By ELISABETH NEALE
“You know what’s really ‘in’ right now? Sex tapes. Also getting arrested for driving without a license. And possession of cocaine.”
“Yeah, I know right! You know what else I’m looking forward to? When I can get married and get divorced again after 72 days!”
Despite having just finished high school, the location of extensive female conversation, I have never heard an exchange that resembles this. Yet, I have come to realise that many experts fear that the young ladies of tomorrow are all going to turn out thinking this way. Truckloads of articles and blog posts I have read bemoan the future of teenage girls, because of the bad behaviour of a select few celebrities.
When I was twelve, it was Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie who all the commentators dreaded would influence us negatively. Today, Kim Kardashian’s loose interpretation of ‘til death do us part’ strikes fear into their hearts, and Lindsay Lohan still lingers as a threat to our futures as well, most recently engulfed in scandal surrounding unpaid taxes of up to $100,000.
Some people seem to have no confidence in teenage girls to recognise bad behaviour when they see it and then know not to emulate it. However, I would like to remind those people that just because we are young, that doesn’t mean we are stupid! If a girl hears about a celebrity smoking marijuana, this doesn’t mean she will instantly go out and light up just because some actress did. I have seen that teenage girls, in general, look only at the positive characteristics of celebrities they admire.
I know no one who enjoyed Lindsay Lohan’s performance in Mean Girls who also appreciated her stints in jail and rehab. I can remember a conversation I had with my friends at age thirteen, discussing how disappointed we were that nude photos of Vanessa Hudgens, star of High School Musical, had appeared online. We didn’t want to copy; we were saddened.
And that’s just it – teenage girls don’t all copy the bad behaviour of celebrities. But more importantly, there is no ‘lack of positive role models’ in the lives of teenage girls. Some commentators believe that the dominance of wayward celebrities in popular culture means that young girls have no alternatives to admire. Yet all girls need to do is look a little further than the front pages of gossip magazines to find someone to look up to who isn’t constantly embroiled in gossip or scandal. And they do!
Over my teenage years, I have admired many people far more than Hollywood starlets. While Hudgens was nude online, young women in Year 12 at my school were gaining early entry to prestigious overseas universities, and walking into my French class and maintaining a fluent conversation with the teacher. I was awestruck at their intelligence and confidence, and sought to copy this as I grew older.
More recently, I have appreciated Leigh Sales’ assertive journalistic talent, as she wrangled uncomfortable truths out of Tony Abbott on ABC’s 7.30. As an aspiring journalist, I sat in awe, watching the interview on YouTube, and laughed gleefully at Abbott’s grudging ‘thank you’ at the end. Others girls my age have also shared my admiration of Sales in enthusiastic conversations.
Just yesterday, I read an article in Time Magazine about Malala Yousafzai, the fifteen-year-old Pakistani education activist shot in the face by the Taliban for her views. When discussing Malala with a younger girl, we both agreed that she was nothing short of heroic in her bravery and desire to keep campaigning for girls’ education, despite her horrific injuries.
The very concept of role models is complex. When you place someone on a pedestal in your mind, it can be very difficult to deal with her failures. Perhaps that is why Vanessa Hudgen’s indiscretions made thirteen-year-old me feel so uncomfortable. But the ability of young women to discern between admirable and unwise behaviour is also evidenced by the disappointment that I, and others, felt.
It is true that there will always be girls who make mistakes, just like there are much older people who make very foolish decisions. But most girls will never follow in the footsteps of badly behaved celebrities. Girls CAN separate talent from transgression, and they CAN find better people to look up to, and some commentators need to give them a little more credit.
Elisabeth Neale is a university student living in Sydney who has wanted to be a writer for as long as she can remember. She is studying a BA (Media and Communications) at the University of Sydney. She blogs at Elisabethan Era and can be followed on Twitter here.









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Well, considering that I am currently a high school student and I know three girls who all see Kim Kardashian as a role model, my faith in the females of my generation is gone.
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Great writing Elisabeth you have a great talent there!
I really liked your article and it was so careful to make great points but not make sweeping judgements at the same time.
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As the mother of a three-year-old strong willed teenager (!) I do worry a lot about the behaviour we’ll experience in 10-15 years’ time. I fully believe my husband and I need to lead by example, and I’m actually not too concerned with who my girl looks up to from the public sphere. I more concerned with her peers.
It’s so much harder to distance yourself from group behaviour that you’re right in the middle of as opposed to what you see in media stories.
But your article does instil a bit of hope, namely that not all girls are silly, there are in fact bright girls in between. Now, how to get my toddler into your group of friends
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Elizabth what an amazing well written article that has given hope to the mum of a young girl. When my daughter was born I thought I want her to grow up to be strong, confident & have a sense of where she stands in the world. I need to keep my end of the bargain & teach her the best way I can but your article shows that sometimes we focus so much on the negatives we lose sight that our younger generation have a voice & that voice is on the right track. I just followed you on twitter. I look forward to reading some more great things you write. Now firstly I need to turn E! Channel off & buy my first time magazine! Thankyou.
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I wish the youth of today weren’t discriminated against so much because of unfair generalisations. Teenage girls are viewed as skanky for wearing short skirts or tight clothes. Slut shaming. We’re viewed as selfish, technology obsessed, binge drinking bullies. People seem to think my generation has had everything handed to them on a silver platter merely because we were born into a world with Internet. And yes, the transgressions of the few idiot youths you see on the news are blamed on the media, video games, porn, movies, celebrities. And why? Because they’re easier to blame than the real influences; parents, teachers, uncles, aunts, brothers, sisters. The majority aren’t the ones causing havoc with their pictures on the news. Give us a little credit, we’re an accepting, diverse generation. Maybe one day, that will be understood.
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Such a well written article Elisabeth, and thank you for giving me hope that there are still teenage girls out there that have such moral aspirations. I have been fearful for my own daughters for when they enter their teenage years. In my opinion, the majority of teenage girls don’t particularly do themselves any justice in the ways they dress, act and speak (if they acknowledge people at all!) I am raising my girls with good morals and I can only hope they make friends with other girls bought up the same way. Good luck in your studies
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Teenagers are not as gullible as we think. Sadly, they are immersed in a world of entitlement where the cult of self rules and I despair of the effect that this will have on them.
A typical question is not should I get a job or go to schoolies or can I afford to go to schoolies, it’s – hey mum and dad are you sending me to the Gold Coast, Fiji or Bali for schoolies?
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Parents who bemoan the bad example the celebrities, rock stars, sports stars are providing are copping out. By far the biggest influence on kids development are parents, family, teachers and peers.
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I think it has more to do with your upbringing. I remember asking my ex’s 13 year old neice if she had any idea what she wanted to do, her reply was ” I rekn id be lucky to get a job at Coles”. Her career aspirations were limited to a check out chick. This led me into a big reach for the stars speech ( at 13 I was going to be a doctor).
I think the “girls” that people worry about celebrities being dodgy role models for are ones like her. Ones who aren’t supported and have a positive environment. She didn’t aim for the stars as others do and dodgy roles models make the behaviour seem okay/ cool because she doesn’t know any better.
She is now 16 and pregnant btw.
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I was actually thinking along the same lines when I wrote my response to Imogen below – I thought of the girls in the Four Corners show about Claymore. 12 year old girls talking about their future of getting pregnant at 16 and leaving school. Devastating. But an example of exactly what you (and I in my comment) are talking about – they’re just doing what has been modelled for them by their parents, and that’s what you do. They don’t have the support or resources to go to school, let alone think about uni, or travelling, or whatever. Again. Devastating.
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What a wonderful writer Elisabeth is. I agree that teenage girls probably are more discerning than they are often suggested to be. As Elisabeth wrote, “teenage girls, in general, look only at the positive characteristics of celebrities they admire”. I guess the danger is that not everyone’s idea of “positive” characteristics are necessarily the same. There is likely to be some girls that may think a celebrity’s bad behaviour is a “positive/cool” characteristic. The issue is how do we support the girls who aren’t as discerning as the majority.
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Being a teenager in the 70′s I have no idea who my role models were, I don’t even think I had any! My mum just ingrained in us not to get married & have babies early but to have a career & travel the world first.
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Then id say your mum was your role model Bianca.
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I agree with the gist of this article, but some things kind of irked me. The insinuation that Vanessa Hudgens is a lesser person than somebody who could speak French/gained entrance into a prestigious university solely because of the exploitation of her nude photos is pretty offensive.
I hope that my daughters look up to women who are strong, confident, hard working and compassionate; not the lady who has the most ‘prestigious’ education. Speaking French fluently does not make an amazing role model.
Whether somebody has a Harvard degree/nude photos/affinity for marijuana/foreign language skills does not determine their status as a person worthy of admiration. I value what’s on the inside.
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Bianca, you are very right that people have to be valued for what’s on the inside! I apologise that you found parts of this article offensive, but I wasn’t trying to insinuate that ANYONE is less of a person for their actions. I am more aiming to explore how there is a separation between different actions, not different personalities. Girls might admire Lindsay Lohan’s acting, for example, but not her drunk driving (I don’t know if we can really comment on her personality, not actually being her friend!).
Also I wasn’t at all trying to insinuate that people who can speak a foreign language/have a higher education etc. are better than others, and I apologise if it came across that way. Those were merely the things that I specifically looked up to in my role models! Other girls of course look up to different things, but while learning French and enjoying it, I looked up to those who already could do that and did it confidently, just like aspiring actresses/musicians/doctors/nurses/mothers/artists/politicians/lawyers/writers etc. look up to those who are already engaged in those activities and professions and admire their talents.
Thanks for your comment, I definitely agree that the main things to look up to are confidence, compassion, strength and hard work and that valuing what’s on the inside is so much more important than anything else.
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I think female role models are very important and I wish my daughter’s all girls school organised visits from successful women to inspire the girls. There has only been one visit, so far, from the Butterfly Foundation and my daughter is still talking about that visit which was a couple of years ago.
I think the girls would also benefit from return visits by past students who have attended university and gave the girls their first-hand experience of university to inspire them to higher education.
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I think this is a good point but I don’t believe university should be the only aspiration. What about those that went into employment and are successful, or trades or travelled?
I went straight into uni and did a nursing degree but you know what.. i hated uni and I barely did anything with that degree and currently and for the last several years I’m not even in the health industry. Instead I’ve had a very successful career that I didn’t need to study for & have travelled the world while doing so – Am I unanble to inspire anyone because I hated uni and don’t think it’s for everyone to go into straight away?
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Oh yeah, and I forgot to add. Those who are telling Lis that girls in some circumstances do aspire to be bad, are making the very mistake that Lis is arguing against. Assuming that teenage girls are gullible and not as discerning as you would think. I’m yet to see someone disagree because they themselves aspire to be Paris Hilton or Lindsay Lohan.
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Kudos to you, Elisabeth. You will make a great journalist one day
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Lis, I think you are very right. Even girls who have difficult home lives aspire to be something better, whether they have the motivation and the determination is different story. Socialites such as Kim Kardashian and Paris Hilton pose a risk as they present what on the surface appears to be a successful life born from privileged circumstances. Girls, however, do not aspire to be drug addicts or openly promiscuous they admire other traits that lead to and come from the success of people such as Lindsay Lohan, Vanessa Hudgens and Kim Kardashian. I think the flaws and mistakes these celebrities make in some ways are positive as they show girls that it is normal to screw up but that it will have undesirable consequences.
I believe that many readers are stereotyping girls like you who have made something of their lives and have hope and a future as thinking differently to those who don’t, and that is not the case. Desperation and not desire leads to young women abusing drugs or flaunting their body for money and mens desires.
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“Even girls who have difficult home lives aspire to be something better, whether they have the motivation and the determination is different story.”
You left out “support” and “resources”. I think you’re blaming girls for not getting where they aspire to.
The popularity of Paris, the Kardashians, etc would suggest that many people do actually admire them and aspire to be like them. They wouldn’t release perfumes, clothing lines, endorse weight loss products, whatever else they do if people didn’t aspire to be like them.
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I think this is a good article, but it plays into the idea that women are morally corrupt. If Vanessa Hudgens wants to take or send nude pictures of herself, good on her. Whoever leaked them is the one we should be shaming. I don’t think this idea that some women are better than others because they can attend university or speak another language is particularly helpful. Women are measured on a different moral scale to men, that is what we should be seeking to change rather than forcing women into a narrow field of morality.
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Agreed. I’m afraid, however, that we’re dealing with a mindset so deeply ingrained, we won’t see any change in our lifetime.
I’m a mother of two boys. The biggest gift I can give them is the knowledge that they can become whoever they want to become, that they will have many choices in life and they will sometimes make the wrong one – and that the same applies to women.
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As an upper primary teacher, in a middle to lower socioeconomic area, am constantly in awe of the next generation of girls. The girls in my class aren’t necessarily destined for ‘prestigious unis’ or have ‘admirable career goals’ as the poster below discusses. They are often much more savvy than we think but they do need to be exposed to a range of issues and people so they can see there is more to the world than Paris Hilton types.Of course there will always be girls who think that being Kim Kardashian is the bees knees but I’ve found that most girls are far more discerning.
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Some teenagers are mature enough to ignore the antics of celebrities but many others are not. When I talk about the concern that young girls are going to be copying Lindsay Lohan and Paris Hilton, I’m generally not talking about girls who have it together enough to gain admission to prestigious universities or who have admirable career goals like following Leigh Sales into journalism.
I’m talking about girls who are already “at risk” – girls who maybe do not have things together, who do not have a happy home life, who are starved for love and attention and who really don’t feel like they have much hope for a successful career and happy life. Those kind of kids are desperate for role models (whether they realise it or not) and if some are settling on Kim Kardashian and her ilk, well, that’s very unfortunate indeed.
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