by MIA FREEDMAN
When I was about 18 – the same age as Miley Cyrus – I cut off all my hair and bleached it white. I’d just finished school and was working as a waitress, saving for a trip overseas. When my father walked into the kitchen and saw it for the first time he said this: “No Mia, that’s not funny” and walked out again.
“I didn’t do it for a joke, Dad!” I called after him, giggling. “It’s just my hair now.”
Needless to say, it wasn’t the smartest thing I’d ever done – a few weeks later I was due to start my trip in India and bleached blonde hair requires a lot of maintenance which was never going to be possible. And the regrowth was beyond appalling.
But who cares. It was hair. It grows back.
I’ve chopped all my hair off at least half a dozen times in my life, sometimes because I needed to shed some skin – like after I became a mother for the first time and somehow needed to ‘reclaim’ myself. Other times just because.
Yes, haircuts are often linked to emotional upheaval and a desire to make a statement to the world about a mental shift in your life.
But sometimes they’re just haircuts.
After Miley Cyrus cut of her long blonde hair this week, Salon writer Mary Elizabeth Williams asked the question of whether a short hair cut signaled a cry for help. Think Britney in 2007. Often when celebrities like Michelle Williams and Emma Watson cut their off, they’re labelled as unstable.
But is that really true? And is it true of Miley?
Mary Elizabeth writes:
So few of our beautiful, desirable young stars make that leap – and when they do, they’re instantly vulnerable to snark attack. After Emma Watson cut her familiar long hair to mark the end of her life as Hermione Granger, she said that, “I had journalism asking me if this meant I was coming out, if I was a lesbian now… Some people just thought I’d lost my shit.” The gorgeous, multiple Academy Award-nominated, short-haired actress Michelle Williams has admitted that “Straight men across the board are not into this hair.”
Similarly, when a star cuts her hair for a role, it’s assumed – often correctly – that it’s a horrible sacrifice she’s making for her art. When Anne Hathaway recently cut her locks to play Fantine in “Les Miserables,” she told reporters that she went into “a mental-patient level of crying …. I was inconsolable.” Hear that? Short hair will literally make a woman nuts.
Long hair represents femininity and vulnerability and sex. It’s princesses and mermaids and porn stars. Short hair, on the other hand, says, “If you think I’m gorgeous, great, but this isn’t about you, pal.” Whoooo, scary! In an ABC interview when she was 15, Miley Cyrus showed off a photo of iconic British model Twiggy, all big eyes and choppy blond hair, and said, “One day I’m going to cut my hair like that. I know I am. I will.”
So she did. But in a culture where a female doing something just for herself – not her fiancé, not her family, not her fans – is seen as transgressive, that’s enough to call her masculine and shocking and unstable. And that’s not just sad, that’s totally crazy.
Some other women with short hair include…

Stella Young
Have you ever had a dramatic haircut or colour? What was the motivation behind it?
For more dramatic celebrity haircuts, check out this gallery at our sister site, iVillage.com.au.



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I was 19 when one afternoon on a stinking hot Feb day in Perth I got an appointment with a good hairdresser. I remember going in with my friends and I chopped off all my hair to about 2 inches short – it was long healthy hair and not a split end in sight – I still have the plait somewhere. It was the most liberating thing I have ever done. I didn’t do it for a dramatic reason but it did signal my entry into womanhood. I felt like I was graduating from being a “girl” to a woman. It was weird because guys who I secretly crushed on and never gave me the time of day now “saw” me. I remember one guy saying to me. Oh, it’s you. I can see you know” and this was in the metaphorical sense. I had hidden behind long hair for so long.
Funnily enough, I have an appointment with the hairdresser next week. I am toying with the idea of chopping it all off again, perhaps not so short (at 19 I looked like a pixie, at 41 I’d look a tad too butch for my liking!). There’s nothing big going on in my life but I feel like it’s time to draw another line in the sand to say – this a new era for me.
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If you have an attractive face, small, neat features, good skin, maybe a nice slender neck, you will rock short hair. However if you have faults, flaws, larger or crooked nose or chin, double chin, spots, anything like that will be revealed or magnified by short hair. Longer hair seems to draw the attention away from the ugly truth and so is much more flattering for those of us who are less than picture perfect!
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Celebrities cut their hair and then weeks later are seen with extensions (Victoria Beckham, Britney Spears anyone?).
That’s why I’d never cut mine (apart from the fact I reckon I’d look stupid). I couldn’t afford to just change my mind after its gone
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I was just thinking how cool her hair looked and if I was 20 years younger, I might even do something similar.
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I’ve always cut my hair when bad relationships have ended, as a way of moving on and redefining myself as someone who wouldn’t let that happen again.
These days it’s because I’m bored.
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It’s my ‘end of relationship’ cure too!
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err didn’t you just say in your last article “I’ve always had long hair”?
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Recently bobbed my hair and was expecting cries of ‘OHHH NOO YOUR HAIR, ITS GONEEEE’, but everyone really likes it! Very encouraging.
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I think experimenting with their hair is something every woman should do at some point in their lives!
I have had a chin-length bob a couple of times (I have very thick hair a a round face so a pixie cut would have just looked redonkulous!!!) definitely prefer the waist-length style I have now.
I have also dyed my hair almost every colour under the sun- light brown, dark brown, black, blonde, red, orange, pink… Lots of fun, and eventually it does go back to ‘normal’!!
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I cut mine short in year 12 – such a huge difference that my best friend didn’t recognise me at first! Not sure why I did it, perhaps just needing a change? It did get me more boy attention, but that was not t
he intention.
The next year I bleached it blonde, but it didn’t stay that way for long (even though I loved it) as it was just to expensive to keep doing on a uni students budget.
In 2000 I broke up with my fiance and bleached my nearly waist length hair platinum blonde – because the ex didn’t like blondes – crazy reason, no? I loved it though, it really was like living a different life – blondes do sometimes have more fun! I kept it blonde for about a year, met my husband, then dyed it back to auburn for my sisters wedding. I’ve sometimes felt the urge to go back to blonde, but with soon to be 4 kids 4 and under, I can’t even keep the greys covered, let alone the upkeep of blonde!
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Almost 12 months ago, I cut 58 cms off my hair, raising almost $12k for Childrens Cancer Institute, and donating the hair to the Princess Charlotte Alopecia foundation, it was liberating to say the least.
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I donated my hair (about 40cm) in Nov 2009- definitely one of the best things I’ve ever done! The hairdressers were trying to convince me to sell it to make extensions and were incredulous that I was just giving it away!
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I did get the same spiel. Some people just didnt get it.
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Wow! How do you go about donating hair? Do you just send it to them through the mail?
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Yes! Non permanently treated, clean, dry hair
http://www.princesscharlottealopecia.com/TressesforPrincesses.aspx
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That is awesome! I’m a couple of cm’s short but I’d love to do this. Didn’t even occur to me! Thanks Candy x
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Really short hair is uber stylish and fab. But with these caveats. You have to be young to pull it off beautifully.If you have crinkles and creases on your face it’s not ‘soft’. And men are never going to like it, I think Michelle Williams has said Heath Ledger was the only straight man who liked her with that wonderful short cut she has. Also I think it helps if you are slender otherwise you can look like a “large” pixie. But, on the right person, it rocks. So much better than the opposite extreme.
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I think older women look great with super short hair. Judy Dench for example looks great, in my opinion.
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And Jamie Lee Curtis!
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Gosh Natalie Imbruglia is hot. Always was, always will be. Her hair rocks.
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And how does she get that steamy, dreamy look in her eyes for every photo!?
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So true that having a short hair cut is liberating – I love the sentence where she says “if you find me hot, great, but this ain’t about you” – that’s definitely how I’ve felt with short hair in the past! I think generally, short hair on women gets a bad wrap. When you look at a lot of before and after shots of famous women who’ve gone for the chop you see in the short hair pics their facial features just pop. My gorgeous sister has really thin hair and still looks beautiful and feminine with short hair a la Michelle Williams. Every young woman should try it at least once!
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I agree that everyone should try it once. I shaved my head when I was 22, it turns out with a shaved head I look a lot like my younger brother. But I’m glad I did it, it felt very different. When I had long hair I used to hide behind it a bit and you can’t do that when you’ve got no hair. Overall it was a good experience.
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Are we talking winter of 1996 / 97? Your name isn’t Caitlin by any chance?
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In my opinion, there is only one woman who can pull off short hair and most men still think she is sexy as hell and that is Halle Berry,
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Gosh I love Carey Mulligan’s hair … my hair has grown really long again. I’m quite tempted to hack it all off and go for shorter style like that.
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Well, as we learned earlier in the week, it might help your career :p
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LOL! Imagine me having a performance review with Mia and her saying, “Look. About your hair ….”
And then Nat would sneak behind me with scissors and hack it off.
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I’m thinking I should grow my hair longer to look like that!
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I recently had my hair cut really short and we used Carey Mulligan as a guide…LOVE her hair.
And no, it wasn’t a cry for help – it was a cry to have extra time!
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It looks like you can’t win-long hair and you’re not taken seriously professionally, short hair and you’ve lost the plot…
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I have a strong urge to cut all my hair off and dye it red again!
The two times I had major cuts was after 2 break-ups. It was the best thing I ever did! It was liberating, it looked great, fresh start sort of thing.
Why do we have to nit pick and over analyse anything anybody does with their appearance!? Some people like changing it up a little. ( I do very often!)
Doesn’t mean you are unstable!
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@ Mia- Post of pic of your platinum hair!!
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I agree!
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I have a confession to make, I’ve NEVER had long hair. All through childhood I had a bob and then I flirted with shoulder length. Now with kids it’s super short! I’m pretty sure i don’t have issues, I just have crazy thick hair!
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I recently cut my hair, nothing like Miley, but I have always had long hair because I used to be a ballerina and needed it long to put it in a bun, and never quite moved on. I recently took 6 inches off and had it layered. I have had many positive comments, but I found an email from husband’s mum the other day, and after I read it I understood why he hadn’t told me she’d sent it. We had sent some photos home, and her reply was, “You cut off all your beautiful hair-” (btw, it’s still shoulder length) “-but I suppose it looks ok.”
I love my new hair, and wish I’d cut it to this length awhile ago. It IS liberating, I understand why people experiment with it. At least it isn’t ever a permanent change if you don’t like it!
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I have to disagree that Michelle Williams and Emma Watson were labelled “unstabled” when they cut their hair (although Williams did it around the time Heath Ledger died, so it wouldn’t be wholly unlikely that she WASN’T somewhat unstable). I think it’s a certain kind of woman who gets away with a pixie crop (cute, unassuming, “serious” artists like Williams, Watson and Anne Hathaway), as opposed to someone like Miley or Rihanna, who are seen as more rebellious and their hair is a reflection of that. But who really cares? As you said, Mia, it’s just hair.
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I think that for a woman, chopping her hair off can be a really liberating thing to do. I had long hair from the age of 3-22. There was no particular reason or crisis in my life when I first decided to go short – it was just something I needed to do. Having it done completely changed my image of myself and I also experienced my identity in a different way – I was no longer seen or treated as a ‘girly girl’. This was a good thing for me.
Since then I’ve mostly had longish hair, but I’m about to go for the chop again. With a young baby I just don’t have the time or energy to maintain long hair that looks and feels great. I’m really looking forward to getting it done, but I’m sure that when I return to work from mat leave in a couple of months there will be at least a few people who think I’ve “let myself go”. And I will have, in a way – but a good way!
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I love short hair. But it’s not lower maintenance. When I had a pixie cut I had to get it trimmed very 4-5 weeks, otherwise it stuck out in weird ways! I grew mine out when I had a baby as it was easier to have it longer and only have to get a trim every eight weeks.
Either way, it’s good to do what you think will work for you!
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I agree with that when it comes to really short hair. I’ll be chopping mine to jaw length though after having grown out my blunt fringe and I know from experience that I can maintain that with 8-10 week cuts which can be done really quickly. It’s the day to day maintenance of long hair that I find a royal pain. I hate long hair that isn’t really well groomed and can’t see the point in having it tied back or up all the time.
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