• losing virginity 25 years

    “You lost your virginity better than I did. I guarantee it.”

          It’s been 25 years since I lost my virginity and I have some good news for myself. Apparently, it’s not my fault that it was a pretty crap experience. Nor was it the fault of my hapless but well-meaning partner. The reason that losing my virginity was so… unsatisfying… is because it [read more]

  • cheating

    She found out her boyfriend of 4 years was actually married with kids.

          There was one morning radio segment that had everyone in the Mamamia office talking this morning. It was the story of a woman whose partner of four years had suddenly vanished without a trace, and it came via Chrissie and Jane’s Private Investigator on Mix 101.1. For those of you who haven’t heard of Chrissie [read more]

  • "It was wrong from the beginning. We knew it. Can’t ignore it any longer. It isn’t love."

    Husband writes down all the excuses his wife uses to get out of sex. Epic.

      Hands up if you’ve ever used ‘I have to be up early’ as an excuse to not have sex? What about ‘I’m too tired’?  Come one… be honest. We’ve all been there. But has your partner ever made a note of all those excuses and then passively aggressively sent it to you via email? Probably not… Welcome [read more]

  • never go to bed angry 2

    The relationship advice you can officially stop following.

      “Never go to bed angry.” It’s the relationship advice cliche you’ve no doubt heard a hundred times from your grandma, your aunt, and your girlfriends. Or, at the very least, from glossy women’s magazines who, since well before sealed sections even existed, have insisted that resolving arguments before bedtime is the ‘apple a day’ needed to keep break-ups away. [read more]

  • Gerard and Allison Baden-Clay

    “I was nearly Allison Baden-Clay.”

              This week we all learned the truth about Allison Baden-Clay. She was intelligent – fluent in several languages.  An accomplished  career woman.  A devoted mother. And for years – according to her friends – she was the victim of ongoing emotional abuse in her relationship with her husband Gerard. A relationship that [read more]

  • Andrew Heslop.

    Andrew Heslop: “I came out at 21. Some wait until they’re 60.”

                When I started to write this piece one week ago it was off the back of the Network Ten announcement that Ian Thorpe had sat down to do an exclusive interview with Sir Michael Parkinson. Parky had come out of retirement and was quoted as saying who wouldn’t jump [read more]

  • consequences of coming out

    This is what it feels like to live in the closet.

            Today, Olympic swimmer Ian Thorpe is experiencing a joyous acceptance of his sexuality by the Australian community. What he most feared might come to pass as a result of his coming out – derision, cruelty and the demise of his hero status – seems almost laughable in the face of the [read more]

  • The fault in our stars

    This couple’s heart-breaking love story mirrors The Fault In Our Stars.

    I was diagnosed with cancer for the second time when I was 22. The first time was 11 years prior, when the medical establishment discovered a fist-sized tumour bulging out the back of my left knee. Still on the soprano-side of puberty, I wasn’t really equipped to grapple with the enormity of my situation and the [read more]

  • break up

    The 8 reasons marriages fail.

          When you look at the statistics, keeping a marriage alive can seem like a pretty hard task. Reports vary depending on several factors, such as the age at which you marry – however, the figures are generally discouraging – sitting anywhere between 30% and 60% of all marriages ending in divorce. Just [read more]

  • rachel corbett

    “All of a sudden, I’m in love with a bloke I met on an app.”

              I found love on Tinder. Dear God. I never thought I’d hear those words, let alone say them. I’ve always been your quintessential ‘old school’ dater with a fear of ‘going online’ that rivals my 76 year old father’s fear of ATMs … you just can’t trust them.  The unfortunate [read more]

  • the worst sex of my life

    “For a beautiful half-second I thought perhaps he wouldn’t notice….”

            Warning: This post is not safe to read at work (or with kids around) and your boss is probably looking at you rather disapprovingly right NOW….    I just had the best and worst sex of my life. It started with an app. And ended with white sheets stained by a [read more]

  • Jessanne Collins

    “Mum was right, writing about porn can lead to being in porn.”

          On a June day in 2008, I found myself in a novelty sombrero. I was dangling my feet in the deep end of a swimming pool at a ranch outside of Santa Fe, sporting a red Forever 21 sundress, $1,000 worth of borrowed turquoise jewelry, and wide sunglasses, which I hoped would [read more]

  • walk of shame 1

    It’s 2014. So why are we still asking this question about women and sex?

          I just had the most astounding correspondence with a so called ”journalist” from a well-known Australian women’s magazine, wanting to ask me about owning the ”walk of shame”. When I asked her exactly what she wanted me to comment on, she was unable to articulate what she wanted. She said ”it’s a [read more]

  • meg-ryan orgasm

    Too many of us don’t know enough about this important part of our bodies. So let’s learn.

              Let me introduce you to someone you should have met a long time ago: This is your clitoris. It’s about 100mm long. Its tip has whopping 8,000 nerve endings; twice as many as the penis. Around 95% of this structure sits inside your body. And most of us have no [read more]

  • where to find love

    Three Mamamia readers on how they met their loves.

            People travel far to look for love. But sometimes the best love stories come from romances grown on home soil. Sometimes your soul mate is sitting next to you in primary school, or they’re at your high school reunion. People go far to find love, so it’s pretty amazing when you find [read more]

  • going-without-sex

    “My wife and I gave up on sex”.

    Disclaimer: I am not a professional. This is not advice. This is me talking about my experiences, what works and what doesn’t for me, my family, in our situation. What works for us may not work for you – because we are different, which is cool. If you want to tell me why I am wrong, or right, or [read more]

  • patrick swayze in ghost

    There’s a name for those men who take you on 3 dates and then never call again.

          I was dating a guy for a while, and it seemed to be clicking along nicely. He talked about long-term stuff, he told his friends about me, he even introduced me to his sister. And then he got abducted by aliens. Or fell off a cliff. Or died in frozen aisle of [read more]

  • jean kittson

    Jean Kittson: “A woman’s libido is complex. It can go for all sorts of reasons.”

              There are many influences on a woman’s sex drive. Remember when sex drive meant in the back of the car, parked behind the shower block, on the way to the beach? Remember youthful sex drive at all? I have people to do that for me now. I sit on the [read more]

  • meeting your husband

    “The relationship advice I never expected from a nun.”

          When I met the love of my life I was 22, innocent, naive and totally clueless when it came to relationships. I’m not exaggerating. I had lived at home all my life and I had very strong opinions on who I wanted to marry. He’d be a year or two older than [read more]

  • Tupperware parties

    “The night Mum died was both surreal and yet, perfectly expected.”

            The night Mum died was both surreal and yet, perfectly expected. I’m not really sure that can make sense unless you’ve watched someone actually stop being right there in front of you. It’s both terrifying and also, an unbelievable privilege. My Mum died of cancer. It took hold of her suddenly, savagely and left us without [read more]

  • graceben1

    This is how I fell in love with my neighbour… Halfway across the world.

          People will travel a hell of a long way for romance – so it’s pretty amazing when you find it in your own backyard. A dreadlocked, kaftan-clad backpacker once followed me all the way from New York to declare his unwavering affection (which proved less than unwavering when he actually had to pay rent). More feasibly, [read more]

  • break up letter

    This is how all relationship breakups should happen.

      Ever hung around too long in a relationship, waiting for the guy to start treating you right? Well, primary-schooler Rachel knows what that’s like. After three months waiting for her boyfriend, Shawn, to to talk to her, she figured it was finally time for him to “git it together” – and wrote him a letter [read more]

  • 4 the toilet roll fight

    The 10 fights every couple has – and how to stop having them.

      Here are the 10 fights every couple have. Sound familiar? We’re sure it won’t come as a surprise to you that you and your partner have the same fights over and over again, like you’re on some kind of recurring loop. Here are the 10 most common fights married couples have, and some words of [read more]

  • marriage sabbatical

    The most controversial solution to saving a marriage.

                Do you think that by taking a break from your ailing relationship, you can save it? Recently, actress Emma Thompson revealed that she believes every married couple could benefit from a relationship break — so that when they come back together, they can love each other in a better [read more]

  • nicky wedding

    “I’ve spent almost half of my life with my husband, and I’m still as attracted to him as I ever was.”

          Cameron Diaz, possessor of excellent abs and great hair, has revealed she doesn’t believe in monogamy. I know, Stop. The. World. Let’s all get off. In the grand scheme of things whatever Cameron Diaz is doing in the bedroom doesn’t greatly affect our lives but it’s always fun when a celebrity goes [read more]

  • bigkev

    14 sex tips we reeeeeally don’t recommend following.

        I used to love the sealed sections in magazines. They just provided the most handy tips (lol puns) for every inexperienced teen out there of what to expect when you finally became old enough to be doing the deed. It’s only when you grow up a little that you realise the advice you’re [read more]

  • why do straight guys have sex with men  1

    This is why straight men sometimes seek out gay sex.

              Here’s a trend that has a lot of people confused. On dating sites and apps there’s a growing new category:  gay men seeking sex with straight men. Or straight men seeking sex with gay men. In America, there are reportedly more than three million men who identify as straight – [read more]

  • still a virgin

    Group therapy: “I’m 28 years old and an accidental virgin.”

          There’s not a lot I wouldn’t tell my closest girlfriends but there’s one thing I’ve been lying by omission about for years. I’m too mortified to let this slip. And too confused about how this situation has transpired. But the thing is: I’m 28 years old, and I’m a virgin. I don’t understand how it [read more]

  • man doing chores 2

    “I know my place and I am happy to be in it”.

              In the division of labour that occurs within any long term relationship, there is a quiet but brutal skills assessment of each partner. In our case, tasks involving organisation, intelligence and finesse are allocated to my wife Rachel, while jobs which could otherwise be performed by a poorly trained labrador are [read more]

  • how to survive a breakup

    There is no nice way to end a relationship. But there is a better way.

          In a cruel twist of fate, just as my contract with Harper Collins to write my latest book on dating and relationships was finalised, so too was I finalising the end of what had been an incredibly important partnership with a man I had deeply loved. Although I had to end this [read more]