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by NATALIA JASTRZAB
Well hellooooo Friday. Aren’t you looking a bit amazing today? Let’s meet for lunch later – and maybe even have some cheeky cocktails too. But while we’re still in the middle of the working day, let’s have a chat about our best and worst of the week because we have LOTS to catch up on.
Best: I’m still a few years away from children but gosh I loved the comments on this Mamamia post. The camaraderie that’s come through from the commenters is really inspirational and I plan to bookmark it and take lots and lots of mental notes for the future.
Best 2: I’m greedy and having two bests today. We’ve had some really, really funny posts on Mamamia this week and reading them (and all the great comments too) is such a great way to break up the daily grind. Take a look at this post and this post.
Worst: All the Leisel Jones commentary relating to her weight. I feel so sad for how she must be feeling about getting on that podium now. Can’t we just move on and focus on the bigger issue here, people? It’s the OLYMPICS. There is swimming and gymnastics and gold medals and amazing people generally doing an amazing job and WHO CARES ABOUT HOW SOMEONE LOOKS IN THEIR SWIMSUIT?
Grrr. Rant over.
What was your best and worst of the week? What’s on your mind?
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Bests: There’s a few this week, which is really nice. Husband made this awesome cake for our rocket-loving 3 year old. He was very impressed. I went to a fabulous training course in Melbourne and got to catch up with my sister. I had the day off yesterday and bought new earrings and a very cool new ring – will put a pic of that up too – plus had a massage and lunch with a friend.
Worst: husband brought the boys to the airport to see me off last Sunday and it was horrendous – they sobbed and sobbed. Wont do that again in a hurry. Also my plantar fascitis is playing up again.
OMM: a while back a MM story had heaps of advice about dealing with lice. It’s hit our child care and I’d like to know what to do in case my kids catch it. Can anyone remember which post it was in? Also OMM are the 2 job applications I’ve put out there this week. I hope they do their job.
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Re lice, go the chemist, buy the lice lotion (there is a range of products) and a lice comb. Follow the directions. Using the lice comb is timeconsuming and revolting but it is necessary and it works.
However, my daughter had very long hair and we had great difficulty iradicating the lice. After spending a fortune at the chemist, we went to the GP in desperation and the GP prescribed a single tablet that got rid of the lice instantly but it is really only used as a last resort.
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Thank you for your comment Lozzie. Hopefully we don’t have to deal with it. My 2 boys have short hair, so at least the combing wouldn’t be too bad!
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And here’s my cool ring
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Best: Planning my dream holiday!
Worst: My bestie has turned into a bridezilla!
OMM: Thinking about applying for a job that I might be slightly under qualified for…
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BEST: I’m in an Olympic city again. This is pretty cool. There no denying that being in Sydney for 2000 was simply awesome, but the fact that I get to do it again is just a bit crazy. Bring it. We’re excited. London is ready. WOO!
WORST: I have to work for the next two weeks of fun… BOOOOOOO!
Love from London xxx
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Jealous!!!
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BEST~ 14 week old SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT 4 nights in a row
WORST~ how on earth can anything be bad now that i have SLEPT…EVERYTHING IS FREAKING AMAZEBALLS!!
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Love this!
Hope bubs continues this new sleeping pattern until she/hes a teenager
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Haha would that be wonderful!!!
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Best: Attending ‘Millionaire Hot Seat’ audition in Sydney, passing, and then spending the night with my bestie from school and her hubby, catching up over wine, and meeting their neighbour (who I think I might have scared! LOL). Good wine, good friends, good conversation. Bliss.
Worst: Death of Darryl Cotton. RIP. The Australian music industry has suffered a loss, and as the Righteous Bros said, ‘If there’s a rock and roll Heaven, then you know they got a hell of a band.’
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OMM: I’ve been dreading the day for 4 or 5 yrs now but I just did the UMAT on Wednesday, I really want a good score but the more I keep thinking about it, the worse it seems to get in my mind. Ahh!!
Best: How nice and considerate people were in general in the days leading up to the UMAT.
Worst: I can’t think of any. Sorry.
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Exercise Best: Getting our daughter a trampoline & paying for the company to set it up. It’s an early birthday present. We have been bouncing every day since it came. Today Tigger & Pooh Bear also had a bounce. I am using muscles I’ve not used in ages & have had more cardio in three days than in the last three months combined!
Friend Best: Have made a concerted effort to try some new things since reading Emma’s article about ‘Making Friends as an Adult’ – took my daughter to a new playgroup today (tried it last week but the hall was being used for something else) & introduced myself to the new neighbour across the road who has two kids. I have also being sprucing for an awesome local fair as in telling all the mums I met that it was on because a few are new to the area. We always have fun there.
Worst: Had a caffeine coffee this morning which reminded me why I don’t usually have it. I’ve felt slightly buzzy all day & haven’t been able to relax.
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Best: the working week is over. It has been long, stressful, unpleasant. It has gone from being a fantastic job to one I dread getting up to on a Monday…which is all beginning to sound a lot like a worst! But I am grateful to have a job that pays decently and it makes Friday nights a little bit special.
OMM: it would be great to read some more readers’ erotic fiction stories. I haven’t read 50 Shades as it sounds so awful. It’d be great to see some erotic fiction which is well written! Any chance MM is going to publish some more soon?
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The best erotic story site IMO is Literotica. My web links seem to end up in the spam filter but just google that. They thousands of stories sorted into categories and also top ranked. Great site. Some is hit and miss as it is reader posted but as a free site it is pretty good.
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Thanks for the tip, Friday. I’ll check out the site!
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Stay tuned Guest! Plenty more to come.
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Best: My beautiful brother and his wife, after being told they’d never be able to have children, announced they were pregnant! I’m so excited and happy for them, and have all my fingers and toes crossed.
Worst: My mother being on at me about my weight, again. I’m 24 and she still monitors what I eat, when I eat, and tells me consistently that I’m going to die young if I don’t lose some weight. The most annoying thing, I think, it that I’m genuinely trying and she’s not cutting me any slack for it. I’m only still living at home because I’m at uni and can’t afford not to, but I wonder sometimes if it would be easier if I just wasn’t here and she wasn’t in my ear, 24/7. Maybe subconsciously I’m not trying hard enough because I don’t want her to win.
OMM: Uni. Going on exchange. Getting out of here, taking a break, being able to breathe for a few seconds without the crushing weight of her expectations. Cue to melodrama, I guess.
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Lily, I did the same as my mother obsessed about weight. So I stayed overweight til my 60′s then she passed away and I found out I had type 2 diabetes. So I sure lost weight fast then, but too late for my health. Tell your mother to back off and let you take control of your own life as interference has the opposite effect.!
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Best: We’re on the final countdown to our first baby! We’ve got a week or so until the ‘official’ due date (I know it’s only a guesstimate though!)… So I’ve finished work and am now just pottering around waiting waiting waiting!
But we are so lucky and I need to remember that!
Best 2: My Mum finally made it home… She and my Stepdad had been on an extended caravan trip since April and he wasn’t that specific about when they were coming back, so I’ve been doing the pregnancy thing without my Mummy around – which is tough! But thank goodness she’s home! I love my Mum!
Worst: Ummmmm… The heartburn – oh God, the heartburn!!
OMM: it’s been 4 years since my beautiful husband had a severe fall at work (I totally missed the Beijing Olympics cos he was in intensive care)… We are so lucky that he’s pretty much back to 100% – except no sense of smell anymore. But the London Olympics have been a huge reminder of that horrible time in 2008…
Lots of love to everyone, hold your loved ones tight and have a magnificent weekend xxx
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That is so weird that feeling of waiting for your first baby to arrive… Cot all made up and ready, nappies on the change table, baby clothes all washed and packed… now you just need the baby!
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Happy Friday!! It’s finally here
Hello sleep in! x
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My fiancé works away in the mining industry. In February I found a txt in his phone from a lady that was without saying it very intimate and flirty(I wasn’t snooping it was charging in he bedroom and I walked out of the ensure and it went off and the message came up on the screen) I confronted him, he told me that he had been on certain dating websites and only sexted because he felt like he wasn’t in control of things. We went to counselling and worked through the issue and he said he didn’t realize how much it would hurt me. It’s July and he still works away and I’m trying to trust him but I’m struggling….
I’m divorced from my ex because he cheated and part of me wants to believe him but part of me doesn’t. I had an awful breakup and I’m wondering if I’m not facing reality because I don’t want to go through another break up?
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I hope you get throught it!! best of luck
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Anon for this,
My heart breaks for you and Im going to be totally honest with you on this….what you wrote is EXACTLY my past – I was engaged to him, I discovered texts, he told me what he told you, it was just ‘sexting’ no ‘real life’ meeting/or cheating, we had counselling also and I thought we had moved past it when bam, 3 months later I came across another text from him to a prostitute asking for her rates and services. (that’s when I finally walked out) though he wasn’t working in the mines, he worked a 4am – 3pm shift…..the texts were sent whilst I was at my regular 9 – 5 job.
You will do your head in wondering what he’s doing whilst he’s way – is he worth it? I hope so. And most definitely listen to your gut/intuition – it’s telling you something. Listen to it.
Trust is a HUGE thing in relationships….though Im sure you know this. When the trust is gone – somtimes you have to question what is left.
I wish you all the best xx
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Hi, We went thru this last week when I found texts on his phone that he explained away but I don’t trust him and don’t really believe him. We start counseling for the first time next week as I want us to resolve this anger I have toward him and work on getting the trust back. I’m pregnant, so really want his story to b true and want to believe him so badly but I will never really know for sure if he has cheated or not. I hate the uncertainty! Good luck to u x
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Best: I got a job! After only having twenty five weeks of paid employment in the last financial year, I’ve managed to score a six month office manager job! Oh God, I’m so excited! To be able to DO some things, buy some things, ffs I haven’t been clothes shopping in over a year! Not having to ask my parents for money (which they have been so generous with and which has stopped me from having to go to Centrelink) and being able to buy proper birthday presents for people. I’ve been so sick of doing nothing and being so frustrated that I have two degrees and have been bloody well unemployed. Oh man, so glad to have a sense of purpose again!
Another best: my rheumatologist gave me official permission to drop one of my medications so that I am now on the lightest possible drug regimen for my rheumatoid arthritis. The one that I’m coming off has screwed around with my hair (turned my lovely corkscrew curls into just slightly wavy hair), so I’m really hoping that my hair goes back to normal after a while.
Feeling pretty good about things!
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Congrats on the new job!
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Thanks, Jamila!
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Worst: So tired this week … neeed sleeeeeeeep.
Best: My bday earlier in the week – had a fantastic day off work and was spoiled rotten.
Best 2: Olympics – yay for the opening ceremony. We’re gonna camp out in the lounge room in front of the TV and make it a bit of fun (and we can just wake up and flick it on and stay warm and cozy.)
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I like that idea! Do you think it would be too much to move my bed into the living room? Roommates might not be happy….
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I can really only think of my worst/OMM at the moment because its consuming me…
I’m having a bit of a dilemma in the ‘do i want to know’ department.
My man went out with groomsmen on the night before a friends wedding. I offhandedly said ‘i bet you end up at a strip club’ which he denied (we were going through a rough patch and i think he meant it).
Anyway the night of the wedding, he was looking pretty spiffy, so i went to take a photo on his phone for him, and he instantly snatched his phone away. i knew something was wrong with that little scenario, so i said ‘you went to a strip club didnt you’ to which he admitted, because ‘all the boys were doing it’.
There werent any incriminating photos on his phone to my knowledge. I didnt push it any further. Now, out of the blue im really doubting that night was innocent at all.
So ladies and gents, do i push the point for a real answer (my gut instinct seems pretty confused too), or do i hope it never happens again and leave it be. What would you all do in my situation?
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Ohhhh geeez! I don’t know if *I* even want to know – and I’m not you!
A visit to a strip club is sleazy but harmless enough, we all know what goes on there in terms of the shows, we all know guys often end up there on bucks nights, BUT! What could have possibly been on that phone (besides full frontal lady garden) to have him snatch it away when you were just going to go to Camera mode & not Gallery? Unless he knows you’d go ape over just a naked stripper (would you?) then there’s no need to hide that. And my gut would say something else, something more… but if there was visual evidence, you can bet it’s deleted from that phone by now. I worry for the weekend you are about to have – whether you snoop, confront or even just torture yourself thinking about all this. Fingers crossed for you.
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you have definitely put into words all the worry i couldnt!
Thanks for the crossed fingers!
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Going to a strip club on a buck’s night is one thing, being weird about your phone is another.
There must be something on there for him to be so worried. I’d be concerned about that – if there aren’t photos from the club then what is there?
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Would he even have been allowed to take photos of strippers in a club?
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It’s so difficult to comment on someone else’s post when you really know nothing of the situation but here’s my take on it…. First up – is your issue that he went to the strip club or that something else could have happened that wasn’t so innocent? It is very possible that there are incriminating photos on his phone but perhaps they are just photos of a bunch of boys having fun and in those same photos are a couple of random chicks – tacky but harmless. Is it possible that it is something like this that your boyfriend doesn’t want you to see not because he’s guilty of anything but because he just doesn’t want you to jump to any conclusions because of a couple of photos?
Personally, when my husband got married I was more than happy for him to hit the strip clubs and look a topless women. I felt as though he was a lot damn safer inside rather than be out on the streets with all the yobos that punch each other.
What you do so depends on your personal relationship and the trust you have for each other.
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My issue is that in our relationship, we have always said that we will warn each other about strip clubs, etc. I didnt want to be weird about it. But the main issue is that him being weird about the phone definitely makes me think something untoward went on.
Basically if i push the point, he might lie, and i might never know the answer. Im not sure how to deal with it…
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Well I think you owe it to yourself to find out the truth. This is way easier said than done but perhaps you should sit down with him and calmly explain to him that this is an issue that’s bothering you and that you need to talk about it. I personally get all crazy and defensive at this point which I don’t recommend. Explain to him why you are concerned (his wierdness about the phone) and then give him an opportunity to respond. Then when you know what the situation is you can deal with it. When stuff likes this consumes me I end up with all sorts of “inside thoughts” (bit like Nina on Offspring) that are so far from the truth because I’ve over analysed and jumped to conclusions. Good luck
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oops that was mean. I keep logging myself out.
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“oops that was ME” (smacks hand on forehead)
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who cares if he goes to a strip club? i go to strip clubs occasionally with my friends and its fun! as long as he’s not having sex with them you have nothing to worry about. stop being so sensitive.
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I don’t think you’re being sensitive Anon for this, I wouldn’t want my partner to go to a strip club to watch naked women writhing around either.
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Its not that i care about the strip club, its that i care he went to a strip club, its that i clearly dont know where he went that night, and he apparently had photos of it he didnt want me to see…
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Best: It’s Friday. I have been at work since Sunday so looking forward to my day off tomorrow.
Worst: Back to work on Sunday and my next day off is Thursday
OMM: Tiredness and the Olympics
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Best 1:We have been healthy this week, finally, after weeks of colds and flues.
Best 2: My dad is visiting next week from OS. Very exciting.
Best 3: My in-laws are back from a 2months OS trip. It’s nice to have them back. I missed them and their help(I know I am greedy, but their are gems when it comes to help with our kids).
Worst: Heard some heart braking stuff from my in-laws about my direct family, it’s kind of hurting, yet not surprising. More to come from my dad once he arrives. Not looking forward to that. I will have to tell him to distance himself from that(my dad just got divorced from my step mother last year, and there is just a lot of gossip going on).
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Best: I am playing in the pit orchestra for a youth theatre musical, and the kids are AMAZING. Miniature (well, some of them are 17) Broadway stars! The show is great, for those of you who know musicals, we are doing Lucky Stiff. Great fun!
Worst: Working so much! Husband told me to stop complaining, that I had a choice to take time off if I wanted. Right. It’s not every day you get offered the chance to do 40hrs a week of easy and interesting work, which I like, plus we just finished the summer band season which involved several evening rehearsals, just to launch into the musical, which has been every evening for a week, plus today I had 6 students. Whew! I love every little thing I do, but why does it have to come all at once?? I keep telling myself to make hay while the sun shines, but I still need time for me! Gonna die when Fall comes otherwise!
OMM: Sleep. Chill. Sleep. Wine. Sleep. Keep dreaming!!
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I have those weeks when I’m super busy and think oh I wish I had some time off and then there’s weeks were not much is going on and I complain that I wish I had more to do! So I know how you feel, but personally when I don’t have enough to do I get caught up in my own thoughts too much lol so I prefer to be busy
At least you are doing something that you enjoy
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Worst: The kids have not settled well in to their own bedrooms in the new house and we have a had a few weeks of sleepless nights and shared beds. Wednesday night was the straw that broke the camel’s back for me – I ended up with a cracking migraine yesterday and have now insisted that the kids go back to sharing a room for a while.
We started last night and my 5yo son said this morning, “yeah, I was a little less scared with her sleeping in my bedroom”. And my 3yo daughter slept through for The Whole Night. First time in weeks. These are kids who slept through freight trains going past their windows and dogs barking up the hall and hoons skidding around teh streets from birth (in the old house). Shared bedroom for the win!
Best: My daughter had her annual heart scan today and our amazing cardiologist has advised she is doing great and we don’t need to see him for another three years! I’m thrilled that she is doing so well.
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Best: I went back to an exercise/acrobatics class I have been missing. It’s been over a month.
Worst: I was sore for 4 days afterwards! And have been tired this entire week. Stupid late nights.
Best #2: Lots of good meals in our house this week. High five to health!
OMM: Weekend. Sleeeeeeeeep.
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Acrobatics class?! Please tell us more. What do you do in this class??
High five back at you for good health x
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It’s called aerial silks. Have you ever seen Cirque du Soleil or Pink perform? They use stretchy bands that hang from the ceiling and climb up them, wrap themselves up in it, do tricks and drop from heights. I’m only a beginner so I can’t do much at the moment – just climbing the thing is exhausting – but I love it.
I have never done anything requiring so much strength in my life! Hanging by your arms and climbing like a monkey is full on.
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Oh my god! I was thinking Cirque du Soleil when I read acrobatics but never imagined that’s what you meant! I know exactly the bands you are talking about. How impressive. Pink might hire you for her next world tour!
The girls are over their lurgi’s (touch wood!). It was all just winter illnesses but it was constant and full-on for a while. Tiring with little ones…
Thank you for asking
x
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Well, it doesn’t look at all the same when I do it, I promise.
So glad everyone is finally well in your house. Winter can be crappy enough when everyone is well (hello, cold and dark mornings, I am looking at you); battling illness is about a hundred times worse. xx
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How is everyone in your house, Cordeline? I know you’ve had some major illness hanging around. Is it all finally gone?
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Wow! That sounds like so much fun PG!
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Best: The drought is over (my fellow Twitterers or anyone who reads my blog will understand.)
Worst: MasterChef is over – I really enjoyed this season and it was wonderful to be able to perve on my old high school crush every night.
OMM: How long will it take KEMH to notify me of my pre-conception appointment? I’m getting extremely impatient! I want a baby NOW!!!
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Oh, and another best: OLYMPICS! I love the Olympics and become an immediate diving and gymnastics expert, despite having no training in either sport.
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Re: gymnastics – ever since Sydney 2000, I am unable to watch gymnastics without thinking of Roy & HG (particularly men’s).
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LOL… the end of Masterchef is one of my bests! loved the first two seasons, especially Poh. I’m fatigued of it now.
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LOL… the end of Masterchef is one of my bests! I loved the first two seasons, especially Poh. I’m fatigued of it now.
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which of the contestants was your high school crush?
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Just wanted to say that I prefered this post when mm staff actually posted their best and worst, lately it’s seems that their best and worst involve just recapping the week’s posts. I remember reading Jamila’s last week where her best was Zoe Foster’s post and thinking “really, the best part of your week was a story about how to do your hair.” And now Nat’s is the same. It’s boring and doesn’t add anything to the post.
If you want to promote your stories at the end of the week, wouldn’t it be better to say “over the past week, we talked about this, this and this” instead of making it sound like your best and worst revolves around your stories.
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Hey Sue
Thanks for your comment – that’s really good feedback for us and I take that on board.
The shift has happened a bit organically and has come from the fact that it can be hard to share stuff about your life each an every week! (I had a fab date last week but didn’t really want to say so because, ah, you know, he reads the site!)
Even though everyone shares their B and W each week, it’s a bit more pressure when you’re the one writing the post and you want to make sure it’s interesting or entertaining for everyone reading. And when you work at MM and we post 7 days a week – your life does pretty much become the site! Really
Even though we’re writers it can get a bit exhausting to mine your own lives for material each week. The other thing is we wanted the focus to be less on each of us as individuals and more on Mamamia and the Mamamia community. I always love reading the B and W comments far more than the actual post!
But you’re right. We should have been upfront about where we were coming from and I’ll make sure we’re a bit clearer next week for everyone. We just didn’t want to make the readers feel that YOU had to change the way YOU do best and worst – because we want to keep reading those great comments!
Oh and one last thing… getting my hair right seriously was the highlight of my week. I know it is SO LAME but I was really very excited about it!
Jamila x
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Actually, your fab date might have been hoping to see that he was your ‘best’! Isn’t it unfortuate that we can’t openly show we are keen when something new starts? We feel we have to play it cool and play our interest down. He might have been glad to know it was as good for you as it was for him.
I’d understand though, if he was your worst, and if you didn’t want to say that in case he reads it. :-S
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Well gosh are you just lovely?
Why does it matter what they post? If it is there best or worst, how does it affect you directly? Gosh some people have nothing else to whinge about.
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Thanks for your comment Jamila, that’s really interesting, and I apologise if I sounded harsh, I was just offering some feedback which you are free to ignore if it doesn’t fit in with what you are doing with the site:-)
Anon, I don’t see how your rude comment was necessary since mm staff are always saying that they welcome feedback. Obviously, it doesn’t affect me directly, I was just making an observation and it’s up to them if they want to take that into consideration or not.
Just like Jamila, I love reading these comments and it’s always so much more interesting to get an insight into someone’s world rather than just read a recap of the week’s posts.
Oh, and can I be petty like you for a second, and point out it’s “their” best an worst, not there.
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Lighten up anonymous.
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Best: Last night, I made some rocky road and some honeycomb-cashew-chocolate-crunch-bar thingys for my husband’s work. And not all of it would fit into the tin so there are leftovers in the fridge!
Worst: Last night, I made some rocky road and some honeycomb-cashew-chocolate-crunch-bar thingys for my husband’s work. And not all of it would fit into the tin so there are leftovers in the fridge!
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hahaha, I was like “but she just typed this sentence–ohhhhh” hahahaha, funny
Enjoy your leftovers/condolences for your leftovers 
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If you need someone to take those leftovers off your hands then I’m sure we could come to some kind of arrangement. ;p
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PLEASE, take it all away from me! Why are in Perth dammit?!
I will have to deliver in little bundles to the neighbours before I send myself into a self-induced sugar coma.
Pathetically, I’m not even a sweet-tooth. I much prefer savoury!
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Gimme.
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“honeycomb-cashew-chocolate-crunch-bar thingys”
recipe, pls?
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It’s based on a Nigella recipe, but I do a couple of things differently:
250g salted cashews
4 Crunchie bars all broken up
Mix these in a bowl
In a glass bowl, break up 3 parts milk chocolate to 1 part dark chocolate and melt over a saucepan of hot water
Add melted chocolate to the dry ingredients and mix together
Spread into a foil-line slice tin and set in the fridge
Cut into chunks
It’s salty (from the cashews) and sweet – delish!
Nigella makes it with salted peanuts but I don’t like peanuts
And she also adds melted butter and golden syrup but, well, you know, I think that takes it a bit overboard (as if it wasn’t already!)
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That sounds awesome! Which Nigella book is it in? I want to add the golden syrup & stuff. I’m with you, can’t stand peanuts in sweet things.
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I don’t know which book I’m sorry! I remember seeing her make it on one of her shows, probably the last series. You could try and Google the recipe ‘honeycomb peanut bars’ or something similar.
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I saw that Nigella episode a few months ago and I have thought about that specific recipe over and over again – it literally makes my mouth water just recalling the images of her making and consuming them! I also Googled the recipe right after I saw it.
I’m glad and sad at the same time that they are not leftover in my fridge. Your husband’s lucky co-workers!
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Thanks! I will google it, I’m thinking Violet Crumbles……mmmm, the possibilities could be endless:-).Found it! Here’s the link for anyone who’s interested http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/nigella-lawson/sweet-and-salty-crunchy-nut-bars-recipe/index.html
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Best: having an amazing time in Bali with a group of 14 friends! I had never been there before and had such a fantastic time, ate some amazing meals and came home with some beautiful dresses and a moartar and pestle!
Worst: Caught a terrible cold on the plane on the way home. At least I didnt get it on holiday! Heard from a colleague that our boss was not taking kindly to people calling in sick at the moment so feeling a bit apprehensive about doing that!
OMM: Checking my email every hour or so to see if I have heard back from a young man that I have a soft spot for who is overseas! And really looking forward to uni starting again next week and making big plans to get excellent marks!
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Worst
At home sick today with nasty head cold. It’s gone through my hubby and kids and worked its way onto me. My house is drowning in a sea of snotty tissues!
Best
Return to work from holidays this week has gone well so far. Pumpernickel was so excited to be going back to school it was quite endearing, and a great reminder that some of the kids I teach really do love what we as teachers do for them.
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Best: Catching up with my friend on Saturday night, dinner and a movie. Also a best is the youtube frenzy I got into last night, watching oldschool videos of Hilary Duff songs… sigh… felt like I was fifteen again… don’t judge me!! haha.
Worst: I really hope I do not sound narky here, or ungrateful. I have no where else to vent because everything to do with custody issues with my daughter and my ex, I strive to be honest and never nasty or show any negativity in regards to the situation, and I always act in Miss 3′s best interests, with love and personal sacrifice. This might sound long and drawn out but.. here goes …
My ex lives in North Queensland, and loves his daughter as much as the next Dad. Our custody agreement is based on her age and the travel involved, at this stage she is spending up to ten days with her Dad in QLD, twice a year. When she gets older it will increase, if her comfort levels and lifestyle react positively towards this. Her Dad is also allowed to visit her in Sydney whenever he likes, the flights are expensive to do too often on his wage apparently, and he does have his own family up there so this is understandable. A few times since she was a baby he has come down for the weekend with his young son and new partner and has spent time with his Miss 3, all was well.
Anyway, her last visit to QLD was a few months ago, so she is missing her Dad time and is due for another visit soon, which will be happening over Christmas this year as we take turns for this. I recently asked my ex if he would be planning any weekend visits before then and he informed me that no, he would not as he cannot afford to spend money or take time off work. Fine, I understand, this is life and part of our agreement.
Yet, a few days ago, I noticed his new partner posting all over facebook about how she canot wait to go to sdney to see this band etc. I just assumed it was her personal holiday and that if my ex was joining her I surely would have heard about it from him. (we speak weekly as a family with our daughter).
Turns out that he was, indeed, in Sydney, half an hour away, for two nights/three days, and had not informed me at all… I am sorry, but if you are half an hour away from the daughter you have not seen for months, and have paid the $350 for flights to see a band, wouldn’t you at least try and see her for a couple of hours to give her a hug, make the most of your mini trip?
I messaged him and asked if he was in sydney and he sent me a long reply saying yes but he doesnt have enough time to see Miss 3 which is why he didn’t tell me he would be here. Yet all over facebook he is checking in at various Sydney pubs and posting things like “nice and relaxing arvo by the hotel pool” etc etc. So he obviously isn’t rushed for time. He was here the whole day yesterday and if he had asked he could have had Miss 3 the whole day instead of her going to daycare, shoe would have been absilutely thrilled to see her Daddy!
My point is, I am just not sure if I have a right to be anoyed? Of course he is entitled to his own personal holiday with his new partner, to go wherever he wants, see whatever band etc etc. But honestly, he claims he misses his daughter so much and says he would do anything to see her more often, yet when he secretly plans to be half an hour away from her he doesn’t make any plans to catch up, doesn’t even try to see if we can work something out to spend time with her, surprise her.
Am I just being crazy and over reactive? I have not had any contact with him since he admitted he was here. Like I said, I avoid sticking my nose into things and I am not a spiteful person, there is nothing I can do here to make him want to see his daughter.
Part of me wonders though, if Miss three was old enough to understand that he was so close to her yet not willing to see her, how upset would she be? Of course I will not tell her this at any stage due to fear of hurting her or damaging her relationship with her Dad. I am not that person and I will always be the fair, logical and understanding parent as best as I can when it comes to any issues or conflict.
Does anyone have any opinion o this? (sorry this post is an essay, I have nowhere else to really explain or vent this kind of stuff!!)
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that is a crap situation that you definately didnt need. He did do the wrong thing and he got caught out by the looks of it.
While i could go on and on about what a slack thing to do, im a big beleiver that the only person you can control is yourself so control your reaction to this. Your right to feel angy and upset and i understand that your doing it on behalf of your little girl who you love to bits and dont ever want to see hurt.
dont rise to the bait, don’t create resentment that may cause any future rifts because your angry. he is missing out, not you and not your daughter she doesnt know what happened and i hope she never finds out.
Be the best Mum you can, love and care for your daughter like you do and dont loose to much time and energy being angry on behalf of your daughter for something you have no control over.
It sucks i know and its sounds like she is with the BEST person to care and put her needs first…………..that is the most important bit.
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Thankyou soo much for making me feel like the better person… it feels good to know I am not reacting unfairly in my mind. You are completely right about the control thing. All I can control is the love and care I can give to my daughter, my ex is his own person and adult enough to act accordingly.
Thanks for your kind words x
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Oh wow that to me is just crazy! I’m not a parent but I can imagine you must be feeling annoyed and yes I do think you have a right to feel this way! How is your ex’s partner with him travelling to see your daughter? I was just wondering if it is her who didn’t want him to visit since they were on a holiday together?
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Honestly, which I can be on here without sounding like the bitter ex etc etc, I do think his partner has alot to do with influencing him about seeing his daughter.. they are engaged and have a two year old of their own, and she has always been very standoffish and bitter towards me which makes things so difficult in my mind when my ex has custody… whole other issue though..
But yes, I do think she would have been persuading him to treat the holiday as a couple thing for the both of them (they didn’t bring their son), but in saying that, he is not stupid and he should have enough backbone to stand up and say “hey I am in Sydney, I want to see my little girl as well”, if this is the case…. Disappointment all round from me… What a jerky thing to do, I hope nothing like this ever happens again.
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Hi Stacey87,
I don’t think you are over reacting at all! I think fair enough if he wants a holiday alone with his partner, but I guess part of being a parent is making sacrifices and he should have sacrificed a few hours out of his trip to spend with his daughter! It shouldn’t really feel like a sacrifice to him as claims he wants to see her more… but even if he didn’t want to, he still should have visted because as you said, your daughter would have been thrilled to see her Daddy!
Luckily your daughter isn’t old enough to have her own FB account yet and see that her Dad was only half an hour away from her for 3 days. Poor thing
Good on you for being so mature & calm about the situation. I don’t know if I would have enough control to keep my mouth shut!
xx
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Thankyou for validating how I feel, RE the holiday right etc. As a parent who claims he wants alot more custody, his actions do not reflect this.. I have not texted him at all except to ask if he was in Sydney, as I don’t want to get emotional or bitchy etc… but deep down I want to send him something honest and personal and probably very upsetting to him. Not going to happen though, it is in our daughter’s best interest if we are at the very least both civil to each other. I am so disappointed in him though.
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Well done stacey for taking the moral high ground
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I would be seriously pissed too, and really disappointed actually. I think you have every right to be annoyed. As your daughters primary carer I’m sure you put her first ALL the time, why should it be different for him? He could have had her for a couple of hours in the morning then dropped her at day care if he was busy. I feel for you.
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That really is shit.
Can I make a suggestion that you document all of this as best you can? Hopefully this is a one off, but custody issues go for a long time and there might be a point in the future where you need evidence of this type of behaviour. I don’t have any experience with custody matters myself other than watching friends go through things and all I can say is that the more evidence you have – even if you never have to use it – the better.
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thanks for the documentation reminder, I have recently suggested we communicate via email in regards to all custody things, and I regularly send him detailed updates of her development, personality etc.. so as we both have proper eveidence of what we are saying, less likely to get emotional etc. I will be sure to add this to the records I am keeping, thankyou so much for the reminder!
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Stacey you sound like a wonderful mother and are not over reacting at all. You say you have your daughters best interest at heart and actually act upon that intead of being bitter. Well done!
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Maybe you could un-friend his new partner from your Facebook so that kind of stuff isn’t in your face so much. It still would’ve happened anyway, but it might not have stressed you out. Just a suggestion.
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Totally agree.
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I can’t give any advice but I would be furious and really hurt by this. I think he is selfish and irresponsible. As I understand he is the one who moved interstate away from your little girl too. I guess you will just have to acceot that that is the way it is and find a way to feel peace with it. Your little girl has you and you’re obviously a great mum. She’s lucky xxx
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I think you are very entitled to feel annoyed. He could have caught up for a coffee for a few hours, and seen your little girl. It’s only a FEW HOURS. His new partner should understand, being a parent herself, that you don’t switch off from your kids.
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I think maybe they just wanted an adults weekend away. no kids. I don’t understand why he couldn’t spend at least an hour with his daughter. So This sounds like pressure from her, to not make contact. I would unfriend him too, why do you want to know what they are doing all the time anyway?
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Best: it was my birthday during the week
Got spoiled from my friends and family! Also Melbourne’s actually managed to have some brief periods of beautiful sunshine.
Had a rush of love for where I’m living as well- love my housemates and love St Kilda!
Worst: My laptops dying
I’ve got a Dell atm that hasn’t even lasted 2 years! I need something somewhat portable for uni and something that will actually be somewhat longlasting… which leads me to
OMM: 13inch Macbook pro- what does everyone think? I’ve been told I’ll be able to salary sacrifice one because I use my laptop for work as well… not 100% sure how to go about salary sacrifice but my manager is away atm so need to wait til she gets back to find out more info
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love love love my macbook pro!
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Macbook is worth every cent!
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Currently typing away on my husbansd’s 5yo mac as my computer has died. Am a convert & when we can afford it, my next one will def be a mac too.
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Yes. Yes. Yes. We’ve had a MacBook for 7 years and it’s still going strong. Love it.
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My ‘best’ was spending Sunday in the Hunter Valley with my housemate. We had an absolute ball tasting wines and eating ALL THE CHEESE IN THE WORLD. Seriously, there is no cheese left. Sorry everyone.
My other ‘best’ (because Nat had two, so I’m copying) was the great response to our feminist post earlier this week. Yep, I copped a lot of flack for it but I was totally overwhelmed by the really lovely comments from so many Mamamia readers. Thanks everyone!
My ‘worst’ was definitely COAG not getting it together for a deal on the NDIS. I was so outraged by state premiers putting politics before policy. It’s about time we gave people living with disability the support that they need, rather than using how they acquired that disability dictate the help they’re entitled to.
OMM: The OLYMPICS. I cannot wait to begin. Mamamia will be LIVE TWEETING the ceremony and that means no sleep for me tonight as I’d rather push through than get up early. Needless to say, the tweets should be amusing. If you’re not already following @mamamia on Twitter, I suggest you hop to it.
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Snap! I’m going to the Hunter this afternoon.
I hope there are a few morsels of cheese left!
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Jamilla you clearly love politics. As do I. Just wondered why you left your last job when you clearly have such a passion for justice and politics.
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Best: It’s Friday and nearly the weekend, over this working week! Also getting excited for my upcoming South America and New York trip, cannot come soon enough! I hate reaching the middle of the year, when Christmas holidays are so far away and I feel like I havent had time off in sooooo loooong.
Worst: Things are nearing an end with my Man. I just don’t think we seriously like each other anymore. Like, when we are together I’m just non fussed on him. But the nights we spend apart I miss him like crazy, so I get really excited about seeing him the next day. I’ve voiced this to him and his reply is ‘but really, you’d just miss anyone’. And I’m starting to think maybe this is true. Sigh. Breaking up will be difficult in this sense because theres no major catalyst, I’m not angry at him or upset for any reason. So it’s going to be hard to put a stop to seeing him and not go back …
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you sound like a married couple.
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Hahaha oh thanks Anon! Maybe we aren’t that bad after all!!!
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WORST: I’m even more broke than I was last month. I hope next month is better.
WORST: Still super sad about Gamer Guy.
BEST: My mum is taking me out for dinner tomorrow night. Then we watch Star Trek, I sleep over, and we watch more Star Trek!
Hope everyone has a good weekend. Love and cupcakes to all.
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I missed something! What happened to gamer guy?
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I asked him whether he thought about being more than friends and he said he only wanted friendship.
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Oh Cuppy, I am so sorry it didn’t turn out the way it should of!
Sometimes blokes are blind to the pure awesomeness in front of them!
Go you for putting it out there too! At least now you know, and you know where you stand too, so you can be open for business again.
Hugs and cupcakes to you! xx
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I know he thinks I’m awesome, but just in the friend capacity. Oh well
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oooh evil cupcake my Mum and I do that with Harry Potter! Sounds fun xxx eat lots of delicious food!!
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Oh no evil pupcake, what happened to gamer guy?
Last time you weren’t sure if you wanted to let him know you liked him I think… what’s happened?
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I just read above. BOO! And I meant cupcake, not pupcake. lol.
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Best: In Sydney for a work conference and catching up with some friends I haven’t seen for a while.
Worst: Between leaving for the airport at 1pm and my husband getting home from work at 4 some lowlife broke into our house and stole jewellery, laptop etc and our only car
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Oh, your worst absolutely sucks! I’ve been in a similar situation (except I was at home when it happened) and am sending you a virtual hug, and am hoping that the police find whoever did it and your belongings are recovered (or that insurance comes through).
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Thanks Bunny. Poor hubby has been dealing with police & insurance while looking after our 3 & 6 year old sons and sorting out a car and car seats. I think he will be happy to see me when I get home tomorrow.
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So sorry to hear this, just terrible. I really hope they find your stuff soon.
Recently the police were warning people about leaving their car keys at home where they could be found as that’s how so many cars are stolen. Everyone carefully hide your car keys.
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Best – went to see Circque Du Soleil through the week – it was a fantastic show, amazing talent and such beautiful costumes. May never kill an insect ever again.
Best – Stumbled across Paper Giants last night when doing the remote flick. Saw it when it was first aired and loved it so was good to watch again. Even my husband was happy to bypass the Football Show.
No personal worst but the crap surrounding Leisel Jones is an absolute disgrace.
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Worst: I dropped down a does of the dex this week and I’ve had a terrible week. So tired, so nauseous. So over it.
Worst: Master A is teething.
Best: saw the boob doctor yesterday and my lumpy boob is just that – lumpy.
Best/Worst: I’ve really enjoyed watching masterchef and am sad that it is now finished. Especially as we sat everynigth with Miss C to watch it and she really got into it too. So much so, the other day in the kitchen I made some vegemite scrolls. Miss C proclaimed “You have 30 minutes, your time starts now!”. She has started to enjoy cooking. This week she actually cracked an egg while we were making a cake. And she helped me roll out biscuits and use the cookie cutter. I love that she is being instilled with a sense of how to cook.
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That’s adorable. My 3 year old son loves masterchef, to the point where I’ll give him some toast and he’ll say, “So what’s your dish?” or he’ll come out while I’m cooking dinner and say, “You’ve only got ten minutes, the pressure is on!”
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Best: had kids parent/teacher interviews and all doing well
Worst: 14 year old son just been referred to dermatologist for roaccuatane to treat cystic acne and he is so depressed
And also i would be so grateful if anyone has some advice for me?
My daughter is ten (turning 11 in September this year) and is in Grade 6. So due to start high school next year. She is keen to go but we are torn on whether she is too young and should be held back another year. She skipped a grade in the past and she is top of her class academically but also one year younger than her peers. She would be going into year 7 aged 11 with kids who are 12 turning 13. She is also physically small and most of her peers are well into puberty. Any advice on whether to let her go or hold her back most gratefully received!!
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I finished school three years ago, and don’t have kids and obviously don’t know your daughter. But, I think keeping her in primary school, while her friends all move one would be a very hard thing for her to deal with. Providing that you feel she is socially ready I would say let her go.
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Not so much advice, but comment – I had a friend who was put on roaccuatane for her cystic acne – she had a terrible case of it – but the roaccutane worked quite quickly and now she has perfect skin – she did lots of other treatments so she didn’t scar.
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hi Anon, just wanted to say two things- I went on roaccutane at 14 & it was the best turning point in my life… I was so miserable with bad skin and I got my confidence back as soon as my skin began improving!
Re your daughter I would put her in the higher grade, I moved back from Hk to Aus and my parents took a guess with me as I was doing well at school and I feel like I flourished because of it… What does she think? Sure she is old enough to have an opinion and that counts for a lot!
Good luck x
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I eventually went on roaccutane in my early 20s for acne that wasn’t horrific but was just really persistent and not responsive to other treatment. For me, it worked. My experience was that roaccutane was vastly over-hyped in terms of being a ‘big deal’ to go on it. I didn’t have any problems with side effects and my dermatologist was great in dosing and monitoring. For what it’s worth, I wouldn’t worry about it too much, it often takes a while to get a dermatologist appt, so just wait it out and see what happens. Good luck to your son – it is awful to have bad acne at that age! But great that you’re getting on top of it all!
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Completely agree. I went on roaccutane in my early twenties and wish I had done it much earlier. The clearing up of my skin made such a difference in my self confidence.
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I was an accelerated kid, and was only 16 when i graduated year 12.
My advice is let her go, but make sure the school has a good gifted and talented program if at all possible.
I was personally sent to a school which didnt have a gifted program, and ended up dumbing myself down a little to fit in. It took a lot of years after school to get back on track to where I wanted to be.
Ultimately I dont personally recommend holding her back, because I know that would have made me resent my age if I couldnt have gone with my friends to High School when I was clearly academically capable.
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I’m working on the assumption your daughter is academically gifted. There’s a lot of research out there that says holding gifted kids back for social reasons can cause more harm than good. You may even find the school can accelerate her further in specific subjects. Talk to the high school, share your concerns and if you don’t like what they say consider a different location.
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I have experience with both of these issues.
Please, please be careful with roaccutane. I had a friend in highschool who was taking it and her mental health suffered terribly. She finally committed suicide in year 10. It was awful. Her parents blamed the drug for what happened. I truly don’t mean to scare you, but monitor your son’s mental health carefully and if you are worried, get him off it.
Secondly, I went to primary school early and suffered due to being much younger (in actual age, but largely emotionally). When I left my first school to enter a gifted and talented program, I repeated a year and it was the best thing that ever happened to me – I was academically stimulated and finally emotionally similar to my peers. So I had the best of both worlds there.
If your daughter is mature and not suffering socially as a result of her age then I would say let her go. If she is being bullied (as I was), or is sensitive and underdeveloped emotionally, then I would suggest not to.
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Is there any research to suggest a link between roaccutane and suicide? This is the first I’ve heard of this.
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If you google it, there are plenty of instances where something comes up, but have a look at this one for starters: http://www.april.org.uk/pages/roaccutane.html.
From another site: A clear chemical link has been established between the acne drug Roaccutane and the history of depression and suicide associated with its usage, according to researchers at the University of Bath.
Writing in the journal Experimental Biology and Medicine a team of scientists, lead by Dr. Sarah Bailey of the Department of Pharmacy & Pharmacology, reported on their discovery that the drug, also known as Accutane, reduced the availability of the neurotransmitter serotonin; low levels of which have consistently been linked to a number of psychiatric symptoms including aggression, anxiety disorders, and suicidal ideation.
“Serotonin is an important chemical that relays signals from nerve cells to other cells in the body”, said Dr. Bailey, “our findings suggest that Roaccutane might disrupt the way serotonin is produced and made available to cells…this could result in problems associated with low levels of serotonin, which might include depression”.
Learn more: http://www.naturalnews.com/022316.html#ixzz21n4ljAlA
My friend’s parents said that they had had no idea of the link between this drug and suicide, but that they had found many instances in other countries (especially the US) since she became unwell prior to her death.
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Ugh, I replied to this but I think I included too many links and it was blocked. Please help, moderators!
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According to her parents, my friend had no issues prior to taking this drug. I cannot speak for others.
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My boyfriend was on it for a little while, until I made him stop taking it. It made him angry and very horrible to live with. I’m with picardie.girl please monitor your sons mental health. especially if he is already depressed.
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I was accelerated. I didn’t rate it.
I was always physically behind the 8 ball. No hair on my legs when all my mates were getting it etc.
I held my daughter back from starting kindy at the earliest possible age becasue I think that confidence and maturity are as important in life as academic prowess.
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I did the same with my son but he is academically about average. I imagine it could be very frustrating for a child to repeat a year if they are already well ahead academically.
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I took roaccuatane for acne and it worked a treat. However it is a double edged sword for some. You can be depressed because of your skin, then end up depressed because of the treatment.
Unknown at the time I had underlying mental health issues and the roaccuatane made me severely depressed (I felt worse than before I was taking it).
Hopefully his depression is about his skin and when he sees it clear he will feel better, but do keep a careful eye on him. I am grateful for how it helped my skin but god it was tough.
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Thanks so much to all who replied! You’ve given me a lot to think about! Have a great weekend
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My brother had bad acne when he was that age and took roaccutane for it. Cleared it up pretty quick and still to this day he has the most beautiful skin.
You could always try taking him to a naturopath if you wanted a different opinion. Obviously anything they recommend isn’t going to work as quickly (if at all) but it won’t have the side effects of synthetic drugs.
I know a good naturopath if you wanted to try a consultation. All the best xx
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I can recommend ‘Out of Eden’ based in Unley, South Australia. They can custom make organic skin care products. Excellent quality. Link here: http://outofeden.com.au/estore/index.php?route=common/home or google them.
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Best: catching up tonight with a friend who has been overseas for months. Can’t wait to catch up over a bottle of wine (or two!)
Worst: my uni workload is insane. Nursing is hard! I love it, but there is s much to learn I don’t know where to start! Especially since we are doing pharmacology at the moment.
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Best: Got a puppy!
His name is Ted, and he is a beautiful stumpy tail blue cattle dog. We love him to bits and he is a sooky, snuggly little one. He is getting confident with the kids, and he lets me know when anyone is coming up to the house. I drove a couple of hours away to collect him, and it was a blissful morning all by myself while the kids were at school.
Worst: We buy cattle every week at a few different saleyards, some sales are about four hours away, and we have a buyer to buy them for us. So this week, we got some great cattle (for a great price) and we get a cattle carrier to bring them home for us.
The truck unfortunately overturned and we had 16 steers on there, 15 died and the one that was left was injured. The carrier bought the injured one from us, as it would not be a good idea to send it up here on the truck. I am thankful that the carrier has insurance as we would be down about 10 grand and no cattle to show for it either. There’s the silver lining!
I am sad about the poor cattle though – it’s a shame.
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Oh what a gorgeous little puppy! I would love to have a pet over here! We are in an apartment complex and most of our neighbours have dogs, I would love to have cat though but husband not so keen on it! Well if we end up staying here long term then I’m just going to get one and he’ll have to deal lol.
Sorry to hear about your cattle, that’s horrible
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Thanks Cinnamon!
Apartments and dogs are hard, especially when a puppy is noisy at night. This fellow barks a lot if he is on a chain or confined, so I am introducing it slowly as I train him. At least cats aren’t too noisy!
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Yep very true! We hear dogs barking constantly and it does get pretty annoying! That’s why I want a cat
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Oh your puppy is adorable! Sorry to hear about the cattle. That sucks.
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Best … I had an operation on my leg this week & all went well!!! V happy & now to recovery!!
Worst … The Leisel Jones uproar!!! I bet all of those “journalists” have pot bellies whilst munching on crap food and tapping on their computers about Leisel’s weight!! I guarantee, none of them have ever trained/worked as hard as she. The best revenge is a gold medal & I hope she smashes it ….
Success is the best revenge!! Go Leisel, make them eat a huge piece of humble pie …. Then they can hit the gym!!
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Normally, not a big believer in unburdening woes, but this one’s actually quite interesting in a shit way.
I have a house with tentants in it who gave notice yesterday. OK, not the end of the world, you think. Let me complete the sentence.
I have a house with tenants in it who gave notice yesterday and at midnight last night, the house immediately next door was shot up in a drive-by.
I can just see the queue of prospective new tenants stretching around the block.
Shit’s gonna get expensive.
Best: Luck’s gotta turn from here.
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Oh dear. I was shocked when I heard about the shooting in that street – I’ve always wanted to live on it! With the rental market the way it is in this area though, I don’t think you’ll have too many problems, drive by shooting or not!
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Thanks, Rivkah, hope that you’re right.
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sorry to say but due to the governments canning of the living away from home allowance rentals are way down, it’s amazing the prices they’ve dropped to. I’m referring to Sydney though.
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Hey Trog, I agree with Rivkah that rentals are hard to find, and you will find tenants who are cool with it.
Better a shooting than disgusting tenants who could of trashed your house!
Sending good karma your way!
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Much appreciated, HM.
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A good thing about this week is talking to my best friend who moved away for work about 18 months ago. I miss her all the time and she is super busy so our rare phone conversations are just gold.
This has been a hard week for me though mostly. I’ve really liked a good friend of mine for about 6 months. We spent alot of time together just the two of us for the past 4 months and it felt like we were dating- he was driving my car and paying for dinner and movies, coming to my house with my family for dinner, looking after my niece with me, only I know we weren’t actually dating cause I knew he did those things with other girls he wasn’t dating back home and I was chasing him a little bit more than he was chasing me. He only just moved out to Australia in March and I met him in about 6 months ago in Canada when I was living there. He’s a friend of my family and he only had a few of his own family members and one other friend in my city that he knew when he came out here so I took the initiative to look after him and fell for him pretty quick. He’s now in my social circle cause I invited him into it about 2 months ago but the other night he basically took me aside and told me he knew I liked him and that he thought we should just be friends.
Im not sure how he figured it out since I’m not much of a flirty girl but he was spot on. He was really nice about it and said he loved me as a friend. He said he was sorry if he had lead me on- which he didn’t.
I guess Im lucky that he had the courage to talk to me about it instead of leaving me in the dark or ignoring me and Im glad he didn’t actually hurt me but I do feel hurt. I’ve never had a conversation like that with a guy before and it was pretty raw and awkward. I’m 24 and still never had a boyfriend. I kinda had the feeling he wasn’t interested its just so hard to hear and now Im just liking my wounds, thinking I should stay away for a while and trying to deal with the fact that he wasn’t the right one for me even though I thought he could have been.
I’m trying not to take it too personally, though it is kind of a blow to the ego when you are falling for someone who just doesn’t feel the same which is kinda the story of my life. Trying to work out how move on and forget about him even though he is still in my life and Im good friends with his family. Any advice?
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Oh Honey, I feel for you and your heart, we have all been there.. and broken hearts really suck. It is sooo hard to fall for a friend who doesn’t feel the same
I guess the only advice I could give from experience is to just try and accept that this is how life works sometimes, you are so lucky he was honest and upfront with you, there are sooo many guys who will lfirt and be all cutesy and make you fall for them, then throw you the cold shoulder and cause confusion and frustration…
Keep yourself busy with work/study/friends, let yourself have a cry about it but maybe create a “cut off day”, as in, “By Monday I will be doing my best to accept that my life is moving on without him romantically… this weekend I am allowed to have a cry and treat myself” with chocolate/movies/whatever you like doing. And don’t hurry love or boyfriends or any of that… It is cliched but relationships are alot of work and it is sooo much better to be happy and sngle than coupled and unhappy/wanting something more. Just have faith that things will work out
If you need to start spending less time with his family and friends then do what is right for you.. remember it isn’t permanent and when you are feeling better and have moved on from your feelings, things have a very good chance of going back to normal, and reminders of him won’t even phase you anymore.
Take care of yourself
Xx
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That sucks. I had almost exactly the same thing happen about 2 years ago, except his way of telling me was to announce that he had a new girlfriend! Seriously I thought he was chasing me and so many people thought that to.
As it turned out it was the best thing in the world because once I stopped focusing on him I met the most amazing guy for me.
On the not having a boyfriend at 24, I would say I had my first proper relationship when I was 27. Like stacey87 said, they are a heap of work, so don’t stress. It is much better to be single than be with the wrong person. Just make sure you are open to the possibility. That was my issue, I had such a closed circle of friends in my early 20′s that I didn’t meet anyone new.
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Best: It’s been a pretty great week! Had the day off yesterday (kind of- took kids on a school excursion), and got a[nother] tweet from Tim Campbell the other day (who I love).
New Delta Goodrem song “Dancing with a broken heart” released to radio yesterday and it’s awesome!
And Lucy Durack (Original Aussie Glinda in WICKED) released her first single “Heading in the Right Direction” on iTunes today, and it’s also great! (Even if iTunes spelt her name ‘durak’ LOL)
Worst: I have to wait til NEXT Friday to actually buy Delta’s new song, haha. No, I’m kidding (but impatient).
The worst would probably be that I haven’t had much of an opportunity to write this week, and I hate that. The beginning of term is too busy with programs and such to write, I have no motivation to write anything else
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Hmmm not a major best/worst this week, def a FWP –
Worst – as I wrote on OMM was my trip to the hairdresser last Saturday. I made the mistake of not taking photos of what I wanted to show and well didn’t end up with what I wanted, ended up calling up the day after and complaining. Probably should have said something at the time but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it, does anyone else have this problem? I just feel like I don’t want other people looking at me! Anyway she said she would fix it for free so I made sure I got photos of what I wanted and then that brings me to my …..
Best – having my hair done the way I wanted, have gone for an ombre’ish brown blonde look, haven’t had blonde in my hair for a lonnnggg time! I figure since the weather is warm now I’ll keep it for a while and then go darker later. I’ve had one colour in my hair for a while so going to have to get used to this look, but I do like it – apart from the fact that my hair is fragile now so lots of conditioning treatments from now on!
Best 2: Friends wedding in Toronto end of August, can’t wait! Only going for 3 days but am excited, must go dress shopping!
OMM – I know this is usually saved for hump day but had to get a few things off my chest, so a couple of weeks ago I wrote about how I went off the pill and then straight away had a break through bleed, and then I had my period once but then that was it and now nothing. I felt like I was getting it and then it didn’t come and now I’m feeling it also – they symptoms I feel before I’m going to get my period but still nothing. I wonder if it will come in the next few days. Funny I’ve never wanted my period to come back so much!
Also on another Open Post I wrote about how I hated the amount of food waste going on at my work, I appreciate all the responses I got to that and I did speak to my manager at work but was basically just told that it wasn’t something they wanted to work with (too much stuff to deal with corporate etc) so yeh…. very annoying! And what was even worse was how she just didn’t care and it didn’t seem to phase her.
And finally (I know I’m going on and on today) – I’ve had some issues in the past with my in-laws, mainly sis and mum (who hasn’t?) but since moving overseas I’ve reached out to my SIL and well things are ok now but I feel like we just don’t communicate very often, just a few facebook stuff and yes it’s hard when I’m overseas but I decided to write her an email today in the hopes of opening up some line of communication so let’s see what she will write back. Also sent MIL a msg telling her I’m thinking of her and husband’s grandma (who is sick atm) but also haven’t heard from her yet. I don’t know if I will ever have a close relationship with them but at least I’m making the effort!
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As in Toronto, Canada? my brother got married there cause my sister in law is from Toronto. It’s such a great city. Go to Niagara falls too!
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Yep as in Canada! I’ve actually been there once already, husband and I drove there when we first moved here, only stayed for one night and we stopped off in Niagara falls, I loved it! I actually wouldn’t mind staying overnight in Niagara once! Toronto, especially downtown reminded me of Melbourne a lot!
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I’ve had the hair problem. I got my hair cut last November for my uni graduation ball, and it was far shorter than I wanted it- or had ever gone before.
I literally cried to my mum for an hour over it. She wanted me to go back and complain, but I didn’t. I hate causing a fuss- plus, what could they do about it? It’s not like they could stick the hair back on!
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Oh I’ve been there too Carlie, my issue was more with my colour than with the cut, which is lucky since you can always fix colour (most of the time) but cut wise yeh if it’s too short then what can you do!
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11pm and finally home and online…
That sucks about your colour…I hope they fix it for you! I am loving my hair, I got husband to take pictures the other day, but I was doing this weird not-smile thing so I didn’t FB them. Thanks for the mousse tip…I have never really used products coz my hair was too long to make use of it, but the mousse really made a difference to the blow drying!
I hate the waste here! They don’t notice, do they? I’m not surprised she wasn’t phased.
Glad stuff with your in-laws is sounding a bit more positive…hope it keeps going in that direction!
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Hey Rach, I was passed out on the couch when I got your reply lol. I do like my hair but knowing me I’ll get sick of it soon enough and want to go darker again! Oh I’m glad the mousse tip worked for you
Yeh, I didn’t want to get into it too much with her I think anyway it’s really not up to her and she’d have to go through corporate etc and I guess she wasn’t willing to do that!
Got a txt reply back from my MIL she basically said thank you but she doesn’t really respond back with anything else. Haven’t heard from my SIL but I’m guessing it will take her some time to respond. Oh well like I said I’m trying!
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I learnt about Moroccan oil products for hair and a couple of weeks ago started using the shampoo, conditioner and the oil and I can not believe how great it has made my hair. The difference is amazing. I hear they are also releasing products for skin too.
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I’ve already commented…but just wanted to say – I am so over people being titchy and nasty here! I swear, some people go looking to be insulted and annoyed and some go looking for opportunities to be nasty.
It seems there has been an increase of nasty (often anon) comments lately, and so big props to all the staff at MM – I don’t know how you aren’t constantly banging your heads on the desk in frustration!
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Thanks Alibee
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It can get exhausting but what I love is when people use the “alert moderator” button to alert us to nasty things – especially after hours and on the weekends. Makes our job so much easier, so to everyone who’s ever used it – THANK YOU XXX
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I was thinking the other day, and I think when an anti-vax post is put up, the nastiness and trolls in the days afterwards increases. Just something I noticed, so wonder if some people with an agenda continue to troll the site.
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I said the same thing a little while ago on here and was accused of being “holier than thou” and thinking I was perfect and better than everyone else. *bangs head on desk*
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I think most of us have been insulted in some way or another here, usually by a brave anonymous.
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most people use anon, or anonymous, when they don’t want to get attacked for having a different opinion to the masses. some people like to ‘follow ‘ another person who posts, and feel they need to comment on whatever they’ve said, usually something snide. It can be extremely annoying.
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Best: my four-month old son…
Worst: finding out i am pregnant again and i am not sure what to do…
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Oh, what a surprise… there are pros and cons to having close together babies, I hope you find peace in your decision soon. You are very lucky, although you may not feel that as a primary emotion at the moment. All the best
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Hi there. I have two boys 15 months apart (we planned on 18mths apart but it happened quickly!). I spent my whole second pregnancy worrying about how I would cope as everyone around me had 2 year gaps or longer. Since I’ve had my second baby I’ve met heaps of women who have children with similar age gaps. I truly think there are pros and cons to any age gap. If you left it until your first was, say, 2 or 3 then you have different hurdles to overcome. So please please enjoy the pregnancy and don’t worry about the future. The best advice a great friend gave me was “after the second baby is born that will become your new normal”. Good luck xxxx
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Thank you! It has been a few days since I found out and now I am feeling better about it
xx
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Best: An unexpectedly gorgeous morning on Monday – a walk in the rain with my baby boy snuggled in his pram, followed by watching him enjoy his first taste of a croissant in our local cafe, and then an impromptu lunch with a lovely friend and her two littlies. I love the days when everything just flows and motherhood feels like such an unadulterated joy.
Worst: A down day yesterday. We both slept badly, I woke in the morning with a sore neck, didn’t get dressed til after lunch, and the grey weather outside magnified my gloom. My son was grizzly and bored with all of my efforts to entertain him. I didn’t speak to another adult all day and felt lonely and frustrated. Also found myself struggling with envy towards a friend and feeling bad about it.
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Hope you have a good weekend.
xx
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Thanks Alexa, you too
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Best: have been catching up with all my girlfriends after being away for a month. Made me realise how special my girls are.
Other Best: when catching up with one of my fab girlfriends she asked if I was going to a vintage styling workshop in a week. I said no, as I’m broke after our holiday – so she is shouting it for me in return for the times I’ve done her hair! I’m so stoked, how lovely is that?
Worst: I’m a murderer. A mouse got into the house while we were away and execution like I lured and killed it with a mousetrap yesterday. It is the first time I’ve deliberately set out to kill something other than a snail. It is a bit funny how bad I feel about it really. On the other hand, mousetraps have come a long way and are now so easy to set and very lethal.
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You can get mousetraps that don’t kill the mouse these days…as long as you can bear the scratchy-scratchy sound of a caught mouse (better than the alternative for me!), once you catch them you just pick the trap up and set the mouse free outside.
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I did consider it but we have a mouse plague happening in Canberra. It is actually better for all involved (well except for the mouse) to kill them. If I released close by, it would be back, if I released further away it would just be someone else’s issue. And at least I’m doing it fast, no poisoning from me.
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Oh dear – im in Canberra (northside) and I am now wary that we might possibly have mice. i had no idea Canberra had a mouse problem!
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Just keep an eye out for the calling cards (i.e. mouse poo). It has been bad for about 2 years, pretty much since the drought broke really. My sister in weston creek has had a shocker of a time as have my parents in Kambah.
We hadn’t had anything till now – I’m convinced they had plenty to eat at the neighbors who are a bit gross. I’m hoping it was just one, but I don’t think they are loners so the trap is re-set.
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Thanks Vivacious! I have a pet bird so I’m aware that the seed can make me a target. Will definitely be vigilant!
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Worst: After 8 months of trying to get pregnant, still not pregnant. Hubby is patient and says “more practice needed”.
Best: Weather in Sydney today is divine, and being a Friday night, I can at least relax and have glass of wine with dinner. Off to the movies on Sunday to see “Magic Mike” with two of my girlfriends, not looking forward so much to the movie but coffee and cake after should be lovely.
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I really hope it happens for you soon, Alexa. It’s so hard to be patient when you want it so much.
In the meantime, enjoy your zzzzz’s…….
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Worst: I am still suffering the effects of the gastric flu I had last week. It’s been 10 days now since I first got it and I’m still nowhere near 100%. I’m back to the GP today because any time I eat something other than dry crackers and water it disagrees with me. I’m exhausted. This is my busiest time of the year (I’m a bookkeeper) and I’ve got 2 BAS I need to finish asap as well as two exams I’m supposed to be studying for. I only have enough energy to lie on the couch but I don’t have time for that!
Best: I’ve lost a couple of kilos and there’s been no vomiting. There had to be a positive in all of this
OMM: How would my husband survive if I wasn’t around. Not putting myself up on a pedestal, but I spent 5 days in bed last week. He did NOTHING except look after the kids. No housework, no laundry, no cleaning or tidying. Just got the kids to school and fed them. I had to ask him to do a load of washing on the weekend because I had run out of clean pyjamas, and even then I had to drag my sorry arse out of bed and put them in the dryer myself so I could wear a clean pair! It seems he can only do one thing at a time, and looking after the kids was it. I love him dearly, but he needs to learn to multitask! He was really looking forward to going back to work because it was too hard. It sort of made me feel appreciated….
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Awww, I hope you feel better soon!! I was also sick last week, and had the week off work. Alas, I am a single parent and on the days I was too sick to take my 3yo to daycare, I had to keep her inside.. she was frustrated but there wasn’t much I could do, and it was raining anyway… being sick is no fun at all, I had forgotten how much of a pain it was!!|
As for the housework thing, I totally get where you are coming from! Housework is definitely hardly noticed by anyone except the doer. My boyfriend doesn’t live with me, but after my week of sickness and being bedridden/exhausted, he came over on the Friday night, looked around the house at all the mess, dirty dishes, piles of laundry, crumbs under Miss 3′s table, and said something along the lines of “Wow, I knew you were sick but with all the time off work I thought you would have a sparkling clean house! What have you actually been doing??” I almost kicked him in the face! Ignorant males haha. It ended well though, he helped tidy up and hung out some washing on the weekend, felt very chuffed with himself. (His mum does his laundry at home..)
Take care, get well soon Xx
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My Mum has had that bug too. She found barley sugar really good for energy levels plus porridge (with no milk) seemed to stay put and actually give her some fuel.
Hope you get better soon!
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Thanks girls. I’ve just seen the doctor and it’s turned into bronchitis. And she’s organised some lovely pathology on the other to see what’s going on down there…….I think a weekend resting is in order
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I had the dubious privelige of seeing how my husband would cope without me around when I was recuperating from surgery in 2010. Two words: not well.
The grass grew to knee length, friends cooked for us, so I can’t even count on that and my parents and oldest daughter cleaned up. He went to work and did a bit of cooking and looked after the girls at night. h, he moped around a bit too.
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Best: Cooking my first roast in my new house tonight! Hope our crappy little oven can handle it…
Best 2: So excited for the Olympics! Going to get up and make pancakes and watch the opening ceremony tomorrow (which is luckily, on at the very respectable time of 8am here.)
Worst: Nothing! I love life!
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Bests
- Dentist bill not as big as anticipated!
- I am visiting my baby sister this weekend who was born this week
Worsts
- Work is a bit boring and uninteresting at the moment
- More money would be lovely
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Best – simple really. You know how life is busy and sometimes you don’t have a time to sit and chew the fat with your husband/partner/boyfriend. Well on Wednesday night husband came home with a bottle of wine and we got tipsy, maybe a little drunk and talked, and talked and talked, and listened to music and did stupid dancing til midnight. It was so nice to be us, and be together, and relax.
Worst – Following a late evening of red wine drinking, I felt a little worse for wear, which meant last night I was super cranky because I was tired. Sorry husband!! xx
OMM – The Olympics, I’m super excited!
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