It’s the Biggest Day ever for this little dog.
by NITA GREEN
“It’s the most important day of your life“.
In the lead up to my wedding day I have heard this phrase thrown around many times. Yes, getting married is a big deal.
But it’s not the biggest, is it? I haven’t been married yet, and maybe after THE BIG DAY my opinion will change but I’m pretty convinced there have been and will be more significant days in my life.
So I made a list…
1. The day I got my HSC results and I realised, “Hey maybe I am smart, my Mum was totally on the money”. I also figured out that hard work really does pay off and if I put my mind to something I really can achieve it.
It was a defining moment for me and it changed the way I saw myself and my ability to achieve really difficult, lofty goals. There is nothing more powerful than self belief and even though it comes and goes it’s good to know that it’s there – lurking down below – ready to be relied on in moments of self-doubt.
2. The day my University Soccer team won against Sydney Uni at the Perth AUG’s. Greatest victory ever! Made even more spectacular because we had lost our coach to a pre-tournament accident and we lost one of our major playmakers the day before to an on field head-clash AND it was against our arch rivals those snooty Sydney Uni girls. (They were probably really nice girls we just made out as if they were horrible, I think it made it more fun.)
Everyone came together and played out of their skin. As a team it was a great achievement and being able to do it with some of my best friends was even better. Individually, losing a player so late also meant that I had to play a whole game which I hadn’t done all tournament. I had never run so hard in my life, and it showed. But I never wanted to win something so bad before. I played my part and as a team we bloody smashed em! Ok so it wasn’t the Olympics, but on that day we were the champs! And we celebrated like it too. I would, if I could, relive that day over and over again.
3. The day after the day my Dad died. All the arrangements had been made and all the things I needed to do were done so I locked myself away in my childhood bedroom and cried. Silently, by myself, constant and hard.
I let the pain finally overcome me and I let it all out. Then I got out a piece of paper and wrote his eulogy. It was perfect, precisely what I wanted to say, exactly how he should have been remembered and the words that everyone wanted to say but couldn’t. Raw, wistful and honest.
It’s the most beautiful thing I have ever written but I will never read it again. I have left that moment behind. You are never the same person again after you have lost someone who was such a big part of making you who you are, especially if like me you haven’t experienced anything like that before. You learn something horrible and painful about life in an instant, but you also learn so much about love. That it is all forgiving and goes on forever.
4. The day my best friend and I sat in a restaurant at lunch in front of a glass of wine after another of my failed relationships to a massive douche bag and I realised that a) she had been right all along b) I was worth more. I swiftly let the panic of the break-up leave my body and I was filled with relief, relaxation and actual joy that I had dodged that bullet.
I express posted him his stuff and expressly got on with my life. The wine went down a lot better after that and I never looked back. It was a turning point and I am so thankful I had someone there to guide me through it. It was just what I needed to be able to be in a place, emotionally and physically, to meet my future husband. Speaking of which…
Nita with her fiance
5. The day I met my fiance Jonathan, my life changed forever. Even if we never got married, meeting your “soul mate” (I hate that word) and falling instantly in love is a pretty huge day by all accounts. It’s life changing in so many ways.
You know you’ll never be alone again and yet you feel this deep sense of responsibility to another person. It’s a very exciting time and you feel slightly embarrassed because all that love stuff that you had garbaged for ages was actually legitimate and totally worth the wait.
There are so many more……..
- the first day I read Shakespeare,
- my 21st Birthday which I spent in the Louvre,
- the first day I landed in an overseas country (Vietnam for the record) and I became so small in a very big world
…..and probably some days I didn’t know were important at the time, but in the future I’ll look back and realise how deeply significant they were.
Will my wedding be the most important day of my life? I think it will be one of the most important, definitely the most expensive (until I buy a house), and one of those days I wish had lasted just a little longer and wish I could return to for just a little while.
But this notion that your wedding day is the sole defining moment of a life, full of ups, downs, achievements and set-backs, is pretty far-fetched. I haven’t had children yet but I imagine that’s up there, and I haven’t had my greatest achievements yet – hopefully they are still to come.
This post was originally published on Nita’s blog http://bridalanxiety.com/
Nita Green is a writer, blogger, law student and bride-to-be. She writes an anti-bridal blog about what it is really like to be a bride on the edge http://bridalanxiety.com/ You can see if she makes it down the aisle by following @bridalanxiety
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Wow… All these stories are amazing, but you fighting for your daughter is the best. You are a hero!
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I’ve had to stop myself from crying about five times already reading this and everyone’s response. My life altering days are
My dads funeral after a battle with cancer, I’ve never been so sure in all my life that my legs were going to fail me as I got up to read my eulogy. I think of that day in particular as I’ve never felt so proud and in love with my day as I did at that moment
When I left my husband and moved back home, such a relief and a sense of new beginnings which was both scary and exciting!
The day I met my daughter, she was just perfect and I had no idea how we made such a beautiful baby
My first city job in an office at 17. Was completely life changing, I can almost pin point exactly the moment my life changed paths and it was so exciting!
Day to come, wedding to my fiancé and father of my daughter to happen later this year. I can feel a life changing day coming
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I’ve had big days sure, but I can’t think of any that were that big.That’s actually a bit depressing, that I’m 24 and don’t think I’ve had that many big days! All I can really think about is music festivals and travelling, when I think of the most exciting things that have happened to me.
I’d probably single these out:
- I think the day my ex-boyfriend told me he was breaking up with me and I had to move out of his house and leave our dog behind was a big day. A big horrible day, knowing that he meant it and wouldn’t change his mind and that things would never be the same again.
- the day I graduated from Uni (four days after the above day…) was a massive day and I knew it in my heart that it was a big day. But it was non-eventful. I was alone, we didn’t have any formal farewell, and I felt really strange about it all. But I still knew within myself it was a huge day.
- Arriving at Machu Picchu after hiking the Inca Trail for four days. Words cannot describe it.
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Oh my, i am crying at almost all of these! Just beautiful x
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A couple of days-moments that were very important and life changing.
The day I told my ex to move out.
The day I met Mr right, and the moment I walked into the church to marry him.
Hearing our sons cry for the first time at birth
My dad telling me my sister has an inoperable brain tumor.
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I sit reading your comments, in tears. So emotionally moving, it is lovely of you to have shared your stories. Reading them makes me realise my best friend may be a lawyer soon, but she will never stop being a writer.
One of the happiest moments in my life was when Jonathan called me to say he was proposing to Nita.
Love to u both – cant wait to share the big day with you!! xoxo
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We focused on ‘a great wedding doesn’t mean a great marriage’ and it wasn’t the most important day. Mine are:
1. The day I had lap banding surgery, it saved my life and have me the tool to become healthy and the confidence to leave an unhealthy relationship.
2. The moment I apologise to my parents for all I had put them through as a teenager, I was a nightmare who eventually moved to an isolated sheep station to get my crap together
3. Getting into uni after moving home, my darling dad cried when I told him.
4. The day I realised I had met the man I would marry, we had been dating for a month, I desperately missed my bestie who lived interstate but as a broke uni student couldn’t afford to go on my own. He told me he would come with me so I could see her and he could meet her. On the way an ABBA song played, he was singing along and I looked over and thought, this man is my person.
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“This man is my person”. That just made me cry! Good luck to you both. xxxx
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I am with you there Kylie L, it made me a little teary too!
There has been many occassions where I have looked over at my partner and thought the same thing, just couldn’t find the right words to express what I felt. Now I have
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I find trying to pin down the biggest day of my life somewhat like naming my favourite book, or film etc. I can’t do it and no one else can it seems. Instead, we have significant days, or events that can change our lives.
My big days have been.
1. Finding out I was pregnant with my first child. It was a wake up call to get my act together and led to mny other positive changes.
2. Getting into uni the first time. I finally felt like I was achieving something.
3. Leaving my ex. It felt like I’d been let out of prison.
4. My hubby (then bf) moving up to Qld 3 months after I did. I realised then that he was actually serious about the relationship.
5. The birth of our daughter together. She brought closure to the years of misery we’d had trying to have a baby.
6. The fire we had that gutted our house. It took years to really get over it, but we made some good friends and got a lovely new house out of it.
7. Finding out about my brain tumour. It put everything into perspective and made me determined to be there to finish raising my kids.
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The day I realised everything would be Ok.
I will have heartache and pain and people will leave me. I will also have joy and wonder and magic surrounding me. And I will get through it, all of it and I will be ok because I have me. I will always have me and I am my best friend.
I remember learning this lesson profoundly. It wasn’t a moment in time, there was no catalyst. I just got stronger and more confident and I realised one day, all we really need is ourselves. The pain and heartache will come but this too shall pass.
That’s not to say I don’t love people, I honestly have more friends than most and my friends and family are 2 of the most important things in my world but no matter what it will be ok.
I saw a movie recently and it had this line in it. Made me smile….
Ëverything will be alright in the end. And if it’s not alright, it’s not the end”.
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The day my daughter was born
The day my son was born
Meeting my 2 Nd husband our first date was magical and life changing
The day my daugher told me she had been sexually abused by her father, I stood strong and vowed too never let him see her again I won
The day I was given sole custody of my daughter
The day my best friend got married
Seeing my grandma the day before she died
Reading the eulOgy on behalf of all her grandchildren
Everyone one of these changed my life for certain reasons so all very important
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Such a great story Nita & I couldn’t help but red through every single reply. It’s amazing to hear people’s defining moments & I agree! They are moments not just one big moment.
My No. 1. Is the cliche – the day my daughter was born but not just for the obvious reasons of the immense love that I never knew I was capable of & meeting my precious one that I had created with her father but the main reason it was a huge moment/day for me was that in an instant my view of & feelings for my Mum, who was holding my hand the whole way through, changed immensely! It was like I saw the world completely differently. My mum was only 17 when I was born & she fought against her very strict catholic family to keep me but growing up, I questioned whether she really loved me but in that moment of giving birth, it came crashing down on my heart, my Mum really loved me! All along, she loved me like I love this baby girl in my arms. It changed my life & my mum & I actually have a really close relationship now & I’m so grateful!
2. The day my cousin died, in his early twenties & he was more like a brother as we all grew up together in a small country town. It was the 1st big loss of a family member for me, it was sudden, he was healthy before & it was a wake-up call to my whole family as to how fleeting time is, how precious are the people you love and how important it is to tell them.
3. The day I decided to separate from my daughters father, I still say was one of the best decisions of my life. As I tell my daughter, who is now 12yrs old, it is better to have two separate but happy parents then together but miserable parents.
4. This position is vacant for when/if I ever do fall in love & marry
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I love your life experiences. I have had many, but the days my children were born are way and above any other fantastic experience.
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Biggest day was the day we had to withdraw care on our premmie baby in ICU – she had been there for five months. Second biggest day was carrying her coffin into the chapel and speaking at her funeral.
Hopefully nothing ever comes close to these two days.
The births of our other girls have also been ‘big’ days – but not so life-changing, and perspective changing. It’s all relative I suppose!
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I am so so sorry for your loss.
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What a BEAUTIFUL article!
Mine are:
- the day I was diagnosed with epilepsy (i was 16)
- the day I graduated university
- the day I lost Nonno and my best friend on the same day; and had to speak at both funerals.
- the first time I travelled overseas by myself (at age 18, to America)
- the day I met the man I want to live the rest of my life with
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1- the day I graduated high school – the security blanket of school that had been all i had known for the past 12 years was over, and i was on my own!
2- the day i got a job in mining. with no experience in the sector, and entering a team of 40 people (all males) when i was the only female, and only 20 years old at the time. i bit off a little more then i could chew, but i worked as hard as i knew how to, and 2 years later it amazes me how far i have come, and how far the company has helped me achieve.
3 – the day i met the love of my life. until that day, i had never felt anything like it, and he still gives me butterflies. i love him so much it almost scares me.
i am looking forward to the day we get married and have children, seeing him being a father is something i can not wait to be a part of.
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* Day 1 Term 3 of year 9: when I overcame the shyness for the first time and asked someone how their holiday was. Never looked back.
* The night before my twins were born. I stood in the kitchen looking at this clean spotless house and realised that life was never going to be the same.
* The day I realised that my husband of 10 years had aspergers. It was life changing. He may not realise it, but I do, and it has made the biggest positive impact on our lives.
* The day I realised I had depression: it was the first day of getting better.
* The day that I realised that I could dream again about what I wanted to do for me – post all the above: this is fairly recent. It is an amazing feeling to realise that I can have choices beyond the daily family grind.
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HSC results- were a big one- they defined my career today and opened up my world.
Driving to Bendigo from the Ferry from Tasmania for my first job- at 21 I felt so grown up and excited. My weeks there would be the best in my life- first love, first job, first car accident.
Arriving in England- my first overseas trip and my excitement and joy and feeling of being my own person- not the person I was expected to be was heady and exciting.
My first big break up- It was actually much worse then my mum’s death. I nearly committed suicide I was so distraught- took me 18 months to get over the debilitating depression and loneliness. I wanted to go home to my family but felt committed to work and the responsibility and loss was crushing me.
My babies arriving- life changing and more wonderful then I can explain.
My mum passing away- heart breaking but also beautiful as it brought my fractured family all together by her bed side and many ghosts were laid to rest with her and much forgiveness and warmth spread.
Selling the family farm in Tasmania after mum died( serious nightmare as we rented it to a crazy cat lady/ hoarder- no words for the destruction) I flew down with my 3 week and 18 month old baby to help dad clean it up.
It was lovely to be living at my family home again and to say goodbye. Loved being the kid again to my dad.
daughter starting school and seeming happy/ normal. Must have done something right.
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It was the day I gave my husband a second chance. He had left me for another woman when we had a 6 month old child. It was all part of him growing up and, in the presence of his genuine remorse, I felt strong enough to give him and our family a second chance. 8 years and another child later, this was clearly the biggest day of my life, much more important than our wedding day.
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The day I knew that the man standing beside me holding my hand was going to be doing that for the rest of our lives.
The day I found out I was pregnant for the first time. And then the day I found out that I’d lost that baby. It was the day I realized that all those plans I’d made we’re out of my control. And that all I really wanted in life was to be a mother, and make my partner a father.
The day my mum died. I was a teenager and only saw life in black and white. And now my life has shades of grey and I miss her more than I could ever imagine.
The day I stood in front of my loved ones and told my partner that ‘for today, and all if my tomorrow’s, I choose you.’ And then I became a wife and he became a husband.
And finally, the day I saw my husband hold our son for the first time. I saw such love and emotion in his eyes, and I knew his life had changed forever. We fell in love all over again, and started our own little family. Heaven…
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- Wedding day – not every day you get to stand up with everyone you love, or have it official that you get to spend the rest of your life with your best friend
- Being woken up at 1am to the news my mum’s best friend had taken his own life, 3 months after his wife had died
- week 1 of being a teacher and being assaulted by a student (rock to the head), and saying to myself “he won’t win – I may not come back tomorrow but I’m finishing the day, even with a probable concussion”. Quit that job soon after, but found a better one within a week.
- getting the results of my first HSC class
- going to Europe for the first time – first dinner in Rome and realising I was really and truly on the other side of the world
- waking up from an induced coma after nearly dying from an misdiagnoses stomach ulcer (doctor diagnosed a chest infection, prescribed Nurofen Plus. Ulcer + Ibruprofen = internal bleeding so bad there was about three minutes in it – doctors say any longer i probably would have died) which led to an artery in my stomach literally bursting. It’s been almost 3 years to the day (the anniversary is next week) and I really try to cherish every moment and try to live my life as best I can. And if I can throw out a thankyou to the amazing individuals who work as nurses who are so compassionate and wonderful – which you really realise after three months in hospital, seeing how tirelessly they work every day.
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- Getting an OP3 and entry straight into a law degree, finding out with my father there with me, while he was being treated for cancer
- the day I realised that my father was dead and we would have had a great relationship with me as an adult not an angsty teen
- changing my facebook status to “in a relationship” 4.5 years ago and still going strong
- graduating from university
- my admission as a solicitor
- the day I realised that I didn’t want to be a solicitor anymore
- the day I realised I wanted to become a librarian!
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Why is it that most lawyers don’t want to be a lawyer anymore? I think my day will be the day I finally do something about that statement
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These are all such beautiful (some heart-breaking) posts.
Days that stand out to me:
1. The day mum told us she and our dad were divorcing. We ran outside and jumped on the trampoline, screaming and laughing in celebration to finally be free from his abuse. I still remember my mum’s face and it was a look of joy and exhaustion. I’m so proud of her.
2. When I received my year 12 results back in 06. I was gobsmacked and honestly thought there had been a mistake. I remember sitting on the front porch in shock and going through the uni guide, amazed that I could complete Astrophysics at Melbourne (haha as if.. I’m now a social worker!)
3. Landing in the airport of my first time overseas on my own. surprised at how not scared I was, and high on adrenalin.
4. Recently, putting down ‘our’ dog Jessie (my sister & her husbands but I live with them and Jessie would sleep on my bed). All four housemates gathered in a small, green room crying and saying goodbye to our little friend. As the vet went to administer the injection Jessie lifted her paw to ‘shake’. She was a sweet loving dog and it was powerful witnessing that.
Thank you all for sharing your important life moments. X
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Amazing. God bless our little animal friends. They give us so much joy and ask for so little.
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Wahhhhhhh.
RIP Jesse. How can you not love dogs? Friendly and open to thevery end.
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Apart from the obvious wedding day and birth of my son, two days stand out to me.
One – the day I decided that I wasn’t happy enough in my current job and enrolled in Uni to do something I love. Still at that job, but still doing Uni and loving that there is a glittering light at the end.
Two – the day my husband graduated Police College and began his dream career. I have never been so proud, so happy in my life.
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the day im looking forward, i have to admitt is finding the one i love!!!
plus my fav day was prob when i was born!!!
lols dont fight life LIVE IT!!!
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If you’re anything like me that day might have already happened!
I had known my guy for years and we had been nothing more than friends before one day it literally hit me like a tone of bricks that I was butt crazy, head over heels in love with him. Luckily for me, turns out he felt the same.
Most important day of MY life so far.
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I’m looking forward to the day when the man I love tells me he loves me and wants to spend his life with me. I haven’t met him yet.
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One of the biggest days of my life would have to be my 18th birthday. My boyfriend, who I’d only been with for 2 weeks, took me out to a beautiful restaurant, then on gondola boat ride on Noosa river where we drank champagne and he gave me a gorgeous necklace
We’ve now been married for 8 years and have a precious 3.5 year old daughter – those days were pretty big too……….
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Sitting on a bench eating at a school fair with my Aunt (I was early teens she was early twenties) when an older gent came up and asked if he could sit down. She welcomed him with such kindness and grace it’s always stuck with me that’s how we should treat people.
Punching the girl who bullied me incessantly for 3 years and finally standing up for myself (this was in the mid 80′s – I wouldn’t recommend that action now!!)
Finishing Army recruit school. It was so very very hard and I think everyone I knew was shocked that I (a quiet, shy, bookish introvert) firstly chose a career in the military and then actually did well.
Passing a uni entrance exam – and realising I actually had brains.
Kissing a girl for the first time (great experience)
Telling my parents I was gay (bad experience)
Meeting my now 13 year old stepdaughter when she was 18 months old. I loved her instantly the moment she smiled at me.
The moment I realised that my ex-partner had financially ruined me.
The first date with my partner. She made my heart flutter (and still does).
The day I landed in New York city after years of planning and saving.
Finishing my Masters Degree in Astronomy.
Lastly I’m fairly sure that if the laws of this country allowed me to marry my partner then that day would be right up there with the rest of the moments that changed my life.
I’m sure there are plenty more to come
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Yay for punching the bully!
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Yay for marriage equality. Can’t believe this is even a debate in 2012!
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All of these posts are so beautiful!
There’s never just one big day of our lives – as they say it’s the journey….
“The good old days weren’t always good, and tomorrow ain’t as bad as it seems”
Billy Joel
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It’s not the only big day but it can be up there, along side the birth of my two cheeky toddlers. When I got married at 24 it was a big day, we hadn’t lived together and we hadn’t had sex, so yes it was a pretty big day.
In front of friends and family promising to love and protect one another -forever- A great party afterward with all our family and friends. And then spending the night alone with my beloved. It was a wonderful, perfect day. The kind of day that the ‘biggest day of your life’ saying was made for.
Now, 10 years on we are living our (mostly) happily ever after. ❤
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1. Moving from a small country town to Melbourne on my own and driving down Beach Road to go rollerbalding and listening to tunes on the radio was such a highlight of independence and achievement!
2. Realising 2 days into my once-in-a-fifetime overseas holiday that I wasn’t going to spend the entire time dreading my return date back to work, and decided there and then that I was so unhappy at work that I would quit when I returned.
I enjoyed the rest of my time immensely! Such a weight off my shoulders.
When I returned, within a week I had a secured a new role in another department and have never been happier, and that was 3 years ago.
3. Ever heard the expression ‘bite off more than you chew and chew like crazy’?
Well I did when I bought a house on my own! With my mum as a guarantor, I was so determined to keep afloat, and worked and saved like crazy.
A few years, and a couple of promotions later, I could actually relax knowing I wasn’t living on the poverty line anymore.
Such a huge feeling of relief and achievement.
4. My wedding day was amazing, and a wonderful experience that I will treasure forever.
5. Not necessarily the day my first baby was born, but over the last year and a half, the gradual build up of love over the many days has been absolutely beautiful.
The subtle sense of achievement as they reach every milestone and the love you share along the way is heart warming
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These comments are all just stunning. I wanted to cry reading just about every single one.
I don’t feel like I’ve had a biggest day yet. There have been significant days, and insignificant days, and days I loved and days I hated, and days that could have gone on for years and I wouldn’t have minded. But not one stands out for me specifically.
I’ll have to bookmark this and come back in 10 years, maybe
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The biggest day of my life was when my husband died suddenly last year. I’ll never get over it….I had been with him for 26 yrs since I was 18 & have never been on my own before….
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Im so sorry. I can feel the heartache in your words.
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I’m so sorry to hear. I hope it gets easier for you x
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I’ve had many defining days, some filled with the most incredible joy (birth of my daughter) and some with devastation (death of my dad), some with courage (leaving my cheating first husband) and some with pride (receiving top HSC results).
But my weddings (both of them) were both incredibly special, amazing days. Truly rare opportunities to feel so beautiful, so loved and to feel so much love for your partner, your family and friends. Of course it’s not about all the trappings, the flowers, the cake etc, but they do contribute to the celebration – music, flowers, candles, yummy food – so wonderful for everyone to get together and enjoy it all.
So Nita, yes there will be many more wonderful days to come, but your wedding will still be right up there, I’m sure!
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The days my babies were born were the best 2 days of my life as corny and chliched as this may sound!
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This reminded me of part of that wonderful ‘Sunscreen Song’:
“The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 pm on some idle Tuesday.”
A lot of things that have momentous consequences for our life are a little bit mundane, or happen at a mundane time, or just don’t feel big at the time… but they can still mean a lot later.
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Every day is the most important day of my life.
Why?
I’m alive, I’m in love and I choose to be happy.
Don’t get me wrong, I still have the tough stuff to deal with but so does everyone else. If you should decide that your wedding day will not be the most important day of your life, then so shall it be. It’s up to you.
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I haven’t written a book, earned a degree or buried a parent. I have held the hand of my best friend while they turned off the life support on her nine year old son so I’ve had some big days. But for me, my wedding day 15 years ago was super special and I love to look through the album.
The person who I love most in the world stood in front of all our family and friends and vowed to love me for the rest of our lives and I vowed the same.
Our parents and our friends honoured us with beautiful speeches and words and we were able to both respond with speeches thanking those who had guided and supported us in our own growth and in our relationship. These words can be said privately but sometimes it is nice to publicly declare these sentiments. Certainly it is the only time I can remember being honoured with so many loving speeches (and the odd hilarious one).
I am a jeans and t-shirt kind of girl and love my casual ‘style’ but yeah, I revelled in being a princess for a day. A lovely neighbour gave me advice to spend a short time by myself in front of the mirror before the church and really appreciate how beautiful I was. I did and am thankful I did rather than the wedding photos being the first time I saw myself in my make up and gown.
Our wedding was not super expensive but we had a friends’ band play, there was wonderful food, good wine and lots of dancing. We had a ball.
And we were an old fashioned couple who didn’t move in together before our wedding (despite being together for 5 years) so from the wedding day on, we have lived (mostly happily!) together.
But the wedding day was such a beautiful celebration of our relationship, our families and friends’ love and support, and us making a decision to live our lives together forever. Pretty much the happiest day of my life. I love that I’m a strong independant woman, who also celebrates the day I became a wife and partner to a wonderful man. I guess when I hear someone else is taking the ‘big step’ I like to acknowledge what a wonderful event your wedding can be – in the hope that the bride especially will enjoy it and have beautiful memories rather than become a stressed our bridezilla. It’s not at all to take away from other significant events in your life.
Enjoy your day and take a look in the mirror and appreciate the woman you are, and the courage it takes to step up and make a vow. You’ll still have your own identity for sure, but you also get to be someone’s partner for better or for worse, and that’s pretty great also.
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1. The day my dad died. I was 22 and that was the end of my blissful innocent life
2. The day i met my husband. I fell in love so quick
3. My wedding day. it was the most beautiful and pure day
4. The day i found out the my pregnancy had failed. my husband and i were distraught and it was the first day of my depression
5. Monday last week when my depression finally lifted and for the first time in a year i felt like the dark cloud had lifted
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I agree that it is not the only important day of your life but also I agree it is one of the ‘biggest’ days of your life. It is rare that you have a day where you (and to a lesser extent I find- your husband to be) are the absolute centre of attention from the start of the day to the end of the day. I do love your list of your important day.
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The day I finally left my physically abusive boyfriend and moved to the UK by myself was probably the biggest day of my life. I was so scared and cried the whole way there, thinking at the time it was a huge mistake and I’d never find love again. Looking back at it now it was such a brave thing and probably saved my life, oh and I found someone so much better.
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Great comment. Well done!
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Beautiful post, Nita. You are so right. It’s not one day, otherwise what is life all about? It’s a journey with many significant moments along the way. You’ve struck a chord with many people with this post.
I have many significant moments, not all were happy, but they have marked the journey of my life and changed me.
Some of them are things that should never have happened to anyone, others were choices I made and some were unexpected. But all the moments add up to a life.
Getting married was significant on the day but the journey since then with my partner and children have been more significant. A wedding day perhaps marks the beginning of a new season but if that’s all you’ve got it’s pretty empty.
When I published my first book I thought that was the best day ever. But I’ve got lots more in me.
I think, the best is yet to be. (Robert Browning)
We do not remember days,
we remember moments.
Cesare Pavese
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the happiest day of my life was my wedding day – even though we’d been together for 10 years, there was something amazing about celebrating our relationship with all our family and friends – loved every second!
and the most life-changing/happy/important day? one year and 2 days after our 1st wedding anniversary – our son was born!
there have of course been so many more significant moments – but cliché or not, they certainly stand out the most
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A beautiful post. I think the days we think will be the biggest such as leaving home, getting married, having babies are not necessarily the most important. Those significant milestones we plan, anticipate, and relish in, and they definitely do impact us. However the most important days are the ones we never expected. For me there are many but:
1. Making the decision to move interstate with my fiance (now husband). I knew no-one and didn’t have a job. It was life changing, but I cried and cried when we drove out of Brisbane.
2. Finding out I had received first class honours for my thesis. I never expected to do so well and I felt such a sense of pride.
3. The day we left for our first overseas trip to europe. I was so anxious and excited.
4. Our first failed IVF cycle. This was devastating, and made me change my entire perspective on life.
5. The day we found out we were pregnant with our daughter after 6 IVF attempts. Hubby and I stood together, held each other, and cried.
6. A few days after I was diagnosed with a brain tumour. We were siting outside, with a glass of wine, watching the sun set against the trees turning them that beautiful golden colour. The kids were playing happily. I realised then that this stupid tumour wasn’t going to beat me, and take away what we had fought for for so long. And so far it hasn’t!
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Those are some beautiful and touching moments.
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I’ve had a lot of ‘big’ days. But there are two that stand above all others.
The first big day was the first time I held my eldest niece. It was just the two of us alone in a room, standing by an open window with a gentle breeze for respite against a summer heatwave. She was restless in her sleep, and then, for the first time, she opened her eyes and saw me for the first time. We just stared at each other for what seemed an eternity. My heart was so overwhelmed with love and light. I’ll never forget that moment. She’s now 14 and a beautiful young woman who I’m so proud of.
My other ‘big moment was for a love that changed my life forever.
Up until THE moment, I had been trying to escape myself. I’d always known that I was gay, but refused to acknowledge it; burying it deep within, trying to ignore it so I could have a ‘normal’ life.
That was until one evening at a party, when I saw the most beautiful woman I’d ever seen. She was a ‘friend of a friend’, and we’ve never met. I don’t even know if she ever knew me, or knows of me. But if I could meet her today, or if she could read this, to her I would say ‘thank-you’ for changing my world. She might not have ‘done’ anything, but her presence at that moment, changed the course of my life forever, and I’m so grateful.
When I saw her, I had to force myself to look away. But I could only do so for a few minutes, and when I looked back she was looking at me, and our eyes locked for what felt like an eternity (in reality, a few minutes). I fell in love with her instantly. I can’t say why exactly, looking back. It wasn’t just ‘looks’, it was something else. Something far greater.
But it’s because of this moment, that I realised that there was no denying that I was gay, and that I couldn’t hide from myself any longer. And because of this moment, that I decided to hell with society, and to live life for me; to be honest with myself, and those closest around me. I often wonder, had I not had this moment in life, what path i would’ve taken. I guess I’ll never know – though I’m sure eventually I would’ve exited that awful closet. But when? I could’ve gotten married, perhaps… but it’s speculative.
So, to you, the woman who stole my heart that night, and whom I’ll never forget, I say thank you. You’ll always own a piece of my heart that no-one could ever replace.
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Oh Oceans. What a beautiful comment. Thank you for writing it. xx
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You’re welcome, glad you liked it
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oh all these comments are just making me cry!
For me, the biggest day of my life is different than the most important. The biggest was 9.5 years ago getting the call that my 17 year old sister had taken her life. So unexpected, so life changing in an insistent that my 22 year old, self centered life disappeared forever.
I would give the world to have her here but wow I appreciate every single day and the people in it a lot more everyday since.
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Oh Liz now your comment’s making me cry. So sorry for your loss X
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A cliche but the days my babies were born. Looking into their eyes staring at me with such trust, nothing could ever be the same again.
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I don’t think that’s cliche at all Kerr. Great answer!
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I am only 21, so I haven’t yet had a lot of these ‘big days’ yet, but some of my most memorable days have been;
- Sitting on an armchair at my dads and opening a letter of invitation to study law at my university of choice, having been scared that I had missed out by a quarter of a mark. 5 years later I am about to finish my degree and am so happy and lucky to be studying my passion and about to start my career
- When my last boyfriend rang me and said ‘I cheated on you and you’ve got chlamydia now’, and I said ‘Thanks for letting me know, I’ll seeya later.’ I hung up and decided then and there that there would NEVER again be room in my life for someone who didn’t treat me with respect. Probably the best decision I have ever made.
- Chirstmas Eve 2011. My first christmas out of home, it was just me, a red poinsettia and some tinsel on my mantlepiece. I sat on the floor wrapping presents with a cup of tea and never before had felt so independent and content!
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I had my first baby before I got married and although yeah the wedding was a big important day in my life, it had nothing on the birth of our first son!!! We have since had another baby and I also think that was probably a bigger day than our wedding because although standing in front of everyone that means something to you and declaring your love for someone who means everything to you, there is nothing more significant, special and life changing than bringing a new life into the world! That’s just my opinion anyway
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Each of the three times I gave birth. That was huge, to be able to meet these people my partner and I made
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- the day I finally hit rock bottom and started climbing out of the clinical depression that had probably (and unknowingly to me) been dogging my life for years
- the day I was raped when I was a teenager- a bit strange I know but it brought out a strength in me that I never knew existed and an ability to face anything that comes my way now
- the day I met my lifelong friend Janie
- the day a group of us camped overnight on the streets at Wimbledon and got tickets to Centre Court
- the day I brought home my gorgeous puppy Toby who makes my day everyday!
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