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by KAHLA PRESTON

Like most Frosty Fruit-guzzling Australians, I love the summer break. Doing, watching, eating and reading whatever I like, whenever I like – I’m all over it like a hormonal teenager on a One Direction poster.

But for the first time in my life, I was itching to swap my ‘watching six consecutive episodes of Mad Men with cider in hand’ holiday lifestyle to go back to work last week.

No, really.

Let me explain before you reach over to check my temperature.

I’ve been interning here at Mamamia since August, in tandem with my final semester of study. Just before Christmas, in the midst of a post-graduation “Uh… what now?” crisis, I was asked whether I’d be interested in joining the MM editorial team for a few days a week. After administering a pinch to my forearm to determine that, no, this was not actually a sugar-induced hallucination, I accepted faster than you can say “dream job.”

And so, here I am, loving the working life. The MM office is a fun, friendly, fast-paced – and yes, sometimes quite stressful – place to work, and there’s NEVER a dull moment.

Within the space of fifteen minutes I could be loading posts on the latest controversy in politics, researching for a story about foreign affairs, or locating the most recent image of an eligible male celebrity. It’s exciting and mentally stimulating in a way that three-hour brunches – whilst delicious and relaxing – are not.

They say that if you love your job, you’ll never work a day in your life – now I completely understand that.

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Rosie Waterland’s story

While work was the standout candidate for my best this week, a close runner-up was the season 2 premiere of Girls (which was pretty great, by the way). This was one reason Mia’s body image postyesterday had me nodding away in solidarity.

Having been bombarded with cookie-cutter images of female beauty for the duration of my media-consuming life, I find the variety of body shapes within the Girls cast refreshing and relatable. And not in that blatant, patronising, “Look – a ‘plus-size’ model! How very inclusive we are!” fashion magazine way. More like a, “Yeah, women (and men) come in different shapes and sizes – can we get back to the storyline now?way. I only hope other forms of media will eventually adopt the same attitude.

As for the worst, Rosie Waterland’s account of her horrifying experience in foster care made my stomach churn. Thousands of stories of child abuse, like Rosie’s, are so often untold and unheard. They’re swept under the rug, with no closure or justice achieved for the victims.

That’s why the Federal Royal Commission into child abuse is so important – as Rosie so perfectly articulated, it could finally give a voice to the countless children too scared to speak up. That would be enough to turn this worst into a best.

Now it’s your turn. Time to sit down, rip open an icy pole and tell us: what’s been your best and worst this week?

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  1. A beautiful week

    Best: Our long awaited for baby boy was born on Wednesday!
    Worst: There will never be a worst week as long as my son is happy and healthy ! :)

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  2. Anna

    BEST – im just over 9 weeks pregnant and have been trying to figure out the best way to tell one of my very dear friends who has been struggling with infertility for the last 4 years. having been through it myself I know how hard it can be to hear other peoples good news… even people close to you that you love. but then the most amazing thing happened…. the same day i was going to tell her she phoned me to tell me she just found out she was 7 weeks pregnant!! we both had a good old cry together…. 4 years of tests and treatments and failure after failure…. and in the end they fell pregnant naturally while waiting to start the next treatment!!!! i so badly want everything to go well for her in this pregnancy. Its still so early in both of our pregnancies and having had a miscarriage last year im all too aware of how in a moment your dreams can be turned upside down, so im trying very hard not to fill my head with images of us with pregnant bellies on shopping sprees for tiny clothes and prams etc.

    Worst: the WAITING!!! i saw my baby on ultrasound a week ago and everything looked great, saw a strong heartbeat and right size for my dates, but its still another 3 weeks till my next OB appointment (and end of 1st trimester), and it seems like every day is a lifetime waiting to know if this tiny one is still ok

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  3. Shaye

    I just got into my Bachelor of Education via correspondence too! I am so excited and also terrified as its been 8 years since I have done any schooling! Congratulations!

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    • hms

      Congratulations! I’ve studied at TAFE, via distance ed and at uni. Each has it challenges and rewards – my advice would be to set aside the same time each day/week to work on your units and stick to it. When I first started studying via distance I kept thinking it’s ok, I’ll study more tomorrow and ended up really behind. Once I set myself a timetable, and stuck to it, it became much, much easier.

      Hope all goes well!

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  4. Lucinda

    Best 1: Starting my new job this week teaching kindergarten/pre-prep on my first year out of uni. It seems to be a nice centre with a good bunch of people and great kids.

    Best 2: All this positive thinking and laws of attraction stuff must be already working because on the second day of my job I got a call from a local school offering me a term teaching contract.

    Worst: I turned down aforesaid contract simply because I am hearing a lot of negative stuff about the national curriculum and all this scripted lesson plan stuff in Queensland and realised that despite my insistence in the last year that I wanted to be in a school because I love kids that are little bit older and able to learn more, that I didn’t feel very confident about navigating the curriculum while still trying to get my head around effective behaviour management etc. I just hope that I enjoy the opportunity that is already in front of me and learn lots, because I don’t want that decision to play on my mind. (FYI, the job I stuck with is paying almost identical graduate teacher wage, with plenty of release time and nearly as many holidays, but without report cards and marking assignments)

    Best 3: After I turned down school contract, my boss told me another teacher applicant she found is starting in another week; in the same room with me because they want to put her in their new centre due to open up in August. This could be an excellent learning opportunity for a newbie teacher like me.

    Best 4: Romance potential? A little over a year ago, my uncle was showing photos to some work colleagues of his trip to FNQ for my little sisters wedding¸ and his male colleague asked who I was because he thought I was cute. Uncle then asked me if he could add me to facebook, Fairly harmless benign banter ensued. I didn’t think anything could possibly come of it as he lives on the other side of the country and he is so reserved that I thought he would never “make a move” so to speak. Until a week ago when my mother had gone to home to visit family in WA and was getting pissed with uncle (her brother) and planning my wedding lol. They phoned asking me if they could give him my phone number because uncle apparently thinks we have the same vibe and that I am a girl version of him. I agreed and it turns out I actually like him. We spoke for a couple of hours and he is thinking of coming to visit at Easter. He is not super good looking, but blonde and fair which is my type, he is musical and can sing well¸ works in IT on a good wage, is creative and a bit quirky and English with a nice London-y type accent. I think he is very sweet, though he is very tentative in the way he approaches things. We have texted each other daily, though it is not of flirtatious nature because for someone reason it doesn’t quite feel like the right approach. He has asked if he can phone again “I thought I might ring you again this weekend if that would be ok?” to which I said of course he can. He obviously does like me… the question is will his reserved and quiet nature stop anything from being able to eventuate from so far away? If it does, it will certainly make an interesting story at our wedding ha ha

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    • hellopetal

      He sounds very sweet. Wouldn’t it be funny if you do end up marrying one day? Stranger things have happened.

      Good luck with the teaching. Our daughter starts kindy in a fortnight too. I’ll be thinking of you at one end of the learning/teaching curve & her at the other.

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    • hms

      Congrats on your new job but I’m not sure who has told you about the C2Cs – they are suggested lesson plans with ideas on activities and some resources but you don’t have to use them. Many schools have chosen to do their own thing entirely. We used them at our school last year but we all mostly just followed the suggested teaching sequence and used the resources. How you teach the content is still up to you.

      Best wishes for your first year of teaching!

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      • Lucinda

        Thanks hms! The school I was offered a contract at definitely uses the C2Cs quite strictly. A lot of schools in the region are becoming very rigid with the way they deliver the national curriculum. My mum works for regional office in my area coaching teachers at schools all over the region and plans and delivers workshops and seminars on teaching the national curriculum – I did have a long chat to her about both options in the palm of my hand and she was very insistent that LOTS of early childhood teachers are not liking the national curriculum up here at all and were leaving the school system. I think because the region I live in has a high percentage of indigenous children in the state schools and is very culturally diverse and the national curriculum is a bit “one size fits all”, many teachers are against it. I do trust my mum, and i think another contract in a school will come up again later when i am more than confident enough to tackle it.

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        • hms

          Your mum is right, the national curriculum is still a little confusing (in the way it’s laid out) to follow for most of us which a part of the reason why the C2Cs were made, however, I find them very restrictive. The C2Cs move too fast through most of the concepts and make huge assumptions about what the kids already know. I’d hate to have to use them exactly as written. I do love the activity ideas and the suggested teaching sequences though. New versions have been released for this year for some subjects based on teacher feedback from last year and the ones I have seen have been simplified and feel much less scripted.

          You’ll have to update us throughout the year on how you are going!

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          • Kris2040

            I’m in NSW doing Primary, and they keep banging on to us about how we’ll be the first wave to teach under the NC when we graduate. We’ve done a few assignments where we went between the NSW curriculum and the National, and the only differences for quite a lot of it was that it was set out differently (and more confusingly!) and they’d re-ordered some of the focus areas, and combined some of them. A lot of it was word for word the NSW curriculum though.

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            • Lucinda

              Kris, the Qld Curriculum wasn’t so vastly different for the upper grades here either, and although the C2C moving toward becoming mandatory is a problem unto itself, the biggest problem is in the Early Years phase. Not sure about NSW but Qld Prep curriculum used to be play based as a transition into formal schooling. This was necessary because in prep children start as young as 4.5years and many have not been to Kindergarten or Daycare so are coming with very little in terms of the tools they need to start formal learning. Not only is this extremely stressful to prep teachers, but kids are now going to get left behind because the expectation for end of prep is too high for those coming with less. The domino effect will be such that children will be getting further behind as they advance further up the grades. When Kindergarten programs catch up or are taken on by the state then the gap will close. The government needs to step up and take responsibility for the fact that they have eliminated access to preschool programs for people who can’t afford it and it is leaving kids behind. Long story short, there are many prep teachers bailing because 4 and a half year olds cannot sit still all day and have rigid teacher directed lessons fed to them.

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  5. Chellebelle

    Best: Week two in my new job was awesome! Also great seeing how much more confident my young boys are getting in the water.

    Worst: as usual, chronic condition getting me down.

    OMM: losing weight

    FWP: seems I’ve left my run too late & all the cheap school shorts are sold out. We may have to buy the expensive school branded ones.

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  6. ...

    BEST: looking forward to my first holiday in almost 8months. worked straight through christmas and new year and work has been crazy busy this past year..looking forward to a bit of a break with one of my best friends :-)

    WORST: Grandad’s health going downhill fast and havn’t seen him in almost 2years. Can’t even go see him during my holiday due to tickets already been booked and non-refundable, and leave not being long enough to fit in flights there and back and being able to spend longer than a day with him. Hoping he holds on until march when I’ll hopefully be able to go over.

    OMM: Not sure what to think about this -> Met a guy whom I’ve met several times before in a work environment. The first and second time I met him there was a bit of a connection and he seemed curiously interested in me, and I sought his advice on a private matter, which he gave. Anyway, when I saw he’d be in the same workgroup again, I was a bit nervous as I wasn’t sure whether he’d remember what we’d discussed previously. Anyway, he did and actually sought me out to ask me about it and we got talking again, eventually going out for a bite to eat (me thinking others would be joining us, but it was just me and him). Long story short, he made a few comments in passing that kind of surprised me (eg; havn’t met the right person to marry though you’re probably the closest I’ve met, etc). Had a really fun time and we exchanged numbers and spent the night texting each other. Next day, I kept catching him looking at me and he’d come and talk/sit with me when he could. Anyway, since then, he’s been texting almost daily and we even met up for coffee quite late one night as he was in the area. He admits he enjoys my company and I’m one of the only few female friends he has. However, he has a girlfriend whom he’s been with for 2years, whom he speaks of very fondly but she’s said no to marriage and kids (she and I are the same age, he’s a few years older and wants kids and marriage soon). Also, they are from different cultures/religions which would make things slightly more complicated, whereas I am from the same religion/culture as him. He hasn’t mentioned me to the gf although I met her in passing few years ago, and I’ve told him I’m not happy him keeping her in the dark about us hanging out. Nothing has/will happen, it’s just that I feel she deserves to know, rather than to find out later. He says she’s cool with it and wouldn’t mind anyway, and we’re not doing anythg wrong but it still doesnt sit well with me. I like him as a person and the more I get to know him, the more I think he connect on a mental level too. I just don’t want to be played or taken along for a ride on the side, but I’m not sure if I’m overthinking the situation and should just go along with the friendship or if I should pull back and not keep in touch until he at least informs the gf we’re friends. I feel really strongly about standing up for the sisterhood and don’t want to upset her if she found out about me at a later stage, as my previous partners have always known about any male friends I had/ were in contact with, so I feel the same applies in the opposite situation…Am I right??

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    • Elsie

      Yes, you are absolutely right to feel uncomfortable about this situation. In my world, you do not betray the sisterhood… Ever! If you are just friends, he should introduce you to his girlfriend. Perhaps he is testing the waters so to speak – doesn’t want to leave his girlfriend until he is sure of his feelings for you? He needs to man-up and make a decision about his current relationship and what he wants in his future. If his girlfriend doesn’t want the same things then it is not meant to be. Only when he has sorted out one relationship will he be available to consider any other!

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      • elle

        I agree. Up until you said he had a gf I was 100% expecting you to say ‘is he into me?’ and i would’ve said HELL YES. Texting you everyday and meeting up at night without telling his gf is not cool. I think if he asks you to meet up again i’d say ‘i don’t feel 100% comfortable meeting up with you without your girlfriend knowing. If you let her know then I’d be happy to see you.’

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    • Lucinda

      Oh dear, I have been in this situation. Eventually I said no more until he leaves his girlfriend and moves out etc. He is only just starting to crawl back now, months later, when it is too late. He just wanted his cake and ate it too. Said we were doing nothing wrong texting constantly and flirting and were just friends, yet I never got invited as a friend to anything social and he never told his gf I existed.

      No. If he doesn’t want to tell his gf about you then this is not just about being friends, it is about playing with fire and keeping you on the end of his string. Tell him you would like him to behave like a “friend” and ditch the deception or no more. He can’t have it both ways. If you let him, then he will think it is okay.

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    • chillax

      Remember how he treats his girlfriend is how he will likely treat you if you were his girlfriend. A cheater is usually always a cheater.
      Dont trust him. And most importantly dont do this to another woman.

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  7. A week to remember

    Best: My son’s birth midweek, the feeling of seeing him for the first time blew my mind!
    Worst: No worst – I’m a mum !:)

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    • Lucinda

      Congratulations Mama! What did you name him?

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  8. Pinto

    Best: Living in London still remains fantastic and this week (and today) seeing snow for the first time! So minor for some people but for me very exciting!

    Best 2: Going to a mad show on Saturday night yes!!!

    Worst: Really feeling for all at home in Aus. Fire is a very scary thing so I’m being a bit too glued to the news sites for my own good.

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  9. Mel

    Question: did I miss the post of the interview with Naomi Watts? The one where she would be answering questions submitted by the MamaMia readers? I was looking forward to getting an answer to my question.
    Did you guys overestimate the excitement of your readers? Was the response underwhelming?

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  10. hellopetal

    Best for me: Finally got back to yoga last night after having an injury late last year & a few setbacks with yoga night (husband given tickets to the cricket, splitting headache the next week). It was a really good class & I’m feeling so much less tense.

    Best as a mum: Made gingerbread biscuits with our 4yo’s help today, just us. Normally we do this with one of the grandmas because it’s fiddly & she loses interest partway through. But I popped a Tinkerbell dvd on when she needed a break & was able to finish up the last few trays on my own. She loved them! We had an indoor picnic because it’s so hot.

    Worst: The bush fires. I’ve found that I’ve stopped looking out for the news because I find it too distressing. We had a fire when I was a kid & every time the wind blows a certain way at present, we get the smoke smell inside the house. It’s amazing how that smell brings back those memories.

    OMM: I’ve really enjoyed reading the responses to the newsreader’s admitting her alcoholism post. I’m really pleased how many people seem to be seeing herself in themselves & are wanting to do something about it. Best of luck to you all, it really can change lives getting alcohol consumption back under control.

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    • hellopetal

      New worst: My favourite aunt is in hospital again interstate. She has been in for a few days apparently, something to do with her heart and circulation. She’s had a rough two years with having a heart valve replaced & renal failure prior to that whilst in hospital waiting for the op. Her recovery has been slow with bouts of pancreatitis and side effects from the many mess affecting her. My dad, her younger brother, also developed secondary cancer & was gone within a month from diagnosis to funeral. It hit her really hard & I think she’s depressed now, definitely not eating well or looking after herself. She lives alone & is afraid to move into an alternative care place because she tends to hoard & has anxiety about getting rid of her stuff. I live interstate from her so apart from phone calls there’s not much I can do from here.

      The thing that annoyed me the most was that I only found out today & she’s been in optical for several days. My mum told me, had heard it fom my sister, but no-one thought to let me know! Mum only told me because I mentioned in passing that we’d received a belated Christmas parcel fom my aunt. I’ve asked her before to keep me in the loop because my sister & I have a challenging relationship. But mum has memory issues sometimes. It is so frustrating!!

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  11. anonymous

    Great news! After concerted long-term opposition by the Catholic Church, the very brave (and popular) president of the Phillippines Benigno Aquino III has managed to introduce legislation that grants men and women of the Phillippines access to free contraception at government health centres.

    For so long politicians there have been threatened and bullied by the (human rights-violating, in my opinion) Catholic Church to veto this reform and finally, it has been achieved.

    No more do the poor women of the Phillippines need be burdened with too-large families, unless they choose to. Bravo!

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    • pennypacker

      That is great news. Giving women and men that choice is a huge leap in the right direction.

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  12. daisy123

    Best: am pregnatn wiht our second baby. After taking a year to fall with our first baby, this one happeded after only 2 months! So very excited but a bit shocked too!
    Worsts: No worsts here.
    OMM: When do pregnancy symptons start? Last pregnancy I was so sick and so tired but this time nothing and it just worries me.. I cant remember when I started getting sick last time though. According to the online calculator I am only about 5.5 weeks so thinking it may be too early to start they symptons? I cant believe I am almost wishing for morning sickness……… I just want to have my first scan so I can see the heartbeat!

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    • SoMuchSerenity

      Congrats on the pregnancy! My morning sickness with both pregnancies started at exactly 6 weeks to the day :)

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    • Anna

      congratulations, so exciting!! with both my first and second pregnancy (im 9weeks with #2) , my symptoms kicked in around 7/8 weeks. i was worried about lack of symptoms at the start too cos i was 6 weeks and felt completely normal!

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  13. sarah k

    best: i finally got a promotion at work. yay
    worst: its my birthday tomorrow. i have called in sick thinking that at least one friend would plan to do something with me on my birthday but so far everyone is apparently busy. so i will be spending my birthday alone. great.

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    • hellopetal

      Go do something fab on your own, sarah k. Go see a film or have a nice lunch or go to a gallery or whatever floats your boat. Happy birthday for tomorrow!

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    • Anon

      Happy birthday! I guess your friends thought you would be working, though. You can’t be mad at them. I’m sure the evening will be good.

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  14. Aussie in Paris

    I have had an amazing week!

    Best 1: got into masters for this year

    Best 2: went from one holiday on a tropical island to Paris, where I am now.

    Worst: no real worsts, I would just have to say the long haul flight over here, not a fan. Oh and the fact that Paris is about -3C, I’m not a girl who likes the cold. But that’s easily fixed by going shopping or to the louvre!

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  15. Faybian

    Best: two weeks annual leave so I can spend the last week of holidays with my girls and see the older one off to high school. I will come back to work with an extra days work, which will be much needed because my daughter is going to a private school and we need extra to help with daughter number 1s wedding.
    Worst: tried to ring and ended up texting my oldest friend this morning to let her know we would be in Melbourne next month. She hasn’t responded at all and I know it’s because things have been tense for a couple of months between us. While I can accept if our friendship ultimately doesn’t survive, it would be a shame to end on a whimper, even though we’ve had a tumultuous friendship anyway. We’ve been friends for 40 years.

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    • Urban Fringe

      Hope your friend gets back to you. That kind of discomfort in a friendship can be really preoccupying.

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      • Faybian

        She finally did, which was good, as I’d been trying most of the day not to brood. Now, of course I can over analyse her vague response. Mental slap.

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    • chef

      Hey, Faybian, if you don’t hear from her, I for one would love to catch up when you are in Melb.

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  16. Rebecca

    Best: have an interview next week for a new job. It’s less money but would be exciting and I’d get to move interstate! Which terrifies me but I’m determined not to let that stop me or affect my efforts at the interview.
    Worst: hearing my father say 2012 was the worst year of his life, due to health issues and feeling he’ll never be strong again. He’s probably right and I’m so sad for him.
    Next worst: the healthier I eat, the fatter I get. I know it shouldn’t matter if I’m healthy but it really bothers me.

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    • elle

      What are you eating now that’s healthier? Strange that you’d been gaining weight.

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  17. brizzy

    sorry about this vent i only have a worst -

    I’m hearing from many resources that my brother in law has met someone else. my sister has been unwell with brain tumors for 3 years now, being a guinea pig for cancer research, as chemo and radium didn’t work she is now on avastin – a very expensive drug that is not totally proven to help. she struggles on a daily basis to be wife and mother.(16 year old son and 12 year old daughter with down’s syndrome) he decided it’s all too hard and moved out in october, telling her he didn’t love her and that he wanted her to enter permanent care. how can you leave your seriously ill wife and kids??? we have just had the worst week of our lives as her last mri indicated that the tumor was growing. if it grew again her doctor was going to stop the treatment. luckily at this stage the tumor is unchanged. I am so angry with him and I don’t feel I’m being too harsh. how can he brazenly publish pics of himself and someone else on facebook etc and just leave my sister to rot. no word to describe him. next week was going to be their 20 yr wedding anniversary. she is devastated. my parents are shattered. my nephew knows more than he wants to devulge, he feels sickened by the sight and thought of his dad.

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    • Faybian

      Thats really dreadful. Has your BIL always been a shit, or do you think his behaviour is in part due to stress/grief from your sister’s illness? Don’t think I’m excusing his behaviour either btw.

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    • Anon

      What a pr*ck!!!

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    • chef

      Brizzy, I can think of many words to describe your brother in law, but none of them would make it past the moderators. My heart goes out to you and your family. This is just so awful. Be strong for your sister. xxx

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    • Liza

      What a hideous situation! And no, I have no idea how someone can desert someone in their hour of need – says a lot about his character.

      Sending hugs and much strength to you and your family.

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    • Kylie2

      How devastating for your poor sister and all the people who love her. The only possible silver lining could be that the rest of the family will rally around the children rather than letting them be raised by that horrible man.

      She’s lucky to have a caring family.

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      • Lozzie

        Serious illness brings out the best & worst in people.

        My father was a pretty crap husband but he showed his true colours (in a good way) when my mother had cancer. He was an absolute rock and nursed her with care and compassion right until the end

        I am so sorry your BIL has chosen to act in such a heartless & despicable manner and caused your sister & your family even more pain.

        Wishing you all strength to get through this and a positive outcome for your sister.

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    • Anon58

      Oh wow Brizzy, what an awful situation. My heart goes out to you and your sister. I subscribe to Kris Carr of Crazy,Sexy Cancer fame. I live with a chronic illness (not cancer) and she is so inspiring having been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in 2003. Maybe she would be a positive influence for your sister. She definitely seems to need one at the moment. I will keep you all in my heart and thoughts.

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    • Pinto

      This is so unfair for you and your family.

      I admire your self-control – I know I wouldn’t be able to especially if it were my sister.

      I’m sure you will remain strong in support of your sister and I wish your family the best.

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    • brizzy

      thanks everyone, he is certainly someone to avoid! we live in a small town so it’s hard not to run into him – or run him off the road!!. while I understand the stress I also have witnessed alot of illness, and seen some amazing husbands and I truly thought he was in this category and I’m very disapointed that he isn’t. we just have to be patient now and wait til the next mri in april and pray again that the tumors don’t grow. my sister’s mobility, speech, cognitive function and energy are all affected by these tumors and in a way I have already grieved for the loss of the person she once was but she still has her sense of humor and smile, and an eye for beautiful artwork, and i find myself concentrating on that for now. big hugs to everyone doing it tough and those caring for them – pallitive care teams are angels on earth xx

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  18. MIsha

    Worst – stating the obvious but its record-breaking hot in Sydney today.
    Hubby is complaining because train has broken down due to the heat – but at least the carriage is air-conditioned. Our house is not and its like an oven.

    Best – heading off for a beach holiday.tomorrow. Been to the library and borrowed heaps of good books to read. Planning to chill, relax and read.

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  19. lu

    Best: had a great catch up with a friend yesterday who missed me while i was away over christmas. nice to hear you are missed.

    Worst: I arrived back from my overseas trip to visit a friend on sunday, jetlagged, delayed flight. My live in Boyfriend had left a mess and an argument ensued. He left to got to a friends for a couple of days. We talked on tuesday and agree we a both not happy but want to try and see if we can make it work. Very Very sad.

    Also seems my depression is back. I think its part of both the cause and due to the relationship issues, plus my new job has proven to be not what i thought/hoped and im not happy with it.

    Also the landlords are selling our apartment :-(

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  20. oneofthesarahs

    Best: seeing my little girl (3yo) at her first dancing lesson today – genuine joy on her face as she twirled around.
    Best 2: had the chance to catch up with some friends last Sunday and meet their beautiful little girl – hadn’t seen them for about a year.

    Worst: I have an ear infection – so painful – I woke up in the middle of the night last night with the pain of it. Have been to dr today and now have $50 worth of medication for it.

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  21. Jess

    Best: I lost 3 kgs while on holidays and now half way to my goal 18kgs down 18kgs to go

    Worst: My boss said that the company hasn’t made enough money to give me a pay rise, he said that he knows I’m worth the pay rise but the company just doesn’t have the money. Now I have to make the decision of whether to look for another job to get my career moving or stay in the job I really like and not have the money

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  22. Broken Hearted

    BEST 1: Getting great feedback from my boss yesterday after a few days of being under the pump at work. Its true Kahla, when you love what you do, you never ever ever work a day in your life.

    BEST 2: I went on a date with a guy named Matt last week on Wednesday. It was really good and I was really myself. He went to the Gold Coast on Thursday and I heard from him probably every two days, a few texts and a call. He got back on Tuesday and messaged me and then we had a three hour conversation because I called him mistakenly (rookie error) on Wednesday night. Didn’t hear from him on Thursday and got a message because he thought of me at the dentist today and has been messaging me this afternoon. He hasn’t asked me for a follow up date yet but is joking and flirting through texts. Should I be worried?

    WORST 1: Last week, I wrote on the Best and Worst Post about my ex coming back. I ended up talking to him on Sunday and he says that he has really realised that he was a dickhead and that he was sorry about it. He said he really really really wanted to try again and wanted to know if I was up to it. On Monday and Tuesday, he was calling me and texting me and acting really interested. On Wednesday, I didn’t really answer his calls during the day because I was at work and he said via a text that he was really really in love with me and that if he was barking up the wrong tree, to tell him. Thursday, I heard from him at 11pm at night seven times and left a voicemail saying that he missed me heaps (didn’t answer) after a day of no contact. I texted him today and said “Hey. Sorry I didn’t answer your calls or respond to your texts. I was exhausted and tired last night” to which he replied “All good. Have a good day”. I’m confused and I still have feelings for him but am scared. Any advice, MMers?

    WORST 2: After a truly depressing 2012, I received a notice of exclusion from Uni. Now I have to submit all these papers from my doctor to say that I was depressed and was constantly having panic attacks. After getting a UAI over 99 and being on a distinction average in my first degree, I just went through a year of struggle (ex bf of 4 years (not the one referred to above) hitting me, other ex breaking up with me, family issues, panic attacks left right and centre). Feel like a real failure but at least it can be rectified by the 25th.

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    • Sydgel

      Maybe you should take a break from seeing anyone for say three months? It will give you clarity and also will make it very clear if your ex is sincere and committed.

      That time, and it’s not very long, will make things so much clearer and you’ll feel a lot better.

      Stop texting that guy too, men use text in a different way. If he was serious about you he would have called you days ago and arranged a proper date.

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  23. picardie.girl

    B&W: Trip planning. Can’t stay focused at work.

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  24. Jose

    BEST: Lovely friends coming to stay for the weekend. Just had a phone call and apparently ‘there is lots of wine in your future’ :) . Also having other friends over Sunday for a BBQ. I can’t help it, I’m an extrovert and I get really down when I don’t see people for a while.

    WORST: Still waiting for DH to get a job. And heard of 3 more friends who lost their jobs in December. Such bad timing because of Xmas (lots of nosey relatives to tell) but also because if it happened at the beginning of the month your 4 weeks notice takes you to the beginning of Jan – with no jobs advertised really until Feb. Couldn’t they just hold onto people for another month?

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  25. Kate

    Worst: the inevitable end of my relationship, and he was gutless enough to do it via text. I’d say I’ve saved myself bigger hurt down the track, but I’m a little achey at the moment. Trying to keep my happy!

    Best: booked a trip to Europe! London, Paris, then two weeks around Italy. I’m ecstatic, it’s just what the doctor ordered.
    I found out yesterday one of my besties from high school had a baby! She lives overseas so is was an awesome surprise.
    My friends and family have been awesome this week, keeping me busy with lunches, dinners and movies.

    I think 2013 might just turn out ok.

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    • Broken Hearted

      Hi Kate,

      I know it hurts and I am sending virtual hugs to you.

      If he was gutless enough to dump you via text, he isn’t man enough for you anyway. You deserve better and you deserve a man to show you all the respect and love you deserve. Chin up, beautiful.

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      • Kate

        Thanks! It’s so true, and I know it, but geez I’m angry that I haven’t had the chance to have my say. But if he can just walk away like that, then he really isn’t worth it.

        Good luck with your boy dilemma!

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    • Pinto

      Via Text! So so so rude! What a coward.

      Hope you really enjoy your travels and have a wonderful time!

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  26. phoodietweets

    “Frosty Fruit guzzling Australians…” – COUNT ME IN ON THAT ONE!!

    It’s SOOOOOOOOO hot!

    Don’t mean to complain but it just is….. If you’ve got kids give them LOADS of water and if you’ve got elderly people in your life call them and tell them to down the H20 big time as well!!! DEHYDRATION central!

    BEST:
    Quite a few bests this week! Not enough time to write ‘em all down – but just want to log my gratitude to the universe! I think it’s important sometimes to write the good things down or stop and actually think about things you are grateful for. If you don’t do this, but just do it when BAD things happen you can really easily lose perspective on life!

    WORST:
    Not enough Rainbow paddle pops in my freezer to get me through the day!

    Thoughts to people who are seriously struggling in this heat and with anything else in their lives. Remember, nothing is forever.

    Love ya FRIDAY!

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    • Bunny

      Phoodie, I’m in Perth and we’ve had the heatwaves too – I just keep telling myself “One more day, one more day” and at times even “two more hours til hometime” etc! Trying to stay positive and not think about the weather, but a couple of times I’ve nearly cracked.

      I find that cool baths and showers really help. I take an icepack to work and keep it in the freezer, and if I’m outside during the day I take it with me and hold it in my arms or put it around my neck. It’s a lifesaver at the end of the day when you’re waiting for the car air-con to kick in.

      If you have a favourite drink, freeze it overnight, let it sit in the fridge during the day, and take it out when you get home. I love a hot Milo after dinner, but in summer I freeze it and love chipping away at it with a spoon after tea.

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  27. minim

    Best: Just waiting for a friend to arrive, then we’re off to BDO! Can’t wait for RHCP!!

    Worst: The heat. Thinking of everyone affected by the fires at the moment and I hope everyone stays safe.

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    • Pennypacker

      The Big Day Out was one of my favourite music festivals to go to here on the Gold Coast. I went to 7 in a row, starting with the very first BDO when Nirvana played. Good times. :-) . Hope you both have a fabulous day! :-)

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      • Kris2040

        I saw Nirvana too – the old showgrounds at Moore Park were the best!

        What is it with the BDO and heatwaves?

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        • minim

          Cannot believe the difference in Sydney today compared to yesterday! This weather would’ve been much better for BDO.

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          • Kris2040

            The last one I went to was when Muse headlined. It was 42 or something ridiculous. We went on the second day of the heatwave and the change came through just after Kav Temperley had had us all chanting “Fuck you, Sun!”. One bonus was being so dehydrated, I was able to stay down the front for hours without needing to leave the D and go to the loo.

            How were The Killers? They were my big “wish I could go” band for this year.

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            • minim

              I wish I had of gone when Muse headlined. Apparently it peaked at 45.8 degrees yesterday. Crazy. I don’t think I’ve ever drunk so much water in the space of a few hours. I stayed out of the D lol.

              The Killers were great! They along with Grinspoon surprised me at how good they were live. I would happily buy tickets to see them again.

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            • Kris2040

              I LOVE Grinspoon, have seen them a few times. I saw the Killers when they toured Sam’s Town, at the Entertainment Centre. It was like a big RSL or Leagues club gig – they had a velvet curtain and not really much of a light show or anything. Also they kept the bars open for the whole show, and you were allowed to take beers in to the arena. I think that helped the atmosphere enormously. ;)

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            • Pennypacker

              I’ve seen Grinspoon a few times too, pretty cool. My all time favourites though we’re Soundgarden, Smashing pumpkins, Korn, Marilyn Manson ,The Cult and Janes Addiction. I know I’ve missed some now that I think about it, Some years were hazier than others. :-)
              I know, What is with the heat ??? Stinking hot.

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      • minim

        Nirvana! Oh so jealous.

        This was my first BDO & it was a great day (even in the crazy heat). Thanks :D

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    • Pinto

      I hope you have a wonderful time at the BDO! So many negative nellys putting down festivals – it’s like they forgot or never experienced how great they can be!

      I think I miss festivals…

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      • minim

        Thank you! It was a great day. First time at BDO & if the line-up is good, then I’ll definitely go along next year too :D

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  28. MissV

    best: finally figured out the units i want to do at uni

    worst: i’m scared about leaving home. dad’s been really weird lately and i’m worried about what’s going to happen when i’m not there.

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  29. Jess

    Best: It had been suggested to me a couple of weeks ago that there is a good chance I will be asked to do my boss’ 7 month maternity leave (usually the company brings someone in from another store who has done the manager training). Yesterday I asked my store manager what the odds were of me having to do it and had said it was totally up to me, he’d make sure I got paid appropriately and if I was up for it, he’d send the email to have it organised on Monday.

    So it looks like I’ll be running my dept for 7 months or so while also finishing up my Masters degree and trying to do a day of work experience each week. Big year ahead!

    Best 2: Starting to plan a second trip to Europe, this time in Winter. I’ve tentatively selected a date to fly out and it happens to be a year away today! Bring it.

    Worst 1: Lots of competing challenges this year. Hope I can juggle!

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  30. Snow

    Sorry if TMI.
    Best: Baby dust needed my way this weekend! It will be my first fertile period since my miscarriage and hubby and i plan to go all out. I feel good, healthy and strong and I really hope that its third time lucky for us.
    Worst: No worst really…life’s just cruising along and i quite like it like that

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    • Strength

      Best of luck – have fun and don’t stress and I’m sure it will happen for you x

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    • gypsy

      Oh Snow – lots and lots of baby dust and positive energy to you!!!

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    • 1994

      Snow, sending you so much baby dust and love and good energy. Good luck and our thoughts are with you xoxo

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    • neola

      Lots of baby dust to you! And if it’s ok, just a little bit of advice that resonated with me:

      Enjoy the intimacy for exactly what it is – during the fertile period and whenever else you and your partner feel like it. Use the time to connect and pleasure each other, try not to make conception the priority. I know first-hand how hard that is to actually do, but your relationship will be stronger for it. Libidos can really suffer when trying to conceive and the pressure can cause tension in the long-term. Stay in the moment and the future will sort itself out – the right egg comes when it’s good and ready, not when we will it to.

      Wishing you the best of luck x

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    • pennypacker

      Best of luck Snow! :-)

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    • Anna S

      wishing you the very best of luck Snow!! xx

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  31. Anonymous

    Best: my boyfriend just sent me flowers for no reason :D I’m house sitting at the moment so was a total surprise-he is way too lovely!!!

    Worst: the bush fires that are happening around Australia

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  32. Lolly

    Best – I got engaged! And in typical me style have launched myself into planning (venue tentatively booked already – I didn’t want to miss out! And I am pinning all the things Whippersnapper!). Having a hard time reconciling my usual frugal self with wedding planning, which is so expensive. We will DIY what we can and I’m happy to cut costs (use an ipod, free cake from the MIL etc etc) but the big stuff like reception/photography etc will nevertheless cost a lot.

    Other best – lost a good amount of weight this week and am now down 16kg – I think another 4 or so and I will feel ready to go dress shopping. So glad I lost weight before I got engaged and don’t have the pressure to do it now.

    Worst – nothing major, bit worried about what weddings costs. We have the savings sitting there plus more though so I should just reward myself for years of being a good saver and have a nice day really. Once my fiance gets another contract I feel it will all be alleviated though :-)

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    • girly

      Woo! How exciting :) Congratulations and I hope the wedding goes well

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    • Anon2u

      Congrats! Just a thought – don’t skimp on the photos, my sister got a family friend to do it and there are no photos of my husband. Or kids. Who were flower girl and ring bearer. So none of the bride’s whole family.

      This was a few years ago and I’m still a little sad.

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      • Lolly

        Thank you Anon2u – can you please have this conversation with my partner who thinks all photographers whose work I like is outrageously priced! lol. I’m fighting an uphill battle on this one.

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        • maggie

          My mum is INSISTING I use my uncle. he did her wedding as a wedding gift.
          That is fine, but they aren’t the type of ones I would want.

          So splurge on the right photographer!

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        • Snaps

          If you can’t get hubby to be on side maybe consider appointing one close friend to take snaps you really want and get disposable cameras to all guests as they will take pics of those they feel most comfortable with meaning you’ll get some of everyone. And the kids cameras will give you the most smiles! Kids photos tell the real story!!

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          • Lolly

            Oh I definitely would get a professional in, no question on that. He’s coming around to how much they charge. Friends photos are great though in addition though – so many people have great SLR cameras these days. Not sure about kid’s photos though, we are having a kid-free reception, lol.

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      • neola

        I second splurging on the photos – a great photographer will make every little detail look beautiful, even if you scrimp on decor/venue, etc. And you keep then forever.

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    • Oh beautiful. So happy for you. And yes PIN ALL THE THINGS!!!

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    • Zia

      Congratulations! Enjoy your engagement, Lolly

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    • Faybian

      You’re so right about costs. My newly engaged daughter came over last week to go over possible reception venues and the average cost of them almost gave me palpitations. We’re going to a strong possibility with her, her fiancé and his parents on Tuesday (we and his parents are pitching in to help with costs), so I may need alcohol afterwards.

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  33. Lottie (the original one)

    Best : My in-laws left yesterday.

    Worst: They were here for less than a week but managed to wreak havoc on my family. The level of dysfunction still amazes even me. My family have no way of comprehending what the hell is going on – I didn’t either and needed the help of two Psycs and a fair amount of reading to try and get my head around it. That was a few years ago for me, and before we moved 2500 km away from them – my family are only just seeing it up close now, for the first time.
    Somehow, Mr Lottie and I am being blamed – which is exactly how the in-laws play it. They are very practiced at appearing that nothing is wrong at their end and making it look like the problem lies elsewhere. A very sweep-it-under-the carpet mentality. A very big feature of a family with an alcoholic Father and emotionally unavailable Mother. My family is far from perfect, but nothing in their experience means they are at all able to comprehend this at all. They can’t understand that our only choice now, is to protect our family.

    Fun times.

    My husband was amazingly strong through the whole week and is a different man from the one that moved away from them, physically and emotionally, almost four years ago. Am so proud of him.

    OMM: I am wearing white harem pants. Is this a best or a worst?

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    • hellopetal

      I’m proud of your hubby too! It can take years & years to try & undo the damage growing up in a family with an alcoholic parent. The dynamics are very particular & you do need them explained to you or see it in action more than once to really understand them. Keep supporting that lovely husband of your’s, he’ll need it for awhile longer.

      White harem pants, not sure? Not for me with a four year old, but each to their own!

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      • Lottie (the original one)

        Thank-you for your understanding hellopetal. It means so much.

        L X

        PS Stearing clear of the 3 year old. So far so good!

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  34. albie

    can i also add that Rosie Waterland’s blog on Lena Dunham not being fat is bloody phenomenal

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  35. maggie

    Worst: My work not letting me leave this week, and having to do the whole month……but taking on week off that with annual leave. The stress of it all and their talk of getting lawyers involved freaked me out.
    The same week my partner happened to be away too, so no one to come home too to cuddle.

    Best: Realising my own inner strength, and not completely loosing myself to the stress, or resulting to having a drink to calm me down. I also think my kittens were a great help there too!

    Best #2: My partner possibly agreeing to 3 days down in Margaret River in the week I have off between jobs. I think that will be the PERFECT thing I need to get my mojo back. Time alone with Mr.M will be amazing too, as our last “holiday” was with his family. I love them a lot, but we didn’t get a single moment alone for a whole week.
    So this will be really good for both of us :)

    OMM: A friendship of over 10 years that seems to be falling apart. They cant be bothered coming out most times (home body), making many excuses, then feels bad about not seeing me, misses me, feels guilty and then while break down and cry every 6 months apologising for it.
    I dont know what to say anymore.

    If you stay like a homebody, you wont have many friends. You will have to accept that. But if you want to keep your friendships you need to make more of an effort. Which is it? Or am I being too harsh?

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    • sunshiny day

      maybe there is something going on with your friend that you are unaware of. Maybe she can’t afford to go, and is embarrassed, if she has a partner, maybe it causes arguments when she leaves, maybe she’s anxious when she leaves the house, like I am. I just think if she is breaking down, crying, there some underlying issue, maybe. :-)

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      • maggie

        A lot of the time we dont go out, because we are all a little cash poor, and we try to do things every can do.

        But I am thinking there maybe other factors. Though I have no idea how to bring it up without offending……Because I think that drugs (pot) may be one of the issues causing this. Her partner is heavy into it, and I think she is now too.

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        • Orly

          Pot will do that, every time

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    • Sydgel

      It sounds like your friend may have some problems, from what you’ve said she sounds very depressed. It’s prob nothing to do with you (not going out) and everything to do with how she is feeling

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  36. Cinnamon

    I’m going to start with my worst first since I want to save the best for last :)

    Worst = Still recovering from my accident in the kitchen where I ended up burning myself with boiling water :( Luckily I didn’t do too much damage but I’ve been bandaged up for a couple of weeks now and hopefully removing the bandages next week and will start to use scar cream/aloe vera etc to help with the discolouration. My GP told me it will take at least one year for it to go away :( Luckily it’s not in a visible place! I just hate that it’s there but what can you do I’m just going to have to be diligent with it!

    Best – I’m still in denial about this as in I can’t believe it’s actually happening and even though it’s happening SOON I still haven’t told people because as I said I still can’t believe it’s happening but my husband and I are making another BIG move! Almost 2 years ago we made the big move from Australia to the U.S and now we are off to the UK! I’m super excited… we both are because we’ve both always wanted to experience life over there and not to mention that fact that it’s Europe.. hello travel! We are leaving SOON and all I can say is thank goodness for the removalists since the thought of packing yet again is enough to send me crazy!

    We’ll be living around the Warwickshire area, most likely Leamington Spa. Has anyone lived there or been there before? America has been fun but not a place we want to stay permanently so UK here we come :)

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    • Amelie

      Hi Cinnamon, my husband is grew up less than half an hour away from Leamington Spa and we did a 6 month stint in his hometown so we know the area if you have any questions ask away and I’ll see if I can help :)

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      • Cinnamon

        Oh great thanks! I guess just what is it like in general? What are the best places to shop (food wise). Just any other info you think might be useful? :)

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  37. Anon this time

    Best would be getting a mortgage with the long term bf. He has owned the place for 3 years but I just put my deposit into the mortgage and it feels like my place now too.

    Worst was finding out last night that my mum tried committing suicide about a fortnight ago. She is still in an extremely dark place and I don’t know what to do. She doesn’t live in Sydney so I can’t go and check on her all the time. How am I meant to be ok if she doesn’t answer the phone one time? She is a fabulously strong woman and I have told her she still has too much to teach me and my sister to decide she has had enough but I am really worried and panicky. What if she tries again and no one finds her? She was abused by her mother when she was a child and has been in and out of therapy for 20 years, she says she doesn’t want to be in pain anymore. Her partner is a weak character who loves her but doesn’t want to be with her anymore. She wants him to be his rock and this is her “final straw”.

    Some help here from the MM community would be really, really appreciated. I don’t know what to do and am scared my sister and I are not enough.

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    • Roxy

      So sorry to hear that! Where does your mum live? if it is Victoria I would be contacting the Crisis Assessment Team at her nearest major hospital, they have mobile teams that can visit people at their home who are really struggling. Please make sure you stress to them that she has already attempted suicide as they prioritise their heavy workload based on urgency.

      If you let us know what her local area is I’m sure someone in the MM community will know a contact number for a mental health support service.

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    • Lottie (the original one)

      Am sure Lifeline will be able to help. 131114.

      So sorry to hear this.

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    • gypsy

      This isn’t something you should have to deal with on your own. Make some phone calls and see what community support for mental health there is in your mum’s local area. Don’t let anyone brush you off, make sure you are persistent in finding out who can help and how.

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      • Anon this time

        Thanks for this everyone, she is in country NSW, closest town would be Newcastle.

        I am going to the beach with her this arvo so I hope diving into the ocean will give her some perspective on appreciating the little things. I might start with calling Lifeline and see how I go. This is certainly not something you ever except to have to do and it hurts that the idea that there will be grandkids in the next few years is not enough to want her to hold on.

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        • Natalia

          I have no real advice to offer but you’ll be in my thoughts, Anon this time. Sending you much love and luck xxx

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        • Roxy

          Anon, this is the phone number for the Newcastle Mental Health Service Community Team. It says they take referrals from family. (02) 4016 4538.

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          • MaryJane

            Anon, try calling the hospital in your mum’s town. They should be able to point you in the right direction of someone that can help. I will be thinking of you, what a difficult time xx

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        • L in brisbane

          You can call her local police station, provide them with her name & address & ask if they can do a welfare check. I’ve had to do it a number of times & they’re always great, super understanding kind people.

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    • Cindy

      Hey Anon,
      I can’t offer much practical advice, but being in the same situation (living interstate from a depressive, alcoholic and suicidal mother, who had a similar abusive childhood) I just wanted to reach out and say that I’m so sorry you and your sister are in the same situation. It’s so hard to see the person who raised you in such a place. I know that helpless feeling so well.
      Is there anyone (an aunt, uncle, close friend, GP?) in the same place as your Mum that you can talk to and ask to drop around to see her?
      Or is it worth a trip home to sit down with your Mum and talk face to face?
      My sister and I did that recently and I feel we made a few small breakthroughs regarding her reluctance to seek help. We also tried to drum into her that we love her, she isn’t a burden and we need her around. (I’m sure you’ve done this and feel like a broken record- I know I do).
      Also is your Mum on medication? Maybe she needs to try something else?
      (I hope it’s not too forward saying that)

      I know I don’t know you but I’m sending all the love and support in the world out over the interwebs. This is such a tough place to be. You sound like an amazing and loving daughter. Make sure you take care of yourself and your sister as well. Things can get better, I just keep telling myself that xoxox

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      • Anon this time

        Thank you all so much. This is such a fantastic, helpful and supportive community.

        Mum has moved to a town with no family close by (they’re all from WA and generally pretty useless) I have decided to call the Newcastle/Hunter line (thanks Roxy) and ask them for help. Mum told me the woman at the hospital when she got taken in told her she was being selfish so I don’t really want to go back down that path as I think she will not be very receptive to it. I have also decided to ask her to promise me a few weeks/months where she won’t do it. I read that on the lifeline website and I think that sounds like a really good idea.

        Cindy – thank you for your thoughts, your message really touched me. She has been on/off anti-depressants but some idiot doctor told her to go off them so she could get on some back pain medication, which was what unravelled her I think. She is now back on anti-deperessants and she said they are making her sick but no better just yet. I think they take some time to start working. I just keep telling her what a great job she has done with my sister and I but just because we are ‘grown up’ now doesn’t mean she hasn’t finished being a mum. I told her we both plan on having children in the next few years and I needed her to help me and teach me.

        Bunny thank you as well, I think we need to find her a new psychiatrist and I think this will help. There isn’t anyone I know to contact but will start w lifeline and go from there.

        I just wish she could see how fabulous we think she is and how broken we would be if she wasn’t here.

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    • Bunny

      Anon this time, my husband has had similar issues with his mum – she was admitted to the mental health ward of a private hospital due to ongoing severe depression and anxiety which worsened after the death of her mother and her marriage breakdown nearly three years ago. She was hospitalised for about two weeks and had to attend individual as well as group therapy, change her meds, etc.

      My husband and sister-in-law actually met the psychiatrist and, I think, her GP, and have been involved with her treatment/management since then. A couple of times, the psychiatrist has called my husband when she’s had significant concerns about his mum or suggestions about topics he needs to broach with his mum that she won’t mention herself.

      Does your mum have a GP or other health professional you can contact to devise some kind of plan?

      His mum has come a long way since then but my husband and sister-in-law have also been able to get a couple of family friends and other relatives involved, so they all keep an eye out for symptoms or warning signs that something isn’t quite right and needs addressing.

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    • Orly

      Anon, please look after yourself as well as trying to help your mum. I’ve been through this too and it was incredibly stressful. Good luck and I hope she gets the help she needs

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    • Sydgel

      Call her local hospital and ask to speak to the mental health team. If they don’t have a proper department set up they will direct you to the closest facility. They can then check on her twice a day or more as required.

      I attempted suicide 1.5 years ago and was in a coma and in intensive care for a while. I just could not take the pain anymore. When you get to that level it’s very hard to come out of so she needs to be treated at a hospital or at least a good mental health team.

      She’s lucky to have a lovely daughter like you xx

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    • Elle

      Sorry to hear about your mum. Does she have private health insurance? If so I’d suggest she goes to a private psychiatric hospital in Sydney to get some intense help. South Pacific Private in Curl Curl would be my suggestion and there is also Mosman Private and Northside Clinic in Greenwich. You would be able to visit her too. Does she have a good GP? You could check on here http://info.beyondblue.org.au/MAHP.html to find some medical help near her home. I think you should also call this lady about a DBT program or similar which is great for people struggling with long term issues and suicidal ideation http://gandalwaven.typepad.com/nsw_bpd_treatment_provide/newcastle.html

      Good Luck :)

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    • Elle

      Sorry to hear about your mum. Does she have private health insurance? If so I’d suggest she goes to a private psychiatric hospital in Sydney to get some intense help. South Pacific Private in Curl Curl would be my suggestion and there is also Mosman Private and Northside Clinic in Greenwich. You would be able to visit her too. Does she have a good GP? You could check on the Beyond Blue website to find some medical help near her home (just click on “find a doctor” on the right side of the page. I think you should also call this lady about a DBT program or similar which is great for people struggling with long term issues and suicidal ideation (Google “NSW BPD Treatment Providers and click on Newcastle.. Contact person is Linda Bragg 4924 6820)

      Good Luck :)

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  38. Mollie

    Best: Getting up early one day before to read an hour of my novel before work. One of my new years resolutions is to read a book a month. I’m going to get up early more often. A great way to start the day, with a cup of tea of course.

    Worst: Nothing major. A little stressed and feeling out of my depth at work but i am enjoying the challenge and learning a lot

    Hugs to those who want them :) x

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  39. katkae

    It’s been an interesting start to my working year…
    B&W: I’ve been retrenched. For obvious reasons it’s a bit shitty but it also has re opened my mind to my ‘europe plan’, which is the good part.
    A few years ago I was planning to go over to Europe an work crappy jobs and just explore and have fun (ie Aur Pairing, waitressing etc) but full time work got in the way as I wasn’t ready to leave. Well, that’s not a problem anymore. :) Also, America but I’ve been there three times already.

    W: I just don’t want to come to work anymore, for obvious reasons, the need to be on time etc has left me. I don’t know how to fix it in my head.

    B: this has put a smile on my face in this shitty week. I found out that I am an italian citizen and I just need to apply for a passport and not go through the whole ‘apply for citizenship’ process. Such a relief! And if I go through the Sydney Consular I can just rock up and not have to book an appointment like you have to do for the Melbourne one.

    B: only having a few weeks left of work. amen. and also, my fwb has been so unnecessarily supportive- it’s been lovely.

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    • sarah jane

      I feel your pain regarding lack of motivation! I was made redundant last October (our entire department was) and although I was planning to leave and return to study this year anyway, it still sucks!! Having to come to work is so hard, and you definitely feel flat and frustrated. I’ve still got two weeks to go… Hang in there it will all be over soon and you can head to Europe – sounds like the perfect opportunity to get over there :)

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  40. girly

    WORST:
    Been sick since last Saturday with an upper respiratory tract infection. I had it a couple months ago but never finished my course of antibiotics. I was prescribed 50 penicillin tablets and they made me feel sick every time I took them. Had 2 days off work and back today.

    Won’t get to see my boyfriend this weekend due to lack of funds. It was his turn to visit and he’s broke. He told me it’s no big deal to miss 1 weekend together and told me to go get my hair done. I have been feeling blue about not getting to spend a little money on myself, all my money goes on bills, petrol, food etc. It’s sucky not getting to see him.

    BEST:
    Applied for a job at work, so am excited to see if I get to be interviewed for it! :) I need a change, been in this position for 3 years.

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  41. Rose

    Worst: On January 4th my husband told me he’d fallen out of love with me and 2 weeks on I’m still dealing with that. My whole world flipped upside down (totally blindsided) and heart broken.
    Best: We’re trying to work it out and in the mean time I’ve rediscovered “me” which includes getting my ear pierced at the top and it looks very cool. And I’m writing poetry again :-) Take a look if you like, but be warned it’s all a bit dark at the moment! http://whatimadeforyou.tumblr.com/

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    • August

      Oh Rose, thinking of you & sending you my best

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    • Bree

      Hi, I can relate as my husband told me today that he only married me because he felt sorry for me. We’ve been having problems for years (long story) but hearing that was like a kick in the guts.

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      • Kylie2

        That’s horrible. I’m sure it’s not true, he’s probably angry and trying to hurt you. Hope things get sorted out or you.

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  42. Amelie

    Best – moved home last week and looking forward to taking on some DIY projects. So I must also give a shout out and thank you to Whippersnappper for explaining Pinterest to me in the B&W post last week… I downloaded the app and have pinned a heap of fantastic ideas for the new place. You were right it’s addictive :)

    Worst – happily I can say nothing standing out as worst for me.

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  43. Liza

    Best: Got the invite to my sister-in-law’s wedding!! It’s in Qld in June so will have a fabulous long weekend away to look forward to :)

    Worst: Cost of said long weekend away – argh! But hey, that’s what savings are for, right? Wouldn’t miss it for the world – my SIL is a sweetheart,

    OMM: Took my kids to swim at a friend’s house yesterday afternoon as it was 43 degrees. However, my friend was at work so I spent nearly 2 hours supervising the kids with her husband. Everything completely above board but it just felt really weird. Is this some 1950s hang up from the past I have? Or is there an unwritten rule that we do not hang out with friends’ husbands in their house during the day??? Either way, not about to make a habit of it.

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    • sunshiny day

      I wouldn’t do it without the kids being there :-) , but if you know each other, and you are all friends, it’s fine. ( I do understand the weird feeling though, it’s like you have to come up with conversation)

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      • Liza

        Never without the kids! And yes, we’re all friends and do socialise together so we know them well. I was surprised at how weird it felt, so thanks for the vote of approval Sunshiny :)

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    • Faybian

      It does feel weird at first, but eventually that feeling goes. I used to hang out with a friend’s partner with our kids when she was off singing in her band and it took a bit to get used to, but everything stayed above board, even when we used to drink together (we lived round the corner from each other, so would walk to each others house).

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  44. Strength

    I don’t often comment but love reading the site and I have wanted to make this particular comment for a long time!
    BEST: successful round of IVF, and we did an embryo transfer this week! Ill know for sure next week whether I’m pregnant or not but I am choosing to be very positive and to think that I am. Nothing can top this feeling!

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  45. maybedaisy

    OK, so not really a best and worst – more an ideas grab. My girlfriend’s turning the big 40 in June and I’m planning to do a 40 Days and 40 Nights type thing leading up to it (so every day I do something special/give her a gift etc.)

    I’m usually great with this sort of thing but it’s on a rather large scale. Any ideas would be fab, ie: picnics, movie nights, etc. They don’t have to cost money, but any cool gift ideas you’ve come across will also be super helpful.Thanks!

    xx

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    • Roxy

      No ideas sorry but just wanted to say what an awesome friend you are!

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    • Bea

      That is such a lovely idea! A really good site I’ve used for home-made goodies is Oh Happy Day. She does lots of party ideas etc but also cute presents – and she has lots of stuff that you can download and print for free.
      These flowers are cute: http://ohhappyday.com/2012/03/diy-paper-flower-cone-bouquets/
      Valentine’s scrabble but change for birthday message: http://ohhappyday.com/2012/02/valentine-scrabble-gram-free-printable/
      Postcard messages (send one a day for a week): http://ohhappyday.com/2011/05/postcard-birthday-poster-diy/
      Plus heaps more DIY projects: http://ohhappyday.com/category/diy-projects/

      Love the idea of little homemade easy gifts, these ones are sweet! And maybe things like a glass of champagne at a funky bar, make cupcakes, are there any kind of free tour things that you could do where you live? Act like tourists for the day?

      Good luck!
      http://thegoogleyear.blogspot.com.au/

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    • Alice

      That’s so lovely of you!!! I want to give you a big hug.

      In terms of ideas:
      – you could do a mini-treasure hunt (notes with clues as to where to find the next clue) in her house, with the ‘prize’ at the end being a fun activity. That’s free, easy to arrange, but is a cute little fun suprise.
      – You could go to the moonlight cinemas
      – drive down to some wineries and do wine tasting (which is usually free or has a tiny charge)
      – Take her to a pretty look out with some sparkling wine and watch the sun go down
      – pick some flowers and decorate her car with them, so when she comes out in the morning she has a beautiful surprise’
      – bake her some cupcakes with a personalised message written on them (even if they look like s***, as mine do, it’s the thought that counts!)
      – Get some special photos printed out (that can be very cheap) and put into frames (again, ikea has some really cheap but pretty ones). People often never get round to printing out photos these days, so this is a cheap but valued gift).

      Hope they’re helpful! Well done for being a beautiful friend x

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    • Elise

      For Xmas, I bought my fiance a cheap glass lolly jar and filled it with his favourite lollies, tied with ribbons it looked really cute!

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    • maybedaisy

      All perfect ideas!.Thank you so much for responding. My list is looking lovely and full! xx

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    • Caitlyn

      A group of my friends did something similar for my 18th last year- they gave me a gift each day for a week starting on my birthday. The included a teddy bear, pen, bath bomb, liquorice, and a pandora bead. It was such a lovely idea! I’m glad you’re doing it for your friend, she will really appreciate it :D

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  46. Rach the Muso

    Best: Got a couple of new students this week, weather has been a little chilly but certainly not what it could (or should!) be right now.
    Worst: Husband has to finish off his German class as a language requirement this semester, and it is killing both of us after just a week. He went through school in WA before compulsory LOTE came in and has never done a language, so it is extremely hard for him. And I did German in my degree, so I’m kind of tutoring him…but they teach sooo fast here! Even I am struggling to keep up.
    OMM: four and a half months until we go home!

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    • Misha

      On the subject of Germans – Just watched the news. A German tourist was being interviewed. He had just left Germany where it was -5C and has arrived in Sydney to 47C heat. Bit of a shock to the system!

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  47. Louise

    Best: I’m not sure, haven’t really had a lot of ‘Bests’ lately. Maybe having my parents here to help me move house. They were wonderful as always, I’m so lucky.
    Worst: Finally moving out of the house I shared with the man I still love. Seeing it empty and quiet was awful. And a tie for Worst- said man ringing me this morning because he ran out of fuel and wanted help. I said I couldn’t but then tried to ring back to say I had managed to work something out. He hung up without answering. So now I feel bad, for not helping, for wanting to help, for caring that he needed help… the list goes on.

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    • Sydgel

      That’s awful having to move out, I know how painful it is. How lucky are you to have great parents?!

      He rang you bcs he ran out of petrol?!!!! And just after having to move out of “your home”, what an insensitive selfish gitt! Don’t feel bad he’s a grown man and besides there’s always roadside assist/

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    • Jen

      Hang in there Louise, it does get easier. Well done for getting the moving house done, that’s a huge step. Glad you have lovely parents to support you. xx

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    • Pennypacker

      Sorry about the breakup and moving house. :-( I would send a short text explaining that you rang back to say you had organised something to help, but was unable to get through. He can’t hold a grudge about it then. Don’t feel too bad about it, I’m sure he worked something out.

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  48. J xx

    BEST – Bf arrived home yesterday after a 2 week family holiday. I admit I missed him so much, and was stunned to arrive at his place to see him standing there with flowers and chocolates – he’s not usually like that so i guess he must have missed me too! Had a perfect night with a moonlight walk along bronte (gorgeous this time of year) and lots of cuddles.

    WORST – haven’t really recovered from the holidays and Australia Day is fast approaching. A little concerned I won’t feel as confident in my bikini and it’s getting me down. Considering one of those last-minute detox diets to slim down for the day even though I realise they don’t last. Anyone have any suggestions regardless?

    OMM – I graduate at the end of this year and Graduate Positions will begin to open on February 21st. I am prepared with my resume and have short listed the jobs I am most interested in – but can’t deny I am concerned about the current unemployment rates. I really hope I get an offer!

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    • Kaii

      You should have a read of Mia’s post from yesterday about her body image. Find confidence in what you have and how of those bits! I’ve got curves but just going to the gym has boosted my confidence. I haven’t necessarily lost any weight or become more toned but I feel great and so I’m more confident to wear my bikini out!

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  49. ness

    OMM: I’m five days late; I’m usually as regular as clockwork. It is driving me insane I don’t know how early is too early to test do I go to the doctor or just wait. ARGH I live in a small remote town so I don’t have access to a pharmacy. Is five days late to early to go to the doctor?

    Worst: dislocated my knee so am stuck at home lying on the couch with just time to think about being late and googling pregnancy symptoms.

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    • Anonymoose

      I went to the doctor at only 2 days late as I am also regular as clockwork. Baby due in April :)

      I hope you get whatever result it is you want positive or negative

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    • Anonymous

      You could try and order an early pregnancy test in the mail, otherwise go to doctor and just ask. Or call them and ask. But if it’s a huge mission to get there then probably wait a while longer. Googling symptoms is just going to drive you nuts, anything could translate as a pregnancy symptom if you are looking at google.

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  50. Alright everyone, I have been hanging out for this post all week to share this weeks drama. It’s not really a best and worst, but more so “this is what happened to me this week!”.

    So on Saturday, I was going through some boxes and found all these cards from college. I felt a bit nostalgic and contacted a couple of people (DM through FB most of whom I’m not “friends” with on there) to say “hey hows it going just found this stuff and was thinking of you”. One was a guy who I was OBSESSED with when I was at college, and wanted him to be my BF. As 18/19 year olds do, he occasionally came for a “Visit” to my college room. Anyway, I was having a bit of a laugh about it all just being very casual and all “how funny were we back” and he has responded VERY eagerly and is texting me all the time. At first I responded enthusiastically because it was good to talk to someone who I used to know but now I’m like “DUDE LEAVE ME ALONE”. He’s an engineer and works away and wants to catch up when he is in Bris next but I’m like “oh gawd, I’m scared he’s going to kidnap me and force me to marry him or something!”.

    The very very lowest point of my week? On Monday I got a DM on Facebook from an old (male) colleague telling me he had run into Ex Mr W a few weeks ago and thinks he is a massive D**k. I was like “what do you mean” (of course, picking at the wound, I should not have) – and he told me that Ex Mr W was bragging that he is now a “ladies man” and that he “wouldn’t be single for long because all these girls are chasing me”. Then the chaser? Apparently, Ex Mr W, when asked about me, made a BIG DEAL telling my colleague that “he broke up with me”. My colleague said it was really tacky and classless. (It’s also a complete lie).

    So I was devastated and a complete wreck, crying and all “My lovely Ex Mr W would never carry on like that, I can’t believe it” and “I KNEW HE WOULD MOVE ON QUICKLY”. Everyone (literally, everyone) whom I have spoken to says that no one who is actually being chased by all the single ladies would actually say that, so he probably isn’t, and he is clearly immature and insecure if he needs to carry on like that and also probably wanted it to get back to me.

    My response? DIGNIFIED SILENCE. I was hurt and angry and wanted to call his Mum to tell her what he did, but of course I didn’t! I got my own back when I ran into someone we both knew from uni yesterday and gave the most gracious and dignified response EVER.

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    • Lulu

      “Everyone (literally, everyone) whom I have spoken to says that no one who is actually being chased by all the single ladies would actually say that, so he probably isn’t, and he is clearly immature and insecure if he needs to carry on like that and also probably wanted it to get back to me. ”

      +10

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      • Hahaha :) This just reinforces my new philosophy: if someone shows you who they are – believe them. This is clearly who he has become and perhaps is clearly who he was all along!

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    • Bea

      Ohhh that sucks. I agree with what everyone has been saying – it sounds like he’s super insecure. If he was moving on and happy with his life and had 50 ladies fighting over him he wouldn’t feel the need to tell everyone about it. Still, it is really tacky and a shitty way to behave.

      Nice work on the dignified silence! That is awesome. You can’t control him being an asshat but at least you’ll look back and be proud of how you reacted. Go Whippersnapper!

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    • Alice

      Oh WS!! Bloody ex Mr WS – I absolutely agree with all your friends – he is full of sh**! Without sounding like a total twat, when I broke up with both my exes I had a lot of guys chasing me, and I deliberately didn’t want to ever discuss that with people who knew either of my exes, because I didn’t want to rub it in their faces.

      If you’re secure in a situation (aka realising that the single world is your oyster and you’re being chased by people) then you don’t have to brag about it, you can just sit back and quietly smile to yourself. If you’re NOT being chased, and want it to get back to your ex that you are, then you brag as loudly as you can to someone who knows your ex. Pathetic and sad.

      Good work on the dignified silence. As I think you’ve said before, don’t give him a reason to be happy you’re broken up (eg emotional outbursts). And keep flicking out those FB DM’s – I actually know a few people who’ve found their partners through connecting that way!

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      • I can’t believe I’m even saying this, promise it is not in defence of him or anything……BUT, remember how his best friend DOES work in my office? She may have over heard less than stellar or graceful things I have been saying to my mates at work (though over hearing is NOT the same as deliberately repeating it) – ie I went out on a date just before Xmas and he may have heard that from her, so perhaps, this reaction?

        That being said – who cares? There is no need to keep TORTURING my brain as to “Why” because it DOES NOT MATTER WHY – the fact he said it is enough.

        I definitely should be focusing more on the fact that he f***king lied about how we broke up than his bragging about being “Chased by all the single ladies”. I mean, honestly, dignified people say things like “Yes, it was devastating for both of us and an agonising decision but it was for the best”. For cripes sake, he is a 28 year old lawyer, you’d think he’d be more mature?

        As for the Engineer (hereonin this is how we shall refer to him on MM and on Twitter) – he is way too needy. I can’t stand emotional neediness in men. BUT good to speak to an old friend again :)

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    • vanessayoung

      “old (male) colleague” is a tactless dickhead.14 year old girls in the school playground are amateurs compared to men when it comes to gossip and telling A what B said etc. Ignore everybody. I do not know your ex but I have seen countless men carry on that way. It is the stage after “oh I miss her so much”. Do not forget that men do not have girlfriends (or mamamia ) to vent to and I am sure even younger men do not feel comfortable saying “I miss Ms W, I can’t sleep’ I can’t eat etc” . So if someone asks they put on the above mentioned act and suddenly become Brisbane’s answer to George Clooney.

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      • Yes – you are right Vanessa. I haven’t spoken to this colleague for 2 years. Well, occasionally I run into him in the street and we did have a big group catch up about 12 months ago and he was there, but I was pretty surprised to hear out of the blue from him just to tell me this?

        I was fairly dignified in my responses – basically saying it’s Ex Mr W’s prerogative to speak like that if he wants to (though I did comment he only carries on like that because he’s a deeply insecure person).

        He is such a weirdo as well (ex Mr W) – he untagged himself from all of our photos on FB. Now, we’ve both had FB for about 5 years, and together for 4.5 of them. So there are literally, hundreds and hundreds of photos of us together. I kept them all tagged because I was like “meh it is my history”. He went and untagged himself, including in pictures I know we never copied to his computer so they’re gone forever (like of him at a flying lesson I got for his b day one year). BUT the weirdest thing – HE DIDN’T DELETE MY MUM FROM HIS FRIENDS LIST. I mean WTF? Clearly wants to keep my Mum on there to keep tabs on me. Whereas I would prefer to not know a single bloody thing about him!

        Rant over. Sorry. I know I am venting and it shouldn’t matter, we broke up nearly 4 months ago and I’m over analysing and thinking about it! I’m just in a venty vent mood!

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        • Maggie

          I would get your Mum to de-friend him.
          Cut ALL ties!

          But I am glad to here you are doing well :) Keep it up! x

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          • Oh trust me, Maggie, we have had this conversation many times and she refuses to delete him. I can’t quite work out why and she is funny saying “no I won’t do that I just won’t”. Makes me pretty angry actually, when all my mates were like “delete delete delete” when I asked them to!

            I actually have just given up and told her to absolutely and categorically NOT TELL ME A SINGLE THING he is doing.

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    • st87

      Taking the high road, dignified silence. Wins every time. I am so SO proud of you and how you have grown the last few months! I love reading your posts. Xx

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      • Kate

        I was just about to say something similar ie. be the bigger person. It’s hard, it sucks, but in the long run you’ll be better off for it.

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    • maybedaisy

      WS, he sounds like a twat.

      I have a question for you and I hope to God it doesn’t come out the wrong way. Does Ex Mr WS know about your contributions to Mamamia? Does he have access to your Twitter handle? I ask this because if he does, he’s probably reading everything you write. Maybe that’s why he said what he did to your colleague? Trying to hurt you in the best way he knows how?

      In any case, I really wish you all the best. Break-ups are the absolute pits. xx

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      • Hey Daisy.

        He knows I have twitter and knows my handle, but my Twitter is locked to private….so he can’t see anything just randomly viewing it (unless he makes up a completely random account just to follow me and he ain’t that desperate).

        I’m certain he knows that I comment on Mamamia and he definitely knows I’ve been published on here before, but I highly highly highly doubt he would trawl through the comments looking for my handle to see my comments – I doubt he cares enough to do that!

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