I was afraid that men wouldn’t find me attractive with short hair, so I’ve always had long hair.
But more than having long hair, I had hair which, by our society’s beauty standards, was “beautiful” – long, silky, and straight.
I had people, even complete strangers, compliment me on my locks. Some people would even tell me how beautiful I was just because of it.
I would nod, smile, and say thank you. That’s what we’re taught to do when people pay us a compliment, isn’t it?
But inside, I had a secret. I wanted to cut my hair. And not just a little. I wanted a pixie cut. When I expressed this to people, they urged me not to go through with it.
“It would look so ugly.” “Why would you do that? You’re so beautiful.” “Such a beautiful girl like you, cutting her hair? Why?”
But in spite of everyone’s opinions, I cut off fifteen inches of hair last year, gifting myself the pixie haircut I always dreamed of. And I loved it. Cutting my hair was one of the best feelings in the world.
But it also got me thinking: I was always physically free to cut my hair, so why did it take me so long to do it? The truth was: I didn’t feel free. I felt like a prisoner to my hair. There was something much greater that was holding me back from cutting my hair – society.
What Society (and Media) Teaches Us about Hair
Whether it’s body shape, skin color or clothing choices, society has laid out a very clear and stringent rulebook regarding what beauty looks like for females.
And this rulebook of beauty ideals is shared with us at a very young age. After all, shouldn’t little girls learn first and foremost that they are prized for their beauty above all else? And the same goes for hair.
Top Comments
i love long hair
Sorry but what does a lesbian look like??? No-one really cares if you've got long or short hair - usually you're still the same person wouldn't you say?!
My niece shaved her head in support of her best friend who was going through chemotherapy (her best friend passed away which was devastating) - she looked/s beautiful with her shaved, short and now long hair - you don't know until you try it!