If someone you’re not mad keen on asks you out, how do you let them down gently?
Abby writes….
He contacted me two days later to ask to meet up for a drink. Now as I said before I’m not attracted to him, but I know that attraction doesn’t always happen straight away. So I’m thinking should I go along and see what happens? – don’t cut the guy off completely just because I wasn’t interested after 10 minutes of chatting. We might get along well. Or, on the other hand, am I being misleading if I go for a drink knowing full well I am not attracted to him? Should I just have said no to giving him my number in the first place?
I am not new to dating, and have come across similar situations in the past, but I would love to have some fresh opinions…..
If you’re single (or remember being single) did you have ways to let people down gently if you Just Weren’t That Into Them?
Or should you keep an open mind because sometimes chemistry (and even love) grows from a luke-warm start (does it? can it?).
Over to you….
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Top Comments
In the future if you don't want to hurt their feelings and say no I would say "I don't give out my number but you can give me yours" and then you decide if you want to call or not! It's all very hard because I would never be brave enough to ask a guy for a date for fear of rejection. I think they are very brave to ask in the first place! But I hate to hurt people's feelings by saying no thanks to their face. And like the girls have suggested on here you may end up liking him or you could gain another friend or he may have a cute friend!!!
I'm just curious if you went on the date, Abby? And if you did how did it go?