This post was originally published on Role Reboot and has been republished here with full permission.
By MAVIS KING
A case for balancing instinct and logic when choosing a partner who will father your children.
I had a baby with the wrong man. It’s as simple as that, and what a terrible mistake it is to have made.
So I warn you, keep your wits about you when considering who will father your children. You need to make a good decision, because you’ll live with it forever.
Years ago as I entered my mid-30s my mother began to talk of Mr Good Enough. The fact that I had not settled into a committed relationship or marriage was assumed to be due to a selection issue on my side. “Are you being too picky?” a colleague inquired when we caught up for lunch.
I never had a list of qualities I desired, no stern non-negotiables were asserted when I began dating someone. I wasn’t seeking wealth or a way of life. I could provide that for myself.
I was after something else. I wanted that feeling, that definitive moment when I just knew the person was the one for me.
As more friends got married and settled into long-term relationships, when even my non-maternal friends, the ones who had never shown interest in children, began to have their own, and when I felt uncomfortable at work functions to state that I was still single, it dawned on me that I may have had it all wrong.
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My best friend cannot stand to be single for any stretch of time. The amount of time that passed between her previous relationship and her current one was two weeks. She has allowed boys to behave badly in her presence without reproach, she has put up with crap, not abuse but rudeness towards others, all for the sake of 'having a man'. She is obsessed with the idea of having 4 or 5 kids and is truly convinced that if she doesn't replace a boyfriend, she won't get married and have kids. She will do anything to keep her man, including blowing off previous established plans for her boy, allowing the boy to take over others' plans and cutting off friends because the boy doesn't like them.
If she doesn't stop and think about her behaviour, she may well end up with the wrong person in her pursuit to be a wife and mother.
So, I take it that you realise why men who are not losers are VERY picky.
Like they want a woman who's skinny, supermodel looks and no older than 30? If a man is open minded then they're a loser?
Oh wait, I forgot, you hate women.
Quite the opposite. I LOVE women which is why I spend a month in Brasil each year.
Personally. I don't like skinny females but females do. Wouldn't mind supermodel looks though, just like females who carry on about Ryan Gosling.
A man is a loser to females if he has nothing and limited income. We know that SLIMS (single low income males) are least likely to have a female partner and the more money a man has the more likely he is to be married.
However, these days, men with assets are not willing to risk everything they have ever worked for e.g. me. I would not touch an Aussie female with a barge pole which is why I go to Brasil where females are fun and sexy.
If I have an Aussie gf and we go out a couple of times a week and say I even pay for everything and we have sex then, if I make the mistake of helping her financially in any way she can take me to the Family Court to make me pay for the sex because she never cleaned my unit or bore my children. Not for me, thanks.
If you developed a more respectful attitude to women, you wouldn't have to exploit third world ones.
So having fun and sex with a female is exploiting her. That's EXACTLY why men leave Western females alone.