I don’t know about you but my week has gone past in a blur of late nights, early mornings, cold weather and heavy jackets. There’s been lots of things on my to-do list and my diary’s filling up. My eyes have been tired. Very tired.
I took refuge in a coffee shop with one of my most delightful friends last weekend; we huddled in a corner and shared chocolate milkshakes and a huge plate of cheesy nachos. I told her I was feeling blah – no other word for it – and she said, “of course you are! It’s a blah time of year!”
But on Thursday morning I got off the bus wrapped in only two layers instead of my usual 17 – and you know what? I wasn’t even cold. The sun was shining a little bit brighter and I didn’t stop for my regular hot chocolate. In the office, I sat at my computer and almost felt overheated. Everyone was happy and buzzing with energy.
Something else that made me happy this week? This post. My two favourite things in the world – Ryan Gosling and crayons – COMBINED! Could you ask for much more from life? I didn’t think so either.
I also spent a whole lot of time reading the comments on this post – I’m a sucker for a good public transport story after spending such a ridiculous amount of time on buses, otherwise known as the place where personalities go to die. Miserable places, those buses.
There’s been plenty of other things happening around the office and the site lately, too – take a look:

Mia wears a Sportsgirl top and scarf with Sass & Bide pants.
What were your best and worst of the week? What’s on your mind?







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Best: Having a very fun one night stand with a super hot guy I’d befriended at a hostel. I haven’t had many one night stands, so it was a lot of fun!
Worst: Collecting the condoms off the floor the next morning…then finding one inside me. So, so, so disgusting and concerning. I took the morning after pill but now have to wait to get an STD test. Massive sad face.
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Best: Buying new shoes.
http://mum-abulous.com/2012/08/18/multiple-shoegasms-fashion-weak-part-2/
Worst: There is no bad after that.
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best- when you are sitting in the loungroom, eating fruit bread, drinking a hot chocolete, surfing through mamamia on my laptop and diong my nails in an awsome style.
worst- i make a mess on my nail, so i used nail polish remover, and its the ones with the child saftey saftey lid things where you hold it down and turn the lid, so im was sitting here for like half an hour trying to open the lid of the nail polish, when im already sitting here in the urge of crying, the lid goes of, and all of the nail polish remover went all over me, the carpet and my laptop.
hahaha, funny times when u thow a random spasm of a nail polish remover lid!!!
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BEST: We had our school’s year 11 Ski Trip this week (Sunday-Wednesday). I had an absolute ball! It was so much fun, learning to ski and noticing how much I was improving. I loved it!
On the way back we had to pull over on the feeway to change a flat tire on one of the buses and the luggage door was left open while tools were being removed. A truck clipped the luggage door, broke the windows on the driver area and smashed some of the front of the bus. As a result we didn’t get back to school until midnight. That sounds bad but it was great for a laugh and will make a great story! Plus- I think that puts to Jane all other ski trip stories the teachers will ever tell.
WORST: Going back to school exhausted. Thursday wasn’t so bad because I had an adrenaline rush from the trip still but I was exhausted on Friday. Well worth it though! To add to school I had to do a whole assignment on Thursday night (I know it should have been done before I left for the trip) to had in on Friday. It got done though!
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Best: a job interview for a job I actually have a chance of securing (I keep aiming a bit high!) on Monday morning coming up.
Cutest: 3yo has just had the rail taken off his toddler bed and fell out in the night (onto the fold-out kiddie couch we’d placed next to it). When I went in he was saying “my bed is missing”
Worst: nothing to wear for the interview. I hate shopping for clothes. As a size 18 (top) to 20 (bottom) it’s really hard to find good corporate clothes. I have a few hours this morning to shop. Fingers crossed.
OMM: will my cold get better before Monday? I’m all stuffed up
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Congratulations on securing an interview! I hope you get it! I have an interview on Monday too- albeit only for a casual job while it school. Hopefully both of our interviews will be successful.
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Thanks Ryan. It’s always nice to get a reply to your comment! Your bus trup sounded full on! Good luck for your interview too.
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Best: the reintroduction to the Australian vernacular of “deadset moll”.
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God, that brings back some memories!
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Best – being offered a new position! very very very stoked
and a secret best, still hanging out with the ex. I am loving the cuddles and carefree chats and laughter. A part of me wishes we could get figure ourselves out and get together, but the other part of me is enjoying being me again, I lost myself in our relationship. Sigh, can’t have best of both worlds.
Worst – Being sick. I hate feeling stuffy nosed, sore throat and not being able to gym.
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best – got served at a shop today by possibly the nicest guy I’ve met in a long time, we had a nice long chat and he was so cute! seriously considering going back in to give him my number, but I’m too scared! How do you do that?! someone help me :S I’m so awkward, 10 bucks I accidentally dribble or something…
worst – sick as a dog this week. work off tomorrow, am absolutely wrecked!
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Don’t go and give him your number- ask him for his!
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Worst: I’ve been feeling really down the past couple of days… I used to suffer from debilitating depression (are you ever really cured?) and when I start feeling like this it just takes me back there and I feel scared. Mr J is extremely supportive but I can tell he’s treading on eggshells so as not to set me off into a flood of tears. I just don’t have the strength right now.
Best: It’s the weekend… we don’t have any plans so I can get myself together in my own time. I think I’ll read some more, I’m enjoying that at the moment.
OMM: Everything.
Although this is a crap post, it feels good to get it out there.
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i think im starting to realise i have teenage depression, i mean like i never thought i did until my friends started asking me wats wronge ever since this year started, the way i think u can be cured is just chillax (relax) i mean like stop thinking about the bad stuff that is happening and think about the good stuff, unfortunatly, i am not a very open person myself so i dont speak to anyone about myself, but there is a teacher at my school that would really like to help me out, i dont know if i should take the opitunity to tell her or just leave it.
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Talk to your teacher, teaganjai. If you think you may have depression now as a teenager, you will have the opportunity to get help & in the long run it will make life easier than if you keep everything to yourself. In hindsight, I think my depression began when I was a teenager but there was so much other stuff going on in my dysfunctional family that it was overlooked. I didn’t get the help I needed until well into adulthood. If you think this teacher wants to help, be brave & talk to her. If she personally doesn’t have the expertise to help you, I’m sure she will have the resources to put you in touch with people who can.
Best of luck with your decision.
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yeah, i might but its a hard decision, i know some of you have gone through what im going through but you see, i dont think that she can help me though, like she is not the one im supposed to tell, and my ‘probs’ are you know umm ‘girly probs’ not like period and i still have my v-card and everything, but yeah ‘girly probs’ so like my school chaplain and guidence officer is definatly out of the subject, but she might hook me to someone that can help me. i think i made my decision. i will try to explain to her the best i can, without her sending me to the mental hospital (jokes, i have to have a jk here or there)
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im at skool while doing these:
best- when u r actually doing sports for once and ur enjoying it.
WORST- when u find out ur the rumor around the skool because ur bff (now x-bff) tells everyone who u like, even though i had a HUGE crush on him, and after years and years of labour of her telling u that u could trust her!!!
and i still havnt gone over it!!!
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Please, for the love of sanity, learn how to spell and use correct punctuation. It is one of my number one pet peeves when people write ‘skool’ and ‘u’ and ‘havnt.’
Ugh. *Bangs head on wall*
Oh, how much extra effort it would’ve taken to type in those two extra letters.
*Insert sarcasm*
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I’m a spelling fanatic with the best of them, but even I use abbreviations on my mobile. Remember, this is a teenage girl you’re talking to, on a website with predominantly older well educated women. Could’ve been put a bit kinder I think.
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How rude are you! Leave her alone!
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Im Sick.And.Tired of people attacking people for not using correct spelling or punctuation. Fair enought if it’s in the main article but attacking commentors is a bit much.
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Hi Teaganjai. I read MM most days and am having fun reading comments from someone significantly younger than me. However, I share the frustration of SickAndTired. The abbreviations and the text language make it hard to read your comments and as I would likeo read more of yours try to ease-up a little.
Cheers
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hahaha you guys are so funny, unfortunatley well im used to them like using ‘u’ and ‘y’ and everything, but i will try harrder on using words, trust me you guys are not the only ones that have told me to not use ‘u’ and stuff, i use them to write faster, but like i said i will try harder not to use them
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Good on you teaganjai for being so open to feedback and willing to make an effort. You’ll go a long way in life with that attitude. You go girl!
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Teaganjai,
I’m sorry, I realise my comment before was pretty harsh. I’m glad you’re trying to improve!
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it doesn’t really matter, i get yelled at the teacher plenty of times because i accidentally put one of those what ever you call them in my book, i am just used to you know having to write words like that in texts, hey apology accepted!!!
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Best: I did what I thought was a great job on the funeral service I conducted today. I felt uplifted to be helping people when they are in need.
Worst: My friend’s father died which is why I had my celebrant hat on today.
Worst 2: Another friend’s mother-in-law died this week.
Best 2: They have asked me to be the celebrant.
OMM: I feel very honoured.
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You obviously care very much about what you do, helping people in such terrible circumstances. You should be very proud of yourself that close friends have chosen you to help them – that tells me a lot about you. Well done.
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Best no. 1. Figuring out that we CAN afford to buy our one acre block and build our dream house! So want to do it RIGHT NOW!
Best no. 2. after 7 weeks and both boys and I being sick on and off, Finally feel as if we are getting better!
Worst hubby getting man flu.
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Not the dreaded man flu!
We have a big house on just over an acre and it’s great. Lot of work to set up the garden and takes a bit of upkeep. Get a good ride on and brushcutter.
You can have lots of swings etc and dogs without a real need to walk them. Good luck.
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Best: hmmm might have to come back to this one – although life isn’t too tough.
Worst: feel like I’m getting my period when I’m wanting to be pregnant!!! All the tests say negative…but no period! If it turns out I am pregnant then that would be THE BEST week ever!!!
OMM:I’m also losing weight despite eating heaps. Am worried something might be going on. Something sinister! Almost too scared to get it checked out…what do you say? I’m losing weight??? I’d be laughed out of the clinic!!
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I really think you should go to the doctor. It definitely could be nothing but it could also be something serious. It’s better to be safe than sorry right?
And I don’t think you would be laughed out of the clinic, I was losing weight for no reason and I then found out I had irritable bowel syndrome, plus chrons disease as well as having my gall bladder removed due to four large gall stones.
So please get yourself checked!
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Worst: Uni + full time work has made me a scatterbrained, stressed, vague person.
Best: Productive day at work, I finally discovered the habit of writing EVERYTHING down as it happens, and my boss told me I’d done an amazing job and I’d achieved 10x more than my line manager would have got done if she’d been there..
OMM: One day off, five days on, for three days off. I can do this.
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First time commenting!
Best: my bf. am so lucky to have him.
Worst: living situation. i love with 2 girls and it just doesn’t seem to be working. I always feel excluded and like I’m not particularly wanted at the house, and feel like I’m walking on eggshells. not sure whether to suck it up for another year or move out.
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Move out! Life’s too short to live with this – you want to feel relaxed in your own home.
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Move out, Confused! You can find awesome people and houses on Gumtree, so that you can look forward to going home rather than nervous. Good luck xx
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Best: Had a book review published on Kiki and Tea today!
Check it out book lovers:
http://kikiandtea.com/2012/08/book-review-before-i-go-to-sleep/
Worst: lots of worsts but everything is looking up so they don’t count
Happy weekend everyone!
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Best : Finally bought myself a white pantsuit. I have been lusting for one for a few years and now I have it – YES !!!! ( nowhere to wear it, but that’s easily sorted !!!! )
Also………… I have the greatest friends. I am truly lucky !!!!!
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Best: Feeling like I’m getting my groove back this week, after being so flat for months. Running is definitely helping – I’m still not enjoying it but I am making progress.
Worst: Wanting lots of stuff I can’t have. Like a house, or a dog. Or more specifically, a house with a dog in the backyard… Can’t see it happening for the next 3 years – so hard to be patient!
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BEST… it’s been a big week.
WORST… it’s been a big week.
OMM… there’s a boy.
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Oh I love this-intriguing…
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Can I just contribute a worst? I’m usually more on the positive side and am sure I could think of some ‘bests’ but right now I have just had a really bad afternoon and reeeaallly want to vent!
Right now I feel like going back to my local supermarket and shouting out “I’m not a horrible horrible mother. Truly!!”
I have just wandered around the shop with my eight year old trailing behind me with a look of utter devastation on their face, loudly saying “I don’t deserve any food! I’m terrible! I’m a horrible person!..”. Now before you judge me and think ‘what a cold mother, why didn’t she stop and give the child a hug, etc, I should tell you that this child has additional needs and that a reaction like this at home can start over something as simple as me saying “the knife and fork on the table need to be swapped around please” when she is setting the table. This is one of the first times she has really gone to town while we are out, and admittedly this time she did actually get into trouble (smacked some food out of her siblings hands in a tantrum, resulting in me cleaning it up and having to take it to the checkout to pay for it) but the response was waaaaaay over the top, and it felt like a walk of shame walking around the shops quickly trying to get the milk I had also come in for and get out of there before I got lynched. I can only imagine what the people around me were thinking. Something along the lines of that I had obviously beaten this child, and was completely cold to the feelings of this child that obviously really needed a hug etc. I spend so much of my time explaining to this child about ‘appropriate reactions’ to things (ie that a small amount of advice does not warrant a massive reaction that would be more appropriate for ‘my legs and arms all fell off, and my house tipped over, and my favourite pet died’).
Like I said, I am just really embarrassed now, and have to wonder what opinions people have just formed of us in our relatively small town that wouldn’t have a clue of the real story and just saw a cold woman not responding to her childs needs when she should have. I should mention that we got home about an hour ago and the child is still going, even after plenty of discussion about it.
Judge away. I apparently deserve it this afternoon, at least if that’s what some of the looks I was getting are saying.
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I know it’s hard but try to avoid even looking at people when stuff like that is happening. My daughter was the same a few years ago, she’s quite a lot better now. I found it easiest to just try to get on with what I was doing and ignore other people. The few times I tried to explain to people who said something to me they just didn’t understand, they’d already made up their minds.
I also found it helpful to phone someone (my sisters normally) so I had someone to talk to either at the time or later when I got home. They knew my daughter so could understand where I was coming from and were good at making sympathetic comments.
Anyway you have my sympathy, it’s very difficult.
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Oh I feel your pain! I have a two and half year old that melts down every time we go out. He loudly screams (and can be clearly understood) things like “you’re hurting me, don’t touch me, where are you taking me, don’t hit me” whilst kicking and screaming. For the record I don’t hit him nor am I usually even touching him when he says I’m hurting him and the looks I get can be awful! I’m waiting for someone to ring the police lol. I do the ignoring thing too because trying to reason makes it worse and last for way longer. Bad mothers unite I say! Big hugs to you x
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Don’t feel guilty for one more second – you were doing the right thing and I for one would never judge mums with young children who are being naughty/dfficult in a public place. Mostly because I have been there and done that but also because I miss have little ones around me.
If i had been in that shop with you today I would have given you a sympathetic look and said something like “hope your day gets better” or “they do leave home one day”. Never feel guilty about insisting on standards or saying no to your kids even if it brings on a meltdown.That is what makes you a good mum in my book.
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I think that’s what made it seem even worse to me though. 8 years old seems to old to be ‘tantruming’ if you know what I mean. If they were two I think I would have felt more like people would just smile knowingly etc, but at her age I guess I think people would be more thinking ‘a child that old wouldn’t be that upset without a legitimate reason’ if you know what I mean? She just manages to look so utterly devastated, and it was more the things she was saying “I don’t deserve any food. I won’t eat anything. I’m terrible” etc as though she was repeating things I had said to her.
That’s why it felt like DOCS would be on their way!
Thanks to everyone for the replies though! It helped!! It felt like there were at least others out there who understood!!
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Most people understand the nature of children and even though I don’t have any kids, had I witnessed that in the supermarket, If anything I would feel empathy for the mum and would place the child’s behaviour in context. Don’t worry! Most people have kids and understand! Don’t let that ruin you day! I’m sure your little girl is amazing but sometimes they can act out.
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I would simply have thought “oh poor mum”, “that child could have a future on the stage” and “yay, it’s not my turn for once” (without meaning to celebrate your misfortune, just my good fortune!). And I’d have tried to catch your eye to say or convey “hang in there – this, too, will pass – you’re doing just ifne”.
So hang in there, this too will pass, you’re doing just fine and hopefully she’ll have exhausted her repertoire in a year or three and be a glorious teen. I wish that for you anyway.
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Migawrsh I hope so!! I’m not holding my breath, but gee wouldn’t that be nice!
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Maybe this will make you feel better.
1. Partly due to our own incompetence (I let my daughter 11) RSVP an invite for a theme park birthday party. She was running late, so my husband let her meet up inside. On the way home he found out that 5 11 & 12 year olds spent the day at a theme park unaccompanied. Oh the horror. At least she was alright.
2. I ended up running late for work on Tuesday and ended up screaming at the girls 8 &. 11, because it was partly their fault. My 8 year old ended up crying. I should have controlled myself a lot better. We’ve since had a big talk the 3 of us.
I keep telling myself that I get it right at least some of the time.
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Best: The week started well, I was contacted by the director of a company for a “catch up” and to talk about working for him. My mood lifted and I thought after 9 years of studying at uni I was finally going to land a great job, relevant to my field and family friendly. Finding a job has been really difficult for me since finishing my PhD and I thought finally I’d take some of the financial burden my husband is plagued by.
Worst: went to the catch up not expecting a formal interview. The director knew i didn’t have a lot of experience but had sounded really positive on the phone. Today I found out that I’ve missed out due to my lack of experience… I bombed the interview… I wasn’t in the right mindset and lack confidence about entering the workforce and moving away from a full time ‘mum’. Really disappointed. Jobs in my field are rare. My hopes were pinned On it. Now I’m headed to an interview next week for a job I’m not sure I want- in regional Vic…where I won’t have any support. Pity money is so important
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OMM: People being so petty on FB. Passive aggressive comments directed at no one in particular (yeah right!) If you have an issue with someone, why not talk to them face to face!?
Or call them?
I feel like I am back in high school. So glad I am cutting back on FB use. That and I just delete people I have no real interest/friendship with.
Makes life SO much easier! Cut the fat in your life and don’t feed the TROLLS!
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Oh Maggie I’m hearing you! I have a few friends on FB who do that vague commenting so you either have to ask what is wrong or ignore. I always ignore. Complaining, attention seeking, being angry on your status is a pain. Maybe once sure but over and over. Also drives me insane.
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Best: got tickets to soundwave and found my tickets to hilltop that i thought i had lost for next week.
Best 2: appointment with mortgage broker on monday, hope all goes well!
worst: sick again, not as bad as usual but still warrented two days off work (can’t answer phone calls when you have no voice!)
OMM: does anyone know of a program or website where you can keep track of all the blogs you follow without having to have an account with each site? I can’t keep track!
OMM 2: i’m sort of hoping this house thing falls through so i can go back to uni. Unfortunately for me I can’t afford to do both as I no longer qualify for fee-help but I feel like I’ll never get my chance to go back if we purchase a property.
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Just use an rss feed, google has one you can use free. You add the rss link of each blog and it just updates like email.
If you use outlook at work like I do, it has it built in…you can read new posts within outlook so it looks like you’re working
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I add all mine into google reader account – but I also have app on my phone called PULSE and I can add them into that and they are all in the one spot on my phone anytime i want. Pulse is great, can categorise into different pages and add all sorts of different websites in.
https://www.pulse.me/
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oy! where was all this information (rss feed, PULSE) when I needed it!
(pre techno meltdown) I was trying to follow several blogs I enjoyed, got all tripped up – skipping hither and yon. It was intentional I tells ya. The digital gods singled me out to mess with me head!
rss feeds etc – good information for people who can keep up. I will never catch up to all the online world has to offer. It’s too fast for little old me. Sadly I feel like I will forever be the last one in the know.
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Worst: getting a plate to realign my molars- I have an ulcer on my tongue and on the sides of my mouth from the sharp bits, I’m talking weird and eating is a struggle. I just can’t be bothered eating as it’s too much of a hassle. Damn you orthodontics!
Best: Hmm, probably buying a pretty ring from where I work at half price, I’ve wanted it for ages!
OMM: I work in retail and business is really slow/ quiet, hoping it will pick up soon!
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If it’s a removable plate, take it out to eat. You also might want to go back to the ortho to get the sharp bits modified. You shouldn’t be getting ulcers from it.
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Sorry my bad should have explained it better- it’s more of a wire across my mouth, with metal rings around my back molars. It’s glued in so i can’t take it out
I have an ulcer on my tongue cos it keeps catching on the sharp bits, but I got some gel for that
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I can’t seem to add this photo to my post, but just to make all you southerners jealous (as I understand it is currently snowing in Canberra, windy and cold elsewhere), here is a piccy of Master A enjoying the beach on Wed.
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Lovely! Not jealous (much).
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Aww! Cute pic.
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Definitely jealous.
Stupid Canberra. Stupid Snow.
(Ok, the snow is a little bit exciting, but I am yet to walk outside into the freeze yet)
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Best: I posted last week saying that I was thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend. I have and mentaly, I feel so great. I have had this week living in our apartment alone and I feel so good and free.
Best: I got a myer one gift card in the mail for $120 so cool!!
Worst: I’m not really sure what to do on the weekend? I have a mani/ pedi sat morning and then probably going to go to myer
but nothing else really on…
OMM: depending on my step dad (and his contribution of spending money) I am considering resigning my job at the end of the year (cannot wait!!!!:)) and firstly, going for a longish(1-2months) holiday through America and then moving to England and working as an Au Pair or waitress.. something so I’m not too tied down. I want this soooooo badly! I hope he says yes!!
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Worst – my beautiful puppy was diagnosed with liver cancer yesterday and only has a few more days with me. For 12 years it’s been just the two of us and my heart is completely broken. I have no idea how I will say good bye.
Best – nothing really best but I am grateful that she isn’t in any pain. She is still strolling around after me, wagging her tail, looking for food and attention and not really understanding why I keep crying. Dog’s truly are your best friend…
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She looks even more beautiful upright!
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I am so sorry Jo. Hugs to you.
She is a gorgeous dog.
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Hi Jo,
i’m so incredibly sorry to hear that. Sending you a big virtual hug.
Losing your puppy is very tough. I hope your last few days with her are special.
Much love.
xx
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Oh Jo I am so sorry. We have two gorgeous dogs who are a part of our family. I understand how you must be feeling. So sad. xxx
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Oh Jo, I’m so sorry to hear. I wish you all the best over the next few weeks.
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Oh Jo that broke my heart a little bit! Sending you hugs!
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If it should be that I grow frail and weak
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then will you do what must be done,
For this — the last battle — can’t be won.
You will be sad I understand,
But don’t let grief then stay your hand,
For on this day, more than the rest,
Your love and friendship must stand the test.
We have had so many happy years,
You wouldn’t want me to suffer so.
When the time comes, please, let me go.
Take me to where to my needs they’ll tend,
Only, stay with me till the end
And hold me firm and speak to me
Until my eyes no longer see.
I know in time you will agree
It is a kindness you do to me.
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I have been saved.
Don’t grieve that it must be you
Who has to decide this thing to do;
We’ve been so close — we two — these years,
Don’t let your heart hold any tears.
– Unknown
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Thank you so much for this poem – bawling right now so that I can hardly type.
And thanks everyone else for thoughts and virtual hugs too xx
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You might find some comfort in reading this?
Duke’s last day: The touching story of one man determined to give his beloved sick dog the perfect final 24 hours
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2044721/Dukes-day-The-touching-story-man-determined-beloved-sick-dog-perfect-final-24-hours.html
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Beautiful and such a lovely story – thank you so much, Jo
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The poem made me cry too.
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Best: finally submitted the last of my applications for vacation work at firms over the summer
Worst: now I’ll spend the next week waiting for some firm, any firm, to call for an interview – it’s almost as bad as dating, complete with the ‘what did I do wrong!’ if no calls come through
Softening the blow: if I don’t get anything out of this, I’m just going to say ‘screw it!’ and go travelling for a while. There are all sorts of opportunities out there, so if this one doesn’t pan out, I’ve got the whole world as my oyster
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Funniest moment of the week: My husband stopped reading “How To Be A Woman” by Caitlin Moran because our children were teasing him.
He plans on reading it when they’re in bed
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Oh! Also, best of the week: I’ve lost 2kg. I’ve only been trying to lose weight for 2.5 weeks so I was stoked when I hopped on the scales and found it’s working. Hurrah!
Also, gross comment, but how does this work? I weighed myself, then pooped, then weighed myself again (thinking I’d be able to count a larger weight loss), but found I’d GAINED 400g in the few minutes it took to poop? WTF?
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Bahaha – Ive often wondered this? !
I weigh myself in the morning, after Ive been to the toilet (hoping to drop some gms), before Ive had breakfast (before i consume extra gms) and before I have a shower (to avoid the weight of my wet hair)
Ahh the things we to do gain a few grams! Thanks for putting a smile on my face on the dreary friday afternoon x
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Worst: At 36 weeks pregnant I have now had severe debilitating nausea for 30 weeks. So hard to keep going. Also spd and all the other usual symptoms.
Best: Nearly there. Only a few weeks to go til I get to meet my beautiful son and start to get excited about him not just not being pregnant anymore which is all I can think about now.
OMM: what to do with 3 year old daughter til then. She is home with me 3 days a week and I am struggling so much with sickness and it’s getting worse. She had several major tantrums today and has been acting up all week. Should I try and put her in full time childcare for the next 4 weeks? It’s only an extra 12 days of care but I would feel so guilty taking her in so i can go home to bed but I’m worried seeing me so sick isn’t good for her and I’m not much fun. Don’t know what to do Hurry up baby.
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Put her in care! She will be absolutely fine, she will not grow up to need therapy for the 12 extra days she spent and childcare and you need to look after yourself right now.
Hope you feel better soon!
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Thanks Orly. I guess what I’m worried about isn’t really important. I don’t think an extra 12 days of care will make any difference so I suppose I’m worried/embarrassed about what the (lovely) childcare workers would think about me dropping her off then going home to do nothing. But I do think my sickness is upsetting my daughter so I should just do it?
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You are far from doing nothing Helen. You are growing a person. Lovely childcare workers will TOTALLY get this – not that it matters what anyone else thinks.
Looking after you is the best thing you can do for your daughter and baby. She will have a ball at Childcare and you can rest so you can be the strongest you can be for when your baby arrives.
Don’t give it another thought
*steps down off soap box*!
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oh big hugs, I know your pain! I was hospitalised when I was 31/32 weeks pregnant with Master A due to nausea, fatigue, dizziness etc (I’d lost 3 kgs in 3 weeks, not a good thing) and spent over a week in hospital. My OB only let me go home on the proviso that we put Miss C in full time daycare (she was only going for 2 days at that point). She was fine, in fact I’m sure she had a better time because she could do things. It gave me the chance to rest, and by the time bubs came I was feeling so much better. (although it wasn’t until he was 10 days old that the nausea etc eased for me
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I’m sure that they daycare won’t think any less of you, in fact I’m sure they will understand! I feel bad now that they are back in daycare because I’ve been sick, but that is what daycares are for, not just those who work.
Good luck with it all, hope you get some rest soon.
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Thank you all for the support. I had to hold in the tears til hubby got home tonight. Now I’m on bed feeling better emotionally listening to daughter have fun with him. Not long to go and I will get help to get through the next few weeks.
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quick question to the Mm team – have u stopped doing the week the in pics posts (world news etc etc) ? i liked those!
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I miss the news posts in general!
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Hey Mimi
I think that post wound up before I started at MM. So I’ll have a chat to the team and come back to you. We’re always keen to hear feedback so thanks for this!
Jamila
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Thanks Jamilia! and just wanted to say thanks to mm team for having such an awesum site! wouldnt be the same without my daily MM fix!! xo
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Worst: I think the tablets that neuro prescribed for me in order to help prevent or at least cut down how often I get migraines, isn’t really working
Also, should get my sleep in more order, it used to be much worse and I’m getting better, but would like to improve it even more so that I can feel more human in the mornings.
Best: I think the medication (geez I sound like a crazy person!) that my gp prescribed person for depression is starting to make me feel soooo much better… I knew very well that I had really up and down days, but only is it now that I realise how much I was in the dumps and hw difficult it made things.
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Best – finally found a house to buy that is in a useful place (walk to school) and we can afford. only downside is putting 4 kids into a 2 bedder! But it has a huge yard, so perhaps the older two can use the tent outside over summer while we do an extension??
Plus my sister got engaged, and it was so romantic – told Sat am to pack bags for the weekend, taken to airport, skiing, fancy restaurant, proposed, she says “in bed early, it was epic!” I’m sure it was (wink wink)
Worst: am having a dilemma about whether to talk to my 6yo boys teacher about something he said on the way home from school yest. what do you guys think? He says “xxx says I should put my dick inside her” I said “I don’t think that is a good idea, do you remember what we say about private parts” He said “Not for sharing”. This girl is always hugging him and kissing him too, which he says he doesn’t really like (because he says he can’t get away cos she holds him too tight), but he does love the attention (he’s the rock star kid, everyone loves him and he loves being looked at). It just seemed to me to be an overtly sexual thing for a 6yo girl to say and I’m torn between saying something to the teacher in case she has issues at home or wondering if I’m completely over-reacting. I’m leaning towards talking, since I’d hate to stay quiet and it turned out the girl was in a bad place.
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I think you’re right to be concerned about a six year old girl making such an overtly (and crude) sexual comment. It could possibly be suggestive of abuse. If it was me I would tell the teacher. It may well be something s/he is already aware of – either way the information will be useful. I wouldn’t worry about being perceived as over-reacting – on the contrary I think passing the information on is a caring act.
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I have a friend whose 6yo daughter says things like that. She thinks its funny and its just a sign that her daughter is going through a discovery stage!! I think its totally inappropriate and I’m saddened that a little child knows so much sex. Personally I think its a sign that mum and dad are sharing too much with their kids and these sort of discussions should absolutely not be happening within earshot of a 6yo child. You shoud talk to the teacher about it because he/she should be aware of whats happening with this little girl because she needs to have someone look out for her and her parents should also be made aware that her behaviour and knowledge is unacceptable for a 6 year old.
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if my daughter was saying things like that I would want to know about it!
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Thanks all. I’ve had a quiet chat to the teacher, who freaked out a bit. I said I didn’t want it to be a big deal, but perhaps they should know. The school has a process that they are going to start – starts with talking to her parents. So we’ll see but I do feel relieved for having said something.
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I would say something to the teacher as if these comments were to be overheard in the playground the situation could be misconstrued and your boy could be in the firing line!
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Best: Bought myself a treadmill! Finally, no excuse to not exercise
I am hoping my self discipline upholds itself… I work and study as a single parent, with no car and very limited funds for gyms/creches… daughter is too big for the pram… I have hardly anytime to go out due to work/study..too cold and dark to be taking my asthmatic daughter out to run… so ftness at home seems like a great idea for now! Wish me luck
Worst: spending money on early-planning Christmas pressies… I am building up a nice little stocking for everyone. But I hate parting with my money!
OMM: What happened to my giggling chubby baby… She is now a tall, dancing little girl.. no more fat rolls on those legs!
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Home fitness is awesome!
Have you thought about getting some exercise DVDs? I do them all the time and my daughter loves to join in.
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I’m sorry to be gloomy but I have a few worsts this week:
Worst 1: woke up in a huge fright Wed night to a burst pipe in the bathroom and ankle deep water inching down the hallway and through my kids rooms. Husband was away working but thank god my parents live 2 minutes away. What a mess.
Worst 2: Called a friend on a rude comment she made to me (but heavily disguised as a compliment on her part) and she’s now not talking to me. We’ve only been friends for under a year and she’s been incredibly high maintenance ever since. I’m strangely kind of relieved to think I may not have to put up with her draining friendship anymore. Is that bad? I don’t have many friends as I’m a SAHM but sometimes it is easier to not worry about other people. Am thinking of changing gym so I don’t have to run into her anymore as my six months is nearly up.
Worst 3: Am doing a bridging program at uni and finding out that I have to do Fundamental and Intermediate Maths to prepare for a Psych degree. I didn’t know it had much to do with maths at all. Am troubled as I’m SHOCKING at maths and will struggle with it.
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I am a psychology graduate and be warned, psychology degree is very very maths-based, specifically statistics based. I am not talking about just an odd unit here or there, the entire degree is based around maths/statistics.
There is this misconception that a psychology degree is really fun and interesting and you learn about body language etc but the fun stuff makes up maybe 5% of the degree. The rest is hard!
It’s always a very popular degree and each year there are 200+ students undertaking it but it has a massive drop out rate. When I graduated after 4th year, there were only 20 of us in class. Out of those 20 even less went on to do their masters degree (which you have to do in order to practice as a psychologist).
If that kind of work interest you, there are other degrees that are far easier and less maths based, for instance, social work. Good luck with whatever you decide.
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Thanks Sue, great feedback. Best I know this now and not later. Have a great weekend
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Hi Emmaline
Another psych student here – don’t dismiss Psych just because of the maths aspect. Yes, there is definitely statistics involved and they are definitely not my forte. But… have worked my behind off and just done practice after practice and asked questions along the way and have managed to pull off high scores in stats! Good luck!
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I’ve found as I get older I am able to cull people who suck the life out of me! I am a very giving person & I don’t have time for negativity & selfishness. You don’t need a friend who would disrespect you with a rude comment.
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Totally get where your coming from… i really want to get back to uni to study nutrition but am so worried about the maths and science aspect its putting me off completely!! good-luck!!!!
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Best: My children, my life. After a few tough years it all seems to be settling down. My kids are sunshine, my house is lovely, my job is good, my relationship is repairing and I feel blessed. Oh and I’ve lost 6kg.
Worst: Not much today. It’s a good day and I am grateful for it.
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What a lovely post, blossom
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Best: Still chuffed about the surprise my husband planned for me in our garden – a heart of grass! So sweet.
Worst: Woke up at 5 am the other morning with a blasting panic attack. I can describe it as a little bit like a searing sun of anxiety exploding from my chest. Haven’t experienced one for ages and ages. Even having gone through enormous stress when my mum was sick and dying.
Best: I “welcomed” the panic attack, like I was greeting an old friend who I hadn’t seen for a while. I was using a mediation technique I had learnt where rather than fighting it you embrace the panic and anxiety. Let it flow and push through it. AND IT WORKED! I came out the other side. Quite quickly. I fell back into a deep sleep. I was a little nervous through the day and last night but slept soundly and didn’t have a relapse. Phew.
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No way! Husband WIN. That’s pretty impressive.
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WOW!!!! I love this so much – tell your husband he’s got all the ladies on MM swooning.
P.S. I’d be inclined to reward that kind of romance with a matching wax job…
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Yes he is a super sweetheart. Thanks.
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Best: Doctor confirmed on Monday that we’re having a baby and the daily tidbits of information that he’s picking at work and bringing home.
Worst: Deciding not to tell anyone – for a little while at least
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Congratulations!
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Worst- attempting suicide on Sunday night. Going through a stressful situation and was pushed to breaking point.
Best- it didn’t work. I am struggling still with so many emotions now, shame being the heaviest one. I’m seeing someone on Monday to start therapy, and I am taking steps to get my life on track, removing people from my life that are detrimental to me.
OMM- what on earth would we do without our mums? Mine dropped everything and was on the earliest flight to Melbourne!
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Thank God it didn’t work. Bless you.
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I agree. All the best for your recovery, MissM. I hope that life is soon good again.
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Huge, huge hug to you xx
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You are very brave to talk about it and to reach out and get help. Take care and *hugs*.
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Oh Miss M. I don’t know what to say. I am so relieved that you’re okay. I hope you’re surrounding yourself with the people who love you (how awesome are mums!) and getting the support you need. Please take care. Xxxx
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Hugs to you Miss M xxx
All the best for your therapy.
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Big big hugs to you, and I’m so glad to be able to send you virtual hugs. I hope that each day brings a little more lightness and hope for you.
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More hugs here for you.
Mothers certainly are wonderful.
My mum used to say to me “While there is life there is hope.”
I wish much love and support for you Miss M. xxx
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Showing vulnerability = courage. I tell that to my teenagers all the time. The pressure on being strong or capable all the time is very exhausting.
Love to you and your mum for helping you through this time. As a mother of a 13 year old daughter I would so drop everything for her too. xxxxx
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i wish i was right there with u giving u the biggest hugs!!!!!
break a leg during the therapy!!!
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Worst: I am doing terribly in my law degree, it is exhausting and I am unlikely to get a job at the end
Best: I have decided to take a year off to travel the world and rediscover what makes me happy again.
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Take heart and just try your best. As someone who finished their law degree and has a job working for one of the “top tier” firms this life is definitely not all it’s cracked up to be. The only thing stopping me walking into my partner’s office and telling him “I quit” is the mortgage. Don’t let yourself get sucked into the golden handcuffs my dear, a law degree is only the door that will open many jobs for you. Travel and experience life and be grateful that you haven’t bogged yourself down with a mortgage, working in a job you hate as a 26 year old.
When I have children (and finally quit) my advice to them will be to study denistry – you work 9-5, make good money and don’t have some overlord partner taking over your every living moment.
My best friend did not do well in her law degree but got a job at a small suburban firm, worked there for a few years and is now working in-house at an insurer and loves her job. There is more than one way to get into this miserable industry if you really want it- don’t listen to all those law society morons whose view only extends to “mid-tier” firms.
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Thank you for your comment! On some level I know all of this, it’s just easy to get caught up in the life plans and goals of others.
I hope you get out of your job and into something you love. Apparently these mythical jobs do exist somewhere in the abyss. Thanks and good luck.
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I totally get what you’re saying. I have good semesters and bad semesters and I’m constantly stressing about whether I’ll get a job, in such a competitive faculty I always feel like I’m falling behind. I applied for a clerkship even though I didn’t really want one just because it was what everyone else was doing, and when I didn’t even get an interview I beat myself up about it for ages. But then I got offered a spot in an exchange program overseas and realised that if I’d been so focused on getting that clerkship that I hadn’t given myself other options I would have missed out on doing something super cool. Opportunities are everywhere, and if you really want something you’ll find a way to make it happen.
But from one tired law student to another, I think we’re all worrying about what’ll happen after this. Good luck and enjoy your year off!
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Don’t worry about it clingontocalm, I struggled through parts of my law degree too and finally finished it and was admitted last year, but it is exhausting and the pressure on you to get a job is enormous (in my experience). I had fairly good grades and applied for every clerkship and vacation work that was going but it is disheartening when 100+ other people apply for the same thing!
I’ve ended up moving to regional Queensland and working in a small firm and I love it- if I can give you one piece of advice, it really is worth it (if you can) to move to a smaller community and work. I’ve found that I have been exposed to so many different types of matters as opposed to working in a top-tier firm and doing the same job day in and day out.
Best of luck with your studies and with your travels!
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Take it from this “p’s makes degrees” lawyer… Grades aren’t everything. They might stop you from being offered positions with top tier firms, but 10 years on from graduation, personally I’m thankful for that! Don’t give up… It is worth the slog, but please dont think top tier is the only reward xx
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I went through the dissatisfaction with my law degree last year. It took walking out of a test worth 15% distraught because I thought I had failed for me to realise I was placing way too much pressure on myself.
Deferred my law degree for a semester and finished my arts degree part time instead. Through sheer coincidence, ended up getting back into law through a job as a legal assistant for a not-for-profit. I was the only person with any legal knowledge there whatsoever, and it led me to rediscover a love for what I was doing.
In other words, definitely a good idea to take time out. There’s so much out there so I’m sure you’ll be able to find something that you’re passionate about
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Like the other Alice, I’ve now finished my law degree and have a great job at my dream firm. I didn’t do very well for most of my degree, and I never did any clerkships or anything at big firms. But what I did do was lots of really interesting internships and lots of volunteer work (even if they were just one evening every two weeks or something). It was all at places I found really interesting, so it wasn’t too much of a hassle (apart from having to manage my time strictly) but it meant that at the end of my degree I had some interesting things on my CV that made me stand out from the crowd. My marks were never going to get me an interview, but my experiences did. Once I got the interviews, I was much more likely to get the jobs – and I did.
Don’t give up. I HATED the majority of my law degree (it was so dry, and so much of it was on areas of law i have no interest in) but now I LOVE my job. Keep going darling!! You’re “sowing” now so that in the future you can reap. xxx
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Best: decorating the house and making it feel more like our home than a place we live in.
Worst: Trying for a baby after 11 years on the pill and still no sign of a cycle. at all. It’s only been 3 and a half months so I know it’s early days but I thought I’d at least have a cycle by now. Thinking about it is all consuming.
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Best: If this comment actually manages to get published.
Best 2: Moving to pretty apartment that is close to campus on Monday!
Worst: Packing for said move.
OMM: Husband and I are doing pretty well at the moment. Since our trip to Indiana last week to look at doctoral programs, I think he’s a little shocked. I think he was attracted to the idea of a doctorate and hadn’t considered the reality of doing it. It will be a minimum of 4 years, and most take longer. Guess we might be coming home in 9 months after all!
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PUBLISHED COMMENT! *Fist pump*
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Woohoo!
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Best: Taking a mini road trip this weekend to visit a girlfriend I haven’t seen for a few months. Have missed her terribly and she always manages to make me laugh til my sides hurt.
Worst: Evidence law. WTF IS THIS? Law and Order fooled me into thinking it would be a walk in the park. Damn you, television and unrealistic expectations!
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Oh Lila I hear you. I remember thinking the entire way through that Evidence had been misrepresented to be as fun by Ally McBeal, Law and Order etc. Completely unfair for it to be so dull.
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For me it wasn’t even that it was so dull – it was that it was so hard + confusing + dull!
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I feel like after this long I’m allowed to start asking when does the fun stuff start? Or is my life really not going to be like Boston Legal…? Depressing! Lucky my lecturer is a bonafide fox, when he talks about hearsay I feel like he’s talking directly to me… -dreamy sigh-
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Best: 9 month old son sleeping through for a whole week. The difference in my energy levels is amazing.
Worst: said child refuses to crawl but instead wants to ‘stand’ constantly (while being held by me obviously). It’s doing my back in!
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Best: It’s Friday and i get my hair done tomorrow
Worst: It’s only been a few days since my last whinge about this topic but I’m still not pregnant
It’s consuming!
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I did a Westfield round up this week. Without the kids!
http://mum-abulous.com/2012/08/16/fashion-week-weak-mumabulous-style/
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Best: had an awesome day snowboarding with my sort-of-bf. Sun shining, no lift queues, picnic lunch, beers at the end of the day no injuries. Loads of laughing, kisses and cuddles on the lift, was a lovely day.
Worst: clinical audit subject, doing my head in. No one seems to care about babies born with meconium stained amniotic fluid on the postnatal ward! I am determined though!!
OMM: relationship labels. So the guy I’m dating is my ex, we were together a few years ago, then he moved away and now he his back and we are ‘dating’. Its fun and relaxed and going well. He asked me on a real date the other night then the issue of labels came up. I don’t think I’m quite ready for the BF label yet, I’m scared of going through all that pain again if it doesn’t work out. But I haven’t been with anyone else who makes me as happy or relaxed. Will just have to keep plodding along.
I noticed there are a few posts about breakups etc this week. Hope everyone is doing ok.
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What are they saying about the babies born amongst mec liquour? What’s the audit?
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the audit is about how babies who are born with mec liquor are managed on the ward, how often the obs are done and for how long. There is no hard evidence or guidance. It seems that if they develop resp distress at birth or have low apgars they are managed in NICU with intubation, lung lavage, surfactant lavage etc. I want to know how we should be assessing the babies on the ward to see if they are developing mec asp syndrome and for how long.
PHEW!
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Interesting. I don’t remember having any hard and fast rules about mec liquor babies that I had to adhere to (post natally that is). It was just something I kept in mind to keep an eye on. Babies with mec aspiration would go downhill pretty fast I expect, it would be fairly obvious to anyone. I’m pretty sure I just went about on the assumption that if the baby had good apgars at birth and all the other obs were stable, that I would perform the baby obs once per shift.
Good luck with it!
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Another thing complicating this is that in some places the mum and bub are almost pushed out the door within 2 days because of bed pressure.
It would be interesting to find out what the audit shows.
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I found some clinical guidelines at King Edward Memorial in Perth and they recommend 2-3 hourly observations until 12/24 old. I haven’t been able to find much else.
I’ll keep posting updates as I progress
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Best: uni’s going well, and I get to meet a new member of the family tomorrow, a labrador puppy!!
Worst: found out yesterday my bf has to have some pretty scary surgery in a couple of weeks, he’s nervous and i’m terrified. I’ve been able to take work off to be with him whilst he’s in hospital but right now I don’t know what to do or say to make him feel any better.
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Best of luck with the worst, Clairejs. It’s really hard, but there isn’t much you can do, other than be there for him and hold his hand. And maybe supply his favourite foods in the meantime. x
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Just being there with/for him is probably about the best you can do at this point. Hope it all goes well!
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Best: our beautiful baby girl…
she’s 2 and a half weeks old and such a little ray of sunshine! I cannot believe I was so worried before she arrived – we’re working it all out together and my husband is a rock! Our dogs are being so protective of her already and life is good! (we called her Natalya, so close to you Natalia!) We’ve also got her birth certificate so we can organise her passport for our NY/Vegas/San Fran trip in a couple of months!
But thinking of those who do have worsts and hope everything improves… xxx
Worst: no worsts personally (sleep is overrated right??)
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And I cannot believe how many exclamation marks I just used – life MUST be good!!!
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Congrats Rhi!! Excellent name for your baby girl too
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We have a 2 and a half week old here too! Isn’t parenthood an amazing journey. Everyday I feel a bit more confident. Little miss has a very independent personality already and likes to keep changing it up on us but that’s all part of the challenge.
Like you I couldn’t think of a worst but am appreciating every minute of sleep!
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Worst: I scraped the whole side of my car by misjudging a pole! Wasn’t even another car involved. Just me and my bad driving!
Best: fiancé is back tonight after a month of working away. Bikini wax at the ready!!!
Omm: wedding planning!!!! 2 and a half months and counting!
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