I have a question. It’s not a snarky question. Or a bitchy one. It’s not an aggressive question or a sarcastic one or a question meant to subtly shame or humiliate the women I’m asking it of.
I’m not even going to name a single woman in this story because it’s not about any individual.
I have a genuine question born of wanting to understand a phenomenon I see as being an inherently bad thing for women. Here it is:
Dear Women Who Post Photos Of Their Post-Baby Bodies In The Days And Weeks After Giving Birth,
Why?
Why do you do it?
And who is it good for?
I know who it’s not good for and I want to take a moment to tell you a bit about those people because there are a lot of them…..
It's not good for new mothers to see the promotion and resulting fawning worship of a skinny, toned body (or any one kind of body) held up as a mythical ideal towards which all women must implicitly strive.
It's not good for girls or young women who are looking ahead to their imagined futures as mothers and learning about what they 'should' look and act like in future life stages.
And it's not good for mothers of any age who look at your post-baby-body photos and how soon you post them (One week after birth! Two months after birth!) and feel humiliated and ashamed and inadequate because we gave birth two or seven or 10 or 19 years ago and our stomachs don't look remotely like yours.
To us, your photos can feel like a punch.
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Are recently pregnant women allowed to talk about how they feel about their body with close friends and 'show off' their toned body soon after pregnancy - or is that not acceptable either?
Should women who happen to have the genetic fortuity to look very good immediately after pregnancy close up and feel ashamed about that so as not to make other people feel insecure? Should the avert their bodies from the public?
Just curious.
quite hypocritical of yourself, Mia, to bodyshame people for feeling good enough about themselves to post a pic. if people choose to feel ashamed of their own body when they look at someone else's fabulous post-partum body that's their own issue. well written response by Lauren Brant to a hypocritical and judgemental article by Mia