by DR KAREN BROOKS
We’re a society that loves to call people names. From the acronyms DINKS (Double Income No Kids), and SLOBBS (Sad Lonely Old Baby Boomer), to the descriptors sea-changers, tree-changers and grey nomads, we’re quick to employ a range of labels to define and accordingly judge others.
Catchy names and silly acronyms make the process quicker, fun and more convenient – especially for marketers and corporations – even though, as academic Kate Crawford notes, they’re often imbued with “considerable prejudice”.
This is particularly true when it comes to women. After all, why is it women who seem to earn the sexualised, less flattering and even insulting labels?
The terms “yummy mummies“, “cougars” and “slummy mummies” spring to mind. Funny, offensive or something else?
The latest to be deployed is the SWOFTY – that is, “Single Women Over Fifty” who, according to a clothing company that specialises in older women, are defying stereotyped notions of ageing and singledom.
Forget grey-haired grannies swathed in beige woolly cardigans minding the grandkids. The SWOFTY (not to be confused with the SPOSTY – or Sexy Pensioner Over Sixty) is dressing provocatively and spending her hard-earned cash on clubbing, travel, concerts and theatre, and then tweeting or going on Facebook about it.
Today’s singleton over 50 looks to people such as Christie Brinkley and Susan Sarandon for inspiration.
In his book The Big Picture, demographer Bernard Salt explains many such trademarks currently in use, such as Baby Boomers (born 1946-1961), whose slogan, he argues, could be: “I’ve talked about me long enough, now it’s time for you to talk about me.”
Then there’s the “Frugals” or “Silent Generation” (born 1931-1946), who lived through the Depression and World War II.
Douglas Coupland coined the term for my age group, Generation X, with a novel, while Generations Y and Z have been agonised over for decades now.
Generation Y (the children of Baby Boomers) have also been described as the ZigZag, Net, Thumb or Dotcom Generation, while Z has copped the tag Millennials, Echo-Boomers and even the Super-Cyber Generation for their troubles.
And let’s not forget the contentious label “tweenagers” – not because of the age group it defines (8-12 years old usually), but because of the invidious ways in which corporations set out to target this lucrative market.
While entire cohorts earn a name, it’s women who are singled out for the labels that are as much derogatory as explanatory.
Women who defy societal expectations by not behaving “normally”, by not acting “their age” are called to account.
As Desmond Tan, marketing manager for Heineken Asia Pacific Breweries Singapore, notes: “What these simple demographic labels don’t capture are the fluid ways in which people behave differently in different situations.”
So why do we deploy them?
Possibly because while there’s the risk of alienating a particular group as opposed to creating a label that excites and flatters, they do serve to create a sense of a collective, of a false community, where there is none.
This can be strangely appealing, particularly when there’s an awareness of the name being a deterrent; it can be embraced as an act of defiance instead.
Until we learn to appreciate our similarities as much as our differences, silly acronyms and labels will, OMG, keep being invented – and especially to explain, police and discourage certain female behaviours.
Dr Karen Brooks is an associate professor at the University of Queensland Centre for Critical and Cultural Studies.
Why don’t groups of blokes have silly names? What do you think some of them should be called?









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30 Comments so far
“Sexualised” is a silly word. We are all naturally “sexualised” from birth due to having genitalia.
You should probably go ask a psychologist, (as one professional to another) about why the terms “mummy” and “mother” are common terms for male fantasies.
And I’m a “mutton dressed as ram” 49 year old male. Not that I like the term but sometimes the truth hurts.
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Men do have names, usually idiots, ar##holes, bludgers, users and sexist ###heads.
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Apparently women who are long term, full on cougars are called “battle cats”? A He-man reference, I believe.
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How about SNAG or Metrosexual? It’s interesting to compare just how many names there are for both sexes!
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Men don’t have silly names because you women haven’t made any up !
Go on. Be creative.
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Ahhh but the reason man name their dicks is so they don’t have a stranger making all their decisions for them
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Men don’t have ridiculous names, because they’re the ones doling out the titles.
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Bree, a quick glace down this page will show your observation for what it is – misguided at best.
Sheesh, it would seem women are the masters at humourous acronyms, I have not laughed as much in ages – LOMBARD & MAMIL, lol.
For gods sakes, cant we laugh at ourselves sometimes without the fun police getting their truncheons out. Relax already.
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MAMIL: middle-aged man in lycra (cycling enthusiast)
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My fave one is LOMBARD – Lots of money, but a real dickhead
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Mine is FIGJAM – fuck I’m good just ask me!
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Sort of relates to how men always ridiculed their mother-in-laws…rather than show an older woman respect.
Luckily I think we women now give as good as we get!
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That would be Mothers-in-law.
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I agree with the majority here today.
I would much rather be called a MILF or a Cougar by men rather than the hidenous names women give men of the same fashion.
Pedophile, cradle snatcher, dirty old man, pervert. Those are the names us women give male cougars and they are awful! This is the one time men have done us right.
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The one time?
You’re kidding right?
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“Why don’t groups of blokes have silly names?” THEY DO! Men have been called all sorts of things, a lot of them derogatory, for ages.
Fit, muscley blokes often get called meatheads, which is plain rude. My son is an apprentice diesel engineer, and works out at the gym. He’s lost count of the number of women at his gym that make snide remarks to the guys lifting weights. I’ve heard blokes being called creeps, pedophiles,wankers, boofheads, the list goes on and on.
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One of the funniest terms I’d ever heard was the one applied to the buffed up and digitally-enhanced blokes in the movie “300″ – the term was “Dude-ism” and I often use it…..we all know what kind of guy this is and he’s usually the one who walks into a party and only scours the room for women under 20. He’s the one who works out more than you do, who still wears chains, drenches himself in cheap cologne, hates cats and refers to himself in the 3rd person ie “Sam likes to surf”………..
Women simply have to get to work and come up with some “deadly accurate” and hilarious acronyms.
I’d love to see some suggestions from people and who knows ? – some of them might end up in our “everyday speak”…lol.
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Sugar Daddy or silver fox anyone?! Sugar Daddy specifically was around a lot time before Cougar become a widely recognised term..
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My boyfriend can’t wait to go grey and become a ‘silver fox’!
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Men you go for younger females are normally labelled “Creepy Old Man” and “Cradle Snatchers”.
My Dad used to get this when first dating my Mum because of the 18 year difference.
Who cares what the age of the person you are dating is?
It’s another unnecessary thing to comment on like peoples weight.
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Another reason the universities need a good gurneying out. How many taxpayer dollars are wasted on crap like this?
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I am a gen y who was in high school when american pie came out and we all used the term milf and the male version dilf. Couger is much nicer than pedo or perv which are the male versions. as a women i get annoyed by articles like this that try and make everything about gender it makes people dismiss the real gender issues as just more women trying to play the victim.
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Off topic, I know. But just got to let everyone know that Cougar Town is AWESOME! And not at all what the title suggests – in fact it is a running joke on the show that it is a terrible name.
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Studs – animals kept for breeding purposes.
Alpha males – this one’s pejorative because the presence of alpha males implies that there is an underclass of men who aren’t alpha. What should we call these non-alpha men? Untermensch?
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Omega-men?
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silver fox, sugar-daddy, casanova, Italian Stallion…. prefer SPOSTY to Spinster
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I don’t find these labels particularly negative. A lot of it seems to be about saying it’s okay to still have a sexual identity after having kids/reaching a particular age, and I think this is actually a positive thing. It’s like the equivalent of calling a man a “Silver Fox” if you like.
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Ok, lets trot out just a few male gender specific labels and put downs.
SNAG, Cub, small dick (regarding anyone with a passion for sports cars), a yes man, sugar daddy, god I could go on all day. So tiring, this one sided view of female victimhood.
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They have a name for male cougars – Perverts.
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Not the case from a marketing point of view, but on social networks, any older male to comment on any younger female’s posts is straight away labelled a ‘pedo’. I think I’m ok with cougars and milfs.
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