by MIA FREEDMAN
When I was about 18 – the same age as Miley Cyrus – I cut off all my hair and bleached it white. I’d just finished school and was working as a waitress, saving for a trip overseas. When my father walked into the kitchen and saw it for the first time he said this: “No Mia, that’s not funny” and walked out again.
“I didn’t do it for a joke, Dad!” I called after him, giggling. “It’s just my hair now.”
Needless to say, it wasn’t the smartest thing I’d ever done – a few weeks later I was due to start my trip in India and bleached blonde hair requires a lot of maintenance which was never going to be possible. And the regrowth was beyond appalling.
But who cares. It was hair. It grows back.
I’ve chopped all my hair off at least half a dozen times in my life, sometimes because I needed to shed some skin – like after I became a mother for the first time and somehow needed to ‘reclaim’ myself. Other times just because.
Yes, haircuts are often linked to emotional upheaval and a desire to make a statement to the world about a mental shift in your life.
But sometimes they’re just haircuts.
After Miley Cyrus cut of her long blonde hair this week, Salon writer Mary Elizabeth Williams asked the question of whether a short hair cut signaled a cry for help. Think Britney in 2007. Often when celebrities like Michelle Williams and Emma Watson cut their off, they’re labelled as unstable.
But is that really true? And is it true of Miley?
Mary Elizabeth writes:
So few of our beautiful, desirable young stars make that leap – and when they do, they’re instantly vulnerable to snark attack. After Emma Watson cut her familiar long hair to mark the end of her life as Hermione Granger, she said that, “I had journalism asking me if this meant I was coming out, if I was a lesbian now… Some people just thought I’d lost my shit.” The gorgeous, multiple Academy Award-nominated, short-haired actress Michelle Williams has admitted that “Straight men across the board are not into this hair.”
Similarly, when a star cuts her hair for a role, it’s assumed – often correctly – that it’s a horrible sacrifice she’s making for her art. When Anne Hathaway recently cut her locks to play Fantine in “Les Miserables,” she told reporters that she went into “a mental-patient level of crying …. I was inconsolable.” Hear that? Short hair will literally make a woman nuts.
Long hair represents femininity and vulnerability and sex. It’s princesses and mermaids and porn stars. Short hair, on the other hand, says, “If you think I’m gorgeous, great, but this isn’t about you, pal.” Whoooo, scary! In an ABC interview when she was 15, Miley Cyrus showed off a photo of iconic British model Twiggy, all big eyes and choppy blond hair, and said, “One day I’m going to cut my hair like that. I know I am. I will.”
So she did. But in a culture where a female doing something just for herself – not her fiancé, not her family, not her fans – is seen as transgressive, that’s enough to call her masculine and shocking and unstable. And that’s not just sad, that’s totally crazy.
Some other women with short hair include…

Stella Young
Have you ever had a dramatic haircut or colour? What was the motivation behind it?
For more dramatic celebrity haircuts, check out this gallery at our sister site, iVillage.com.au.



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I am constantly colouring and cutting my hair. My impulsiveness is not from “emotonal upheaval” for Pete’s sake, it’s because I see a picture of Halle Berry’s short crop and go AW YEAH!! And get my hair cut.
Sheesh. This brainwashing that women HAVE to have long glossy hair is bogus.
No one said Audrey Hepburn was in emotional distress, or that she looked like a lesbian, or a little boy. So why is the media/general masses, claiming now that short hair is so offensive?
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Why do we have to relate a haircut to being unstable or a cry for help?? Maybe she just plain and simple felt like a change!!!! I am in the process of growing my hair for the (probably unstable reason, come to think of it….) reason being that I bought a new dress and thought this would look better with longer hair! Aren’t there more serious issues to over analyze?
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I’ve been alternating between short and long hair all my life and the cuts have never been gradual! After returning from travelling around Europe my long copper-red spiral-permed hair was in such bad condition I had it all chopped off into a short, straightened, chocolate brown bob with a fringe. My own mother didn’t recognise me! Most of my haircuts have been more about boredom with my look than anything else and let’s face it, it’s easier than changing your face or losing 10 kilos in a hurry!
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Seriously, you think that Willow Smith is a woman?? By all the styling and daytime paparazzi shots you might be mislead to think so but she is 11 years old!
It was a mistake to include her in the gallery – please remove her picture.
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I cut all my hair off a couple of weeks after I finished Year 12. Fresh starts and all that jazz. It didn’t suit me. At all. Seven years later, my hair is the longest it’s ever been and it’s staying that way – for now!
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I think they look gorgeous, all stunning women. Especially love Carey Mulligan – she always looks happy. Although Willow Smith is too young to be described as a woman
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I had all my hair cut off to a pixie cut when I was 12 years old, told my mum that’s what I wanted. The backlash from my peers caused me to grow it back to boring shoulder length hair until I was 20, when I decided to get it back to a pixie. Now at 22 I get compliments from strangers in clubs/pubs telling me they wished they had the guts to cut their hair short. There is no doubt in my mind my short hair suits me so much more than my long, thin mousey brown hair. Whenever I see people suggesting that short hair either means lesbian or mental illness I feel so insulted. What a world we live in if any body who dares to go against the ‘norm’ with their hair must be mentally ill. :S
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I think that going for the short hair look is more about making a fashion/personal style statement than a cry for help.
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oh poor Anne , having to cut her hair in order to play a part that she no doubt wanted very much, and will be well paid for .
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I’ve almost always had really short hair. I hate the effort to grow it and the fact that when its long everyone (almost) just pulls it back in a pigtail. Makes no sense to me!
People think I’m brave to.have short hair…. I think its lazy.
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Love that Stella is the first pic in the gallery. Fricking love her
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I live in a city with a pretty small queer scene and my dad dislikes the Justin Bieber swoop cut…but, it’s pretty darn popular among queer women
My sister joked that I was destined to fall for a girl with hair like that haha (I don’t really have a butch or femme preference) but my first gf has long hair.
One thing about short hair…it can rarely be used for gaydar purposes
despite the stereotype.
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I’ve shaved my head a few times… People always ask why, or assume it’s for cancer charity, and then want to touch it. When my boyfriend shaves his head, no one shows any interest in touching his head…and rarely does anyone even comment…. Even when his hair was longer than mine has ever been..do women have magic scalps?
Sometimes it’s just nice to have a fresh start.
Though I do have mental health issues, so you can’t trust my thoughts on things of such import as hair.
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You said women with short hair and put a photo of Willow Smith? WTF, she is 11!
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If you follow mileys tweets, then there are several pics of her with her hairdresser, the same one who apparantly gave Jenifer Aniston her famous hairdo on Friends. It was something she had wanted to do for years apparantly, and he offered.
If cutting of your hair is a sign of mental instability, then I am really screwed, in march I signed up for the Worlds Greatest Shave, my partner gave me a number two, and then someone offered me a hundred dollars if I would shave it all off, so i did. I raised over 500 dollars for the leukemia foundation. And my hair is getting back to the stage where it is starting to annoy me again.
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I have to say that comparing Britney shaving her head to Miley & Emma is odd. Britney was in the middle of major mental health issues at the time, her situation was completely different.
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I hacked my hair off with a kitchen knife once in a fit of depair and instability after a relationship breakdown. It helped at the time to release the grief but I looked like an idiot the next day at work. Luckily I worked next door to a hairdressers and the fixed me up. So I guess sometimes it can be a sign of despair.
I havr hacked my hair off this year aswell but for entirely different reasons- I had nits and I couldn’t comb my long hair so I cut it into a bob. Actually looked rather good considering I used kitchen scissors.
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I’ve almost always had short hair. My hair is very fine, so when long, it’s just limp, lank and does nothing. Even putting it up in a pony tail was a nightmare as it kept slipping from the tie. My short hair is still hard to style but that’s when mousse and hair spray make a difference! I don’t like the feeling of long hair – it gets in your face, mouth, food and you leave hairs all over the place!! Short hair is so much more liberating and frankly looks way better on me. Also I prefer the look of short hair on other women.
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I can definitely relate to the whole deciding to chop off my hair and put red in it, spur of the moment thing. After finishing yr12 I was over my long hair and decided I needed a change. It wasn’t a cry for help as some may see it. The cut and colour symbolized change for me-finishing high school and going into uni. I do admit I loved it but eventually missed my long hair. 2yrs on and my hair is finally long again. Maybe one day I’ll be brave enough again and walk into my hairdresses and chop it off!
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I cut my hair from below my shoulders to a touch longer than emma watson’s cut when I was 18. I was totally in love with my best guy friend, we had decided to date and then he came back from holidays with a new girlfriend. I remember needing to do something drastic for me!
But c’est la vie, I am now getting married next year to an amazing man who doesnt care if i have short OR long hair…. fate has a way of pushing you in the direction you need to travel!
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I keep trying to get the Ginnifer Goodwin but I keep ending up looking like Kris Jenner. And THAT makes me want to cry for help.
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Sometimes a radical haircut is a cry for help, sometimes it isn’t. If the look of glee on Miley’s face is a clue, I’m guessing she’s chopped off the Hanna Montana/good girl/parents’ choice haircut and gone for one that was purely hers for the first time in her life.
Go girl!
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Wile I don’t think it’s Miley’s best look thus far, at least she had the courage to do something exciting with it! I’m so tired of starlets (usually young girls) who announce dramatically that they’ve had a major change only to see about three inches cut off long hair. I’ve had hair just past my shoulders cut really short and everything in between. I feelso liberated with short hair, except for when dressing up at night. There’s not much that can be done with it!
It’s now bob length and I finally got my husband of 10 yrs (who has always been very non committal about how my hair looks) to admit that he likes it longer and more feminine. Now I’m torn cause I love all those pics in the gallery!
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I had a hairdresser rufuse to cut my long hair as it would be traumatic. I had a new baby and it was the first i had me time. i was a little shocked as my view is it’s just hair. my hair is so thick and curly and grows super fast a bad haircut never lasts long
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My relationship with the father of my child ended recently and my long honey coloured hair is now very very short and black…..
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This struck a chord…
I have long hair. It reaches the middle of my back, maybe a bit more. I pretty much always have it tied back because it takes ages to style in a presentable way for being out.
It’s been long for about 3 years and I think I’m done…but I hate regret! Before that I had short hair for about 2 years.
One of the reasons for keeping it long was for my wedding…but that’s a year and a half away. So it can grow back a little bit.
I’m not thinking pixie cut here- I’m thinking shoulder length.
I have my usual appointment tomorrow! Help!
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Do it! You’ll prob have it styled up for the wedding anyway & won’t notice.
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I grew mine for 6 years thinking it would be nice for a wedding… 6 months overseas and I’ve chopped quite bit off, and I want MORE off! Chin length!
Utterly liberating and I can tell you, hairdressers can do a lot with a bit of hair. What makes you feel more like you?
I feel more like myself with shorter hair – why I pursued that long, layered look is beyond me. It felt ‘glam’ but it took ages to perfect and let’s face it, I’m far from glam!
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Be you in your wedding pics whether it’s short or long hair. I had a short pixie crop for many years including my wedding and my husband loved it! Now for the first time I feel comfortable with it being long and he has taken awhile to adjust to the new me
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I cut my hair my hair short in the summer of 1991-1992, i was just to about to embark on year 12, I did the whole undercut look, and it was the most liberating thing i had done to date. I went to an all girls catholic school, and think i was trying to stop comforming to the whole uniform, all the same hairstyles (long hair, bobcut, shoulder length) look. My dad looked at my strange for the first couple of days, my mum loved it (she cut it – she is a hairdresser), and my friends freaked out, wondering how i had the balls to cut such long hair. I felt awesome with that haircut, and stood out from the crowd.
PS: the nuns not so approving – i also had red streaks running thru my hair!!
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Snap!!! I did that too! Same year also catholic school Dad freaked out too! I was totally channeling Martika! I
loved the soft Teddy bear fuzz of the under cut, that had to be done
with clippers. It did feel so grown up and liberated. I actually had that haircut when I met my partner (sigh!). This is a real nostalgia trip. I now have long hair and have had for 14 years but maybe I should give it a go again….
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You have read waaaay too much into this.
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i’ve changed my hair, mainly the colour but also the cut heaps of times – recently went to jet blue/black and have previously had both pink,blonde and red in my naturally light brown hair.
It is definitely not a call for help – it’s fashion, it’s fun, and i only ever did those things for the simple fact that i thought it looked good. i think it’s a bit silly to be reading so much into a haircut.
also: miley looks amazing and she is happy with it – people who are upset about it are being insane too
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I recently cut off a LOT of hair and nobody even noticed! Interestingly I did do it as soon as my boyfriend moved away for 3 months – maybe just to distract myself?
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I find it so odd that people may have interpreted me cutting my hair off as something more than what it was.
I chopped my hair off and let my hairdresser do whatever he wanted a few years back, including shaving parts of it off before it was common. Not because I was mentally unstable or whatever, simply because I couldn’t be bothered with long hair anymore and am not creative with these sorts of things.
It’s the same reason every time I get a fringe I let it grow out, I can’t be bothered.
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I think that many of us each have our own little ritual that we do either when we’re having some sort of identity crisis, when we feel the need for change or just to signify the start of something new. For many it’s a radical haircut. I chopped all my hair off once and cried every day for weeks because it looked so crap. So inadvertently, my crisis slash new era ritual evolved into getting a new piercing… All good during my teenage / early 20′s but I’ll have to find a new ritual before I look like a rogue Battlecat with more holes than a cheese grater!
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My almost 16 year old daughter shaved her waist length blonde curls off to a number 3 for charity last year.
Despite raising almost $12,000 the reaction stunned us. “how could i let her do it?”, boys were mortified. Girls told her she was stupid.
It was her choice, and I was proud at her ‘it’s just hair! It will grow back” stance.
Turns out that short hair suits her better and she looks gorgeous with what is now a bob.
Why must we have mental issues for choosing short hair?
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I’m planning on shaving my waist length black curls off next year. I’m expecting the same kind of reaction but what my family & friends don’t know is that I’m losing my hair so I figure if it’s going to go so I might as well make some money for charity before it gets to patchy.
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this might sound weird but you could also donate your hair – it could be made into wigs for cancer patients. Congrats for the fundraising!
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What an amazing effort.. Glad you’re proud of your girl… Bet she’s got a beautiful spirit to match that hair (which will grow back anyway, if that’s what she wants).
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So I’m confused. Earlier this week I read on MM that because I’m turning 40 this year I need to chop my hair off or it could hamper my career and credibility as a smart woman and now I’m reading that if I cut it too much or too drastically then I’ve obviously lost it. Well I’m leaving my hair as it is and I’ve still lost my shit because I can’t stop laughing at these stories (honestly, snorting my cup of tea out my nose) thinking how crazy a world we live in if the length of my hair is how people judge my sanity or intelligence.
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Not that I am a Miley fan but why can’t we all just say ‘brave Miley’ – young girl tries a cool new look – that’s all. Don’t analyse. It is trivial!
If MM wanted to just post an excuse to attract “hair chopping off” or drastic hair change comments (which is 100% fine) then just put up Miley’s pic with some details (different take on it though!) and a totally different heading – a more appropriate one. This has been sensationalised on here for the sake of drama and attention getting. Sorry but it is true.
If she had cut herself instead of her hair, then we could talk about a cry for help, and speculate and worry.
* Rant over *
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Hi another fab single woman (great name by the way)
Thanks for your comment. We weren’t looking for an ‘excuse’ to run an article about Miley’s hair, we honestly thought this was an interesting topic of conversation. And judging from the comments, I think a lot of readers do too.
I agree, we can read far too much into someone changing their hair or something else about their appearance but in part – I think that’s Mia’s point.
She writes: “Yes, haircuts are often linked to emotional upheaval and a desire to make a statement to the world about a mental shift in your life. But sometimes they’re just haircuts.”
Everyone’s different. To some people it’s just hair but for a lot of us, the chop can be emotionally charged. I’m definitely prone to a severe cut or a drastic dye when I’m post break up. Ridiculous? Yes. But true? Also yes!
Xx
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I think I may have been misread a lttle here – but I said: an excuse to attract “hair chopping off” or drastic hair change comments, not an excuse for an article on Miley’s hair.
No issue with Miley or hair articles! I am enjoying the comments as well… I just worry a little about the somewhat dramatic slant taken on it, ’tis all.
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orrrrr… she could just be a young woman SICK of looking the same of every single other celebrity and wanted to do something fun!! it could(and probably is) be that simple! Man this hair cut is getting some air time…I’ve been doing cuts and colours like this for quite a few years now…and every time, its cos I like my hair funky and different…no drama surrounds it…sometimes, we get haircuts, cos it feels great to have a little change and makes us feel great…no emotional breakdown required! it looks great, she’s young and seems extremly happy with her hair cut by all these photo’s going round!! I am very sure many get their hair cut for emotional reasons but i really dont think Myley is one of them!?!?! who knows? but she looks happy
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It took me years to realise that each time I had lost a close family member, or I was in crisis, I had my hair cut off … to very short. I usually keep it shoulder length or slightly longer. On reflection, I wonder what it was about!
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I love my hair long because it’s wavy and sooo easy to style, but there’s been a few times I’ve considered going short. IF I was to cut it off though, I would only do so when I was in the right headspace (ie grounded, not crying out for help), so it wouldn’t be a cry for help or anything like that.
P.S. Mia, I REALLY want to see a pic of you with short, bleached hair!! Any chance you could post one??
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Maybe these short haired ladies were just trying to get ahead in the world. That’s what you told us 2 days ago MM. I’m sure this article must be a joke lol. If not, I’m laughing anyway.
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I tried short hair once and it didn’t suit me one bit. I don’t have the facial features to pull it off, so it’s long hair all the way for me.
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I’m the same as you Sweets
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Glad I am not the only one!
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Wow. It seems women can’t do a damn thing without everything being over-analysed. I personally like my hair long, and am keeping it that way. It’s a personality thing, I guess. If you like it short, have it short. If not, have it long. Why does hair trigger some Sigmund Freud in some people?
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Willow Smith is not a “woman” she is not even a teenager yet…..
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Agreed. I can’t believe she is in this list.
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I dont count Miley as a woman either, maybe thats my age talking
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2 months ago I walked into my hairdresser fully intending to just trim and clean up my much loved almost waist length hair. I sat in the chair and I don’t know what happened, but I said “let’s cut it off.” An hour later I had a shoulder length bob. And I didn’t feel a thing, in that moment I realised that it was just hair. I really like my new do, and was surprised at the reactions I got from others. It was as if my long hair was ‘who I was’…well no, sorry, my hair is not me, I am me with whatever hair! I do like my hair but I think I will grow it a little longer..but I’m glad I did it because it was fun and spontaneous
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Amazing how you realise after all the deliberating and growing etc that it really is ONLY HAIR.
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Do you mean Ann Hathaway was INconsolable? Consolable does not make sense.
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What gives, only days after the “Women who keep their hair long are awesome” article comes “Women who cut their hair short are awesome” article.
Are you being funny or trying not to offend anybody?
I know I sound snarky – but I am genuinely curious.
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Not trying to be funny nor, seeking not to offend! We’ve just got a few different opinions in the office and both my and Mia’s views were sparked off the back off things that have been happening in the news this week. Coincidence only
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Thanks Jamila. It is a curious coincidence then? I am now imagining the mm office like the hard vs soft taco ads. Jamila on one side “Long!” Mia on other side “Short!” Eyes narrow into death stares, the other writers shuffle into position behind their chosen spokeswoman. The air is tense. Cue pistol duel music.
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¿por qué no tienen?
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The only time I had short hair was when I was 19 and it was the result of a botched cut. Apart from when I was little, it has always been below my shoulders, and a few years when I could nearly sit on it! I keep mine long for maintenance reasons – I have a slight kink in it and when it was short, it wanted to turn into a helmet (not such a good look) and I do layer my hair and if the layers on top are too short, they too want to bunch up. So much easier to style, for me anyhoo!!
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I went to my regular hairdresser two nights before we found out the pathology results on the tumour my 2 year daughter had removed a week earlier. As I sat there and cried I told her ‘just cut it all off’. It wasn’t as short as Miley’s do, but to go from mid length hair to a fairly short bob was quite drastic in my books! I did it for a couple of reasons – one, I couldn’t be bothered nor did I have time/headspace for the current longer hair and two, as I had been feeling that life was so out of my hands (well at the very least my daughter’s diagnosis was!) it was just a small means of taking control. PS the results were very good – Stage 1 cancer – no treatment required just monitoring.
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