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Happy Friday and welcome to one of the most popular posts of the week. It’s time to reflect on what’s happened during your week – the good, the bad and the in-between.
Sharing is caring and for several years now, Mamamia readers have been gathering here on a Friday and over the weekend to trade highs and lows.
Remember that if you want a chance to host best and worst, email info@mamamia.com.au with your full name, headshot and a short bio (include any links to your blog/Twitter etc), and we’ll take it from there.
Best: My best this week was having my faith restored in the human race. I somehow found myself driving my mum’s car in the midst of an apocalyptic windstorm, having a fist fight with the windscreen wipers and trying desperately not to kill myself. Unfortunately, the car battery died and I got stranded in someone’s driveway wearing my pyjamas with a dead battery, no wallet and no shoes. I called the NRMA. (This is where my valley becomes a peak) The NRMA guy proceeded to come to my rescue within 5 minutes, comforted me while I bawled my eyes out, then accompanied me to my house so I could duck inside, put some pants on and grab a muesli bar while he kept my engine running. What a guy.
Worst: I was having a lovely Skype sesh with my mum who is currently in Poland. Everything was going swimmingly until she decided to give me a virtual tour around her hotel room. “Here’s my room… here’s our view… and here’s your father without any clothes on!” I could’ve saved myself some pain if the time delay had worked in my favour but alas, by the time her words reached my laptop it was too late. My parents of course thought my physical reaction to seeing my own dad naked was unequivocally hilarious. Different courses for different horses. Thank god for pixelation.
Sylvia Freedman is a full-time uni student and intern at Mamamia. After backpacking around Europe and coaching soccer in the U.S, she has worked in a myriad of bars, completed two years of graphic design and is currently studying communications.
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mFW5QU I really liked your blog article.Really looking forward to read more. Fantastic.
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lUGh10 I cannot thank you enough for the blog.Much thanks again. Keep writing.
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Best: Having my hard work recognised after a really stressful two weeks at work. Applause and a quick ‘thank you’ from my co-workers was all I needed to know that at least my efforts and hidden tears were not for nothing!
Worst: My fingers are cold as I type this, and my hot water bottle is quickly cooling down…. QUICK – TO THE KETTLE!!
OMM: Loved this week’s ‘Best and Worst’ by Sylvia Freedman – very funny!
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Absolute worst of the week: Rick is leaving mamamia!! His wit, intelligence and insightful writing will be sorely missed.
Best: in the words of Oprah, his future is so bright it burns my eyes!
OMM: How will it feel around here without the Rick factor giving us the objectivity and cheer?
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WHAT?!! Rick is leaving?! I am not sure if I missed this announcement, but NO!!! YOU CAN’T LEAVE RICK! WHY!!!
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Best: we are at the coast for a long long family weekend (Friday afternoon to Tuesday afternoon) and the boys are loving playing with their cousins and grandparents.
Worst: sinusitis for the 3rd time in 2 months. OVER it
OMM: I’d like to join a masters swimming group but the times just don’t work with our kids/work/commitments
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well i starded my week on a diet and still on it at first it was realy hard but its been getting easer one good thing that happend was that a found a web page where i can text for free worldwide try it http://www.textme4free.com
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Best: Have survived my first week of unemployment in a very long time… Was made redundant last week after 10+ years with the company. I’m looking at this situation as a big positive opportunity for a new start.
Worst: The feelings of uncertainty and anxiety with change… But I know they’ll pass.
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Best: I’ve really solidified a few new friendships and it feels good! They are great people and I look forward to getting to know them better.
Worst: old and good friends slipping away. It’s really hard to keep up friendships from high school. People drift and get involved in different things. I’m trying, but pinning everyone down is a challenge!!
Worst #2: Hearing Rick is leaving MM!! Could someone point me to an explanation??? Is it true?
OMM: I’m applying for disability at university for epilepsy and I have mixed feelings about it. On the one hand, it would be a huge relief and helpful when things go pear shaped. On the other hand, I feel like there are so many other people who could use it. Pathetically, I feel a bit of a failure and am finding it hard to accept help which has taken me by surprise.
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There’s nothing wrong with registering for disability. It’s one of those things where you have to register but you might need the help. My friend gets reasonable adjustment for dyslexia, it’s nothing huge but it helps her. I figure they want you to pass, and more people would be happier if they actually DID use the services that are around – that’s what stuff like disability services and Academic Consideration are there for!
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This week was a mix of ups and downs.
First my husband got the opportunity to go overseas for a 2weeks course to learn more about a specific brand in his trade. The problem is he can’t go, because his parents are away overseas to, I am working and no one can look after our kids, because it would be in two weeks time, and we are short staffed, also I am only back from maternity leave since april, so no way of taking holidays or days off. He is disappointed that he can’t go, but not about our situation, more about the company. They asked him a year ago if he wanted to do that, when he agreed suddenly other workers got jealous or something and made a drama why he was the one to go, so things were quite until well this week. Anyway, there will be other opportunities.
The good news is my dad is coming to visit us in a couple of months, looking forward to that.
OMM: I am feeling almost constantly tired, I feel like I can’t get on top of things regarding housework and at the same time devote as much time as possible for my kids. Going to work helps me mentally, I am relaxed to be working, but of course it sets me back with housework and blah blah blah. I know first world problem and I keep stumbling across messages like “enjoy the little moments” and “don’t worry about those things”, but I just can’t switch off.
Ok feeling better now. In general life is good.
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Best 1. First week at work off light duties and back into clinical work.
Best 2. Son not moving to Melbourne after all. I still worry about him and would miss him, even though he’s almost 22 and a bit of a pain frankly, at times.
Worst 1. Having to navigate stairs at clients homes with all my equipment in tow. Still have vertigo frequently.
Worst 2. My sons disappointment at a job in the building industry falling through. Probably a bad time for the building industry know though.
OMM, had a lovely lunch and day out with my oldest daughter. I worry about her getting a nursing job once she finishes uni at the end of the year. She’s nearly 25. Do you ever stop worrying about your kids?
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Best:
- new man in my life (sort of) it is exciting we had the first kiss last week (OMG AMAZING!!!!)
-going to the gym quite a bit and feeling good about myself
-knowing what I want in life
Worst:
-date with said man – he had to leave in 20 minutes! it couldn’t be helped so I know it’s not his fault but I felt a mixture of the need to laugh out loud at my pathetic dating life and dejected
- missing my ex and wondering if I did the right thing
-finding out a supposed “best friend” stabbed me in the back then pretended like nothing has happened
OMM: going on a family vacation tmr…… god. help. me. PLEASEee
Love and strength to all those doing tough! xoxox
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Best: being told initial feedback on my PhD was ‘sunny’ and I should prepare to publish
Worst: saying goodbye to the best uni class I have ever taught … Sob!
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Or maybe there’s another Freedman family who lives in Sydney! What are the odds?
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Oops, didn’t mean to sound snarky – it’s been a long week.
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There’s plenty of snark in this place, Jess. Your post got a whole side order of it as a response.
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I didn’t think it was that snarky at all.
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Well as some of you may remember I moved to the country – great idea, not!
You will also remember, and some of you were quite mean and critical, about me losing all my belongings. All my clothes, shoes, personal belongings, beautiful furniture, electronics, jewellery, photos, frames, office equipment (self employed & home office) including my external hard drive with 10 years of client data; absolutely everything.
My beautiful little soul mates ashes and oil painting and my fathers WW11 RAN photos – irreplaceable and no copies.
Then – yep it just gets better and better – I had to go to hospital emergency and whilst in hospital (an hour away from home) I was robbed.
No they didn’t steal my brand new laptop or two new LCD tvs, or brand new Blue Ray player.
They stole my huge 6 y/o Apple desktop with 10 years of work and personal stuff including the only photos I had left.
Even though the brand new Apple laptop was sitting right next to the old, 35 kilo massive desktop – they didnt’ take it.
And they they left the power cord, which you can not buy, so the thieves can’t turn the computer on and anyway it’s password protected.
Whilst I was in hospital the Police checked on my two dogs (who a friend kindly collected a few days before) and whilst in my house – which I appreciate – they left my front and back doors open. Not unlocked – but wide open.
Hence giving the thief easy access. It’s hard to believe I know. If you feel the need to give me a hard time, as some did re my belongings being disposed – please don’t bother I am struggling to cope with all this.
My client sacked me – can’t blame them and I now have no income. I have no data, none of my work, research etc for 10 years. Yes I should have backed up – but my external hard drive which had all my back up was one of the items disposed of. And I didnt’ have the right lead to transfer data over to new laptop – but never thought anyone wld steal old old desktop.
So computer and total livelihood stolen – so Police suggested and I printed up Reward Notices for return of computer. computer is worth absolutey nothing to anyone else.
Guess what – yes reward notices (stating computer stolen from main street of town) put up around town late yesterday afternoon ripped off today. Nice hey.
Anyway I can’t sit back and whine, have to try and move on as hard as it is.
Whine over.
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Louise, I can’t imagine how hard it has been for you over the past few months.
I hope it gets easier for you from now on.
Why don’t you put something here about what your job is and see if anyone can send some work your way? If we had an idea of what you do, someone might be able to help?
Take care of yourself,and ignore the negative people. they are not worth your energy.
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Thank you so much. I’ll be ok, I just can’t believe it.
My friend, when I told her could only say “astounding”.’ Laugh.
It will be ok, I am determined to not let it destroy me. Thank you for your kindness it is much appreciated. x
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This is the first time I have read your story…. it just seems to get worse and worse for you. Can’t begin to imagine what you have been through and the anguish you must be still feeling. I can only hope your life can turn around from now on and it will all be positive. Best wishes.
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I know! Kinda gotta laugh hey?! My friend is certain I must have been Hitler or worse in a past life.
I’ve decided this is it! No more bad stuff. Hopefully the power of the mind will work!
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It’s unimaginable how rude those thiefes are! I really really wish you to recover quickly and hope that you are able to get back on your feet business wise and also with all your things.
I don’t understand why someone would steal you computer, when it’s not worth anything for them. I’m sure you don’t understand either, but I just wanted to stress this.
And I remember your post, I felt really sorry for you, hard to understand(again) why people gave you a hard time.
Also I wanted to say, if the computer isn’t worth anything for them, maybe it might just turn up somewhere on the side of the street, in a rubbish bin or at the police station. It just may, if you’re lucky. I am saying this, because this actually happened to us.
We were owner builders of our house, and when we finished it was time to hand over all building certificates to the building department(not sure if that’s the correct name) to receive the permit to move in. My husband put everything into a suitcase and into the car the night before, so he wouldn’t forget to take it with him in the morning. Stupid I know, I had said, that it’s not a good idea, but he thought it was fine. Well next morning he approaches the car, and the window is broken, suitcase missing. These were all original plumbing, electrical etc. certificates, and we were building for about 2 years, and of course not worth a cent to anybody else. We were devastated, thought it would take us weeks to get copies and chase up all those labourers.
I suggested to hubby that we go for a walk and look around, maybe they just dumped the suitcase when they saw, there was no money or such. We didn’t find anything, BUT a couple of days later, we got a phone call from the local police station, that someone has found it in their front yard. We were so lucky and glad that there was a happy end. So don’t give up believing in the good things, it may just happen!
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Thanks Marijana. I’ve been praying to St Anthony as I read on here that other people had done this when they’d lost things.
ANd I”ve printed up Reward notices offering 1k for the return of the computer so praying and hoping someone returns it.
The whole thing is so bizarre…. they can’t use it as they left he power cord (and you can’t buy them) and it’s so old and heavy; and leaving the brand new laptop which was sitting next to it….
I’ll just keep putting up notices and hope it turns up. But in the interim just try and move on.
I only just got the new laptop but didn’t have the right lead to transfer everything from old desktop to it. Also I never imagined anyone would steal the old desktop….
Much worse things happen to people, it’s just a pain. x
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I have been looking for a very specific type of shoe. I’ve found lots of almost-right shoes, but none perfect. I’m not settling for second-best, when I’ve got my heart set on them.
I found them today – AND they were on sale!
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I’m a little off topic but really just curious why comments are closed on the last two posts about the “gift of sleep” e-book? I thought there’d be lots of discussion about how people find the book! Anyone care to share if they know why?!
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I suggest that they did not receive any positive comments.
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That was harsh. Just because that style of sleep and settling advice isn’t for you, doesn’t mean it isn’t for anyone. I had a brief look at the post when it first came up and it looked like it wasn’t open for comments then.
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i have a new WORST: Rick leaving MM……..such a loss!!!
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Where’s he going??
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There is a separate post up about it.
yes he is leaving MM.
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What?? NO! Please explain!! Rick, you will be sorely missed!
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Worst: A couple of ‘mean girls’ in Year 10 are making my first week at my new school rather challenging. You know…that passive agressive stuff – laughing when I walk past them in the classroom, whispering and pointing at me – then laughing some more. Lord give me the strength to not take this personally!
Best: Beautiful, simple acts of kindness. I was walking to the staff carpark in torrential rain, loaded up with 3 bags and getting soaking wet. Out of nowhere appeared a huge umbrella and a lovely smiling face – ‘you look like you need this’ said a parent, and accompanied me to my car. Thank you anonymous man. You must have beautiful kids – they are lucky to have a dad like you!
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Hey, how awful for you. I bet that in ten years time or maybe more they will think back and be so embarrassed at how awful they are. but that is no excuse.
I suggest standing up to them – my experience has been that bullies – in school and work – are very weak people. Once you call them on their bad behaviour, stand up to them and do not tolerate their nonsense they back right down.
I’ve had shocking bully bosses, so terrible I still have nightmares. But I also had some bully school mates and even a teacher – I went directly to the teacher and told her that her bullying was not acceptable. She was so obviously picking on me in front of the entire class, really terrible – standing up to her worked too.
I’m not recommending that you become aggressive but I am suggesting that you stand your ground, calmly but firmly. It helps to practice.
I hope that you’re ok. It’s all a learning lesson but still people should not be mean and they should not be sheep either and these bullies are both! x
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I had to read this post a couple of times. Are you the teacher of these girls? You could have a lot of fun with that, you know. Not malicious, but if those girls were in my class they’d certainly be receiving a lot of my attention. Extra responsibilities etc. Oh yes.
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Hahaha! Oh, I so see your point! It sounds like I could be a student!
Nope, I’m their new teacher – replacing their much loved old teacher who is off on maternity leave.
If it continues next week, I will act. I was bullied in high school myself, so it kind of drags up very horrible baggage from my past and I was never able to confront my tormentors.
But hey…that’s so long ago now so I’m looking for some inner strength and resilience. And if that fails….some extra ‘duties’ for these charming little princesses just might do the trick.
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Show no weakness. Don’t try to be their friend, it won’t work. Don’t come down on them like a ton of bricks either but they need to know that you’re onto them.
Next time one pointed and laughed I’d be approaching with a smile and asking them what’s so funny. You’ll get “Nothing, Miss.” They’ll do it again. So will you. That sort of behaviour is not acceptable on their part.
I’d talk to the department head (if you have one) for some advice on tactics but I tell you, Kathy, show no weakness!! Good luck with it all. You’re a brave woman with a lot to give and they’re silly teenage girls. Remember that when they’re behaving like a pack of vicious hyenas.
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Be firm with them. I’m sure they make life hell for some of their peers too, so I beg you to watch them like a hawk and take whatever action you can.
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I read a great article just this weekend on how to handle bullying – it had some case studies of parents who went up to the bullies and told them off and it worked.
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Best: Have had a lovely first week of being a full-time SAHM, moments surviving a rat-bag child thinking eeek, but mostly enjoying all this special time without having to think about work AT all!!
No real worsts just ongoing cold, annoying moments with hubby – little things that don’t really matter
OMM: over-thinking whether to friend request my brother-in-laws girlfriend on fb. I think it would be a nice welcoming gesture, but she could do the same and because its a long distance relationship I really havn’t spent much time with her, other family members have added her though so i don’t want to seem mean. As i said definitely overthinking!!!
Also makes me remember/think of my sister-in-law who passed away last year -I’m sure she was the one who added me lol and I miss her lots, her hubby’s birthday is coming up and he’s seemed really down lately
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Best: My husband is home tonight after 2 weeks away with work. I have found it really hard to cope on my own, despite support from my MIL, my sister and girlfriends. Their help has been invaluable but is more physical than emotional. Need my husbands support more than I realised. Can’t wait for a giant hug at the airport!
Worst: I’ve been really disappointed with some of the comments hurled at women who aren’t breastfeeding/ didn’t breastfeed their kids after the bottled water post on wednesday. Like many other mums, i too want the best for my kids and i hate the ‘anti-sister’ behavior that goes on. Why can’t women just support other women, and understand that every mum/child is unique? I couldn’t breastfeed for #2 or #3 bub, (despite many failed attempts) and I delight in the fact that there are some companies that are thinking about my needs as a busy mum, who wants to do anything she can so that their child is not hungry. Breast is best I know but not always possible!! Why can’t we just accept this and move on. I so would prefer to spend what little spare time I have on play time with my kids, (and maybe reading MM!) rahter than fighting off other women and their opinions or dealing with a screaming infant bc they are starving from not getting enough milk!
OMM: Both are first world problems i know!
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I really just want to post my best. It’s silly but I have to share! I have a twitter acct. but don’t ‘tweet’ per se, I just follow people I like. I just discovered @OasisGems, an account run by a single girl in her 20′s who posts quote verbatim from men on the dating site Oasis Active. When she says gems, she means it. These are a couple of my faves:
“Also I am looking for woman with big calves or willing to demonstrate physical strenght”
“im not that keen on cats, but i would never poison one lol”
“i’m into hard rock (eg Nickleback)”
“i love films and herbs”
I can’t get enough. Love it.
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LOL I am not keen on cats but would never poison one.. that is HILARIOUSLY disturbing!
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Worst: Mum and Dad went home on Monday. It has been great (life saving even) to have Mum here for 5 weeks!!!
Best: It was lovely to see my Dad (he only came down on the weekend). We had a bit of a moment where he revelaed how worried about me he has been. He is an old school farmboy (doesn’t often show emotion) and it was very touching.
Best: Overall it has been a good week. I coped on my own. And I actually have had a few good days.
Best: I accepted help this week from a charity called Mummy’s wish who help out Mum’s with cancer. It is very difficult for me to accept help, but they will help out with some housecleaning, and brought me around some treats for myself and the kids. I think getting to this point has been good for me, and now I can move forward knowing I’m getting help, but it will be ok.
OMM: The news about Sheryl Crowe and her brain tumour (which is the same as mine) has my head in a spin. I feel it has been handled in a flippant and dismissive way (I’ve seen many reports saying “it is just a benign tumour, no big deal). Benign doesn’t mean harmless. And yet I tell myself “I shoud be grateful that it isn’t malignant”. It messes with your head. (no pun intended)
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oopsyboops, it sounds like you’ve had a good week
It’s very brave of you to accept help when it’s something you wouldn’t normally do. But I’m certain it’s contributed to your mental health.
I know what you mean about the news about Sheryl Crowe. IMHO a brain tumour is a brain tumour. Doesn’t matter what sort it is, where it is, or whether it’s affecting your quality of life. It’s still a foreign matter in your head and it shouldn’t be there. You’re right, it does mess with your head.
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I am so not acknowledgable about this stuff but it seems the media have run with this story without much/any substantial input from Sheryl Crowe. I also got the feeling that she didnt’ want to worry people.
Ooopsy Boops you are such an amazing person. Let these people help with the housework, I bet they will get so much satisfaction from such a small act.
And I know it wi;l make you feel better -there’s something so lovely about a newly cleaned house. Enjoy xx
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Gaahd you’re doing well, Oopsyboops – I know how hard it is for you (BTDT) and the tone of your comment (and the tones of all your comments lately) is going UP! Fantastic! SO happyfor you.
There’s a good thing the Cancer Council runs, called “Living Well After Cancer” – dealing with all sorts of issues. We find that our perceptions and values completely AC (after cancer) and this forum addresses them all.
Give the CC a buzz on 1300 200 558.
It’s a rough ride, and you sound as tho you’re getting some of your bounce back!
Accept all offers of assistance in whatever area. People really really want to help you but don’t quite know HOW to.
Just…accept, and be thankful you have wonderful people around.
Hugs.
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Thanks Xanthe. Will get onto that. I decided today I am sick of being “sick” so from now, I’m just getting better. I’m going to go back to the gym, reenrol the kids in swimming. Justs get on with life (within limits, I know, I’m still shockingly tired and need to pace myself).
Hope you and your family are having a good week.
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I wondered about her tumour. I’m not surprised it was a meningioma. I believe they’re more common in women.
Glad you’re coping ok. I’ve come to realise you and your hubby don’t like to accept offers of help! We’re sometimes our own worst enemies I think.
Just read some news reports for Sheryl Crowe and you’re right. It’s been so down played. Grrr. I want to swear….a lot.
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BEST: Our latest IVF cycle is going well. I had 8 eggs retrieved on Wednesday and 5 of the eggs were fertilised using our donor sperm. May those 5 embryos continue to divide and conquer.
WORST: constant headache since surgery.
OMM: babies, babies, babies
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Congratulations – may all your embryos continue to thrive! WIshing you all the best in your journey into motherhood!
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Sending ‘babies, babies, babies’ thoughts your way from a mother and baby (who is potentially more untuned with babies!). Good luck!
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Good luck!
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best: uni is a.l.m.o.s.t over for the semester
just have to tidy up my last essay then done! sleep required! this has been a v tricky one
worst: realising that my thyroid problems (hashimotos) are affecting my life more than i ever realised they could – physical, mental – on a bad day there’s 40 different things going wrong at once :/ and on a good day there’s about 10. 10 still seems like alot though! really getting fed up with feeling so horrible all the time and acting out on my loved ones and my gp doesnt seem interested in helping – does anyone have any advice underactive thyroids or good gps in melbourne? thanks
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Hey Kelly,
I have hashimotos too – if you want to grab my email off the MM team I’d love to chat about it! I’ve never actually talked to another sufferer – and you’re right, most GP’s just don;t seem to get it! I’ll throw a line to the MM office and if you want to chat you do the same.
Josie
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Sure, will do!
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hey josiey
having a tough time of it at the moment thyroid-wise. had a blood test last week and i am actually hyper-overactive at the moment! :/ v confusing and the symptoms are making life hell
i asked mamamia for your email weeks ago
hope to be able to email you soon
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Hey guys,
If you want to both email me I can try and put you in touch – lucy@mamamia.com.au
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Hi Kelly, I’m not sure if you ever read Sarah Wilson’s blog but she also suffers from Hashimotos and a lot of her blog is about different ways of handling her thyroid problem. So if you haven’t checked it out yet I would recommend it.
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Do you have a link to the blog? My mum has Hashimotos too and I’d like to share it with her.
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Hi Elise, the link is: http://www.sarahwilson.com.au/
There’s a whole section related to auto-immune disease you can see it at the top of the page.
Hope it helps!
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yes i love that blog! pity she’s going away
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Kelly I know I love it too, even though I don’t suffer from thyroid problems but still love her blog! I know
but following her on twitter and instagram for updates 
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Best(s): opportunities and possibilities. Relationship joy.
Worst: stress. And change.
OMM: So much change afoot – I sort of want the world to stop moving for a moment so I can digest it all and plan a bit.
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Don’t plan, Picardie.girl – just relax into it. It’s a time of big change in the universe, great changes, wonderful things, just let it all happen.
I know this sounds quite hippy-ish, but it’s all meant to be…..
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BEST: Start my new family-friendly part time job in 2 weeks and will be back to spending lots of quality time with my baby in addition to having more time to keep building my photography business
WORST: Me and 7 month baby girl both have chesty coughs/sore throats/runny noses and husband is getting sick too. We have all slept so badly this week and had to carry on regardless. It’s JUST SO HARD! Thank goodness for the upcoming long weekend…
OMM: How to afford to go overseas next year when also wanting to save for a home – our budget doesn’t allow for both. We are running out of space at our house but also badly need a holiday – any tips or advice?
http://www.asweeterlifeblog.blogspot.com.au/
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HI…. you asked for tips. We want to go on a family holiday (a cruise) next year. That way we know costs upfront (& allow for some extra spending) I have been selling lots of babies / kids things. Some things selling well, others not so. That money goes in a money tin as well as all our loose coins. Any work I do, pay go towards that. We have been banking the money into an offset account (helps reduce your interest you pay on your homeloan) and then tracking what we have saved. We can redraw it as the time gets closer. Maybe look at a holiday where it is cheaper (than O/s) but still a break.
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Worst: Feeling pretty stupid atm. I”ve just had 3 exams in the last two days. I’ve been such a shitty student this semester. I haven’t been going to class, haven’t been catching on the ilectures, haven’t been handing all my assignments in.
What a waste- I almost deferred for a semester at the beginning of the year because I have no motivation to study atm but decided last minute to go ahead with the semester so I can graduate on time. I just feel like a really fucked up and wished I had of put some effort it…
Still got one exam to go so going to try over the weekend to study my ass off.
Best: It’ the weekend and I don’t have an exam until Tuesday…
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Don’t beat yourself up. Study is bloody tough. I still can’t work out how I managed to get through three years of study to receive my degree! You can always fix things. Keep calm and study on..
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Thanks
I just had a massive shame spiral this afternoon- damn hormones! I’m actually in my 4th year so I also keep wishing that I didn’t enrol in a double degree because otherwise I’d have graduated by now 
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Best: A random prank from my BF’s best mates suddenly finding them in our backyard last night drinking beer after they sent a cryptic message for us to look out there. They stayed awhile and had some great laughs.
Love those guys. Its really nice that my BF has such great mates that I get on so well with.
Worst: That even their visit couldn’t cheer my BF up. After they left I was quite happy, but he was down again from work. I worry about him.
OMM: Negotiating my permanent contract with my new job. Got to stick to my guns. I like it here, they apparently love me. Hope they prove that with $$
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About a month ago I posted here asking for advice on how to not be too nervous for an interview which was very important to me. The interview went well, but I didn’t hear back, and thought nothing would come of it.. that is.. until this week, and the result is good! So that’s my best. The career side of my life is starting to kick in to action. Thanks again for the advice.
Worst is just a general feeling of being far too busy. My partner is away with work, so I have two children to care for, as well as three seperate working from home projects, plus volunteer work. I have not been able to watch any reality TV all week! None of that is too bad really, in fact I am grateful for it all. So I guess my real worst is that I have been a bit of a cranky pants, probably not setting the best example for my children in terms of how to deal with stress. Must try harder not to get too flustered about not being able to find school uniforms etc.
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Life gets so busy! My Mum asks me if I saw Grey’s Anatomy, my friends ask if I saw the Voice, but the only TV I watch is 15 minutes of ‘In the Night Garden’ as part of my daughter’s bedtime routine!
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Eternally – you make me smile.
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Thanks, you just made me smile too!
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Best: Seeing my amazing partner for the first time in 3 weeks after being away visiting family and feeling more in love with him and loved by him than ever.
Worst: Saying goodbye to my family and knowing that my wonderful grandparents will not be around forever to say goodbye to.
OMM: Marriage euality. I want so much for Julia to be brave and move towards giving our sisters and brothers this very basic and beautiful human right.
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My family live away from me too and I’m homesick a bit but our catch ups feel like we were never apart. I totally agree, all humans have the right to be with the ones they love. It’s love.
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Marriage equality on my mind too – love is love…I love being married to my husband…everyone has a right to experience this! And Julia, seriously???? I wish she would find the courage to be the leader I dream she can be…
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Best: discovering how wonderful it is being in a new relationship! And the fact that his Mr 4 and Miss 3 love me! I was so worried about how the kids and I would get along but it’s going really well.
Worst: going back to work after my holidays!
OMM: being told that it’s now time for me to discipline the kids if I need to! I’m not a mum and really not sure about this. I’m still learning off my BF how to do this!
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Hey Kellie, Sound like you have really found something wonderful. If you have any doubts about the kids, just talk with your partner on his techniques and make sure you do it the same way he does.
All the best
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When I was in my late 30s and single I picked up a book called How To Date A Dad (which I’ve since given to a friend who’s dating a teenager’s dad). This might have some hints for you.
If your BF and his ex are on speaking terms it might be worth having a coffee with her to discuss her techniques (and to charm her into liking her kids’ possible stepmum!)
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Not an expert at all in this area. But I think that the best thing you can do is be very respectful of their mother.
Not that I’m saying you would – but do not discipline them (that’s the father and mothers role at least until some time has passed and you are the stepmother and even then..); do not cut their hair; do not spoil them with gifts; ever speak badly, only wonderfully, about their mother…
And so on, you get my drift.
I think it must be extraordinarily hard to be divorced/separated and know your partners g/f or b/f is in your childrens life. I really do not think I could handle it.
So the best all round, in my very humble experience, is to not try to be a mother or anything close to a mother – and be very very respectful of their mother.
Good luck x
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Thanks for the advice ladies! Much appreciated, and Elli I will hunt down that book xx
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Best – went out last night to an awesome bar for a friends birthday and had the best time, haven’t had a night like that for ages.
BEST BEST – finally out of a size 14 and into a size 12!! WOOP! This weight loss thing is starting to work. I ordered a dress from ASOS that arrived today, and it’s TOO BIG! YAY!
no worsts. Ok I’m a little hungover. Ok very hungover. oh well I have my laptop, a toasted cheese sandwich and a blanket, what else do I need?!
love to all of those doing it tough x
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What else you need is vegemite toast and a cup of tea – my favourite hangover cure.
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Best:
. An amazing night’s sleep on Tuesday night.
. Watching the Daily Show with by better half
. Getting good feedback about the store
. A simple egg and mushroom dish I made by accident that finished up being delicious!
Worst:
. The crappy sleeps during the rest of the week.
. Not having the time to pay my better half more attention.
. Freaking out about the store’s slow periods.
. Living on fish fingers, carrots, and spinach the rest of the week because I’ve been too buggered to cook.
Ipomen Scarlet
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best – husband has had first venesection for haemochromatosis, looking forward to seeing some improvement to hi shealth over next few months.
yo gabba gabba birthday cake for 3 yr old was a success!
making some real progress with toilet training and 1 yr old has just about given up crying for his dummy.
absolutely georgous day outside today
worst- family politics!!!!
omm – got to lose weight!!
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Best: Off to Sydney for a long weekend with my wonderful husband – and NO KIDS! The kids are staying here for the weekend with my equally wonderful parents-in-law. I love my kids, but I’m sure I’ll love them even more after a weekend away. We’re staying in The Rocks and have nothing planned except to spend some time sitting in a pub without the hassle of having to go home to get a decent night’s sleep before the kids get up at 5:30am. I plan a bit of shopping but haven’t told my husband that yet. Don’t want to scare him too much. Any shopping tips or pub suggestions would be great.
Worst: I have had many late nights this week helping my husband prepare reports for work. His assistant is away on leave for a few weeks and it seems that everyone wants everything done yesterday. I don’t really understand what he has to do but he talks and I type. I think there’s another midnight session coming tonight before we get on the plane tomorrow. It will be good to get a full night’s sleep.
OMM: Every time we visit Sydney I am amazed at the number of homeless people I see during the day. Here in Brisbane I don’t see as many during daylight hours, mostly at night. But I notice them more in Sydney. And it’s colder there. People shouldn’t have to live on the streets. I just don’t know how they survive, both mentally and physically.
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I totally agree! I was in Sydney for work a couple of weeks ago and I was shocked by the number of homeless people! It seemed as if they were on every street corner! I am from Melbourne and I am not sure if they are well hidden in the city but it doesn’t seem as if there are anywhere near as many here. It was so sad to see
Hope you have a lovely weekend! 
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Hi Becauseimthemum,
This is a really practical way to help the homeless.
I love this organisation. People like this make a real difference.
http://www.swags.org.au/
Have a fabulous weekend in Sydney town. V jealous.
Cheers
Caro
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Thanks Caro. Street Swags has been a favourite charity of mine for the past couple of years. They create a product similar to that of swags.org.
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Thank you so much for telling about Swags! I feel very strongly about homelessness and hope to work in this area one day soon. I love the idea of Swags, so glad someone is doing it. Will get on there and support.
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I’d def. pay a visit to the rooftop of the Glenmore Hotel – best view in sydney! And head to Pitt St mall for the best shopping…. have a great w/end : )
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A lot of the homeless people you see during the day, especially those with cardboard signs, are making a very comfortable living conning well-meaning people. (I live in Sydney and used to work in the CBD.)
The Australian Hotel in the Rocks is also worth a visit – gourmet pizzas up to and including crocodile! See if you can get tickets to a show at the Opera House, if not there are guided tours of the building available.
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Totally agree with you Kase, if you think things are just peachy for these people, go talk to someone who runs a shelter e.g. Mission Australia or the Salvation Army. The majority should not be punished for the VERY small minority, if they are we will live in a very sad and scary society where compassion doesn’t happen anymore. These people are obviously largely ignored by the system already. I also work in the cbd, and on one occasion about 2 weeks ago I was in tears because I saw a young guy (who obviously had mental issues – and even if he didnt, people who make mistakes shudnt have to succombe to that) sitting with a dog begging. The dog luckily looked pretty well looked after and had a little coat on. The dog and this young guy just both looked so sad. I sat on the train crying thinking that it was no place for a young guy or such an animal to be – pelting rain in the almost sometime soul-less cbd. Im angry at myself that I didnt go buy the dog some doggie buiscuits/food as well as the guy. I know thats not gona solve the whole issue etc, but for the night who knows, may have helped. I did give him what coins I had. I know some people have an issue with this – and I dont often give – but I gave it in good faith. Wish issues like these weren’t so hard
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Hey Aura – below – , where was this? In Sydney? what street?
There has to be an easy solution – surely?! So many houses have spare rooms, attics, garages.. couldn’t the organisations such as Salvation Army, Snith Family etc set up a program ?
I know it wouldnt’ be easy but there are a lot of people in the city and the country who do have spare rooms and garages that could be made livable for three to six months or more. It just needs someone with the resources and experience to establish.
I would be very welcome to take in someone especially a homeless woman or young person. And their dog too! It would be my priviledge .
We are all just a pay check away from homelessness…..
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I couldn’t be so cynical elli.
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Maybe but maybe not.. My feeling about it is that $10 is not much to me, one drink on a Friday night, two coffees and a paper.
Is it, donating $10, going to hurt me? No. And quite honestly it’s none of my business what they spend it on.
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Not sure where my comment has gone! :S You sound like a lovely person Sydgel, with a big heart
Your idea with the free rooms/garages sounds like a great one! I would imagine it would be difficult for different people e.g. those dealing with mental illnesses and not getting proper treatment, recovering addicts etc so the the people taking them in would need training be prepared etc… but who knows maybe you could talk to an organisation about it! On and this was on Pitt St, but you can go anywhere in the city (cbd mainly) and find homeless people. Your right, in a way a lot of us are a paycheck away from it. I also agree with you that when you give, you give freely and in good faith. What they spend it on is their choice, and ultimately they reap the consequences, but I am not going to be a judge as Ive never been in their shoes. Everyone needs chances to learn. And its true, to most of us $10 is nothing! Im such a huge animal person, and when they are with animals it also kills me even more!
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I also wonder how they survive. I am always grateful for the warm shower and PJs I go home to every night.
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Thanks for the tips everyone. It’s good to have some tips from those with local knowledge
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Oh enjoy! You both deserve it.
The Lord Nelson is worth a visit, especially on a wintery day/night. http://www.lordnelsonbrewery.com/
Otherwise the Harbour view hotel is good as you and sit and watch people coming off the bridgeclimb, something I always found amusing. But just wander around and there are heaps of places in the Rocks. The observatory hotel does a fabulous dinner for something a bit fancy.
Enjoy your sleepins! I’m a tad jealous!
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Thanks for the tip. I can’t wait!
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Have a great time. We are going away for a 3 day cruise in 2 weeks without kids, so I can appreciate how you are feeling! The Rocks markets are great on a Sunday. Also good atmosphere down around there at night. We ate at a nice Italian place. Had a drink down near the international wharf was great. You could always do the bridge climb if time and funds allowed. Enjoy!
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Enjoy. It will be great for you both to have a well earned break and rest.
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Best: Catching up with my friend tonight, looking forward to taking my mind off things. Long weekend!!! yay.
Worst: Cutting my ex BF off. He isn’t taking our break-up very well and I think the only way is to stop all contact for a while. Just hate hurting him but I know its the only way.
OMM: How soon is it to move on (ie. sleep with someone else) after a break-up? I feel ready, not for anything serious, just fun but worried ex will find out and go crazy.
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Best: Discovering how awesome it is to be in a relationship
Worst: Hiding the relationship
OMM: How to tell everyone and how will they take the fact that i now have a girlfriend and not the expected boyfriend?
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Who gives an f what people think, your happy and found someone special. You are lucky in my books
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One of my best friends is bisexual (she calls herself a ‘hasbian’ as she is currently in a relationship with a guy, but the last one was with a girl). Whenever she has introduced her new flames in the past to people who might have known her to be with the other sex, she does it casually and matter of fact, doesn’t mention their gender and only introduces them by name, rather than emphasising the girlfriend/boyfriend aspect. People tend not to be as caught off guard as they can figure it out in their own time without risking foot-in-mouth, and if you don’t act as though you think it’s a big deal, hopefully they won’t either!
I don’t have personal experience, but I admire the grace with which my friend handles all of these kinds of situations.
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“Hasbian” – that’s fantastic!
Your friend’s approach is really interesting. Often people just don’t know how to react so if the couple is calm and collected, it sets the tone for everyone else.
Fortunately, same sex relationships are becoming less and less of an issue.
Soon, it will be as socially unacceptable to be homophobic as it is to be racist.
Anonymous, best of luck with your relationship and with your other loved ones.
Ipomen Scarlet
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If you were my friend love, I’d just be happy that you’re happy!
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Best (of the 80s) – Never forget this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gSq8ZBdSxNU
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I am almost disappointed I wasn’t Rick Rolled..
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Don’t give me ideas.
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These are our salad days slowly being eaten away. Classic (or should I say gold?!)
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Hi essessess
When I had a fractured foot last year I got my boot (Size S) from Mobility Matters. I also got item called “Even-up” that attaches to the base of the other foot’s shoe and raises you to the level of the boot. That way you are not uneven, limping and aggravating your back when walking. I had to wear the boot for 12 weeks so I sympathise with you! Mobility Matters is in Canberra but they may have a branch where you live. Good luck!
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Thanks! I’ll look into it. Glad you’re all better now.
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Best: Spending a shopping morning with the best friend in the world. I am so lucky to have her in my life!
Worst: In my last weeks of pregnancy and heartburn has gotten worse. Wakes me up about 4 times a night despite treatment. Will be so glad when bubs comes!
OMM: Why some people think that having only 1 child (due to many reasons) means they can call me and my husband selfish and mean – without even asking why we have made that decision. I have nothing to hide so would happily explain our decision but to be honest, when judged so quickly and unfairly I just don’t care.
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It’s strange how judgemental people can be about only children! My boyfriend is an only child and he gets all sorts of comments like “You seem quite well-adjusted for an only child” or “You wouldn’t understand as you don’t have siblings”. It’s crazy! He says being an only child means he is an independent person who can entertain himself. And I can’t see any neagtive traits caused by him being an only child – although I may be slightly biased
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JoC, I am an only child and i love it!! Wouldnt want it any other way
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Not selfish at all! It means there is more attention and resources for that child. They’ll still get lots of opportunities to play with other kids, whether it is cousins, Mum’s group, childcare or your friend’s kids.
If we wanted to be judgemental, what about those who have lots of kids and the environmental impact? It’s so rude that people would call you selfish!
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It is really disheartening reading another story about how rude and judgmental people can be. It is not anyone’s business how many children you have. I am one of four and a high school friend was an only child. I often wished that I was her, she never wished she was me!
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TGIF!!!!
Best: short week of work has been really busy and flown by! Ive signed up to volunteer at the Revelation International Film Festival in Perth which starts in July – kickoff was last night at the Astor Theatre (a stunning old building thank god it has not been knocked down like most old building these days!) was a great night meeting the team and discussing our roles over the 2 weeks in July and im really excited about it
fun creative outlet for me.
Worst: my husband got an eye infection earlier in the week and i havent been able to kiss him or cuddle him its been horrible!!
luckily its clearing up now so the wait will be over soon!
Happy Weekend to you all!! Sunshine and Cupcakes!
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Thanks for reminding me about the Film Festival! I go every year and love it…buying tickets online right now!
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Best: The comment in my assignment feedback which I worked soooo hard on went something like this:
“Dear Stacey. For this assignment I am only allowed to give you a grading of Competent or Not Competent, which is a real shame as you have done an excellent job and I can see all of the effort you have put in to research all aspects of this assignment. Well done!”
Made my Monday morning a little bright
I was not expecting to go so well!!! Definitely a motivator to follow my dreams of studying to be a teacher.
Best 2: A few weeks ago I asked for some advice about distance Uni on here, and I was overwhelmed by the responses and advice from the MM community. I really appreciate the kindness and respect from complete strangers, who went out of their way to give me infomation about my opportunities. Thanks to everyone, and to MM for the chance to vent/talk with others
Worst: struggling to find motivation to shift a few kilos…. Life is just getting in the way and I am so scared that before I know it I will be alot unhealthier than what I am now
OMM: My three year old daughter is the most wonderful little girl in the world and the things she says never fail to amaze me. The other day she proclaimed to me, “Mum, I dont ever need to wear make up because I am so beautiful already, and you are too.” I must be doing something right, what a precious little boost of happiness she is.
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Well done! Isn’t it fabulous when hard work is noticed and commented on
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stacey try looking at POP Pilates on Youtube, theyre short videos about 10 minutes but really good and easy to do every now and again
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Happy Friday, MM-ers.
I only have a Best this week. My beautiful friend gave birth to her much awaited baby boy yesterday. Which is aways so very lovely and rainbows and ponies but I wanted to share with my MM community that I was enormously privileged to be a birth support for her. She only asked me to join her a day before as her mum reluctantly decided she wouldnt be a good support.
Now as many of you know, I have 3 pink cherubs of my own, but this was the first time I’ve ever been at a birth where I wasnt pushing out my own innards! It was incredible how your own instincts kick in when supporting someone else. It was her first baby so it was a big unknown for her. Had to ‘mum’ her at one stage too as she was going through transition I think and getting pissed off that the aneasthetist wasn’t immediate with the epidural. She was saying ‘I CAN’T do it, I NEED an epidural – NOW!’ And I mummed her – ‘Yes you CAN and he is in theatre so you bloody well have to suck this gas and get on with it!’. It came from a loving place, I assure you lol.
So at 5.15pm when her beautiful boy was born yesterday and I watched him come into the world my life became richer for being so fortunate to share that amazing, amazing experience with my darling friend.
Not even a chance of worsts this week. I’m still smiling. Have a brilliant long weekend, beautiful MMers x
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Wow – how amazing! Your friend is so lucky to have a supportive friend like you and you are so lucky to have experienced something so special
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What a beautiful best
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Congratulations both of you!
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How wonderful. Congratulations!
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Best- Tomorrow morning I’m heading home for my close friend’s engagement party! She’s the first of my inner circle to be getting married, it feels very strange. They’re adorable together, couldn’t be more happy for them.
Worst- Of course, on this joyous weekend, I have to get sick! Devastated. But death couldn’t keep me away!
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Sick cure – two quick shots of vodka. Don’t let yourself drink anything else after for about 15 minutes. Polish cure – it burns away the pain. OR if it’s really bad – a bigger shot (probably more like two shots in a small glass) of 3/4 shot tequila and 3/4 shot vodka. Will feel like it will take your head off. But my husband has been sick as a dog for a couple of weeks, every time I feel it coming on I do the shots and I’m over it by the next morning.
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Best – I am pregnant after an 8 year gap with my first. So exciting!
Worst – feel sooo bad. So tired and so nauseated – it lasts all day. Dry heaving is really not fun at all.
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Ohh yay! My little sister is 8 years younger than me, and she’s my favourite person in the whole world. We’ve never had a fight once in 20 years, and just utterly adore each other. 8 years means no sibling rivalry, all care and love. So you’ve timed the pregnancies perfectly
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Congratulations! All the best with your pregnancy!
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Congratulations! My little sister is 7 years younger than me and like Alice says there’s never any sibling rivalry! Unlike with my older sister ( we are 1.5 years apart). I feel naturally protective over her and remember how excited I was when she was born! All the best
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Congrats!
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Best: spending time with my gorgeous 9 mth old who is crawling and giggling all the time. Also went to movies and dinner with my mums group and think I’ve found some really nice new friends.
miss my bubba already.
Worst: thinking about going back to work
OMM: thinking of dying my hair.
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It’s such a lovely feeling when you realise that you’ve found new friends that you click with – or kindred spirits as my sisters and I call them! (ref – Anne of Green Gables)
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I remeber feeling the same about my mother’s group. It’s ten years later and three of the women are some of my dearest freinds. We are all going on a holiday together with hubs and kids to celebrate 10 years. Can’t wait!
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Wow 10 years!! That’s wonderful.
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Best – Went for my massage today to try and get rid of some of the pain I’ve been having with my neck/shoulders/back. It went pretty well considering I usually can’t stand massages as they hurt! There were definitely moments when I wanted to cry from the pain but I left feeling pretty good. I do have to go back for more sessions though as the problem won’t be fixed in one session.
Worst – The pain I have been experiencing over a week now, which has also lead to thing like feeling tired all the time (from being unable to sleep well) and feeling nauseous and not having an appetite and therefore not eating well.
Hopefully these massage sessions will help!
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Still praying for you!
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Thanks!
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Worst – still off work with my broken foot with one more week to go. I’m bored silly. I can’t go too far either because of the pain, which, quite frankly, is becoming more boring than the infomercials on daytime TV. Plus I’m getting sciatica from limited mobility. And the boot is too long. I want a short boot. Where can I get a short Camboot?
Best – I’m not at work! And the pain is so much better than it was last week.
Best – surprise phone call from a friend I haven’t seen in ages, a group of us are going out for breakfast. It’ll be lovely to catch up with everyone.
OMM – my last assignment for uni. The books & articles are sitting on the settee just looking at me.
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essessesse it may be worth trying to see a physio this coming week (if you can get out at all). With a camboot you should be a bit mobile, and if you aren’t then it might not be fitting right or something. Also it is fairly common to develop secondary problems like sciatica (because one thing is out of whack it throws off other muscles) and they can give you some exercises/stretches to prevent that getting worse.
Glad you’ve only got one more week to go though.
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Worst: 3 days in a row, while in a hurry, getting stuck behind someone trying to turn right out of a side street across 4 lanes of traffic at a busy intersection where there are no traffic lights. I waited behind the car for seriously 5 minutes each time. The very next street has traffic lights, so I just dont get it. Sooooo annoying and dangerous.
Best: sunshine, yippee!
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