Take a look at this picture.
The woman is 28-year-old Irish student Emer O’Toole. As part of a social experiment, she quit waxing and shaving for an 18-month period and then debuted the results on national TV last week.
It was a daring move and the reaction was huge – but not all positive.
Disgusting, horrible and revolting were some of the words being thrown around in the days following the show.
An online “hairfree or carefree?” poll showed 80 per cent of viewers were appalled by Emer’s body hair. And columnist, Amanda Platell, from the Daily Mail who believes “the only hair that belongs on a woman is on her head” wrote, “watching her I nearly parted company with my breakfast”.
“And we’re not talking a bit of fluff here — she revealed underarm beards that would have made Osama bin Laden proud,” she wrote.
Ouch.
Here’s the clip from the show:
Admittedly, the clip is slightly shocking. But not necessarily in a bad way. And not because Emer dared to “get her pits out for the lads”. It’s shocking because seeing a woman with body hair is about as common as a romantic comedy that ends in divorce.
Why then did she do it?
Emer said she believed shaving or waxing was anti-feminist; that there is too much pressure on women to “conform to artificial gender norms”.
“All around me my friends were getting laser hair removal, Brazilians, some of them were getting Botox … I just thought where does this end?
“I started examining my own relationship with beauty and with my body. Why did I have to shave?”
“I thought back to when I started shaving and I realised that when I was 14, you know, the hair started sprouting and I didn’t think, ‘Will I keep these or will I shave them off’. I knew I had to shave them off or everyone would think I was disgusting.”
WARNING WARNING DANGER DANGER. The words: “hairy armpits” and “feminism” in the same conversation. Jeez, aren’t we past that?
Self-described “strident feminist” and bloody brilliant author of bloody brilliant book How To Be A Woman, Caitlin Moran thinks hair on parts of your body other than your pubic area, have nothing to do with feminism. Like many women, she eschews the Brazilian but shaves her legs and underarms.
She writes:
“‘But what about underarm hair?’ people will say – usually 40-somthing men, who look uncomfortable when you use phases such as ‘lovely big Hair Bear Bunch-style minge’, and then downright alarmed when you bring pornography unto it.
‘If you don’t believe in Brazilians, do you shave your armpits? Do you shave your legs? And your eyebrows? You look like you pluck to me. What about your lady moustache?
And then they sit back, a little smug – as if they have just put a sausage roll in the bottom of a trapping pit, and are fairly confident you’re about to go in after it and be captured.
But the crotch, the upper lip and the armpit are miles apart – well, on average, 43cm apart. What happens to them, and why, is wholly different – primarily because armpits aren’t intimately associated with sexual maturity or, indeed, sexuality at all, unless you’re on some seriously specialist websites.
So what you do with your armpits is just an aesthetic concern – and not really part of The Struggle. Given this, I have, over the years, experimented with different looks for my armpit. Some days, a shaved armpit just looks a bit … boring. If I’m wearing jeans and a vest top, and I’m hanging with my homies, it’s quite nice to go a bit ‘Faith’, with a flash of four-day fuzz. There’s something pleasingly musky about it – like you’ve been too busy living the bohemian dream, and souping up your hot-rod, to do something as mimsy as shave.”
When it comes to hair – legs, upper lip, eyebrows, chin, nipple, pubic – the desirable outcome would be an expanding of the aesthetic lexicon: like when Eddie Izzard explains his transvestism as ‘equal clothing rights for all’. He doesn’t want to wear a dress every day – he might not wear stilettos for a year. But whenever the mood takes a man to wear a dress, or a woman to go furry, there’s no reason why it shouldn’t be part of the range. There are some women out there who are just going to look better with a moustache: that’s statistics. There are a lot of armpits that will look better with a silky curl of fur than they do stripped, or plucked, depending on what outfit is being rocked at the time. A monobrow can be magnificent: my six-year-old – raised on pictures of Frida Kahlo – is militant about hers. ‘I do love it, because it never ends.’
On ‘dress like a character from history’ day, at school, she dresses as Kahlo, and applies mascara to the centre, ‘To make it even better.’
She is so much saner than I was at her age.”
So body hair. Your thoughts?








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223 Comments so far
Its horrific!
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What bothers me about all of this is……..the male tv presenter who constantly interrupts, but more importantly, that he questioned her decision to wear boots. Irrelevant and clutching at straws.
Crap tv.
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Once again it all comes down to choice…we all have the choice to look the way we want to…just don’t expect everyone to do the same…
OK, next post…
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But James, as a hair-growing woman you’re not just deciding whether or not to shave, you’re deciding how you’re prepared to be categorised and responded too.
I love getting positive responses from men on how I look because confirm to a certain (classically ‘feminine’, hairfree, blonde, petite) look. I find it makes life easier and more enjoyable for me to be seen in that way. If I chose to stop shaving I would be percieved as a dyke, as butch, as non-feminine, as unattractive, as lazy – a whole range of incorrect and/or unpleasant assumptions and labels would be attached to me and my ghastly hair. Not by everyone, but certainly by many.
It’s not as simple as “each to their own”. It’s a question of how we change cultural norms of beauty so that not confirming to them isn’t a statement (but rather, simply a choice).
P.S I usually always really like you’re views, so I’m definitely not having a go.
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I actually think it’s not about changing cultural norms, because not everyone’s cultural norms are the same…
Seems like your choice is to shave because of how you think other people will perceive you…and that’s a perfectly valid choice…
Other people don’t see body hair as an issue and don’t care what some people will think…again, that’s their choice too…and just as equally valid…
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I rarely shave my legs or armpits, but I’m just about the girliest girl around. No one’s ever thought I was a lesbian (though I couldn’t give a shit if they did) and if anything I think most people would say I could use a little butchness to counter the sparkles and ribbons. I wear skirts to work, and no stockings to hide the hair, but in 20 years in a rather conservative field, no one’s ever taken issue with my leg hair.
I think women make a bigger deal out of this stuff than they need to. Most people won’t notice, and of those that do most won’t care. Those that do care are goping to be small-minded people, so be happy you weeded them out.
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I think that’s funny coming from you JohnJames when, only a few weeks ago, you were going on and on about cosmetic surgery and dead set against it even though it’s as much for aesthetic reasons and what you’re comfortable with and personal choice as being hairy or hair free??!!
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I am, as always, a work in progress…
I’ve come around to the more “pro-choice” view in recent weeks…it takes me a while to see both sides of an argument sometimes…
I’m still struggling with pro-choice re cosmetic surgery because the health issues related to bad cosmetic issues, but I think I understand more now that it still is a choice…
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Appreciate your honesty JohnJames!!and relate in that I’m a work in progress with many things/views also
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My first reaction was I thought it was a guy with long hair wearing a dress.
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I didn’t start shaving my legs til I was 25 but have shaved my armpits since my teens. I once tried removing all my pubic hair with hair removal cream (gah the smell) and felt like I had been violated when clumps of hair came off the shower. I occasionally keep things neat and tidy with an electric bikini shaver, same with my legs. Both when they start to look feral/bug me.
I had to learn how to shave my legs via the internet because my mum never had/came from an era when it wasn’t such a big deal. Although my sister pressured mum to do it late in her life and she has regretted it ever since.
I believe it is very much a person choice.
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Personally my first thought is YUK!! I really don’t like underarm hair, down there doesn’t really worry me but if you can see hair sticking out of swimmers that’s not a good look, personally I prefer to be hair free.
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Go Emer! Isn’t it curious that we all recoil so quickly from something which is utterly natural?
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This!!
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Well thankfully not *all* of us – there is still some faith in humanity left, but yes.
Makes you wonder what it will be like for our daughter’s daughters.
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Gross, gross, gross. Not because it’s a woman with underarm hair. I feel the same about men’s underarm hair.
Personally I can’t go a day without shaving under my arms, if I do it feels wrong and dirty.
Legs on the other hand…. well unfortunately for my partner I can go over a week without shaving my legs
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I think that her armpits are beautiful.
I just want to take them home and feed them a saucer of milk or something.
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LOL. This.
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Meow…
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That’s one of the funniest things I’ve ever read! You should have put your “name” to it! Thanks for the laugh
P.s I’m still laughing every time I re-read it!
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All respect to Caitlin Moran, but of course it’s a feminist issue. When was the last time vision of a man au naturale caused outbursts of ‘disgusting’?
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It happens to men all the time as well. Perhaps not in the pit region but any man with a hairy back who doesn’t tend to it is severely frowned upon. Even a hairy chest these days can serve up all kinds of rude comments from women.
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Oh there is nothing wrong with a hairy chest on a man. As I tell my friends, real men have chest hair. Look at Hugh Jackman,
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Amen! Nothing wrong at all, in fact, my man is of the hairy variety and can be a bit self-conscious about it.
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Its not the same. Its JUST NOT.
People understand a man with a hairy back can’t help it. I’ve never heard anyone actually speak with the same venom and disgust about a man with a hairy back than a woman that has hairy armpits.
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Completely agree!
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