Every relationship has its own unique and personal beginning.
I knew the moment I heard my husband’s voice. He was head hunting me for a job, and had called me to ask for a coffee. Even though every ounce of me was crying ridiculous, I knew in a heartbeat that voice was my future. We had a long, rocky road to a normal relationship, but I still stand my ground, I knew we were soul mates and we were meant to be together, and I knew from the moment I heard his voice.
Others have said that they just knew and that there was an intrinsic belief that this relationship was a keeper. The nervousness and pressure associated with newbie relationships just wasn’t there, instead there was a comfortable knowledge that this was it.
Some say, their friendship grew quietly into a relationship with comfort and ease making way for love. Others say they didn’t even like their partner initially but they couldn’t stay away from each other as if there was some dysfunctional, magnetic pull that turned out to be love.
Professor of Psychology, John Buri, suggests that “love at first sight” is the result of an unconscious screening process, where we exclude certain people who don’t meet the criteria we look for in a partner. From those left, we do a more thorough scan to see whether more boxes can be ticked. And if they can be, then through an unconscious process of elimination we are left with “the one”. Our “one” is the person we have screened, then scanned and who ticks all the boxes.
This feels like too much too much science and intent for something that feels so special when it’s actually happening. As if there is a little magic and serendipity in the air.
I know a lovely couple, she is vivacious, bubbly and oozes energy, he, a gentle, wise man. They are having difficult times with an illness that’s putting up a battle.
“I knew the moment he walked into the room that I would marry this man”, she told us proudly, “he calmed me”. And through her chattiness, her worry is palpable. But in his presence, it’s clear that he still calms her.
Some people are just meant to find each other. Let’s call it a combination of science, timing and magic.
Do you believe in love at first sight?
Lisa Schofield is a mad keen blogger, a Kiwi trying unsuccessfully to lose her accent, a mum to 3 gorgeous fellas, and an adventure race addict. You can follow her blog here
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Love at first sight – I was 25 & he was 29 and I saw him in the labs at uni & thought to myself, ‘I wonder if this is going to be the man I marry?’ – it took a few months to start talking, another few months being friends & then well – 12 years later & still so happy. Agree with the no awkardness or second guessing as I had in past relationships.
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Absolutely…Saw (literally) someone almost 20 years ago and kapow!! was completely smittened by the most handsome intelligent man on earth. “Saw” him again a couple of years ago and same thing. Thought him perfect.
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Absolutely!! Yes it is an subconscience response…you are brought together by a hidden force. But where to from there? If there are obstacles? Life has complications.
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Fell head over heels for a married man and got totally confused by it all. I am a very traditional catholic. But I know it is so special.
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I was the ultimate romance/relationship cynic – never thought I’d get married and surrounded by my ‘gay posse’ when I met him at a party. I was shocked at this in itself – people don’t meet randomly at parties these days!! He was the first person I spoke to at the party, we spent the whole night together and I woke up and thought “I think I love this person”. It was the oddest thing but as Lisa says, from day one there was no awkwardness, we were both so open and despite normal ups and downs we continue to be completely in love with eachother. Sickly, isn’t it.
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I hate to say it but I remember it was love at first sight when I saw my cat Marley. It was years ago and I can still see him upside down on the cat scratch post looking me in the eye. God help me, I’m the cat lady!
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I met him when I wasn’t really looking for anything or anyone.
Saw his picture, just felt drawn to it – a very funny feeling I can’t explain – butterflies in my stomach and an unsettled feeling – and remember thinking ‘Must stay away, or I might never get out’ and wondering if he was married and what type of person he would marry. Anyway, he sought me out, had the same feeling seeing me the first time too, and we had the longest dinner in history with him proposing to me that same evening. I told him he was crazy, or I could be – he didn’t know me !
Fast forward, fell in love and couldn’t (didn’t!) resist being swept up off my feet..just felt like we fitted so well and that I’d finally come home.. until it all fell apart a few months ago..we’re both very strong-willed and stubborn. I think I met my match in a man, though the attraction and ‘being home’ feeling never left, we weren’t good for each other. Still wonder at how something so strong and magnetic like that could end so badly..
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Hell yes!
We had been chatting over the internet for a few months and the moment she opened the door on the night I picked her up for our first date I saw her face and just knew that she was the one I had been looking for.
There has never been a moment for either one of us when we have questioned if we will still be together in 5, 10 or 20 years time. There just doesn’t feel like there could ever be any other way.
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I was 17 and with another boy. Walked into a party, saw him and said to my bestie ‘that’s the man I’m going to marry’. Then laughed at myself.
We have been married 9 years in August.
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Absolutely I do. I walked into a room and there he was sitting in a chair. It was almost as if I recognised him. I didnt know a single thing about him, I had never seen him before that moment but I knew. He was nursing a badly broken heart and needed a bit of convincing but he gave me a key to his house 6 weeks after we met. Its been 12 years now.
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I met my husband on RSVP on a Wednesday night, went on a date on the Thursday night then spent the whole weekend at the coast together. We have been pretty much inseparable since that first date. Together for almost 6 years and married for almost 5. He said he knew from the moment we met that I was the one. I knew that weekend. It sounds corny but I was always the ‘goodtime’ girl never interested in marriage or anyone but myself, but when I met my husband I just had an overwhelming sense of security & calmness. Like everything was going to be ok from now on. We have never had one fight EVER and just seem to fit together. Love at first sight does exist I just think too many people walk around with their eyes closed.
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I think a lot of cases where people say it was love at first sight is down to selective memories. Eg if I was attracted to someone the first time I met them and then it developed into a serious relationship, I would probably look back and say “It was love at first sight”. But if I was attracted to someone the first time I met them but the relationship went badly/didn’t happen, I wouldn’t look back and say “It was love at first sight”, even though I may have felt exactly the same emotions in each case at the time of that first meeting.
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Yes I believe in love at first sight!
I arrived on the beautiful lord Howe island and still walking my bags up into a friends house I met my future husband at 18 and I felt instantly that this man was going to be the most important part of my life.
12 years and 3 children later I still fill that same feeling, like we were meant to be!!
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I met my wife 10 years ago. I work in advertising and I was at her agency for an interview. She walked past reception, glared at me and my heart literally skipped a beat. I couldn’t breath!
While I was being interviewed I couldn’t stop thinking about her. I was offered the job 2 days later, but turned it down. I turned it down because I was married (27 at the time) and knew that working with that girl would destroy my marriage. I hadn’t even said a word to her yet.
Ten months later the agency I turned down called me back and asked me to reconsider the role. I said yes, thinking I was just over reacting and being silly. Six months later my original marriage broke down.
We both had an instant attraction from the day I started at the new agency, but agreed that nothing could happen for at least a year after my marriage ended out of respect for each other and to ensure there was no rebound going on. One year and one day after that we started seeing each other and were engaged within another 12 months. We’ve now been married almost 7 years & she is the love of my life. I’d literally die without her by my side.
Yep – I knew I loved her literally within the first 5 seconds of seeing her, look how it turned out.
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This is beautiful and I am in awe of the way you approached your relationship. Too many people jump from one person to the next – by taking your time, you have also showed true integrity to your ex-wife also. I would wish you the best of luck, but I think you already have it in spades!
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My mother went to a party with her boyfriend then met my dad at the party. When boyfriend dropped her home she explained: sorry but I have just met the man I am going to marry.
She went inside the house & told her sisters the same thing.
And they did (marry).
I just thought it was a cute & romantic story…until it happened to me.
We met in the kitchen at work. I was putting a coffee cup in the dishwasher & he was making himself a cup of coffee. Remember it like it was yesterday. And I just…knew.
Only he was married. And no we are not together. At least not now.
Never spoke about the kitchen moment for years & generally tried to avoid one another. Some years later & late one night after a drink or two it came up. Then he said something that completely floored me: it was love at first sight for him, too.
He can describe with perfect recall what I was wearing and every little detail of the time we first met. It was seriously a nothing conversation and yet…well.
He said that we knows we will grow old together. It’s funny but I sometimes think this, too. I don’t work there anymore. He is off living his life & I mine. Have no idea what will happen in the years to come but I would not be surprised if one day I opened a door to find him right there.
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Absolutely I met my husband on 28 Jan last year, he moved in about two months later and we got engaged in June and married on October. From the beginning I knew this incredible man would never hurt me and would bring me great joy. He has spent today helping my mother move house – without a word of complaint. He is totally amazing. Before meeting him I really thought I would never meet anyone. With him there has been no game playing, there has only been openness honesty and unconditional love. It can and does happen. Btw we met in a totally random fate way. Both happened to be in the same restaurant seated at tables next to each other and started talking.
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I’m not sure about love at first sight, but my husband certainly made an impact after knowing each other for only a few days then moving on (he was a backpacker). It took us two years and a move to the other side of the world to see each other again, but when we did, we were cooked. For all our faults, I think that together we are a the perfect balance. I pinch myself every day wondering how I managed to snag him.
ETA: after I made a fairly dodgy comment in the first days that we met, my husband likes to say: “You had me at pineapple juice.” And when I first met all his friends and family, they were all excited to meet this girl that he’d been going on about for two years. So I reckon he probably believes in love at first sight…
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Definitely. I met my boyfriend at a party just after I turned 15 and I knew I wanted to be with him the moment we met. Within two weeks after meeting, he asked me to be his girlfriend and we first said I love you a week later. I’m now 20 and he’s 22. I love him more and more every day and can’t ever imagine myself being with anyone else.
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Well I met my husband at uni. After 15 years of friendship we realized we were in love. Now together 7 years and have 3 children. He still makes me smile and my eyes light up when I see him. It took time though and our friendship was the key.
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Not sure if I believe in love at first sight, but I truly hope for it!
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I do believe in love at first sight but I don’t think it always goes hand in and with ‘happily ever after’.
I’ve been in love at first sight and those relationships haven’t lasted….
I’ve known people who will tell you the story of how they ‘fell in love at first sight’ and how romantic it was only to be divorces ten years down the track.
Some love grows, others is instant….but I don’t think either way guarantees longevity.
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It absolutely exists. I didn’t even want to meet my (now) husband, as it was a kind of an uncomfortable forced meeting but after refusing to come down the stairs I saw him through the landing window – he was pretty cute and shy – I immediately ran into my room got changed into something a little nicer then the tracky-daks I’d been wearing and met ‘the one’. We moved in together 2 weeks later, have been together over ten years and were married last November. This is a normal relationship, although i have found the love of my life it does not mean we haven’t had our ups and downs. I guess the difference is I never want to get off this ride I’m in it until the end.
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34 years ago next Monday there was something at first sight. Lust, longing, love? We both felt it rather strongly – for me, he’d been in my dreams for 2 years, so it was a case of “oh, there you are” as well. I was 20 and certainly didn’t expect to find him so soon. But I am so very very glad I did. He still can make my heart go flip flop when he walks into the room. Most of the time. (34 years and 5 children – jeez, I’m only human ♥)
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40 years for me, and 4 children and a 2nd marriage, but i still love it when he walks into a room. i knew the moment i saw him, and tried to put it down to pure lust, but there has to be more to it than that if i still love the way he walks even when i am mad with him. So distracting as you try to shout.
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Hands up if you expected me to say yes?
My answer is no. Not love. Not really. You can click with them, you can know you have something special there. You can be interested in them, or attracted to them. But love, to me, means so much more than that.
I knew my husband was the shit when I first met him, and made an arse out of myself trying to impress him. Each time I met him over the years (because we met and re-met a few times) I knew he was special. I knew we clicked. But I didn’t love him, not yet.
I do believe in lightning bolt moments, when you realise you love someone or when you know they are the one. For me it was our first date, which wasn’t even a date. I think that lightning bolt moment can come at any point. Sometimes it hits people after years of being together, sometimes on the first date, but very rarely when you first meet them. Attraction can turn to love. There can be a spark, a click, a moment.
Then again, maybe that’s what love at first sight means? That you clicked and it became love. Perhaps I’m just arguing semantics. I want to believe.
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Interestingly I agree with you – I think.
I have a theory that “Love” is only true love if it is reciprocated. So love at first sight can only happen if it comes from both sides at the same time. Which i think is rare.
but yes I did think you would say yes
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I definitely believe!!! My husband told me he fell for me when he heard my voice for the first time. We had one date together and both agreed that there was something magical between us and we have been inseparable ever since
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I have had a close male friend for years, since we were thirteen. We’ve grown up together, and we’re 22 now, but have never been involved. He had a crush on me for a long time in high school but that’s over now. We’ve both been in serious relationships with other people. Any time I see him I can be 110% me without fear, without restraint, it doesn’t even cross my mind to hold back. Sometimes I wonder if I’ll wake up in a couple of years and realise he’s been the one all along. I kind of hope so, but for now the desire just isn’t there. It’d be sweet though, a real fairytale ending!
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I have been struck by the lightning bolt but it has not led to happy ever-afters. I met a boy at a dance when I was 15 and when we touched there was electricity but he died before I was ready for a relationship. I fell in love with a voice in a dark room in front of a wood fire at college but when we dated there was no chemistry. My ex says he fell in love with my voice but he left eventually. I am not sad. Just incredibly grateful for having had these beautiful experiences in my life. What will be, will be…
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Based only on my experience, I do believe it happens – but I don’t think having it happen at first sight automatically means they’re that mystical ‘one’.
It happened to me with my first love – and it was love, not just lust. Actually, I didn’t find him particularly good looking and he wasn’t anything remotely like what I thought I wanted. But the second I walked in the room, all the cliches happened: we locked eyes and both knew it was all on. Everyone else disappeared and we fell into the void with each other. There was never any real question or discussion about whether we were dating or what it was heading towards – we just became fused together. Then after a few years, we both realised it was wrong on so many levels and had a spectacularly painful break-up from which I thought I’d never recover.
Eventually, I did. And I feel like the relationship I’m now in is better than I ever expected love to be, but I felt nothing at all when I first met him. I had no inkling at all that this person would end up being a friend or even a fling, let alone someone of such importance in my life.
It’s a love (and even a lust) that’s grown stronger and more powerful over time, as we’ve gone through experiences together.
Instant spark or slow burn, whichever form it takes, they’re equally intoxicating.
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It wasn’t love at first sight, I was nursing a terrible broken heart with no room for a new love when I first met my partner. But there was something. And every time we would bump into each other over the following couple of years, there was something. Till the time was right and then the something blossomed into love quicker than I could have imagined possible.
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I have a hard enough time believing in “love”, let alone “love at first sight”.
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Sorry to be a grammar pendant but it’s actually ‘let alone’ not ‘little lone’.
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Thank you (insert comma) I need all the help I can get!
Rather > I need alot (sic) of help. Fixed -viola! (sic)
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Perhaps a grammar “pedant” is what you’re wary of being…?
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Haha this exchange is getting hilarious…. I want a grammar pendant!
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I believe in lust at first sight. But not love. For me, love is something that has grown over time in all my relationships. The ones that were very intense at the beginning all fizzled out.
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I’ve noticed that to be really true. The couples who are all over each other in public, even after marriage rarely last.
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i first met my partner when i was 15. W was with some girlfriends and it was the last day of term and we were heading to Chapel street to watch a movie but had ages of time to kill.
One of the girls knew my partner and his friends and we ended up going to his place and he carried my bag for me. I didn’t see him again for another year but we became close friends again through another girlfriend, then he started dating one of my friends but we were still close. In fact he was probably my best friend at the time.
A couple of months later he and his girlfriend had broken up, he invited me over to watch a Buffy marathon (i’m a big fan) where i met his family. We went to the BDO a few days later and that night he asked me out. We had our first kiss the following weekend because i didn’t immediately say yes and I wanted to clear it with my friend who had dated him.
I wouldn’t say it was love at first sight. I did like him and he liked me the first time we met but neither of us had the “omg i love them” sort of feeling that is generally associated with love at first sight.
But it’s worked for us and that makes me happy!
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Our first dated lasted 16 hours and by the end we had declared those three little words – I love you. Been saying them every day since for the past 20 years.
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…or should I walk past again?
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First kiss made me all tingly, took a little while but hers are the only lips that I will kiss pasasionately for the rest of my days
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I do believe in love at first sight, but that wasn’t my experience with my husband. Having said that, I look back now and believe it was fate that we came together, and marvel at how it all just fell into place.
I’d been working in the country and a friend of mine was moving back to the city with her boyfriend, and for months she’d been saying she wanted to set me up with her partner’s friend, because we were just so suited.
I didn’t think much of it, and the first time I met this guy was the day I’d moved back – I’d been unpacking a whole lot of stuff and was dirty and sweaty and feeling gross, and my friend invited me over for dinner because her boyfriend was at the movies with my now-husband.
It was a set-up – the guys got home just as my friend was ready to serve dinner. I don’t remember much about the night apart from the conversation being really easy, and my husband wearing a horrible Hawaiian shirt.
We met up again at our friends’ housewarming party a couple of weeks later, and after that night he asked them for my phone number.
I wasn’t nervous when he rang – I figured I had the upper hand because I was happy to just go on a date and see where things went, and if it didn’t pan out then I wouldn’t be too fussed.
My husband has since told me that he was infatuated from the start, whereas it took me quite a few dates to make up my mind. We had very similar values and beliefs and hobbies, but I didn’t feel a ‘spark’ straight away.
It took about three months for us to get to our first kiss, because he was so nervous!
He proposed on our fifth anniversary, we married 2.5 years after that, and have been married 14 months. I just can’t imagine him not being in my life.
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I knew the minute I saw him. He had the best smile, the most appalling dress sense and a quirky Australian accent. I was a couple of weeks shy of my 16th birthday. He convinced me Sydney was far superior to London. Our five children were all born here and tomorrow we celebrate our 22nd wedding anniversary.
He still makes me laugh.
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Yes I met my husband when I was at a low point, I was 21 in a bad relationship of 4 years with an drug taking abusive person, I saw my now husband at my sisters husbands work and didn’t even speak to him, we made eye contact a few times and he even accidentaly stepped on my foot. After I left the place I was at with my sister, I remember saying ‘who was that guy in the purple billabong tshirt’ she said oh thats …. I was infactuated after that and apparantly he was asking about me even though he was at the end of a stale relationship too… days later he rang me and we went on a first date, it sounds so cheesy but it felt like ‘coming home’ being with him – a week later I said to a friend ‘I love him and want to marry him’, moved into his apartment after 3 months and now 12 1/2 years later and 2 kids still going strong…
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Beautiful story
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There are different types and levels of love.
The ‘love at first sight’ is a feeling… some people would also call it lust, infatuation, limerence etc.
However, long lasting committed love is a choice, rather than a mere feeling. It is strong and stable and not dependant on your mood or the most recent actions, but rather sees the long term.
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I hate articles like this. Way to make someone with a happy, healthy relationship feel like it’s inferior because it wasn’t “love at first sight’!
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No, no Goose, that is so not what I meant – in the article I have said there are so many ways that people have fallen in love and created their “happy, healthy relationship”. Mine just happened to be that way. But you’ve hit the nail on the head – success is a happy and healthy relationship, regardless of how you get there. Everyone’s story is different and personal.
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When I first my ex husband I knew that he was going to be a very special person in my life. I remember I came to a cross road early on in our relationship and I knew that if I chose him I would be with him for a long time. My ex and separated a few months back after a being together for 12 years and have a 3yo and while it was the best decision for us both, I know that I will love (in a different way) him for the rest of my life. We will be always friends and I know that he will always be there for me as I will be for him.
But now looking forward, the opportunity to experience something really special like love at first sight would be amazing. I love the idea that my Mr Right is on his own journey and we will met someday soon……. But I wonder if all the books and movies have made us believe that this really happens???
Would really love a post on the strange place in life that I am. I’m a 32 yo single mum stuck between being not ready for a relationship and the craziness of single life. Is there anyone else out there that understands??
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Hi Amy – and yes totally. I ended my 10 year marriage just over two years ago – we have two munchkins together. I dated a fair bit of the first year out but I think it was more a case of it took me a while to realise even though I was out of love with hubby, I still needed to heal some and be kind to me. I started to think about all the things I wanted to do, places I wanted to go etc. It really is an excellent time to be a little selfish. When the kids went with dad on weekends I spent fabulous time with a gaggle of the most incredible women. It was like filling my emotional cup, but in a dfferent way. I bought myself lovely new bedding, repainted my bedroom, finally bought myself knickers and bras – that match! I watched movies that only I liked. Made lush brekkies for one. Its ok to make yourself a priority for a little bit.
Best wishes x
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If Clarke gets to 300 I’ll believe anything!
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Hee! Couldn’t resist a giggle at that, and I’m not even a cricket fan.
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Start believing anything
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Ok I’ll believe in anything AND everything if we can get the Indians all out before tomorrow lunch (think this may be a lucky post)
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This article really speaks to me… I felt silly telling my girlfriends that “I’ll marry him some day” within days of meeting him, I’m just not that silly, romantic person. But true enough I did… And it wasn’t (and hasnt always been) good times but he just gets me and I always feel calm and peaceful with him. I guess it’s hard to explain… I don’t think I’d call it love at first sight, but definitely an amazingly strong connection (both ways) at first sight that given time has grown into a very strong love.
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No , it is infatuation first and love comes later and if love comes after infactuation then it’s real. You have to go through tough times to know if it’s love . Infactuation is blind and we think it’s love but it isn’t .
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I also fell in love with a voice. I heard it on the other side of the phone at work one day and felt like I had been hit by lightning. And then when I met him every bit of me of me knew I was right. Only thing is… we were both in relationships.
We live continents away from each other now but I still believe that he and I are connected in a completely unique way. Deep down I believe he is my soulmate. So yes… I do believe it completely.
Good on you for marrying yours!
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I’ve got goosebumps Leigh. I hope that sometime, somehow, you can be together. I truly hope you can.
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Not sure I believe in love at first sight. There was definately a spark the moment I met my husband and I can still remember that moment so clearly 11 years later. Not sure if it if was love – or if I was just thinking he’s hot!
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Lust at first sight – definitely. But, love at first sight…?
Romantic love (as I view it, anyway) implies a deep emotional and physical connection, which is too complex to be developed in a split second. It also implies a genuine understanding of the one you love.
I would love to believe in ‘love at first sight’, but I don’t think I ever will. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist for others. I am inherently a very cautious person, so I don’t make any kind of affirmation (especially an emotional one) without being completely committed to it. So I would need more than that first sighting to ‘be in love’.
I guess it all depends on how you view ‘love’.
Despite that somewhat practical view, I do believe that you can make an instant connection with someone that you just can’t explain. I remember every little detail about the first moment I met my husband. Despite the inauspicious situation, I was instantly attracted to him and I ‘just knew’ that he was someone I wanted (and needed) in my life.
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Just curious curmudgeon, is your star sign Virgo?
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Tehehe…no. But, I can understand why you ask. Perhaps I am trying to supress my inner Scorp (well, we are a covert bunch, apparently).
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I think it is ‘connection at first sight’ rather than love in most instances. I did have a gut feeling when I met my husband that he would eventually be my husband but it took a lot more than that to get us there. Probably the only time I really experienced love at first sight was when my daughter was born. Different kind of love, but instantaneous and unbreakable for sure!
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Absolutely, 100 per cent. My partner and I are no longer together, but there was something in that first glance, that millisecond of time, and I knew she was someone special. Love doesn’t always last the way you hope it will but wow, those first moments are magic.
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I believe in lust at first sight, and I believe that you meet people – including friends – and something instantly clicks and you know you’re on the same page.
But I don’t think you can instantly love someone.
And I struggle to see the logic in there being ‘one’. I don’t think there is a magical one person who you are destined to meet.
I just think that if you’re really lucky and you are a stable happy person within yourself, you might meet someone who you ‘click’ with and also find sexy, and then you’ll fall in love and be best friends and have a stable happy relationship with and have lots of sex and babies and grow old together and have a happy life.
But the odds of meeting someone like that and both being ready for it and then living happily to old age are so tiny.
Hence so many divorces.
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I fully agree… you put in words exactly what I was thinking
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I don’t know about love at first sight but when I met my husband I felt like I already knew him. It was the strangest thing and I spent ages trying to work out where I knew him from as he was that familiar to me. We had never crossed paths before. 14 years on and we’re still going strong!
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I had the same experience! I first noticed my boyfriend six months before I met him (at a rather large university). I was unable to shake the feeling of meeting him before and could not figure out how I knew him. We ended up being in the same class later in the year and have now been together for over 7 years. I can still remember vividly how I felt when I first noticed him, I was so calm- for me this is rather unusual.
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