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Greetings y’all.

Welcome to best and worst. It’s the post that’s been going almost as long as Mamamia itself and for a lot of our readers (some of the MM team included) it’s the stand out post of the week.

We like to think of this post as a community notice board – the place where you come and tell us what’s happening in your world. Sometimes there’s a problem. Sometimes there’s a funny story. Sometimes there’s even a delicious recipe or two (hint, hint.)

You can also use the post as an opportunity to ask Team Mamamia a question or make a suggestion for a post you’d like to see.

Here are our best and worst:

Best: Our wonderful contributing editor Bec Sparrow is abandoning Mamamia’s official Adelaide offices (i.e. Bec’s dining room table) for our Sydney Headquarters next week and coming to visit us.

We’re pretty excited. Karaoke is on the cards. Bec thinks we’re joking – but we’re not.

Worst: Did you know that 1000 Australian parents are diagnosed with post and ante natal depression every week? We were shocked too and saddened to hear how so many of Mamamia’s readers have suffered not only with the illness but the stigma that can come with it.

This week was Post and Ante Natal Depression Week and to raise awareness of the issues we ran two posts – one was from a mother named Lisa who suffered from PND after the birth of her twin daughters. The other was from her husband Matt. Matt wrote about what it was like to be living with Lisa and caring for their daughter while she went through PND.

The posts are heartbreaking but give a rare insight into these parents’ lives at a truly difficult time. They are must-reads.

Over to you now – what’s been the best bit of your week? What’s been the worst? And what’s on your mind?

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  1. Sydgel

    Hi all, does anyone remember that American woman who wrote a book about how her husband one day said he didn’t want to be married anymore but she just stayed calm and let him have his freedom and eventually he sorted himself out and stayed in the marriage?

    I think there was a story about it on here……

    I really want to tell my friend about the book as she is going thru the exact same thing, poor thing. Thanks!

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  2. Anon with two lines too

    Love how we can come on here to declare the news – such a nice feeling to get it out – I am struggling with friends and fam! Good luck and hope you are feeling well.

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  3. JosieY

    Best: we just got home from my daughter’s 6th birthday party. We went down to the local water park and the kids had an absolute ball – we gave them all water pistols and they were off! We asked that instead of bringing presents they brought something for the RSPCA, so now we have a big basket of food, toys and blankets for the animals. Mu girl can’t wait to hand them over (and play with the kitten). People have been asking if she won’t be upset by no presents, but she told me when we got home that this was the best day ever! So I think that’s a no.

    Worst: moving. Looking for a rental. Real estate agents. All FWP.

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  4. Anonymous

    Best: Coldplay. Definitely Coldplay.

    Worst: Running around like a headless chook at work all week because I’m running the department and having to do stuff that is soooo not part of my job description. Never a dull moment, better than being bored I guess?

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  5. Chellebelle

    Best: we are at the coast right now for a 5-day break.

    Worst: my plantar fasciitis is the worst it’s ever been. My whole legs are aching and my feet are throbbing. I’m so over being in constant pain.
    Also I had yet another job application rejection.

    OMM: just the pain stuff. It’s hard to not have it become all-consuming.

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  6. Faybian

    Fairly quiet week but anyway.
    Best: oldest girl has found out she has a job interview for one of the few grad RN positions (in the state). Fingers crossed.. Son has new girl and is the happiest I’ve seen him for most of the year. Hubby’s burn (small 3rd degree) is healing nicely, thanks to someone’s “excellent” nursing care , lol.
    Worst: feeling a bit disorganized/panicky for Christmas.

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  7. Genna

    Best #1: Four day weekend! Due to some extra curricular activities for the school, my principal gave me four RDOs, two of which I used this week. Plus I got chosen to attend a very high profile seminar presented by Education Leadership guru Michael Fullen on Monday.

    Best #2: Only 14 more school days until the Christmas holidays!! I’ve mentioned a couple of times on here that this year has been VERY challenging for me. I am looking forward to a new year. I will have a new year level (going from years 3/4 to years 1/2), new students, new parents, new teaching team, new classroom, new curriculum, new ideas. I’m pretty excited.

    Worst #1: Only 14 more school days until the Christmas holidays. While reports are done and dusted, there is still a lot to do before the school years is out.

    Worst #2: I very rarely get sick, and when I do, my body chooses the most silliest times. I got a nasty cold a couple of weeks ago – and it was particularly bad on the day I was ‘principal for the day’. Bummer. Then I got better. Then I woke up this Tuesday feeling pretty awful again. So funnily enough, I probably wouldn’t have made it to work yesterday and today anway. Oh well. My calling in sick record remains intact – 5 years of teaching and I have NEVER called in sick.

    OMM: My good friend is due a baby girl in the next few weeks and she lives in Utah. I want to send a gift, but instead of getting something in Oz and then spending a small fortune on postage to send it over, I was thinking of using a US site to purchase and post her gift. Anyone got any suggestions?

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  8. Kate

    Worst: My grandma had a fall overnight and is in hospital with no hope for recovery. She is such a strong woman that I thought she would outlive everyone.
    Best: She had a few alert moments today, knew we were all there, and wanted to know the cricket score.

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    • hms.

      I’m so sorry about your grandma. Sending you hugs xox

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    • Sydgel

      Kate I’m so sorry, but really good that she knew you were there and what a champ asking abt the cricket scores! xx

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  9. Liza

    Worst: Going to two family funerals in the last month (aunt and uncle). Both died way too young and have left us all heartbroken.

    Best: Catching up with family I hadn’t seen for years. Fantastic to talk, laugh and gossip, even despite the terrible circumstances. I also got to tell one of my former teachers (from 25 years ago) how much she inspired me.

    Best 2: So appreciative of everyone in my life. So grateful that I have an amazing family, amazing job and am alive to feel today’s gorgeous sunshine on my skin.

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  10. Broken Hearted

    Hi Everyone,

    Its been about three weeks since I posted and so much has happened. Let’s deal with the worst before the best.

    WORST1: Ex who I inherited this sign in name because of came back about two weeks ago, tail between his legs, wanting to give us another go and wanting to deal with it again. Was calling me every night for about a week, wanting a decision out of me – I said I needed time. He cleared off on the Wednesday, didn’t hear from him until I texted him last Saturday saying I had made a decision, he texted back “what” “?”, I fell asleep so I said to him the next morning “sorry I didn’t reply, I fell asleep” and he’s like “well then”. I CALLED HIM LIKE A NORMAL PERSON AND HE DIDN’T ANSWER. Then I get this text from him being like “Just text me, I’m busy”. I DID NOT REPLY. WHAT A DOUCHE. I AM NOT VALIDATING THAT DUMB MESSAGE WITH A RESPONSE. AND I HAVEN’T HEARD FROM HIM. DOUCHE. That’s not bad is it, MM’ers?

    WORST2: Uni. Just so much study, have had to delay my exams because of the depression and anxiety I’ve been feeling. Hopefully I feel better soon. I want to hurry up and finish so I become a qualified lawyer but its so hard to get the motivation :(

    BEST1: Started a new job three weeks ago and am starting to settle in. I learn new things everyday and my boss is a real mentor. Its different to what I am used to. A boss that chucks you in the deep end without a paddle is what I am used to.

    BEST2: New fresh guys. Met a new guy on Saturday night who has been having four hour chats with me everynight. One from my past who has come into my life and we’ve been chatting. And another from my past who has came up and wants to take me on a date on Sunday night… SOOOO WEIRD TO BE WANTED. Is playing the field bad?

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    • Alice

      No, playing the field is normal – and it’s how you meet people you like and work out what qualities you do or don’t need.

      As for your ex – what a mega douche!! How completely rude! Don’t bother every speaking to him again.

      Meanwhile, that four hour conversation guy sounds interesting! Good luck! xx

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    • Sydgel

      Sounds like you are way better without him, he’s behaving like a twat. Don’t go back. He’ll do it again. I’ve had two serious exes leave me and then do the same thing begging me back. Both times I took them back and they left me again.

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  11. eater

    Pet peeve: Quite a lot of my friends have started Michelle Bridge’s 12 week work-out, which is great for them, but suddenly a few have asked me not to eat ‘that’ in front of them. Sometimes it is something completely innocuuous – like a biscuit or something. I find this so annoying! I am not the one doing the program, you are! Do people on health-kicks suddenly get to censor everyone else’s eating?? #fwp

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    • Lolly

      I’m on Michelle Bridges 12wbt and I’d tell someone to rack off if they told me what I could and couldn’t eat in their presence! I manage to do the program and watch my partner eat treats (and occasionally steal a little nibble, hehe).

      The only acceptable request IMO that someone can make is that if eating out the group go to a restaurant that has some healthy options as well. Which most do.

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    • savannahofaus

      No! That’s completely ridiculous!

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    • Anonymous

      No, but a lot of programs like that suggest that to achieve best results for themselves, they ask their family and friends to help them out in various ways. I understand where are you coming from, but it might also have been a big step for them to ask. Lots of people who embark on these things have had to own up to themselves first that they want to change for the better, and it’s not easy.

      Within reason, try and support your friends who are doing something healthy for themselves.

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    • girly

      Nope. My colleagues all got themselves a chocolate the other day and I couldn’t have cared less. I told them I am not eating chocolate all the time, and they thought I was off it cold turkey. They started saying “QUICK! Hide the chocolate!” I was like “No, I am just not eating it all the time. It’s a moderation thing” Doesn’t bother me if they want it, I’m the one getting a smaller waistline! :D

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  12. Jose

    Best – Bathroom transformation happening at home … we couldn’t afford a proper reno so I bought a pedestal basin off ebay and negoiated with a handyman to do a spot of painting and it’s looking really good (previously was ‘mouldy post-war yuk’).

    Worse – all my Mother’s Group friends are doing a afternoon catch up and drinking champagne right … now and I’m at work (sticks tongue out).

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  13. H

    Been a pretty average week, but here goes

    Best: seeing the new twilight movie (by myself). I’m 22 and twilight is one of my guilty pleasures

    Worst: such a fwp, but i have this beautiful sparkly pave style heart pendant which i got from work and wear most days. A stone fell out of it on tuesday so now its gone to get repaired. At least i can get it done for free, but i miss having it! It will be back in 10 days

    Omm: going to the movies alone- theres nothing wrong with it, i dont get why people dont like doing it. Even if i was still with my bf, he wouldnt have seen twilight with me, so i would have been by myself anyway!

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    • Lozzie

      I love movies and I have being going to the movies by myself since I was in my teens. I used to be into the old Lauren Bacall/Humphrey Bogart movies that played in the independent cinemas in the city whilst my teen friends were into horror. I have friends that I go and see rom-coms or popular movies with but if I want to see a sci-fi or something that is a little different, I go by myself. No dramas.

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    • Sydgel

      I’m 47 and Twighlight is one of my guilty pleasures too!

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  14. girly

    Best: Going well with my new lifestyle changes. I have walked to work 4 days out of 5, and eaten really healthy. Counting my calories online :)

    Applied for a new job. I really hope I get it.

    Christmas shopping. You’d think that it would suck, but it really doesn’t! I get excited to shop for my family and I really love it. I can’t wait to see the looks on their faces when they receive their presents!

    Taken next Friday as leave. Get to see my SO early!

    New work motto. Plenty of LOL’s and not so many frowny faces. (Made up by a colleague, haha)

    Worst: Nothing. I’m happy. If anything it’s the fact that the job I applied for doesn’t close until NEXT Friday. I wanna know NOW! :D

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  15. Kristalilly

    Best: How great my partner has been looking after me while ive been recovering from dental surgery. I truly feel so lucky to have her!
    Worst: Game players
    OMM: De-activated facebook for a little while, sick of seeing things that end up upsetting me that dont really matter. If anyone wants me to know something they can contact me directly!!! It’s kind of liberating, but scary for someone who NEEDS to know everything

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  16. Maggie

    Best #1: Got my kittens! They are SO cute, fluffy, playful, affectionate (when they feel like it). I just want to snuggle with them all day long!
    Best #2: Races with my GF tomorrow, looking forward to a day with them in the sunshine!

    Worst: Just work really. Things are getting more complex and I really need to start looking elsewhere.

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    • H

      Omg they are so so so cute!! I just want to cuddle them! And this is coming from someone who is not a cat person

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    • afw

      Oh my goodnesshh! They really are sooo adorably fluffy and sweet – I love your photo ! So excited for you. :D

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  17. BlackSwan

    Best: having a wonderful supportive boyfriend to help me through a hard time I’ve been having lately and looking forward to a great social weekend.

    Worst: feeling like life has turned itself upside-down on me and feeling lost.
    Car is still broken after 5 months; still yet to get my food intoerences sorted out as they seem to be getting worse; just found out I have to move out early next year and I’m most likely loosing my job by the end of the year.

    it’ll all come together in the end and i know that, this is a great chance to start again! It was just so hard having it all come at once.

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  18. Carisma

    Best: Enjoying my second trial week at Pilates, loving the stetch classes though I really do have the weakest muscles ever but I’m trying my hardest! Think I’ll only be able to afford one class a week after my trial finishes though

    Worst: Death in the family which I know will hit two of my closest family members hard. Redundancy in the family, which is making me hate my job a little less today

    OMM: Christmas presents. Hate buying them and trying to figure out what to buy that certain person will like due to the obliglatory gift giving season. I say let’s call the whole thing off.

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    • mahi

      it might not suit all your people, but try world vision donations, that’s what i’m giving a lot of people. they send you a card to give the person too :)

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    • afw

      Petrol gift cards – surely anyone with a car could use one?!?!?!
      I know I’d appreciate it. :) Not fun / creative but very very handy.

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  19. Snow

    Worried today… got my hcg results back from the doctor and apparently my levels aren’t going up like they are meant to. I still don’t have ANY pregnancy symptoms and I’m now in week 6. I go for an ultrasound next Wednesday to see if there is even a heartbeat or if it’s ectopic. I’ve had no spotting or cramping to make me believe a miscarriage is imminent. I have SO many questions that I’m desperate to get answered but all I can do is wait and pray

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    • gypsy

      Hugs and prayers to you x

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    • RR19

      good luck, snow, and praying for you

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    • Liza

      Good luck, Snow – thinking of you.

      Try to relax about the lack of pregnancy symptoms until the scan – I had no symptoms at all. Absolutely no queasiness, no tiredness, no bloating, no sore/enlarged breasts etc. Nothing at all. First physical sign was when my waist thickened at 5 months. Hang in there xx

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    • chef

      Got everything crossed for you, Snow. If it’s any consolation, I didn’t return a positive test until 22 weeks with my first. Hang in there x

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  20. zepgirl

    Best: the company I’m working for has brought over a guy over from the UK to help us with a project, and I’ve been unofficially seeing him in the week that he’s been here. We’ve had lunch together every day and he’s stayed over at my house for two nights. Oh my God it’s been wonderful. He’s smart and funny and good looking and he corrects his grammar if he puts the wrong ‘your’ in a sentence (I nearly died and went to heaven the first time he did that). We went out for dinner on Wednesday and somehow stayed in the restaurant for two and a half hours; I couldn’t figure out why the manager was turning off all the lights at 9.00pm. Turns out it was 10.00pm. He’s so cute and he makes me laugh and he’s said a few things that were so gorgeous that I actually blushed. He’s a bit younger than me (okay, by 6 ½ years), and I can see that it probably wouldn’t work long term, but still, I’ve been thrilled to pieces with the way this week has gone.

    Worst: he leaves to go back to Edinburgh on Sunday :( I’m going to be f*cking heartbroken.

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    • Liz

      If it did happen to work out for the longer term; I was in Scotland last week and it’s an absolutely stunning place to visit/holiday……

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      • Zepgirl

        I lived in the UK for a year and a half and could easily live there again!

        How bad is it, do you think, that I wouldn’t be devastated if I got pregnant? We used a condom, but these things happen!

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        • Devil's Advocate here to spoil the party

          Nooo you don’t want that ! I know that feeling – I really do but babies aren’t bandaids. Even his adorable little half-Scot baby dressed in tartan with a pom pom hat ‘n’ all.

          Before a pregancy, I’d suggest you first visit him in Scotland to see if:
          a) he is the same wonderful guy or freaks out
          b) (sorry for this but) if he really is fully proper single.
          I hate to be cynical, but it is best to know before baby is conceived! In both yours & baby’s interests. A fun spontaneous week of romance while overseas (him) is one thing, an unplanned pregnancy might see him change towards you and be less cool.

          I am thrilled you are having a great time with this lovely dude, but I wonder what would happen if you so much suggested a visit to Scotland in the new year? I’d be keen to see his response. E.g. he welcomes the idea and is delighted, can’t wait for you to meet all his friends etc, or looks concerned and puts you off.

          Whatever happens, I wish you luck!

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          • Zepgirl

            Ha ha, it’s okay, it’s not like it’s something I actually see happening, nor something I would go out of my way to achieve :)

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        • Sydgel

          sorry but that wld be incredibly stupid. You dont’ know this guy, you just met him. how do you know that he doesn’t have a girlfriend or many back home? You need to wait and get to know someone properly and if it’s meant to be then you will visit him and vice versa and eventuallly both make a decision to be togehter. Not something forced becasue of a mistake.

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    • Leigh

      Boys that use the right your/you’re is a real pantydropper, isn’t it?

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      • afw

        Yes! It seriously is. We are such linguaphiles Haha.
        Uncommonly good manners and politeness also rock my world. There is something to be said for a man with utter decency and consideration in public/work, combined with passion after hours in the bedroom. Just… arrghhhh!!

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        • Zepgirl

          I KNOW! The manners thing: he hung the towel and bath mat up on the rack properly and he made my bed when he got up after me!

          And the grammar thing. He said the same thing to me the other day that someone else said to me on mamamia a few weeks ago: ‘Good grammar. It’s the difference between knowing your shit and knowing you’re shit’.

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      • Zepgirl

        I’m not sure if you’re joking or not, but it works on me! Seriously, it really does.

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        • Leigh

          No, I was being serious! I love a guy who can spell correctly. I realised after I wrote it that it may have actually been grammatically incorrect anyway – should it be, ‘Boys that use the right your/you’re are real pantydroppers, aren’t they’?

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    • Natalia

      Oh Zepgirl, that is awesome! You never know what might happen – my boyfriend and I originally got together with the view that we would break it off when he inevitably moved away… and then he moved away and we have been in a gorgeous long distance relationship ever since :)

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  21. Lolly

    Best – won tickets to the Gorgeous Festival for tomorrow! (Missy Higgins, Dan Sultan etc) A bunch of my friends were already going but I had declined due lack of funds, so now I’m happy I can go :-)

    Worst – Sister being difficult over Xmas presents. Made the mistake of asking her if there was anything specific she and her husband need (before I went out and just used my imagination) and got asked for money. (Just gave them a significant sum for their wedding wishing well as requested!). My reply was that if we were just going to give money to one another then we may as well not do gifts and spend our own money on ourselves. Didn’t go down well with her, but whatever. She makes me feel like I’m an ATM dispenser when she always asks for cash for gifts. Shame as I actually really like gift giving and finding something that a person will love. Will content myself with shopping for my partner, he is always a happy and grateful gift recipient.

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    • Chachi

      Hang on – they requested a significant sum for their wedding wishing??? WTF

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      • Lolly

        No, lol. They had a wishing well (as requested in their invitations) and we gave them a significant sum of money. So not as terrible as you are imagining :-) Mind you, she was quite demanding about the fact that she receive money *only* as her wedding gift and that we were not to buy her anything tangible. I tried reminding her that wishing wells are a request, not a command, but I think that went over her head.

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        • girly

          Ha. I am guessing the money will probably go to giving them a free honeymoon? My brother and his fiancee at the time suggested to our family that they’d prefer money over gifts, but didn’t demand it.

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  22. savannahofaus

    Best: start my new job on Monday after being off work for the past 6 weeks due to redundancy. Very excited!

    Worst: my boyfriend and I broke up last weekend. His depression was getting out of hand so he ended it. He was a good man who I really liked so it was pretty sad.

    OMM: fearing I’m going to be single forever. The awful judgment you get from some people regarding being single in your late 20′s.

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    • sydneybec

      Congrats on the new job, that’s a very quick recovery from redundancy! I know how you feel about being single in your late 20s – I’ve been single for a few years (I’m 28) and the comments I get from family and friends are really starting to get to me, particularly at all the weddings I’ve been to this year.

      All the best, I hope your ex can get the help he needs.

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      • savannahofaus

        I think I was seriously lucky re the new job – I was fully expecting to be unemployed until next year! Right time right place I guess.

        I’m 28 too and my younger sister got married this year so I hear you about the weddings! I think the grandparents have given up on me haha. Let’s be single and fabulous together :)

        I seriously hope he gets the help he needs too. He’s a good man. It’s kinda hard not to take it personally though – like I contributed to it in some way, you know?

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  23. Spoonerist

    BEST: It’s a family member’s wedding next week and I’m so excited! It’ll be the first time the whole immediate family has been together in a few years.

    WORST: Some major life decisiony stuff that I have to work through.

    OMM: Sorry to bring this up on a Friday morning, but do any fellow MMers suffer from IBS? If so, has anything in particular worked for you? I get cramps, bloating and, um, frequent toilet trips, and would love any advice before I resort to going back to the doctor.

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    • vivacious

      I didn’t have IBS but I had a whole heap of stomach issues that no one seemed to be able to help me with. I ended up going to an awesome herbalist who totally fixed me. It turns out I have low acid levels so it is harder for me to digest things and really easy for the flora in my intestine to get out of wack. She has everything working perfectly, so good. If you are in Canberra let me know and I can give you her details but I would definitely recommend a good (i.e. has uni degree etc) naturopath or herbalist.

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      • Jen

        Hi Vivacious, I’m in Canberra and would really appreciate the name of your awesome herbalist. Many thanks!

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    • Lolly

      My partner has IBS and has found that metamucil, rolled oats for breakfast, natural yoghurt (and generally eating well) has worked well for him. I also read the other day that doing exercise in the mornings straight after you get up is helpful for IBS as it gets the digestive system moving for the day and boosts metabolism. He already does his exercise in the mornings so maybe that has helped things too!

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    • bee

      probiotics from the healthfood shop – the best are in the fridge. take one every day and you will notice a difference for the better.

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    • bee

      probiotics from the healthfood shop – the best are in the fridge. take one every day and you will notice a dofference for the better.

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    • Caro

      Probiotic and decreased wheat intake have made a huge difference for me. Good luck

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    • Suki

      I’ve had IBS for over 20 years. I could write a book on all the things I’ve tried. The only thing that has ever had any significant effect is low-dose antidepressants. The lowest dose you can get. Something like endep or Effexor. I know it sounds like a serious step but it changed my life. Good luck.

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    • Guest

      Have a look online for the FODMAP diet. The University of Virginia has a good summary on it. (Google fodmap UVA). Apparently about 70% of people who suffer with IBS will find relief on it. Good luck

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    • Spoonerist

      Thanks so much everyone for your tips! Off to the chemist now to get some probiotics and other bits and pieces.

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  24. iamevilcupcake

    I don’t really have a best or worst, so I might ramble for a bit if that’s ok.

    I turned 36 on Wednesday. I feel old. But I don’t look it or behave it. Another birthday means it’s now 9 years since I’ve had sex. Oh joy.

    I hate, loathe and detest my job. I need a change so desperately. I know what I want to do finally, I want to work in IT and write on the side. The thought of doing something new fills me with joy!

    I’m still so so broke. I have no money until 15th Dec. Thank god I already have my train ticket or I would be fucked.

    Travelling to and from work is killing me too. I’m so tired all the time. I spend all weekend sleeping and get NOTHING accomplished.

    I’ve met someone. But he lives in Canada :(

    Anyways, that’s it really. Live long and prosper :)

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    • maybedaisy

      Hey Cuppy,

      I’m sorry your week’s been so blah. I’m a bit the same, so you’re not alone.

      I work in IT and can give you some contacts if that’s helpful. Mamamia, can you please help us exchange details?

      xx

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    • Haven Maven

      Happy Birthday for Wed, you gorgeous thing.

      Keep your chin up. The first start is having a direction in which to go. I’m an old IT-er as well and can put you in touch with a couple of people.

      Bugger the Mayans – when you do get laid, the universe is gonna be rockin :P

      Love and cupcakes xx

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    • Natalia

      I vote that you move to Canada to work in IT over there :) HTML is a universal language, right?

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    • Sydgel

      Time for some major changes. Can I wholeheartedly recommend you read Jack Canfield “Success Principles. How to get from where you are to where you want to be”. If you can’t afford to buy it you can get it at a library. It is so inspiring and practical. Good luck x

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  25. vivacious

    Worst: I’m so tired this week and physically achy. It has been super hard getting up and exercising in the morning, but I’m glad I’ve done it because it does actually reduce the aches a bit. No idea why I’m so achy.

    Best: It was my partner’s birthday this week. He had been useless at telling me what he wanted so I put together a hamper of caramel and scotch based treats which he loved.

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  26. Food For Families Appeal

    Food For Families collects non-perishable food and toiletries for disadvantaged families in the lead up to Christmas. Items can be donated to the red-coloured Food For Families boxes at participating branches of IGA and Woolworths stores between November 12 and December 21. All donations go directly to people in need. For more information visit http://www.foodforfamilies.com.au

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    • bee

      looks like just Victoria if you want to drop stuff off

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  27. Sammy

    Vale Bryce Courtney.

    You were an amazing storyteller.

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  28. feistyangel

    Its been ages since I have posted in here:

    Best – Its my Birthday, I’m 30
    Best – Its my first birthday as a mum. We welcomed our precious daughter Izzy 2weeks ago and life could not be better ….. well it could more sleep but that will come.

    Worst – I have a new baby nothing is wrong in my world

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    • Anonymoose

      Happy Birthday and congratulations on the new baby. Hope everything continues to be so wonderful for you!

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    • Haven Maven

      Congrats for so many reasons feisty!!

      Muchas hugs and cupcakes xx

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  29. Kymmo

    No real bests, no real worsts, an average week really.

    I just tried to read the comments on the Fiona Apple story and I just can’t get through them. I have now upset myself thinking about my three dogs. I’m such a sook but they are my babies, now and forever.

    Going to see Nickelback tomorrow night. I am so not a fan. My husband is a huge fan so off I go. The things we do…

    Have a great weekend everyone! :) xx

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    • Haven Maven

      If you play Nickelback backwards, you may hear Satan, but if you play it forward – you hear Nickelback!!

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  30. Miss K

    Worst: I was waiting at a train station for my train when an express went passed and I saw my ex on the train. We recognised each other but all I felt was just sadness and sorrow. I sort of want to write him a letter saying sorry but I’m not 100% sure. Is it a good idea?
    Today, to avoid seeing him again, I actually waited outside of the station so the train could pass then went to the platform. I don’t want to do that every single morning but with the irregularities of my train line I don’t think I have a choice.

    Best: I’m going to see my family soon. I haven’t seen them in a year so I am really looking forward to it.

    MM Team: I really loved the Monday watercooler and I like the idea of combining the open post and Best and Worst to a friday post but, I do prefer this post when written by a team member as this one seems a little impersonal.

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    • Miss K

      And I want to thank the person who posted the link to Baggage Reclaim last week. It was excatly what I needed to read.

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    • vivacious

      A friend of mine got in touch with her ex-husband to say sorry a few years ago and she said it was great. She hadn’t realised what a burden it had been on her for so long and she felt much better plus he appreciated it.

      I’ve also received an email from an ex apologising for his behaviour before. It was completely out of the blue, told me a little bit of what had been going on to influence it but didn’t try to justify it. Just said he knew he had been a shit and it wasn’t fair and that I was great and he hoped life was going well for me. He didn’t suggest a catch up or anything, it was just an I’m sorry and I wanted you to know letter. It made me feel much better about the whole thing and while I had well and truly moved on already I still appreciated it.

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    • Helena xo

      Hi, this article about apologising to ex’s might help? http://captainawkward.com/2012/11/10/392-overdue-apologies/

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  31. jamilarizvi

    Happy Friday everyone!

    BEST: I am going back home tonight and am absurdly excited to see my family and my school friends. It’s been a great week in Team MM land, we’ve had some ripper stories and great discussion in the comments, so I’m very content.

    WORST: Watching the tragedy unfold in Gaza, thank heavens there has been a ceasefire reached and let’s hope that it holds. Also the terrible news of the 17-year-old girl falling to her death at schoolies. I’m with Kate (below), with a young person dying almost every year, there is something seriously wrong with this coming of age tradition.

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  32. buggles

    Best: No booze for 2 weeks. Thats massive for me. It was one of my coping mechanisms for my depression. Instead of tackling the mountain of things I need to improve on for the sake of my health/sanity/vanity I am working on one at a time. Booze first (yay!), followed by junk food, and followed by exercise (well exercise is kind of simultaneous to the other two. I have a program I follow but when I have dropped a little more weight and have less strain on my joints my PT and I are going to do some serious sessions.)

    Best 2: Discovery exercise endorphins are so much better than chocolate endorphins.

    Best 3: Dropped 2kg last week.

    Worst: Colds and arthritis. No arthritis meds coz they kill my immune system and I sort of need that to fight the cold. Cold goes away – arthritis flares up. But it could be worse – it’s not life threatening.

    OMM: The awesome support I have had from the MM community. Thank-you so much to everyone. Means more to me than I can say.

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    • Team Buggles

      Well done on the weight loss and Great idea tackling one issue at a time!

      You’re doing well keep it go.

      Go Buggles GO!!

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  33. Kate Hunter

    Best: Writing work going with a zingingly.
    Worst: A 17 year old girl died falling off a balcony at schoolies week. There’s something very, very wrong with schoolies week.

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    • becauseimthemum

      Kate, I’m glad you’re here this week. I finished reading your first Mosquito Advertising to my Miss10 last night. We loved it! I really enjoyed it and so did she. Miss10 wants to start the next one straight away. Thank goodness I have the third one put away for Christmas for her. Even with the age difference she really relates to the characters. We’re in Brisbane, with a jacaranda in the front yard of our Queenslander but unfortunately no creek in the back yard :( thank you for writing great books for the pre-teen market, and no vampires!

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      • Kate Hunter

        Hi there becauseimthemum! So happy you and your girl enjoyed my book! if you email me your address I’d love to send you some Mosquito Advertising tattoos for Miss 10 and her mates kate@mamamia.com.au

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  34. Best: Going to the gym with my housemate. She is so gym crazy it is almost like having my own personal trainer, except without having to pay for it. I need all those endorphins!

    Worst: Today is Ex Mr W’s birthday. I sent a card and just gave him a quick ring to say “happy birthday”. Kept upbeat and positive and was all “oh hope you have a great day, enjoy your dinner tonight”, etc. Got off the phone and can’t stop crying. Even though breaking up was the right thing to do and it’s been 7 weeks, today is still hard.

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    • buggles

      Breaking up is the worst. I was with my ex fiance for 7 years. He called it off about 6 weeks before the wedding. Then rang me on the day we were meant to get married and said he made a mistake and wanted me back. Any other day and I might have considered it, but not that day.

      Cudos to you for being strong and mature enough to do that. I don’t know if I could. And don’t feel bad for being sad. There was a lot of love and happy moments in the relationship, I’m sure, and you need to greive for those.

      The sun will come out tomorrow.

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      • Wow, ending an engagement after 7 years would be so much more painful than ending a 4.5 year relationship! More power to you for your strength.

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    • Bea

      I’m with buggles, having a broken heart is horrible. Have you read It’s called a breakup because it’s broken? They say a broken heart is like having broken ribs because it but it hurts every time you breathe. So true.

      Remember though, it’s ONLY been 7 weeks and based on your comments you’ve come so far!! Hang in there whippersnapper, we all think you’re awesome.

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      • Yes, I have that book, I got it when a (very terrible and short lived) relationship ended in my early 20s.

        Thanks for making me feel better. This week, I was starting to feel like I don’t believe the people who keep telling me how well I’m doing and how “tough” and “strong” I am, because I just feel like I’m not.

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        • Bea

          You don’t have to be tough and strong all the time anyway. We all have awful days – god, a couple of weeks ago I cried on the tram the WHOLE way home (apologies to the passengers on the number 6) – and maybe it’s important to let yourself feel sad sometimes. Otherwise it all bottles up and you end up having an emotional explosion (see above – tram!!).

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        • Alice

          Poor WS – it will get a tiny bit easier every day, just keep breathing. It f***ing sucks though, there’s no way around it. We’re all thinking of you xxx

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  35. MissV

    Worst: this entire week has been horrible. Monday I got told that my entire team may not have a job next year. We need to drop a significant amount in our salary budget for next year so we need as a team to discuss who is dropping days. It makes me so angry because everyone looks at me to volunteer because I don’t have a family. But you know what? I’m 26 and just because others make choices that make their situation financially harder for themselves doesn’t mean that they are entitled to work more hours than me to survive. Sure, I don’t want kids and don’t want to get married but I want to buy a house next year and go back to uni which I have to pay upfront.

    Best: this week is nearly over

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    • Robyn

      I agree with you. I am a parent with a mortgage and would find it tough to cope with less money (we are getting an across the board 6% pay cut) but you shouldn’t have to suffer because of other people’s life situation. They are your work colleagues not your family. Can you suggest a ‘short straw’ or rotating who does less hours, say quarterly? That is if everyone is equally important.

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      • MissV

        Thanks for the reply Robyn because it’s nice to know that I’m not crazy for thinking the way I do about the situation. I understand things are tough for families when cuts come into it because I’ve lived through it and still am with my parents, but things are tough for everyone and it’s frustrating that people don’t appreciate that.

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        • Jen

          We took a 10% paycut across the board nearly 3 months ago now too. It was horrible, I’m still reeling from it and am angry most days. Good luck to you and no you’re not crazy at all, looking out for yourself is the best thing you can do.

          If it’s anything, over time we all found that it helped us band together as a team and although the anger is still there realising you’re all in the same boat is somewhat comforting. It is cruel to make you have to decide though – given that it’s not one person’s fault it should be spread evenly.

          Good luck.

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  36. Audrey.H

    I miss the way that this post used to be- more personal.

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  37. Girl Friday

    I just wanted to say that I have always enjoyed Friday’s Best&Worst, as well as the previous Wednesday’s open post.

    As life is busier now, and I don’t have time to read all the topics, I know that I will always stop by to read Best and Worst on Friday. A chance to catch up with friends (regulars) that I don’t really know : )

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  38. amyspeak

    Happy Friday everyone!!

    Worst this week was a nasty virus that had me bedridden and panicky Mon-Tues and then my grandma going back into hospital. She’s an amazing woman and my last living grandparent so I’m hoping for the best.

    The good stuff this week is helping me get by too though. I have a fun audition for a play tomorrow, lots of exciting work projects and I’m going to see Twilight with my bestie today (guilty pleasure, I know) before trying on salsa shoes and drinking wine with a friend tonight.

    I hope everyone has a great weekend!

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  39. Bea

    Best: Lovely Mamamia readers who read my blog and said they liked it! Thank you, it made my week. Second best – it’s 32 tomorrow and 28 on Sunday – love Melbourne summer!
    Worst: Work. I’m just not loving it at the moment – passionate about the subject, not passionate about the office politics. Perhaps it’s time for a change…
    http://thegoogleyear.blogspot.com.au/

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  40. Cordeline

    Depression is OMM too…

    My worst for this week is that my dad suffered a breakdown due to stress-related depression. I feel so helpless and heartbroken for him. I cried myself to sleep last night worrying about him.

    Best is probably happening right now… listening to my little girls in the other room, playing happily together, building with Lego and making up games with the little characters. Not a cross word between them for at least 20 minutes.

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    • buggles

      My dad went through a similar thing for 20 years. It is a horrible thing to witness. This man that is so big and strong and always a hero to his little girl starts to struggle and you don’t know what to do. If I can give you advice:

      1. Be there for him, but accept that to a man of his generation this doesn’t necessarily mean sitting there listening while he spills his deepest darkest secrets. They aren’t built that way. But sometimes you just being there while he sits quietly can help.
      2. Encourage him to find a trained professional to talk to. Doesn’t mean he’s crazy, sometimes it just helps to have a non-judgemental, non-related, unattached person to hash things out with.
      3. Look after yourself. Accept that its hard, and sad and horrible to witness. Feel the pain but don’t let it drag you down. If you feel that it might be find someone that you can talk to about it.
      4. The rest of your family needs to work a little harder to support each other right now. They are the only other people that will truly “get it” and you will need each other more than you know right now.

      Love and hugs to you.

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      • Cordeline

        Thanks buggles :-)
        Dad has been seeing a psychologist on and off for a couple of years for stress-related depression. He now needs to take some mild medication to help un-muddle his mind though.

        You are so right about it being really hard to watch the once strongest man I always knew fall down like this. Just now I was in the car and had visions of him breaking down crying and I started crying too. I can’t bare it. But you are also right in saying I can’t let it drag me down. I have to be there for him but also need to be here for my own family.

        Thank you xxx

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    • amy_eb

      I completely sympathise with you – we’re having similar problems with my Dad, I have an anxiety disorder and I see all of the warning signs in my Dad, and have my whole life, and when you add the stress of working at an awful job he barely speaks to us, comes home and gets straight into bed, has awful headaches, often wakes up at 3am for no reason and can’t go back to sleep… It’s so hard, and he has never sought help and won’t listen when anyone suggests it, or suggests that he looks for another job (he’s a teacher, with added IT skills, but also a fantastic photographer and writer and does some freelance work for travel magazines).

      I just wish he would change some of the things giving him all the stress and work on his issues – but it’s a generational thing. I just want my Dad to be the Dad I know and love and adore ALL the time, not just on holidays :(

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      • anon for this

        My husband, about the age of your dad (from what I can work out from your post: early 50′s), suffered a severe depression a few years back. It was so disabling that he was put off work. He was suicidal as well. What saved him was ECT (electro convulsive therapy). It is interesting, I was talking to a very young doctor today and he said that if he ever became severely depressed, he would go for ECT over anti depressants. It is not at all like we think it is but is a safe procedure and carefully thought out before it is administered.
        It is worth considering if nothing else works.

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  41. cim

    Sorry – off topic, but hilarious! Fifty Shades of Chicken brings sexy back to poultry: http://www.heraldsun.com.au/entertainment/arts-books/fifty-shades-of-chicken-brings-sexy-back-to-poultry/story-fn7euh6j-1226521979891

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  42. Anon for today just in case

    Best: FAINT LINES!!! Another positive result this morning. Oh my gosh, I think I’m actually PREGNANT!

    Worst: Having a few negatives thrown in to confuse me and the really big cry I had last night because I wanted a baby so much. Not to mention that if it was a false start it meant that I broke the rule of not buying baby things before I was pregnant.

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    • Lucy Ormonde

      Congratulations!

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      • Anon for today just in case

        Thank you!! I know 7 months isn’t that long compared to others but it seems like forever to us. Well, myself more so than hubby.

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    • Bea

      Congratulations, how exciting!!

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      • Anon for today just in case

        Thank you!!! It really is.

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    • .....

      Firstly congrats… i hope it all works out for you!

      Do you mind if i ask how far along you think you are? I am convinced i am pregnant, aside from my missed period i am suffering from SO many symptoms.
      I have done a couple of tests but they have been negative. Its only been and week and a half since my missed period so i am thinking it may still be too early for a positive.

      I’m wondering if i was how long it would take to get a positive (i realise everyone is different though).

      Just curious!

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      • Anon for today just in case

        I would be very early along…. like 3-4 weeks but closer to the 3.

        If you’re concerned or think you might be, go to the doctors and ask for a bloodtest. Only way to be sure.

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