Ever had a friend whose partner you couldn’t stand? There are different levels of this. There are those who you just don’t get along with and then there are those who you worry are really bad news for your friend.
Either way, it can be awkward and compromising and can do untold damage to your friendship.
Louse* has just such a problem and would love some Group Therapy….
What do you do when you’re not particularly fond of your best friend’s partner? Do you “suck it up” and let her go, or have you said something ?
My best friend has been with a fellow for a few years now, off and on. Currently it’s “on” and looks like staying that way.
When they first met they were just friends as he was married, but after he and his wife split, they eventually got together and were a couple for about a year. Then his wife had second thoughts and wanted to come home. So, he took her back and my girlfriend went back to being single.
A few months later, his wife left again and he called my friend and they got back together. Again.
I’ve stood by her and supported her through all of this too-ing and fro-ing because she loves him, but he gives me the creeps and I’m not the only one who feels this way. A group of us have been out to dinner a few times and without any prompting from me, there were comments on just how uncomfortable he made the other girls feel and what a control freak he was/is.
He ordered for her, looked at her disapprovingly while she was eating (she’s no slob) and got into these little in-jokes, as if no-one else was at the table. He even books their holidays away, and ignores her wishes of when they go….and whenever I’m at her place and he turns up, I feel like I’m an intruder…Even my boyfriend finds him a bit strange, and that’s significant coming from another male. So, has anyone else been in this or a similar situation and if so, how did you handle it ?