.
Happy Friday and welcome to one of the most popular posts of the week. It’s time to reflect on what’s happened during your week – the good, the bad and the in-between. Sharing is caring and for several years now, Mamamia readers have been gathering here on a Friday and over the weekend to trade highs and lows, celebrate and commiserate.
Remember that if you want a chance to host best and worst, email info@mamamia.com.au with your full name, headshot and a short bio (include any links to your blog/Twitter etc), and we’ll take it from there.
BEST: I finally booked a holiday that had been in the works for months! Sigh. Of. Relief. The irony of planning a ‘relaxing’ holiday is that for me, the whole process is anything but relaxing. Suddenly my life revolves around putting together the perfect itinerary, worrying over hotel costs and stressing about how much money I’ll have to buy shoes. Thankfully, the hardest part is now over. I can now relax until the second wave of stress hits me when the departure date arrives. In the past, the departure day has gone something like this: Arriving at the airport 5 hours before check-in? Check. Forgotten my passport? Check. Yep, there’s a reason why I worry.
WORST: I started compiling a bucket list recently. I’m only 20, so I have at least a few decades before I have a mid-life crisis and do something drastic like get a spontaneous tattoo or plastic surgery. My bucket list started off with a few solid things like ‘travel away from home for more than 6 months’ and ‘not die until I have accomplished something wonderful and worthwhile’ but by the end of the (very short) list, I had included things like ‘have a cool Wikipedia page about myself’ and ‘learn every word to Nicki Minaj’s raps’. This led to some serious life evaluation and considering the fact that maybe, I need to get some better dreams.
On My Mind (OMM): Gay Marriage. I really can’t believe we are still having this ‘debate’ – if that’s what I must call it – in the 21st century. I say this because I thought we threw conservatism out the window when we started giving elite celebrity status to people like Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian for releasing sex tapes. Pop culture essentially says, “Sexuality! Embrace it! Kim Kardashian is doing it, so we all should be!” But when the question pops up of WHO we’re doing it with, suddenly it becomes an issue.
Whitney Higginson is a part-time journalism student and full-time internet stalker (and intern at Mamamia). When she’s not doing any of these things, she’s blogging.
What were your best and worst bits of the week?
Comments
290 Comments so far
Just wish to say your article is as astounding. The clearness in your post is just nice and i could assume you’re an expert on this subject. Fine with your permission let me to grab your RSS feed to keep up to date with forthcoming post. Thanks a million and please continue the rewarding work.
loading...
WORST:
- Feeling mixed emotions towards my husband (who I’m currently separated from) despite me being the one to leave him. Pathetic! Not having the self respect to put up boundaries with him & instead keep putting up with his crap.
- Having every man and his dog constantly judging me.
It’s getting depressing and really overwhelming ppl telling me how I should be living my life. FFS! Try walking in my shoes for 5 minutes!
BEST:
- I’m baking myself a Donna Hay choc brownie slice (comfort food heaven!) and I’m going to eat it all myself too.
- My husband managed to go a whole 7 days without calling me a bitch or a c*nt. Yay!
- Apparently, I’m a shit mother for putting my child in kindy. Who knew?! Ppl who aren’t even parents themselves feel the strong desire to judge me and tell me how rubbish I am as a mother for putting her in kindy. Makes me feel like sh!t.
OMM: Marriage. Does it ever really last? Is it actually possible for two human beings to be married to the same person for 4o odd years and still love them all those decades later (while remaining faithful to each other)??? The current cover of one of the women’s mags out now shows Michael Clarke & his new wife Kyly Boldy with the large title “why our love is forever”. Now they really are a good looking couple and I’m so happy for him after the Lara Bingle drama he went through, however that title on the magazine cover really made me dry wretch. No one’s love is forever. OK I know I’m cynical because I’ve just separated from my husband but really – love just doesn’t seem to last anymore. So sad.
loading...
I’m sure they didn’t come up with that title themselves, but I agree it’s totally vomit worthy. It makes it sound like every other newlywed couple only thinks their love will last for a few years, but that they’re actually reeeeally in love, much more so than other couples. No one knows what will happen in the future! Feelings change, situations change – if it didn’t, no one would ever divorce!
I’m on your cynical boat. I had my heart broken and although I have found many wonderful men afterwards, I haven’t ever loved/been in love with like I was with my ex. And even though we had such an incredible love and joyous relationship, it still ended – so who the f*** knows what kind of relationship actually lasts!!
I’m starting to think people just find something “good enough” and then make the decision to stick it out – the decision (and not the love) being the difference between it lasting or not.
loading...
Hey there. Going through separation/divorce too. I totally get everything you are saying here. Hang in there. I know it’s tough and some days I wonder whether it is going to be worth it…but I know deep in my heart the answer is yes. We’re doing the hard yards now. I’ll raise my glass to you and you can raise yours to me! Cheers xxx
loading...
BEST: Last night I went to NKOTBSB and it was PHENOMENAL!!! Was so much fun to relive the 90′s with my friends with cocktails in glasses that lit up. They were so entertaining and pretty damn fine! Loved it!!!
WORST: had placement this week, hospital in the home. Was not my cup of tea, but I learned heaps and it’s over now!
loading...
So pleased to hear that the concert was great! I am going on wed night
excited!
loading...
how fantastic was it!!!
loading...
Best: I really think that I love this boy that I’ve just met about a month and a half ago. I think he does as well but is scared to say it explicity, he said to me that he is starting to love me earlier in the week.
Worst: Really really inconsistent friends and family. How am I meant to trust people if they give me every reason not to. I have culled heaps of friends out of my life and literally have five friends left. Is this a bad thing?
OMM: The fact that I want to pursue two types of the law and am not sure which one to choose.
I have worked in family law for the last four and a half years and according to the lawyers that I work for (not admitted until November 2013), I could run my own cases now. I happen to be a people based person and have a great relationship with the family law clients.
However, I have become really interested in being a legal counsel for a media outlet. When I first came out of school, I got a scholarship into CSU for journalism and have been interested in the media all through school. After not taking the scholarship at CSU, I took up Law at a university in Sydney.
The predicament I am faced with is that I think I could be extremely good at both. I have the four and a half years of experience at a family law firm and then I am currently lining up work experience in the legal department at a media outlet. I’m just not sure what to do.
Anyone shed some light?
loading...
I would recommend getting experience in different areas. With the experience you already have you could always go back to family law if you wanted – so why not try something new? You might adore it. Definitely start seeing clients by yourself now though, so you get the experience. Also, it’ll make you look like you’re a prodigy if you’re seeing clients as a grad, as some firms just plain don’t allow it. It’s pretty standard in my firm so I was doing it about a month into my grad year – yet when I mentioned it to lawyers outside the firm they’d flip their lid and act like I was some kind of genius. So milk that opportunity!!
Re the friends situation – it’s so much better to have no/fewer friends than shit friends. People who drag you down, make you feel bad or bring negativity and stress to your life are not people you should keep around you. Get rid of them and focus your energy and love into positive relationships with good people who wish you well. I was in a very similar position a few years ago, and now all my friends are kind, loving, stable, hilarious and generally divine.
Good luck with everything!
p.s with the boy – how exciting and wonderful! Don’t stress about whether or not it’s love – just enjoy this beautiful time xx
loading...
Worst – I lost an online friend due to a blog post I wrote. And I’ve been pretty sick/sore this week too.
Best – the project I am working on in my day job is coming to an end and it’s great to see all the hard work come together. I am involved in work on the move of several buildings to one new building – a lot of my work is communicating the move and coordinating things like artwork and naming of rooms. We had a meeting at the building on Monday and it was great to see how it all looks after a year and a half of hard work. Moves start soon
OMM – my thesis needs to get done and I am 5 weeks away from going on leave to embark on my 7 week overseas trip!
loading...
Best & worst: sms’ed a guy I’ve been interested in and asked out for a coffee.. I didn’t know but he was seeing someone
I never done this before so am proud that I had the courage. Now though, terribly embarrassed and not sure what to do when I see him again…
loading...
Well done for asking him out though! Your ladyballs have inspired me! and at least now you know. No need to be embarrassed either. I’m sure you weren’t tasteless or rude.
loading...
ladyballs…lol!
loading...
Well done for being brave enough to ask him out. Sucks he’s taken. Hopefully someone will come along for you soon.
I once gave a valentine to a guy I worked with – I loved him SO much! I didn’t know he was gay until about 5 years later!
loading...
Thanks for keeping the spirit alive !
loading...
OMM: Who should be cast in the role of Christian Grey!
loading...
Best- I am away by myself for a night in a lovely hotel. Husband kids at home. I am working an hr from home for a few days so instead of a nasty drive over a mountain to get home in the dark I stayed local, had diner by an open fire and a glass of wine. Currently in bed watch t.v and feeling very smug. I have not had a night alone in a hotel since I got married 7 years ago and I confess it is a fantasy come true- space and quiet and solitude.
Worst- I forgot my suitcase. No nice warm P.J’s Nd a hot water bottle and I have to wear the same clothes to work tomorrow. I hand washed my undies but I don’t dare my trousers as they may not dry. Currently have naked in the southern highlands and freezing.
loading...
Enjoy yourself Amandarose, but it sounds like you are already
xx
loading...
Don’t they have electric blankets?
loading...
Best: One of my very oldest and dearest friends finally became a mum this week when she and her husband adopted a toddler. It’s been a heartbreaking road for them, so I’m simply delighted that their dream has come true.
OMM: Which would be more of a shock to your previously quiet life – having a brand new baby arrive suddenly? Or an active, demanding toddler?? I think I’d prefer the baby – sure you don’t get any sleep but at least they stay where you put them!!
loading...
No real best or worst this week… just stuff on my mind… so I’ll have a ramble.
Thinking about setting up a dating profile. I’ve been checking out a few guys online who I think I’d like to meet and I’m getting a tad excited! The funniest was a guy who advertised that he only wants pear-shaped girls only. He wants BOTTOM HEAVY girls! Apparently he’s been getting a bit of flak about it – but he said that that’s just who he is attracted to just like we’re attracted to tall, dark and handsome men (well, some of us)
SWF (Sydney Writers Festival) this weekend and I can’t wait to meet Benjamin Law in person. I AM IN LOVE WITH HIM! (Yes, I know he’s gay. Oh well. A gal can try)
Still riding the high from my school night hook up last week! Kissing someone you barely know for an hour is seriously UNDERRATED!! Kissing is the new sex.
Bought myself some beautiful Iris’ from the local flower shop… I just love fresh flowers in my flat
loading...
Oh, Rose !
You’d soon forget tall, dark and handsome if you were to meet tall, blonde, gorrrrrrrgeous and slightly rotund !
Hope that you have a great time at the SWF today.
I’m off to the Queensland Pops Concert this afternoon. Today, we are a pair of culture vultures !
loading...
buying yourself flowers is the best!
loading...
Best: I have turned a corner, and can feel myself getting better everyday.
Worst: I need to pace myself. I stil have moments of sheer exhaustion, largely because I am starting to feel better and am overdoing it
Best: saw my neurologist this week who is also happy with my progress athough there is still signs of brain swelling. He thinks it may be a few more months for it all to settle down. But still, I’m on the mend
Best: I got a haircut today (first time in about 9 months) and I bought some new clothes without having to think “can I breastfeed in this top”. Very liberating.
Hugs to everyone
loading...
OMM: Bodyloathing. No, this is not about my weight – honestly, I couldn’t really care much less about that.
Today, after several months of anticipation, setbacks and so many needles I feel like Naomi Campbell’s voodoo doll, I was finally going to have my frozen embryo transfer. So excited and so ready.
Despite the temazepam to put me to sleep and the doctor’s best efforts, she finally realised the ‘stabbing in the dark’ was pointless. My $%#%ing cervix is too scarred from previous LLETZ surgery and she had to stop trying.
After so many setbacks, one more step backwards has me caving in to rage and resentment and tears. Why does it have to be so hard?
Thanks for letting me vent. Trying to stay positive with my man and it’s good to have an outlet to just be pissed off.
loading...
Oh Neola, I feel for you. Sending you virtual hugs xx
loading...
I’m so sorry to hear that, how heartbreaking.
I hope there is a plan for the next step for you.
loading...
Oh I am so sorry. Hugs to you.
loading...
Best: My passport arrived today, AND I got all my tour documents, plane tickets, travel insurance details. Finally sinking in that I’m going to Europe in five weeks!
Best 2: Got denim shorts I’ve been wanting from Witchery for 55% off original price.
Worst: Assignment submission/long week at work = blah. Just blah.
loading...
Ok this is my first go posting here;
BEST: Spending time at home with my fur baby (Devon Rex kitty), hearing from my work mates who “miss” me while I am not there, and planning dinner and a girls night out next Friday night. Oh and my husband making me a cup of tea (miracles do happen)
WORST: Being unwell, sure I have had the past 3 days off work but am quietly fearing what awaits me on return to work on Monday (why oh why did I have to check my email?!). Oh and I’ve also developed a lovely rash on my neck which I suspect is a reaction to the new face cleanser/moisturiser I purchased to try and combat my adult acne issues which have popped up since being off the pill (we are trying to conceive our first child) (now that’s a whole story itself as we are heading into 12mth+ territory which is another thing on my mind); Stressing about my parents who are going through financial issues, pretty much the bank is breathing down their neck. Their home and business are up for sale, potential buyers were waiting on finance for their business but have since not heard back meaning they got their hopes up which just breaks my heart seeing them go through something like this.
loading...
welcome to your first post!
loading...
Best : still in probabation period at work but employer has already increased my days and has been discussing a new role.
Best #2 : a week ago a friend’s husband was diagnosed with a brain aneurism but was found to be treatable . Had surgery and 4 were found but all removed. Thank goodness for great surgeons as he is a Dad of three with another due in a few months.
OMM: the possibility of a third bub
loading...
Hi Bex, re your OMM……..me too. How to decide? So many factors? My husband told me the other day (kind of joking but kind of not) that he never wants to rock another baby to sleep as long as he lives…..
loading...
Hi Mum of 2 boys. I have two boys as well
I feel the same way as your hubby but if it turns out that number 3 is on the way I’ll manage. This was not in our plans as we had decided we didn’t want anymore as dealing with a toddler and a child sitting the HSC would be very difficult. Life doesn’t always turn out like you plan it though which is part of the fun! Good luck with the decision making.
loading...
Best: Today I submitted my final Uni assignment. Best. Feeling. Ever.
Best: Only 6 weeks until I set sail for a 7 day South Pacific Cruise with the BFF! Have already started a detailed list for packing! Weeeee!
Worst: Have been sick most of the week with a flu/virus thing. Then, this morning woke up with a yellow and blistery tongue and haven’t really been able to eat much. Which is annoying because I’m rather hungry.
OMM: Dr Pat and Neenz!
loading...
Best: first dance competition this weekend! very excited and nervous
Worst: Exams stress. it’s my first year of VCE exams and everything is piling up on top of me… which probably means i shouldn’t be commenting here
loading...
Deeply saddened to just read of the death of disco diva, Donna Summer.
Will be breaking out the old LP’s tonight and busting a groove or two to “McArthur Park” and “Hot Stuff”.
Ohhhhhh….the crush that I once had on that very beautiful lady ! Thanks for all of those nightclub memories, Donna.
loading...
I love ‘On The Radio’. Def my fave.
loading...
The beautiful picture of Naomi Watts with her son in this weeks Womans Day was a highlight for me – loving mother and a face that tells a story to boot – love seeing all those laugh lines, sooooo refreshing:)
loading...
BEST: I started a blog last week to channel my feelings about the current mess that is my life. I’ve had 320 viewers in one week! Thank you to any MM readers who’ve had a little read. I am finding it most therapeutic. http://www.sexlovelosshate.blogspot.com.au
WORST: Working through my marriage and my future. It hurts, it’s messy and it’s hard.
OMM: I am confused as to why so many people find Ryan Gosling attractive (a shallow thought I know – but right now shallow is a wonderful distraction for me).
loading...
I didn’t find him attractive until I saw Crazy Stupid Love. Now I’m all over that s***.
loading...
The Constant Reader, I wanted to say I love your blog! I haven’t commented because I don’t actually know what to say but it’s really interesting… Keep it up!!!
loading...
Thank you so much MissV! xxx
loading...
BEST: Life’s pretty good! So many exciting things to look forward to at the moment – tickets to gigs, shopping and lunch dates planned, markets, family visiting (including an awesome high tea deal from scoopon for when mum arrives!!), dinners, Tupperware and Intimo Parties, and above all, EUROPE in September!!!! – the list is endless at the moment. Finally starting to see the positives of being single (after seeing the negatives for a long time and feeling quite lonely) and how much I can make plans without consulting anyone else. Read a great quote by Wendy Harmer off the Agony Aunt website (If no-one has seen this show on ABC1 yet they have to take a look!)
“One of the best things about being single is that you’ve still got falling in love ahead of you” Love that, what an exciting thought!
Also another best this week, so motivated to go to the gym (this never happens to me!!!) have been everyday this week and loved it, and even feel guilty cause i cant go tonight due to a friends birthday dinner – so have made plans to go both saturday and sunday! not sure what is wrong with me but i plan to take advantage of it for as long as possible!!!!
WORST: coming down with the flu. It hasnt put me to bed yet, but everyone in the office seems to have it at the moment, so just biding my time. But not even this can get me down at the moment!!!
Happy friday everyone, Have a great weekend!
loading...
Yay for you! Another gym-junkie on the way.
One thing you must do is wash your hands before you leave the gym (if you’re not having a shower.) And don’t EVER touch your face – even with your towel – while you’re working out. There are nasty GERMS on all those handles etc.
loading...
BEST: We’ve finally finished writing our wedding thank you cards… YES!! Am putting them in the post tomorrow. So glad to be finally done with all things wedding related – this is officially the last thing left to do (and I mean that in the nicest way possible – it’s just so good not to have a mental to-do list anymore!)
WORST: My period. Omg. Before taking the pill and then stopping after one year, I never had any pain/PMS or anything. Since I stopped taking it two years ago, my body now hates me once a month. Wish I’d never gone on it – big mistake. Never again!
ON MY MIND: Buying gifts for my future niece or nephew… Am becoming a little obsessive, haha
Can’t wait to give my sis everything in 3 weeks time once she has hit the 12 week mark!
loading...
Best: Lots of cuddles from my man
- Seeing Ryan Gosling lookalike in my lunch break *drools*
- Catching up with an old friend in that lunch break
- Going Ikea shopping for my new house tomorrow
OMM: Seeing my man still stressed out from work. Thinking the cuddles are for him as well as me
loading...
Oooh how I love Ikea! Have fun – but set a $$ limit, otherwise you’ll get home and realise you’re broke
loading...
OMM: Lisa’s great idea for a blog at http://blithemoments.blogspot.com.au/
She posted below that she’d written a post on her new dance shoes and I was curious to see how someone could write a whole post on shoes (I’m not a shoe person).
I then read the conception/purpose of the blog – to notice, ruminate on and celebrate the moments of joy and peace in every day. What a beautiful idea! And what a great way to stay focused on the positives!
Good on you Lisa xx
loading...
Thank you Alice! You just made my day.
loading...
Worst: full of anxiety this week and not really sure why. Just seems that every little thing is upsetting me and I am not coping as well as I have been.
OMM: a good friend wants to leave her husband for an ex. I can understand her wanting to leave her husband but wish she would reconsider the relationship with her ex. I have found out some things about him and I am really worried he is playing her. I can’t tell her what I have found out as she asked me not to tell anyone about her plans. He is an ex so she knows what he was like but thinks he has changed. What do I do? Do I keep my mouth shut and just listen or do I tell her what I know?
loading...
I think you need to tell her so she has all the information she needs to make the best decision. What stuff are we talking about? How serious is it?
loading...
Nothing really serious. Just that he is a complete sleaze. Will try it on anyone and has a very bad reputation. Plus he doesn’t seem to take any reponsibility for drama he causes. It sounds like he will never commit to a relationship. I am worried she will leave her husband and he will just walk away as that is what he does. Plus she has a child too.
loading...
Ohh I feel for your friend. It’s so hard to be emotionally torn and not know what’s the right thing to do.
I will say though that in my experience a relationship/person can seem a lot more perfect and soul-matey when there is a big old reason why you can’t actually test the theory. Then when you do you realise that a lot of the relationship was just expectation built up in your own head. Maybe he’s an ex for a reason?
loading...
That is what I think. They broke up for a reason and sometimes it is better to leave the past in the past.
loading...
If it were me, I would tell her what I knew. But that’s just me…
If she’s a true friend she’ll realise that you’re telling her because you love and care about her, not to cause trouble… And even if she may not appreciate it initially, she will eventually. Just my opinion though
loading...
I think I might have to sit down with her talk about my concerns. She knows what his past is but he is saying all the right things at the moment while her husband isn’t.
loading...
Best: Finally visiting my mothers grave on Mother’s Day after about 15 years. Highly emotional, but one of the best most rewarding things I have ever done. It never gets easier though, and the feeling you walk away with is painful, but being that bit closer to her and showing her the respect she deserves makes it all worth while.
Worst: The 6 loads of washing waiting at home for me
OMM: Falling in love
loading...
Whitney, my sense of accomplishment when i learnt and sung/rapped all the words to Superbass is unparallelled!
That’s an awesome dream to have, you should work on that one first
loading...
Worst/OMM: my boyfriend and I have broken up. Devastated and sad, we love each other and I miss him but we just want different things. Does anyone know of a good psychologist in the Melbourne area? I know it will get better with time, these things always do, but I think I might need a little help in getting there.
loading...
I don’t, sorry. But I’m sending you lots of hugs, cause that must bloody suck xxx
loading...
Try Sarah Daniels. She’s amazing – has really helped me. Well worth travelling to Blackburn if you’re not close.
http://www.hartrelationshipcounselling.com.au/blackburn-psychologist.html
loading...
Poor darling
I am in the same boat..Hang in there! x
loading...
Thanks everyone. I’m trying to stay focused and thinking that in a few months time this is going to feel better – if only I could go to sleep now and wake up then!
Hope you’re ok Anon, break ups are agonising. x
loading...
Best was getting through an entire movement + cadenza of a violin concerto with my oldest violin student (he’s 85 years young!). It was the best feeling of achievement and it made me feel so proud.
Best #2 was going to a screening of the Sound of Music on Wednesday – I’ve been singing ever since
Worst was my tuesday – I ran late, I forgot notes for classes, I blanked out in classes, technology hated me with a firey passion and I finally realised that I’ve taken way too much on, resulting in a massive breakdown in the middle of the uni library. A positive has come out of my worst – I’ve learnt I have to say no to things, and take time out for myself rather than put everyone else first all the time.
loading...
Aren’t adult music students wonderful? You know that they are there simply for the love of it…there’s no longer anyone standing over them telling them to practice. And so much of their learning is self-directed, plus they are so open to advice.
And at 85…wow!
loading...
Worst: My house being broken into. They didn’t take anything of much value but I feel a violation that I cant explain, I just hope it passes and I wont feel on edge all the time and worried to leave the house.
Best: My beautiful friend who came to my rescue took my daughter so I could sort out police and insurance and then bought pizza around for dinner. I am so blessed to have a wonderful friend in my life.
OMM: Babies, we have been trying for over two years to have our second one, I lost two last year and I am now very tired of it all. I long for another baby but not sure how much I have left in me.
Have a fantastic weekend everyone.
loading...
I hope everything gets sorted out for you, and insurance doesn’t take too long.
It is awful, it makes me sad that so many people have to experience it at some point in their lives. It’s a shame society has to put up with something that makes us feel violated in our own space.
Hugs to you.
loading...
It is a horrible feeling. If you can afford it I totally recommend getting a burgler alarm. Mine isn’t monitored, but it is bloody loud. The main thing that I know is when I get home and turn it off I 100% know that no one has been in the house. Mum and Dad big house and they can turn on zones so they can arm downstairs when they are upstairs asleep. It is the best peace of mind.
loading...
Yep, we just got a burglar alarm after being burgled. It’s back to base. The peace of mind knowing I can come home and feel safe is so worth it. My kids were completely freaked out after being broken into, and I realised recently that I was only going out when I had to. Took mea while to realize that, as I was more concerned about the kids, but caught myself tensing up whenever I came back to the house and double checking everything was secure when I left (and coming back to the house if I saw a car/person that seemed suspicious to me.) also, we can alarm the perimeter at night with our system.
loading...
Best: Receiving my big ASOS order at work. Nothing quite like shopping arriving at your door
Worst: Early morning sport training – my son has to be at school at 7am 3 times a week. That is insane
loading...
I’m crazy about ASOS – got some great swimmers, jumpers and dresses from there recently!
loading...
OMM/WORST – what has happened to Daily Buzz?
loading...
It’s happening later in the day – just not yesterday because we had the week in pictures that covered all the buzz
loading...
Thanks Lana it is my favourite post. Am glad for Rick that he gets to sleep in but …….I love catching up on the news of the day with MM.
loading...
Worst: my 7wk old baby boy has been diagnosed with eczema and his poor little face looks terrible and itchy. Anybody had any experience with this in babies? Have switched to QV products (from Johnson’s) so hope that helps his skin clear up soon.
Best: bub now only wakes up for one feed a night which means lots of sleep for me! Yay! Well not lots….but enough!
loading...
The poor little sausage. For what it’s worth my advice is – try everything you can to treat it with ‘over-the-counter’ products but if it persists, sometimes the best thing is cortisone cream, very sparingly, for a very short amount of time. And the good news is they usually grow out of it. Good luck.
loading...
Eczema suffer since the day I was born – I use QV now for face and body which is fantastic, but when I was little it was alpha keri (sp?) oil in my bath every night.
It does get better! Mine has been pretty much dormant since I was about 5, only appearing on my lower back. It’s reappeared on my arms now though, which is a little frustrating!
loading...
I don’t have kids, but my sister had eczema terribly as a baby. The three things that made the most difference (I still remember them being around the house, so they must have worked for her!) were Bepanthen cream (which I think is also a nappy rash cream), Aqueous cream, which you use instead of soap products in the bath, and Pinetarsol, which stinks, but is a solution you add to the bath water. I’m sure she would have had some prescription stuff as well, but I don’t remember what it was.
loading...
moogoo – google it – its amazing ! it will do wonders for your son. Good luck xx
loading...
Thanks everyone for your replies and suggestions! Fingers crossed he will clear up soon. Xx
loading...
Also you could try bran baths…. put some bran in an old stocking and soak in the bath (my mum swears by it as my brother had horrific eczema as a baby and unfortunately still struggles with it now at 27)
loading...
I second that – or oats do an amazing job soon. I have severe psoriasis and my oatmilk baths with oat stocking loofah are BLISS! (The oatmeal is created when you run the oat filled stocking under the tap and give it a squeeze).
loading...
Oh Shaezy you just reminded me there is a great moisturiser you can get over the counter which has oatmeal in it…. I think the brand is dermaveen. I have been using it on myself and my boys. Unfortunately we have had to go down the road of a steriod treatment but we are lucky in that it only needs to be used sparingly. The dermaveen is great though.
loading...
Hi there. Yes my now 20 month old baby boy has it (his 3 yr old brother does not). We did:
Visit to dermatologist – he prescribed cortisone creams that I use sparingly;
Bath in QV Bath Oil;
Moisturise with Dermeze (thick vaseline type ointment);
Switch washing detergent to a sensitive skin/fragrance free;
Everyone raves about Moo Goo but it didn’t work for my baby.
Being seven weeks old he won’t be scratching yet because he is too little. My boy has to live in long pants and socks so he can’t gouge his little legs to pieces. Winter appears to be worse for him. He was the worst from 3 to 12 months, it then started to get a little better.
Note: I breastfed for 12 months, the Child Health Nurse had me on a complete dairy free diet for months and it didn’t work. Just FYI in case someone suggests it.
Good luck
loading...
My youngest had it too, try dermeze ointment with the qv stuff.… it really keeps the skin from drying out. Good luck!
I also used sleepy wings & mitten sleeves at sleep time to stop baby scratching.
loading...
I’ve had eczema on/off my whole life & have found the more natural remedies tend to take a little longer but also treat it better & now I have hardly any outbreaks. I apply oil to damp skin after every shower/bath – you’ll need to use straight base oils (apricot kernal, jojoba, macadamia) until he’s old enough to have essential oils added…. this place has great quality oils & you can buy in bulk: http://www.newdirections.com.au/content.php?p=home-home-campaigns
I also use rolled outs in a face washer (tie up with an elastic band) in every bath, I find baths are way better for the skin than showers, and Lucas pawpaw balm – you can get it in 500gm jars, you’ll need that size!
When he’s older you can look at adding flaxseed oil, LSA & other good oil rich foods to his diet to nourish from the inside, these really help!
Basically, try to keep his skin as mousturised as possible….. I wish you all the best of luck : )
loading...
Best: my new dance shoes arrived. I wrote a whole blog about them http://blithemoments.blogspot.com.au/
Worst 1: Have spent most of 2 days on the phone to call centres in some Asian country trying to set up online access to a new credit card. I’ve been blatantly lied to (no there is no issue with our website – next call oh yes the website has had issues all day), had implied that I don’t know how to use a computer and told so many times it is fixed that I think I’m going mad.
Worst 2: so tired this week and can’t sleep properly. The stress of work is invading my dreams!
OMM: trying meditation in the hope that it will help some of the above mentioned stress.
OMM2: need to do a heap of planning for our holiday but am so tired from work I don’t want to look at the computer when I get home.
loading...
Best – ran a PB this morning – I keep improving my times, its awesome! Feeling fit and excited about my running and health.
Worst – ate too much sugar at a catch up brunch with friends, now feeling a bit sick. How good is life when that is the worst?
OMM – the September half marathon.
loading...
YAY go YOU so nice to hear about an achievement that is not man / baby related. KUDOS
loading...
Worst: saying goodbye to my partners auntie – we’ve been together 8 years and they feel like my family of course… She was only 49, but suffered mildly from down syndrome, but that didn’t ever stop her.. Her humor and love for all things Michael Jackson and Elvis and colours… Well, I will never forget that..
Best: as the graveside service ended, the sun came through the clouds and I knew then, she was happy.
Things can only get better. Rest in peace Shan x
loading...
Wow Kaybee that is just beautiful. Wishing you and your partner strength during this hard time
loading...
Thank you very much Lana – it is lovely to be have the oppotunity to share my bests and worsts with some wonderful people..
loading...
Sending you, your partner and your (partner’s) family lots of love and strength. The way you wrote what you did was so utterly beautiful, brought tears to my eyes.
loading...
OMM: Making new friends and expanding my horizons.
Sooo…. PERTH PEOPLE!
We are going to attempt a mamamia meet-up. Nothing formal, just an opportunity to have a coffee and meet new people.
Saturday 9 June, 3pm, Siena’s in Leederville.
Kid’s welcome (Siena’s has an indoor playground).
I’ll post this again over the next few weeks. Please just reply if your coming (don’t need to include any personal details).
I’ll be the one in the bright red jacket.
loading...
Sounds like a great idea being a Perthian
loading...
Ohhhh…wish I was home to join you.
loading...
oooohhhh, how exciting!! I’ll try and be there!
loading...
I’d love to be there.. but I’ll be in Melbourne that weekend. Hope you organise another
loading...
I’ll be there
loading...
Oh fun! If I’m in Perth that weekend (am in Dunsborough), I will definitely try!
loading...
This sounds like a great idea! we should do the same for brisbane!!
loading...
Best, last week in Thailand (3.5 week honeymoon), & being 23wks preg im craving some serious home food, real lollies (sooo over mentos!!!), vegemite sandwiches, cheese (real cheese that doesnt cost a mortgage), salad that is safe to eat, water from the tap, and a whole bunch more… Dont get me wrong, i’ve LOVED this trip but it’s time to go home…
Worst… You guessed it, going home, back to reality with work and PhD committments… Eeek.
OMM: Decorating the nursery, having a flow of ideas for a week and a half now which is awesom, now to just put it all into practice
Hope everyones weeks either stay great or improve.
loading...
Best: This time in two months I will be in Europe about to start work at the UN. Yay!
Worst: Attending the funeral of my sister’s 19 year old dear friend. So tragic, and I am so sad for his family, girlfriend and close friends for having to go through this.
OMM: Pay attention to every moment, be grateful for every moment, find the positivity and joy in every moment and send love and kindness to everyone!
loading...
Wow, the UN?! That’s incredibly exciting, congratulations
loading...
Congrats on the UN! This might be a bit late, but did you apply through the Young Professionals Program?
loading...
Worst: being pooed on by a bird this morning on my way to work
Best: Realising that if the worst thing thats happened to me this week is being pooed on, I’m one very lucky lady
OMM: Finally listened to the Audio book of ‘Tuesdays with Morry’. Cannot get some of his philosophies out of my head. Espeically his one on forgiveness..
loading...
Share them, please!
loading...
This is absolutely true (well, as in it is a superstition but still). Being pooed on by a bird is in fact meant to be very very good luck.
loading...
It must be poo week. During the dog’s walk the other morning, I scooped up her poop in my usual way, using a plastic shopping bag as a kind of glove (she’s a small dog so small poops) and picking it up only to find … yikes … the bag has hole in it! Luckily, I wasn’t far from home but it felt like a million miles by the time I got to the soap and the tap … ewwwwwwwww
loading...
worst- being violently ill for most of the week and spending the night in hospital. i havnt been inside a hospital since i was born! it was a very uncomfortable and bizzare experience.
best- looking at our banking online and accidently seeing that hubby has booked a weekend away for my birthday next week! ….. must work on a convincing surprised face for when he tells me.
loading...
Best: I will be finished with uni at the end of the semester (in exactly 4/3 weeks!). It’s sloooowly starting to sink in… I’ve also progressed to the 2nd round of interviews for a government agency, and while I’m super excited (I know how hard it is to get a job after graduating, and my field is quite specialised, so the options are a little more limited) the 2nd round involves 8 HOURS of pyschological testing! Eeek :S so I’m starting to question my own sanity…
Worst: As a couple of people have also mentioned, I’ve been quite emotional this week, e.g. I was disconnected from the internet for a week due to a modem problem (I need the internet as I do most of my study at home). Two days after recieveing a new modem, my Beaglette puppy chewed the cables after I forgot to close the door to my room (I was really tired after a long day) and now I’m without internet AGAIN and have to order in a new modem (or go to the shops, but I’m just so short of time). And I’m also strapped for cash so this majorly sux. I burst into tears because of this, and all this stress just poured out. I went to sleep absolutely exhausted but couldn’t sleep very well. Whenever I sleep after getting very upset I’m always extra tired the next day aswell. So the cycle of exhaustion continues. Hopefully somehow I can do some uni work on the weekend…
loading...
Good luck with the rest of the recruitment process aura! Hope you snag the job!
loading...
aww thanks! I think theres quite a few steps in the whole recruitment process, but seeing as I got into round 2 Im positive!
loading...
Worst: lost marks on an assignment because of word processing! I last attended school when typewriters were used so am struggling with presenting assignments. Really resent losing marks because of line spacing!!!
Best: it is great that I can go back to uni at 55, thanks CDU!
OMM: equal marriage rights and disability insurance. Both much needed changes in our community.
loading...
Hi Vanessa,
Are you allowed to recieve assistance in formatting your essays? If so, do you have a computer-advanced friend/relative who can look them over for you once your finished writing?
loading...
You lost marks because the line spacing wasn’t correct?! That sucks. I teach at universities and it’s all I can do to not whoop for joy when a student presents well thought-out arguments with correct grammar and spelling. Line spacing is the last thing on my mind after all that.
loading...
I was quite annoyed. It was an annotated bibliography and the computer course had taught us not to interrupt paragraphs with page breaks, then the study skills course marker took marks off because the bibliographies were on separate pages! This is not done, apparently. I know they are trying to prepare us for “real uni” but I thought uni was about ideas, not the layout of ideas.
Heard an interview with Kevin Carmody on the radio the other day and he said he had 2 years of schooling before he attended uni and had never borrowed a library book. He could not easily write and took his guitar to tutorials to help get his ideas across. Presumably, his strings were correctly spaced! He now has a PhD (History).
loading...
Ooh, don’t get me started. One of the main focuses (foci?) of universities should be to encourage students to think critically and to articulate complex arguments clearly. Now that I know you listen to Kev Carmody interviews in your ‘spare’ time, I think you deserve extra marks!
loading...
Best: enjoying living on my own while my partner is away for 3 weeks. I work and study from home so it’s a bit lonely, but I’m loving it mostly. It has made me realise i need to expand my world a little bit though.
Worst: I’m on the 17-day diet, am 3 days in, and i’m hungry (well, crave-hungry really, my stomach isn’t empty). I KNOW l need to just make a lifestyle change and stick to it instead of a fad diet … but this is the kick up the bum I need and it sets up a lifestyle change so I’m not too dirty on it, besides the being hungry part. Black coffee is just not the same either, which is not helping.
OMM: lunch
loading...
What is the 17 day diet? In the last week or so I have cut out one sugar from my tea, tried to pay more attention to the actual serving size on the nutritional labels on food and have been drinking loads of green and peppermint tea. Oh and I’ve stopped baking (and eating) so much. I don’t need to actually lose weight but it can’t hurt to cut out some crap sometimes. As a consequence my stomach is flatter already and I’m half a kilo down.
loading...
It’s a bid faddish – but basically it’s 4 cycles that are 17 days each.
The first 17 days is pretty much no carbs, no dairy (except probiotic yoghurt) and no red meat. And some high energy fuit/vegies are excluded. But in this phase you can eat plenty of fish, chicken and turkey and as many vegies as you want. 17 minutes light exercise daily.
The second phase is alternating days of the first phase, with days that include all of the above plus some beans/legumes, brown rice, and lean red meat. 17 minutes light exercise daily.
The third phase is all of the above plus breads and pasta etc, but now you have to make your workouts longer (40-60mins most days).
The fourth is really just the end – eating healthily as above and continuing to exercise, with the occassional treat.
If you get to the end of 3 and you’re not at your goal weight you’re supposed to go back to 1.
PS Good on you for doing it the proper way! Really we just need to cut things out reasonably and not deprive ourselves too much. I’m just in panic mode as my doctor told me to lose weight (that was a first), so I freaked out.
loading...
BEST: Booked a holiday with my boyfriend up to Broome for next month, can’t wait to relax after a stressful 6 months, we deserve it!
WORST: Being too emotional this week, as soon as one little thing has gone wrong each day I’ve gotten all teary and gloomy for the rest of the day. The parking ticket didn’t help either
OMM: Planning fun, economical stuff for us to do in Broome!
loading...
Best: Getting seriousn about my much needed health kick. I’ve been saying ‘it’ll start tomorrow’ for months.. but finally started it yesterday. Went on an hour walk and picked up a whole lot of vegies from the supermarket. Going to try and hit the gym tonight or tomorrow as well!
Best/worst: my eye sight is getting worse (and apparently only going to keep getting worse boo) but I did just get a new pair of stunning Chanel black frames
happiness!
Worst: exams… assignments…no motivation…actually not caring if I pass or fail… I have 2 more semester left of my double degree and I can’t decide what to do. I want to defer and take a semester off- work full time and do some travelling – obviously this will add another semester to my degree but I just haven’t cared at all this semester… but I really want to graduate already. Urgh confusion!!!
loading...
Best: in a great place with hubby. Feeling very loved from him and loving towards him. Also feeling more united as a family every day. Loving it.
Worst: no energy. Have so much housework to do and get bedrooms organized again but I really just can’t be bothered.
OMM: too much to mention. All FWP’s.
loading...
That’s great that things have improved so much, happy for you!
loading...
Best: Ingrid Poulson! I arranged for Ingrid to come and do a half day resilience workshop at our work yesterday for 85 of our managers. I also got to sit and chat with her for a while. What an amazing woman. She has such an aura of serenity about her, I’m seriously in awe. She was inspiring. And I got her to sign my copy of her book. I was like a groupie!
Worst: Nothing much. Am a bit sick, but I’ll get over it. Life is ok.
OMM: the endless debate I have with myself about what to do with my life at the end of the year when my current project at work runs out. Do I go back to my substantive role which bores me to tears? It allows me immense flexibilty, I can work part time (set my own hours) so that I can spend time with my boys, it’s very well paid, and yet it makes me a worse parent as I get very grumpy with the world due to frustration and unfulfilment. Or do I use the very cool project I’m on as a stepping stone onto bigger and better things? In which case my career will forge ahead but I’ll almost certainly have to work full time. And if I leave it too long after ending this project before taking a step up in my career, the benefit from having worked on this high level project will almost certainly be lost. I’m so torn between spending more time with my kids while they’re young, which I really want to do but being unhappy with work, or advancing my career and being fulfilled, which I really want to do but being unhappy with not spending enough time with the kids. Aargh!!
loading...
Hi Mamamia team, just wondering if there’s any way that you can set up the comments section so that those of us with accounts have our email entered in the ‘receive follow up comments’ section automatically when we comment? And maybe just provide us with the option of a tick box to follow the comment feed? I find sometimes I enter my email incorrectly (butterfingers that I am) and when I comment on heaps of things it’s a bit of a pain entering my email every time.
Thanks!
loading...