Howzat
Welcome to a new Open post on Monday mornings where you can come and vent/share about your weekend. What you did, who you saw, what you watched, what you loved and what annoyed the pants off you (Man-Flu ANYONE?)
Did you watch TV last night? Howzat? Big Brother? 60 Minutes? Everybody Dance Now? Howzat was our pick – so many moustaches, an incredible performance by Lachy Hulme as Kerry Packer and a delightful cameo by Rhona from the AAMI ads as KP’s secretary Rose which sent Twitter into meltdown with many confusing references to Katut in the #Howzat stream. AND it had 2.09 million viewers.
Lachy Hulme as Kerry Packer in Howzat
Some seriously good Aussie TV on at the moment – between this and Puberty Blues (made by the same production company and by the genius John Edwards who is also behind Offspring), it’s the best ratings season in memory.
So what else happened on your weekend? How are you feeling about the week ahead? Go.
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I’m loving the slightly more political and sexual tone MM is taking these days. Encouraging readers to submit their short stories, writing on interesting political topics – it’s great guys, thank you!
On a slightly different note, it’s driving me kind of crazy how often particular (male) commentators are jumping up and down at particular articles about how much men are being discriminated against (e.g. the airline/children policy, the Pussy riot article etc). Sure in some specific instances (not mentioned above) men might be unfairly treated or talked about unfairly (although I don’t find that common at MM), but for these commentators to go on and on about men being discriminated against in these kind of reasonable articles is just so short sighted. White males are traditionally and universally the oppressors doing the discriminating, not the other way around. So if you’re in that category, just be thankful for it, don’t have a cry if you feel for a second that you’re not validated enough. Their behaviour is the equivalent of me (as a white woman) going onto some african american forum and having a whinge that white people/white people’s issues aren’t given enough attention or fairly represented on the site. Get the heck over yourselves!
I note that this rant (and it is a rant, sorry) is really only directed at one or two people, not at the majority of the male commentators on the site (who are often extremely interesting and insightful). To those I’m talking about, please get some perspective!
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This isn’t related to this post, but rather to MM in general. I don’t always love/agree with Jamila’s articles (different strokes for different folks and all), but I always appreciate reading her comments & responses to other comments. Perhaps it’s just the political trainining, but I always feel that she thoughtfully responds to people in a respectful manner – which goes above and beyond basic civility and diplomacy (and I love it for this).
Thank you and keep up he good work x
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Oh, and Lachy Hulme was amazing. How can he be so adorable (crushworthy, even) on one show and so repulsive on another? Great actor.
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The other day I was at a shopping centre, and I saw a pregnant woman walk/running behind three little kids as they sort of escaped from her, telling them to “come back, this is not a game!” I sort of hesitated as I walked past thinking should I help her by stopping the kids for her. Then I thought, no that’s weird, I don’t know them, I am a 23 year old female they don’t know, would I be help or hindrance? The woman was obviously getting slightly distressed but the kids where not in any danger, she just was struggling to keep up. In the end I did not help, and it’s been playing on my mind ever since.
Parents this ones for you – would it have been weird if I had helped her out, or do you think she would have been thankful and relieved?
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As a parent of little kids, I really would have appreciated the help, but I know what you mean about feeling awkward about doing so!
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Please help! As the mother of an escape artist I would appreciate you distracting him! I don’t know how many times he has done a runner and I’ve chased him up and down shop aisles and had other shoppers laugh, fueling his idea that it is indeed a game!
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Perhaps the MM tech boys need to give 4chan and anonymous a call.
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Yep, f*cking up a women’s website does sound like something 4chan would be responsible for.
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I wasn’t implying that 4 chan hacked this site I was suggesting they could help find the “missing” post.
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What happened to the article about Julian Assange?
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I asked the same thing on the Wikileaks post from last week… can’t find it anywhere, come on MM, what gives?
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It has disappeared. Vanished. We are stumped. Never happened before. About 8:30am this morning.
Our tech guys are onto it but they’re not having much luck so far.
Spoooooooky.
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I didn`t log on until after 9 am……. it was there then.
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Thanks Ethel. That’s really helpful! We’ll tell the tech team – that’s good to know as we couldn’t find it at that time.
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here has the Julian Assange post from yesterday gone?
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Getting a breast reduction next week ! Very very nervous.
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Best of luck and wishing you a speedy recovery. Brave decisison, and I’m sure it’ll be for the best – and healed just in time for summer / hot weather ?
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I had one done about 3 years ago…. BEST thing i ever did!
Hope everything goes well for you. x
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Thanks for your well wishes<) Have been told waiting is the worst part.
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I read on another post that Lana left, I haven’t been checking in to the site that often recently so can someone pls tell me when and why she left?
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I dont think she has left completely, she’s just moved from mamamia to ivillage, another website run by Mia. Am I right?
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Hey anon
Lana has headed off to run our new sister site iVillage.com.au. She still comes to visit occasionally but you should definitely go and check her out at her new place where you can keep reading her lovely writing.
Xx
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Hi anon, I am still lurking here and reading but am working on iVillage – come visit us at http://www.ivillage.com.au – tons of fun. Assured xx
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Hi Lana, loved your posts here on MM, please continue to write more, I’ll check out ivillage for sure!xx
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I made a deal with my husband on Saturday night that I wouldn’t buy any clothes/shoes/jewelry for four weeks. That’s how bad my online shopping has gotten!
How did ths happen?! Haha
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I am the opposite of you. I dislike shopping and trying things on. I do like having new things but rarely go out and do it. I can’t advise others on wehat colours or looks are ‘in’. I have to MAKE myself look at David Jones catalogues! Funny huh?
I wear my shoes right down and keep getting them re-heeled and re-soled. Often my mother has to buy me the odd top or dress and almost “force” me to get to the shops.
Despite this, I choose expensive-ish things and tailored items and nice materials when I do buy clothes, so I actually look stylish enough. I have few things but they are nice things. I wish I cared a bit more to spend time and money shopping. I am really bored of my wardrobe – esp for spring – and so am gearing up to a shopping weekend in the next 3-4 weeks.
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Oh I love online shopping. Was in a panic yesterday as someone pinched our mail box (weird i know) luckily i found it a few blocks away as i like to keep the evidence of my latetest purchase hidden and thought this could blow my cover if hubby has to go to the post office.
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My ex boyfriend (current bed buddy) is asking me to go away for the weekend… I’m um-ing and ah-ing because well is this a romantic weekend? is this just a weekend booty call? are we going to fight like cats and dogs the way we did when we were together? Sigh. I want to go but a part of me is saying no way. What to do? what to do?
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What do you want the weekend to be?
I’d say make sure you are both on the same wavelength…
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I don’t know to be honest. I want to keep my feelings from getting hurt although lately we have been really good when we are around each other. it’s been fun, no fights, no tears, no hurt. I’m just a bit worried too much time spent together can ruin it
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Hmmm…. it’s tricky because usually in these situations, neither person wants to be the first to admit their true feelings. One of you might say what you ‘think’ the other wants to hear and then the other just plays along with that scenario. Patrick and Nina from Offspring scenario!
Good luck with making a decision, I hope it’s the right one for your heart.
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Going away for a weekend ==> romantic.
If you want to rekindle the relationship, go. If not, don’t go.
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Big week this week. Best thing – boyfriend got offered his dream job managing a farm so we are moving to the country!!!!! (A few weeks back I wrote on here about how my dad was kicking us out and I couldn’t find work so this is the best news ever!!!) His parents are so excited for us and are coming up to Sydney to help us move and giving us furniture (REALLY nice stuff) that they had from a previous house. Dads comments – ‘finally, now I get my house back’. Jerk
OMM – Making new friends. If there is anyone on here from the Dubbo/Narromine area – can you recommend places to meet new friends (I don’t have kids (yet!) so I think mothers groups are out lol.
Currently sewing the final binding on a quilt I have been making for over a year. My incentive to finish? If I do by Sunday, I get a clue from bf for his proposal plans. So all in all, a pretty great week.
And Howzat! was amazing – shame it went so late (or am I just prematurely old lol)
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Jess, go to the rugby to meet people. And when there is a race day – go!
I find the best places for meeting new people are those sort of social days. If you are new in town, most people are really friendly and word spreads quickly that there is a new manager in town. I am about 2 hours away from you and most small towns are the same in this respect.
Good luck with country life – you will love it!
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Only had Saturday off so coupled with a very late night last night doing uni work I’m not feeling very refreshed.
Spent today in a bit of a fog but oh well, it’s not going to last forever!
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Love this idea for a weekly post, as the best & worst and open Wednesday post are my favourite MM posts. Yay!
My weekend was good. Went shopping for an outfit to wear to a job interview today and actually managed to find something in less than 3 hours. Go me! INterview went well too.
Is it a bad sign that other than shopping on Saturday morning I can’t remember anything else that happened??!!
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Caught up with old friends and saw The Sapphires! Loved it.
OMM: negativity of some friends. Really life is not that bad for them if they could just be a little more grateful for what they had to whinge about
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How is it that this online post refuses to support women in the public service. I mean in NSW where hundreds of women r subject to Barry O’Farrels wims IE the worker compensation debarvle where hundreds of women in the public service will suffer, and the winding back of special leave ie family leave etc, some I can only come to one conclusion and that is Mamamia is not allowed to publish against your owners wishes
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I’m not speaking for Mamamia, Peter but I presume by ‘owner’ you’re referring to News Limited? Firstly, as far as I know, the site hasn’t been sold to them. Secondly, it’s a leftard myth that Murdoch controls the editorial content of his media outlets. If you open your eyes you’ll see that the likes of Bill Shorten and Paul Howes also contribute opinion pieces and that the NSW Government is thoroughly scrutinized. Because NewsLtd isn’t part of Labor’s Propoganda Department, like the ABC and Fairfax, doesn’t make them evil. It makes them the voice for the majority of the electorate. What’s Fairfax’s share price today? 40 cents? How many people bother reading them anymore?
Anyway Peter, where were your screams the last 16 years when the ALP were treating NSW like their own personal fiefdom? Did you forget that the debt they left us in would eventually have to be sorted out? The neverending cycle – Labor piss it up against the wall, then the Coalition have to come in and sort it out.
What do you think will happen when Wayne’s World comes crashing down? He’s taken a 22 billion dollar surplus and turned it into 250 billion dollars worth of debt with nothing to show for it! In five years! We can’t print money like the US and no-one will bail us out like Greece.
We’ve got little left but mining and as sure as the sun rises in the East, that will eventually slow.
So, I’m sorry for everyone who’s affected. I’m affected. Nurses are public servants too. But I’m a grown up and realise that debt has to be reined in. If our unions cared a sh*t about us they’d be demanding fiscal responsibility from the ALP while theyre in government, not when its all too bloody late! They don’t. UnionLabor don’t give a rats about anything other than feathering their own nests.
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Hey Peter Lawler
To be honest, we don’t tend to cover a lot of state-based issues, simply because Mamamia has readers all over the country and we like to keep the content relevant for everyone. Having said that, I’m happy to look into the issue further and see if its something we should be writing about.
I’m not sure what you mean by our ‘owners’. Mamamia is an independent publication – we’re not owned by one of Australia’s major media companies and we’re certainly not owned by the NSW Government!
Best,
Jamila
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My weekend was nice and quiet, just the way I like them after a draining work week. To bad it’s over, the countdown to Friday begins
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What does OMM stand for?
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On my mind
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First weekend back from traveling overseas for a bit. Caught up with girlfriends, spent too much money.
OMM: worrying about money. Hunting for a job. First day looking and I’m stressed already. Silly PMS today I think. Also worrying about trying for a baby. What if I can’t get a job and can get preggers and no one will employ me? Or what if I can’t get preggers. It’s only month 3 but I’m worrying already.
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I had a read of this and suggest you take a look – http://m.theage.com.au/lifestyle/life/vaccinations-vexed-link-to-autism-20110914-1k8nm.html
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I suggest you look at this:
http://luckylosing.com/2011/09/15/
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Great weekend! Went to two clubs for a bit of a dance on Saturday night. Hated both of them for the same reason: music was awful. It was awful in the first one (Melissa Tkautz made a ‘celebrity appearance’ and was embarrassingly off key) and salsa flavoured awful in the second one (it being a salsa bar). I would kill to hear some music that doesn’t make my ears bleed when I go out to dance. Having said that, I really enjoyed watching couples dancing in the salsa bar, it was a lot better than the dancing that went on in the first one, which really was just one step away from pole dancing, without a pole.
Saw ‘The Dark Knight Rises’ on Sunday, God it was good! Tom Hardy was so brilliant, and so scary. And holy crap, he is SO BIG!! I really liked it that he was so muscly but still had a gut, I think it made him look extra scary and extra tough. His neck was the size of a tree trunk, for goodness sake. Liked this Batman movie much more than the other two.
Extra good news: got confirmation from Midwifery Today magazine that they’re going to publish an article of mine! This is the third one that they’re publishing that I’ve written, and I still feel stoked every time they send me an email confirming it. Woo hoo!
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You know why I love this post? Because I hate it when you’ve watched something AMAZING on television on a Sunday night but nobody else at your place or at your work did. Sometimes you just have an overwhelming need to dissect what you’ve seen and it is just so frustrating when you can’t! Hurrah!
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Anyone have any holiday advice on New Zealand?
Thinking of going there with the (young) kids at Christmas time. Ideally, we would like to just go for one week and stay in one rented house or cabin in a lovely area. Where there is something local for the kids to do each day (like the beach or a nice park or lake or something) and maybe do a few local day trips. Not interested in travelling around with the small tackers… just would like to chill out in a lovely environment.
Where to go?!
PS: Just to clarify, I am not being anti-travelling, I really want to spend some time in NZ’s food and wine country one day, but just need something simple with the kids for now
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Nelson (top of the south island) is a lovely beachy area, and close to the beautiful Marlborough wine region (mmm pinot grigio) (in Marlborough the town I stayed in there was Blenheim). Also at Nelson, you can visit the world famous Queen Charlotte Sound or Abel Tasman National Park.
Otherwise down in the Central Otago region – stay around Queenstown – yes even in summer
There are wines around there too, and oh the views!
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I love Queenstown, if you can go there, go! It’s utterly breath taking and there’s something for everyone – beautiful scenery, walks in the gardens and around the lake, jet boating, go karting and dining up on the hill that the gondola’s take you up (very descriptive true), mini golf, fantastic food and they have a gorgeous spa overlooking the shotover river that was amazing. Can you tell I love it?
Plus it’s super easy to get around.
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Akaroa! 45 minutes out of Christ church. Oh it’s gorgeous and terrific for kids! Google it up.
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We had RSPCA cupcake day at work today. Delish!
Teenage daughter came back from weekend skiing at Perisher. It was snowing on Fri night when they arrived (magic) and they;ve had so much snow fall recently the conditions were perfect. Watching her videos and looking at her photos made me envious. I’ll have to go next year.
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OMM: (More whinging than anything).
* Is the cat eating my ear plugs???
* Why do companies/businesses suggest to contact them via email, but NEVER email you back. Hello, childcare centres, Department of Education….
* I am so worried about getting childcare. I am supposed to go back to work at the end of October. I have had my daughter’s name down at 3 childcare centres since she was 2 weeks old (she will be 10 months old when I am supposed to return to work). I have contacted them all and they have all said they are full and it would be highly unlikely that she would get a spot this year. They couldn’t tell me about next year as it is too far away. So I have registered her on a waitlist with a family day care site that has carers in my suburb and surrounding suburbs. We don’t have family around to help out. Not sure what else I can do. I feel sick about it actually….
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Have you considered places near where you work? That might be handy? Plus give you other options to get listed on.
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KP, yes, your cat is eating your earplugs – I gauruntee it. I use earplugs at night as the Mr is a snorer (the little pink industrial earplugs tradies use) if I leave them lying around I will find torn up, half eaten earplugs all over my house, the only culprit is one or both of my indoor cats.
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Yes your cat is probably eating the earplugs.
I had hearing aids fitted this year and I was told by the specialist to never leave them lying around the house as cats & dogs are attracted to the ear wax – yuck, I know but its true.
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The centers her name is down at are on my way to work, in fact one of them is in the same grounds. Can’t get much closer than that!
Bloody Puss! I knew he was chewing up my ear plugs…. Gross!
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Perhaps a share nanny with a friend from mums group, or a mum you know could do with the cash and help out with care? its not always a long term solution but could tie you over till a place comes up. Otherwise look further away for day care, try other suburbs. The really good thing is, that if your day care has long wait list, it generally (in my opinion and experience) means it is a decent quality one. Dont use a sub standard daycare that gives you a wierd feeling and has no wait list – there is a reason you can get in quickly!!!! Trust your instinct!
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Can you extend your maternity leave a bit longer to give you some more time to find care? Most employers know finding childcare is a nightmare and I’m sure they would rather know now rather than a few weeks out so they can keep your replacement on a bit longer?
How about care closer to home? I always think finding care closer to home is better because if you have a sick day and need to rest you can still send your little one to care and its not such a hassle for you or their dad to get them there if its near home.
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Thanks anon and Flickster ( and everyone else) for replying. I work literally 3 mins from home and there are 3 centres on the way to my place of work, all of which I have my daughters name at, so all are very close. As lovely as a nanny sounds it wouldn’t be an option for us. Mothers groups friends all have care for their kids.
I can extend my maternity leave but it would be unpaid. This would also mean that I would not receive any Xmas holiday pay. So in total would not receive any pay for approx 14 weeks. This is why I need to go back to work
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MM’ers, I need some advice.
My dearest friend had a missed miscarriage in December where the baby died at about 10 or 11 weeks. She had a D&C the day she found out, which was at 12 weeks (I think). Testing of the foetus did not uncover any abnormalities.
She initially fell pregnant within a month of two of going off the pill so she must have been very fertile, but since the D&C she has not had a period since.
She is seeing a specialist this week to have some fairly invasive tests. When she met with the specialist previously, he said that she might have Asherman’s Syndrome.
Naturally, I have consulted Dr Google and thoroughly freaked myself out. She is being the clever one and not looking at anything until she sees the specialist.
Has anyone here been diagnosed with Asherman’s and then successfully conceived? I realise this is super personal, but if anyone can shed some light on this issue, I would be so appreciative.
Thanks in advance. xxx
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I have no advise or expertise in this area but I just wanted to say that you are a lovely friend to try and get yourself informed so you can help your friend.
Whatever her medical issues she is lucky to have a friend like you
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Never heard of the condition myelf.
Just remember, her specialist said she *might* have Asherman’s Syndrome. So that means she might not. I am sure his first tests are to rule this out.
Fingers crossed for her.
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What a lovely friend you are. Your friend is very lucky to have someone so caring around.
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I was diagnosed with Asherman’s following the birth of my daughter in 2009. The Asherman’s was caused by retained placenta. It was not diagnosed until after I stopped breastfeeding and didn’t get my period back. After a number of tests my uterine cavity was found to be about of third of its original size with the rest obliterated with adhesions right up to and including my right fallopian tube (basically the walls of my uterus adhered together when healing following the removal of the placenta). I was advised that my case was significant and it would be unlikely that I would be able to conceive and if I did I would not be able to carry a baby to term while my uterus remained in that condition.
I was very thankful to have a healthy baby girl but had hoped to have more children and was pretty devastated. I ended up having 3 operations (hysteroscopies) to open up the uterine cavity and remove the adhesions. I fell pregnant via IVF after the first 2 operations but miscarried. We didn’t know whether that was due to the Asherman’s and subsequent operations. As you would be discovering from your Dr Googling, the problem is even if you remove the adhesions you will be left with a degree of scarring of the uterus and thinning of the endometrium which can lead to fertility issues. If you do manage to conceive and get through the first trimester, you are also at a much greater risk of premature labour and placenta accreta (when the placenta embeds into the uterine wall and does not come away following birth which can lead to haemorrhage and a hysterectomy in some cases).
Anyway, I had a third operation and took a break for about 12 months. I did a lot of acupuncture and saw a naturopath during that time. We then conceived naturally first go and I am now have a beautiful, healthy 3 month old baby boy (who is sitting in my lap as I type). The pregnancy as great. I was monitored regularly to try to detect any sign of placenta accreta but it is difficult to detect on u/s. At 37 weeks I started haemorrhaging. The placenta had partially detached from the uterus and I had an emergency c/s under a general anaesthetic. When the doctors got in there they found that the placenta had also accreted so it had to be manually extracted. The issues with the placenta were almost certainly caused by the Asherman’s. It was very difficult to stop the bleeding and I ended up having a balloon catheter put in my uterus for a few days but managed to avoid a hysterectomy. I lost a lot of blood, had transfusions and spent the first day in ICU. My son was perfectly healthy. I have been advised that if I had another baby, it is likely to go the same way and would almost certainly end in a hysterectomy. I have 2 beautiful children and won’t be pushing my luck with a third.
I wish your friend the very best of luck. If she does have Asherman’s she may still go on to have children depending on the severity of the adhesions. She should only have any surgery performed by a specialist who is very experienced with Asherman’s as the surgery itself can cause fertility problems and you only get one go. If she does conceive, she should see an obstetrician who specialises in high-risk pregnancies.
It can be a long and lonely road when you are in the middle of operations, failed attempts to conceive and miscarriages. No-one seems to know much about Asherman’s (including plenty in the medical fraternity). Your friend is lucky to have a friend like you. Good luck xx
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OMM: How tired I have been. Can’t ever seem to get enough sleep. When I am at work I need to get up at 5am, so when I am home I keep waking up at that time too. Force myself to sleep until at least 7, but come lunchtime I am wrecked!! Craving sweet food to keep me going, so I have been doing some guilty sugar packed shops lately. They must stop!! Luckily I have kept up my exercise so guilt drops a little.
Partner and I decided last night when we would start trying for our first child next year. Having a goal is very exciting
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Yay – what an exciting conversation and decision.
Very happy for you.
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A word of warning that if you think you’re tired now when you get pregnant (hopefully very quickly when you start trying next year) you will WISH you felt as tired as you do right now
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Anonymoose – i’m sure it wasn’t intentional but thats a classic case of Mummyjacking! See STFU Parents blog for explanation.
It is possible for people who don’t have kids to experience being very tired. And guess what?! They can also experience love, frustration and a whole other range of emotions – Mummies haven’t cornered the market on everything!!
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I was merely writing this in reference to her commenting that she was going to try and get pregnant next year.
If she hadnt written anything about trying for a baby I wouldnt have mentioned being tired and pregnant so in fact this is not mummyjacking (what a bullshit word by the way) by merely a warning that was completely relevant to her comment.
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yes that is really exciting deciding to have a baby , all the best
have you considered you may be dehydrated.? I read that many women are tired because of this .
Also eating sugar (I know I am a culprit too) does make you thirsty.
Come to think of it , I am !
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Thanks for the well wishes ladies! It is very exciting, we have been discussing it for a while now but never really decided when it would be. My partner is very keen to be a father which is lovely
warms my heart to see him so excited and telling me about all the day dreams he has of us as a family.
I think you might be on to something Sparkie. I don’t each much sugar at work, and drink a lot of water and usually I feel ok (I work nights and do 12 hour shifts so that sometimes makes me tired) but when I am at home I don’t drink much water and that seems to be when I am tired. Even when I go to the gym I drink little water which is bad!!
Sleep deprivation will reach a whole new level when baby comes along
At least the reward for being so tired will be worth it.
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I love “checking in at the water cooler” – THANKS MM!
This post is a GREAT idea for a Monday Morning!
Best from the W/E:
Lovely weekend spent celebrating my “Name Day” – that translates to fabulous day yesterday eating 30000000000 different types of pastries, cakes and biscuits and drinking tea whilst the kids play in the back yard and swing on the iKEA hammock!
I thought I’d balance all the cake and chocolate served yesterday by making “Date Balls”, healthy, healthy date balls (Wellllll…… relatively speaking!)
Everything in moderation, right!?!…… Including Moderation!
Date Balls
http://phoodie.wordpress.com/2012/08/18/date-pistachio-almond-balls/
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Mamamia,
Is there a way to favourite articles on here that get saved into your own profile? Without having to facebook/tweet/pin etc??
OMM: Mortgage broker tonight… ahhh!
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OMM: Had a lovely outdoorsy weekend here in Perth. Got out on the water on Saturday and went fishing with friends … well the boys fished while me and the besty sat on the front of the boat and got some sun and drunk wine. The Sunday I went paddle boarding at Scarborough, spent more time in the water than on the board thanks to the choppy conditions. But very happy to have had my first ocean swim for the season! Bring on Summer… can’t believe it’s still August!
I’m feeling the effects of my activeness today in the arms. Bit sore! But putting on a bikini for the first time in months is enough to motivate me to get out and about more from now on. The state of my thighs is ridiculous. I think I’m getting the 25-year-old spread going on! Promptly went and bought coconut oil and chia seeds, bring on clean eating!
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How gorgeous is the weather in Perth at the moment! I’ve ditched uni today to study in the sun at the beach instead – definitely not regretting that decision
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I had a beautiful weekend out in Perth this weekend too! It was lovely! Even today has been great, I was washing my car and the sun was fairly warm. Very lucky to live in such a beautiful city
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On my mind: Life would be much easier if everyone remembered to KEEP LEFT !!!!
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Especially on escalators! When I am in a rush and you aren’t, I want to be able to pass you easily!
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This is infuriates me, especially in train stations. I don’t want to miss my train because you don’t know your etiquette. There are even big signs up everywhere on the walls – keep to the left on the escalator! I have no problems being rude to those people, I will tap them on the shoulder and say ‘move’.
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Maggie, I hear you. People that stand to the right on escalators are my pet peeve!
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This also applies to footpaths, supermarkets, railway platforms and the Easter Show.
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And …
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You should go to Toronto – when I was travelling through there they followed this rule EVERYWHERE (only from memory it’s to the right because the traffic is opposite over there).
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Same in London, there are even signs everywhere!
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I spent most of yesterday making lasagne, I don’t understand how people call it a quick meal? Anyway we ate most of one (it was delicious) and the other two are in the freezer to be given as part of food packs to girlfriends who are about to have babies.
Oh and I got published on the CROWN Project http://thecrownproject.blogspot.com.au/ very exciting.
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Ive made quick lasagna – packaged pasta sheets, jar tomato sauce, jar white 3 cheese sauce, but in absolutely NO WAY does it compare to Sunday Lasagna with fresh home made pasta sheets, fresh made tomato sauce and creamy bechamel sauce – and its called sunday lasagna cos thats the only day i have the time to make it !
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I’d say it’s quick as it isn’t really labour intensive, but it takes time. So you should cook bolognese sauce for hours, but you’re not standing there at the stove the whole time it’s cooking. You should get the bolognese on and let it simmer on a low heat, then you can make the bechamel, then all you need to do is put it together. If you are doing more than one, do everything the same at the same time. So, you do a layer of bolognese in every tray, then the pasta sheets in every tray, etc etc.
And if you were precooking the lasagne sheets, don’t. I’ve done that in my life. That’s a big old waste of time right there.
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Oh yeah I do that – three were in production at once yesterday. I made my own pasta yesterday, mainly because I’d forgotten to buy any pasta and couldn’t be bothered going out, but I would say it isn’t worth doing, doesn’t make much difference.
I was more referring to the people who somehow just whip one up after work, that would never happen for me.
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Mine is quick in that it doesn’t take long to throw it together. It still takes 45 min in the oven though. Plus I have ready-made sauce in the freezer and don’t do the bechemel as none of us like it.
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Had an awesome weekend
Our son turned 18 and we had a big party for family and friends at home and have realised that 18 year olds are really cool and appreciate the fact that I was telling them what a huge thing they are doing finishing year 12 and it will all be over soon and good at them for having a go – my son devastated when the following morning I woke to find 4 of his mates had sent me facebook friend requests. I was also so pleased to hear all of his mates being so supportive of his dream to join the army. Then the night got even better when a distant cousin he is close to arrived unexpectedly at our front door to surprise him – what a gift and what precious memories
Sunday was clean up and we were soooo tired so left the kids in the spa and my husband and I hopped into bed with a cuppa and left over cupcakes to enjoy some brilliant Aussie TV “Howzat” Thanks Channel 9 for investing in quality drama – actually made me very proud that Kerry Packer was an Aussie…
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I had a pretty emotional weekend.
My best friend who lives interstate came home for a visit…she is due to be married in 8 weeks, her big dream wedding is all booked to take place here….
we met for lunch, she looked very thin and a bit pale but at first i put that down to pre wedding weightloss and stress, so i was talking about picking up my bridesmaids dress for her wedding… and she burst into tears.,, told me she doesnt think she wants to marry him anymore.
Then she told me how unhappy she has been… she moved interstate to be with him and they have been there a few years even though he promised her originally they would only be there 2 years max, he has got into drugs and heavy drinking etc and nobody back here knew how bad things had become or how miserable she has been because she hadnt said a word, putting on a brave face. She has just ended yesterday and flown back today with her dad to pack her things.
my heart breaks for her, and that she didnt feel like she could tell anyone about it, i hate that she was so unhappy and i didnt know or help, but im glad she found the strength to do it rather than marrying him. but ive been feeling a bit down about that.
it was another good friend’s kitchen tea yesterday so i went to that and made excuses for my best who was also meant to come- shes not quite ready to tell everyone yet. but i couldnt help looking at the difference between the two – this bride was so joyful and excited – everything one should be 4 weeks out from their wedding day, compared to my best friend, pale and not sleeping, looking at her beautiful dream engagement ring and feeling sick, and i know she has made the right choice to end it, even though the next few months are going to be hard.
to top it all off i have just started fertility treatment as trying for baby #2 just isnt happening naturally despite all our hopes, was scared to get back on this rollercoaster as i remember it all too well from the first time, but here we are.
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Ohhh…hugs and a cupcake to you xx
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best she worked it out now than in 6 months time
good on her for being brave and thank goodness she has friends like you
Good luck with baby no 2
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Your poor friend. Just a word of warning, in my experience people can be remarkably judgmental about calling off a wedding. She will really need your support in the next few months.
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How lucky your friend is to have supportive friends and a wonderful father.
Sometimes people do keep things to themselves for various reasons, she has certainly had a rough time .
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Love the idea of a weekly post where we can talk about TV shows (among other things)!
I loved the season of MasterChef allstars, and it was great to see the final of that. But the best thing I watched this weekend was Capitalism: A Love Story, a Michael Moore doco which was shown on SBS. One scene had a man being evicted from his house, after not being able to pay his mortgage which had gone up $1000 a month. Awful to watch. It really brought home the message of how greedy some people can be.
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A French film I Totally Adore is on tomorrow night (Tuesday) at 9.30pm on SBS2 – ‘Priceless’. It has Audrey Tautou and is fantastic. http://www.sbs.com.au/films/movie/1949/Priceless
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I LOVE that movie. Gad Elmaleh is superb in it too.
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Oh no I wanted to watch ‘capitalism’ too, i totally forgot about it. You just reminded me. Must go online and find it…
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I missed Howzat!!!
I’m a huge Lachy Hulme fan, but we did a road trip to visit my brother over the weekend, stayed an extra night, and I forgot to remote record! Devastated!
Does anyone know if there will be a replay?
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You can usually watch it online after the show has shown on TV – http://catchup.ninemsn.com.au
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Channel 9 is screening part 1 again this Saturday at 8:30
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Ooooh I am looking forward to the week ahead! I’m leaving on thursday night for Europe! Going on a Contiki tour with one of my close friends!
I’ve been a little sick this weekend though, thrown up a few times and generally not been feeling great. Unsure of whether I’m sick or just nervous! I am pretty nervous. This is my first big overseas trip by myself. I’m particularly scared to leave my parents for five weeks. They are my best friends, and I love them to pieces! Not to mention my dear boyfriend. That makes me sad. But hey, this will be fun for me!
And to get away from work, hoo-rah! I work as a carer, and it has been incredibly difficult lately. A much needed break, yay!
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Loving this idea – so glad. Feel the need to brain dump today. my weekend was a bucket of crazy.
Friday night went out and saw a gf gig at my local – yay for a good gig – IN MY STREET! Had a few woines. Needed em. Heard nothing from Cute Plumber after I called him on the ‘you were a little bit of a blokey douche’ msg.
Saturday I slept in, then went to my bestie’s kids school fair to watch her girl sing a solo. All went beautifully until a girl fainted in the back row. My bestie’s girl was so shellshocked, bless her, as it was her first solo and she was nervous.
I came home lest I spend more money on junk/comfort food and had a disco nap and a cry. My darling bestie then invited me to crash her non date with her ex husband’s bestie – you can’t make this shit up, I promise!! – and we rocked on out for dinner and saw an odd cabaret like cover band show that was so odd, it just made us laugh.
Yesterday my legend neighbour fixed my cars brakes for me. And then gave me a juicer he didn’t want. I’m hoping if I get him to do a service for me I’ll get steak knives!!
Then another gf called me out of the blue and asked me to come see a guy she has been pining over but who plays her like a violin, play a violin. So we went, the bloke wasn’t there but another guy was, playing irish tunes which made me happy.
Meanwhile, because there clearly hasn’t been enough weird this weekend, a guy I only just began talking to (since Cute plumber became an uberdouche) has been messaging like mad and so I met him for a drink last night. He is pretty amusing, but I’m a bit terrified he’s moving too fast, being very complimentary and open and wanting to see me much.
So I’ve taken a mental health day because I believe this weekend may have been mental.
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Your weekend has exhausted me, and you crack me up! Phew! Get rid of uber douche plumber, new guy sounds nice – could just be a bit keen and nervous.
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It is book week at kindy, and my little princess dressed up in her pink tutu and took her favourite book, Teddy Tutu, Ballet Star along to share
so cute, she was so excited and loves to show off her funny unco ballet skills 
On My Mind is Children’s parties!!
Does anyone have any ideas about throwing a birthday party for afour year old? I am looking for a cheap alternative to hosting, I cannot have it at my house as we live in a small unit. I was thinking maybe an outdirr park or something, I have never done something official like this before so any advice would be awesome! Such as things notto do, etc. I am thinking of inviting about 10 kids or so. Thanks
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I very very very vaguely remember going to an outdoor one when I was 5 or so. It was at one of those places with a council bbq. Snags and fairy bread and kiddy running around games made for an awesome party!
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I did the dead same when my girl turned 4. We lived in a tiny crappy apartment, and so did our party at the local park that had bbq’s and play equipment etc. She was at the time into Pocahontas, and we did a pocahontas party – kids all pretty much dressed as indians or cowboys. Was pretty cute. Just made a cake, lolly bags, brought down loads of soft drink, water and snackage and the kids just ran and played on the equipment.
Come to think of it the next year we did a Circus themed party – same thing. Down the park, I dressed like a Ringmaster, my girl was a clown, Hilarious fun!
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aww that sounds so cute, esp the cowboys and inidians thing haha. I would have loved to see that! My little girl is into ballet and fairies and princesses and pink etc, so I think the theme is pretty pre-determined haha. Not sure what her boy friends will think of this though! Maybe I could just make it any fancy dress, so there is more chance of everyone actually dressing up? Or do you think it would be best to narrow it down to like fairies and wizards, or prince and princesses, etc.?
So many decisions! And I am so nervous it will be boring and a disaster and awkward
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Maybe fairies and pirates, like as in Peter Pan? Is there one of your girls fave dvds or books or character shows? How exciting! I *love* kids parties lol
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What about princess/fairy and superhero theme.
My daughter had 9 fairies and one superman!
Don;t stress too much about the party. Keep it simple – 10 kids in the park is perfect. Just make sure you have enough food for the kids & their siblings and their parents (who most likely will stay). Pass the parcel, bubble wands from $2 shop & the play equipment in the park will entertain them (no need for expensive paid entertainment for 4 year olds)you could take some cushions/pillows and play musical cushions and whats the time Mr Wolf, if you want.
Relax and I;m sure your daughter will have a lovely party.
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As she is only four , park is great idea and arranged games for them. Also make it short (ie time wise) I’d say no more than 2 hours . Not sure about dress ups Id keep it simple .
Also if you are in a park the adults will possibly hang so you wil lhave people to help .
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We also live in an apartment and usually have outdoor parties. One year it rained and it was awful, so we had to have lots of kids and their parents in our apartment, it was crazy. I would recommend trying to organise somewhere which at least has a bit of shelter, like a gazebo, or having some other wet weather backup plan (especially if lots of parents will come too). Hopefully you will get lovely weather, in which case outdoor parties are the best! Kids can run around, play with balls, streamers, etc. It’s pretty easy to clean up too.
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A party in the park is a great idea! I went to one not long along and the kids had the best time. There was fun food for them and a little bit of champagne/tea and coffee for the adults. About one hour into it, a magician came along and entertained the four-year-olds for close to an hour. Think he cost about $100 and had them in the palm of his hand. After his performance he made them all a balloon animal so they got something to take home as well. Happy planning! xx
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Party in the park is perfect for 4 year olds.
Find a local park that is small, fenced off and with good play equipment and a wooden table. Get there in the morning with a tablecloth and some balloons to reserve the table and you’ll be all set.
we have a park like this at the end of our street and it is constant use for kids parties.
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Well I finally got a new laptop over the weekend- I’m writing this on my shinny new Macbook Pro! Loving it so far
Advice required: I’m doing an Arts (Politics and political thought)/Commerce (Economics) degree and was 2 semester away from graduation BUT turns out I HATE economics. Economics theory I rock at… but all the maths involved..not such a fan of! So I’ve decided to change my commerce major… but I’m not sure what too…
I was thinking Finance but the one Finance subject I’ve done in the past was all maths related as well… otherwise I’m thinking International Business? Grrr it’s difficult and my uni refuses to give me any advice. Seeing as its already 1/2 way through the semester I don’t have to officially decide for another 6 weeks but some advice would be good from anyone..?
If not back to the careers counsellor for me
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Most people who study economics end up using it as a framework/language which is useful for policy development and analysis – I would say that actual econometric work is quite rare unless you are employed as a specialist. I double majored in econometrics and policy analysis and haven’t used econometrics at all in more than 10 years since I graduated, even though I have been employed in economic/policy analysis the whole time. I guess you need to think about what you want you want at the end – but I reckon that politics/economics is a pretty useful combination. Just my two cents!
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^^ This!
You don’t need to be an econometric whiz, but eco theory is very useful. Stomaching the micro/macro horror will give you an excellent grounding, especially for policy.
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Thanks for the advice everyone! I’m still not much closer to working out what I’m going to do but you’ve definitely given me something to think about!
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Finance is very maths. International Business would be good, or the less mathy ones like management, HR, marketing?
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My fiance is an economist and does econometrics. I have to admit, I don’t really understand a lot of what he does but it looks very interesting! And its a relatively niche skill, so if you can pair it up with an indepth knowledge of a particular sector, for example, you will do really well : )
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Had one night out over the weekend with a friend to a show which was fun. Proud that I stuck to water as I am trying to stop having big nights out that kill the rest of the weekend when I should be studying.
Didn’t watch Howzat. Nothing can make cricket interesting for me. Am looking forward to Underbelly tonight, loved the first one last week. And seeing as everyone is also talking about shopping: still happy over my Mimco purchases, got 25% off in their promotion. Will be back before the promo ends. Also thrilled my favourite colour is in season, lilac/lavender.
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Oh yes- I definitely enjoyed that promotion as well!
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I bought a ridiculous number of equally ridiculous clothes and spent ridiculous amounts of money. WHOOPS!
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I was reminded last night just how precious life is. A friend’s brother in law committed suicide last night. He lives in another state but his daughter is with them at the moment so she is having a tough time comforting her husband and her niece. Depression is an awful illness.
After hearing this news, I was watching Brooke Hanson on 60 minutes. What a horrible thing for her and others in her situation to have to go through. No parent should have to watch their child die. After the story I went and gave my sleeping boys a big cuddle and kiss. I am very lucky to have two healthy boys.
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will zoe be b ack this week? missed hey last week
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She’s back this week – just had a little holiday last week
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I acknowledge that this following confession will not make me the most popular kid on the block – BUT…
I am SICK of sponsoring people.
Seriously. It seems like everyone in my life, my work, my Facebook newsfeed is doing something and asking for sponsorship!
And gone are the days of flinging someone $20 and being given a paper receipt and it all being done, now your monetary sum is public on those websites, and if you choose to remain anonymous people assume you haven’t donated, and keep harassing you!
So my dilemma is whether you sponsor them the $20 you usually would, and appear to be a tight-arse – or do you do what most people do, and pledge $200 which you really can’t afford???
My partner seems to think that $200 is completely fine. I agree, an occasional donation of $200 IS fine, but when you are being asked for sponsorship fortnightly, it is VERY expensive!
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I say donate whatever you can afford to the causes you find important. If someone asks why you havent donated simply say I apologise that I wont be donating to you I designate a percentage of my income towards charitable causes and unfortunately this months charity budgets have been allocated but hopefully next time you do something like this Ill be able to chip in
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I had trouble supporting a well known international organisation through monthly deductions on my credit card. Money was taken out after the time i had allotted and I had to make several phone calls to get reimbursed.
You can only do so much , I agree there are alot of people and organisations asking for help
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I had a top weekend in Melbourne visiting my best friend. We danced for hours on Fri & Sat nights, made some new friends, shopped up a storm on Chapel St, saw a movie and went on all the scary rides at Luna Park. I came home with jeans in about 14 different colours
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sounds like you made it to topshop on Chapel street Nat? ; ) Sydney opens v soon! X
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I’m so happy that Mamamia has brought in the Mamamia Monday open post. This is one of the times that I really need to vent.
As everyone may have read on the open post and best and worst last week, I got dumped the weekend before the last that past.
It has been really hard. We got together 6 months ago. It was really intense and we fell in love really quick and he asked me out after a month. The first two months were bliss and we were so in love. For about four months after that, I let my best friend’s advice into my relationship (she hates him) and then every single crappy thing he did, I communicated with her and then yelled at him. Every word that I said from then on was hateful words that had been infiltrated by her not me. He dumped me on the Saturday, didn’t contact me, I contacted him on Tuesday during the day, apologised my guts out to which he said that baby steps needed to ensue. I sent him a message a few hours later saying thank you for listening to me and he replied saying that he thought it would be best to be friends.
I ended up on a friend’s advice writing a 7 page letter to him detailing my feelings and how sorry I was, put the tickets I had bought him for our five month anniversary in it and dropped it in the letterbox of his house. He didn’t read it until Friday to which I got a message stating that he got my letter, to not beat myself up and that he thought we should be friends and that he wanted to be single and to concentrate on work and Uni and his mates.
I didn’t reply. He ended up calling me ten times that night, I didn’t answer and then leaving a voicemail saying: “hey it’s me, I just want you to listen to this voicemail very carefully. Please disregard what I wrote to you today in total. I read your letter again and the first time that I read it, I was shaking, I have never met someone who has wrote that many words or put that much emotion on a piece of paper. I was scared, I didn’t know what to say, deep down there is noone else who I live more and I cannot stop denying myself that, I really cannot. You know I wasn’t honest with you about something, before I met you until today I never drove, I never had a license, today I got my license and I am pretty proud of myself for getting it especially after the shit that has happened in my life behind the wheel of cars. There is noone else, I really just, I don’t know, I still have a lot of feelings for you and I don’t want them to be kissed away just yet but I do mean what I mean but in regards to being friends and then getting to know each other again really well. I just want to make sure that everything is right between us. Alright, the manly tickets will be used accordingly and I have something for you as well so I don’t know, I suppose I will meet up with you next week and we can have a chat or something yeah? Please return my phone call or I will try and call you later before I go to bed because I have to go out for dinner for my brother’s name day. I will give you a call before I go to bed okay? Please stef, pick up and I will hopefully talk to you then okay. Alright babe, bye.” He called me again on Saturday morning once. I then contacted him on Saturday afternoon saying: “Sorry I missed your call, I got your message yesterday. Let’s organise a time to meet?”. No reply until Sunday night at 7.15.
I ended up calling him on Sunday night to arrange a time to meet and he was umming and aching about it and then we ended up staying on the phone and he said within the telephone call that he had mixed feelings, that he really missed me and wanted to be single. That the letter made him feel guilty.
MM’ers, I really love this guy. I feel like I’m an idiot and I haven’t spoken to him since last night. I know I’m an idiot to still love this guy. I just don’t know what he’s going to do with the tickets on Friday night that I gave him. I’m sorry for the rant. I’m just so upset and trying to put on a facade that I’m okay to family. I hate myself at the moment
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Aww, what a mixed up weekend you have had!! I was feeling so emotional by the end of your post. Break ups SUCK.
The one thing I can suggest is looking first at your relationship with your friend. You valued her opinion over your own and that contributed greatly to the demise of this really special relationship. If you want any future with this man you have to first remove your ‘friend’ or deal with her jealousy/bitterness/resentfulness toward your man (or all men?). From there you need to give this guy space. He clearly loves you but maybe he needs to build back his love for himself? If he wants to focus on work and Uni and his mates it’s usually because he needs something constant and grounding and these things bring him security. Let him have that and let him breathe.
You have to work on taking some time out for yourself and start forgiving yourself for the mistakes you have made. You can’t change them, and neither can he. But you can make sure you acknowledge what has happened and move forward.
He does love you. That seems quite clear. But you have to be ok with being alone right now because until he deals with all his emotions and feels secure again you will only bring up the negative or insecure responses from him (ie: guilt phone call after reading your letter).
I can’t really offer a whole lot of advice but just know someone has read your story and feels a lot of empathy and hopes you work through it to become stronger and more secure to face the next challenges that come your way.
xxx
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MM – having tech issues again?!?!
I keep trying to post my reply to BrokenHearted and I keep getting the “duplicate comment” message – but my comment isn’t showing??
** I am just hoping THIS comment gets published! Arrrgh
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Saved it
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Thanks Natalia! That damned spam filter.
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I have a double posting – gahh! Please Nat can you delete the 11:58 am verison (the one with 3 thumbs ups/ likes?) Cheers.
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Thank you for the reply, Melissa. Feels good to hear another person’s take on it.
I have dealt with the friend on Sunday. She seems to have just felt that I was so into him that my friendship with her went down hill. As for him, haven’t spoken to him since Sunday night. It hurts and the anxiety from it is heart wrenching but I’m making a conscious attempt to give him space.
I guess the real test will come if he uses the rugby tickets on Friday night or not. Do you think it’ll be when the guilt might set in if I don’t talk to him this week.
Thanks for the advice.
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Oh Broken Hearted, you poor thing. I know you must be hurting a lot right now but I feel like the best thing might be to back away from the situation for a bit so that you can both figure out exactly what you want? Maybe arrange to meet up with him in a few weeks when you have both had some time to think about the situation. In the meantime, round up some girlfriends and go get ice-cream! xxx
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Oh Nat, you have no idea how much I want to run over to his house and wrap my arms around him right now but that isn’t going to do much.
I’ve completely backed away from it and every time I want to call him, I call one of my best friends who talk me out of it.
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I’m sorry you’re going through such a rough time. First thing I will say is listen to your friends. They have way more perspective than you do at the moment.
Second thing I will say is believe him when he says he wants to be friends. Leave it. He may on occasion confuse you and draw you back in by saying “I’m confused, I don’t know what I want”. He is probably sincere on that. You have to make that irrelevant. I’m trying to put this kindly, but it sounds like you have an unhealthy attachment/need.
Thirdly, and I’m sorry if this sounds harsh, your friend’s feelings about being dropped when you met this guy are valid. It hurts when people do that and there’s no reason for it. I’ve never dumped my friends when I met someone. I have been in love, have been absolutely can’t-eat-can’t-sleep smitten. It’s never translated into having less time for my friends. Perhaps use this experience as a good lesson in that regard for next time you meet someone.
Fourthly, be kind to yourself. Cry, watch sappy movies, hug your cat, eat your bodyweight in chocolate, whatever. Just don’t call him.
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My darling girl, I know you love him and want him; I know it must hurt like you lost a limb, and you probably miss his smell. I recall physically aching after a six month relationship ended when I was 21.
Do this:
Make a clean break – do NOT chase him anymore.
When a man says to you directly ‘I want to be single, it really does 110 per cent mean he wants to be single.’
It is not open to interpretation or negotiation. He has been straight with you. It is lucky, it isn’t a game. He responded to you out of respect for the time you had together, because he does care and is worried about you. This does not mean he wants to get back together. He is letting you down, but as gently as he possibly can.
If you go any further down this track you will feel even more hurt and humiliated. Walk away. Find something new to focus on – studies, careers, meeting new (non-possessive) friends, spend time with family, do a craft! Take up sailing.
I am serious. Get busy so you miss him less. Take a B-I-G breather.
It is almost spring, buy up a hot new wardrobe and shoes to match, look after you – get a facial or massage or manicure.
My final piece of advice is: in your phone contacts, change his number to ‘do not answer or call’. It will make it easier for you, should he reach out. And block him on Facebook so you don’t have to deal with the updates or third hand information. It tough, but the longer it drags out, the longer you will hope and not move on.
And as Melissa advised, deal with this manipulative girl friend of yours for once and for all. It doesn’t seem like she has your happiness and best interests at heart.
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My darling girl, I know you love him and want him; I know it must hurt like you lost a limb, and you probably miss his smell. I recall physically aching after a six month relationship ended when I was 21.
Do this:
Make a clean break – do NOT chase him anymore.
When a man says to you directly ‘I want to be single, it really does 110 per cent mean he wants to be single.’
It is not open to interpretation or negotiation. He has been straight with you. It is lucky, it isn’t a game. He responded to you out of respect for the time you had together, because he does care and is worried about you. This does not mean he wants to get back together. He is letting you down, but as gently as he possibly can.
If you go any further down this track you will feel even more hurt and humiliated. Walk away. Find something new to focus on – studies, careers, meeting new (non-possessive) friends, spend time with family, do a craft! Take up sailing.
I am serious. Get busy so you miss him less. Take a B-I-G breather.
It is almost spring, buy up a hot new wardrobe and shoes to match, look after you – get a facial or massage or manicure.
My final piece of advice is: in your phone contacts, change his number to ‘do not answer or call’. It will make it easier for you, should he reach out. And block him on Facebook so you don’t have to deal with the updates or third hand information. It tough, but the longer it drags out, the longer you will hope and not move on.
And as Melissa advised, deal with this manipulative girlfriend of yours for once and for all. It doesn’t seem like she has your happiness and best interests at heart.
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^^^ Wot she said.
EXCELLENT advice.
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Thank you for the advice
I have followed through on it. I’ve put him in on my phone as “do not answer or call” and will block him on Facebook. I’ve bought myself so many clothes over the last week and am just going to throw myself into Uni and work and just TRY to forget about him. I’m guessing your advice is to let him have the rugby tickets and just leave it?
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Yes. I would say forget about the tickets and don’t try to interpret them as a sign. He’ll use them or he won’t and either way could mean a number of things. Endless analysis of his actions will only hurt *you*.
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yes yes yes. another fab single woman is soooo right. wish i was so eloquent.
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I feel for you , its awful to feel that distraught. Firstly, you are not an idiot ! please dont hate yourself. It seems to me there is alot of confusion and hurt on both sides. I think you both need sometime to calm down and have some me time. A bit of time will bring clarity, trust me on this !
Dont worry about the tickets , I have a feeling what is worrying you about that.
hope you feel better soon !
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Thanks for your comment, Sparkie. I’m just leaving it as hard as it is. I’ve done everything I can to show him that I care and love him. I can’t force this guy to be with me. I am worried about the rugby tickets. I think that’ll be the end of this if he doesn’t make any contact and that’ll hurt the worst
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My pleasure, take care of yourself.
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Broken Hearted, you should absolutely not go to the rugby or expect to go. But that’s easy for me to tell you and a tough ask of you, too tough right now to accept.
So do this instead:
The rugby is Friday night yes? It is Tuesday today; if he doesn’t invite you by lunchtime tomorrow – 1pm Wednesday you are going to ask a couple of friends (or a sister, cousin or even your mum if you get along ok enough) to see The Sapphires.
Book a Friday night gold class session, or go to Palace Cinemas (very glam), wear your new best shoes, whack on some shiny lip gloss or your favourite fragrance – or both – and head out.
Better yet, meet your friends beforehand for dinner out (doesn’t have to be expensive, cheap eats can be loads of fun, or tapas!). Shout yourself a glass of bubbly. Get lost in the story and songs and visuals and just enjoy yourself on an ordinary level. Do not stay at home on the couch.
Ensure that you switch your phone off (not to silent!) as soon as all your friends arrive for dinner. Do not switch it on again until the film credits have rolled.
Link for Palace Cinemas http://www.palacecinemas.com.au/
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I am out for a farewell dinner for my work colleague with my work on Friday night so there is absolutely no possibility of going on Friday night even if he called me to go. Dodged a bullet with that one
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Well perhaps Saturday night then or next Friday night.
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i had the best weekend! Saturday was shopping and pampered and got my hair done for the Royal Flying Doctor ball held at the Hyatt…it was such a great night and to support the RFDS as well they do such an amazing job!
sunday was hungover so watched Sex and the City and movies all day! haha
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You look amazing and classic — Love the old Hollywood look! Can I ask the ticket price? I may go next year!
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our company paid for the tickets bt was around $220 per person at a table of 10 – the night was amazing and had Kate Miller-Heidke perform def worth the price if i had paid for myself
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I love a hungover Sex and the City day!
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Had such a perfect weekend! It’s my birthday next week and my girlfriend’s been spoiling me with birthday month. Since August 1 she’s been giving me a present a day along with a cute little message on a Post-It. On Saturday she took me shopping and basically bought me a whole new wardrobe for the remaining days of August. So thoughtful. So in love. xx
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Went to the RSPCA open day at Wacol. It was great, and good to show the kids all the different parts (they had tours of the animal hospital and the adoption centre). We then made strawberry cupcakes, yummmm.
I was watching Howzat with husband but for some reason he kept laughing everytime a new character appeared or said something. He said he found it amusing how well it was portrayed. He shit me off so much I went to bed
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Oh oopsy – your last line just made me lol. xx
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My husband was the same. Apparently they were all his childhood idols, so seeing each of them appear on screen again, delighted him.
I got up and left him to it. He couldnt understand my lack of interest.
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That’s so funny! We watched Howzat too, but I was equally as interested as my husband. My dad watched a lot of cricket when I was a kid so I knew most of the players. And how compelling was Lachy Hulme as Kerry Packer? I also found it interesting having watched ‘Paper Giants’ & seeing that portrayal of that era & Kerry Packer. In fact, most of the cast were brilliant. I loved it.
I can see how your husband gave you the heebie jeebies though!
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