Nigella Lawson and husband Charles Saatchi and inset, her father Nigel Lawson
Whether you have a good or a bad relationship with your dad, the idea that you would be with someone just like him is a little…….something. Odd? Confronting? Squirmy?
I have an excellent father and I can see in many ways my husband does resemble him (not physically). In other ways, they couldn’t be more different. According to a story on CNN, it’s very normal to choose a partner who reminds you of one of your parents…..
Berkeley, California, psychotherapist Elayne Savage says familiarity is a big reason people may choose someone like Mom or Dad as a partner.
“When you grow up familiar with a certain type of person, you’re attracted to that same type of person because it feels
comfortable, whether you like it or not,” says Savage. “That’s what peoplemean when they meet a potential partner and say, ‘It ‘feels like I’ve known him my whole life.'”
Angelina and Brad and inset, father John Voight
Another study shows that there’s a direct link between the quality of your relationship with you father and how much your future partner looks like him.….
Researcher Dr Lynda Boothroyd said: “These results show for
certain that the quality of a daughter’s relationship with her
father has an impact on who she finds attractive.
“It shows our brains don’t simply build prototypes of the ideal
face based on those we see around us, rather we build them based on
those to whom we have a strongly positive relationship.
“We can now say that daughters who have very positive childhood
relationships with their fathers choose men with similar facial
characteristics to their father.”
Dr Boothroyd, a Durham University psychologist, asked a group of
women about the type of men they found attractive.
The 49 young women were asked to rate a series of photos of men
in terms of attractiveness.
They were also asked how close they were to their fathers, with
questions including how involved their father had been in their
upbringing and how much he had been away from home when they were
growing up.
Lily Allen with her dad and inset, a boyfriend
The researchers also analysed pictures of the women’s fathers,
making measurements of key facial characteristics such as size of
nose, prominence of cheekbones and distance between eyes.
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I just love that "Nigella" is the female version of "Nigel"
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