by NATALIA JASTRZAB
On the 5th of July this year, I took my boyfriend to the airport. He gave me a kiss and then got on a plane, which took him thousands of kilometres away. I haven’t seen him since. I haven’t been able to hug him, kiss him, drag him to terrible girly movies or make him buy me ice-cream for over two months now.
So that’s my worst. And it’ll stay my worst until I finally get to see him again, although – due to the nature of his job – I’m not even sure when that might be. It might be mid-October, it might be late October, it might even be November. Neither of us have answers – we only ever have questions.
Thankfully, the boy still finds a thousand ways to make me smile. I wandered out of my house in my usual early-morning daze on Thursday morning to find THIS blu-tacked to my car:
The sign on my car
That simple sign made me smile like an idiot all the way to work. It was, by far, exactly the thing to make my week turn from mediocre to excellent.
So that was my best. And you all now have permission to call me “Jetski” (a nickname inspired by my ridiculous surname). Over to you!
What was your best and worst of the week?
PS. In case you missed what’s happening around the office and social media this week, you can catch up right now…
Members of the Mamamia team pulling an all-nighter.
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A question for all the fitnessy people – what’s the best fitness app for android along the lines of c25k? There seem to be quite a few to choose from and i am a complete beginner (to running and smart phones!!)
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I love the RunKeeper app. You can download training programs, and it will also track your route (via GPS), time, pace, speed etc as well as your progress over time – you can set yourself goals etc. Its great!
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Best: Had a birthday at the start of the week, and spent time with both family and friends celebrating.
Worst: Haven’t seen the boy all week. We’ve been in touch daily but it really doesn’t replace a good old cuddle.
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Best: The wonderful people in my life.
Worst: Having a career crisis and am unsure how to fix it. I have a Commerce degree and am a Business Analyst for one of the Big 4 banks. It’s a pretty average role – work isn’t challenging and pay is crappy. I’ve been having a look on Seek and it seems like all the good banking jobs require a CPA. Has anyone done one? How did you find it? Did it boost your prospects? Any help much appreciated
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Best: that my problems are all first world, that my kids are astonishingly adorable, that I’m eating left over Turkish pide for breakfast, that I had an article published on kikiandtea.com
Worst: husband and 5yo son are away until Monday afternoon visiting husband’s 103 year old grandmother. They only left 3 hours ago and I miss them terribly already.
OMM: not much right now
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My best is pretty exciting… I’ve hit the 2 month mark of going to the gym 4 days a week, yay! And the silly thing is that I wish I’d done it so much sooner… Better late than never though. My goal hasn’t been to lose any weight, but to just tone up and get fitter – and I can already see changes in my body which is exciting. I have more energy and it’s been fantastic for my mental health and the stress of adjusting to a new management job which led to me being on anti anxiety medication and seeing a psychologist… AWESOME!
Worst… I hate cancer and I hate that it runs in my family and so many people I know have been affected by it… It just sucks!
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Can I just say mamamia that all these sugar sweet posts every day are making me so very jolly. I want to reach out and give everyone a big bear hug. Group hug coming your way.
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I have been seeing a guy from work who is unfortunately married. I want him to leave his family, he won’t and I am devastated. I want his child. At 39 years old I am desperate now. Should I threaten to tell his wife what he has been up to.
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I think you know the answer to thne. I’m sorry, that’s a horrible situation
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Tell the wife… you have to fight for men these days
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Tell the wife,, then you have more of a chance of obtaining him as I am tipping the marriage will collapse. You go girl… Girl Power…
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If this man is willing to cheat on his wife (who is possibly the mother of his children), then there is every chance that he would do this to you one day if he happened to leave her for you.
He is not the right person to be having a child with.
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If I got pregnant then he would have to financially help me out by law. Maybe then he would think about leaving his wife.
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You want to force him to be with you by tricking him into having a child and having a legal obligation to support you? Come on girl, have some faith in yourself and get some self esteem! Surely you can find a man to love who loves you without being legally obliged to support you!! Leaving aside the fact that he has proven himself capable of deceit, disrespect and cruelty.
Tell the wife so she knows and can make her own life choices. But for the record, no one wants to be with someone who has blackmailed them into it.
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Unfortunately the law cannot make a man support a child if he doesn’t want to. (And I am speaking from experience, having brought up three children on my own after my ex-husband left me for a woman he had an affair with). And if the man you are having the affair with already has children, for their sakes – please walk away.
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Do you have any idea how devastated his wife will be ? You DO NOT get to just claim her life as your own and get pregnant and ruin her life. She doesn’t deserve that. You should be the better person and leave him and find yourself a man who deserves you and I hope you never get cheated on because then you might grasp the damage you are helping this man to cause. It takes two people to have sex and yes you are just as responsible as your lover because you know he is married yet you persist on being involved with him. This is not about girl power and its not about you being 39 and lonely. This is your issue.not his wife’s and it does not excuse you breaking up a marriage and trying to claim someone else’s husband. Do the decent thing and end it. And yes I do know what I am talking about. My husband cheated on me so I know how painful and damaging cheating is. And one more thing- his wife will always come first so you will probably end up with a broken heart when he tells you he wants his marriage more than he wants you.
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If you got your man from another woman, then he’s ‘gettable’.
Also: If he will cheat *with* you, he will cheat *on* you.
Men are biological wired to say / do ANYthing to get a woman’s knickers off and spread their seed. Sorry, but it is the truth. Please make decisions with your eyes open. Lust and romance are massive distractions.
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If he is treating his wife like this, what makes you think that you are any different and he will treat you differently/better?
Many men love having a woman on the side and have no intention of leaving their wife. Even if he does leave his wife for you I guarantee he will do the same thing to you. A cheater will always cheat. Remember he has gone the hard yards with this woman, developed a relationship with her and her family and has married her. It takes a lot to leave that behind. He works with you, dont be fooled that its anything more than a work fling. And dont try and trap him by getting pregnant. At best, for you, he will leave his wife and then be financially burdened by having 2 families to support. A worst, for you, he will resent you and leave you as a struggling single mum.
Either way it wont work. Find your own man and leave this womans alone.
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Ranif I think you posted quite a few weeks ago about this. I take it that in those weeks, nothing much has changed. He is still cheating on his wife. He is not going to leave her. Have you thought how he might react if you do tell her? Do you honestly think he will leave her?
I am so sorry for you that you find yourself in this relationship. I urge you to seek a counsellor to talk about your emotions surrounding this relationship. Preferably with him in attendance so he can fully understand how you are feeling. This is not how to form a lasting relationship. There are other ways to find sperm donors. I send you great big independence affirming hugs.
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Remember, she didn’t ‘find herself’ in this relationship. She met a man who was married and DECIDED to pursue a relationship with him. How did she think it would turn out? Exactly like this, probably! I’m sorry, but she has done the wrong thing here and now she’s going to be part of that wife and children’s lives being destroyed. That didn’t just ‘happen’, she chose to cause this situation. No sympathy here.
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Worst – My 3 year old had a tantrum of epic proportions right before bedtime which kills me because I had to stay strong and not g in, and he went to bed sad.
Best – Funny moment during the tantrum. Half way through he looked at me and said “Mummy is there a deal to be made?” Cute
Best #2 – After being put to bed he ran out, gave me a cuddle and told me I was the best Mum in the world. Okay, maybe he was just trying to get out of going to bed, but still melted.
Best#3- Going to Thailand in 2 months!! Woo bloody hoo!!
OMM- Really grateful to have been published on MM this week, and to have received so many lovely comments from friends and readers on MM. Thinking I may start writing again regularly. Always wanted to be a writer when I grew up, (before becoming an accountant and personal trainer). I’m 36 – I think I’m nearly grown up.
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Oh that’s so adorable!
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worst: learning my brother had a breakdown about 8 weeks ago. He didn’t want to tell me because he didn’t want to worry me. He was released from prison 6 months ago after doing 22 years straight. He is not coping, even after finding full time work. I don’t know how to help him other than listening to him when he talks. which is really hard for him to do anyway. I think seeing each other has stirred up a lot of suppressed memories about our childhoods, which was extremely traumatic to say the least. Hoping everything works out in the end. I wish he would move closer, but I know he had to go where the work was.
Best:. Taking my two youngest to the beach tomorrow.
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Worst: jobhunting
Best: have an interview… finally
Worst: pissed of best friend
Best: because I enrolled in a course by myself that we said we would do together, and its good for me. I need to do it now.
Worst: feel like people and life is too hard. hermit time
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Agreed.
people make life hard. Would love to be a hermit for just a week. Leave me alone ppl!!!
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Best: Being offered a new job.
Worst: Having to decide whether to take new job or stay put in current job. so many pros and cons. so stressed. Can’t sleep and not eating much cuz when I stress I become too anxious to eat.
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Best: went to the movies with my husband while the girls were at school. We saw “Batman, the dark knight rises”.
Best: my girls will be grading again at taekwondoe and they will be getting a lift with the father of a friend. As its an hours drive , I’m happy not to have to do the drive myself.
Worst: the uncertainty at work with the job cuts.
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Best: spending time with my beautiful grandchildren. Love ‘em to bits! Worst: nah! Can’t think of anything!
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Worst…I had the strangest feeling a good friend of mine was not okay. We had been playing “Words with Friends” and she hadn’t made a move in a couple of days. Another friend of ours had posted on her Facebook page that she would call her soon. So I text her asking if all was okay. She said no and would call me. She rang two minutes later to tell me her brother and sister-inlaw had lost their baby 2 days before it was due. Today was her due date and the have had to induce her to birth her lifeless little boy. I hung up and sobbed for them, then I hugged my own little 10 month old son extra tight. Ladies please hug your babies tonight and tell them how much you love them. My heart bleeds for all the parents who have empty arms.
Best…life is finally starting to head in the right domestic direction. Holiday, new house and possible career move if I stay focused…MUST STAY FOCUSED!!!
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So many bests & worsts this week…
WORST: A $1.8 billion dollar cut to education whilst the NSW State Government give a $300 million dollar tax cut to clubs – aka poker machine operators. Someone please explain this madness. I also missed out on a desperately wanted permanent teaching job – at least the principal told me as I was walking out of school so I could go straight to my car and sob in privacy.
BEST: Seven days until I go to Italy, Greece and Dubai for three weeks. Yep – in seven days I’ll be on that Emirates flight – yippeee!!!
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I’ve already posted but I’ve got a best of the day! My brother and I helped an elderly couple find their dog at the dog park late this afternoon when we took our doggy there to play! This young dog, Lucy, ran off into the bushland on a scent and there was a road nearby. She wouldn’t come back so my brother ran of into the bush to find her and I walked with the lady along the adjacent path calling. Lucy FINALLY came back so we walked back to the park, only to find that the husband had walked into the rocky bush to look too. So my brother ran in again to find him, then helped him back up to the park. The old guy tried to pay my brother $15 as a reward but he refused to take it
They were so cute, they shook our hands and said how grateful they were, thanked us like 10 times, said what nice young people we were etc etc. It was such a nice warm fuzzy feeling and I feel so good I helped them out
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You are both amazing – what a wonderful story!
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I see that serial Twitterer and hilarious comedian, Catherine Deveny, has been at it again !
This time, her offer to kill Qld Premier Newman, has resulted in a visit from the Boys in Blue.
Please, just take the bloody iPhone off her !!!!!!!
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I love dev!
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I love onions……
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I’m allergic to onions, so I guess it all works out.
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I would love to have some discussions about unruly children in classrooms, contrary to some people’s concepts a lot of these children come from “good” homes. 80% of the children in these classrooms are well behaved , want to learn and are capable of understanding why sometimes content is not “entertaining”.( let’s face it there has to be some time spent on basics and just the “why” of knowledge).
Yet schools are losing excellent teachers: some are retiring early, some are quitting after only a few years on the job. Don’t listen to the hype of the principles or the education department, go to you school and sit outside a room and watch your child’s behaviour!!!!!!
Now they are removing those people who were to “help” with students who had problems. Years ago when they closed down special schools it was with the understanding that there would always be a helper around.
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I agree Kate. I am in my first year of teaching and I think the things that will determine whether I go the distance will be the insane workload and the fact that I don’t think we teachers have the parents support. If you tell a parent that the child has behaved unacceptable, only to have them defend that behavior, what can you do? Don’t get me wrong, many parents are supportive, but those hat aren’t, and who are very vocals about it make life by difficult for us. Teenagers have always thought they w the centre of the universe, but now the parents do to, and they expect teachers and schools to agree.
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Kate I agree with you. There are some absolute serial delinquents at my kids school. We’re talking affluent area, professional parents, well cared for children. Whose behaviour is off the richter scale and their parents refuse to fully acknowledge the problem, or dismiss it or blame the school, the teacher, the other kids, claim the child is being bullied etc etc..when the truth is their child has a behavioural problem that needs to be addressed.
From my experiece te parents who blame the school and other kids for their childs problems need to have a good look at themselves and their child.
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Family daycare is great! And there will be so many benefits for your little girl, once she adjusts to her new friends/carers. My advice would be to tell her about it in advance and talk about all the new toys and other kids she will get to meet, and the nice ladies who will let her play at their house etc. make it sound kind of magical, so her imagination is tweaked by all the new experiences, instead of feeling threatened by a new house. And also explain that you won’t be there but reinforce that you will come back for her after her Arvo tea or lunch, so she grasps a time frame. The more she understands the easier it will be. Praise and telling her how proud you are will boost her up as well. If possible, try to visit the carers house and spend Half an hour there together before she starts, long enough for her to get used to the new place and to spark some interest in the new toys etc. she may be around babies so maybe talking up ‘responsibility’ could help, ie ‘you’re the big girl so you’ll get to help the lady with the little babies! You’re going to be so good at that, aren’t you!’ or something.
My daughter is three and loves her family daycare. We just call it ‘Jo’s house’ and she knows the days of the week she is going, so the routine helps her understand a lot as well. The better relationship with the carer she develops the easier it will be, too… Even if she is upset at first, I bet she will grow to love her visits. Good luck, hope this helps! Xx
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Thanks, Stacey87. I’ve got no qualms about it being it family daycare as a friend of mine has had her girl in a really good one since she was one or so. Her daughter calls her carer her ‘daycare mum’ & they have a great little relationship. I spoke to a psychologist recently & they suggested putting daughter in for two days over one day as it would help with the familiarity & build a bond sooner. A week is a long time for a little kid!
We started a new playgroup a couple of months ago & it is being run by three different ladies who take turns each week. This has been good for my daughter as she has had to meet new people & get comfortable with interacting with them which she has done. But I am there the entire time, except if I go to the bathroom without her.
I definitely want to visit first. There are two places locally both with spaces, so I’ll be visiting first on my own & then with daughter so she can get a feel for the place. I also thought of starting with short days if that works for the family daycare people, maybe 9am-1pm at first, then build it up to until 2:30pm which is when kindy will finish next year. How we talk it up will depend on the age & mix of kids already attending, I think.
Thanks very much for responding with all your great ideas!
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Best of the week: My 22nd birthday on Tuesday! I had a lovely day with the bf, then a nice dinner with him and the family.
Best 2: My tax return money is now in my bank account ready for a shopping trip (or mini holiday) woohoo!
Worst: I’ve been eating pretty unhealthily all week and I’m seeing a dietician next week. I’m really struggling with my weight. Medically speaking I’m not overweight, my BMI is normal but because I’m so short (5’2”) any extra weight really shows. My anti-epileptic medication and the pill both have weight gain as a side effect, so it’s like a double whammy. And my options for other contraception are very limited due to my epileptic medicaction. It’s just really hard to shift the weight, and it’s frustrating because I do a lot of exercise and always seem to get muscle, not have the weight come off around the bum and thighs like I would like.
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Is an IUD an option? Low doses of hormones and lasts for five years but can be taken out any time.
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Yeah, that’s pretty much the only other option. I’m not really that keen for it though :-/
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Crunchie, I was really anti getting an IUD, I hated the thought of it but for lots of reasons it was the only option for me. I’ve had it since Nov ’11 and love it. No periods, just some light spotting and I don’t even know it is there. If you don’t like what the pill is doing for you then I would give it some consideration. Happy to chat to you more about it if you want any more info.
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Make sure you check up about the risks of infection, perforation, etc though! I’m sure they are rare, but they’re higher than with other contraceptives.
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Best: Our 4yo daughter went to a new swimming school with her dad yesterday afternoon & got in the water with the male swimming instructor, without her dad, for the assessment to place her in a class. This is such a big step for her as she is normally glued to one or the other of us & won’t usually be willing to engage with male adults that she doesn’t know. We’re both really pleased that she’ll start swimming classes tomorrow & that we won’t have to get in the pool.
Worst: Husband has had a rash all week that he’s taking anti-histamines for. The doctor says it’s an allergic reaction but we think it could be a heat rash as we can’t think of any likely allergens that he’s come into contact with. If it’s not better by the end of the weekend he’ll be back to the doctors Monday morning.
OMM: How do I tell a very bright almost 4yo daughter, who’s had me as SAHM since she was born, that she’s going to family daycare one or two days a week from next month until she starts kindy in late January? I’m worried about how she’ll react. Any advice from any one who’s experienced something like this would be appreciated.
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Oops… I commented on this post but posted it a few comments up… My bad
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Jeez, I haven’t B&W’ed for ages!
Worst:
I had a tonsillectomy a few days ago and I’m in quite a lot of (read: immense) pain. It was my first ever general anaesthetic and my anxiousness coupled with my reaction to the pain meds meant a very, very miserable couple of days in hospital. I was throwing up constantly and probably had an hour’s sleep. There were many tears from exhaustion and frustration.
Best:
I’m back at home now and so so so much happier. It’s so much more restful than the hospital and I’m a lot more comfortable and relaxed. Also – I’ll never have tonsillitis again!! Woo hoo!
OMM:
I have a new found appreciation for how hard it must be to be in hospital for long periods of time. Obviously we have great hospitals in Australia and I was in a very nice private hospital, but I still could not wait to go home and I was only there for two days.
It gives me a sliiighter better understanding of how some women want to have home births. I have always been adamant that I would have my children in a hospital but I understand that if you’d had a traumatic experience in a hospital you’d feel reluctant about going back. I have to have another three operations in the next year and after this one I am not looking forward to them AT ALL.
Hope everyone has a nice week
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I had my tonsils taken out age 8. They say the older you get, the more painful it is and longer it takes to recover. I was only in hospital overnight and took 5 days to recover. I remember it hurting HEAPS, so I can’t imagine what you’re going through. Hope you feel better soon! On the bright side, no more tonsillitis will bother you
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Thanks Crunchie! Yes, my surgeon was saying that it is a much more serious and painful operation to have as an adult. I wish I’d had them out as a child because as a 23 year old it’s not a lot of fun! But I’ll get there in the end, thanks for the kind wishes x
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Welcome back!
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I had a very traumatic experience when I gave birth to my daughter in the hospital. Now I shudder whenever I have to walk into one. I had to have two IV drips plus I had the flu and I almost died during labour. Not fun
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Best: Finally buying the dream lounge… Current lounge is sooo bad that nobody ever wants to watch TV because it’s just so uncomfortable
Worst: Waiting for 7 weeks to get it delivered…
OMM: Cushions! Wheres the best place to get good looking cushions??
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I like the cushions on Table Tonic
Although I get bored easily, so I only buy really cheap cushions – Spotlight, Kmart, Big W, etc – and switch them around all the time.
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If you want to splurge, anthropologie.com – looovely.
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Etdy! House of Pillows sells all kinds of ones and they’re Filled and so dirt cheap!
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Worst – In the last week my partner lost his job, the finance on the house we were trying to buy fell through, and I got a $1500 bill from the tax man
Best – At least it’s Friday!
OMM – All the Queenslanders out of work, and wondering how much worse it’s going to get. My partner doesn’t even work for the government, but they say for every one job lost in the public sector, two go in the private through loss of contracts and business…
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Best: My teenager leaves on her first overseas trip this weekend to stay with a host family in Germany. She is very nervous about the flight but we think once she gets there it will be a great experience for her.
Worst: feeling very tired and in need of a holiday myself. Have several close friends going thru dramas lately and I think supporting them has drained me a bit. Summer holidays cant come soon enough.
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Best of the week: being published on mamamia! Thanks so much for helping promote my new little venture, Fairy Tales for Hope, which is a community arts project raising funds for vital stillbirth research.
Worst: (ok not the worst, just a wee bit disappointing) is that the story is a bit lost on the site, and I’m not sure it is reaching many mamamia readers. I would love it if people could click over and have a read at http://www.mamamia.com.au/mamamia-cares/stillbirth-fairy-tales-for-hope/ or check out our Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/fairytalesforhope
Thank you so much. I know you are all as passionate as I am about breaking down the taboos around babies dying.
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Thanks so much for reporting the link, I never saw the original story. I’m off to purchase now, they are so beautiful!
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Absolutely beautiful! I just purchased one too!
Also shared on my FB page
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Thanks so much Sarah and Lindy, that means a lot.
Sally xo
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Hey Sally, I read your blog & have been deciding on a print (or 2) to buy. Awesome it’s on mamamia!!! I hope lots of people see the story and support such a heartbreaking but important cause x
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Best: Only an hour left of work. It’s been a long, long week
Worst: we haven’t been pre-approved yet but the mortgage broker is positive it will be completed early next week. House I want is being auctioned tomorrow. Although we have all the money and everything in place I don’t want to bid not being 100% in case anything goes wrong. $50K+ is alot to lose for rushing into things.
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I’m sorry for this terrible whinge but I’m feeling so overwhelmed. I have no one to talk to but need to let it out. I’m incredibly stressed as I’m nearly broke and am living in a hotel with my two beautiful dogs.
God the past few years have been horrendous and it’s taken me two years to recover from my overdose which left me in a coma and in hospital for many weeks.
Honestly I”ve had more horrendous things happen to me in the past few years than 1000 people would have in their entire lifetime…..
But I’m staying strong this time, I’m determined to not let it get me down. I have to stay strong and work thru this to get to the other side. I’m determined to sort my life out and make it good.
I just feel so incredibly alone and so scared. I have no family and no friends. The friends I did have have really let me down. i know that people have problems but they have no idea what it’s like to be completely and totally alone. I wish they could just imagine what it’s like to have absolutely no one to help you.
I’m made some really terrible mistakes especially in my last two relationships which were abusive. I’m not proud of how I’ve behaved but I’ve been thru so much. I now feel much better, I feel strong again now which I haven’t felt since the overdose and my partner leaving me. And I”ve learnt how important it is how you react to what happens.
I only have enough money to last us another five days at this hotel and then we’re basically homeless. I won’t give up my dogs, they are everything to me.
When I overdosed my oldest friend didn’t even bother to call me and dropped me completely. So much for Are you OK day… I know I sound cynical but when people found out I’d suicided they dropped me in person and on facebook…. The very same people will post hypocritical messages about helping people when they are suicidal.
I’m lucky as I have had considerable success in my career and I work in a specialist field… I just have to get some clients asap. Four years ago I ran a successful business, owned my own beautiful home, had good friends……and I lost the lot, all because I got involved with a sociopath…
But I’m confident I can build it all up again and better, I just have to get thru this last bad bit.
Anyway sorry for the rant I just had to let it out. I will be ok.
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Remember, if you can get thru all of that, you can conquer anything! You can!
Don’t be afraid to ask the salvos for help.
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Hang in there Overwhelmed. Can you get centrelink assistance? What about a women’s refuge? Is there a dog fostering service in the town you are in who could find a temporary place for your dogs to hang out while you get back on your feet? Thinking of you, Jen x
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You sound like a very strong person and I only hope you can draw on this strength when you are feeling so overwhelmed. Please ask for help – ring Lifeline, talk to the Salvos, go and see someone at Centrelink. Sort out the logistics of life first and then you can start building a future – joining some clubs to meet people that kind of thing. In the meantime, go home, hug your dogs, take them for a walk on the weekend. One step at a time, one day at a time.
Hang in there.
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“When you’re going through hell, keep going”
- Winston Churchill.
Stay strong, Overwhelmed. I don’t think you mentioned what city you’re in but all major cities in Australia will have community, charitable and government organisations that will be able to provide support. As others have said, try the Salvation Army, women’s refuge and homeless shelters. These places exist to help people like yourself and you mustn’t be shy about asking for help. You are obviously a strong minded person and you’ll be back on your feet before you know it. Wishing you all the best x
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It may seem trite but my spin instructor said in class today – you will be fitter at the end of this class than you were at the beginning if you ignore the voice in your head that says ‘I cant.’ I don’t understand being suicidal or abusive relationships as I haven’t experienced either, so I can’t speak to those terrible trials you have suffered through. But I can say that so often in life we undertake a task we are incapable of finishing, and somehow by the end of it we are capable. Don’t listen to the voice that tells you can’t get there – you will in the end. How strong you must be to go through what you have. And anyway. dogs can get you through anything!!
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I agree, the fact that through all your hard times you can still care for your dogs says everything. Animals bring comfort and reward. You will get through this because you have chosen to.
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Thank you so much Lex, xx
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Thank you so much for your kind words, I am enormously grateful. My dogs are beautiful, they are so special and I adore them. xxx
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Lovely Overwhelmed, I think you normally post under a different name? I’m so sorry to hear that you’re down. Remember, the pain is one day further in the past and you’re one day closer to happiness.
Why don’t you google caretaking, house sitting or live in housekeeping/nannying jobs? There’s a wonderful future just around the corner, I know there is. We just have to help you find it.
Walk into your nearest salvation army and lay your cards on the table. My Nan always told me that her family would have starved to death without them. They will help you, Overwhelmed. Ask for help and you’ll get it. It’s nothing to be ashamed about. You get help, then when you can, you help someone else.
*Please* let us know how you get on. I watch for your posts to make sure you’re doing ok. Xx
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Best: I made a commitment to myself this week, time to stop this cycle of bad eating, weight gain, weight loss. I’m over it. So I’m not on a diet I’m just going to live a healthy life, a life that involves moderation, exercise, treats at times and feeling good!
Worst: the kick start I needed for the above was a bout of Gastro at the start of the week, hubby was interstate the whole time! Yuck!
Worst #2 My biggest boy tripped and smashed his chin on the floor last night requiring a trip to the local paeds emergency department. Nothing like bundling three kids into the car in the dark, navigating a new city in peek hour and trying to find a hospital! We made it, he was patched up and all’s well that ends well! A totally vain aside, I was still in my gym gear and had been drenched by rain and wind swept at school pick up. I saw myself in the mirror after getting home from the hospital and was horrified about how horrendous I looked! I looked frightening! Even my hubby laughed and said it wasn’t my finest hour!
OMM How is the MM team finding the pre moderation? Do you think it’s working? I did lots of commenting later last night and missed the comments not being there and the comments that would have naturally followed. I am however loving the nice feel to the site. Not sure what the answer is to keeping the site feeling so lovely and yet maintaining chatter at all times. I would love to hear your thoughts.
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Today’s best: A really hot guy just stopped me on the street, shook my hand, stared at me and said, “Shit, congratulations, you are ridiculously attractive”. Made. My. Day.
Making it my mission to pass it on by complimenting someone else (although probably in a slightly less blunt and to-the-point way!).
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that is so cool! What a great compliment!
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That is awesome! Good work Jane
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BEST – Started to rain just before my kids athletics training. Seeing the new fancy circus show OVO.
WORST – Sitting behind Barry O’Farrell at fancy circus show OVO and resisting the urge to ask him why he has decided to cut our Education Budget by 1.7 BILLION DOLLARS! Or flicking his ears a bit.
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You should ask the alp what they did during the last 16 years to make him have to.
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Worst: im pregnant, my mum died 4 yrs ago on the 8th of september,dad who lets me down alot , calls me to tell me he is going to bora bora with his girlfriend when my baby is due, so i will have no parent to share the news with.
Best:
My dog senses that im upset and has not left my side all day.
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We will all be here awaiting your baby news. I know its not the same, but its nice to know people care.
Glad you have your dog with you.
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Thank you so much. Funny how a complete stranger can bring a smile to your face.
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Worst: im pregnant, my mum died 4 yrs ago on the 8th of september, dad who lets me down alot , calls me to tell me he is going to bora bora with his girlfriend when my baby is due, so i will have no parent to share the news with.
Best:
My dog senses that im upset and has not left my side all day.
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Sorry to hear that your dad is being so thoughtless.
Please feel free to share the news of arrival of your beautiful bub with the online Mamamia community.
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Thank you, so good to know some people are thoughtful
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Aren’t dogs the best ?! I love mine – he’s my little buddy. He snuggles up to me on the couch and he sleeps on the end of my bed. If I am in bed asleep at any time, including naps – he knows that should be in there with me and leans against the door until I let him in! I hope yours will become your baby’s guardian and pal. Give him a tummy rub for me
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One of my best for the day was seeing a new post from the funny guys at Things Bogans Like.
For anyone who can’t (or doesn’t want to!) understand the hype surrounding the Fifty Shades books, you may enjoy this!
http://thingsboganslike.com/2012/09/14/253-fifty-shades-of-grey/
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Hilarious. Thanks for sharing this!
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Best: it is spring and warm and I can smell citrus blossom coming through my whole house.
Worst: A colleague committed suicide, she was only in her 40s. Gutting for a very close work team.
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Best: I’m going to see the Saphires tonight!
Worst: I’ve had an upset tum and the worst sleep all week.
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The Sapphires is fantastic – you will love it. So proud it is an Aussie film too. Wonder if it will win any Oscars…
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Hi Jetski, he’s missing you too- what a romantic!
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BEST:
Celebrated 4 year wedding anniversary yesterday with an AMAZING dinner at the Four in Hand in Sydney! Absolutely superb food and excellent service! When your night’s out are few and far between it’s always good when they are awesome!
WORST:
Pinched nerve in the back rendering me UNABLE to move. Made the week with a 1yo and 2 yo…..interesting…… and very painful!
HAPPY PHRIDAY EVERYONE!!!
Oh and other BEST – writing again for Mamamia! Come on over and join in the Rocky Road conversation – I’m there now ready and waiting to answer everyone’s food and cooking questions!
http://www.mamamia.com.au/food/phoodie-phridays-rocky-road-recipe/
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The Four in hand is lovely – enjoy!
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Thanks Sarah!
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Phoodie, I’m totally making the rocky road this weekend
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Yay!! But which one!?! Or all three!?
Good luck!
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Best: A project I’ve been working on has successfully launched this week. It’s a new recipe storing and sharing website called Love to Share. If you’re into food it’s worth checking out….lovetoshare.com.au. There’s also a TV show starting on Ten tomorrow afternoon. Might have to get Lana to post her famous salad dressing on the site. It’s been an enormous effort to get it to this stage and I’m really proud of the whole team.
Worst: Generally exhausted. Need a holiday.
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Looks amazing going to put up my chicken salad recipe!
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Congrats Simone it looks AWESOME!
I can’t wait to start using it!
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Worst: Sick sick sickity sick.
Best: Lemon, Lime & Bitters Frosty Fruits. Who knew, right? Delicious and helping with my sandpaper throat.
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Best: this beautiful sunshine
Worst: constant tiredness
OMM: Having a decade b’day in a weeks and would like to stay with my 5 year old girl in a swish hotel in Sydney. She loves the idea of staying in a hotel, watching TV in bed etc and I thought it would be a treat for me too! Anyone have any suggestions? I was thinking of a place in the city/The Rocks, not sure about Darling Harbour. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
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Happy Birthday. We love the Taj Blue Hotel in Woolloomooloo. We’ve stayed there the last few times as it is really luxurious, the staff are fantastic and it’s the best value for money when you are travelling with kid lets. Our son loves their indoor heated pool and the big hotel breakfasts.
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The Shangri La in The Rocks. Highly recommend it!
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best (I hope) is that I am doing the half marathon on the weekend. I’ve been training for so long so I’m glad its finally arrived. Fingers crossed I make it across the finishing line!
Worst has been listening to all the 20-something girls in my office talk about crazy diets and detoxs all week. They’re all so desperate to lose weight and yet healthy eating and basic exercise never gets a mention. It makes me sad for them.
And drives me a little crazy when they look at me and sa “oh you have no problems”. I slog out over 100km in runs a week, its really hard and it sucks when others trivialise it.
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Worst:
On Sunday when I was sick in bed, I heard a bang outside. Two minutes later my boyfriend came in and told me someone had hit my car and driven off (despite my bf seeing the look on her face which clearly showed she knew she’d hit my car). great. Couldn’t open my rear door due to the damage. Great. Luckily my bf had written down her number plate, and my darling bf went across the road to the house she backed out of and they gave him her mobile number.
Best: Once I rang the girl and talked to her about what had happened what had happened, she was really apologetic and had sorted out the insurance stuff by the next morning. The insurance company was also really helpful.
Best #2: Booked a trip to overseas:)
OMM: How people can drive off without leaving a note? I understand if you don’t realise you’ve actually hit something, and that people panic but my first instinct would be to pull over and check? also how to tell my housemates I’m moving out. :/
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Great boyfriend you have!
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I commented hours ago and it never appeared… sooo here it is again..?
Worst: My little princess is sick with tonsilitis and an ear infection, poor little thing. She is being so brave and putting on a smiley face though, and thankfully my workplace is being so awesome and understanding about it all!
Best: Finals Footy (without my team btw) is on tonight, and I am cuddling up with a yummy home cooked meal, some caramel mudcake, my teddy and my boyfriend. I love these nights, I cant wait to be all cute and flirty and silly, it’s the little things sometimes
Worst/OMM: My male friend has a 3yo daughter with his ex, who has primary custody. She now has a new partner and is expecting bub number 2 soon. The issue though is that she is teaching their 3yo to call her new partner “daddy” as well as her actual Dad. Obviously, the real Dad is very hurt by this and has tried asking and explaining for this to be different, as he feels he is a major part of his daughter’s life and wants to have the privelidge of being her only Dad. Of course, the new partner is definitely a father figure and will probably soon become her step-dad, but it is still upsetting my friend. Unfortunately his ex doesn’t really care and is not changing anything.
Has anyone else heard about something like this, or been involved? Is there anything the real Dad can do, or does he just have to live with it? His ex is also planning to change their daughter’s surname to her own, and not her father’s, if this is relevant.
I really want to offer my frined words of advice or comfort but I am afraid there isn’t much he can do as a secondary custodial parent…
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Can she legally change the kids name without her father’s consent?(Not a lawyer so I dont know) I reckon he should put her on notice that he doesnt not approve and will oppose any attempt to change the childs name.
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well she wants to just add her surname to it, ie have it hyphonated. Apparently she doesn’t need him to sign off, she is able to get it changed alone. He says it isn’t a huge issue (even though their names together is a real mouthful), he just wants to be the only man his daughter calls “Daddy”…
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That sucks.
My partner has 2 kids and I’m really careful to stay out of ‘mum’ territory with them. I figure they have a mum, that dont need me for that and I dont want to step on toes. Its a pity others cant see it that way.
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I wouldn’t be so sure. I’m not sure what the laws are for your state or whether they’ve changed since I did it, but I had to go to court to change the kids names without their fathers consent. I also had to prove the steps I’d taken to try to get in contact with him and why I wanted to change their names. Tell your friend to talk to a lawyer.
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Hey MMers
My worst –
When I first logged in to post, I was crying. Having a bit of a pity party for one atm. Just feeling a bit overwhelmed by no work on the horizon and all the responsibilities I have, with no soft place to fall. One of my best friends moves 3 hours away next week and I’m going to miss her so much. My lack of bloke sitch is also getting me down. Got a text msg suggesting a booty call from my I assume drunk ex bf, the cranky ranga, and that just pissed me off.
But for once I flicked through the galleries first – i’ll admit – looking for some fashion inspiration as I’m heading into the city for a surprise party for my cousin. And thankyou, MM. It cheered me up. And I read through all the posts today and there is a general happy vibe for most.
So my best I guess is still knowing that even though things are a bit shit at the moment, I can still find a reason to smile.
Have to share my cherub chuckles this morning – the teenager said she felt like she forgot something on the way to school this morning. I suggested ‘Braaaiiiinnnsss’. She replies: Nah – I never had any to start with
The youngest, on the way back from taking bigger sis to the bus, notices a street sign and says ‘We’re on Ugly street, mum’. I replied; Babe – its pronounced ‘Argyle’.
Have a good weekend, my online amigos x
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Haven are you in Sydney? Cause I think you and I need to meet up to bitch and drink and laugh and shit. Not the literal shit, because you aren’t allowed to do that in public.
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Cuppy I sure am!!!
MM – can you work your magic and maybe shoot us each other’s email addys?
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HM – You are awesome and I love the stories!
If you guys wanna both email me at phoodietweets@gmail.com – I will send you both emails back with each others deets!
Phoodie – MM Community Moderator
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Oh just big hugs HM. Hopefully today seems just a little bit brighter (especially if the sun is out, generally that makes the world brighter because of things like physics and all
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Best: My team won our netball grand final, yay! Enjoying the cute antics of my 2 yr old this week. Lots of cuddles, ‘oh dears’ and I think she was just kissing her toy pram ‘better’
Worst: Overwhelming tired so also struggling with the never ending antics of my gorgeous toddler. Hoping to feel better in my second trimester- on a positive note got good results for 13 wk ultrasound
OMM: how to last to 5 o’clock when hubby gets home…and are these hayfever symptoms starting??
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I remember when I was pregnant with #2 and again with #3, just how tiring the 1st and 3rd trimesters are when you’ve got a toddler in tow. The first pregnancy is relatively easy because it’s all about you. If you get tired, you can lie down. If you want to eat dirt for dinner, then you can. But subsequent pregnancies are about everyone BUT you.
I remember spending lots of time lying on the lounge room floor with the tv on ABC because being down there already was the easiest place to manage toddler needs from. The toddler didn’t really watch the tv but it seemed to be a good distraction sometimes. Can you plan to do everything you need to in the mornings so that by the afternoon you can have some quiet time?
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Best: I won two pairs on Chuck Taylors on ebay for $10! Bargain! One pair has a dodgy pattern on it so I am going to try my hand at dyeing canvas. Wish me luck.
Worst: Had a pap smear yesterday (which I have neglected to do for, ahem, many years). She found a cervical eversion, which is kind of like a lesion, not cancerous, but she recommended a colposcopy, which she explained as a short painless microscope test thing. When I booked the test, the receptionist told me it was an hour long, that it was a procedure and that I would need ibuprofen before and after. What kind of freaking microscope examination is this??
OMM: Having a bad week in general. Can’t wait for the weekend!
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Oh Rach I hope it all goes well. I had one done last year over here and had also put off doing it for a few years (oops!) well just shows we have to be consistent with it!
I can’t wait for the weekend either!
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Hi Rach the Muso.
I have had a couple of colposcopies in the past and the basics are that you will lay on a bed with your feet in stirrups (fun!) and your bum right down the end of the bed and the person will put a special set of binoculars (only way to describe them) close to you and look at your cervix (double fun!!).
If they need to do a biopsy they put a thingy in and make you cough at which point they take a teeny weeny snip (super duper amazing fun!)
This is what has happened at mine and to be honest, it is a bit embarrassing, and it is uncomfortable but not unbearably painful. They usually do a cervical swab or 2 and you may have some period like cramps for a few hours afterwards (hence the ibuprofen) and if you had a biopsy there may be a spot or 2 of blood. Personally I have never taken any painkillers before hand but after yes.
I hope I haven’t stressed you out but I like to know what’s going to happen, takes away the unknown.
I promise, it’s not the worst thing ever. Good luck x
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For the past couple of years, I have had procedures, colposcopies and various other tests every 6mths. The 1st appointment was by far my worst experience. I thought it was absolutely barbaric.
Take pain killers before and definitely afterwards.
Also, I don’t bleed just couple of drops – more like 4 days of constant (light) bleeding.
It does knock me for 6 but its better than the alternative.
I can’t wait until I finally get the all clear.
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Rach – I was like lealea.
A few cramps and only some bleeding that a reasonable panty liner dealt with.
I have had colposcopies and biopsies done a few times and they never told me to take painkillers. Just mentioned to take them afterwards if needed.
The first one is the worst because it is fear of the unknown but just remember it is not going to take long and will be worth it. The procedure is just as lealea described it.
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Best 1#: Sign up for bootcamp is all done and I start Tuesday! Two months of pain but it will be worth it! I also made my self go for a half walk/job for 40 minutes last night. SO satisfying! And a MAJOR achievement as I really haven’t exercised since it was compulsory in high school back in 2002!
Best 2#: it will be sunny in Perth tomorrow, my BF’s cricket grand final is on, the girls are coming and it will be a lovely day in the sun with free bubbly, my GF’s and very nice boys to watch
Cant think of any worsts and I don’t want to!
OMM: Getting kittens, air-con and doing up my house.
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Can I recommend that you buy some magnesium?
If you’re not a regular exerciser, you’ll have very sore muscles for a few weeks. Magnesium tablets help a lot!
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Thanks! I will look into that
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Best of the week: It was my birthday.
Worst of the week: I turned 42.
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But 2 is the Answer to the Ultimate Question of Life, The Universe, and Everything!! 42 is Awesome!
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It is! Love the HGTG reference
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