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Screen shot 2012 08 12 at 2.22.53 PM She said my hair would kill my career. Wait, what?

Is your long hair killing your career?

 

 

 

 

by JAMILA RIZVI

Alright people, listen up and listen closely. Because this nugget of information, this extremely scientific piece of research I’m about to share: could change your life. Or at the very least, it could change your hair.

You see, according to legal blog The Careerist, there are women all over the world who are RUINING THEIR CAREERS because they refuse to cut their hair as they get older. That’s right, how seriously your colleagues take your opinions and advice in the workplace is directly and inversely proportionate to the length of your hair.

Put that in your curling iron and let it smoke.

Let’s look at exactly what The Careerist has to say about the relationship between your hair and your job:

An entertainment lawyer in California insists that women over 40 who sport long hair are making a mistake—professionally and personally. Most women end up with “long, stringy dark brown hair shot with a few frizzy strands of gray,” she says.

But “even if the hair is long, glossy, and well-maintained, the juxtaposition of aging or—to be politically correct—’mature’ facial features and youthful hairstyle doesn’t work.” The look is jolting and not compatible with professional comportment.

Not compatible with professional comportment? Well that’s distressing because I have to say that top of mind for me each day when I rock up at the office is my ‘professional comportment’. (I’ll be honest with you, I’m not sure whether I comport professionally or unprofessionally, this is the first time I’ve given that critically career defining factor a moment’s thought).

The lawyer/blogger/hair-ist continues:

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Joni Mitchell, sporting career-killing long hair.

I feel guilty about picking on Hillary Rodham Clinton’s appearance, because I think she gets picked on way too much for the way she looks. She’s a substantive person with a substantive job. And we should leave her alone.

So forgive me for pointing out that her hair has been growing like an unruly potted plant in recent months. For a while, she looked nicely put-together. But since she’s been letting her hair grow, Clinton often looks haggard and rumpled.

I just hope she’s not planning to let it grow long. I know this doesn’t sound very liberated, but I find women over 40 with very long hair unsettling—particularly if it is straight and hangs more than a few inches below the shoulder.

(And don’t get me started on straight, blond long hair on women over a certain age!) They look rather sad and dated to me—as if they’re desperately trying to rechannel Joni Mitchell in her heyday.

Unsettling? There are many things to find unsettling in the workplace: casual racism, inappropriate use of the photocopier, visitors drinking out of your favourite West Wing mug or when people put the toilet roll on the holder the wrong way. But how your colleagues chose to wear their hair should not be unsettling.

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Long haired Federal Minister Kate Ellis.

I used to work for Childcare Minister Kate Ellis. Being a young woman of 33 (and incidentally extremely attractive), she was quite a rarity in the corridors of Parliament and it captured a lot of attention.

She used to tell the story of her preselection for the Australian Labor Party and the endless (well-meaning) advice she got, that she should cut her long hair in order to look older and be taken more seriously.

So, as much as the pronouncements of this career advisor annoy me (and her dissing of Joni Mitchell, I mean, please) As outraged as I am however, I do suspect that she might be, just a little bit right.

As a lover and grower of long hair myself, it bothers me. Can your hair seriously have an impact on your career? As I get older, do I need to get ready to do the big chop in order to get ahead? I’ve always had long hair. Partly because I like being able to do lots of stuff with it and partly because without the length I run the risk of looking like a half-Indian version of Enid Blyton’s Moonface in the Magic Faraway Tree.

People do subconsciously associate long hair with youth and with femininity. And youth and femininity rarely make for a winning formula when it comes to getting ahead in the workplace. In fact for many working women, part of getting ready each morning is about trying NOT to look feminine or youthful.

For me (with my unprofessional long hair), one of the joys of coming to work at Mamamia was getting to chuck out my seemingly endless wardrobe of dark coloured suits. Don’t get me wrong, I loved fashion back when I worked in politics the same way I do now, so I would mix it up. Sometimes I wore a navy suit instead of charcoal. Now and then, I’d go TOTALLY CRAZY and wear grey. True story.

I can tell you right now though, that I won’t be cutting my hair.

We can’t live in a world where we champion diversity in the workplace but then expect everyone to conform and look and act the same way anyway. That’s not any kind of progress. The challenge for us long haired women is not to lop it off in order to fit the mold that people expect but to show that how you look has absolutely no bearing on your ability or performance.

And I think Joni Mitchell rocks. Just sayin’.

Demi Moore, 49

Do you have long hair? Do you think your hairstyle can effect how people treat you in the workplace?

 

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  1. Caitlin Grace

    Helllooo! Has anyone told Meryl Streep it going to hinder her career???

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    • Mermaid on the move

      Good point.

      I have three older female family members (far) over 40 with blond shoulder-length hair. They’re all gorgeous & successful.

      I think attitude, confidence, competence and mannerisms play a much bigger role in how seriously you’re taken in workplace and elsewhere. Relax. It’s okay to be (and look like) yourself.

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  2. Anonymous

    Hellloooo! Has anyone told Meryl Streep????

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  3. Julie

    Good god. Women have been fighting for equal rights for the last 5 decades for this! All I can say is make sure you never try to interview Hilary or she’ll do this to you http://twitpic.com/aj9677 Today you should be celebrating the achievements of strong women like Nicola Roxon and Tanya Plibersek – njot worrying about this trivia.

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  4. tanlee

    Italian and other European women wear their long into old age and I always think they look fantastic. In fact they are my model. I also love an older chick rocking jeans.

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  5. Danikajaye

    The length of other peoples hair… excuse me while I go file this under “Things That Don’t Matter To Me and Are None of My Business”.

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  6. becsparrow

    We need a gallery of older women with long hair. Does it really look wrong? I’m trying to think of some older stylish women with long hair and I’m coming up blank …

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    • anon

      I think it makes Elle look silly, as beautiful and amazing as she is..long girlish hair on a woman nudging 50 isnt a good look.

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      • Betty Boop

        Wow, I think she looks great with long hair. In fact, I can’t even imagine Elle with short hair.

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      • Mimi

        Audrey Hepburn had long hair and looked gorgeous!

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        • Rach

          Yeah, I had a great-aunt who was very Audrey Hepburn-ish… she always had her long grey hair in an immaculate bun and it looked elegant and beautiful. She took great care of herself, though, and I’m sure her hair must have been in excellent condition.

          I think older ladies just need to be more careful- frizz, grease, or colour regrowth look bad on anyone, but I think younger girls can probably get away with it more.

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          • the Original Camille

            it5 probably looked great, BECAUSED it was always in a bun.
            SO in fact, it was long hair worn short…
            Likewise ponytails.

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    • jamilarizvi

      You hang tight Bec. COMING RIGHT ATCHYA.

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    • Georgie fan

      Georgie Gardner has the best hair in the world. I know its not long but its not really short either, she has found the right style and length for a woman her age. She is beautiful.

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    • Belle

      Elle Macpherson is one- but she would look good in a potato sack

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      • Meow

        Lisa Wilkinson, Georgie, Sonya Kruger, Deb Hutton, Julia Robert – aren’t they all over 40?

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    • chellebelle

      Sorry, I’m not good on politcal etc people, but I can name some women over 40 who look good with long hair.

      - Catherine Zeta Jones
      - Sarah Jessica Parker
      - Sofia Veraga
      - that red-headed actress from Desperate Housewives
      - Meryl Streep
      - Jerry Hall

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  7. Caz Gibson

    I’ve always loved long hair on anyone – my lovely husband always had long hair until fairly recently ( after the pony-tail stage) – he decided he’d shave off the lot, but kept his beard.
    I’ve always had long hair – (except for one or two crazy times) and I intend it to stay that way. I’m not too thrilled with long GREY hair though, so I’ll be colouring mine.
    Long hair does say YOUTH, particularly to “Baby Boomers” and I love what clean, healthy-looking long hair (or long-ish) does to most faces.
    It can have a softening effect and it can tell the world that you still feel youthful on the inside……….hair that’s too short for the shape of your face can actually age your face (or give people the impression of ageing).
    I’ve worked in a few areas of our industry and make-up has been one of them……..if I’ve been asked to “age” a female face one of the first things I reach for is a short, dull (or grey) wig. Make-up base that’s too dark and lacking in warmth does the trick along with dark, matte lipstick (it can thin the lips). Add a faint hint of a moustache and voila’ !….lol. Obviously there are other “tricks” – but you get the idea.
    We’ve been very fortunate to work in an industry where difference and individuality is celebrated – if a woman turned up at say, a recording studio wearing a neat, plain suit and careful “Nanna” hair it would look a little odd………we’d still work with her though…lol.
    Usually the people who “recommend” short, neat hair and corporate clothing are ultra conservative and lacking in creativity (survey of one)……..and whenever my dear friend comes home from the hairdressers sporting an ultra-short “do” her husband looks aghast. Not only has she lost her “girlfriend” hair for a while but I can just tell that some older woman has talked her into it – probably her mum…..
    But hey,……..it’s only hair!…. No-one can steal your talent and professionalism….. Let them feel jealous……lol.

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  8. Sarah

    As with all things, I think it depends.

    Long hair down to your butt which hasnt seen a trim (let alone a style) in years looks bad on everyone – and worse on older woman.

    But if its well styled, well cared for hair – I say go for it!

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    • clarinette

      You can’t “style” long to your bum hair. If by style you impl:y blow drying and chemicals. Long hair like that, at the ends, is a good few years old and more prone to damage, what it needs is careful treatments, oils, protective updos, basically no styling. That’s well cared for long hair, it can’t be coupled with “styled” in a sentence lol.

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  9. Angelina Ballerina

    It’s a big generalisation.
    It depends on your face shape and features.

    I’m on the slide to 40 and look like a puffer fish with short hair. I have a round face with full cheeks that will suit long hair for many years to come.

    We all suit different hairstyles regardless of age.
    Women should style their hair to flatter their features and not worry about outdated stereotypes.

    I’m not a fan of middle aged men with straggly, greasy hair and long, thinning ponytails often accompanied by a receding hairline and unbuttoned shirt.

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  10. MJ

    Not so much long hair, but my ideas were totally ignored by my collegues and bosses (all males) in a previous company I worked for…until I coloured my blonde hair dark brown. Almost immediately I started getting respect and the credit I deserved for the sales I was bringing in.

    Once this happened I started the very slow process of going back to blonde. Then quit.

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  11. another fab single woman

    When I read this I was curious about the writer’s appearance and Googled her; it’s only fair we get to judge the writer, Vivia Chen, in return… so here is her photo.

    I must say, I’d like to see the flip side about middle aged men who let themselves go and have massive beer bellies that make their shirt studs pop. If they can’t control their waistline, why are they in charge of the organisation’s budget, eh?

    It does seem that men and women (often quite senior) plonk women into one of two categories – bed partner or business partner, which is just another variation on the Madonna/Whore.

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  12. anon

    Oprah used to have a fabulous segment where people could nominate someone they knew who desperately needed a change of style. Most people had the same hairdo they had when they were around 18-20. Basically the theory is people will often keep the same hairstyle they had when they felt like they were at their peak and at their most gorgeous. Hanging on to that hairdo when you’re in your 40′s and older will just make you look dated and older so its important to find something that works for you as you mature.

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  13. Carisma

    My sister is 30 but easily looks 25 with her long ash blonde hair (which I’m insanely jealous of). As an accountant she often has new clients give her the ‘aren’t you a bit young’ comment but they seem to get more confident in her age once they see her wedding ring (sigh!).

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  14. amyspeak

    I’ve had long hair for the last six years or so and in my few years out of uni I have had a number of great jobs where people have respected me and given me lots of great opportunities. I find the same positive interactions in my social circles. Whether this is to do with my hair (long and wavy when out, but sometimes I tie it back if I want a change) I can’t really say.

    All I know is that people have very varied opinions on it (some love it out, others up) and I like it so I’m keeping it.

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  15. Cinnamon

    I don’t know if it’s just what I’m used to seeing (the women in my family all have cut their hair at a certain age starting in their 40′s) but I personally think most women at that age look better with shorter hair (nothing longer than shoulder length) – Not sure about it affecting your career but just appearance wise. Like I said it’s what I’m used to seeing.

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  16. anon

    I think women over 40 with long hair can have an element of mutton dressed as lamb. If its too long and girlie it can make them look silly and in denial and actually older than they really are. Same goes for clothes.
    I cant help but think of the video for that Smash Mouth video clip I’m a believer.. LOL
    I’m 42 and saw a photo of myself recently and thought ‘yep hair too long I look like an aging Barbie Doll’ so and I went and had it cut to just above my shoulders.

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  17. Becca

    While it pains me to say it – I know this to be true for myself.

    I moved to Queensland as a long-haired blonde, and the humidity transformed my hair to it’s natural state. Shirley Temple, eat your heart out. I was employed at base salary, though my experience was far greater than everybody else at that pay level.

    I had a breakup, and took the opportunity to get drastic with my life and everything in it… decided to pack my bags, move states, and visit the hairdresser. I walked in with my long, blonde, curly locks, and walked out with a straight, auburn, asymmetrical bob with an undercut (because despite being a bit ‘bogan’, it makes straightening the back a hell of a lot easier). Walked into my next interview which was, in all honesty, a bit of a leap based on my level of experience and age… and landed it. My career went from being years behind to being 5+ years ahead of schedule.

    I found with blonde curls I was treated differently. Like I was a bit of a bimbo. Short, dark auburn hair got me noticed, taken more seriously, and a considerable pay rise…

    (For the record, I now have longer, straight, dark auburn hair – for the purpose of bridesmaid duties – but I have no qualms about going for the chop next time I want to climb the career ladder!)

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    • Anonymous

      I have long, blonde curly hair and am holding out until after bridesmaid/hen’s party duties are over to have the chop :)

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  18. Anonymous

    My younger sister once told me that I needed to cut my hair now that I’d turned 40. She’s now 40 and still has long hair. I think we both look pretty good. Let’s turn our attention to middle aged men with earrings, lol.

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    • Anon

      Ooh yes, we have one of those guys at work and it’s awful.

      He looks like he’s 35 pretending to be 15!

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  19. picardie.girl

    Generally speaking, older women tend to look better with shorter hair. Long hair often looks better on younger women.

    I think any element of your appearance can affect how people treat you in the workplace. As bizarre as it seems to include hair in that, yeah, I guess it could. Just as not everyone can get away with green/pink tints, maybe some people need shorter hair to look more… age-appropriate and professional?

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    • becsparrow

      But why is that PG? Why do older women look better with short hair? Is it just conditioning (that we’ve been told for years that’s how older women must look)?

      It’s interesting …

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      • Belle

        I think older women tend to look better with short hair because of the optical illusion of long hair drawing the eye down- and as we age we want to avoid anything that may drag our face down (gravity and age does that enough)

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      • vanessayoung

        When you get older your hair gets thinner, thinner hair looks better if it is short, I think the ponytail can be aging, as well, I am over 50 and have short hair. My granddaughter’s kindy teacher had short hair that she colored pink, blue yellow, orange etc at the same time, not in stripes just patches: it was amazing and she was at least 35. I wish I’d had the courage to do something like that. I also wish I had gone blond at least once to see what it was like.

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        • Anonymous

          Do it now Vanessa!

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      • picardie.girl

        I don’t know! I think we need to consult with a hairdresser or someone else with access to scientific and/or anecdotal evidence.

        Maybe it’s because long hair is often not well styled, and short hair needs to be?

        I’m sure I read something once about women being less afraid to show themselves as they age, about having more daring haircuts, and that suiting them. Maybe by Nikki Gemmell – must look in my bookshelves tonight.

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      • picardie.girl

        Bugger it! I replied to you Bec, but the computer ate it.

        In essence – we need the opinion of a hairdresser or similar with scientific and/or anecdotal evidence.

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  20. CK

    Perhaps you’re taking the Careerist’s opinion too literally? Or the Careerist is being too literal? To me, this notion of long hair causing women issues in the workplace simply comes across as just another re-hash of the age-old idiom of ‘mutton dressed as lamb’, to which there is a smidgen of truth, no?

    As a 42 year old woman, I happily wear my hair well below my shoulders, but it is styled differently to when I was, say, 22, and it was just as long.

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  21. Ella

    I’m a young lawyer with long hair and I rarely wear my hair out (it’s usually up in a pony tail) because I don’t want to appear too attractive. I know that must sound really self-absorbed but I think long shiny hair can be a distraction from the substantive things I am saying. Not sure what the answer is, but that seems to be the reality in a male-dominated corporate environment.

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    • Anonymous

      I’m a young female lawyer with long hair too. I have never ever done anything like that!

      I also wear colour to work and avoid black or grey suits whenever I can. I’m in a respectable national firm as well.

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      • Ella

        That’s good to hear! I mean, I’ve never been explicitly told “put your hair up otherwise I won’t take you seriously…” it’s probably more something I’m overly self-conscious about… Though, I agree with you about colour!

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  22. vivacious

    People make judgements on all sorts of silly things, hair length is one of them. When I started my last job my incoming reputation was that I was tall and nice. Yup, hi team, I’m here to manage you, I’m tall and nice. Of course a couple of weeks in and tall and nice had been replaced with determined and hard working and I think the long hair thing is like that, a first impression thing that some people will have an opinion on but that hopefully quickly gets replaced by exactly who you are.

    That said a friend of mine with a real baby face suddenly got promoted and a lot more attention when he grew a beard. Looking older apparently made him look more responsible and senior management took notice. It was the only change.

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  23. justvisiting

    I wonder how old the writer of the original article is … I must say I would just laugh at any 20-something who told me how to do my hair!

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  24. Vee

    OMG LOL at the Enid blyton’s moonface reference and LOL at the going crazy and wearing a GREY suit Ahahaha

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  25. michelle

    my hair is half-way down my back, very thick and wavy.. probably my best feature. i work in a corporate environment and i will NEVER cut it short, nor has anyone suggested i do so! i actually get a lot of comments from clients/workmates about how much they like my hair, so it is staying ;) . then again, i am only 25.. get back to me when i’m 45!

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  26. Tash

    Oh god haha. I for one, won’t be cutting my hair once I reach the appropriate age.

    On of the MDs of another Country in my company is about 45 with hair to her butt. She’s one of the youngest and most successful MDs to clmb our companies corporate ladder. I doubt anyone ever took her less serious due to her amazing, long red hair.

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  27. Meow

    Jamila, aren’t you like 26? How can you say you WONT be cutting you hair at over 40 at that young an age. (I do however think the hair length v credibility in older age agruement to be silly though)

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    • jamilarizvi

      True that, I’ve got no idea what I’ll do in 15 years.

      And I’m pretty fickle :D

      But right now I am definitely anti-the-cut.

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