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tall men tip toes The long and the short of it: tall men are sexier.

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There’s a reason ‘tall, dark and handsome’ became the cliche.

That’s because tall men are virile, broad shouldered and capable of hunting a woolly mammoth with a greater degree of accuracy, efficiency and success than, say, Danny de Vito. Or at least that’s how things used to be. Women, it turns out, are still searching for that hint of the ‘provider’. That means a taller man.

It’s an evolutionary hang-up. Of course a tall man today might better apply his genetic gifts to reaching high into the pantry to retrieve a seldom-used can of kidney beans than actual hunting, but there is something irresistibly attractive about it nonetheless.

Or at least, so says science.

Here’s what we know.

Tall men are more likely to get laid (and thus have children).

Men are more attracted to shorter than average women.

A survey of the top 500 CEOs in America a few years ago found they were, on average, three inches (7.6cm) taller than the average American man. Almost a third of them were taller than just three per cent of all Americans.

As a man, being tall is as desirable as having nice pants. Or dress shoes. Or the other accoutrements of success.

This phenomenon is not new. Well, it couldn’t be, because it dates back to the dawn of humanity. But it’s been spoken about before. In 1995, the Economist wrote a pithy summary of the division between those who are towering and those who wish to be:

“Height discrimination begins from the moment male human beings become vertical. Give 100 mothers photographs of two 19-month-old boys who resemble each other closely, except that one is made to look taller than the other. Then ask the mothers which boy is more competent and able. The mothers consistently pick the “taller” one. As boys grow, the importance of height is drummed into them incessantly. “My, how tall you are!” the relatives squeal with approval. Or, with scorn, “Don’t you want to grow up big and strong?”

Height hierarchies are established early, and persist for a long time. Tall boys are deferred to and seen as mature, short ones ridiculed and seen as childlike. Tall men are seen as natural “leaders”; short ones are called “pushy”. “If a short man is normally assertive, then he’s seen as having Napoleonic tendencies,” says David Weeks, a clinical psychologist at Royal Edinburgh Hospital. “If he is introverted and mildly submissive, then he’s seen as a wimp.”

mr tall The long and the short of it: tall men are sexier.

Sexy?

And though the ‘Napoleon Complex’ may have originated from a misnomer (Napoleon was actually quite average in height for his time, but surrounded by very tall soldiers) we still easily assume that short men are ‘compensating for something’ if they are driving an overly nice car or living in a mansion with more rooms than America has states.

It’s almost like they know they have to work harder at being eligible, right? Why are some men ‘looked up to’ and others not? Height. Literally. That’s where the phrase came from.

So, are you in search of a man with some, ahem, extra centimetres? Do you notice, or even care whether he’s short or tall? What about the guys out there … is height a benchmark for success?

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  1. John

    I’m not going to argue with science…

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  2. Gnat

    I used to have the mantra that ‘I’m just not attracted to short men’. Every single boyfriend I ever had and even my first husband were all well over 6 feet. Then I laid eyes on my now husband and fell instantly in lust and he is short! I think about 5 foot 4 inches. He is the sexiest guy I have ever met. He actually loves being short. He works in youth services and gives lectures in prisons and believes it is an advantage as he appears non threatening to physically big burly males. The funny thing is that all these males end up looking up (pardon the pun) to him. I think it’s just because he is incredibly secure and in no way feels inadequate because of his physical stature. It probably helps that he is very good looking (tad bias here). I’m quite short myself, but many of his girlfriends before me were actually taller than him. It didn’t bother any of them it seems. I suppose what I’m trying to say is that someone who is happy within themselves ultimately comes across as attractive, more so than any particular height.

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  3. Claudia

    Not sure what the average height for women is (I think I’m about it), but I’ve only ever gone out with tall men, and my husband is tall.

    It’s not really been a conscious decision but there’s no doubt I do find taller men attractive…that’s not to say shorter men can’t be attractive too of course!

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  4. Average height of the Australian male: 1.748 metres

    My Height: 1.84 metres

    Just sayin’ :)

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    • Rick Morton

      Of course, science has nothing on individual preferences at the human level…or something.

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      • Don’t argue with the science, Monckton!

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    • detachableprincess

      Oh, JJ, I love you already. ;)

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      • …so glad my better half doesn’t read MM.. ;-)

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    • Nicky Champ

      *swoon*

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      • You’re in no condition to *swoon*. ;-)

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    • Claudia

      Same height as my husband! (i think, is that 6’2?)

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      • No…just over 6′

        I think I’m the perfect height…I’m tall, but I can still fit into public transport seating…

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        • Claudia

          Fair call, my husb has trouble with plane seating (knees in his ears)…but I think he’s the perfect height too :)

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    • Anonymous

      Hmmm….seems I am about average for the Australian male. Tha’s why the only time I went near a short guy it was a disaster and i made a rule to never go near any guy under 6′ tall again…hubby is 6’2″. My 4 year old daughter is already working out to like them tall…she is the average height of a 7 year old already…..

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  5. Susan

    Yes I agree! In my family my brothers are both over six foot and my Dad’s 6 foot 3 so tall is normal to me.

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  6. Nickie

    Hmm.. I think for me it’s more because I’m tall-ish so I need a guy who’s taller than me and would at least still be on par in height if and when I wear heels! I had a casual date with a much shorter guy once and it just felt so awkward. I need a guy who would be able to place his arms around my shoulder comfortably and for our hands to align nicely when we hold hands and walk too.
    That’s just my personal criteria ‘cos of my height but I would totally agree that tall men command more attention and just generally appear more attractive too.

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  7. Karyn

    I’m definitely attracted to taller guys. Being 5’9″ myself, a tall guy is necessary, especially if I want to wear heels. My boyfriend is a little over 6′ and I think the perfect height for me. Taller when I’m wearing flats and silmilar when I’m wearing heels. I didn’t fall for him (I think) because he was tall, but then would I have had similar feelings for him if he was shorter? I suppose we’ll never know!

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  8. amyheffernan

    Whooops!! Guilty.

    I am 176 cm tall and from a young age had it in my head that I would only marry some one taller than me! And I did. Even though it is only by an inch!! But if he was an inch shorter……. I just dont think that I would have looked at him in the same way. Sad but true!

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  9. Kate o

    I am 5’9″ and I get angry when really short girls date tall guys! They’re stealing from my crop :)

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    • Karyn

      I’m 5’9″ too and I feel exactly the same way. I thought it was just me! All those short girls should take up those shorter guys! :-D

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      • Lil

        Sorry girls I am one of those tall boyfriend stealers, I am short 1.58cm And my partner is over 6 ft.. you would love him his tall and gorgeous..hehe

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    • La Petite Chou

      Could not agree more. I’m 5’10″ and I listen to 5′ nothing friends who refuse to date men who are 5’6″ or so…. what is that other than pure bloody selfishness?

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    • amykeep

      I’ve always felt the same way and told my short girlfriends off for dating tall guys to boot! :P

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      • Scarlett

        I must apologise I am one of those girls and I always feel very guilty about it and say so sometimes to the guy am in a relationship with. I don’t purposely go for really tall guys and I have no idea why at 154cm they go for me but from what I gather from what this study its saying that most men are attracted to shorter than average women. Guys want to feel like the protector and being with an incredibly petite woman probably makes them feel more masculine. I use it to my advantage too, if I can’t be bothered walking from the couch to the bed if I am tired I ask them to carry me and they generally always oblige :)

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    • LK

      Oh I’m jumping on this bandwagon! At 5’10″ I am the tallest of my female friends, and taller than a lot of my male friends! I’m not freakishly tall, especially for my family, but I feel awkward dating guys who are not taller than me. Very off-putting.

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  10. Ok so my last two bfs were in excess of 6 foot and i have to say that i did like that i didnt feel silly wearing heels around them beacuse im tall myself BUT i was attracted to my partner right from when we first met – despite the fact hes about an inch shorter than me. Now i dont wear heels half as much as i used to because they make me tower over him.

    I probably should point out that my super tall (6’7″) ex bf used to cop all sorts of snide comments about his height, so i wouldnt consider it to be a factor that would directly contribute to success in life.

    I suppose its safe to say i do discriminate as to height when it comes to dating – but its not the only factor for me, nor is it the most important.

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  11. Scarlett

    Yes I would totally agree with this theory. I am more attracted to tall men and at just shy of 5 foot I find that tall men are generally attracted to me. Most of my boyfriends have been over 6 foot tall. You can be too tall for someone of my height though, 6,6 was the height of one of my boyfriends and that was definitely too tall!! I generally go with the over 5,10 rule, anything under that and they generally wont get a look in from me unless they are exceptionally goodlooking.

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  12. detachableprincess

    Ever since high school, all my friends have been guys. It’s completely the norm for me to be the shortest person in the room by at least 20cm. P-Daddy is a full 10 inches taller than me.

    I look at Justin Beiber, and I despair. 16 year old boys are supposed to be big and hairy and smelly, they shouldn’t look like 12 year old girls.

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    • Rick Morton

      I draw the line at hairy men though. But I think that might just be me.

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      • amyheffernan

        Come on Rick!! A little bit of hair is GOOD! Too much or back hair not so great! Yuck!

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        • Rick Morton

          Maybe just a tiny bit. But not too much. My old flatmate Harry used to continually ask me if I thought he was sexy (I didn’t) because he had hair everywhere. And yet, he got the girls like no one else I have ever known. I can’t figure it out.

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          • Claudia

            Interesting he used to ask so much, did he perhaps have a crush on you Rickstar?? ;)

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            • Rick Morton

              He was straight as a beanpole but took it as an affront that I did not find him attractive. I think he saw that as the ultimate get. The women fell over him, but I couldn’t care less. I was his Waterloo. LOL.

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          • Margaret

            A man has to have a hairy chest for me! I just love it! I also like them tall but my husband, though taller than me (i’m 160cm), is not a tall man really. But he is hairy and broad shouldered. Phwooarr!

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        • detachableprincess

          Yeah, no, hairy backs are a deal-breaker.

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      • Loulee

        There is nothing attractive about a man with “short man” syndrome… Tom Cruise is probably the best example. Rumour has it his shoes are specially made with risers inside to add height. On the other hand I think Bono is really sexy and he is quite short. He just… rocks it. My first love looked like Bono and was the same height as me (164cm). It was totally fine. My husband is nicely taller than me. He is about 177cm so a nice height difference. Too tall doesn’t do it for me. Seeing all those Kardashians with their ultra tall basketball players seems weird… But each to their own – we are all different with different desires.

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