Comments on: Confess your “sins” and let MM readers absolve you

By: Jef

Jef — Wed, 24 Apr 2013 11:38:59 +0000

Hi b.
I’m almost 23 and have a 11 month old son. My now fiancé and I have been together for 4 1/2 years and decided to try for a baby. While neither of us went to uni we both have full time jobs (I’m on maternity leave for 2 years) and yeah, we have been told we are too young to have kids (my partner is 33) etc but I don’t think there is ever a “right” age to have a baby. You can still travel once you have a baby, in fact you can still do most things you did before you had a baby. The choice is yours but I say if you really want it go for it. Having a baby is the most challenging thing I have ever done yet it also is so very rewarding xx

By: Jef

Jef — Wed, 24 Apr 2013 11:38:39 +0000

By: WhyDidISin

WhyDidISin — Wed, 26 Dec 2012 20:54:06 +0000

I am a girl and for 3 days now i have been watching women lovemaking.
What is the problem with me??

By: anon

anon — Mon, 28 May 2012 09:56:56 +0000

I know exactly what you mean by “existing rather than living.” Wasted 7 years of my late teens/early twenties that way.

I found the cycle utterly impossible to break free of until I got married. Because my husband knew “I once had eating problems in the past” I knew he would catch on pretty quickly if I carried on… and there was no real way to hide the binges or purges in our small house. So, there was a few small slip-ups, but pretty quickly I had to stop. It wasn’t easy but it was mostly taken out of my hands.

If you can figure out some sort of equivalent I would highly recommend it! Best of luck xoxo

By: Rachel

Rachel — Mon, 28 May 2012 09:45:25 +0000

I feel really sorry for you! I can understand how you feel- a little at least- because I got married at 22 (desperately in love for 7 years, had just finished uni and it felt like the right time for us)… but I felt that a lot of people quietly judge me for being married at 23.

Honestly though? Not that big a deal. Nobody actually says anything, and if they did it would be out of line and I’d just tell them so. If kids are really what you want at this stage in your life and you’re ready, why wait? Friends of mine have done it by accident and they have no regrets, so all the more so for you if this feels like the right time

By: Faybian

Faybian — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 22:20:49 +0000

Put the mans names together. Pat riarchy =patriarchy. He’s just a troll.

By: Faybian

Faybian — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 22:15:34 +0000

Just do it, don’t apologise for it. You will be out of step with friends your own age, but you’ll make new ones too on the way. Plus you’ll have more energy, recover from the birth quicker and still be young enough to travel when the kids are grown.

By: blu-k

blu-k — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 17:06:14 +0000

yup, me too!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 15:07:30 +0000

Usually if you explain this as “medical issues” people won’t pry

By: Jane

Jane — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 09:37:55 +0000

B.- the only concerning thing about your situation is that you are apologetic for it. Who says you have to travel etc before having kids? Do it your way. Make no apologies and live your life the way that will make you the happiest. You are lucky that you have a partner is like minded. And your children will be lucky to have parents who wanted them so so much. Good luck.