’t miss a day, and fell pregnant in 9weeks.
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I tried the abstinence/only having sex once when ovulating – did not fall pregnant for 8 months. Went to the doctor who said “Go for it!”. For 2 days before & 2 days afterwards we just had lots of sex! Bingo – I fell pregnant that month! My sister was having the same problem & I made the same recommendation – she fell pregnant next cycle!
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OMM: I’ve been overtaken with anxiety that members of my family will die. It was brought on by the fact that my brother who is in his early 20′s has several strange lumps on his body and has not been to the doctor. One is so big it fits in the palm of my hand and you can easily feel it through his shirt. Hi respnse? To name the lump Boris and refer to it as his mate. Most likely it is a fatty lump or a cyst (he has had one removed from his neck before) but the fact that he actually has three and won’t go to the doctor has me tied in knots. I find myself crying in the car when I think about them.
Also, my grandparents are getting older. My Pa is in and out of hospital with kidney and heart problems and then to top it off my Nana and him had a high speed car accident on the way home from the hospital. My Nana on the other side of the family recently had a bad fall and smashed her face open on the fridge and her husband (my other grandfather) has been depressed.
My partner has also started this bizarre restlessness and twitching in is sleep that is gettingmore pronounced and violent. He won’t take it seriously and doesn’t know what he is doing. I’m getting kicked and elbowed all night and not getting any sleep.
I’m just so worried about them all!
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Chicky, go and see your doctor. Have a chat to him/her bout how you feel. You don’t need to feel this everyday x
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Oh my. Have you told your brother how worried you are? A couple of times I’ve noticed odd things with family members (both male, interestingly), who brushed off the idea of going to the doctor’s. But when I told them how concerned it made me they had an “excuse” to go (to shut me up) and get it checked out. Maybe that would work with your brother too?
But I also agree with Haven Maved – go see your doctor as well. Being that stressed is never a good thing. xo
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OMM: When is MM going to do its next Ask Mamamia post whch was mentioned when the comments rules changed?
2: Bipolar – my sister is really struggling at the moment and its not fair. I just want her to be well again. So thankful she calls me to chat but wish there was more I could do, that the medicines would just work…
3: the stillbirth post, have just started reading it and want to like every post, such amazing women/families who have gone through so much pain. I too am part of the ‘club’ and this last week have just started feeling movements from my rainbow pregnancy – have experienced such love from family and friends.
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OMM: Two sleeps until I see my boyfriend. TWO! I haven’t seen him since the beginning of July (he’s in the navy and was away at sea). I can’t let myself get too excited in fear that I might spontaneously combust.
OMM 2: Have to get him a birthday present. No idea what to buy.
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Nat, that is so amazing! I hope you make up for all the time that has been lost!
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Birthday present idea – you in lingerie. Problem solved! lol
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Lol best!
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That is what my boyfriend is getting this year.
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This comment made me laugh so much in the middle of my commerical law tutorial at uni!
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SO EXCITING Nat!!!!
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Exciting! I hate the long waits, though mine arent as long as yours (2 months max). I get that first-date excitement all over again. Lingerie, definitely!
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OMM: This morning on the train, a clueless woman decided it would be a good idea to play Julia Gillards smackdown speech on her iPhone at full volume….using the phone speaker, rather than headphones. I admire the PM’s rhetoric, but it is not an ideal commuting soundtrack…
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That is so disrespectful. I would have said something!
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OMM: My dog at the start of the year was harassed quite badly by a couple of really big dogs (she’s a cocker spaniel x). Since then, every time she sees another dog she gets anxious and starts barking really loudly and won’t go near it. I don’t really know what to do as it’s not only embarrassing but it’s hard to take her for walks and avoiding other dogs.
I’ve thought about getting trying to get her to come into contact with other dogs but I don’t know anyone in my area that does have a dog. She’s fine if other dogs are in our house but just not in the street and most people when they see her don’t really want their dogs going near her either.
Has anyone else had this situation before?
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Hi Miss V, I think (?) you’ve said before you live in Melbourne – not sure what side of town, but if you can, get to Yappy Hour (6pm-7pm Thursdays) at WoofPurNay*, which is in Narre Warren. It’s $5 entry (which goes towards covering some pets bills for whoever’s on the wish list for that week). It’s an indoor space where dogs can socialise off lead (or on if you’re more comfortable with that). Maybe that’s something to try as there is dogs of all sizes in there, and they are all friendly. Otherwise you might need to find a trainer that comes to your house who can go on a wlak together and deal with the situation as it happens.
Goodluck!
*note I have no affliation with WPN, just heard it on the radio one day and it’s great to get the dog solicialised there as we don’t have a dog park close by
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I would try socialise her with some really placid larger dogs. My dog is a Kelpie (so not that small) and was attacked several times as a puppy. Once by a friends American bulldog, a couple of times by this dingo down the park and again by a couple of great danes. Understandably, he developed some anxiety around larger dogs.
The answer was to just keep on socialising him. My dog is very tolerant of smaller dogs, even more so when they are female and he doesn’t even react when they nip him on the face. If you don’t know of any dogs in your area I would try ring the local vet. They may have some classes that might be a good environment to socialise her in or they might be able to point you in the right direction.
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Thanks for the advise guys, and yes Cassidy I am in Melbourne (good memory!!) however in the Western Suburbs but I might look them up anyway to see if they have anything in my area or any affiliates.
Neeks, yes I will give the vet a call to see if they know anything as well.
Thanks again!
I love that MM is so helpful!
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there is a puppy prozac too. My nervous collie would not walk down stairs amongst other things and was prescribed it. I agree with the socalising to reassume your dog that it was a one off..
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OMM: how long my relationship with my ‘bf’ will last. He is so lovely and has been super sweet lately. Should look at glass half full not empty.
PMS was particularly horrific this month. Tears, feelings of despair, depression, just awful! Lucky my mum was there to support me. Feeling much more normal now and have started the pill so hopefully I can avoid that Beast for a little while.
So so so close to finishing uni!! But can’t get excited yet, have to stay focused and its really hard! 1 assignment and 2 exams to go. oh and 3 births…
Love to all MMers. I haven’t been posting recently, just lurking.
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OMM: Found out Monday my contract won’t be renewed not because of something I have done or because I am not a good employee but because my boss is unsure of her future in her role. Completely freaking out about job prospects. My skills are specific for my field and I’m worried the only job I will be able to find is one I don’t like, doesn’t pay well and not where I see myself going in the future.
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Go for your boss’s job :p
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Sadly, without going into details about my job (because I can’t), that’s not an option.
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It is my birthday today! Yesterday was quite a cruddy day (being polite) so I wasn’t actually in much of a birthday mood. But I put on a polka dot dress, ate cake for breakfast and now my sister is taking me out for lunch so I’m feeling great. You can follow me on Twitter to see my dress as I’m putting them up each day for Frocktober. @LisaRobey
Also OMM friendship. One of my lovely friends is moving to Sweden. We had a dinner party for him and sad as it is to see him go, it made me reflect on how lucky I am to be surrounded by such an amazing group of people. I blogged about it: http://blithemoments.blogspot.com.au/2012/10/friendship.html
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY !
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Hip hip hooray!
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Happy Birthday! Hope you have a cracking day.
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I am soooo horny today it isn’t funny. Yes, as of last night am in my ‘fertile window’ and no man around to attempt to fertilise me. What is funny is that I caught men checking me out on the train to work this morning. I kept looking up to catch them looking away. I must have a vibe happening or pheromones are going nuts or something. I am not exactly scantily clad! How animalistic our urges are.
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Boyfriend is furious because the gift I ordered for him for our anniversay arrived late. He took me out to a beautiful dinner on the day, and I gave him a book filled with my memories of the past year & all the things I love about him. I thought the book was a nice, sentimental gift and I explained to him that the rest of his present was on it’s way. He got really angry and said he felt like he’d put it more effort, and I didn’t care about our anniversay. His gift has since arrived and I’ll be taking him out for a nice dinner after we use it (it’s an experience voucher).
In the meantime, I’ve apologised profusely and made him dinner to say sorry but I still feel terrible & I think he’s still angry
Any advice??
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Run. He’s a tool.
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To be honest, I think he’s out of line. It’s not a competition of who puts in more effort, and you bought him a gift as well as making him one (you sound like an awesome girlfriend!)…. I would stop apologising, he needs to grow up and figure out what matters to him more – you, the year you two have shared and the beautiful gifts you gave him, or if what mattered to him most on your anniversary was getting a present. Sorry if this is harsh!
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He’s the one who should be apologising ….
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Advice? Stop apologising! He’s acting like an asshat and maybe that’s hard to see because you’re in the relationship and I’m sorry if that upsets you but as an anonymous uninvolved party who doesn’t know you well someone needs to say it! I’d be waiting for him to apologise for being a baby/rude about getting a present late. Maybe he picked this fight for a different underlying reason though…
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That’s appalling behaviour. His. NOT YOURS. Your gift was everything that anniversaries should be about and he was lucky to get it.
The anger seems very disproportionate. Is it normal for him to get so angry?
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Sorry to sound harsh but your boyfriend is a complete tool and the only advice I can give you is to run. The best advice someone gave me when I was dating a douche was “people show you who they are all the time, believe them when they show you.”
How old is he? He sounds so petty and immature. I can’t believe he thinks that anniversaries are all about presents and then he made you think that you don’t care about anniversaries and that you’re the one who should be apologising. There is so much wrong with this scenario. Just run!
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Sorry but he sounds like a 5 year old.
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Omg you should be the one that is furious! So you order him a gift AND make him a book filled with memories and you have to apologise for it.
Sorry but if you don’t put your foot down now and demand an apology for him then your’e setting the tone for your relationship!
Personally husband and I aren’t big on the gift thing, we would rather just go out or even stay home and cook together and celebrate with some wine. I understand other people like giving and receiving gifts but to get angry because his gift was arriving late… sorry but that’s just RUDE!
Seriously stop apologising and if he doesn’t like it then you know what to do!
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Overwhelmed by the response, I feel so much better hearing from you all that I’m not in the wrong. Have been feeling so fragile & down but feel so much stronger reading all these messages. This is an issue I’ve been too proud to tell my friends about as they all thing my boy is perfect. THANK YOU Mamamia for creating this wonderful community where women can share & ask for advice…it’s made a huge difference to my confidence and mindset today xxxx
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OMM: Basically came out of a relationship 2 months ago with a complete jerk, been out with the girls heaps which has made me completely normal, went out on a few dates with guys, kissed a few frogs and then at a coffee shop about a month ago, there was a guy who was a barista that was working and he talked to me and we found out that he goes to my uni and HE IS IN ONE OF MY TUTORIALS AT UNI OF WHICH I NEVER GO TO. I still haven’t went to the tutorial, went to the coffee shop (not even thinking about it) and he was working, had the same conversation, I have to present in front of Mr Barista Boy tonight and I’m soo nervous. I really like the look of him and really would like to get to know him. There was a lot of smiles and flirting yesterday. Any tips on getting his number girls???????!!!!
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Ask him for it?
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Bec, you are a funny lady.
And here I am contemplating an international flight with two kids.
I’m not put of yet…but them I haven’t seen the cost of tickets yet.
OMM:
I’d like a little advice how to deal with the following, and if there is anything to deal with.
My husbands best mate. I’ve known him for a long time now. He is really a nice guy and very generous hearted, BUT he’s also been a sexist, racist, homphobic narrow minded, stubborn person who has often been derogarory about many groups. He and I have had many many ‘discussions’ over the years about these issues as I call him out on it all the time. However, time and having a family have tamed him a little and I thought perhaps he’d grown up somewhat.
Now however, his daughter and mine are good friends (8yo). And his daughter is repeating to my daughter things that he says to his kids at home. Things like ‘ homosexuals are disgusting and depraved’ and ‘ people with mental health problems don’t deserve to live’. I’m flabbergasted and appalled. I”m not sure how to deal with this , considering he and I both can get a little passionate about such topics and it’s important the family friendships don’t become a casualty.
I’d love to hear your wise suggestions.
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I personally dont believe anyone can be a ‘really nice guy’ and also be sexist, racist and narrow minded.
I would mention my concerns to my husband and if he couldnt get him to reel in that behaviour around me I would avoid being near him and certainly wouldnt let my children socialise with his.
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Goodness, that is a really tough one!!
I don’t have any wise suggestions, I just hope you find a solution to the problem that doesn’t cause too much friction.
I think it’s a good thing to have friends with differing opinions to that of our own, but respect always needs to be maintained. In this case, I’m not sure you can control what your friend tells their own children. Very tricky situation indeed! Good luck x
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Some of my fiances mates are a bit that way. Thankfully my fiance isnt.
Anyway the suggestion I would have in that situation is to pull him aside, and say that while he is entitled to his opinion, you dont need to hear it. Even pull the whole ‘until you back that up with some facts/data/evidence, thats just rubbish’ if he brings it up. Then mention to him that his daughter is obviously repeating the bile, and that unless he wants his daughter to be called out down the track for being a bigot (it happens in schools, social groups etc), he might want to have a very balanced discussion with her about how some things like that dont need to be said.
Im a firm believer in letting people know when they are setting themselves -and in his case, his child – up for ridicule, simply because they are a heady combination of misinformed and loudmouthed.
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I am cofused as to how someone can be a really nice guy and also sexist, racist, homphobic and narrow minded at the same time. For me these things completely cancel each other out.
I hate racism and homophobia with a passion and don’t even want to be in the same room as anyone who thinks this way, so I personally wouldn’t want anything to do with him and would certainly not let my kids hang arund him and pick up his disgusting attitude. Also, I would be wondering what is wrong with my husband if his best friend is racist and homophobic.
I apologise if that comes across as harsh but this is something I feel very strongly about.
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OMM1: I have been working for two little law firms in the city and I landed a clerkship for a big multinational corporation. I am soooooo unbelievably excited. I start in 4 weeks. After three grueling interviews and a meeting with the finance director and chief general legal counsel on Friday, they rang me to say that they were blown away by how much I ticked the boxes. 200 people applied and they PICKED ME!!!! Not a massively amazing transcript or anything. Yippppee!
OMM2: Uni has turned into a massive debacle. Missed two supplementary exams because my head was completely up my ass and now I am having to pay for it by begging the uni lecturer to make up these exams worth 30%. You drop the ball for five minutes and this is where you end up.
OMM3: Seems like I get to two dates with guys in general and they clear off. Where have the men gone?! Have they all been castrated?!
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Congrats on the job! Awesome sauce!
The uni stuff will work itself out.
Take your time with the frog kissing/dating. Takes a while to get your head back on straight. Maybe put your energy into the new job? x
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Congratulations on the job!
As far as the men go, I can honestly say that its easier to find single men through your married/partnered friends. I dont know where the single guys used to go when I was on the prowl, but it was a different story when I hung out my with partnered friends.
My fiance and I met through a married friend, and now I am very friendly with many of his single male friends. I could start my own matchmaking service based on his mates alone – but they are ‘too proud’ to do that style of dating yet. They just tend to pick and choose from my single female friends.
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OMM: My body. Feeling sore from all the boot camp sessions. Into week four now and starting to see some positive changes. I have also increased my kettle bell weights to 10kg! I am really happy with the achievement!
I also have bought Jillian Michaels 30 Day Shred, and I am VERY excited to see results after the 30 days. I have heard SO many positive reviews!
OMM #2: A very good friend of mine has told me her and the hubby are expecting. I am over the moon for them! It’s very early days, and I am praying it all goes well for them!
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