by MELISSA WELLHAM, (Mamamia intern)
It’s that time of the week again. Make yourself a cuppa, and then we’ll sit in a circle, hold hands, and share the best and worst of our week. Maybe we should even sing kumbayah? Then again, let’s not. I have a terrible singing voice.
I’ll get us started…
BEST: This was definitely one of those ‘appreciating the little things in life’ kind of weeks. Things like drinking too much red wine and dancing around my best friend’s bedroom. Like indulging in decadent brunches. Like watching amateur theatre, and finding the actors to be anything but amateur. Like working in a bookshop that holds poetry readings, and having a friend bring me laksa for dinner because I couldn’t leave in the middle of my shift.
Also, I greatly enjoyed mentally planning my Halloween costume for the end of this month. I’m thinking about swapping my usual outfit of something truly monstrous, for something a little more stylish like Jessica Rabbit. What about you?
WORST: The worst (aside from the very serious problems that usually plague my life like, you know, having to wait too long for YouTube videos to download and such) was reading this piece on Mamamia about two babies who were switched at birth, and the difficult decision their mothers had to make when this was discovered. It really put into perspective the things I usually complain about, like leaving essays until the last minute – which is my own fault, anyway.
Here’s what else has been happening around the Mamamia office and on social media this week…

Mia in gorman spots and stripes.
Melissa is an intern with Mamamia, and the kind of person who often wears leopard print with sequins. She blogs at Melicious and tweets at @melissawellham.
Now over to you lovely people – how was your week?







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Best my gp is happy with mr 4 week olds weight but back next week
Miss 5 is so excited about her dance concerts in 4 weeks dancing around the house
Worst having too take baby zac for more check ups his eye is not clearing up and now he has a umbilical hernia too. ( becoming very over protective now)
Also miss 5 got a spider bite so off too the doctors for her and they weighed her. She is very underweight for 5 gp not overly concerned yet but looking at photos of the last 18 months. She has really slimed down. So keeping a close eye on her i think
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Best: My gorgeous toddler son, what a delight.
Worst: relationship with husband has deteriorated so much this past year. He is selfish and bullying. When I say we need to talk he tells me viciously to shut up. Which I do because he is wearing me down and I’m tired. I had to go to hospital recently and was in from lunch time to midnight. During that time my husband did not feed or hydrate our toddler. Fed himself though. He is so neglectful. When we got home toddler woke up hungry and I was up cooking him some pasta and veg at 1 in the morning sick as I could be, whilst husband watched re-runs of Jackass on 7two. This is what stops me leaving him. The fact that this asshat would have 50% custody. He looks so good to the outside world, high paying job, friendly, caring parent etc. It’s so scary to
me how different someone can be behind closed doors.
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Hi SweetPea. I’m sorry your husband is this way. If you are thinking of leavng him, can you record this behaviour, and perhaps discuss it now with someone who coud back you up in court if need be? It is quite scary to read this post and think someone who could neglect a child to that extent could have custody. Perhaps discuss it with a doctor or child health nurse? I’m not sure what they could do, but it would be good if someone had ths kind of behaviour on file. I hope you are OK.
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Hi SweetPea. I’m sorry your husband is this way. If you are thinking of leavng him, can you record this behaviour, and perhaps discuss it now with someone who coud back you up in court if need be? It is quite scary to read this post and think someone who could neglect a child to that extent could have custody. Perhaps discuss it with a doctor or child health nurse? I’m not sure what they could do, but it would be good if someone had ths kind of behaviour on file. I hope you are OK.
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Best: Surgical revision of breast reconstruction reveals what looks like breasts!!!
AND I got a permanent, full-time job…no 6 month bullshit contract job, a NORMAL one, with security and sick pay and holidays and stuff!
AND my brother from Tassie did the drop in visit and replaced my insect screens in my sliding security doors….so grateful to him
Worst: Pain from revision of reconstruction. Very worth it pain considering how they look.
I have had the most fantastic week. The last 18 months have been extremely hard and this week everything seems to be falling into place. Shoutout to Pink Hope for supporting me through the 18 months
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Best: so in love with my little dude. I just can’t help but be happy when I am with him.
Worst: wish I could say the same about my husband. More than anything I yearn for someone to say ‘I get it’ without me having to say a word… no one knows how I feel or why and to be honest I haven’t even figured it out yet. I just know its not great. Underwhelmed seems to come to mind? Agh.
OMM: marriage. I love my husband but fuck he does some stupid/selfish things sometimes/alot of the time.
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Best: the glorious Canberra weather today, plus going to an industry lunch today and hearing a great speaker (Bernard Salt- very funny). Best of all, the amazing grins from my 3yo during his first swimming lesson.
Worst: plantar fasciitis. My feet hurt. A lot. ALL the time.
OMM: why can’t I upload photos via the iPad/mobile site?
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worst : i feel so emotionally drained. so anxious, frustrated and exhausted. another round of fertility treatment has failed. thought i was handling it all ok this month, and then late last night period came, and i instantly started sobbing, curled up on the couch and did the ugly cry till my head was pounding. my hubby iis away this week for work so i was by myself, wasnt prepared to feel so gutted.
as ridiculous and irrational as it sounds, i think it hit me harder this month as two close friends both announced their pregnancies, both due april next year. i got swept away with blind hope and day dreams of us all pregnant together. i reeeaally didnt like the bitter jealous me that surfaced with my period last night. both of them fell pregnant almost straight away. we are approaching two years and still nothing.
best: ten year high school reunion tomorrow, i cant believe its been 10 years. cant wait to catch up with everyone, and i think a night out will be great to take my mind off everythng. got a new outfit that i love, and of course it required shoes and accessories aswell
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Oh hugs Anna. I always did the ugly cry with a bfn, didn’t matter what no. cycle we were up to. I remember one too where hubby was away in China, on his birthday, and I had to call him to tell him the news. It hurts. Be kind to yourself, give yourself some space to grieve, have a few wines. Thinking of you.
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It’s a bit quiet over here this week – hope everyone is recovering from colds and such like
Worst: through no fault of our own we owe centrelink $1000. Ouch. trying not to be angry about it all, just a bit of confusion with child care rebate etc but still. I hadn’t expected it so that is money taken from hubby’s tax return that we thought we could use for other things (like maybe a smart phone for me. grrr, when will I ever enter the 21st century).
Best: I won a $150 red balloon voucher! wahooo! I can get hubby a present for his 40th birthday now!
worst: only two weeks until hubby’s 40th birthday party. Crap. So much to do!
Best: we started a behaviour chart with Miss C and wow! Don’t know why I didn’t do this earlier.
Hugs to everyone, have a great weekend
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OMM: my daughter with learning difficulties eg. Dyslexia etc. hates school. Thinking seriously of biting the bullet and pulling her out of local govt school 5 min walk away and enrolling her in a Steiner school 20 min drive away which has knitting, painting, and dancing on the regular curriculum.
Main possible risks: she may come out of there and still not be able to do the 3R’s and have great difficulties transitioning back into mainstream high in 4-5 years. Younger sister may feel she is less special as she will stay in mainstream.
Main possible benefits: she may be happier and our family life may return to a happier state. Her self esteem may improve. I may be able to relax, due to all of above benefits, outweighing main possible risks….
THOUGHTS PLEASE LOVELY PEOPLE…..
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One of my younger cousins goes to a Steiner, the regular system just wasn’t suiting her (she LOVES animals, and the school she goes to now has lots of animal-based activities. As far as I know, its worked out for the best, but its definitely a tough desicion.
Her mother is one of the most loveliest ladies ever, and they are seriously one happy little family.
So I just wanted to say bravo to you! You sound like a gorgeous mum if you are prepared to consider this for your little girl.
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My three boys all started at Steiner school. Had to transition them (reluctantly – due to spiteful horrible sociopathic separation leaving me without a home/dime/car/bed etc – couldn’t afford to keep them there and re-start my life also) They transitioned into other primary schools at yrs 2, 5 and 7. Yr 5 was the hardest transition, as developmental age and literacy were least compatible for a change. Otherwise, they were well established for transition, and their inquisitive learning style meant they took up new information readily and were keen to participate. I will warn you that Steiner schools are fee funded, and therefore, if your child does not have a formally diagnosed learning disorder she will not attract any funding for school supports, and my experience in my particular steiner school, was a reluctance to at first acknowledge my son’s dyslexia, and a reluctance to address it. He was a cruiser, who could memorise the weekly spelling, and floated through til yr 6 with only me being suspicious for a couple of years. He has transitioned well though, and with a laptop program at his state school, manages written work well enough to be an A-B grade student at yr 11 level. Many blessings to you whichever you choose. I am still a gigantic supporter of steiner schools, and wish they were everywhere and were funded for all of us to choose … they are simply beautiful communities, beautiful holistic educational environments … wish they were the mainstream …
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Best: Husband been on holidays this week
Worst: Husband been on holidays this week. He hasn’t lifted a finger at home to help me with the kids. He has been drinking so much lately and he is also on Ativan to help calm him down and the two combined aren’t a good mix, he has memory loss and becomes a person I dont like that much
He is FOREVER stressed about work, but it hasn’t never changed he is always stressed and I feel lonely and neglected.
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Hey MMer’s – Happy Friday!!
Mostly Bests this week. Things with Kareoke man are still blissful. He even came to youngest cherub’s choir concert Monday night. Nawwwww. Have to share a funny tho. One of the items was a Recorder performance. He whispers in my ear ‘This one time….’ I nearly wet my pants!
Been hanging with a few gfs this week as still not much work. My bestie is off with her boy who is doing his HSC. She made me a lovely lunch yesterday. Went to another gf’s house and we had a sing together – we often duet together at kareoke. And then swung by my other bestie’s house for some baby snuggles.
Worst – probably just the aforementioned lack of work. Had an interview for a contract on Wed that I was sure I had in the bag, but no. So that sucked for a moment and then I remembered everything else in my universe is pretty damn good!
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Glad to hear all is well with Kareoke man. He’s sounding more and more like a keeper
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Worst: 34 weeks pregnant, baby kicking the beejesus out of me.
Best: 34 weeks pregnant, baby kicking the beejesus out of me.
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Best: not eating junk and feeling good. Not being as emotional as I usually am and seeing things alot clearer and logically
Also… A guy from school randomly started talking to me (graduated ten years ago ish) who I never spoke to, ever, whilst we were in school.. turns out he is a reallyyyyy nice guy, never would have thought we would end up being close. Getting all jittery butterflies when he messages me now. missed this feeling
Worst: Not much I can complain about except housework this weekend, really. Life is good, I am blessed.
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Best; My cousins wife had a baby last night! It is the first great grandchild for my grandparents. AND it’s my Nana’s birthday.
Worst: Terrible car accident that killed two people right near my work today. I feel so, so bad for the families that won’t have their loved ones come home.
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Would that be the one on Orrong Rd near the airport?
I can believe the poor tourist only JUST landed! It’s very sad
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Best: getting some new ideas for our not for profit. Also i’d have to add getting over last week where I had the disappointment of not getting a job I thought I’d interviewed for really well. They went with an internal applicant. I was of course, really upset but feeling a lot better this week.
Worst: more job hunting and being poor.
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Best: One of my best friends and I are going to the local orchard this weekend, buying pumpkins and apples, then cooking dinner and drinking copious amounts of wine. Win!
Worst: I just want this semester/year/etc to be over. I keep thinking about how it is going to feel when we step off the plane for the last time, when I see family and my dog for the first time…8 months to go.
OMM: I have witnessed a fair chunk of racial stuff in the last day or so, and it just seems to highlight the relatively narrow-minded view we have experienced here. When I was telling a colleague that our visa expires in May, they said, “Why would they kick an Australian out? You’re from the same stock as us.” (I assume she meant, white?) A friend was shopping and overheard a loud phone conversation in the queue behind her, part of which consisted of, “I hate f*&king Asians!” My (Asian) friend turned around and he quickly hung up and walked out, leaving his trolley behind. And an education student (i.e. future teacher) made a comment on FB about how she was sick of non-Americans teaching classes, and that if they didn’t know who Benjamin Franklin was, they shouldn’t be able to teach. My (Aussie) husband simply commented, “Ouch.” The comment feed stopped dead at that point! All this since yesterday afternoon! I’ve never really experienced this degree of consistent racism in Oz. Makes me sad.
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Best: good week at work. Made progress in my projects and the boss stayed out of my way for a change. And my business is making really good progress.
Worst:
1. Haven’t seen the boy for a month. Had tentative plans for last night and I got stood up! I knew there was a slim chance of our plans happening but how hard is it to send a text? I’m actually surprised just how hurt I felt.
2. Research funding for next year was announced today. People in my group missed out and will likely lose their jobs…
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Best: Sun’s out!
Not best: essay due today and I’m nowhere near finished (and that includes an extension)…
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BEST:
SO excited about a new recipe I have written for BANOFFEE PIE – that’s honestly my best!
WORST:
A bit silly because she’s just gone on a little holiday…. but I miss my Mum…. it’s her birthday today!
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Yum I love Banoffee Pie but have never made it! I hope this new recipe will be on your blog : )
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Banoffee Pie is my all time favourite dessert, but I’ve never made it! Will definitely try your recipe.
Also, I made gozleme last week using your recipe, and it was a huge hit in our house. Made enough for the kids’ lunch boxes the next day which they loved, so thank you Phoodie!
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Best: delivered my second last baby this week. It was a beautiful, controlled, natural labour and birth. So blessed to be a part of it. The woman did amazingly well and was so happy with herself. Lovely.
Worst: So TIRED!!! dont know if something is wrong with me or just generally run down. I’ll be happy when the year is over and I can just relax. I think I’ll get sick when my life slows down a bit.
best #2: my boss said i can keep doing my job 1 day a week next year. yay!
OMM: im doing the around the bay 100km ride this sunday. not very prepared. wish me luck!!
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What about that guy who delivered you a pastry?
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It’s been a while since I’ve commented due to being in a new baby haze…
One of my bests is that the gorgeous baby boy is four months old. Goodbye baby haze and hello world! The other best is that after a stressful wait my darling husband has been given the news that he doesn’t have liver cancer. Those few days waiting to find out we’re truly awful and my heart goes out to those who don’t receive good news. It also has opened my eyes in the fact that life is a blessing and you need to make sure you’re enjoying it and being the best version of yourself. There are some changes now going on in this household, that’s for sure!
Unfortunately there is a worst… hubby does have significant liver disease at 31 as a result of a hereditary condition. He’s lucky that he’s never been a drinker or the situation could’ve been far worse. Now we’re waiting to see the liver specialist and find out just how far advanced his liver die off is and what this means for his future health. It’s highly likely that he will need a liver transplant at some point in the future, I just hope that is way down the track if at all. The other cruel twist is that liver cancer is a real threat and we may have to go through the screening, waiting and stressing routine every year. I’m trying not to freak out but I’m so worried for him and for our two little boys. My husband doesn’t want anyone to know how serious the situation is so I’m feeling a bit lost at the moment. If I’m honest I’m actually a bit pissed off by the hands we’ve been dealt. In the past three years we’ve had a prem baby, a couple of emergency surgeries and another battle with threatened prem labour at 26 weeks. Even though all of it passed and ended well, it just feels unfair to go through so much. That’s not to say that I’d wish any of this on my worst enemy but I feel a bit like what’s next? Staying postive after repeated blows is really difficult. If anyone has any tips on how they cope I’d love to hear them.
Wishing everyone great health and a blissful weekend x
(Oh and apologies for what turned out to be a mega rant lol)
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Maybe try and focus on the positive outcomes instead of the almost negatives. You have happy healthy cherubs, your hubby doesn’t have cancer. And I promise I’m not being trite, honestly. I guess maybe we have some of the bad stuff happen to remind us to enjoy and savour the good things? Be kind to you xx
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Thanks Haven Maven,
. It’s funny that you said the bad stuff reminds us of all the good, that’s usually what I say. I think I my outlook may be suffering from shot nerves and lack of sleep. Thanks for the reminder and have a great weekend!
You’re most definitely right there are plenty of positives here
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I’ve had a big up and down week this week, and I think I need some advice from MMers who’ve been to the US..
My boyfriend and I have booked a holiday to New York for a month jetting off early November. I thought I would be eligible for the Visa Waiver program, but then I realised because I was arrested for stealing cosmetics in 2008 (when I was 18 and doing LOTS of stupid things..) I have to apply for a proper Visa – which includes a flight to Sydney to visit the nearest US consulate! Does anyone have any experience with this and can tell me how long it will take to process? On the website it says up to 60 days after the interview – obviously I need it way before then! If it takes that long than we’ll have to change our holiday plans. I called them to ask but they said they can’t tell me any information about how long it takes, but I can ask at the interview.
I feel so sick about all of this. I was so excited about this trip, my boyfriend’s first trip overseas and our first holiday together, and now I’m just stressed out of my mind. It was such a stupid thing to do and I’m so embarrassed – no one in my life knows about it, and they all know how excited I am for NYC so I have no idea how I’ll explain it to everyone.
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I don’t have any personal experience so can’t give you a great deal of information but I know of someone who had to go through this process and she had no problems getting her visa (she just had to do the same thing and have an interview.) As for how long it took – I’m not sure but they did grant the visa she just had to explain the circumstances (which I think also related to shop lifting).
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Thanks gypsy. I was feeling semi sure I should get a visa because everything I’ve read seems to hint they’re tougher on drug crimes and violent crimes than anything else, but that reassurance is nice!
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We have been through the process, but for an exchange visa. We had to do the interview, and we were told it could be up to 90 days. In the end, it was around 2 months (in hindsight, too late, but we did it anyway!) The consulate officials told us that if whomever is making decisions in Homeland Security that day is in a bad mood, they can reject the appeal without reason. They are not the easiest of organisations to deal with, as you have probably worked out!
Having said that, we have travelled to the US twice on visa waiver even with husband’s history (similar to yours, about 15 years ago!), and it was never questioned. If you do manage to get one in time, book a long layover in the first airport you reach in the US, if you have connectings after that. We were holed up in a waiting room for 6 hours upon reaching the US, waiting to ‘answer questions’. Even with an appeal, you can still be rejected when you get there.
Sorry for the downer. I hope your journey is a little easier than ours was, as you are only going for a short visit.
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Thanks for replying! Although 2 months is definitely not the answer I was looking for
I have to ask for a clarification though – what do you mean when you say the visa arrived “too late but you did it anyway” – does that mean you went without a visa and just applied for a visa waiver, even with the criminal history? Pretty ballsy strategy!
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School started in mid August, and my husband had to be there a week before. So we gave ourselves a self-imposed time limit for the visa to arrive two weeks before the start of school. As it arrived one day prior to our time limit, we went ahead with our plans, but completely moving your whole life in a week was nearly impossible and very nearly killed us and our families. We had to move all our stuff into a storage yard, find a tenant, book flights, organise lots of stuff at the US end, etc. Luckily you won’t have any of those dramas, but in hindsight, our personal time limit was WAY too close to the bone!
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Oh dear. This is going to be cutting it fine.
With my experience with Visa’s however, they usually take into account the date you’ve booked your flight for. Make sure you answer the question about flight details accurately and they will hopefully help you out in this respect.
I remember waiting for my UK student visa with baited breath because we didn’t know if it would make it on time. I got it two days before my flight was booked! You also need to take into account postage and how long it will take them to send from Sydney (I’m in Perth so we needed to allow an extra day then normal for this.)
Good luck! I hope you don’t end up paying for a silly teenage mistake. I had my first trip to NY last week and it was the best city ever. Hope you can enjoy it!
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Thanks for replying Ash! It’s definitely cutting it fine, I know. I briefly looked into the visa stuff a while ago but I wish I delved further at the time. Would be awesome if they took the date I into consideration, but considering its so much less than the 60 days I’m feeling pretty down and out about it all, TBH.
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My advice is go speak to a travel agent such as Harvey World Travel, Flight Centre – they’d be able to offer advice and definitely have experience with visas… more than you would have.
Normally I’d book my travel plans myself, except if something complicated came up. I had to get a ‘proper’ visa for Vietnam a few years ago and my passport had to be sent away – they managed this smoothly for me. A friend of mine approached travel agents for a trip to Russia as that is also fiddly re: visas.
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been a while since i’ve done this, need to vent
WORST: have an awesome opportunity to go to Brazil next year with a tour group of girls dance in carnaval etc but only thing that is stopping me is work being difficult with leave allowance. I have so much leave I have been ordered to take leave, but just can’t take it when i want because there is another staff member taking leave at that time. I spoke to HR officer from another org and they say I need to try find someone else to cover for me and “sell” it to my boss. Hate that I have to fight for it tho. Do I just suck it up and be depressed? yeah.. first world problem boo hoo me
BEST: need to try and be positive so I decided I had to write a best too. BF took me to San Churro last night for yummy chocolate treats to make me feel better.
love to all who are doing it much tougher than me xo
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Yep, new indoor hockey team a definite or another sport option, anything will do cept his team!
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Best: standing up to trolls
Best 2: I, erm, got some last night. It was good and he was so hot. it was only a month ‘drought’ but it felt like so much more.
Worst: I ran over a possum last night. I didn’t mean to and I feel so bad. I stoped to see if it was a little alive so I could take it to the rspca or similar but alas, it was not.
Omm: I keep giggling and I’ve been told three times that I look different. good morning everyone!
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Best: I’ve almost hit my Frocktober fundraising target of $4,000 after holding a really successful event last weekend. People keep coming and telling me how much fun they had which is lovely. The weather has also been lovely this week which has made frocking up really fun. I’ve just posted my weekly round up of dresses at: http://blithemoments.blogspot.com.au/2012/10/frocktober-week-3.html
Worst: I’ve had a dry cough all week and as of this morning have a sore throat and seem to be losing my voice. I just want to feel properly well again!
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Well done on the fundraising! That’s AWESOME!
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Thanks phoodie, I’m super proud of myself.
On the other hand I have now lost my voice and tomorrow night is a close friend’s farewell. I feel ok so hopefully my voice will be back by then.
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Try gargling some water with salt in it
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Bests- its been a busy week but nothing really jumps out as a best I guess the fact that we’ve made it to Friday without feeling ridiculously tired is a best in itself.
Worsts- my sister is in hospital again. Stil toilet training with my 3 year old. Still trying to lose weight.
Omm Russell Crowe. I’m really upset about this break up for some reason. I just can’t explain it..!!???
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Best: Got some kick ass new kitchen accessories for my little apartment. In laws gave me a microwave with a built in grill, as I have no oven. I threw out the $3 cutlery set I bought from Spotlight (such a cheapo) and bought a decent set from Woolworths (shooooosh!) Also got a plastic chopping board set, bag sealers, a sharp knife to cut meat, and also got serious and bought meat for the freezer. Woop.
Worst: My company announced staff redundancies yesterday. Very stressed over it, as we went through this last year. Gotta say goodbye to more of my colleagues, and there is every chance I will be the one saying goodbye.
I really hope it doesn’t come to that.
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Best: I’m graduating from uni today!
Worst: My bf broke up with me wednesday night. I am so devastated, even though we’d been bickering quite a bit and things hadn’t seemed ‘quite right’ for a little while. I’m not even excited about graduating today, because he was going to be coming to the ceremony and now I keep thinking “oh if I hadn’t gone to his place wednesday night we would still be together and he’d be coming to my graduation etc etc” I’ll be seeing him next thursday night because I said i’ll still play on his indoor hockey team (they need the girls and I love playing the game). I guess I’ll just act normal. I haven’t texted him or anything, so go me.
And I really want him and i to get back together, I would love some advice, any advice at all, as i’m a wreck now.
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Hey H
I felt the same when my ex broke up with me early last year. I wanted him back so badly, and felt awful for weeks. We were together for three and half years. I know you really want him back, but try to do other things to help take your mind off it. I went back to dancing after it happened, going out with the people there. If you need it, ask for a few days off work and do something fun.
Wouldn’t you believe it, 6 months after the break up I started dating a guy I met through dancing. We are still together a year later. I just think you should do things you enjoy. Oh, and FIND ANOTHER INDOOR HOCKEY TEAM! Sorry, but if you don’t see him, speak to him or have his number it will be 10000x easier to get over it and heal from it!!
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Girly is so right. Give yourself time, focus on the good things in your life and find a new hockey team. You will feel better soon but you have to let go or else you will be in pain for a lot longer.
It’s awful, I know. But we’ve all been thru it and you will get lots of support and advice on here. You can control how you think about this situation and how you handle it – it’s entirely up to you. You can be really upset and stressed or you can choose to say ok it’s over life obviously has other things in mind for me.
Hope you feel better soon x
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It is really awful when you get broken up with, especially if you don’t see it coming, but I completely agree with girly. You need to look after you and not think about him. Even if you do want to get back together, he has to as well, so I would say just leave him be and move on with your life. If he comes chasing all well and good, but don’t chase him, it will only make you feel worse.
Definitely find a new activity to keep yourself busy. I also recommend dancing. I can recommend different styles and studios if you tell me what kind of music you like and where you live (I’m a part time dance teacher).
Hugs to you for now.
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Best 1: I got an internship!! The offer I received and the place where I’m going makes the past few months of rejections (and encounters with some rude managers) worth it. I’m really happy and excited. Can’t wait to start! A massive thank you to all the MMers who made suggestions last week to help me out. I really appreciate it
Best 2: I managed to get Pink tickets! It was a bit of struggle as they were selling out so quickly. Taking my mum with me and am looking forward to it. Our last concert together was Bon Jovi and that was a great night.
Best 3: Have 2 big events over this weekend! Seeing one of my favourite comedians and going to a football (soccer) game which should be huge.
Worst: Pretty insignificant worst this week – but uni group work is driving me crazy! I’m just annoyed at the people who think it’s okay to skip entire meetings (they decided to sleep in)and then criticise us for how we’re doing the assignment. Over it.
OMM: Derren Brown’s Experiment – The Gameshow. Shows just how far some people are willing to go to impact others when they’re anonymous! Real eye opener. Worth watching!
Pretty great week here for me. Have a great weekend all!!
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So glad you got an internship! Well done!
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Thanks Lucy!
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Best: Going birthday gift shopping for my gorgeous sister. She’s my best friend and I loved finding the perfect gift that would make her smile so much that people would get suspicious!
Worst: Getting sick on Monday and missing my awesome internship.
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Best: Roar & Snore at Taronga Zoo!! My husband and I went for our first wedding anniversary and it was just amazing! Love every minute of it.
Worst: My job. I work in an office with all men. I am in one section by myself but they’re starting to come in and take over and I am being left out of things or not being told information. I feel like I am complaining all the time to my boss but it’s kind of dismissed. I usually quite enjoy my job but it’s starting to get me down again.
Maybe I’ll just let them go and see how far they get without my help. Mature way to handle it. Yep.
Have a good weekend…!!!
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Best: Getting married a month from now!
Worst: So many people who think I’m making a mistake. I don’t know if it is because I’m 22 or because we’ve only ever been with each other since we were 14. But we are crazy about each other and always have been. What are we meant to do – break up and sleep around with other people because that is what you’re ‘meant to do’ so you ‘know what you want’ – ?
We were just lucky enough to find each other so early on and avoid the dating/single scene. He’s a junior doctor (intern) and is earning money now, do we’ve got financial security. Everyone agrees he’s an amazing guy and has always treated me so well, takes my little brother to the show, etc
We know what we want and we happen to be younger than most. Clearly we are the exception to the ‘young marriage is a bad idea’ rule – 8 years together, 4 living together.
Gah! Rant over.
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The funny thing is that your relationship would have been the norm 20 years ago! A colleague of mine was similar, they met at 15, married at 2. One of the happiest most together couples I know.
My guess, everyone is jealous that you didn’t have to endure the crap of the dating scene! Have a wonderful wedding.
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I’m in a similar situation – engaged at 22 to my boyfriend of 6 years. Like you, I choose to see myself as lucky
How exciting that you only have a month to go!!!!! xx
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My husband and I got married when we were 20. We celebrate our 10 yr wedding anniversary next month, are still madly in love and have 3 gorgeous little boys!
Congratualtions on your upcoming wedding, sounds like you have a wonderful relationship and are getting married for all the right reasons. Don’t lose sight of that, enjoy your wedding day! Wishing you a long and happy marriage xox
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I was married at 20 and have been married for 36 years. You are both adults and must do what you think is right for you. But can I give you a bit of advice? Please think carefully before you have a baby. Your husband to be has a stressful job and I’ll bet he works a lot of hours, get settled in the marriage first. I speak from experience here, my son was born on our first wedding anniversary.
Marriage is different to living together, I do not know why or how, but it is.
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My sister met her hubby at 17 and got married at 21, had her first child at 22 They just celebrated 11 years of marriage and have proved a few people wrong – there will always be someone who thinks you are doing it wrong/too quickly/too young. I still have a letter from her from when she was 17 saying she had met this guy and she ‘thinks he is the one’. <3 Bugger everyone else, you know he is your 'one' I hope you have a fantastic day, congratulations!
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I met my husband when I was 17, married him one day after my 22nd birthday. He is my first and only “serious” boyfriend. Sometimes in my 20′s I’d feel like I had missed ut on the whole sleeping around/dating thing, but now at 31 i am so glad i skipped that bit. We are still in love, still married and still each others best friend. Congratulations!
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How wonderful that you feel that way about each other, you are so lucky. choose to not let negative people affect you, it’s their problem. I sounds as though you are going to have an amazing life, lucky you. xxx
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Congratulations. My husband and I have been together since I was 18 and he was 20, we’re very happily married after 23 years together.
Have a wonderful wedding.
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This morning, I saw a “friend” at uni for the first time since I had my engagement party a few weeks ago.
It’s a longish story, but basically she wasn’t invited to the engagement party because inviting her would’ve meant inviting a whole group of people that we don’t get along with. Also, because we’re not super close and the party was mainly close friends/family, I figured she might be mature enough to understand that and be OK with it.
Nope. After ignoring a couple of unrelated texts I’d sent her in the weeks following the party (she’d normally respond within five minutes), she stepped it up a notch this morning.
In our uni lecture, I sat down in the seats where we sit every single week. I saw her come in with the small group of people we normally sit with, lead them over to the complete opposite side of the lecture theatre and sit down without even looking at me. She’s 26! I felt like I was in primary school all over again!
For this reason, my Best of The Week is knowing that my life is better without people like her who cause a fuss over silly, petty, immature things. I’ve also recently “broken up” with another toxic friend and my life just seems so much less dramatic and more positive. Yay for surrounding yourself with people who actually make you feel GOOD!
#rantover
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It sounds as though you were reasonably close with her – from what you have written. So it’s natural that she was hurt. I would be. Maybe if you spoke to her before the party and explained it was only small group of mainly family she would have understood.
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Best – Bec Sparrow,loved your work on Mamamia this week.
Best- Have started decluttering my house, it feels good.
Worst- Still missing my Dad.
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+ 1 to Bec Sparrow
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+ another 1 to Bec!!
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Curious to know why no-one at the water cooler was talking about Julia’s face plant.
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Everyone face plants it at one stage or another. Why humiliate the poor woman? So she tripped. I’d have a meltdown if every news station was reporting my hilarious trip and mocking me over it.
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Worst – someone told me they are inconvenienced by my skin. Ugh. So I wrote this blog post http://carlyfindlay.blogspot.com.au/2012/10/our-disabilities-do-not-inconvenience.html
Best: speaking at a dermatology conference, being published on mamamia and receiving lovely comments, and spending an hour with the boy I have a thing for.
Happy Friday all
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How in holy hell did you manage not to commit an act of violence after hearing that? And how the hell is someone else ‘inconvenienced’ by your skin? What a f*cking awful thing for someone to say to you. Or to anyone.
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I can’t believe I missed that post Carly. It is brilliant. Well done you.
And yay about the boy.
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Inconvenienced??
That is just absurd.
Tell them to take a hike.
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It was difficult not to react badly and I can’t really go into the details, but I told them that I’m certain that my skin is more uncomfortable for me than them. I is extremely awkward now but they made it that way.
I needed to blog about it, to get it off my chest, hence the ambiguity of it all.
Thanks for your support everyone
Also forgot – I fell down the stairs on sunday – cut my knee pretty bad, so that is very sore.
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Best – I met this amazing guy in the begining of last month and we ve started dating. Hes truely something special. I only see him around once a week as he works 6 days and is up at 5am for work. We are texting more and planning on doing more things. Its all very exciting!
Worst – Unprotected sex. I dont need to be told how stupid it is, as i am well aware of it! We just got lost in the moment. I know i need to have this conversation with him cause we are having sex.. But it also seems too soon
Its a bit daunting as i went out with my ex for 5 years, and i forgot what its like to not have that level of comfort. Its been playing on my mind.
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Hi Lil,
It’s great that yourve met this new guy but please have the conversation with him to ensure he has been tested and has the all clear.. If you are both responsible enough to have sex you should be responsible enough to have the discussion. In the meantime go to the doctors and get yourself tested for STI’s and this will put your mind at rest.
Goodluck with the new relationship
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go to Woolies or Coles or a chemist and buy some condoms, too easy. Do not be embarassed at all. It all sounds really great, good for you.
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1 in 8 people have herpes. You’ve known him six weeks. Are you exclusive? Please, please – think about this.
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