I’m going to warn you from the get-go that I’m going to be a little superficial in my “best” for today’s Best and Worst. More on that in a moment. Welcome to our last Best and Worst for 2011. Like many of you, I’ve been reading this post for years. YEARS. But only really started commenting in the past 12 months. What I realised is that the most terrific thing about adding your voice to B&W is it provides the opportunity to get unbiased advice from the MM community as well as share your joys and concerns with our supportive readers.
So back to me being superficial, it’s all to do with my best …
BEST 1: My old Mac was on its last legs and so Santa bought me a new MacBook Pro for Christmas. (I think Santa is trying to make up for 1987 when he gave me a bike helmet and Debbie Gibson’s Electric Youth album. On cassette.) Now I don’t know how things roll in your family but Brad and I don’t usually spend anywhere NEAR that much money on each other. But being a writer I needed a new laptop and my last one was on the verge of blowing up.
BEST 2: My filing cabinet and filing is OUT. OF. CONTROL. Seriously. I haven’t filed anything for 12 months. I got to the point where I have been working from the kitchen table and refusing to enter the study because it’s so depressing. Anyway … this week I found a brilliant woman who is going to come to my home and re-organise my filing cabinet for me, set me up with some better systems for my desk (rumour has it there’s a desk in the study …) and then (if I want her to) she’ll do my actual filing. Just knowing I’m going to get my study under control makes me feel better. I want to go into 2012 with less chaos and more calm.
WORST: I can’t even look at another chocolate sultana. Okay, that’s a lie …
OMM (On My Mind): Without sounding too depressing, I feel sad about this year ending. Mostly because I feel like it takes me further away from my daughter Georgie who was stillborn last year. Does that sound strange? It just seems like the more time that passes, the more her fingers are slipping out of mine.
Now it’s over to you. What were your best and worst moments of this week? Or even this year? We’re all ears …
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I enjoyed reading your post, Bec. What you wrote about missing your daughter and not wanting to move farther and farther away from her really moved me. Hope you’re feeling okay tonight.
I’ve set aside tomorrow (NY day) to tidy up the house so we can start the new year with a tidy/clean house.
Best: spending time with my children, seeing my daughter’s face when she saw the reindeers/santa had eaten what she left for them.
Worst: visiting relatives for a week, had to sleep on an uncomfortable bed all week = no sleep! (trivial problem I know)
Happy New Year!
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Thanks Petunia. I was okay actually. Often I find the lead-up to big milestones (Christmas, NYE etc) is worse than the actual day itself. There is a part of me that is (and will always be) sad but I was actually pretty okay last night and didn’t get melancholy. xxxx
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Best – spending time with my parents over the Christmas break. It was filled with good chats, Christmas and birthday celebrations with friends, and fantastic food.
A best and worst was having lunch with some friends who were babysitting two beautiful little girls – aged 2 and 4 – who had just lost their Dad 10 days before Christmas. It’s heartbreaking to think of the sadness of the death and the difficult times ahead, but so heartwarming to see the spirit of the community rallying around these little girls.
Worst – lack of Internet in country NSW. 15 km out of Albury and the internet and mobile coverage was so frustrating. The digital divide really irks me. A first world problem I know.
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Best: moving into a new place with my best friend and her husband! I have not shared a house in a long time and am loving it here. We areca happy little family!
Worst: being treated badly and taken for a ride by two relationships this year. Im so upset that I didn’t see what was going on with the second guy after it happened the first time. Wonder does that make me foolish?
OMM: the Golinski family. I have watched Matt on tv many times. Such a warm vibrant man, such a tragedy. I wish him well.
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The Golinski family fire is such a hearybreaking story. Hubby and I have talked about it many times in the last few days… At times, we even wondered whether it would have be better for him to go to heaven with his 4 precious girls. Gosh, he has a long road of recovery, if that’s even possible. We got even sadder last night, when we realised all the photos, videos, keepsakes, jewellery, reminders of his family etc, have also been lost. Gosh life is unfair sometimes.
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Worst: I have to have a PET scan and biopsy of my right lung for suspected cancer (I’ve never been a smoker)…I don’t ‘feel’ like it’s all doom but all the testing is scaring the hell out of me and I keep thinking that maybe I should be making plans for my 3 children (12, 10 and 8 ) just incase…
Best: I’ve just had Christmas with my family (I’m one of 7) and I feel truly blessed to be part of such a loving and supportive family.
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Scary stuff, I hope & pray it gets sorted quickly for you and turns out to be benign.
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Thank you so much. I wish you and everyone else a wonderful 2012!
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Hugs I was in the same position over Christmas 2008, and it was very scary but has a happy ending.
I’d be happy to lend an ear or a shoulder if you ever need someone to chat to.
Will kepe you in my thoughts and prayers.
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I’m so pleased your outcome was good! Thank you xox
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Worst: December, Christmas, having to work tonight which will be a shitfight.
Best: After tonight, I have 12 days off! Badly needed. And for 7 of those days we will be down in Sorrento, my favourite place. Cannot wait!
OMM: People, if you are out tonight, be nice to the staff. Cut them some slack. Not only do we work while everyone else plays, we are all still absolutely f**ked from what we call Deathcember.
Happy New Year everyone.
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hope the customers are kind..
enjoy your well-deserved break
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I’ll be with you in spirit chef as I am working tonight too …not looking forward to the madness and mayhem either.
I wonder if people know it is still entirely possible to have the time of your life and be courteous, not dangerously pissed to the eyeballs and without taking any recreational (?) drugs.
Be safe and have fun everyone. 2012 has 366 days in it … you wanna see every single one of them.
Have a deliciously good rest at Sorrento chef x
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Best: 2012 is just a sleep away and I have this feeling that some good is going to come of it. I have a couple of leads for admin jobs (for the love of God, someone get me out of retail!) and it’s my second-last year of uni. 4 down, 1.5 to go!
And FWP’s this week…
Worst: This damn criminology term paper. It’s due Wednesday and I just. don’t. care. about it so I’m having heaps of trouble just getting in and starting it. This is made worse by the amount I’ve been working and the prospect of increased hours after this week leading up to the exam.
OMM: If one of these job leads pulls through, I may be starting to work for the new place when my old place really needs me…I don’t want to cause any hardship there, but is it wrong that, if given the opportunity, I want to just give my two weeks’ notice and leave them? I’ve been wanting out for over a year and they’ve rostered me on these extra hours at the last minute around summer semester exams. So they didn’t exactly look out for my well-being at Christmas (by changing the roster without telling me after they knew I’d written it down to plan study and asked to be told if it changed, taking me from having 5 days off over a fortnight to 2) or now with these extra hours…but should I be looking out for their well-being anyway? I could ease off my current job and into the new one during the training period, but I really want some time to myself and to cut the old one off and live off my annual leave payout (what I have left after tax, anyway). Is that horrible?
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I don’t think that’s horrible at all. You just need to do what’s best for you. My Husband left a job that screwed him around a lot too and for a month after he still went in after he had finished his new job (he works in IT) and helped them out! No pay or thanks or anything! Eventually I told him to tell his old place “pay me or I can’t help anymore”. Of course they never called him again.
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I don’t want to brag (oh, I totally do!) but on Wednesday I managed to TOTALLY reorganise and file every piece of paper in/on/around/behind our filing cabinet, including an extra storage box we found in the garage and about thirty piles spread all over the house. I have been trying to achieve this state since 2007 – I even had three sets of pre-made drop files with labels. It was a HUGE job but now it’s all done and I feel brilliant! One of my NYResolutions is to be more organised I this has taken a massive weight off my shoulders already. My husband has now had the tour and educational lesson on how to file, what to do with each paper, and the consequences for not following procedure….
No no, you’re right; I AM awesome!
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I am giving you a standing ovation from my kitchen table in Adelaide!!! You must feel SUCH a sense of relief!!!
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You ARE awesome!
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Worst: my husband & Ihad our first ever fight. No raised voices, but I said I was worried about something my MIL had done (to do with safety for our daughter & a playpen, granted I was being overlycautious), he said nothing, I said I was upset & felt like he was ignoring me, he still said nothing & went outside, then about half an hour later I went out to talk to him, he realized how upset I was, and we talked it out. So not a huge deal as fights go, but I’m sad that we can’t say anymore that we’ve never fought. Because our daughter was conceived with IVF & a donor, I feel like we need to be perfect parents to her.
Best: a wonderful Christmas with my extended family, and then having some quiet days at home together with just us 3.
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Aww … but you can say that you fought and made up and that’s actually just as cool in my mind
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It is normal to fight and the main thing is you made up. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to be the perfect parent. You are perfect the way you are, just enjoy her.
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My best will be tomorrow. One of my dearest friends is arriving from Australia with her boyfriend whom I’m yet to meet and will be spending new years and a few days beyond with us. It will be wonderful to sit and talk and laugh and just be with her. She is really one of those kindred spirits that you’re lucky to find in your life.
Another best: Today my gorgeous husband took me into Amsterdam to visit a museum with a special Ruebens and van Dijk exhibition (Ruebens is one of my favourite masters) and then we walked through the streets of the city and to a gorgeous chocolaterie where we ate the most decadent cakes ever. It was a bit of a mission of a walk (see worst below), but so worth it. The city is quiet and I love how you can visit Amsterdam and not even realise that there’s a seedy side to it full of tourists.
Worst: Man, my tummy is sore! I keep getting phantom labour pains and wondering “Is this it?” but nothing progresses. This morning I had a perpetual stitch in my side and I’m finding it increasingly difficult to bend over and I have no stamina whatsoever! Just hanging out the washing warrants a bit of a lie down now. Only a few weeks to go!
OMM: The story of Matt Golinski and his family has been weighing heavily on my mind. My heart goes out to his family, I honestly cannot fathom the pain.
Much love to all, happy new year! XO
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Hi Bec, Earlier this year several churches in my area combined to have a special service for mothers who had lost babies, whether stillborn or miscarriages or whatever. It was held in semi-darkness so that the grieving felt really private and you could be as involved or uninvolved as you felt like. It was really beautiful, and although I was mostly sitting there absorbed by my own grief, I also noticed that most of the people there were in their 60s or older. I found it very moving that their loss must have been so long ago, but they still wanted to attend this service and grieve. For me, it showed that the feelings and connection stays forever.
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What a wonderful idea. Even for an athiest like myself, I imagine the sense of community, shared grieving and just the acknowledgement that all these babies *meant* something would be powerful.
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Oh Sue. That’s beautiful. Someone close to me in an obstetrician/gynae and he recently had an 80-something patient come to see him about some gynae issues. One of the standard questions they ask is “How many times have you been pregnant?” and this elderly woman broke down in tears about a daughter who was stillborn more than 50 years ago. Just goes to show … it never leaves you. Thanks for letting me know about the service. xxx
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It’s a Brisbane church. Let me know if you want the name.
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Thanks Sue. I’m in Adelaide at the moment (for another 12 months) but maybe they do something similar down here? I’ll look into it. xxxx
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OMM : OK so if Mr Lottie got a new iPod for Christmas (from me) and wants to download HIS music (Dragon, Sting, U2, Coldplay etc) and not all of my music, (show-tunes and Jazz) from our communal laptop, how do I do it? Anyone? Do I have to sign in with my name and password and go via the ‘share’ thing? I’m lost. Mr Lottie has even fewer clues than me.
Thank-you in advance
And Bec, that doesn’t sound strange at all. I totally get why you feel like you do. Consider yourself hugged.
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Change the settings in iTunes to manually sync music instead of auto-syncing. Then you can drag and drop the files you want onto the new ipod. Enjoy!
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Thank-you missneriss! it worked! it worked!
PS Hanging out washing with only a few weeks to go? Legend!
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Thanks Lottiel xxxx
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Bec, I have a friend who is in her 50s now who always talks about her stillborn girl along with all her other (4 of them) children, when new people ask her about herself, and when she talks about significant dates etc. And she quietly but firmly expresses her sadness and loss, talking about how her daughter died and how she felt. It’s never awkward and her baby girl is always kept present in her family. She is also that girl who is the life of the party, someone that everyone loves, and who has the biggest heart ever. That really is joy alongside sadness.
Best: a whole week of doing nothing except taking my shopaholic daughter to the sales and buying her bits and bobs, hanging about with her at home, and planning a holiday in a few weeks. We are no longer counting pennies at the end of every fortnight, and I can tell you it makes a huge difference.
Worst: still none, after last week. I don’t even care that I have a few Christmas kilos to shed – we’ve got a daily run sheet for jogging and exercise, and are actually doing it! Before eating brownies…
OMM: Any ideas for great free/not so expensive stuff in Sydney that 10 yo girl will enjoy? We’re doing a harbour cruise, Harry Potter exhibition, the bridge, the opera house, ferry ride to the beach, botanic gardens …
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How about ‘Annie’?
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Chinatown for lunch (Yum Cha if you can afford it, there’s a food court up the top of Market City if not your thing) and a general wander around. There’s some great stuff hanging in windows guaranteed to give her a freak out!
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My husband’s grandmother sounds like your friend, she is 92 and always talks about her 3 children, she has 2 sons in their sixties and she had a still born daughter… it was akward for me when I was first part of the family, but I have become used to this and believe it is a good thing for her to be able to talk about it.. it must have been so hard for her back then to deal with she had 2 small toddlers to deal with as well as her grief.
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Thanks for sharing that with me, Willaway. For whatever reason it always helps to know how other people handle it. Thanks for your lovely message. xxx
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Thanks for the Sydney suggestions. Added chinatown to the list and booked for Annie
done. Happy new year everyone.
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It sounds like you’re staying in town/around Central? If so, it’s a quick bus ride to Newtown, which is always interesting, and has loads of fun little shops and often street art and stalls to check out, too. Also tons of great cafes and food shops – I HIGHLY recommend Burgerfuel!
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Best: a week with my family, seeing all my siblings and having us all together is so rare. My Mum is such an amazing woman, and she puts up with alot from all us kids! Best of all is seeing my 20 mo daughter playing with all her cousins and spending precious time with her doting grandparents.
Worst: spending time with family. Squishing us all together in close quarters can get kind of painful!
OMM: 2011 has been a full on year what’s in store for 2012?? Reconciled with my estranged father, hope he can hold it together for the sake of my daughter. hubby & I have struggled with our relationship, lack of communication, financial stress and learning to be parents have taken their toll. This year will see some big changes for us.
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Best: Got to catch up with a friend and her beautiful family that I haven’t seen in about 2 years! They live so far away from us and I miss them!
Worst: So many things in our house are broken – DVD player, Foxtel is playing up, TV not working, computer is on its last legs, 2 taps leaking, towel rail in the bathroom is stuffed, and neither myself or my husband are particularly handy. Need to book a “Dad Day” where he fixes all my stuff! Thank god for Dads.
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Hey Bec, I’m awesome at organising filing systems. For other people. For me? Not so much.
My best was today – When I finally got KDot to have a sleep today, I left her here with Mum while I went and got a massage and used vouchers I got off Our Deal for a kitchenware shop here – $20 for a $40 voucher, I got 2 so I had $80 to spend. New knife and V Slicer! Woot!
Mum also had one of her old neighbours over for dinner tonight. He is in the pain management phase of prostate cancer that has now metastised to his bones. He can still get around ok and looks ok too. I thoroughly enjoyed chatting with him tonight – he’s led such an interesting and incredibly sad life.
He was one of the kids who was brought out by the British and Australian governments in the 40s – one of the Leaving of Liverpool kids. He and his brother got split up, his bro is in NZ. He was put in a home here, adopted by a dodgy bursar who molested him (he got the sack after rumours of dodgy goings on with the kids, but the home and church required all the kids to be baptised, so this scumbag was his godfather. He was 10 and on his own in Australia – what was he supposed to do? He had to go with him). His godmother had no idea what was going on and he didn’t speak up about it until she had died (she loved him and he loved her back). But now he’s part of a big class action against the organisation that covered up and denied their abuse. His cancer’s pretty far gone, so he doesn’t think he’ll see the end of the case. He wants justice not only for himself, but for all the other kids it happened to in their “care” who haven’t made it this far – all the ruined lives.
I feel quite honoured that he was so open and upfront about his history – and so glad that he’s comfortable to talk about it. Mum always knew he was one of the “Leaving of Liverpool” kids, but didn’t know the full story. I said “Well, that bastard’s in a special place in hell now”, and he heartily agreed.
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I think I’m probably the same Kris! We should do each other’s filing!
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Worst: Boyfriend left on Christmas Eve to spend five months on university exchange in France. He’s spending this week snowboarding in Spain where internet and phone reception is sketchy, and I hate not being able to pick up the phone and talk to him, or know when I will hear from him next. I know it will get a lot better once he settles in his apartment next week, but for now it’s pretty stressful and I find it really hard not to think about it all the time.
Best: Catching up with friends after Christmas, and daydreaming about when these five months are over!
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Oh Bec, that is beautiful, sad but beautiful. But you know that no matter how much time passes you will never be far from your beautiful daughter Georgie. No matter what happens and no matter what you are doing there will always be that special place in your heart and your family for Georige that transcends all time. And you also have all of us here that are forever thinking about your beaitiful girl.
I came accross this quote about grief the other day “you dont get over grief, you get through it” which I thought was so true.
I am sure your openness and honesty and your compassion towards others on this site has helped many of the others out there that have experienced similar tragedies.
All the best for you and your family in 2012
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Thank you. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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BEST: Christmas celebrations fun with family members and NYE drinks tomorrow night before we leave for a week’s family beach holiday.
WORST: One day out of her routine this week and my daughter turned a day trip to visit family into a nightmare. Never again!
OMM: Wondering how my daughter is going to go with sleeping/feeding in between beach trips and dinners oit on our family holiday next week…
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Can I ask a question to the MM team without the fear of being deleted?
What is your comment deletion policy? I know you say you only delete a handful each week but a friend of mine has had several comments deleted recently and now can’t comment at all ie; her IP is now blocked. I understand from social media contacts this is not uncommon.
Do different moderators have different thresholds or is there a MM policy?
Thanks for your consideration.
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Our comment deletion policy is stated clearly on the site :
Imagine this is a dinner party. Differences of opinion are welcome but keep it respectful or the host will show you the door. If you’re rude or abusive, your comment will be deleted (so will comments responding to other rude comments because they won’t make sense – so save your breath). And if you’re offensive, you’ll be banned. Remember what Fonzie was like? Cool. That’s how we’re going to be – cool. Have fun and thanks for adding to the conversation…
We have blocked IPs that continually flaunt these rules. Just as the policy states.
Hope that clear it up
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Interesting Sally because we have not blocked anyone after posting things on the magazine cover post. I’d love to hear from those people who believe they were banned (lana@mamamia.com.au)
There were some comments from people that had contravened the comment guidelines in the past. As their comments had the same lack of respect and abusive content their comments did not show up on the site. They do however show up in the spam folder in our back end and that is how we know where they are coming from
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Bec, I think I understand about Georgie. I feel like I still have a relationship with my Peanut, and that was a 9 weeks miscarriage. We stay their mothers but it’s hard when you can’t build any further on that connection.
Best- 21 weeks today and bought a bassinet and a sling. First big baby purchases
Worst- nothing worth mentioning.
OMM- it has been a BIG year. High highs and low lows which my husband and I have come out of stronger, but I’ll be happy to move on to 2012 and looking further into our future as a family.
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Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy. I too had a 9wk miscarriage and wonder why and what went wrong. Take care and all the best in 2012. xx
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BEST: Christmas day, having my auntie and grandfather walk into lunch as a surprise. Haven’t seem auntie in 3 years and grandfather in 1 year, lots of tears and hugs and OMGs, my 6 yo boy excited to see his great-grandfather as they are best buddies
I also loved seeing my little man’s joy and delight at all things “Christmas” 
WORST: my ex almost ruining Christmas day and my holiday (and his own son’s) next week with his controlling and emotionally abusive actions. The more he is like that, the more I achieve clarity on what I need to do to stop it affecting me, which is a positive thing i realise. But have to wade through the detrimental effect it has on me, and how it blurred my joy on Christmas day through hiding my reactions for the sake of others (though i did get to let it out with a good cry on my Dad’s shoulder later on) is hard.
OMM: The terrible, unspeakable tragedy put upon Matt Golinski and his family, my heart aches for them all.
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Hi Deb, I know where you are coming from. My husbands ex-wife created such a huge drama on Christmas day that we did not get to see his daughter at all. She took off with her before we could pick her up at the pre-arranged time and now we are at war, or so it seems. She is totally emotionally killing that poor kid, who is her only “friend” by discussing the difficulties they have between them (parents that is), and now his daughter is taking sides and getting involved in the sh*t storm (she is 14). They have been divorced over ten years for Pete’s sake, she needs to get over it and move on, but it seems her only joy is doing her best to make us miserable. I have had to block her from contacting me as the stress is really getting to me.
If your ex is similar, my only advice to you is to keep contact to an absolute minimum and don’t respond to anything negative.
Keep strong!
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My parents did the same thing for years until one of them died. I was “privileged” to be my mother’s confidant, it was unbearable and I still can’t have more than a casual conversation with her.
Don’t worry, your stepdaughter will see what is going on, sooner or later.
I had a lovely stepmum , unfortunately she did not stay married to my dad for too long (he was a real prick, emotionally and physically abusive) but I still think of her alot and remember the lessons she taught me and her kindness.
When are people going to realise that these behaviours affect kids for life.
I have written here before that I am over 50 and still affected by my parents divorce
I think education would help, start teaching kids from a young age that people are not able to OWN each other.
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Oh Vanessa, you have hit the nail on the head! She does think she owns her. It’s always her daughter, blah blah. For example, when my husband’s sister got married, she asked him if their daughter (my now step daughter) could be flower girl. He said yes. That never happened because my husbands ex (they were still married then) wouldn’t even allow them to go to the wedding because my husband’s sister asked him instead of her if the little one could be flower girl. How effed up is that? She is his daughter too!
My parents were fairly civil after their divorce, so I didn’t get much of this stuff. I feel really lucky now.
Kids should just be kids, not weapons to hurt each other.
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Bec, I hear and understand your pain. God be with you and your whole family, which of course includes Georgie. She will always be your firstborn.
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beautiful comment josiey (as usual).
i just wanted to correct you, georgie is bec’s second born, ava is her first.
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Easter eggs are on sale already at Coles! Seriously, I’m still recovering from Christmas people!
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Commercialisation … you’ve gotta love it.
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And hot cross buns in my local supermarket on Boxing Day!
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Bec, how can her little fingers be ‘slipping out’ of yours when you are ‘holding’ her close to you always.
Omm: my brother, he passed away 2 months ago today (the 8 week mark fell exactly last Sunday, Chrissie day). He was young, 41. Really surreal time these last 2 months, but Chrissie day was extremely raw being so close to when he died… the first Christmas… Strange how everyone (well almost everyone) doesn’t know what to say, and instead, most just don’t say anything, don’t call to see how anyone’s doing, say they’ll catch up but inevitably forget or can’t be bothered, or don’t follow up, and/or just stay away… it’s really strange and highlights how afraid of death, grieving, another’s sadness people are. Strange time, I guess everyone just assumes after the 5 or 6 week mark everything returns to ‘normal’. And it was ‘normal’ for everyone as Christmas was upon them. I’ve been told the 5 or 6 week mark is usually when people stop calling anyway so… the exposure to this is probably good in the long run, makes it easy working out who’s who and what’s what in the bigger picture.
Omm also: going away on Sunday, with my Mum – for almost 6 weeks – outta here, as in outta this country! Am consciously aware, as Mum’s getting older, this may be one of our last trips together depending on her health. She’s had a huge decade, actually we both have – time away from it all is sorely needed.
Happy New Year everyone, I hope 2012′s all and more you hope for. Take care, stay safe, love big and be kind not only to your loved ones, but also to yourselves – this world’s sometimes cold and crazy, yet unless we keep being kind to ourselves, ultimately, who will? (though the MM community here is warm and inviting – sometimes bolshie too – and I enjoy popping by… has been ages since I have what with uni deadlines and exams, and a family death in amidst this, so, maybe this in itself – that I’m posting today – is a good sign for where I’m heading back towards what I know and adore spending time reading). Take care all oxo
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Sorry for your loss, take care I hope 2012 is a better year for you. Enjoy the time you spend on hols with your mum. xx
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Thanks for your sentiments Anonymous, I hope 2012′s a better year too and I know hols with my Mum will def be enjoyable. May you have a wonderful 2012 yourself!
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so sorry for your loss.
wishing you a brilliant trip with your mum, sounds like getting outta here is just what you need.
all the best for 2012
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Thanks Rainbow, your kindness is greatly appreciated.
All the best for 2012 for you too.
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Bec, hugs for your OMM comment. That does not sound strange at all.
xx
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OMG…I want that lady who is organising you. I NEED that lady. Is there really such a person? How on earth did you find her? Is she related to Mary Poppins?
I have over twelve months of filing sitting on a bench, and another pile of papers on my kitchen bench, not to mention all the other important bits of paraphanalia lying around…i just can’t keep on top of it and now I just don’t know where to start.
BEST: superficial: my new robot vacuum. I LOVE it. Brilliant brilliant brilliant. Sigh…so glad to have it. Life is so much cleaner now.
not superficial: looking into a new year, finalising the end of this one, and the end of a decade. It’s been a rather crap decade for me and I”m moving into the new one with positivity. Since complications from my surgery have settled down, i’m feeling somewhat better (fingers crossed) and am tentatively looking to 2012 to be the year for me. Times…they are a changin’.
Worst:
The kids are getting me down. So greedy and bickering and ungrateful and disrespectful. Perhaps that is me being a little hormonally charged at the moment but as much as I love them I am entirely disappointed with them right now.
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Thanks RR! I just want to clarify that I am paying this woman so nobody think I’m plugging her because it’s a freebie!! I’m in Adelaide so I’m using a company called Clear Space http://clearspace.net.au/ The owner (Rebecca) actually specialises in systems (which I need) and will help me actually set my filing cabinet up properly. And also give me a better system for paying bills and organising my desk. BUT, there are LOADS of people who work as “personal concierges” who will just come over and do your filing for you (or any other job you have). So just jump on the computer and google. But I figure paying someone $70 an hour (or so) is worth it if it makes me feel less overwhelmed. I hate mess and chaos .. and I want to get 2012 off to a good start. My filing would probably only take an hour for someone else but for me (getting distracted and pondering different documents) it would take HOURS AND HOURS.
Let me know how you get on.
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Thanks for the info, Bec! I’ll definitely look into it. If I could just get someone to come around and sort everything into an easy to use system then I will be right I think. It’s the setting up of the system that seems to never get achieved. I shall investigate further for some little angel to come and do it for me.
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Oh I am so with you on your new robot vacuum, I have had mine for 3 months… My hubby calls it my boyfriend because I am so infactuated with it!!
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Ours is called Lady Beetle Beetle Bug.
Don’t ask me why, seems like a mouthful. But it’s like a little bug that is part of the family, when its whizzing around amongst us all.
I was given it for my birthday. The only time ever my husband has been asked/permitted to give me a household appliance for my birthday.
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I’ve been considering a robot vacuum, but couldn’t decide between a Neato and a Roomba. If you don’t mind me asking, what type did you get?
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we have the irobot roomba it is awesome!
Goodluck with your purchase, vacuuming will never be the same!
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gosh, i’m not sure what mine is.
I think its a LG robovac
Definitely LG brand.
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Thanks so much guys! Good to know that they are as great as they sound
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Hi rudyroo – there are loads of organisers all over the country, so like Bec said, google away and see how you go. If you can’t find any, let me know – I know lots of fab organisers I’d be happy to recommend
Oh, and I’m so envious of your robot vac. I might put that on my ‘want’ list this year. Dog hair – be gone!
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Best: Just spent a week in Melbourne with my husband and three kids. It was the perfect end to a wonderful year.
Worst: I keep thinking of ‘worsts’ but they’re very easily overcome!
OMM: I’m very excited by what’s in store for 2012! I have some plans that will require focussed attention and so with that in mind I’m saying goodbye to MM. It’s been lovely getting to know you all, and hopefully I see you around on Twitter!
Wishing everyone health and harmony for the road ahead.
Karen xo
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What a loss for MM.
Good luck in your ventures Sometimeskaren.
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Thanks rudyroo!
Have a wonderful 2012
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All the best for 2012 SK. Thank you for your input on MM, you will be missed. God bless
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I’m going to really miss seeing your comments on here, SK. Try to pop by occasionally if you can! And I wish you every bit of good luck and happiness for next year … go you good thing!
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Oh thanks, Bec! That’s lovely of you to say.
Wishing you and your little family much love for a most joyous 2012 xox
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Will be sad to see you go, I’ve very much enjoyed reading your comments. And thanks so much for the book recommendation – the one about the mole with a poo on his head – my daughter loves it!
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Oh you got the book!!!!
Glad she likes it; my job here is done
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I will miss your commonsense and empathy, Sometimeskaren. I think a lot of us will. Take care. xxx
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That’s very kind of you to say
The great thing about the MM community is the huge number of great contributors.
You take care too, Chef! xo
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I’ll miss you here, but I’m happy we still have Twitter. All the best with the exciting plans for the coming year, would love to hear how it all unfolds.
Wait, who am I going to rely on for sage advice now?
XO
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I will most certainly be tracking your movements on Twitter … what a huge year you have ahead of you!!!!
Will be seeing you xo
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Best, best luck SK in your new adventures.
Will really miss your wisdom, wit and compassion *sniff* xo
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Likewise! Have a wonderful year xo
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Oh, I’m not on twitter & will miss you! All the best for 2012.
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Thanks, eternally!
Oh, I saw your comment up the page about your first ever fight… the best marriages aren’t made by an absence of conflict. Conflict is inevitable, and when it’s completely absent you really have to wonder who is suppressing what!
The difference is in how you do it. You can fight every day, but as long as you’re fighting “fair” then your marriage will be a healthy one. Try to see his point of view, keep it private, remain positive about seeking a resolution, stick to the issue at hand … and go easy on yourself! I hope you have many years of healthy, productive conflict ahead of you
All the best to you and your little family xo
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best – I drove today! for months now vertigo, migraines, dizziness, fainting have all dictated that I should not drive. today I drove without feeling any of those things. celebrated by taking kids to see nanna
worst – my sister is on a huge decline, we hope it’s just the treatment and not more tumors, we’ll know at end of january…..
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Love to you and your sister x
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Best : I have survived christmas in the company of a particularly nasty, manipulative MIL. My boys had a great Christmas going between their Dad and myself…after months of angst over these two things I am glad Christmas is over
Worst : Really happy at the moment in our new home and after a few difficult years it is amazing of me to say, there is no worst
OMM : Heading to see my sister and her baby for NYE in Brisbane and to do a cooking class at the Spirit House on NYday…I cannot wait
Happy New Year to a great community and to the MM Team – I hope you know what an amazing support network you have created.
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Oooooh Spirit house…… my brother’s wedding was there this year. Yummo!
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Best – It is nearly 2012. Over this year and we need a fresh start. Have my fingers and toes crossed that there are no floods and no babies starting their life in the icu.
Also best – We had a lovely Christmas with my wonderful family. First time in years my extended family have all been together.
Worst – halfway through my four days with my FIL. I don’t like him and he annoys the crap out of me as soon as he opens his mouth. I try and hide in the bedroom but he still finds me. Yesterday it was to ask about his lunch. It took everything in me not to scream at him.
Wishing everyone a happy new year. May the new year bring you lots of happiness.
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I’ve been doing a lot of work on myself, realise that I have to do this to make my life better and to feel better. But still feel really lonely. I had three terrible years, so much loss. I so very much want to fall in love and have a baby girl, my own family.
I finally feel, 1.5 years later, that I’m over my ex and he was not good for me. I really thought he was the one and have been so heartbroken. He left me after I miscarried our baby and tried to kill myself in June 2010.
It’s odd as I had a dream recently that I was clearly and unemotionally telling my ex everything that i want him to know and I was really strong. It was so clear – how he was terrible to me and how i deserve better and how we can not be together because of how he behaves. Then there was this wonderful new man for me who looked wonderful…. Can dreams mean anything?
I’m scared that I won’t meet anyone or have a baby and I’ll be alone forever…… If you know what you really want, can you make it happen? How?
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I think you have to put your fears aside and focus on having a happy and fulfilling life, no matter what happens or who you meet. If you are overly focused on marriage & babies, you may come across as too intense when you first meet a bloke.
On the other hand, I did specifically put effort into finding a husband. I did some Internet dating, but what worked was telling a friend I was looking, who then set me up with a friend of her partner.
Good luck with it all, may you have a happy new year!
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I believe that dreams are our subconsious (or God) telling us things we need to know about ourselves. Sounds like you needed to know you’re are a better and stronger woman than you thought!
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Thank you so much Eternally & JosieY, I am so appreciative of your replies. xx
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Best for the week: CHRISTMAS!!! Best time of the year by a mile.
Best for the year: My trip to Fiji in July. Man, what I would give to be back in that country again. Surrounded by cocktails, breakfast buffets and fresh coconuts. The best.
Worst for the week AND the year: My beautiful puppy (11 years old, but still a puppy in my eyes!) was put down yesterday. She’d been sick for months, and just two short hours before she was put to sleep, she was standing the garden just staring at me through the window and it was almost as if those big puppy dog eyes were just crying out, “please make it stop”. I’m not even an animal person and I feel so silly for crying over a dog, but GOD, it sucks to lose a pet!!
Happy New Year to all xxx
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I’m so sorry about your puppy, it’s so painful. She wasn’t a “dog” she was your child. It is just terrible to put a dog down, so painful. It’s a huge loss. I hope you’re ok.
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You did the kind thing. We took our 16 year old blue heeler to the vet just this afternoon, she has acute pancreatitis and was in pain. She will stay there overnight and then we need to make a decision tomorrow. It’s difficult but she looked so tired and unhappy this afternoon, I don’t want her to be that way for too long. If only she could bloody speak I could ask her what she wants us to do. I’m not a dog person either, in fact I’ve spent most of the last 8 years since meeting my now husband (and his dog) complaining about her but now I don’t want to think about not having her around.
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Pancreatitis can be treated I think????
Don’t let her go until she is absolutely ready ie; isn’t walking, greeting you, eating, etc. I know, having been thru it w my beautiful little soul mate, how painful & difficult it is.
But if she’s comfortable, if that’s possible w medicine, another six months can be a blessing for her and you.
If you need any help/advice w veterinary care please email me Loumelc@hotmail.com
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Thanks Louise for providing your email, that’s very kind of you. The vet thinks her odds of getting through the night are about 50-50 so we will see.
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Best: spending time with assorted family
Worst: dealing with the self righteous indignation of some family members.
OMM: Martyrdom. I get that some people derive pleasure from devoting themselves to serving others. But what I don’t get is the people who devote themselves to serving others and then whinge and bitch and moan about it. How best to deal with it? I’ve tried the smile and nod and that’s wearing a bit thin. Dear MM I’d appreciate some suggestions.
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I have a family member who is a martyr … sometimes I wanted to stuff cotton wool in her mouth to shut her up which, one day, set me off in a fit of giggles when I pictured it in my head so I used my sense of humour and pictured the funny side to whatever she was complaining about and responded to her with that. She just doesn’t bother complaining to me anymore. Misery loves company. *Do not tune in to her misery* – it doesn’t help you and it doesn’t help her although she doesn’t know that. Good luck flowers x
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Best – I married the love of my life this year. Nothing can beat that feeling (well till kids lol)
Worst – a total FWP so it isn’t too bad. But we currently live in a bedsit and we have way to much stuff. So we are beginning to go through everything and rearrange and declutter. So the house looks like a bomb went off and we only have a week to get everything clean for husbands birthday.
OMM – I suffered a miscarriage – well found out about it 10 before our wedding 08/11/11. I had a blighted ovum where the egg is fertilizd but doesn’t grow but your body still thinks that it is pregnant so all the symptoms still occur. I had blood tests and every time the pregnancy hormone increased everytime. It wasn’t until our second u/s when it was picked up. Heartbreaking to be told by a guy conducting the u/s i’m sorry but your not pregnant. So because I hadn’t bleed at all I had to have a d/c. Our OB told us to wait for one period to make sure everything is ok and then we can start trying, which we can start now but I’m scared. I’m scared of losing another baby.
But I have the love and support of my husband so I know we will get through this.
Love and hugs to all
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Hi Feisty I also had a blighted ovum (what an awful word!) which was diagnosed at my 12 week scan. Big shock because, as you said, your body still experiences pregnancy symptoms. Good news is that I became pregnant again the next month & my daughter is just the best thing in my life & more than makes up for that harrowing experience. My advice is that when you get pregnant again have a scan as early as you can so you can set your mind at ease. If you explain your fears to your doctor they will accommodate this.
Best wishes, it sounds like you have an amazing, happy marriage!!
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Worst/OMM: I’m so confused. My Husband and I have a really great marriage but I guess from things that have happened in my past (my Dad abusing me etc) I’ve had issues with feeling unloved. I know it’s selfish but I need that extra bit of love sometimes to make up for things but he doesn’t always get that. I hate that he always argues with me when I’m upset at something he has done and that he gets so mad. Is this a normal guy thing (hate that term)?
Best for 2012: my gorgeous daughter. I never thought I would love someone this much. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
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I don’t know if it’s a normal guy thing but my husband does it too and it drives me INSANE. He does something rude / thoughtless / mean / whatever and then I get in trouble for reacting to whatever he has done in an ‘inappropriate’ way. It becomes all about how I’m reacting rather than whatever it is he has done in the first place.
Sorry I can’t give you any advice on what to do about it, I’m at a loss too.
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Thanks for the comment. It’s actually nice to know I’m not the only one because when I’m going through it, it feels like I’m the only one/this shouldn’t be happening/divorce divorce divorce, etc.
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Sorry to say it, B’s Mummy and Anonymous, but I reckon you two have controlling males in your life. Or would-be controllers. Possibly bullies….?
I say this from the position I have been in several times in my life, until I Woke Up and realised that they seemed happy if they could make me cry and it seemed to be their objective.
But it’s purely a personal thing.
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Agree with Xanthe. An adult male must be able to discuss your feelings about what is going on in your lives together without falling back on stonewalling behaviours and toddler-type tantrums. Get counselling now (try Relationships Aust or talk to your GP – if you are experiencing psychological symptoms or depression, the GP can arrange counselling through the mental health care plan, costs are rebated through medicare). The most common longterm outlook for people with this behaviour in marriage is that it gets worse if it is not brought out into the open and looked at in counselling.
Stop blaming yourself too. You have your own issues but you aren’t “making” him act this way because of your issues. You don’t want extra love, you just want ordinary love, acceptance and understanding. Talk to a counsellor about your pain from the past too. Good luck xo
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Have you read Louise Hay “You can heal your life” – I’ve been reading it and it helps so much with all this stuff. Pains pains etc. As for your husband, if it’s really bad try a councellor, even you go alone wld be helpful. Relationships Australia are fantastic. They will give you input into this situation and you will feel much stronger and clearer.
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I haven’t read the book but I will check it out. Thanks
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Fantastic book, helps in so many aspects of life. And can vouch for Relationships Australia…have used them a number of times from small to big issues and they have always been fantastic. X
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Please do, I resisted reading it as everyone raves about it – maybe the rebel or idiot in me, laugh. But someoene I really respect recommended I read it recently and she was so right. it’s made such a difference
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Mr Lottie has been a champion at this in the past. It took a while, but I finally realised it is usually because he is mad at himself for upsetting me, but it comes out as anger AT me. Now when it happens, I (tactfully I hope) point it out (!) but mostly not in the heat of the moment. Sometimes it takes a while, but he can now usually see it too. It’s a slow process, but I think we are making progress…Good luck!
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best: three of my friens are about to be blessed their first babies. I’m so happy for them!
worst: i can’t seem to be happy with what I have, I want more. I want different things from my husband and I know that I have to change my attitude, and that it’s simply my own expectations that are causing my conflict but I don’t know if I’m ready to change the expectations I have always had about life, and if letting go of them means letting go of myself, or just becoming more content … kind of a catch 22.
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Might I recommend reading ‘The Happiness Trap’ by Russ Harris? I really help me with what you’re talking about. I hope you find the happiness you deserve in 2012!
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Thank you! I have just googled it and could download the first chapter online. I’ll definitely get a copy, and likewise, I hope the new year brings you great things
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OOM: I never really feel like much changes from the end of one year to another. Maybe that there will be a difference this time…
BEST: it has been a pretty good year but I am looking forward to next year. So many opportunities to come! Like the end of year 12, the end of uni has opened up so much! I am so excited for my trip and the challenges which i will face trying to get into publishing…
BEST: lifes good
I hope everyone has fun welcoming in the new year and I wish you all the very best for the year to come. Xx
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First time commenting even though I always read everyone’s comments! That’s a best for the week!
Best for the year- leaving a job I didn’t like, finding out that I wanted to open a shop and then actually opening the shop!! And it’s doing reasonably well!
Worst for the year- spending all our savings on the shop, and worrying about money constantly! Small business ownershop is hard- I knew it would be, but I am a worrier, and I should have thought it through more. But it’s a good idea, and we are working really hard!!
On my mind- babies!!! I’m 31- I don’t know if I even want to have kids, but I have to decide so soon….
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It’s a best for us too! Welcome to comments!
Good luck with the shop
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OMG you OMM has floored me. Am writing in a cafe and have tears in my eyes (bit embarrassing but totally warranted). I hope 2012 doesn’t feel like distance but brings joys that sit happily beside the sadness of your loss (if that makes any sense or brings any comfort?). Truly Happy New Year to you Bec and thanks for sharing so openly, you’ve reminded me of what truly matters. Nicole x
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“Joy that sits happily beside the sadness” … what a beautiful thing to say. I wish for you, Nicole, for 2012 all that I could wish for myself. xxxx
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Best: On Monday my best friend came over and we watched the final episode of series 4 of Merlin together (it’ll be on Ch 10 on 15 Jan, but we both watch it over the internet). My parents took my sisters to see Tintin, and we plugged in my dad’s laptop to the TV to watch it. We ate chocolate coins, Pringles, and Reese’s peanut butter cups. We threw the wrappers at Arthur because he was stupid. Then at the end we squealed. A lot.
Worst: My mum’s going to make me get rid of my pillow when I get my queen bed for our new house. I’ve had it forever and it’s the best pillow ever.
Worst 2: Getting braces on Jan 10. FML.
OMM: My friend and I have been getting these weird spam emails. We got the first on Oct 28, then got 3 more yesterday. Here’s one of them.
Good day, my dear friend
To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven. While I am sleeping tonight you can bet that I will be dreaming about you. I spend my days thinking about you. I spend my nights wishing you were here. I can?t wait until you find me to wipe away these blue tears. I guess I will keep dreaming until the day that you come home to me. Seasons will change that much is true but some things will never change…
like the way I feel about you http://scandestiny.in/ Sincerely Anni
The weirdest thing is I’m getting them on my school email, which I rarely use on internet sites unless it’s for school. They don’t worry me or anything, I just find them hilarious.
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Ok first time ever doing this so here it goes. Best and worst for this year
Worst- having a ganglion cyst removed twice from my left wrist this year and being diagnosed with Poly Cystic Ovaries.
Best- Meeting some wonderful new people whom are now very good friends, losing nearly 20kg and discovering my new passion in life, getting accepted to study cert 3&4 in fitness with the Australian Institute of Fitness.
OMM- my new blog I just started up today after reading some of the blogs that some of the mama mia community have. Also marriage and babies but that is constant thing on my mind after my dr suggested that I think about having children around 30. Less than 2 years to go
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After a great year – birth of our second beautiful girl, buying our first home (sort of, it’s being built), we’ve had a shocking end.
Xmas eve my nearly three year old fell and broke her femur, 2.5 hrs into our holiday! 3hr ambulance ride to the children’s hosp and a few days (including Xmas day) in hospital and we’re home with an active toddler in a cast from belly down both legs to ankles. Came home to feed bub on Xmas night to find our house flooded from crazy storms. Then to top it all off we got a letter telling us we have 60 days to move out of our rental as the owner is moving back in. My daughter will be just out of her cast when we have to move. And our new house will still be a few months off completion- not long enough to sign a new lease but too long to squash into the in-laws (although they are happy for us to).
And it’s my birthday today.
Sigh.
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Oh you poor thing Bjk. Best of luck trying to find a place to stay and I hope your daughter is back to normal soon.
Btw Happy Birthday
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that really sucks, i hope it gets better for you.
my advice, not that you asked, but squash into the in-laws and hopefully get some help and rest, you sound like you really need it.
wishing you a happy and healthy 2012
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Could you write to the owner explaining your circumstances?
They might be able to delay their move by a little?
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Thanks for your responses guys. Things are looking up, the toddler is dealing with her cast really well, we have got a bit of a routine now. We’re on the way to my brother’s beach house for a break and some much needed adult company (and lovely kids to help occupy ours).
We’ve got a potential option for housing as my mum is looking at renting a small apartment close to our new house later in the year when her current lease runs out so we think we’ll lease it now and she can move in when our place is ready. It is a bit of a blessing in disguise cos it means she’ll have a place organised for when she needs it and it will make us appreciate our big new place even more!
Happy new year all.
It’s all good, these things make us s
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Best: staying with my sister in Sydney and holding my gorgeous nephew a few hours after he was born.
Best: picking up my pooch from her holiday at a lovely ladys house who has dogs stay at her home and sleep in her bed as part of the deal. She made three wonderful doggie friends and I was given some lovely pics of her and her mates. And the big hug and lots of kisses from my pooch when she saw me.
Best kinda: drama with the ex finally came to a head and I screamed at him and told him what I thought of him and that I wasn’t going to take his crap anymore. I don’t ever yell or say mean things to people and have been insanely nice to him even tho he has been a total jerk. But he just pushed me too far! Only took six years for me to finally snap after all his lying and cheating and bullshit. Ahhhh
Worest: coming home and facing reality. And realizing how depressed and miserable I am.
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What a bittersweet time for you – such lovely bests and (a kinda full on) ‘for the best.’
Thinking of you.
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Thanks Pumba! It also made me realize that I don’t feel at home here anymore. I felt more at home at my sisters place on the pull out sofa in my nephews room. Not sure why but I think I’m going to make a move down south as soon as I can
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Best thing is getting rid of the lying/cheating/abusive (insert description here) scumbag. The feeling of freedom is indescribable
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Lol it felt amazing. I’ve never done anything like that before! He was never abusive or mean while we were together. He was mostly an amazing boyfriend. But in the end there was more and more lies and well the cheating…which I only found out about after he walked out with no explainantion. He has been very subtly bullying and intimidating me tho (even following me here on MM!) but I FINALLY stood up to him and told him how freaking stupid he is. I always had to explain everything to him. But I always tried to boost his confidence. But when I said he should he apologize he said he had done nothing wrong I let rip with how we aren’t together anymore and I don’t have to explain simple things to such a stupid person anymore etc. It was pretty mean BUT it just built up over sooo long! And I’m off to file a police report about him not returning my keys (apparently they got lost in the mail) just so he knows he can’t scare me anymore!
was so sick of being the “victim”. Ahhhhh that was cathartic!
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It’s the subtle manipulation that can be the worst. You feel so angry but you don’t know why you are so angry or whether you are just being irrational.
Again huge congrats in getting rid of him from your life. I was with my wanker for nearly 6yrs until he left me for his next door neighbour (which was just insulting the trailer trash didn’t wash properly and had dirt rings around her neck) and it took me a year or so to finally remove him from my life. That’s after he kept stringing me along letting me think that we could get back together but realistically he was just using me for sex.
Quite a bit of satisfaction now though, I have a wonderful boyfriend and I am happy with my life. He on the other hand got used by the new girl (he came into a bit of money), served time in jail and whilst he was in there she left him and took up with a new guy in another state. The only sad thing is they had a kid together but from what I have heard he is getting looked after by his maternal grandfather
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How on earth does some one get dirt rings around their neck?? My dog goes and rolls in the dirt and yet doesn’t have that! Ewwww! Poor hygiene grosses me out! Speaking of which my dog is currently grooming herself so I guess she has better hygiene than the neighbor! Guh! Thank god you got rid of him. And hey I love that karma has totally bitten him in the ass! Why must there be so many scumbags out there?
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Best: after two miscarriages and much heartache my sister gave birth to a beautiful baby boy on Christmas day. The BEST Christmas present!!
Worst: feeling overwhelmed with stuff in our tiny house. No energy to do anything about it.
OMM: but then I think about my new nephew and nothing else matters
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Congrats to your family on the new son/nephew
I totally get what you mean about your house- my apartment has been a mess since last friday and it just keep getting worse! Really need to put some time into cleaning it tonight before having people over to messy it up again tomorrow!
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Best: being on holidays and getting to spend some time just thinking.
Worst: realising how unhappy I am about some aspects of my life and knowing that I’m the only one who can change anything.
OMM: will my Mum regain her health in 2012??
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BEST: I’m starting to get back into the groove of singledom. It’s fantastic to be feeling like I’m ever so slowly on the mend! Although I usually like to commemorate relationship disasters with a new hairstyle, I am annoyingly happy with the one I’m currently rocking – the solution? An exorbitant amount of money spent on new cosmetics – Huzzah!
I’ve also taken a leap by starting a blog (I hate that word and everything it stands for). It attempts to be more honest than I am in everyday life and less self-deprecating than I am in my private journal – lets see how long I can toe that line! – http://walkthistown.blog.com/
WORST: I’m not so secretly dreading welcoming in the new year alone (almost unavoidable – thanks work)! Plus I’m feeling the impending doom of needing to write my summer semester essay!
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BEST: Just got home from 3 wonderful days away with my boyfriend…we stayed at a great resort along the coast, ate well, drank well…so great to have some alone time
WORST: Coming home from a holiday is never fun. And I think I may have caught a bit of a cold from the air-con which was running last night…no no no don’t ruin NYE!
OMM: Money, god I’m poor (really, no exaggeration). This holiday was my last luxury until I start work in Feb…going to be a lean January…thank goodness I’m going away with the family to the beach for 2 weeks, makes it a lot easier to be frugal.
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Best: school holidays mean time for my boys to be brothers. Love hearing their jokes, laughter, games.
Worst: sad. every day.
OMM: how to commit, & recommit every day to such dear dear boys, who are the sole reason I do anything or strive at all, even though I will never benefit really, or know such care myself. Ho hum …. new year blah …
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Are you on any medication / getting any counselling? It sounds as though you are really at the end of your thread and could use some help.
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Sigh, it makes me sad to hear you are so sad
I wanted to comment to encourage you to try, if you haven’t already, to talk to your doctor or a counsellor… I posted earlier this year for the first time on MM (anonymously) about feeling worthless and sad and unmotivated and the encouragement I got at the time gave me the validation I needed to take the scary step of approaching a GP. I’m not a fan of medication but the antidepressants he gave me have helped me cope enough to get back on track, and I’ve also just found a great counsellor who ‘gets’ me. This is only my little story but I wanted to share it in the hope that you might seek some help to feel better too. Lean on friends/family/workmates/MMers/whoever and remember you are the world to your boys! 
I wish you all the best things for a better 2012 xox
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Worst: Falling back down my black well of despair.
Best: Being taken in by my friends, made to eat properly and exercise, and being pulled back up into daylight again.
OMM: How do I thank them for that??
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I think seeing you healthy again would be reward enough for them
Think you also need to add
Best: having the strength to overcome that despair (even if you did get a little help!) and having friends who understand
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Try to think of something super thoughtful and personal to thank them with.
Firstly, friends deserve it after they do beautiful things like that – some friends don’t do it so it’s important not to take it for granted!
Secondly, and most importantly, it will give you something to think about and you’ll feel really good at having given back.
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If they’re real friends (which they sound like they are) you don’t need to thank them. Because they know you’d do the same for them.
But one really under-rated gift? Be a good listener. So when they have problems they know they can also ring you and you’ll listen – really listen – to them and their concerns.
PS Glad to hear you’re back out in the sunlight. xxx
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Best: My Mum bought $10,000 worth of furniture from Freedom for about $5,500. So well start 2012 off with a whole new look for the living space.. We also did a massive clean out so it’s already feeling very refreshing.
Worst: Work is super quiet. The days are dragging!
OMM: In my boredom at work I’ve been looking at my 2012 Horosopes in a bunch of magazines. They all say pretty much the same thing and it points towards a very good year. Here’s hoping it happens that way!
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Best: Last night I signed up for 12 WBT. Totally on a whim. I gained 30 kilos last pregnancy and although I lost it all, I don’t want to spend my pregnancy shielding my body from my husband when we should be celebrating it! Heck, I didn’t even let him see his baby girl being born because *gasp* he might have seen some cellulite. Silly Billy! So apprehensive for the 16th of January when it starts. Can I just do one hour of walking 6 days a week?
Worst: No worst.
OMM: I have been thinking about going to uni. I’m 26 and work from home in our business, which is going from strength to strength, so it’s not quite necessary. I feel like I have so much learning in me, but who does a uni degree just to learn a few things with no plans to ever put it to good use? I have a strong desire to challenge myself… Plus, I have no idea what to even study.
Thanks for a great year MM, and all the contributors. Has been inspiring!
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Hi Nadia, I’m doing the 12 week wbt this round too! Will be nice to have you there
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The 12WBT is fantastic. Good luck, I’m sure you’ll do brilliantly!
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I’ve signed up for the next round of 12WBT too! I’m excited! Have a few big weight loss goals for 2012 (a wedding and a 30th in Ibiza…).
Good luck girls! xx
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The 12WBT is great. Good on you for signing up! I am going to give the first round a miss this year as I’m starting uni, and I don’t know how I’ll be going money wise for a while. But I’m still pretty much following the plan from the last round with my food choices and activity.
As to your uni question – If it’s something that interests you, who says you’re not going to put it to good use?
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